Do you feel despised or embarrassed about being shown your gambling losses?

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It's more like of an ager that caused the situation here but there is nothing to be embarassed about unless you are spending the money that should be used on your bills or something important.

Generally, I don't like to announce my win and losses to anyone because it is none of their business because whatever the consequences of my gambling then I am responsible for it. I wish people would realize these things about what not to do with their money then they can improve their financial status.

Even I would never make my own financial things public to anyone, be it my gambling losses or winnings, and even if I win, I rarely try to highlight it because I feel like it violates my privacy and increases my risk.

And if we talk about the above topic, then surely that gambler is addicted to gambling and he has gambled and lost money beyond his ability to lose. In this case, it is very natural that his losses have reached a level that will prove to others that he is addicted to gambling and for the same reason, it is very natural for him to hide these things.

[Findingnemo]

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And if we talk about the above topic, then surely that gambler is addicted to gambling and he has gambled and lost money beyond his ability to lose. In this case, it is very natural that his losses have reached a level that will prove to others that he is addicted to gambling and for the same reason, it is very natural for him to hide these things.

I don't think OP talked about the affordability here, we can't assume that he can't simply based on the accumulated loss should be enough to buy a new car. It is like saying that if someone quit smoking, then they can afford a Lambo after these years, then why the hell don't we have millions of Lambo on the road while we have millions of people who never smoked at all.

[Alphakilo]

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And if we talk about the above topic, then surely that gambler is addicted to gambling and he has gambled and lost money beyond his ability to lose. In this case, it is very natural that his losses have reached a level that will prove to others that he is addicted to gambling and for the same reason, it is very natural for him to hide these things.

I don't think OP talked about the affordability here, we can't assume that he can't simply based on the accumulated loss should be enough to buy a new car. It is like saying that if someone quit smoking, then they can afford a Lambo after these years, then why the hell don't we have millions of Lambo on the road while we have millions of people who never smoked at all.

That's actually funny and the truth made bare.
There's always bound to be one bad-mouthed individual in a group of friends and such kind of friends always hate a backlash.
I can't even feel sad or overthink such kind of talk coming from one of my friends, because it simply doesn't matter.
Gambling or not, anyone who wants to become rich will and even though I have lost more than I won in gambling this year, it doesn't make the balance in my account flinch or make me develop high blood pressure.
Gambling is just not a do or die affair to take too serious, but to keep having a re-assuring result with more wins one must obey a few rules at all times and that's nothing more than capital, emotional and risk management.

[Orpichukwu]

If I’m the person, I’m most likely not to feel embarrassed as long as my friend did not say it in an offensive manner and as long as my years of experience with gambling turn out not to make my life miserable. I can also throw out my own defence and turn it into an interactive argument instead of cutting him off and coming back again. Everyone won’t treat it the same, but I’m sure I won’t pick offence from it to the point of cutting him off.

[Issa56]

Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

If you friend didn’t gamble with the money which he lost, am telling you that maybe he won’t be able to buy a car with the money, because he will find it difficult to save the money until he will be able to buy a car.

When you calculate the amount which you have lost in gambling, you just going to end up regretting why you gambled with that amount of money, that’s why I don’t even seat to calculate my gambling loss, I feel it’s not just useful. Your friend wasn’t just lucky throughout the period that he was gambling, he will have won an amount that’s going to get him a car, but he wasn’t lucky, he was just losing.

[Crypto_Timothy]

I think its just a human emotion to be embarrassed when something in public is said to your person but then again, if a comment telling you to stop gambling is upsetting you then is probably for a good reason you are been asked to stop gambling, like sometimes the strongest emotional reactions come from truths we are not ready to confront, so instead of focusing on the embarrassment, it might be worth asking yourself whether your gambling habits have started affecting your finances, i mean if your losses can buy a car, you know, just check yourself a bit.

