The economic dimension of marriage

[rat03gopoh]

Yes, and the ones in the spotlight of economic status are men because they are the ones who will become leaders. Actually, this problem is more complex and it is not enough to look at the economic side because it does not reflect the foundations of life. I mean, many women who get men from rich families end up falling apart because their husbands only depend on what their parents give them to get their main income. This is a danger sign, because an intact family should not be able to depend on or intervene with other families.

[Findingnemo]

In the economic dimension, yeah, they need to be someone who can contribute not just become another liability. I have been saying this for a very long marriage, wife, and kids are a liability, but life isn't just about finance, it is beyond that. So now you decide which one is important for you.

And getting someone who can contribute is a good thing, it avoids lot of disputes after the marriage but the modern day women took that to the very extreme, now they are only interested in marrying someone if they are making a million at least, delusional life, but that is what feminism led the young girls to.

[Churchillvv]

Reading this I understand that it’s not written from a neutral perspective but a man’s perspective, marriage for men and not both man and woman and of course for women they look at financial status before they settle, but for men doing that too is a new pattern not because they can’t do it alone but this days nobody wants a liability as a partner, one most have to contribute and yes a single hand can’t wash itself so they have to wash each other, personally my consideration for marriage is quite ambiguous, make it difficult to find someone with a matching or someone close to my set standards.

[Stepstowealth]

As I said before, I am not saying loving unconditionally is wrong or no longer exists. But I am saying the people are also considering the economic dimension of marriage before commitment.

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Marriage is a very serious decision to take this is why it must be important for you to consider the lifestyle of the person you are choosing to be a partner because if you're someone who is working to have a future and financial independence to a extent you may not do well with a partner that spends recklessly without any form of calculations. Also you would not want a partner who would make you uneasy OR not at peace at home that you now start staying longer hours outside. A partner who is financially indisciplined or has other bad financial habits or other habits that do not favor making money may not be the best for you if you have a financial target, marriage has ended a lot of lives Do not allow it end yours.

[Natalim]

More than careful assessment of your partner's values and communication skills, financial habits and transparency should also be given utmost consideration.  Money is always a leading cause of marital stress and failure, that's why as much as possible, we should be more selective on who we are going to marry, and marrying a jobless person or a person who has no financial strength or capacity will always be a red flag.

This is more being practical and realistic. Without money, its rare to see marital relationships last, but mostly end up with constant fights because when both have no money or income, it could easily trigger anger, lack of patience and control, and even lead to exhaustion and burnout.

[programmer3666]

The economic side of marriage should be considered, but it should not be the only thing that matters. Love is important, but love alone cannot pay bills, feed a family or handle unexpected challenges. a good case is when two people genuinely love each other, but one person is financially irresponsible, always in debt or has no plans for the future. Over time, that can create stress and arguments in the marriage. But it doesn't mean you must marry a rich person. What matters more is financial discipline, hard work and a willingness to grow together. a couple that supports each other financially and emotionally usually has a stronger foundation.

[Unknown Op]

Before getting married the persons economic condition should be checked because marriage is practical partnership between two persons they share their expenses finances and other challenges. Among any person from the partner who is more responsible discipline and hard working can contribute to the stability of their family.

There is a huge difference between financial habits and choosing someone only because of their money because wealth can change over time, a person who is earning good today can lose his job tomorrow and a person who is earning quite low can today can  become financially stable tomorrow, What matters the most is his attitude toward the family in every situation,  we should balance both emotions and practical considerations. Any strong marriage need both practical reality of life and good heart working together for a better and peaceful life.

[bhadz]

To be honest, this has become a meme in my country especially in remote areas or provinces where poverty is normal. It happens to the young women who want to get out of their hard life and poverty through marrying someone who's capable of supporting them and their families. Usually, they're looking for foreigners, not so rich but just capable and has the financial means to at least give them the better life. IMHO, that's a wise for them since they're going to find a partner they should find love and good life with whom they choose.

