Do you feel despised or embarrassed about being shown your gambling losses?

[Questat]

There are gamblers that easily get embarrassed because of some judgement because that exposes a painful reality that he has been hiding just to cover his real score in gambling. Receiving words like quit gambling, or you are not fit in gambling simply creates a reflection that he does gambling irresponsibly because what he has shown is a loss of control, and if continue to be tolerated, he might end up broken and homeless.

Others may also feel loss of autonomy that makes them develop anger or hatred towards another person.

I wouldn't mind this kind of critic, because I know my real stance in gambling. I will stop gambling when I want to.

[CryptoHeadlineNews]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

It's actually funny when I hear people make such statements regarding someone's finances and how he or she spends his/her money. Because if I may asked, does that his friend who is not into gambling now owns a brand new car? Because it's obvious that he is not a gambler and yet couldn't also save good sum of money to buy a car too. Because one thing most people fail to understand is that when it comes to money, if you don't use it to solve your immediate needs at the moment, it will still be used for another thing else. As money never last forever, unless you are disciplined enough to save it for a particular purpose.

[alastantiger]

If that really happens, then why do I need to be embarrassed. It's normal for a close friend to speak what is truth and speak frankly, so I have to accept that. But after that, I think it should be an eye opener for me that maybe I am already losing too much in gambling, and my finances instead of seeing it multiply, it may even turn zero-balance if I continue gambling blindly.

Not everyone loves to be reminded of their losses as some gamblers have already forgotten that they have lost that huge amount of money then when you remind them it becomes a reality that they cannot erase that is why people are usually angry when you show them their losses. It is only the smart ones that knows that being reminded of the losses you have had should be a reminder that you have to be more careful and avoid losing so much in the future. I would not get angry if I got shown my losses instead it will motivate me to not make such mistakes again and I know that I can never make such mistake instead I will stop gambling if I notice that I am beginning to lose too much as I used to do before. Gambling is for fun but it becomes less fun when you continue to lose money and it might make you not to even enjoy the game that you are playing.

[stadus]

Not really, I have accepted the reality that its hard to secure winnings from gambling but easier to lose our funds every now and then, so I won't have any reason to feel embarrassed especially that its coming from a close friend of mine.

I have this mindset that my friends are actually a reflection of who I am, that's why friends of the same feathers flock together. Instead of hating them or getting hurt from their words, I'll just resort into asking suggestions on how to maximize profit opportunities before I decide to stop gambling.

[Hispo]

There are gamblers that easily get embarrassed because of some judgement because that exposes a painful reality that he has been hiding just to cover his real score in gambling. Receiving words like quit gambling, or you are not fit in gambling simply creates a reflection that he does gambling irresponsibly because what he has shown is a loss of control, and if continue to be tolerated, he might end up broken and homeless.

Others may also feel loss of autonomy that makes them develop anger or hatred towards another person.

I wouldn't mind this kind of critic, because I know my real stance in gambling. I will stop gambling when I want to.

It sounds rather dumb to me, actually.
Someone who is a gambler is not supposed to be ashamed of how much money they have lost to their favorite casino, because it was not supposed to be about getting money from the casino in the first place, you know?

If those people treated casinos as an actual source of entertainment, they would just say how much they spend each month, with no shame. In the same manner someone tells others how much money they spend on going to the movie theater every month in order to get exactly that: entertainment.

Though, since there are a lot of gamblers who thought they were going to change their life for good thanks to gambling, and obviously they feel rather disappointment when they talk about losses.

[EluguHcman]

Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

Let me first of all draw to your attention that you did not complain about this friend being regretted over those bet records nor being an irresponsible gambler if not for the fact that that you all considers the total of his annual looses a huge one to buy a brawn new car.

If he feels sad about the reminder, then it was all just because you all dragged his attention therein because I believe he had always been using the chart to track his looses without having it a big challenges.
If the approach of his bets does not hurt his income and health please let him be in peace.

Perhaps there are also people who losses money that can afford to bet and had  lost one time losses that could still buy them a car.
Sure when you see such people, you will not be able to despite that your good mathematical and analyst friends again.

So consider yourself too because the total amount you lost in a year is far bigger than the one time lost a day or even week.

[Grace333]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling. 

