Why Do Marriages End in Divorce?

[Female King]

The main reason there have been more divorce rate in this present time than it was in the past is because women of today have financial independence than in the past when many of them were not working. Women of those days prefer to please their husbands than women of today.

That is not only the reason, but it is the main reason.

You’re spot on, I think women of this days are not marrying for love, they’re more interested in the financial benefits that comes from marriage and getting divorced, which is why they’re more likely to getting divorced when there is a benefit attached to divorce, and the men are the once who stands to loose more in a marriage.

Women of this generation, are more likely to get divorced because they don’t want to respect a man, or want to be under a man, women now wants to be in control, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have the good once available.

It's only few women now that marry for love, majority are after what the man can afford, they will pretend to love you when you have money and ask for divorce when the money start diminishing, and they may have start cheating on the man before the divorce.

The rate of divorce may likely increase in time coming, most women in this generation don't want to settle for less they see life as a competition, they want to look good like other women forgetting that marriage is a thing of patience, for better and for worse, if women can genuinely love a man and respect him the high rate of divorce will decrease.

[DanWalker]

The truth is that majority of this young lady who got married don't understand what marriage is all about, or they are not yet matured for marriage. Marriage is not for children but for matured mind. Those who entered marriage hurriedly will jump out quickly because it's not a game for children. Lack of understanding, infidelity do to poor sexual performanceay cause divorce from marriage. In fact there are many things that cause divorce but let me just say this few.

Hilarious to instantly jump to blame women for not understanding, when their awareness and education has been growing. And like men wouldn't cheat and get testy and abusive. Do you want some stats how many women are abused by men while we are at it?

Reason why marriages don't last is because people don't have to take abuse anymore, and they have right to earn their own money (which is hard for a single parent by the way), so they can just leave if some man-child doesn't want to grow up and work with issues and before they start abusing their kids as well.

What's even more telling is that most people in this thread seem to put the blame on women, saying they marry for money, dont respect their husbands...It's almost as if men are always innocent and somehow the ones who suffer the most in marriage. LOL

I guess most of these people are either unmarried or are rather patriarchal husbands. A responsible man who truly respects his wife will understand that marriage is a two way relationship, and both sides are responsible for the problem in the relationship.
No offense, but only cowardly and irresponsible men blame their partners.

[HelliumZ]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

Nowadays, divorce has become a common problem in the world, especially in every country, it is an alarm problem. If we analyze it, we will see that both men and women are work-oriented, so no one is giving time to each other. As a result, there is a lack of love within them. The husband is moving away from his wife, the wife is moving away from her husband, and this generation gap that is being created between them is not easily resolved. Now both husband and wife prefer to spend time on social media instead of loving each other. If they learn to understand each other well in whatever free time they have after work and instead of using social media, they can feel each other's presence, only then can our male and female society be free from the terrible disease called divorce.

[Taricoins]

What's even more telling is that most people in this thread seem to put the blame on women, saying they marry for money, dont respect their husbands...It's almost as if men are always innocent and somehow the ones who suffer the most in marriage. LOL

I guess most of these people are either unmarried or are rather patriarchal husbands. A responsible man who truly respects his wife will understand that marriage is a two way relationship, and both sides are responsible for the problem in the relationship.
No offense, but only cowardly and irresponsible men blame their partners.

I think the common misconception that happens to marriage failure is improper dating, when you didn't get the chance to understand and love your partner for who they are and the most important is having a clear goal in common that nothing can stop until you fulfill it, I've seen alot of beautiful homes built on marriage and abuse goes both ways, feminine abuse doesn't always come with physical altercations, they tend to abuse these partners emotionally through words, and sometimes they push there male partner to such act, don't put yourself in the situation to receive harm, and am not excusing some of this evil men but it goes both ways, that is, the blame.

[Roseline492]

What's even more telling is that most people in this thread seem to put the blame on women, saying they marry for money, dont respect their husbands...It's almost as if men are always innocent and somehow the ones who suffer the most in marriage. LOL

I guess most of these people are either unmarried or are rather patriarchal husbands. A responsible man who truly respects his wife will understand that marriage is a two way relationship, and both sides are responsible for the problem in the relationship.
No offense, but only cowardly and irresponsible men blame their partners.

You are right because all the fault I have seen from a lot of people have been pointed at the women but however if they calmed down to analyse what some men are doing they would understand that some women are also a serious victim on their marriage so actually in marriage only one gender shouldn't be blame for all the problem in their marriage but however is a fault that usually come from the both of them, and also if someone have not been into deep relationship they might not understand how this things works and they will keep seeing women as the problem in every marriage.