[Rain1620]

Finance has been a reoccurring argument that has resulted  as the cause of divorce, Which has been a reality of some people. The habits of spending unecessarily, certain hidden debts and most times much differences in financial goals creates a gap that love alone can’t always bridge.
 

 The economy globally has highly become unpredictable. In a partnership where the both partners are disciplined in terms of finances, resourcefulness and along side has a strong work ethic, it prolongs stability and saves them from certain economic fears.

 There is soo much difficulty in trying to maintain a perfect romance when the brain is restless about hardship and lots of bills to pay and trying to figure out how to fix them is traumatizing.

Looking out for economic alignment first before moving on to commitments terminates a very huge part of economic anxiety and and fear of survival. Which in turn brings sustainability and gives love the strong edge it deserves for long term partnership.

To some extent, loving unconditionally is also beautiful but marriage is supposed to be a forever deal and economic stability has to be prioritized. Choosing a soulmate who actually aligns with one’s financial value or idea is not unromantic neither does it mean it’s not love, it’s a part of maturity that some are still ignorant about.

[Gallar]

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Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Yes, I think if we talk about finances before marriage, it is certain that everyone should first assess their capabilities before deciding to get married. Because basically after marriage, everything becomes double, and even after having children, it becomes more than double. So, therefore, if we want to live comfortably with our family, clearly the financial factor must be planned carefully before getting married. Because although basically I also believe that everyone will definitely have fortune, but we still have to be able to try our best and not just speculate. Because basically, not a few people who are married, their lives become more complicated. So we should be able to avoid that as much as possible, because basically, although in marriage there are certainly tests, but when we talk about marriage, clearly finances must be well planned before marriage. If possible, you should have a house first before getting married because that is better.

[jcojci]

Before you deciding to marry, you need to discuss with your partner how will your journey. If you get partner who can works hard and smart as you, you are lucky but if not, you can discuss how you can solve your problem. If you married, you will face so many problems together so you need to understand each other and work together. So married will not an easy decision because that is related to both of you and you need to deep talk and discuss before decide.

[Pi-network314159]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

I know where you are heading to, well choosing a partner sometimes doesn't matter if they are doing well economically or financially. Love sometimes don't care you financial status. Some people may not be financially buoyant but only need support. You as a partner may help her to grow financially, but However some people love hardworking people than those who don't. Some people chose to have a relationship where Both partner will grow together because having a partner that is financially buoyant before you meet her may results to disrespect since you didn't support her when she was building herself. The conclusion is that everyone can not love the same way, some will live you unconditionally with or without finance and both will work yourself out and. Whole some only hunt for already made partner to prevent themselves from unnecessary expenses so that they will not spend much when they are married.

another thing i will like to say is that having a partner that is financially ok is not a criteria to justify if she is good for marriage because you dont know how she made the money, having a hardworking partner is ok because she is just not lazy and with time she will explore.

[Swordsoffreedom]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Based on my experience and observation, I think that economic factor should be considered before choosing a life partner and getting married

Whether we admit it or not, money truly influences and shapes almost every aspect of life. From housing, raising children  to even the smallest family decisions, everything comes back to money

So no matter how intense the love is or how passionate the marriage may be. Without money and a solid financial foundation, the relationship will face pressure and that love may gradually weaken and even fall apart.

[viljy]

I believe that all people, to a greater or lesser extent, think about their upcoming marriage from an economic point of view. Because the financial side of marriage is an important part of living together. And anyway, love doesn't really need marriage, because there are many couples who live without marriage.

But marriage is something more fundamental than just love dates, because it is built as a kind of economic micro element of society. So I think the economic aspect of marriage is very important. And by the way, very often this is the only thing that is important (in cases where the marriage is for financial reasons).

