Helping isn't always right, so reconsider before you do it!

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

If you must help someone, you should do that when you know so well that they are in need of that which you are helping them for, you also have to know when you are being taken advantage of, I'm not hard in terms of helping people but I'm also quick to figure out if something is not right, that's if the person is just trying to use me. It's true that some people would want to misuse opportunity of asking you for help when that see that you are free to give but you that gives people when they ask from you, you should be smart enough to know when they lie to you to get something.

[Obim34]

Has anyone here ever experienced something like this?

If you love someone, you should be able to go out of your way to help them. It's difficult to tell at which point in time to help someone, sometimes you may not have enough for the good, but due to the severity of condition, you become willing to extend a hand.

It is right if you cut down expenses just so to help someone else, most at times the good we do without counting always finds a way to repay itself back to us, liking someone to the extend of giving, comes with certain untold scarifies.

[HustleZ]

Has anyone here ever experienced something like this?

I haven’t experienced it personally but seen it happen with a lot of people, and honestly the person who gets dependent on others is in loss rather than the one helping. I personally believe helping is great and in places where you can help you should but sometimes people should be let to face the circumstances as they also teach them important life lessons and sometimes because of that they become successful. So helping isn’t bad always helping and sppon feeding is, sometimes people should be left to face their own circumstances.

[katanic97]

Very often. I help not because I'm financially well-off, but because I position myself for that person.
I'm not proud of it, but I don't expect anything in return from the people I've helped. When I do it, my only intention is to position myself in times of difficulty, and that is, one day, someone I don't know will help me. And I've experienced this recently.
Relying on people will always lead to disappointment.

Exactly. You should never expect a favor in return. If you're willing to do a good deed, do it without thinking that someone will help you someday in return,you'll usually just end up disappointed. It's always better to be in a position where you're able to help someone else.

[hafiztalha]

Has anyone here ever experienced something like this?

Being kind and helping others is one of the best quality that a person can have but I think it should have some healthy boundaries otherwise people started taking benefit of your kindness and may turn into exploitation.

I personally believe that the best help that we can do to someone is not doing their things by our own and making them dependent on assistance rather than that we should empower someone to make them improve their situation by themselves.

Helping someone or be kind should never cost you your own financial stability or your well being you should learn to say no when it is necessary saying no is an art and everyone should have that art, that does not make us selfish or rude but it sets the boundaries.

[slapper]

TWe just assume. It is not OK to not help if it is good.But this line of reasoning does not stand up to any pressure. Helping others to solve their own problems is not giving them a helping hand. One of the less obvious, though more destructive, dynamics of human relationships, whether close or distant, is participation in the problem, dressed up as compassion.

This would be viewed as a motivational system. What sounds cold but is very exact. A behavioral loop is created when you show a need and resources are made available reliably. Even if you did not have any intent to build anything at all, even if you were just reacting to what was in front of you, you are still a part of that architecture of that loop.

Below the lesson of not helping people who take advantage of you. You are talking about the feeling you might have when you hear about someone's problem and that is so overwhelming that it overpowers information you were getting at the same time about his or her character. It was happening all the time. The feeling and the information. The feeling was won for a time.

[LastKiss]

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Has anyone here ever experienced something like this?

Helping others is the right thing to do but sometimes the people we help fail to show gratitude and instead take advantage of our kindness or exploit our good intention. This happened to me personally, at first a friend of me borrow small amounts of money out of necessity and always pay me back on time. Then one time he borrowed a significant amounts, claiming his mother was ill and needed money for medical treatment. Then he suddenly disappear when I tried to collect the debt but that didn't stop me from helping other people cause I learned that I should only help with their basic needs rather than lend large sum of money.