[BTC FutureKing]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

Nowadays, divorce has become a common problem in the world, especially in every country, it is an alarm problem. If we analyze it, we will see that both men and women are work-oriented, so no one is giving time to each other. As a result, there is a lack of love within them. The husband is moving away from his wife, the wife is moving away from her husband, and this generation gap that is being created between them is not easily resolved. Now both husband and wife prefer to spend time on social media instead of loving each other. If they learn to understand each other well in whatever free time they have after work and instead of using social media, they can feel each other's presence, only then can our male and female society be free from the terrible disease called divorce.

It is being observed that whether one is interested in marriage or not there is a decrease in the preference of husband and wife for each other.Many lives are being destroyed due to social media.Apart from this, there are other reasons due to which husband and wife prefer to divorce and get divorced instead of living together.Now most of the families have become more interfere in the relationship of husband and wife which is considered an undesirable act.Not giving time to each other doubting each other due to which the strong relationship of husband and wife also breaks down.Therefore, ending the issue of divorce also involves the efforts of both husband and wife.If both are sensitive and love each other then the matter will never reach the point of divorce.

[$crypto$]

The main reason there have been more divorce rate in this present time than it was in the past is because women of today have financial independence than in the past when many of them were not working. Women of those days prefer to please their husbands than women of today.

That is not only the reason, but it is the main reason.

Yes, this is the reason in one of her divorce numbers, now many career women with high salaries than her husband when there is a quarrel in the household women can be willing to divorce like there is no sense of sadness because financially enough do not need to rely on a husband.

There are many reasons, such as no longer understanding in the household, so what I know the divorce rate in my country is due to insufficient economic factors of the husband.

[uneng]

In previous decades and centuries, marriages used to last a whole life, but it doesn't mean couples were happier back then. It just mean the society was more strict about this matter, so couples felt forced to remain together until the end in order to not disappoint the society, and as consequence, to be approved by it. Many also married due to rational and logical reasons, and not for emotional reasons.

Nowadays, there is more freedom on this matter. People are free to marry, then to divorce, and then to marry again. They aren't judged by their actions like before. It encourages the kind of behavior you identified in the present days, where there isn't commitment or long term bonds between couples.

In every cases, I would say love is so rare nowadays like it used to be in past days... On this aspect, nothing changed.

[Franklyn-wood]

When you discover that people cherish pleasure than having genuine interest in theirselves, one's love is not involved, any other thing that contributed to the institution of a marriage will definitely break up once it is not longer in place, but perfect love concurrent all challenges that may come through in marriage, some are only getting attracted to their partner because of what they get as benefits and not because they have their mind into the relationship that leads to the marriage even at the worst condition.

Marriages today are not longer what it's use to be during our parents time, we have seen in several occasions where marriages crumble and seems as if the bothe partners have never seen each other before.
I believe everyone have different reasons why they enter in marriage, some to show off to the college or friends that they got married earlier than them, some because of Money or fame, beautiful, age, intimidation, pleasure, and lot more like that.
So by the time they Begin to see the reality of marriage, they wouldn't be able to stand because what the expected to see is not what they are seeing.

[passwordnow]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

You have said the possible reasons.

• Communication issue
• Access to divorce has been easy

And there's more but I think when there has been people who looks at marriage as if it's just some event of their lives, they're the ones who can easily file for divorce but they don't know how costly it is to get out of it. When both partners are understanding each other and they have the love for their relationship, it's only the last resort or even it's not the solution for any problem that they deal with. They forget the promises they have said in front of the union during the process because divorce process is at ease.

[Agbamoni]

What's even more telling is that most people in this thread seem to put the blame on women, saying they marry for money, dont respect their husbands...It's almost as if men are always innocent and somehow the ones who suffer the most in marriage. LOL

The reason is that the most divorced stories known to the world are practically women becoming the villain. Most victims of divorce are men since men have more to lose in divorce than women.

No offense, but only cowardly and irresponsible men blame their partners.

I would rather remain a coward than take the blame for a woman who is at fault in a relationship. If I'm the problem, fine, I will take the blame. I would be a coward to blame the woman.

Some marriages can't be fixed. Reconcile today, fight tomorrow. Such marriages will not last. The best is for both of them to go their separate ways.

[Queen uloma]

 Marriage doesn’t last these days because of so many reasons, it may be lack of patience, cheating, poor communication, lack of respect and misunderstanding. Many couples give up so quick In one another, instead of coming together in love to solve their problems.
 
 I always think that with effective communication, patience, love, and honesty,  it can reduce the rate of divorce in our society. Couples need to understand themselves and they also need to understand that marriage isn’t easy so they need to bring out their minds to work together when  there’s challenges.