[AmaGold70]

So many things should be put in consideration before delving into marriage, yes the financial aspect is important, but should not be the first point to consider while going into marriage. To me, proper understanding, and unity of husband, and wife should be the number thing to consider which is love, because when you love each other you can actually build a business empire together. For instance, if a woman marries a man because of his money, definitely their is no love, and such woman can pull a man down, and become an hindrance to a man's financial breakthrough.

[MarjorieZimmermanGinger]

As I said before, I am not saying loving unconditionally is wrong or no longer exists. But I am saying the people are also considering the economic dimension of marriage before commitment.

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Life isn't entirely about money, but a marriage without money as a means of support will tear the family apart. We need money to buy basic necessities and this is just the beginning of many other needs that a family must fulfill. So what happens if people don't have money to support these needs? Considering the economic dimension is crucial for a smooth life, as everything requires money in the process of achieving a better life.

I think considering the economy before marriage is important, but it also needs to be balanced because most people deal with financial issues differently. For example, I earn $500 a month as a man and I personally would look for a partner with a lower income. This aims to create balance, as men who earn less than women are generally disrespected and this can sometimes lead to problems in the household.

[sokani]

I don't know if you were avoiding to sound sexiest or maybe it's different in your country but the reality is that before men do not consider the financial status of their wife to be before getting married to them, men would only consider their own financial status but with women it is different a woman would consider the financial status of their husband to be, and I don't blame them if what the want is something realistic for them and their future happy home.

In what country? Did you mean in the time of our great-grandparents? If yes... What you said is actually correct, but then, you missed something. That they have a vast piece of land, and after marrying, their wife or wives also help out on their farms. Which can also be translated to bringing something to the table. It does not make them full-time housewives.

The same situation can be applied in the modern era, where a man brings his wife into his business so she can have understanding of how he runs the business. So if he is not around, she can manage it properly.

[lovesmayfamilis]

It all depends on your age and worldview. There are many options, although it sounds a bit cynical, but life is life. A person with very mercenary goals will definitely find a life partner with whom he wants to live his life comfortably. Of course, almost everyone strives for such goals, but sometimes love intrudes into some people's lives, which allows them to forget about everything and close their eyes to all financial and even physical shortcomings. But this happens rarely and usually for a short time. In addition, very young hearts "suffer" from such love, and when they grow up, they realize that they were very wrong. Therefore, of course, it is better to look for a partner who could become a true kindred spirit, helping to create the financial well-being of the family so that neither children nor parents would feel the need, and if the latter arose, they would help improve their situation together.

[knowngunman]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Of course yes!

But I think many people under this thread are missing the point. From the majority of posts here, they linked it to financial status, what their partner is doing now, whether they're employed or unemployed.

If you're considering their financial status based on what they do or have, you're probably a gold digger 

I think the economic dimension should be based on their financial characters and not financial status. Don't marry because of their high salary, fancy cars, houses or because their business thrive. What matters is is their financial characters. Are they financially responsible, can they work with budget? Can they save and invest over flexing? Can they endure with you when you're broke?

Their opinion on some of the issues I raised above will reveal their financial discipline. It doesn't matter whether they are rich or poor. What matters is whether they are compatible with you to build together.

[iv4n]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Yes, the economic dimension should be considered, as all other dimensions... You need to know what you are signing up for. So it's not just looking for a better economic status, it's about awareness that you are ready to settle and build your future life with someone you care about, even if the financial situation is not ideal... When you are ready to start from zero with a person you love.

Truthfully, I don't know what I would have done without my wife. Her financial and moral support has been what has kept our family afloat. I loved her, but her financial discipline, handwork and creativity made me love her more.

I can relate... and you put it nicely. It's not just financial support, there is moral support as well, which is more important at some moments. And you mentioned: discipline, handwork, creativity, and I am sure there are other important stuff that make your marriage beautiful... Sounds like you are happy and I would say it's the most important thing, to be happy... sometimes even more money & better financial situation won't make you happier, to work, it has to be a balanced combination of all the things that truly matter.

If you are in it just for the money or just for sex, sooner or later it will show, and it usually doesn't end well for either side.