Do you feel despised or embarrassed about being shown your gambling losses?

[Cityhunter34]

Well everyone has that kind of mindset, as a gambler there could be regrets along time ago, or just recent. That's why for me I don't like to record my losses as it could trigger some mental stress. Nevertheless, as a gambler, we already know that consequences of what we are doing.

I think anyone that is recording his losses in gambling is taking gambling as something related to his financial life. If I collect $100 this week and I only use $2 to gamble, I can not thinking of recording my losses because the money I am using for it is very small and not all the time that I will be gambling because there are some weeks that I do not gamble because of work.

That's true because gambling is not a source of income. Gamblers don't need to go the extra mile in gambling, because recording losses always starts when you are gambling above your limit. Those gamblers who normally gamble responsibly with a small amount don't have any reason to record losses, because they have already know that gambling involves more losses than wins.

 So we shouldn't take gambling too seriously, since luck has the final say.

[Derekfunds]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

Well I think it is normal to react that way I mean no one will be happy or smiling after hearing such analysis of his years of gambling but while people are making loss in gambling there are also folks out there who are making thousands and millions of dollars. Anyone who is gambling should always use their head because gambling is nobody's friend or brother so it can mess anyone up at anytime, they said gambling can be addictive but we should gamble responsibly so anyone will not..., is the person's business.

[panjul07]

When it comes to total loss since someone started gambling, it can be a huge amount but that should not be the main problem IMO.
Just like if someone who is addicted to cigar or maybe alcohol, the amount spent to buy these things for years or decades can be a huge amount as well.
As long as what we have spent on every gambling session is not affecting our life negatively, this is the most important thing.
Should I feel embarrassed? Of course not, simply because I use my own money and I can manage my gambling habit so it is not affecting me negatively.  

[348Judah]

Let's be reasonable and considerate as well in this discussion with the subject concerned, if you look at life as a whole, people will always appreciate to be remembered of their sweet memories and not the bad ones, it is more better to let go of the ugly past we had in gambling than still bringing such to mind, while success is what should always be celebrated and remembered for because it is an achievement we made and will always love to see it happen again.

[KiaKia]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

I am wondering why the comeback, did he ended up losing more after he blocked his friend? Because people tend to come back after what you advice them came to past, if gambling was working for him after he blocked his friend he will never come back.

At the same time, what if the friend later won something meaningful? Because it's actually possible, the person who advice him to stop gambling would even be surprised, I guess that's not the case, it's just a what if.

Gambling is not to be taken like an investment, it guarantees nothing in return, I would gladly play with altcoins using some amount of money than risking the same amount on gambling, they are both dangerous game but gambling is more deadly.  

[Sanitough]

Let's be reasonable and considerate as well in this discussion with the subject concerned, if you look at life as a whole, people will always appreciate to be remembered of their sweet memories and not the bad ones, it is more better to let go of the ugly past we had in gambling than still bringing such to mind, while success is what should always be celebrated and remembered for because it is an achievement we made and will always love to see it happen again.

We have to mature as gamblers. That means we need to grow some thick skin so we will not be too affected by losses.

Losses are actually normal in gambling, but it is also not impossible to win big. Sometimes, one big win can remove those sad moments from past losses.

Some people are just emotional, and they do not want to remember their losses anymore, so we have to respect that. But for me, I do not really care if people show me my losses because I know I will not stop there. There is still a future waiting for me, and maybe that is the jackpot. As long as I do not stop, eventually I believe I can still hit something big.

[xenomorfo]

When it comes to total loss since someone started gambling, it can be a huge amount but that should not be the main problem IMO.
Just like if someone who is addicted to cigar or maybe alcohol, the amount spent to buy these things for years or decades can be a huge amount as well.
As long as what we have spent on every gambling session is not affecting our life negatively, this is the most important thing.
Should I feel embarrassed? Of course not, simply because I use my own money and I can manage my gambling habit so it is not affecting me negatively.  

Of course you're right, i always say that. If you do not fall into the trap of gambling addiction, you may fall into smoking or alcohol or women (in the case of men).
It's not bad gambling or smoking.
If you are weak and can't resist.

