How Gambling Changes Your Relationship With Time ?

[Junii]

Hello Reader. I hope Everything will be fine at your end.

I have an elder cousin who is a civil engineer. He used to earn a decent salary but after getting into gambling. He started losing interest in his job and his focus shifted completely. Yesterday he told me that.

Before gambling. I could work hard for months to buy something. But after gambling even waiting one week felt too long.

And honestly i learned a lot from his one sentence.

I think one of the hidden dangers of gambling is that it changes how a person feels about time and progress.

In normal life growth is usually slow. You have to study to get a job then save some money  and then improve little by little. But gambling gives emotional highs in just a few minutes. One spin or one bet or may be one lucky win  and suddenly your brain gets used to fast excitement.

After that normal life can start feeling boring.

A stable salary feels slow. Saving money feels slow. Even small progress stops feeling satisfying because the mind becomes attached to quick rewards.

That is why many gamblers do not only struggle with losses. They struggle with patience too.

And i think this is something people rarely talk about.

Sometimes gambling does not destroy a person in one day. It slowly changes the way they see about time and money and also progress without them even noticing it.

What do u all think ? Psychology is my fav topic . Everyone has its own opinion regarding gambling and psychology and i also love to read your replies as well. Because in the end my main focus is to learn from experienced peoples here. And i respect your opinions as well.

Thanks For Reading.

[danherbias07]

It felt like a long time before his salary came because he was losing money fast. That's how gambling can affect our time.

I understand your cousin because I have been there. When I need money to buy something, I feel like my salary is taking too long to come. The days are being counted, and all of a sudden, I get frustrated when every peso/dollar will just go to the bills. There will be no room for gambling because all of it will be used for something important. When that happened, I realized that I should really control my gambling activity, and the time spent playing should be minimized.
I switched back to sports, and everything went well. Slots really messed up my time management in the past.

[Sim_card]

It all boils down to what the gambler takes gambling for. If you're gambling to become rich overnight, you'll always that that big hope on gambling than being serious with your life. Anyone with this kind of mindset will become addicted because they will give all their time to gambling and wouldn't know when they're addicted. Your cousin is already addicted to gambling and that's why he's sounding like that.

[Charles-Tim]

What do u all think ? Psychology is my fav topic . Everyone has its own opinion regarding gambling and psychology and i also love to read your replies as well. Because in the end my main focus is to learn from experienced peoples here. And i respect your opinions as well.

This is very true, but not true for everyone, but true for people that are already addicted to gambling. I guess your cousin is addicted to gambling or has once before been addicted to gambling which is what he is telling you to learn from. Gambling can be good, but for those that are addicted, it is very bad.

[KTChampions]

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A stable salary feels slow. Saving money feels slow. Even small progress stops feeling satisfying because the mind becomes attached to quick rewards.
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Gambling can be destructive, in part because it provides a quick dopamine rush and people become addicted to it, but we mustn't forget the underlying reasons why people "escape" normal life. "Saving money feels slow" - what?! Saving doesn't work at all anymore because of inflation, that's why people are getting frustrated. I completely understand why ordinary people try to go all-in and "live like it's their last time" because the future is no longer guaranteed and the old planning models don't work.

[Cryptomultiplier]

The story of your brother is quite a reality many gamblers face in a daily basis, but it could be felt or experienced in different magnitudes due to certain reasons of association, personal engagement, debt and family responsibilities that need serious money demands, and so on if you get to think deeply about it.

Even without a job in the form of tasks to perform just to get paid at the end of the month, being meaningfully engaged without a salary job could help a gambler not slump into addiction, because once there a means for income that comes steady, the focus there would be to multiply it in order to get more and that's why since gamblers become so addicted when they are not meaningfully engaged in other outside tasks, but focus more on gambling because they have had a few luck winning more frequently than others and think they are simply excellent at it.

[Odusko]

When you are gambling with the expectations to make something out of it, like the case of your cousin he took gambling to be a means of getting quick money before his salary arrives but ultimately he never know exactly whatawait him on the long run like tendency of getting into addiction and the rest of that, so for a reasonable person gambling shouldn't be anything other than just entertainment and fun, aside that you are risking your money and mental well-being chasing the money in gambling.

[Pandu Geddon]

Sometimes gambling does not destroy a person in one day. It slowly changes the way they see about time and money and also progress without them even noticing it.

