Do you feel despised or embarrassed about being shown your gambling losses?

[ArabBTC]

Do you feel despised or embarrassed about being shown your gambling losses?

Why should we be embarrassed and humiliated to show our loss data, what's more, this friend also gambles, I think this is how our friend also suffers the same fate as we do, he has also experienced losses and wins, both have experienced the same situation.

I am not embarrassed and do not feel humiliated if I show losses in carrying out gambling activities to anyone, including my friends, I am more embarrassed and humiliated if I borrow money to bet, if the money I use is my personal money and I lose, that is normal and can be avoided. accept it, it's not insulting to me.

I might be more embarrassed and humiliated because I robbed money and used it for gambling. Therefore, gambling losses are not an insult to me, they are pure bad luck for me, it's normal.

To me showing my gambling loses to anyone is really immature and irrelevant, of what need is it? Will the person give me back the money i have lost or what? Can the person give me the potential money i might have won if my prediction has gone as planned? Life itself is a risk and anyone that isn’t ready to take risk is not ready to leave, in fact not gambling and not taking calculated risk is actually risky, their is no great man that is made today that hasn’t taken certain calculated risk in the past, to me am not scared of losing because i know that one great win will outweigh several years of losing.

[Bluedrem]

Yes, when I calculate the profit and loss when it comes to gambling, I sometimes feel guilty. Although I always try to gamble with a reasonable mind, when I compare the odds of winning and losing, I feel that the amount of money I lost while gambling could have been invested in some other sector and earned more money from it, which would have benefited me a lot in the future.
Thinking this, I might stop gambling for a few hours to a few days, but soon I return to gambling again.

[Bright0515]

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling. 

Is this made up? Or he left with anger and later they forget about it and continue to be friends.

That supposed not to be a good reason to stop being a friend of someone. The friend can care about him and his financial life which could have caused him to say something like that.

I do not think I have lost more than $200 this year, but I have gained more than that luckily because I lost more than I gained in 2025.

My thoughts exactly, I don't see anything wrong in what the friend said to him, after all it is hard to find someone looking over the shoulders of others nowadays because everyone's minding their business. Reminding him of the fact that he would have used the money he lost to do something better should be a wake up call to him that he can do better but he took it as an offense. I need such friends around me not because I make such financial mistakes but the main thing is to have people around that are good at managing finances.

[Dareo]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

I think it's not about being ashamed of losing in gambling but rather our attitude towards losing that is important. If you play within your means , you can accept it. But the thought of winning big one day will make up for all the losses often forces people to take more risks, In reality not everyone wins big, but there are many examples of big losses. So I personally think losing is normal but taking the same risk over and over again in the hope of making up for that loss seems more worrisome.

[justdimin]

Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

There is nothing to be ashamed of if you could afford to lose the amounts you've lost at each specific time in the past because you clearly didn't lose all that money in a single session, or even multiple sessions close to each other, I mean, if you have been gambling for many years, and all the losses in those years consist of an amount that could buy you a car or something else, then that's not that big of a problem, because it has been spent in years and not within days. There are a lot of expenses that we have which if we don't, we can easily buy us something good after a few years, such as eating out, drinks, smoking, etc.

A person should only feel bad if they lose a large amount of money in a single setting and they couldn't afford to lose that amount and now they are going to face financial problems because of that loss. Combined losses of years of gambling that never caused any problems for you are never a problem and one shouldn't be shamed or said they should stop doing it only because of that unless they are addicted and they spend a lot of money on gambling, but in this case, it doesn't sound to be the case.

[Jaycoinz]

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling. 

Is this made up? Or he left with anger and later they forget about it and continue to be friends.

That supposed not to be a good reason to stop being a friend of someone. The friend can care about him and his financial life which could have caused him to say something like that.

I do not think I have lost more than $200 this year, but I have gained more than that luckily because I lost more than I gained in 2025.

My thoughts exactly, I don't see anything wrong in what the friend said to him, after all it is hard to find someone looking over the shoulders of others nowadays because everyone's minding their business. Reminding him of the fact that he would have used the money he lost to do something better should be a wake up call to him that he can do better but he took it as an offense. I need such friends around me not because I make such financial mistakes but the main thing is to have people around that are good at managing finances.

One thing is to have the friends and another thing is for the friends to actually take heed of the advice that is been dished out and the reason why I say this is because not everyone takes positive criticism likely as some persons have already said that some individuals will feel offended and others will even go as far as ignoring the advice and even avoiding the person that is advising him or her .

[bhadz]

There is nothing to be embarrassed if our losses are shown. If we've been one of those who likes to show to the public the victories that we have then we must be prepared to share the losses. It's part of the gambling journey of everyone and it's not always that we get to win. Those losses are part of gambling and if you're ready to be shown in the public. Then, it's best to not share the victories that we get in the public as well so that you won't get scrutinized by the public for being one of those gamblers who likes to shares their wins and their losses.

