Do you feel despised or embarrassed about being shown your gambling losses?

[bakasabo]

What is the point of being disappointed after looking how much you have spent on gambling and thinking what you have bought for that money? Your friend could have bought a brand-new car. But tell me, do all of those who dont gamble have brand-new cars? No. But the gambler most probably had great time while gambling, and despite those who dont gamble and dont have a brand-new car, was more close to it than them. It is simple with me, if you regret spending money, dont spend them.

[Zlantann]

I feel uncomfortable showing my gambling losses or wins to others as people in my environment will not easily accept the reality if someone playing gambling so that makes me to hide my gambling activity to them. Maybe I can show my gambling activity to some closest friends who really knows me and will not judge anything except just reminds me to be careful in gambling, they know me better and will take care of me. They don't unfriend me just because they know I gamble because they believes me that I will not excessively playing gambling.

Online gambling has helped improve privacy. The days of going to physical casinos or game shops to place bets are over. So nobody knows you are gambling except you inform them. I think my gambling life is my secret, and I like it that way. Only a few close friends and relatives know that I gamble occasionally.

Having said that, I wouldn't be comfortable when someone begins to judge me because of my losses. People might begin to have a negative perspective about you if they see how much you have lost at gambling. But they wouldn't also consider how much you could have won. So I don't show anybody my gambling account or records. It is important to gamble with the amount you can afford. Whatever people are thinking or saying is their business.

[Ishicryptic]

You don't need to feel embarrassed about your loses if you're a responsible gambler because the money that you use to gamble is not worth worrying over, if you lose the money is gone and you move on. Initially when i used to do mental calculations about how much I've lost in gambling or if I'm making more profit naturally I'll feel quite sad if I figured that my loses where more but since I changed my gambling strategy I no longer worry about loses. Gambling money is entertainment money for me and that mindset had totally removed any embarrassments about loses as long as it's still within the range of money that I can pay to watch a movie or do something exciting without any financial rewards. Winnings are like a reward or bonus for me because I expect that I will lose it so no embarrassments.

[Tungbulu]

There's no need looking at those little amount of money that you are using to gamble which means nothing to you. It's gone, it's gone why start calculating. The moment, I bet, I count the money as loss and forget about it to enable me enjoy the fun and gamble again tomorrow. There are a lot of unnecessary things we buy and end up not using them.

Very good, and you are right about it, everyone are aware that one should gamble with the idea that the game is both loss and profit, as the loss is more due to the uncertainty of the game, that is why everyone needs to understand that its very important to gamble with what they can lose, as they won't expect anything in return. Keeping this mindset helps one to balance up everything, as they enjoy the game as a fun game it is and that way they can also avoid making mistakes.

[Coyster]

That is a very convenient story, lol. Made-up or not, i know people talk like this, it is normal, but as long as you know that you are not gambling with too much money, you shouldn't worry about such talk. Some people spend too much money on cigarettes, and they do not gamble, but then you can find such individuals advising a gambler to stop gambling, as they could have bought a car with the money they have lost to the bookies, the irony.

Moderation is the key word here, don't spend too much on something that is entirely based on luck. Keep your habits in check and hope that you are lucky more often than not.

[ultrloa]

That is a very convenient story, lol. Made-up or not, i know people talk like this, it is normal, but as long as you know that you are not gambling with too much money, you shouldn't worry about such talk. Some people spend too much money on cigarettes, and they do not gamble, but then you can find such individuals advising a gambler to stop gambling, as they could have bought a car with the money they have lost to the bookies, the irony.

Moderation is the key word here, don't spend too much on something that is entirely based on luck. Keep your habits in check and hope that you are lucky more often than not.

Its true that many people like to give lots of advices even if they didn't fix their habits and also made bad decision on gambling. But as what you have said moderation is important here, since if they gamble and use the amount they can afford to let go and they make sure to be in control, for sure that they have nothing to stress about and will provably enjoy gambling. Also they provably won't care much about sharing their losses.

Better for gamblers to have good discipline and enjoy what they are playing without exceeding on their limits.

[Wakate]

As a gambler I can feel bad after being shown the loses I have incurred betting on a casino. I don't know why most casino don't like to show gamblers the total loses they have incurred since they started gambling. It is not really easy at all to become highly profitable gambling for a long time. There will be time when you will not be getting a very good outcome that could make you productive as a gambler that is looking for opportunity to make money from betting.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

There's no course for offense in this kind of situation, although it depends on how the friend talked to him about it because I know that some people easily pick offense when they are being talked to in a rude or bad manner, but if his maths are actually correct, then he should not be angry. Personally, I won't feel embarrassed because of this, realization will just set it and I can imagine that what he is saying is the truth and I could have done something better with the money but still, I did other great things with money, not that I spent all my income in gambling.

[Dunamisx]

Why do we need to be shown our gambling losses, I still don't understand at what intention this is being targeted at, was it to disappoint us or to remind us of the losses we made and we think about it and be unhappy, I think it is more better we move on with live and consider everything as part of the fun we have in gambling, than deliberating on the losses made and seeing people showing us good be disappointing the more on those lost opportunities.