[DanWalker]

The reason is that the most divorced stories known to the world are practically women becoming the villain. Most victims of divorce are men since men have more to lose in divorce than women.

What exactly do men lose? Can you name a few things? And do women lose nothing? Don't they get older too? Don't they sacrifice their time, careers, and youth?

As o48o pointed out, have you ever looked at the statistics on domestic violence?

Those who keep blaming women should remember that your own mother is a woman and a wife too.

I would rather remain a coward than take the blame for a woman who is at fault in a relationship. If I'm the problem, fine, I will take the blame. I would be a coward to blame the woman.

Some marriages can't be fixed. Reconcile today, fight tomorrow. Such marriages will not last. The best is for both of them to go their separate ways.

You don't have to take the blame for them, just be fair. Don't always make yourself the victim in your own story.

Many couples divorce but remain friends and coparent their children. Sometimes divorce isn't a complete failure. It's simply the best way for both people to move on and build a life that suits them better.

[Pi-network314159]

The truth is that majority of this young lady who got married don't understand what marriage is all about, or they are not yet matured for marriage. Marriage is not for children but for matured mind. Those who entered marriage hurriedly will jump out quickly because it's not a game for children. Lack of understanding, infidelity do to poor sexual performanceay cause divorce from marriage. In fact there are many things that cause divorce but let me just say this few.

Hilarious to instantly jump to blame women for not understanding, when their awareness and education has been growing. And like men wouldn't cheat and get testy and abusive. Do you want some stats how many women are abused by men while we are at it?

Reason why marriages don't last is because people don't have to take abuse anymore, and they have right to earn their own money (which is hard for a single parent by the way), so they can just leave if some man-child doesn't want to grow up and work with issues and before they start abusing their kids as well.

Well you don't have to blame me for jumping into conclusion of blaming women, but why I did so is that majority of marriage divorce comes from women and not men. Women are always first to file for divorce due to one reason or the other expecialy when the marriage is not in there favor, but in the other hands man leaving marriage will be a problem because they may lose everything including children. Losing everything I mean is that the children may decide to follow their mother if the man has children, because children are more connected to mother's than father. And if they decide to stay it will be problem to the next woman to come in. By the way do you think that marriage divorce is only caused by abuse or domestic violence? If so you don't know anything about marriage. I am telling you base on expirience.

And you also think that woman having the right to earn money instead of depending on a man child will stop abuse? Well in a family where the man abuses the woman it may not be because the woman is depending on him completely for everything, but may be natural abusive behavior.  The truth is that fault may come from both partners but women are quick to move on than men, that's why a woman may divorce and start new life with another man and feel comfortable but a man can not divorce and married to another person and feel thesame way as the first wife that bear him children. Infact it will be a problem to him because his children and the new wife may never be one. This is the reason men don't like divorce because they will be affected more than the woman.

[Popkon6]

Marriage doesn’t last these days because of so many reasons, it may be lack of patience, cheating, poor communication, lack of respect and misunderstanding. Many couples give up so quick In one another, instead of coming together in love to solve their problems.
 

Nowadays, there is a lack of patience among people, because I have seen many stories of marriages breaking up in the real world and online. However, in most cases, it involves extramarital affairs, where women are the most to blame. Because in this, the wives of expatriates are the most busy with extramarital affairs, they may be living in a distant country but their needs are not met, due to which the husbands do not even talk openly. In the midst of the emotions of these two,
another person comes and takes advantage, and steals the heart of that woman. Even if that boy is a drug addict, the expatriate's wife runs away holding the boy hand.

I always think that with effective communication, patience, love, and honesty,  it can reduce the rate of divorce in our society. Couples need to understand themselves and they also need to understand that marriage isn’t easy so they need to bring out their minds to work together when  there’s challenges.

Every person should have patience and create a situation to control emotions. Those people who cannot protect themselves from their own adversity are ugly in the society, so every person should build a family with patience. And learn to forgive each other's mistakes, those people who are not in this noble work create problems in the family, then the family breaks up.

[o48o]

Well you don't have to blame me for jumping into conclusion of blaming women, but why I did so is that majority of marriage divorce comes from women and not men.

Because abusers have less reasons to file for divorce then abused people?

Women are always first to file for divorce due to one reason or the other expecialy when the marriage is not in there favor, but in the other hands man leaving marriage will be a problem because they may lose everything including children.

Losing everything I mean is that the children may decide to follow their mother if the man has children, because children are more connected to mother's than father. And if they decide to stay it will be problem to the next woman to come in. By the way do you think that marriage divorce is only caused by abuse or domestic violence? If so you don't know anything about marriage. I am telling you base on expirience.