Some spend madly on tobacco, i know people who smoke two packs of 20 cigarettes, therefore 40 cigarettes, a day.

[Makus]

Despised? Absolutely not because I keep my winnings and losses privately so I don't really know about that and talking about being embarrassed I have no idea because I'm not really the type that is ashamed to be Identified as a gambler. I gamble privately because I prefer to keep it that way but I don't think my losses are anything to be embarrassed about because I'm not an irresponsible gambler. I only stake amounts of money that I can afford to lose, I don't really get In situations where I end up losing irresponsibly or get addicted.

[Versatile_choice]

Of course you're right, i always say that. If you do not fall into the trap of gambling addiction, you may fall into smoking or alcohol or women (in the case of men).

It depends, I believe there are people who are not addicted to either alcohol or gambling/ women so don't make it feel like everybody is addicted to either alcohol or gambling/ women.

 I personally is not addicted to any of these above mentioned things here and that is because i usually apply self control when I find myself around gambling I'm not even going to talk about smoking because I haven't touched that before.

[Su-asa]

I see no reason why he would feel offended because that was just a friendly advice, the problem with a lot of people is that they don't know how to take a little criticism or advice. If he really lost a huge amount in the long run after it was being calculated the friend did nothing wrong by pointing it out to him because if he doesn't do that there's a high chance that he is still going to continue making those same mistakes. His friend did the right thing and in my opinion he was immature for getting offended.

[impulse709]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

Well I think it is normal to react that way I mean no one will be happy or smiling after hearing such analysis of his years of gambling but while people are making loss in gambling there are also folks out there who are making thousands and millions of dollars. Anyone who is gambling should always use their head because gambling is nobody's friend or brother so it can mess anyone up at anytime, they said gambling can be addictive but we should gamble responsibly so anyone will not..., is the person's business.

I don't believe the chart itself was the issue, rather, the truthfulness of the facts when people have become addicted to gambling. When years of losses turn into something that is tangible, such as a value of a new car, or even a home, this can be shocking and embarrassing. But it isn't changing the facts that it doesn't. It is important for every player to periodically take a good look at their wins and losses. Rather than only at their occasional big wins. Gambling is an entertainment activity and should be done to a certain budget. Not to earn money. When you accept the facts. It's often the first step towards being a more responsible gambler.

[Dunamisx]

Almost everyone will be disappointed when showing their gambling experience losses over time because what comes to mind next is the possible achievement they would have realized had they not risked their money to gamble in such a manner.

But counting it as fun to do is also one of the benefits that we can see from gambling and without regretting any decision already made in it, so it depends on what we wanted to achieve in doing so, moreover we should let past go and embrace the future opportunities with gambling so we could always have more reason to be excited about gambling when we don't focus much on the previous experiences in losses made.

[Hatchy]

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

Well that's not friendship to me. If I share my opinions to you as a friend it's because I did care about you and if you don't see it as anything but a threat to your life, I'll simply be at peace. But that isn't a good reason for him to disfriend his friend. One thing I've understood about gambling for years now is that ones you are into the game, there is high chance you will not be able to turn back. And most gamblers do not see their mistakes at all. They see everything they do as the normal way of doing things and even when someone try to point it out for them, you can become an enemy like this guy in the op. Should we then choose to mind our business? Of course it will be better but then I would not be at rest knowing that a friend of mine lost it all to gambling when I could have helped..

[YellowSwap]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

Only a addicted gambler can relate to this, I've never regretted my gambling decisions because it is the one space where I don't joke around or try to loose my guide, gambling can be dangerous to your mental health.

If not carefully planned you will find yourself where you never dreamed about in the past, and it's not a very pleasant place, also there are too many lives that got ruined in my country, I viewed to never turned out like them.

This brings my guide way higher than before, whatever I win won't get to my head to feel like I need to try more or increase the amount of money to make more money.

[Hispo]

Almost everyone will be disappointed when showing their gambling experience losses over time because what comes to mind next is the possible achievement they would have realized had they not risked their money to gamble in such a manner.