That same person that lost enough to buy a car could have won enough to buy a large house, or a boat, or many other things. Gambling is a 2 way street, you could win or lose(most lose), but it's possible to win big.

I don't care if I lose 100k today because I could win 200k tomorrow. Just depends on how lucky I am and how degen I go as to what sort of session I might have. I think safe bettors don't have the type of swings that a degen has and the degen has the better chance at making a milllion. Safe betters might win a million over time, but it's over a long period of time vs short for a degen. Either way, no need to feel embarrassed.

In as much as gamble is a 2 way street is doesn't guarantee winning because it still depends on luck to win and sometimes our wins are not even equivalent to our monthly loses. So once again it's best to play it safe and gamble strategically not with emotion or the hope cashing out big with gamble because that might literally be the reason we end up falling into a well that is difficult to come out from. Gambling with budget and with what we are comfortable losing will always remain the best decision any gambler can take.

[passwordnow]

I used to show my losses and I don't feel proud of it but I am not ashamed to show that my bets didn't do well. I am vocal whenever I am in a losing streak and that's what I am telling in the threads where I participate. There's nothing to hide with the losses we make because of how proud we are when we win, we should be accepting when we're having the bad days and having the losing streak. It's normal to get into those days. What is embarrassing is when we gamble and then we don't have money but we're forcing to do it through taking multiple loans.

[Sanitough]

Definitely no. Why should I? Everyone gets to experience losses in gambling, it only varies on the amount because some gamblers are just too confident in gambling without sufficient knowledge and skills, while other gamblers are more responsible in taking accountability on their bankroll.

And if ever I'm actually having massive losses in gambling, then this could be a sign that I have to start being cautious on my choice of bets, or on placing the amount of bets, otherwise regrets do come in the end, and no gamblers would want to lose all their life savings because they have fallen into deep gambling addiction.

[Rubuchi]

Not really, I have accepted the reality that its hard to secure winnings from gambling but easier to lose our funds every now and then, so I won't have any reason to feel embarrassed especially that its coming from a close friend of mine.

I have this mindset that my friends are actually a reflection of who I am, that's why friends of the same feathers flock together. Instead of hating them or getting hurt from their words, I'll just resort into asking suggestions on how to maximize profit opportunities before I decide to stop gambling.

naturally, that's how gambling flows. Gambling provides you with note failures than wins and if you are a gambler and you don't come into terms with this believe, be rest assured that you will lose more than you ever think. Gambling and losing of money are inevitable especially for those who gamble with high expectations. The higher your expectations, the higher your chances of taking bigger risks and the higher your chances of losing money. Be that gambler that gambles with fun and not consecutively. Be that gambler that does not have too much hunger for money easy making.

[uneng]

I don't feel embarrassed for my losses. I think it's helpful to share this information, so I can help other people to avoid losing what I did, while understanding from someone else's personal experience that gambling isn't for profit on long run. People really need to get aware on this matter, so they can finally reach to the conclusion if they are gambling for money or for entertainment. In case they are doing this for money, it means the final proof they should take into consideration in order to stop.

[alegotardo]

Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

The fact is that we spend a lot of money on things that not are essential... drinks, gambling, parties, dining out, impulse purchases and others.
If we sum everything that we have spent on this things we did not really need, we could probably have achieved many more important goals.

But let me ask you something: what is the point of investing our money only on what is important if we never allow ourselves to enjoy life!?
I believe we need to find a balance in this. We should understand the importance of saving money, investing and buying what is truly necessary, but we should also allow ourselves to spend a little money in things that not is essential, but that bring us joy and help us relieve stress.

So, if your friend is financially successful or simply a someone who has everything they need, let them continue spending their money on what makes them happy... as long as it does not turn into an addiction.

[DabsPoorVersion]

I don't feel embarrassed about showing it to other people. The thing is, sometimes it's a good front for them to think that I am having a miserable life. We all know that people often make assumptions about what they see and I think that's completely fine.

By doing this, I feel like I don't need to prove anything to anyone or to explain about my financial status. Just letting those people be surprised when the time comes that they see me buying the things I want or to go and travel to other places. Intentionally giving a misleading act and I only think to myself that gambling losses don't define a person's financial situation.