[Filicius]

She asked how long he’d been smoking and how much a pack of cigarettes cost; she did the same regarding alcohol (beer). She crunched the numbers and said, "Look, the amount you've spent on this so far would be enough to buy a Honda Civic" (a car many people here consider excellent).
My friend looked her in the eye and asked, "You've never smoked, right?"
She replied, "No."
My friend asked, "And you've never drunk alcohol either?"
She said, "No."
Finally, my friend asked, "So, where is your Honda Civic?"

RLMAO

Well, jokes aside, I guess if you don't control the amounts you spend, in the long run by making calculations more than one will put their hands to their heads. Imagine if that money had been invested in making DCA.

This is not my case, since I spend a very measured amount per month on bets and gambling, and the annual sum is similar to what I spend on some other hobby, in addition to the fact that by the time I could buy the Honda Civic authorities would probably take away my driving license for being too old.

[BALIK]

The story hit me right in the heart, Pare.
Your friend's math-expert friend did exactly the right thing. In fact, many of us on this line need just such a jolt to wake up. Maybe someday your gambling friend will thank him. But such friends are really rare these days.

Many in our Philippines get completely exhausted by gambling, crypto betting, or any new hype, looking for that temporary excitement or rush. The deadly addiction to gambling is destroying the lives of millions of people here.

In the past, when someone pointed out my wrong moves or failures in risk management, I would also get very angry. My ego would get in the way, and I would continue playing for a few more days due to my stubbornness. But I've finally come to realize that who are real friend. Real friend never applaud and cheer us on every wrong bet.

We all love the thrill, I get it, the feeling of winning is amazing and that's what keeps us going. But I've started to keep it strictly limited and just for fun. I only play with money that I wouldn't regret burning in a fire.

[rbynxx]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

I felt an embarrassment too if that's the case but why would you hand your losses to your friend? Friends are the worst to ridicule what's good in us but it's more than just a friendly ridicule of course but I know it hit the nerves most of the times.

Well, I guess if he hand listen he will definitely have feeling good right now and probably his prediction would come true that he can bought a new house if the gambling discontinued. Well, food is one way to get connected once again, friends will be friends even at the worst.

[Queen uloma]

For me, I think the Friend did not really offend him What he did was to open his eyes so that he will see the real cost of gambling habit. Many Gamblers focus only on the few big wins, they don’t calculate the total amount that they have lose over the years. The reason why the Gambler became angry and unfriend him was because he was pained about the truth. Many people don’t like when others show them the reality of their bad habit, especially when they are not willing to change. So instead of them accepting the advice, they rather choose to stay away from the person that remind them about the truth. No matter how you advise an adult don’t force them to change. The only time a person would change is when they have realized that the habit are doing them more harm than good. I’m happy since they later settle their dispute because true friendship is not suppose to end because of one honest truth.

[Pandorak]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

Not at all. Personally, i wouldn’t feel ashamed, because i gambled of my own free will, not because anyone pressured me. Besides, if you don’t want your friend to tally up all your gambling losses, just don’t give them the information, it’s that simple.

Your friend isn’t wrong either, he’s just trying to give you advice so you realize that if you added up all your losses, you could probably buy something useful, it’s up to you whether you want to accept that advice or not. I think as long as the way he delivers it is respectful, there’s no problem, unless he comes across as constantly pressuring you to quit, in which case ending the friendship would be understandable.

[danherbias07]

Well, he is too sensitive when someone is advising him, and he cannot take it yet because he is so into gambling and wants his money back. I think he wants someone who will boost his confidence, and he is expecting something like: "Yes, continue it, you will win at some point." I will never be that kind of friend, as I am always honest with my close friends, especially when it's about bad habits and family.

If someone tells you to continue, then I bet it is either your enemy or the owner of the gambling platform that you are using. Yes, that's not a real friend.
When someone points me in the right direction or tries to give advice, I listen. You can debate, but never walk out and backstab him with the "unfriend" button.

[mirakal]

As a gambler, we know ourselves more than the people around us. We know we have been losing more consistently but in return only making limited returns, so if our friends would tell us to stop gambling because its no longer profitable on our part, I don't take it as something that will make me embarrassed.

