Does Helping Someone Move Forward Cost You Anything?

[caroasi]

You have there a good gateway to kaizen of humanity. Kaizen is a word borrowed from Japanese for continual improvement. It is essential for us to improve as a human race and that is done by sharing what we've learned with each other through time. That is such an important way to carry forward as onward and upward, building a foundation for our children and community.

Today more participation is needed for civility, and that is a great way to begin participation in society. Personally I have learned love from the deep tunnel, and I share that as I can throughout the day.

[MusaPk]

See, this balance will be created when people's ego ends or does not become ego, because every person is able to use his ego, the most violent activities are seen in our society. Such violent feelings in the workplace are very much, one person cannot see the good in another, and when every person gets rid of differences, only then will balance be created and they will help each other. People live in society to help each other, because one may help you,
the other will prevent it, this jealousy that will be created in the mind must be removed. We all must now help each other, then there will be no differences between us.

I don't think helping someone cost you anything, its just your way of thinking that leads you to a negative mindset. Your one act of kindness can be a huge help for someone who is struggling and your good will eventually helps you in your future too. I don't get it how can someone's ego comes in way of helping anyone, if your are in position of helping someone you should do it. The success and growth is a step by step process, the person who is in superior position now has also passed those steps and he might have also taken help from anyone in past so when its your turn to help you should go for it. You will loose nothing from that.

[Unknown Op]

Help is not a very easy act even though it is said that it does not cost anything to help someone. Until you're in a position to help someone else, that's when you understand how tedious it is to help after recounting what you've being through to get to where you are. I am not saying that it's now difficult to give a helping hand to someone at all. Sometimes the people we're expecting help from don't actually have what it takes to help you at that moment but from a distance, you believe he could help but refused to help.

Back in our childhood that we all thought that some of our uncles were stingy or not willing to help anyone get a good job regarding their positions, as I grow up, I started realising that a person can be in a high position but still handicapped to help anyone. Most systems are politicised that before you can effectively help anyone, you will have to get to almost the apex of that system and in most cases, before you get to that stage, you're left with few months or limited years to occupy there. At this point you will do little or nothing.

Some others too avoid helping because of the experience their previous help taught them. That's why it's best not to judge from a far nor draw conclusions without knowing why.

It is correct that we should not judge too quickly but I think that sometimes it become an excuse for people not to help others. It is okay to solve even some part of someone problem it is not always necessary to solve the whole problem. If you are unable to solve someone entire problem that doesn't mean you cannot do something beneficial and useful. Helping someone can be in any form it can be sharing information, giving advice, sharing connections or simply guiding them to make right decision. If you have encountered bad experience with someone that does not mean you should not help or you should not assume that everyone will misuse your support. Set boundaries and learn from your mistake. Help is always a choice it is not obligation but if you help someone to be in a better position, you can create a positive impact.

[Callido]

I’m not saying anyone owes anybody person a shortcut. People should still put in the work and earn their progress but if you already have something and helping another person move forward doesn’t really take anything away from you, why not do it?

You do not damage what you have because you plan to help someone, what you're doing isn't being generous, you are being foolish because the way you expected the person to pay back the favor, may not likely be the case, some people are quick to forget the good you do for them, the reason why most people find it hard to do good in conditions that may in turn affect them.

Helping someone is quite alright, mostly people who are desperately in need, when it comes to helping with opportunities, you only help those who are ready to help themselves, unless they will drain you and make you regret extending your help.

[Berry2d]

The basic principle of life many don't understand is, standing requires someone to help. The help we are talking about at times comes from people we don't know or we know but without the help of others it will be very difficult to stand alone.
The same way we expect help from others is same way we are expected to do to others, so it cost nothing helping someone because in one way or the other we are expected to receive help from others.  Anybody looking to receive help from others must also be ready to do so to the people that comes there way. sucess I know don't come without favour from someone else.

[HelliumZ]

People do not accept gratitude when they receive benefits like before, that is why the tendency to do good among people is decreasing day by day. In short, the person you do good to will try to harm you after a few days, that is why people do not come forward to help others in their troubles despite having the ability.
Moreover, if a person gets benefit from someone's help or if someone tries to help him to stand on his own feet, he can easily achieve success, then help can be given. But now there is no longer a mindset to accept gratitude among people, that is why people do not come forward to help themselves in their troubles.

[Jegileman]

Nothing really last forever. The person you look down on today might be the same person you need help from tomorrow. So where do you draw the line between protecting what you have built and helping someone else build theirs?

As long as it is within my means and capacity to help, i will do that willingly without expecting anything in return. The main reason why many people want success is to be able to help the less privileged while they’re in need, not for them to live the best of comfort when others needs their little help to live a more better life. Helping those in need will really help to make us better, grow better and become even more comfortable with the wealth we’ve gathered. Helping those in need should be willingly, growing those that aren’t up to your level is also a way of uplifting and making your own roots strong too. Every good we do today is reciprocal, we shouldn’t relent as better days are ahead when we’ll get benefited more for the help we’ve rendered.

[Opiate32]

It used to not cost anything to help others, because there was abundance.   That is no longer the case!

You give your hungry friend some food - there is less for your family.   You give a person a ride to work, it costs you extra gas.   You lend an ear to your friend, eventually you get affected. 

If you want your generosity to be recognized, go somewhere there is a shortage.  Hand out water on a hot day - give free meat to a hungry crowd - eventually there will be more need than you have the resources for. 

I’m not saying you should put your family in difficulty just to help someone. Not every form of help you render to someone reduces what you have. There are things we have in abundance that could make a real difference to someone especially knowledge, experience, information or even simple connecting someone to the right person. This things can move someone forward without leaving your family with less.

[AgriTrack]

See, this balance will be created when people's ego ends or does not become ego, because every person is able to use his ego, the most violent activities are seen in our society. Such violent feelings in the workplace are very much, one person cannot see the good in another, and when every person gets rid of differences, only then will balance be created and they will help each other. People live in society to help each other, because one may help you,
the other will prevent it, this jealousy that will be created in the mind must be removed. We all must now help each other, then there will be no differences between us.

It's very common in every field of daily life, like in the education sector, the health sector, or in industries where people feel jealousy of others' success. How can anyone bring others' success into their ego? It's a very difficult debate to find the benefits of jealousy because the majority of jealousy creates huge problems and its outcomes, some become more lethal even for the owners. The reason behind our failure is that we would not want to help others to grow. On the contrary, we even feel jealous of others' efforts.

I think societies need cooperation to proceed with regulations. If we understand that every individual has their own domains and strengths, and then we set expectations according to them, then it's fine and justified. But when we expect things that are out of the domain of that individual, then it's a mess.

So, I conclude this discussion with the result that we should not make competitions although we should identify our domains and work hard for our and our country's progress. What do you think about it?