Where do you place personal interest in your economical chase

[Hamza2424]

A friend of mine just rejected a well paying job, accommodation covered for few months, good opportunity to build his career, available resources to learn on the job, she rejected this because the city the job is doesn’t work for her and her family, she is a married woman with 3 kids.

So where do you place your interest in chasing financial goal, for me I balance personal interest and financial goal. There is more to life than finances but it can help making life stable, interesting and easy.
To balance it I will make sure if that’s my only option, if I can get other jobs similar to that or more in a places of my interest but if I can get that, pick my financial targets and set time frame to my goals.

Almost every profession has this assiduous mental process where their best financial opportunities clashes with there personal or family interests.

I think we should not judge your friend’s decisions based on finances alone because there is a lot missing from the equation that we may never fully understand. Your friend’s choices are likely rational from their perspective, and they know what is best for their situation.

Because relocating a married woman with three kids means uprooting three school lives if they move, along with many other changes. The financial calculation is also not simple salary versus salary. It becomes salary versus salary plus childcare costs, plus a spouse’s lost income, plus the mental health cost of isolation in an unfamiliar city with no support network.

The balance point you described makes more sense because we should ask ourselves whether the opportunity is good for the entire situation right now. Maybe after some time, your friend could pursue her job again if she wants.

[Crypto_Timothy]

Where do you place personal interest in your economical chase? i think it soley depends on your morals as a person, because some persons can truly die before they receive certain economic value just because it somehow conflicts with their morals and believes, it may sound crazy but thats the true and your friend, to a certain degree she has a believe system that she is considering first and thats why she probably declined the offer to move to a different city.

So yea, my morals are where i would place a limit in my economic chase because without that then, i dont thing i would stand for anything and i would like to stand for something at the very least you know, i dont know, i just feel some limits based on your moral need to direct your life.

[junder]

A friend of mine just rejected a well paying job, accommodation covered for few months, good opportunity to build his career, available resources to learn on the job, she rejected this because the city the job is doesn’t work for her and her family, she is a married woman with 3 kids.

So where do you place your interest in chasing financial goal, for me I balance personal interest and financial goal. There is more to life than finances but it can help making life stable, interesting and easy.
To balance it I will make sure if that’s my only option, if I can get other jobs similar to that or more in a places of my interest but if I can get that, pick my financial targets and set time frame to my goals.

Almost every profession has this assiduous mental process where their best financial opportunities clashes with there personal or family interests.

I myself will take the job if it is really difficult for me to get a job and in my opinion if we are not working then there is a job that does make sense especially if there are positive sides such as high salary, accommodation is covered for several months, good opportunities to build a career, we should take it.
 
But the other side is that there are personal reasons for rejecting a job that actually has a good opportunity, that can't be denied because we ourselves must have our own reasons, I have also experienced this situation.

[michellee]

But if that means you will get more stresses with your job, that is not worth you sacrifice yourself chasing financial goal. If you married, you should thinks much because it is not about yourself but you have more people behind your back. You should discuss to wife and children and asking them how they feels.

But if you and family understand the risks, you can take it. You will not think much the problem that occurs as you believe you solve it later.

But if you are alone, you can get that job and moves to that city so you can achieve your goal if the financial is what you want and you can live simply while you save most salary amount.

I can understand what your friend feels because she married with 3 kids. She feels difficult for her family so it is normal if she rejected the job.

[Hewlet]

Almost every profession has this assiduous mental process where their best financial opportunities clashes with there personal or family interests.

If You don't have an alternative means of earning and you're not skilled enough to easily get another job, you will likely put your job first before any other thing including your family needs because your source of income is what determines the way every other aspect of your life will go.

There are people that have to make the sacrifice of staying  away from their family all because there job location and requirement didn't allow them to stay close to their family. As hard as this seems, this is part of the sacrifices they will have to make for a better future because for most persons, leave doesn't present everything all perfect to you at a go, sometimes, an opportunity will bring some wins and some loss.