[nara1892]

Basically, if he could use his common sense properly and correctly, then in my opinion he should have used his friend's conclusion about his losses as a material for evaluation and consideration instead of feeling ashamed or insulted, because indirectly, his friend had actually helped show the amount of his losses and if I were in that person's situation, maybe I could have realized it and stopped gambling completely, but there is also a possibility that he is already very addicted and that is what made him choose to leave his friend and continue gambling.

[DiMarxist]

The truth is that not everyone likes the truth when been told, again when this friend was telling the other friend to stop gambling and showing him the chart using a mathematician graph the manner of presentation matters a lot. If the manner of approach is wrong then the whole idea of the advice will be mistaken for a different thing entirely. This is where diplomacy and common sense should have been applied when discussing with the other, because we should always be sensitive to the temperament of the next person that we are talking to not to have problems with them. Different people have different ways that they see and reason things, but I don't definitely that I will be angry because someone pointed out the just obvious point to me concerning what am doing including gambling.

[Yorubek]

I think when a gambler gambles with the right knowledge and gambles within his means and with the main purpose of entertainment only, then the gambler can naturally accept whatever the result is, the gambler understands well that gambling is a game of luck, if luck helps then money can be won through gambling, otherwise it is not possible. When a gambler gambles knowingly and understands, then he can accept whatever the result is and does not regret losing money. Therefore, it is very important to do whatever we do with knowledge and understanding, so that we do not regret ourselves.

[len01]

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

He shouldn't have been embarrassed, and your friend could have replied, "Even people who don't gamble still can't afford to buy a car or a house, while some gamblers get lucky enough to win big and buy a car, a house, and other things all at once." 

As a gambler, I've never felt ashamed even though I've lost many times before. In fact, years ago I even told someone on this forum how much I had lost over the years. That's not something to be ashamed of. Losing is simply a normal part of gambling.

[Rubuchi]

There's no need looking at those little amount of money that you are using to gamble which means nothing to you. It's gone, it's gone why start calculating. The moment, I bet, I count the money as loss and forget about it to enable me enjoy the fun and gamble again tomorrow. There are a lot of unnecessary things we buy and end up not using them.

I think the same 1 percent rule of trading should also apply to gambling or even less than that. Because gambling is less certain than trading. Why will somebody feel embarrassed about his own gambling losses when they were at lost already. Losing in gamble is inevitable and acceptance of your gambling losses are meant to be normalize if you truly don't want to have serious mental health issues afterwards. It is good for everybody who is a gambler to start working on how they recieved their gambling losses and how they deal with it too. It won't cost you any huge pain unless if you used an amount you cannot afford to lose, then it becomes a disturbance to you.

[GiftedMAN]

As a gambler, I've never felt ashamed even though I've lost many times before. In fact, years ago I even told someone on this forum how much I had lost over the years. That's not something to be ashamed of. Losing is simply a normal part of gambling.

I see no need to hide something that is not bad and gambling is known to be a game of luck which means you can either win or you lose, personally, I don't think it's something that i should be ashamed of to show people how much I have lost because if they also gamble they will understand that it's difficult to outwin the casino. Losing is part of the game cause there's no guarantee in gambling and if you must gamble he ready not to be ashamed of the outcome.

[Nwada001]

One thing is to have the friends and another thing is for the friends to actually take heed of the advice that is been dished out and the reason why I say this is because not everyone takes positive criticism likely as some persons have already said that some individuals will feel offended and others will even go as far as ignoring the advice and even avoiding the person that is advising him or her .

When you are friends with someone to an extent, you guys need to learn and know how the other could possibly react to something when you approach him in a certain manner and learn how to pass down positive information in a way that it will not offend the person. At the same time, if you achieve your goal, it will be left with the person to decide if he takes the advice seriously or not..

[Sonia_123]

It's not a bad idea the friend gave to him since he knows his financial status is bad and its only leading him astray and he cannot watch him continue.

Gambling is not made for everyone, if you have not met up your monthly expenses and you are seen gambling and losing continuously, then you have quit gambling and focus on your life first before starting gambling.

[Fortify]

Because of my answer to one thread, I just remembered a friend of mine whose close friend was good at mathematics and analysis, and, between drinks, he asked how long he had been gambling and how much money he had spent.
 
Being good at mathematics and analysis, he created a chart to show how much he lost over the years and told him he could have bought a brand-new car with his losses, and asked him to stop gambling because if he didn't, he could buy a brand-new house if he continued gambling for the same number of years.

He felt embarrassed and despised; his solution? He unfriended him and just continued gambling.  

They eventually got back to each other after a year; he can't ditch a friend who is good at native dishes, and of course, their friendship

Sometimes it takes a shock and something like visualizing the losses in a certain way to really snap someone out of a bad addiction. They might often face embarrassment when they are deep into a problem like that, but it can just require presenting information in a certain way or hearing the right guidance to start reversing course. Maybe this person was ashamed, because no one likes to effectively be called a loser, but in the long run if they use that information wisely they could really turn their life around. Everyone makes mistakes but it's how you learn and grow from them that really define you. You don't really need to be any kind of expert to see the win/loss rate on an account because sports books are usually fairly upfront about this.