[Zadicar]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

There are really those people who are really that too sensitive when they are asked into the things that they've been dealing with on which it would really be ending up with that broken relationship just because the person whom you tell to something will definitely that block or avoid you because they dont want on being said about into the things that they've been dealing with and that do really happens. In my case, if there's someone whom would really be telling like this then im not really that kind of person whose really that too sensitive but instead i would really be accepting it out because there are things that you might see that just be okay on you but not into the eyes of other people because it was already that excessive. Good thing that there's someone do give out those words on which its a show of concern and thats not really bad at all.

[Moreno233]

This has not happened to me before, as much as I can remember, maybe because I hardly lose so bad without getting some wins much later. I also have this habit of taking breaks intermittently when losses becomes regular to enable me wait for better days. Even if I run an audit of my accounts, the losses will not be scary to make me feel so embarrassed. The people that will feel this way are those who have not figured out how to properly manage their bankroll to wait out losing periods.

[Perfectbaby]

What you must know is that there are people who do not like accepting the reality over the time being because whenever they look at the reality it’s too hard for them to accept it so easily couples with the total amount they had spent gambling over the period of years so they wouldn’t be that really ready to accept it just like that without proven doubt to show that they have made something remarkable true gambling. When the total years of gambling was estimated to him it was very shameful to him to accept it hence had to picked offence by unfriending him, but deep down facing reality he was right and gamblers do not usually like those who tells them the truth.

[LastKiss]

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They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

Choosing gambling over a friend is definitely not a wise decision and he has already shown sign of gambling addiction. Losing isn't something we should be embarrassed about but if we keep making the same mistake over and over again then we should be embarrassed with ourselves. It's not surprising that someone who has been gambling for a long time could have enough money to buy a car or even a house if he had saved it instead. I have a friend who has been gambling for many years and the amount of money he has spent on gambling is huge.

[AmaGold70]

There is no need to begin to keep hatred or unfriending someone who is telling you the truth, because is only a real friend that can tell you the truth when you are doing anything wrong.
Actually, winning your bet is not all about being good at mathematics, you can be a good mathetician, but not a good gambler or predictor.
There is an extent you will loose in gambling, and you will need to give yourself self exclusion or you take some break.
It is wise to approach gambling with discipline, when you discover you are loosing too much , you have to make a favourable decision for yourself. We loose money in gambling, and there is an extent you will make losses in gambling, and you begin to regret, and when it has gotten to this extent, you actually need a friendly advice to help you make the rightful decision.

[qwertyup23]

I used to be embarrassed about my gambling losses because I always justify them telling to myself and others that my total wins outweigh my losses. In reality, however, it’s far from breaking even and I can’t even stop before!

The good thing about these gambling losses is that it is a constant reminder on how gambling affects me financially. It actually shows my irresponsibility when it comes to my finances and the decisions that I’ve made on the past about prioritizing my habits instead of focusing on my future.

Before I used to be embarrassed about my losses but now I wear them like a badge of honor- warning and telling others to not be devoured by the addiction that comes with gambling.

[Callido]

There is no need to be embarrassed when those losses does not affect one's standard of living or cause any sort of emotional damage or depression in some cases. It's okay to experience some losses here and there but you can calculate the looses without winnings right?

As much those losses could accumulate to buy a car within years, what's the possibility that such amount could be saved up for years without having to spend it on something else? Gambling is fun when there is little expectations on return and the stake is worth risking, no pressure whatsoever.

But based on ethics, it was wrong to ditch a friend over a honest advice, gambling would have cost him a genuine friendship.

[Woodie]

I can assure you, if you are going to count the sum of losses as in how much you have lost then you will be depressed! For starters whatever amounts these show on the dashboard is not the actual amount lost, I say this because it doesn't account for the wins and all that.. as people to like to hunt down these wager races on how much they have lost and you will know that these pictures don't tell a full story! Imagine depositing $5 and wagering $1000 dollars from it, when you lose this $5 are we going to say you lost a $1000 no..

Let those losses not depress you, eyes on the profits 

[Agbe]

Frankly speaking I don't know what you are trying to tell us. This thread would have been a good comment in the thread you said, you made the comment. And that should be probably the thread that says if Mathematics can win their gambling or so. Because of giving advice he unfriended his friends, it looks like amateur human. In friendship there must be a disagreement to agree. And not that there is be happiness at all time. But the ability to contain those angers is the best in friendship.

[liasbaa]

This should be a summary of his actions so that the gambler can realize how much money he has lost in the past, which he has no exact account of. The purchase of a new car is just an estimate, but there are many gamblers who lose very little after years of gambling. One logical reason for this is that if you are involved in gambling regularly, will you always lose? Not at all? In gambling, sometimes you will win and sometimes the wins will be more than the losses. If you lose regularly, you will not have the attention to gambling.

Gamblers make profits along with losses, but they cannot control themselves, so they cannot enjoy most of the wins. They want more wins and increase the time they gamble and continue gambling until they have exhausted the amount of funds they have received or gained.

[POPOLUV]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

An addicted gambler can hardly respond to any advice that will result of him pulling out or stopping from gambling, because such gambler will be seeing the adviser as an enemy that want him progress through gambling, so such a gambler will definitely react to such advice by avoiding so person totally or unfriend such friend as you said, if he continues to advise him, so I'm not surprised about the gambler action of unfriend his friend at that point in time but one thing that is sure, a true friend can never go a separate ways because of merely advice to stop gambling.