[Fiasem20]

In this scenario,she made the right decision.Although,not all mothers can do this,most parents are too financially centered that they don’t even show attention and love to their family.It is indeed painful not accepting a job you’ve always dreamt of all because of your family.But there are opportunities you can’t quit not because you don’t care about your family but you want to save lives and serve humanity,this kind of setting can be seen in the healthcare sector,healthcare practitioners are the most transferred set of workers in the world,they are usually posted to different regions(mostly government workers)it may be monthly or annually.So most times it depends on the nature of your job and your concern for humanity.

[Sticky Bomb]

A friend of mine just rejected a well paying job, accommodation covered for few months, good opportunity to build his career, available resources to learn on the job, she rejected this because the city the job is doesn’t work for her and her family, she is a married woman with 3 kids.

So where do you place your interest in chasing financial goal, for me I balance personal interest and financial goal. There is more to life than finances but it can help making life stable, interesting and easy.
To balance it I will make sure if that’s my only option, if I can get other jobs similar to that or more in a places of my interest but if I can get that, pick my financial targets and set time frame to my goals.

Almost every profession has this assiduous mental process where their best financial opportunities clashes with there personal or family interests.

I can understand with your friend since she's married, marriage comes with some other factors to consider besides personal interests. I'm not in her shoes and I respect her decisions that it doesn't work for her. Beyond personal gains, we should consider the impact of our choices on the lives of those we hold dear, as a married person she wouldn't go for the career and loose her family.

Single people have more advantage to take on jobs of any nature and commit to their career growth even though it is not so comfortable, they can easily prioritize their career growth before considering comfort having a professional goal set for themselves of which when it is achieved, they can move on.

As a single guy, I prioritize career growth more than comfort, at least for now. Have taken up jobs that naturally were too hectic for me, but since it is only me in the picture, I could persevere to reach a higher career maturity and career success naturally brings about more comfort and options for the professional and that's the route I'm focused on.

[Royal Cap]

Well, I would say that always giving up big opportunities for family comfort can also create problems in the long term. Because good career opportunities do not come again and again, especially jobs where there is both learning and growth. Many times, after a few years of sacrifice, the future of the entire family can improve. But it is also true it is easy to judge the decision from the outside.  As a mother of three children, she may have thought about something that others will not understand. But personally, I think that if there is a safe environment and proper planning, then sometimes it is necessary to go outside the comfort zone, even if it is inconvenient at the time, it is better for the family in the long term.

[summonerrk]

A friend of mine just rejected a well paying job, accommodation covered for few months, good opportunity to build his career, available resources to learn on the job, she rejected this because the city the job is doesn’t work for her and her family, she is a married woman with 3 kids.

So where do you place your interest in chasing financial goal, for me I balance personal interest and financial goal. There is more to life than finances but it can help making life stable, interesting and easy.
To balance it I will make sure if that’s my only option, if I can get other jobs similar to that or more in a places of my interest but if I can get that, pick my financial targets and set time frame to my goals.

Almost every profession has this assiduous mental process where their best financial opportunities clashes with there personal or family interests.

Having a family requires you to always focus on increasing your income, because money is incredibly important. We live in a time when even a couple without children finds it very difficult to create a home, whether it's building a house or buying an apartment. And children complicate any attempts at saving. They require a lot of expenses, and for example, in the country where I live, childcare costs are very high, from diapers to cribs/strollers and formula. A child under 3 costs approximately $300.

[7juju]

A friend of mine just rejected a well paying job, accommodation covered for few months, good opportunity to build his career, available resources to learn on the job, she rejected this because the city the job is doesn’t work for her and her family, she is a married woman with 3 kids.

She rejected the job because she has other options, probably her husband is there to provide for the family while she looks for other job in her preferred city or location. Believe me if she had nothing on ground, like no other means of surviving unless she gets a job and she’s the provider of the family, she wouldn’t have rejected that job. That excuse that the city doesn’t work for her is because she has an option and something to fall back to. Sometimes the choices we make are dependent on what we have on ground.

