Should a man who can do homely chores makes you feel less needy in marriage?

[Jasmyne]

Personally, I wouldn’t say NO to that kind of man, because I like a supportive man and a man who don’t sorely believe it is compulsory the woman must do all the house chores alone and if he wants to help, I wouldn’t refuse him.
But that does not mean if my husband is always interested in doing this things, I will feel reluctant and wouldn’t want to do anything or rather allowing him always do those things himself while I neglect my duties at home. As a woman I know my duties at home, what needed to be done, but doing it together with my husband too isn’t a crime

[MusaPk]

I don't know what modern women think today where they need validation as a form of contribution claim, even though independent men are good, they can treat women like princesses at home, isn't that better than letting women take care of the house completely, in my opinion marriage is a form of cooperation, just discuss it with your partner to share tasks, I think if you are open and cooperative with each other the family will be much more comfortable and calm, a man who can take care of the house will be very useful if his wife is pregnant, he can help cook and clean the house and his wife can focus on taking care of her pregnancy.

Its important for every family that man and women both takes interest in house chores. There are countries where men go out for work and women stays at home. In such countries men must help there wives on weekends and other off days to let there wives have some rest time. Men must not feel any shame while helping their wives in house chores. If both men and women understand and cooperate with each other only ten they both will be able to raise confident and responsible kids.

[Akbarkoe]

I don't know what modern women think today where they need validation as a form of contribution claim, even though independent men are good, they can treat women like princesses at home, isn't that better than letting women take care of the house completely, in my opinion marriage is a form of cooperation, just discuss it with your partner to share tasks, I think if you are open and cooperative with each other the family will be much more comfortable and calm, a man who can take care of the house will be very useful if his wife is pregnant, he can help cook and clean the house and his wife can focus on taking care of her pregnancy.

Its important for every family that man and women both takes interest in house chores. There are countries where men go out for work and women stays at home. In such countries men must help there wives on weekends and other off days to let there wives have some rest time. Men must not feel any shame while helping their wives in house chores. If both men and women understand and cooperate with each other only ten they both will be able to raise confident and responsible kids.

Basically marriage and family is about cooperation between women and men, both must be open-minded and can complement each other both joy and sorrow, the initial principle is very important for the foundation of marriage to remain strong until old age, many divorces occur because when starting a marriage they are not based on strong principles that make them unable to continue, And in the case we are talking about, it is included in the form of principles of how we behave and divide tasks in marriage that really must be discussed, there are so many cultures, guidance, and also suggestions from other people that need to be considered, which is very important that it should have been discussed before the wedding so that after the wedding we know what we have to do.

[Solodoski]

Personally, I wouldn’t say NO to that kind of man, because I like a supportive man and a man who don’t sorely believe it is compulsory the woman must do all the house chores alone and if he wants to help, I wouldn’t refuse him.
But that does not mean if my husband is always interested in doing this things, I will feel reluctant and wouldn’t want to do anything or rather allowing him always do those things himself while I neglect my duties at home. As a woman I know my duties at home, what needed to be done, but doing it together with my husband too isn’t a crime

You spoke like a wise woman. Most women in society don't mind sitting and watching their husbands do all the house chores if it were possible. A wise woman would always understand how hard it is to take care of the family's needs. The least a woman can do is to take good care of what the man has provided. When she dont take good care of it, the things begin to fall into destruction. It is a great responsibility for a man to go out to work and still come back to do all the chores at home. But at times when he is on free days or maybe his wife is pregnant, he can assist a little or get her a maid.

[o48o]

I did not know what board to place this topic and while I reasoned it to be society related I felt it will be right to make it here. Do not mind the long texts.

The topic is pertaining to women in particular the modern woman, let know your opinions and views about this topic. Would you like to marry a man that is homely and by homely am meaning a man that is good in kitchen duties. Can cook, does not see doing the dishes, cleaning the house and laundry a big deal. Or do will you apparently say NO to such man by having the feeling that if he can do all of these things for himself as a man then you may really not be seen relevant enough in the home since he can do all that house chores by himself.