Such conditions may occur in gamblers who are already addicted and gamble every day. A lot of time that could be more productive is wasted on gambling. That is why sometimes you may see some of us discussing that gambling takes more than money from us; it is time.
When a gambler is financially ruined, we all believe that it does not happen all at once, but in a long process that the gambler may not realize.

[cryptomaniac_xxx]

Yes, when you turn into gambling, your perception of time changes. Like what we have right now, online gambling. It's available 24x7, so like you wanted to play all time and so you go and fell into addiction just like what happen to the OP's cousin.

Now, he can't function normal, and even if he has good job and earning decent money, it's not enough for him as he might be looking for the next paycheck as he wanted to gamble it all. And even if you are playing, like casino games and slots, those near misses or near hit will affect you. Maybe you thought that you are just playing for like 30 minutes, but it could be that session is already 3 hours and you wanted more.

[leonair]

It all boils down to what the gambler takes gambling for. If you're gambling to become rich overnight, you'll always that that big hope on gambling than being serious with your life. Anyone with this kind of mindset will become addicted because they will give all their time to gambling and wouldn't know when they're addicted. Your cousin is already addicted to gambling and that's why he's sounding like that.

In fact, gamblers do not initially think that the amount they are gambling can make them poor. They continue gambling and think that they are in their own control. And if they gamble in this way, they can win big at any time which will help them improve their financial situation. If they continue gambling with this thought, they do not understand when they lose control over themselves. Due to which they suddenly find themselves addicted to gambling to such an extent that they start gambling by borrowing money because they have lost money in the past and their aim is to recover those losses. And for this reason they start borrowing money from different trusted people and later on they cannot return that money and the relationship gets ruined.

[Antotena]

It all boils down to what the gambler takes gambling for. If you're gambling to become rich overnight, you'll always that that big hope on gambling than being serious with your life. Anyone with this kind of mindset will become addicted because they will give all their time to gambling and wouldn't know when they're addicted. Your cousin is already addicted to gambling and that's why he's sounding like that.

Gambling doesn't affect one relationship, it's how you take gambling that it's going to affect your relationship. There are some people that all their life is about gambling, if you visit them they don't have any meaningful discussion than gambling, in fact they don't have any life outside gambling. If you are the type that don't gamble or spare some time to gamble, you will have difficulty staying around them, you may even suffer some financial stress if they are bad at it.

If a gambler is that type of that don't have any means of working than gambling, then everyone around him will suffer. Imagine someone borrow money from you that he is going to pay back but he doesn't have any means to pay but you gave him the money for relationship sake and when it's time fot him to pay back, he start to give excuses, such person are quick to lose friends because they don't know how to keep promises, even their immediate family dislike them because of this fake promises.

[Bluedrem]

Losing money while gambling is easy, but if a gambler is lucky and wins, it happens quickly. Suppose you bet $100 and after a few minutes, if you are lucky, you can win up to a few thousand dollars, meaning you don't have to spend a lot of time to earn a lot of money. This is why people are so addicted to gambling because they see the possibility of changing their fate. They always imagine that a single win can change their fate. However, there are many dangers hidden behind it, one of which is losing control over yourself and wasting your wealth by gambling uncontrollably.

[Muba20]

In reality, we do not gamble the way we should because we are affected by the negative aspects of gambling at different times. Gambling is not encouraged to be used for the purpose of earning money but people consider it as a field of earning money and when they get some advantages of gambling, their mental condition change. Gambling usually has the opportunity to earn money quickly that is why normal or slow incomes are considered insignificant and this is very natural. But if the gambler gave priority to entertainment instead of moving towards money, then there would be no such problem.

[Loyang]

Yes, it is true that gambling plays a big role in changing a person's personality, especially in the case of an addicted person. However, a person who is not addicted to gambling and who is able to control himself can definitely protect himself from this change in personality.

Becoming addicted to gambling is the biggest problem and whenever a person becomes addicted to gambling, he is not able to control himself and he gradually loses his control and the gambling habit starts controlling him. If we do not become addicted and if we can gamble while keeping our control, then we can protect ourselves from facing such problems.

[uneng]

In today's world everyone wants instant and effortless rewards. To work several months or years to achieve something doesn't sound acceptable for the modern human being who is already used to have everything on the touch of his fingers on a smartphone device's screen.