[Die_empty]

She rejected the job because she has other options, probably her husband is there to provide for the family while she looks for other job in her preferred city or location. Believe me if she had nothing on ground, like no other means of surviving unless she gets a job and she’s the provider of the family, she wouldn’t have rejected that job. That excuse that the city doesn’t work for her is because she has an option and something to fall back to. Sometimes the choices we make are dependent on what we have on ground.

You are right, a desperate job seeker would accept offers from any location. The most important consideration is to survive and when there is an opportunity to make a living. Having another means to survive makes one selective.

However, regardless of how bad I need a job I wouldn't accept one that is located in an unsafe area or has health effects. If I want to be selective I might not take a job that wouldn't give me the privilege of spending quality time with my family. A job that is located in an area without basic amenities might also be a challenge for me.

[FirmWars]

It depends on what's more of a priority to you as a person, there's this woman, she was born and raised in US, at that time, her dad was still working there as a surgeon before he finally relocated back to our country to open his own hospital. Later on, the daughter got married to someone in my country and she was also working in one of our public health care center, she and her husband already had two kids but few years later, she got employment in her country of birth and she decided to accept the job leaving her two kids and her husband behind.  The information am trying to pass on here is that there are people that value career over family. Secondly, there should be lay down plans before accepting any opportunity, always prepare yourself before an opportunity comes.

[aoluain]

A few years ago I changed my life by breaking free of the normal way we live in my country.
That is to go to work, earn money to get a mortgage and a car loan and basically employ debt
in order to live. I broke free of that a few years ago so now I dont have a mortgage and work
a couple of days per week.

So my personal interest, my priority is my personal time. Life is too short to be enslaved to
pay off debt for 40 or 50 years! We can decide to live where ever we want really.

[TheUltraElite]

I would still place family over money and look for more opportunities because jobs will come and go but time spent with family needs to be proper. Not being able to see your kids is something that is non-negotiable.

Because over time you will also grow old and will need help from your kids to survive. At that time kids will support or not support will depend slightly on the fact of how much attachment they have towards you and to a large extent how you have raised them.

If someone is getting a well paying job elsewhere, they can also consider moving there with family.

[Fortify]

A friend of mine just rejected a well paying job, accommodation covered for few months, good opportunity to build his career, available resources to learn on the job, she rejected this because the city the job is doesn’t work for her and her family, she is a married woman with 3 kids.

So where do you place your interest in chasing financial goal, for me I balance personal interest and financial goal. There is more to life than finances but it can help making life stable, interesting and easy.
To balance it I will make sure if that’s my only option, if I can get other jobs similar to that or more in a places of my interest but if I can get that, pick my financial targets and set time frame to my goals.

Almost every profession has this assiduous mental process where their best financial opportunities clashes with there personal or family interests.

It's a highly personal answer and nobodies circumstances are ever going to be the same. Some people might have to care for a sick relative, others might have a growing family, different people might have ultimate freedom chasing work wherever it appears, etc. I am lucky enough to have a work from home job for a fairly large company which does a lot of interesting stuff in it's field. It doesn't pay the best, but there is a lot of freedom compared to other companies out there and much left to managing our own stuff. I could trade it for much greater pay elsewhere, but it may mean a lot more stress or an unhappier working environment so it's really hard to leave at the moment.

[Mhizlove]

Money cannot buy happiness and money is not everything. Motherhood should come first before a mother can gain financial independence. You can get a job again and again, but once your child's future is ruined, it cannot be restored.

A woman's job is not forced, it is her choice. But if here instead of a woman there was a man, then we would have to talk differently. Because earning money is not a man's choice, but a duty. In the case of a man, even if financial opportunities conflict with family, he should accept those opportunities, and if he finds a better alternative, he can give it up. But a woman should give it up and look for a different job.

I don't agree with you fully because parenting and financial responsibility is not suppose to be dependly only on gender, both the father and mother has a role to play in raising the children and also supporting the family both financially and emotionally. You saying that a woman should sacrifice her career while the man carries the financial burden of the family can our unnecessary pressure or stress on both parties because some families work much better when responsibilities are being shared based on opportunity, personal situation and understanding instead of traditional expectations. And at the end, a good parenting do not come from work goes to work or stays at home but from communication, support,love and stability within the family