Living as an outsider inside society

[uneng]

Much is said in this forum section about the importance of the government in our lives, and how wonderful it's for citizens to choose their leaders.

However, what about those citizens who don't feel linked to this society? Does anyone feel to not share the same principles, values and common sense of your countrymen? How to live in a society you don't develop any bonds with your leaders and with the people who put them there?

Do you know how it feels to be a cuckoo in the nest?

[DubemIfedigbo001]

Maybe I do, living in a part of the country which it's inhibitors is characterized by laziness, free money and irresponsibility while I believe in hustle and smart work, it feels very different and the more you try to blend in, the more obvious the red flags are. They're contented with playing dirty politics and staying hungry while the leaders they elect circumvent funds and drop peanuts for them and they're comfortable despite not making any progress. It feels like you're a loner since there are only very few people that resonates with your thinking pattern. Their way of life makes a lot of things uninteresting to me, including their language which naturally I should be inclined to learn.

The best way to live there is by remaining you and avoiding much interactions so they don't get too comfortable around you or corrupt your mentality. I must mention that it's easier to exploit such people and make money off them which is why I'm here and establishing my business since they're not business inclined.

[Opiate32]

Sometimes being an outsider is not just about where we live but also about how we define our place among others. You may not share the values of the majority but that does not mean that there is nothing to learn from the people around you. Even in an environment you disagree with, there may be people whose potential are overlooked just because they don’t think or express themselves just the way you do.

So I feel it best to just maintain your principles without becoming so detached that you stop seeing people as individuals instead of judging them by their environment.

[caroasi]

Right now we're living in a time where its more important for the government to be out of our lives than in our lives because they have caused most of the problems and especially caused people to feel like outsiders in their own home. Directly solving problems with your own two hands is where we are at today in society because we cannot rely on them to help and have been counting on them to be corrupt and solely do what is self-serving with very little positive benefits.

Finding our place in society means firstly knowing your self as what you want out of life, secondly figuring out how it is you want your virtues and values to be implemented in this world in terms of your daily life as your job, your friends, your education (including helping others with theirs), church, and so on. That will help you fit in. And furthermore, you don't necessarily have the option to fit in where you're living and it turns out since the world has billions of people you can find somewhere that you can fit in. If you tell me about your virtues and values maybe we could help with that idea.

[Hewlet]

However, what about those citizens who don't feel linked to this society? Does anyone feel to not share the same principles, values and common sense of your countrymen? How to live in a society you don't develop any bonds with your leaders and with the people who put them there?

You're allowed to hold on to any kind of believe and ideally that is okay with you as long as it doesn't contradict what the laws of the land states. Your believe system and view of life is limited when it goes against what is set out to be followed by people leaving in that society. At the end of the day, it's left for you to decide what you want to make our of your life but it should be in line with the acceptable code of conduct in that environment.

Even if you travel our and lives as a stranger in the land, your liberty still has it's limitations because everyone can not just leave the way they want without being in check.

[BTC FutureKing]

However, what about those citizens who don't feel linked to this society? Does anyone feel to not share the same principles, values and common sense of your countrymen? How to live in a society you don't develop any bonds with your leaders and with the people who put them there?

You're allowed to hold on to any kind of believe and ideally that is okay with you as long as it doesn't contradict what the laws of the land states. Your believe system and view of life is limited when it goes against what is set out to be followed by people leaving in that society. At the end of the day, it's left for you to decide what you want to make our of your life but it should be in line with the acceptable code of conduct in that environment.

Even if you travel our and lives as a stranger in the land, your liberty still has it's limitations because everyone can not just leave the way they want without being in check.

I agree with everything you said because some people think that when they hear the name of freedom they are allowed to do anything whether it is the law of any country or the life and property of a person.They are allowed to break everything and do anything although all this is wrong.Freedom means living without worrying about anything because that is why laws are enforced.Yes as for believing in religion then there is freedom for that too.No matter what country you are in, it is also a duty to respect their rights whether you are related to this law or not, everyone is allowed to believe in it.Even if the law is strict we should think that these laws are made for us so that we do not have any problems.

[laspol65]

However, what about those citizens who don't feel linked to this society? Does anyone feel to not share the same principles, values and common sense of your countrymen? How to live in a society you don't develop any bonds with your leaders and with the people who put them there?

Do you know how it feels to be a cuckoo in the nest?

Brother, when it comes to politics, politics is no longer like it was in the past, now the only consciousness in politics is to earn money. The rights of the people have been deprived, when the leaders come for votes, they hold the people's hands and legs and form a bond for some time. But after the elections, the leaders disappear and start living a luxurious life, the people around the leader enjoy life but the people are only loved for a short time.
Therefore, the leaders no longer have much in common with the people, due to which the people have been deprived of realizing their rights.