Gambling fits that role and it is seen as a potential solution for the demands and dreams of this modern human being. However, it doesn't work for real, and gamblers have to face the harsh reality after a while. At same time, it creates a frustrating scenario where the individual concludes it's not feasible to achieve his dreams, as it would take too long if not through gambling.

That is the society we have today, composed of frustrated individuals who can't find a balance between the ideal and the real, between expectation and reality.

[Rruchi man]

I have an elder cousin who is a civil engineer. He used to earn a decent salary but after getting into gambling. He started losing interest in his job and his focus shifted completely.

Losing interest in a source of income to focus on gambling is already a strong sign of gambling addiction.

I think one of the hidden dangers of gambling is that it changes how a person feels about time and progress.

It is not gambling; I would like to correct that. It is the addiction to gambling.

In normal life growth is usually slow. You have to study to get a job then save some money  and then improve little by little. But gambling gives emotional highs in just a few minutes. One spin or one bet or may be one lucky win  and suddenly your brain gets used to fast excitement.

Dopamine rush.

After that normal life can start feeling boring.

Just as it is with most addiction, normal life becomes boring.

Gambling should not be the victim here; it is the addiction that is bad.

[Findingnemo]

There is something called instant gratification and delayed gratification, I guess this also falls under these.

If the person is used to the instant results, then his mind will be set for these so when he go back to the usual life will feel like bowing and slow but that can't be a reason to quit or change anything. That is how life works and we can't keep enjoying it all the time. Even the enjoyment feels worth only when we do it once in a while.

[Wakate]

Losing money while gambling is easy, but if a gambler is lucky and wins, it happens quickly. Suppose you bet $100 and after a few minutes, if you are lucky, you can win up to a few thousand dollars, meaning you don't have to spend a lot of time to earn a lot of money. This is why people are so addicted to gambling because they see the possibility of changing their fate. They always imagine that a single win can change their fate. However, there are many dangers hidden behind it, one of which is losing control over yourself and wasting your wealth by gambling uncontrollably.

Losing is something we can not overcome as humans on this planet Earth and even companies do incur loses so gamblers that's making loses should not be seen as a bad luck but should hope for the best  while trying to make money playing all kind of games.
There is no way a gambler can be making profits from betting without incurring any loses.
There is danger gambling without understanding the rules that need to be applied to be profitable while striving to stay focus.

[purple_sparkles]

Losing money while gambling is easy, but if a gambler is lucky and wins, it happens quickly. Suppose you bet $100 and after a few minutes, if you are lucky, you can win up to a few thousand dollars, meaning you don't have to spend a lot of time to earn a lot of money. This is why people are so addicted to gambling because they see the possibility of changing their fate. They always imagine that a single win can change their fate. However, there are many dangers hidden behind it, one of which is losing control over yourself and wasting your wealth by gambling uncontrollably.

Losing is something we can not overcome as humans on this planet Earth and even companies do incur loses so gamblers that's making loses should not be seen as a bad luck but should hope for the best  while trying to make money playing all kind of games.
There is no way a gambler can be making profits from betting without incurring any loses.
There is danger gambling without understanding the rules that need to be applied to be profitable while striving to stay focus.

For me, gambling can become a real time consumer if I don’t set certain limits for myself. When it comes to money, I’m usually more careful, so I can’t allow myself to spend more on the game than I decided in advance. However, time is the only resource we can never get back, so it’s very important to know how to plan it and use it wisely.

[Hispo]

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What do u all think ? Psychology is my fav topic . Everyone has its own opinion regarding gambling and psychology and i also love to read your replies as well. Because in the end my main focus is to learn from experienced peoples here. And i respect your opinions as well.

Thanks For Reading.

I definitely think gambling messed up with your cousin's ability to manage his own patience and have changed his perception of time and reward. If I were you, I would talk him into getting some psychological counseling, as this is the kind of stuff which could lead him to further engage in reckless gambling and ruin his life in the long term (if he becomes addicted to gambling, that is).

In general, when I think about gambling and time, my first thought is the fact gambling makes us all to perceive time as something which goes very fast.
I tend to assume it is a consequence of the dopamine shots get get while gambling, which dettacht us from the actual time and things going around us while we gamble.

When we are entertained and when we all have fun times goes faster. So if we get accustomed to gambling regularly, we could suffer from what happened to your cousin.

Keep an eye on him and tell him to be careful with gambling.