This topic came in as a result of a true life event about a lady in our small community who rejected to marry a suitor cause she thinks he might not regard her that well, she would not get that validation efficiently in the home since her man can simply be doing those home duties she should basically be doing as a woman. It is strange to me with how I always hear women crave for men that can be supportive to them in house chores.

Can I get the views of women in the forum about this and what kind of man as a woman you will want to have for a partner. I know our environments and societies differs and same will go with our  perspective on this discourse.

Do you really think that THIS is the forum where women famously spending time in? Or are you just asking a rhetorical question aimed at similar minded guys? But as a guy, it's a minimum bar that i do my share of chores for partners i love.

However, not all partnerships are similar and some people have different needs for marriages / partnerships. So you can't really caricature women as a group or men as a group, thinking that they crave same things, just because women or men in your past have craved those things. Respect need of your significant one and don't try to fit all women to same mold. Because by grouping them into same mold you don't see them as individuals.

[BADecker]

Personally, I wouldn’t say NO to that kind of man, because I like a supportive man and a man who don’t sorely believe it is compulsory the woman must do all the house chores alone and if he wants to help, I wouldn’t refuse him.
But that does not mean if my husband is always interested in doing this things, I will feel reluctant and wouldn’t want to do anything or rather allowing him always do those things himself while I neglect my duties at home. As a woman I know my duties at home, what needed to be done, but doing it together with my husband too isn’t a crime

Always trying to make the man your slave.     

[Gamanka@@]

I did not know what board to place this topic and while I reasoned it to be society related I felt it will be right to make it here. Do not mind the long texts.

The topic is pertaining to women in particular the modern woman, let know your opinions and views about this topic. Would you like to marry a man that is homely and by homely am meaning a man that is good in kitchen duties. Can cook, does not see doing the dishes, cleaning the house and laundry a big deal. Or do will you apparently say NO to such man by having the feeling that if he can do all of these things for himself as a man then you may really not be seen relevant enough in the home since he can do all that house chores by himself.

This topic came in as a result of a true life event about a lady in our small community who rejected to marry a suitor cause she thinks he might not regard her that well, she would not get that validation efficiently in the home since her man can simply be doing those home duties she should basically be doing as a woman. It is strange to me with how I always hear women crave for men that can be supportive to them in house chores.

Can I get the views of women in the forum about this and what kind of man as a woman you will want to have for a partner. I know our environments and societies differs and same will go with our  perspective on this discourse.

As for me the topic didn't just  regards to only women but  two genders because women should not feel less needy in a marriage also man,  what  is just  needed, is understanding between both  partners, helping each other in a various perspective, doing the house chores as respectively to spice up the marriage and keep going of the marriage, most especially in this modern age  marriage is count, as both contribut to build up their togetherness.

So for me  both genders both genders shouldn't feel less in the marriage, marriage is just understanding and how well being the marriage can,  between two partners, so for man to help his spouse does not make her less  needy, is part  of spicing the harmony of the family also, for understanding partners, they also gain respect for themselves.

[Jasmyne]

Personally, I wouldn’t say NO to that kind of man, because I like a supportive man and a man who don’t sorely believe it is compulsory the woman must do all the house chores alone and if he wants to help, I wouldn’t refuse him.
But that does not mean if my husband is always interested in doing this things, I will feel reluctant and wouldn’t want to do anything or rather allowing him always do those things himself while I neglect my duties at home. As a woman I know my duties at home, what needed to be done, but doing it together with my husband too isn’t a crime

Always trying to make the man your slave.     

Definitely no, think you are misunderstanding me here. It is never a crime if a woman allows her man who wants to help her out in chores at home help her, most men don’t see helping out their partner occasionally as a big deal, that’s why there are called partners, in as much as there is an understanding. Times are actually changing right now, not all men believe that it is compulsory for just their partner to do all the house chores always.