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

I remember the story I saw in social media when I was young,
It was a conversation between two people where the first person is a heavy smoker, and the other one is a non smoker. Non smoker is asking how much he spent on cigarettes each day and how many years he's into it. They calculate the total amount he spends for how many years, and they total that it was enough to buy a brand new car.

But it doesn't end there. The heavy smoker also asks if the non smoker is smoking, and the answer is no. He then asked for another question whether he have any other vices, and the answer is also a no.

The heavy smoker keeps on looking at the nonsmoker and then asked where his brand new car is.

[angrybirdy]

I don't feel embarrassed for my losses. I think it's helpful to share this information, so I can help other people to avoid losing what I did, while understanding from someone else's personal experience that gambling isn't for profit on long run. People really need to get aware on this matter, so they can finally reach to the conclusion if they are gambling for money or for entertainment. In case they are doing this for money, it means the final proof they should take into consideration in order to stop.

I respect your mindset and we have the same opinion on that.., being open about our losses isn't something everyone is willing to do, but it can really help others see the reality of gambling. It is easy to focus on the big wins people posts while the losses usually stay hidden. Sharing pur own experience gives a more balanced picture and reminds other people that gambling isn't a reliable way to make money in the long run. Hopefully, it encourages more people to think about whether they're gambling for entertainment or expecting to make a profit before they end up learning the same lesson the hard way.

[Bitcoin.com97]

Why will I feel sad and embarrassed with my loses, I don't even boarder about calculating because definitely you will be surprised at what you many have spent unknownly ,all he could have done is listen to his friend ,if possible stay off gambling for sometime before resuming again,being embress cannot solve it ,what matter most is been self awareness, some person don't manage their bankroll ,they just gamble with any amount that comes into their mind,that is why if you check some persons history,the kind of amount you will see will be outrageous.

[Joeboy]

We are all human, so yeah it sure thing to reminisce over your losses and feel very unhappy about it especially if the amount that has been lost is so large, larger than the total win you probably have gotten.. I reminisce majority of times..But then I don't get embarrassed about my losses... Surely my losses isn't what I would take a megaphone and start telling the whole world, but even if I do that I can't feel embarrassed, because there ain't any gambler that can beat their chest and say that they haven't had their own fault shair of losses throughout their gambling days.. Losses is unavoidable in gambling, so there is no reason to feel embarrassed or despised for it..

[Jody.Drummer]

What we can do is not show off our gambling, whether we win or lose. But I understand that when we have a lot of gamblers in our environment especially among friends who also like to gamble, exchanging stories about wins and losses is normal. In that case, I don't think there's any need to be ashamed of the losses we experience, as that's perfectly normal. But what's not normal is a large loss that we can't accept. If we're truly ashamed, then we can't hide it, as that's a choice we can make. When we are interested in gambling we will definitely experience losses, this is something that cannot be avoided even if we gamble with great care, this does not mean that it will eliminate the statement that the chance of losing is greater than the chance of winning.

[Cointxz]

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

The heck with the unfriend move. 

It only shows how immature he is for showing his losses while he can’t man up to show pride on that losses. If that’s me, I will not show my losses to others since it’s my personal defeat.

There’s no merit or award on showing losses to others instead it will just result to criticism so I believe this is a personal matter unless someone is willing to give me a cashback. Lol

[Akbarkoe]

If there is a friend who advises in a realistic way I am much happier it seems, not to feel offended, but if I feel ashamed and disappointed in myself because a lot of money that is controlled is spent to gamble that I should be able to spend on more important things and can be useful for my family or myself in the long run it is very natural, the mathematician sees the activity with logical analysis and wants to remind his friend that it is good intentions, instead we must accept that we are wrong, if the un does not stop we have to find ways not to spend more money to gamble, such as reducing gambling sessions or setting a gambling budget that is more minimal than cutting off to friends in one year.

[yhiaali3]

Of course, this is very embarrassing. If any gambler thought this way, he would actually find that he had spent enough on gambling over the past years to buy a car, or perhaps a house, or at least losses sufficient to start a small investment.

I thought about this once and realized that if I had bought and accumulated Bitcoin instead of spending these amounts on losing gambles, I would now have a very good balance of Bitcoin. Therefore, it is essential for the gambler to stop and reconsider his calculations.