But counting it as fun to do is also one of the benefits that we can see from gambling and without regretting any decision already made in it, so it depends on what we wanted to achieve in doing so, moreover we should let past go and embrace the future opportunities with gambling so we could always have more reason to be excited about gambling when we don't focus much on the previous experiences in losses made.

Funnily enough, I have also seen the opposite thing happening with people who have much money and are also gamblers. They seem to be proud of their gambling volume and losses, as a way to show off how wealthy they are when compared to the average working person.
In their mind, if they are able to lose thousands or dozens of thousands of dollars to their favorite casino and continue to have a luxurious life style, then they are above others league.

Granted, that is not what happens with the majority of people, it seems the regular Joe who actually needs extra money to do stuff he likes, gets emotionally hurt when he recalls how much money he has lost through months or years.

[taufik123]

Honestly to publish or tell me the losses I have suffered in gambling or on anything else, I would be very embarrassed and I choose to keep it a secret.
Because I feel that the loss is like a disgrace that does not have to be spread, let me know about the loss, because many people think negatively about the loss.

Not to shame, but then people who hate us and know we are losing they will be happy and make various negative news about me.
So it's better to keep the losses a secret from the public, that's the best option for me.

[YOSHIE]

Do you feel despised or embarrassed about being shown your gambling losses?

Why should we be embarrassed and humiliated to show our loss data, what's more, this friend also gambles, I think this is how our friend also suffers the same fate as we do, he has also experienced losses and wins, both have experienced the same situation.

I am not embarrassed and do not feel humiliated if I show losses in carrying out gambling activities to anyone, including my friends, I am more embarrassed and humiliated if I borrow money to bet, if the money I use is my personal money and I lose, that is normal and can be avoided. accept it, it's not insulting to me.

I might be more embarrassed and humiliated because I robbed money and used it for gambling. Therefore, gambling losses are not an insult to me, they are pure bad luck for me, it's normal.

[red4slash]

The reason for this is that it is too silly for me to decide on a friendship just because it is ridiculed. I joke with my friends when I lose because the fun in friendship is like that.

Maybe its about the same sense of humor but for me when we're friends and we don't mind a little teasing it means they already understand each other's character.  Today I even met my mate and we made fun of each other about the hero of our team who lost the world cup and ran out of money because of betting on the team but it didn't make my friendship destroyed because I felt that this actually brought me closer to my friend.

It may depend on the attitude of each but friendship just because of mutual ridicule and immediately break the friendship is too much for me and it is possible that such a person will have difficulty in friendship relationships.

[Gost ms]

Well everyone has that kind of mindset, as a gambler there could be regrets along time ago, or just recent. That's why for me I don't like to record my losses as it could trigger some mental stress. Nevertheless, as a gambler, we already know that consequences of what we are doing.

I think anyone that is recording his losses in gambling is taking gambling as something related to his financial life. If I collect $100 this week and I only use $2 to gamble, I can not thinking of recording my losses because the money I am using for it is very small and not all the time that I will be gambling because there are some weeks that I do not gamble because of work.

That's true because gambling is not a source of income. Gamblers don't need to go the extra mile in gambling, because recording losses always starts when you are gambling above your limit. Those gamblers who normally gamble responsibly with a small amount don't have any reason to record losses, because they have already know that gambling involves more losses than wins.

 So we shouldn't take gambling too seriously, since luck has the final say.

Yes, a person who can control himself in gambling never needs to calculate. Because every controlled person understands one thing very well that there will be losses in gambling and the number of losses is somewhat higher than winning. I think a controlled person always refrains from doing things or does not take measures that, if taken, will create a big risk for him and his financial situation. Every person needs to control himself in gambling and be careful not to become addicted to it.

[JoyceBTC]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

It could be that even if your friend’s friend did not gamble with those money, he would have still not bought a car or a house, everything just boils down to how disciplined he could be to achieve that and that’s why it is always vital to gamble with money you can afford to loose, to avoid chasing losses. Gamblers should learn how to gamble responsibly to avoid regrets in the future.