At the end of the day, the final decision is only up to us, but hearing the opinions of our friends, I think it could also help in evaluating ourselves if we are still okay with the growing losses, or just set limits and when it does not work still, maybe this could be a sign to finally leave gambling for good.

Getting embarrassed or feel despised only makes it clear that you're a weak and irresponsible gambler, and no one wants that.

[Russlenat]

Who's actually not losing these days? Every gambler experiences bigger losses than its wins, and that's the reality with gambling especially that the edge is often on the house, leaving the gamblers relying on luck and chances which have no guarantees when they'll be lucky in gambling.

Showing that you're embarrassed simply tells that you hate to be real talk, that you hate the idea that you are actually losing a lot. Instead, admit that you're still at loss, and if you don't see real progress within the next months, what you need is a break and stop chasing your losses and luck when you are betting.

[Rockstarguy]

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

How I wish people could be conscious of what the outcome of gambling might be in the future. If the losses are greater, how will they feel about it? Whatever their feelings should guide their decisions about gambling or not.

Definitely, if you accumulate the amount of money spent on gambling, it will be high, and if you are not lucky enough to win in all these games, the losses will be significant. There is no need to feel bad about it or to feel ashamed. Gambling is a game of win and lose, and if the outcome doesn't please you, there’s no need to feel bad because every game is played with an amount one can afford to lose. If calculating the amount one has spent on gambling is a problem, it is better not to gamble at all.

[PX-Z]

.., and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

That's depend on what kind of house isn't it?
Kidding aside, if it can build a new house, good or bad it it will be a huge sum. So yeah, i might get embarrassed too if im that friend, but hell no way i will unfriend those people for just so low reasoning.

[Versatile_choice]

As for me, I will take the advice of not gambling anymore. I know it's hard to listen to such instruction considering how much he lost over the years. Of course he might be thinking that he have gone to far to go back, these feeling is affecting alot of gamblers that is why they never think of quiting gambling even though the game is treating them so badly yet they will just persevere.

Truly if we create a chart to show how much money we have lost right from the very beginning down to this current stage, of course if you compound it together you can use it to start up a business especially those that have been in this gambling space for so many years probably decade.

[Gozie51]

Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

This matter is just like telling someone who drinks beer or smoke that if he wasn't in such habit that he would have bought a car etc while they themselves that don't smoke or drink has not bought any of those, so where is their own money going to?

So I think he could have asked the friend who doesn't gamble, what he has used his own money for? He doesn't need to feel despised or derided. He should know that people will say something that hurts when they are expecting something from you and they don't see it. Some people don't gamble but they are still struggling with their finance just as those who gamble. Life isn't bed of roses.

[Samlucky O]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

I don't think if this story is true or not, but however the case might be, if gambling loses are compiled it will make you keep on track or know how often you have Lost or win. It can be used as a means of identifying your weakness but you don't need to get worried trying to convince people to stop gambling because you lose a lot. That person might be  lucky to win big  than you, as a result of luck, and may not fall thesame way as you did. You just need to advise people about the consequences of gambling addiction and let them know how to manage bankroll but not putting fear in them. Otherwise many will disconnect from you because it seems you don't want them to progress in life because you want to use your cup and measure their success.

[Floxynice]

Every gambler has lost some amount of money since they started gambling. Some know exactly how much they've lost so far because they track their transactions, while others do not bother tracking because they treat every gambling session as independent of the others. My take is that not every gambler will be comfortable being shown how much they've lost so far.

I will not bother telling someone how much they've lost.
I will not bother telling them to track their losses because I won't be doing that myself.
I would rather tell them to always use amounts they can afford to lose anytime they gamble. If they lose, that is it. And if they win, it is still their gain.

I really don't see the need for tracking losses when I can simply manage how much I gamble with anytime I gamble. I think this is better than judging my performance based on accumulated losses or gains.