And whose fault is that kids are less connected to fathers? Fathers can choose to spend time with their kids and form emotional connections and be safe parents when they still are parents, which is one of the things they don't do and lack custody because of it.

And you also think that woman having the right to earn money instead of depending on a man child will stop abuse?
Well in a family where the man abuses the woman it may not be because the woman is depending on him completely for everything, but may be natural abusive behavior.  The truth is that fault may come from both partners but women are quick to move on than men, that's why a woman may divorce and start new life with another man and feel comfortable but a man can not divorce and married to another person and feel thesame way as the first wife that bear him children. Infact it will be a problem to him because his children and the new wife may never be one. This is the reason men don't like divorce because they will be affected more than the woman.

What are you talking about? Being able to earn money is about ability to exit from abusive marriage, so it literally stops the abuse.

Issues in marriage aren't black and white, but if really think your arguments for a moment, like why men aren't fast to file for divorce, you can easily deduct that they have less reasons for it. And it's not like abuse is the only thing. Not growing up and taking responsibility for their mental work, meta-work, being emotionally available or if they are using weaponized incompetence.

If men have trouble finding another partner, maybe it says more about how much effort they are used to put in relationships. What if the reason for them not being to be able to find new love is the same reason they were divorced for? Maybe they don't want to because they know it would require to do the mental work that comes with grief of divorcing. Acceptance is the last part.

Btw i am divorced father and i dealt with these issues ages ago. It was the hardest mental work i ever had to do.

[New Judgement]

The main reason there have been more divorce rate in this present time than it was in the past is because women of today have financial independence than in the past when many of them were not working. Women of those days prefer to please their husbands than women of today.

That is not only the reason, but it is the main reason.

You made a very valid point, when a woman has made money on her own, men are the first on their drop list. She doesn’t need a man that’s what most women says after making money. Women naturally don’t like being with men unless for their own selfish. Most are with men today because they depend on that man to survive. If they had other options of surviving, they won’t be with men. These days women from different regions are also leaning foreign cultures on social media about marriage equality and intolerance in marriages, and this has influenced many of them into divorcing their marriages without second consideration.

[Smack That Ace]

In previous decades and centuries, marriages used to last a whole life, but it doesn't mean couples were happier back then. It just mean the society was more strict about this matter, so couples felt forced to remain together until the end in order to not disappoint the society, and as consequence, to be approved by it. Many also married due to rational and logical reasons, and not for emotional reasons.

Nowadays, there is more freedom on this matter. People are free to marry, then to divorce, and then to marry again. They aren't judged by their actions like before. It encourages the kind of behavior you identified in the present days, where there isn't commitment or long term bonds between couples.

In every cases, I would say love is so rare nowadays like it used to be in past days... On this aspect, nothing changed.

This is definitely the best answer in this thread.
I agree with you. Love and marriage today are basically the same as they were in the past. What makes relationships and marriages easier to break today is that social standard have changed. Society is more open now, and people aren't tied down by social pressure like they used to be.

When marriage is no longer happy, people don't have to keep suffering just because they're afraid of being judged by their family or society. These days, they're more likely to think about themselves and choose to leave if they believe it is better for them, regardless of what society think about them.
In other words, society used to force people to endure things and live by other people's standard. Today, people set their own standard and live life on their own term.

[Jostern]

Marriage doesn’t last these days because of so many reasons, it may be lack of patience, cheating, poor communication, lack of respect and misunderstanding. Many couples give up so quick In one another, instead of coming together in love to solve their problems.
 
 I always think that with effective communication, patience, love, and honesty,  it can reduce the rate of divorce in our society. Couples need to understand themselves and they also need to understand that marriage isn’t easy so they need to bring out their minds to work together when  there’s challenges.

I think women are mostly interested in business part of marriage which is why we are having huge numbers of divorce cases, women knows that if they get into marriage, and is always going to be something outside for them if she leaves the marriage through divorce, we know the benefits that will come from divorce, I feel that divorce have been monetized, marriage as well is monetized this days, and women not having respect for their husbands are one of the reasons, because of bad character, cheating like you have mentioned and so many factors can lead to divorce, I think marriage should be built on Love and respect.

[Charleslie]

Marriage is beautiful, but it is not always easy. Two different people, background, experience company together to build a life together. Without understanding, patience, commitment to each other and communication, problems can easily create distance among them.
Sometimes couples simply grow apart. Their goals, interest, value may change and might later realize that they are no longer able to build the life they wanted. Family interference, jealously, addiction lack of affection can cause to couples to divorce.