[Ucy]

Those who do not fit in could become independent,  possibly live seperately and not be told how to live their lives if they are more moral/ethical.
The seperation is already there but can't be seen. Like-minded individuals are more connected and grouped together regardless of where they live. Distances or physical boundaries do not matter in this case. And they have their leaders and their own agenda. Then they cross path while pursuing their interests on virtual network like the internet

[Findingnemo]

Much is said in this forum section about the importance of the government in our lives, and how wonderful it's for citizens to choose their leaders.

However, what about those citizens who don't feel linked to this society? Does anyone feel to not share the same principles, values and common sense of your countrymen? How to live in a society you don't develop any bonds with your leaders and with the people who put them there?

Do you know how it feels to be a cuckoo in the nest?

In a democracy, leaders will be elected based on the people who share the interest majorly which I mean if people voted 51% for one and 49% voted against them which still means the one who got 51% will become the leader for all their people and as a leader they have to include everyone in the country while making policies.

But is that how is happening is different question but it should be...

[Soulistic]

Being marginalized in the land you were born in by a government chosen by the majority—one that doesn't align with your views—and watching your sense of belonging get stripped away day by day is deeply exhausting.

However, alienation and division are unfortunately things that will always exist in modern societies. But that doesn't mean we can't find communities, no matter how small, where we feel at ease.

If you ask me, loneliness isn't something anyone else can inflict on you; it is a state of mind.

[Callido]

Do you know how it feels to be a cuckoo in the nest?

You will make an effort to continue living like that, or find people with similar behavior, if possible, create your own little community.

Some people don't enjoy living in big cities, so they relocate to rural areas, everyone goes to where they find peace.

If your happiness is different from society, build your home around what you feel is right for you.

[programmer3666]

You don't really have to belong in a space to live well and comfortably! It is not a curse to stay where you don't belong, in fact, it should be considered freedom if you ask me because if you reason it, you will not have to succumb to their social or traditional norms or religious values. No need to pretend, just live your life freely, pay your dues and bills. Where people usually find problems is when they have the expectation that people will naturally get them. People won't get you because they are not mind readers, so just go about doing your thing and stop expecting. And these days you can create your own circle of even online and build your own audience in the digital world.

[Merit.s]

I think the best thing is to take life the way it is. If you didn't support the government in power doesn't mean that you should isolate yourself from people or not learn from them because things mustn't go down your own way all the time. I didn't vote for the current president of my country but that doesn't mean that I don't belong there.

A stranger can even become very happy in a strange place even if he's not part of them. No man is an Island, you need people to interact with irrespective of what is happening in the society.

[Judith87403]

It is really exhausting when you live in a society where people are not really thinking the same way with you and the government are just doing things that are very abstract from how you wish they could do. Honestly, it is so weird to live as though you are not part of a society you live in or come from. I can't even remember the last time I listened to a news in my country because it's just same ideology, nothing new. The government are never thinking of doing things differently from how you've always known them. In such a situation you will feel detached from the reality that happens around thr society.

[Franklyn-wood]

Those who do not fit in could become independent,  possibly live seperately and not be told how to live their lives if they are more moral/ethical.
The seperation is already there but can't be seen. Like-minded individuals are more connected and grouped together regardless of where they live. Distances or physical boundaries do not matter in this case. And they have their leaders and their own agenda. Then they cross path while pursuing their interests on virtual network like the internet

Sure it's possible to live as an outsider in a society you find your self, and what makes it posible is the fact that where you are based on circumstances is not measuring with what you believe support and accept. For instance I poor kids that when to visit one of his rich family member of friend, without being told you would be able to spot the child out no matter how the package him to there standards.

[Unknown Op]

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Do you know how it feels to be a cuckoo in the nest?

There is always point in life where everyone has these sorts of feelings. If you live in a society that does not make it necessary for you to agree with all of their traditions, political choices or value. If you live in society for years and still feel like stranger among them and it is very common it might be because thinking level is different from other people in society. We should not completely separate ourselves just because we do not have same thinking or we do not share the same view with other people living in society. We can respect other, maintain our own principles and also build relationships around the people who understand us. It is not necessary that we always find people who have similar thinking or who think alike. It is on us to find people who share similar value without having this expectation that everyone is going to agree with us. It is also possible that we do not feel connected to our leader but we should still contribute positively to society in the way that we can. Being different is completely fine. That does not mean we do not belong it sometimes means that we have not found our place yet.

[Fiatless]

Much is said in this forum section about the importance of the government in our lives, and how wonderful it's for citizens to choose their leaders.

However, what about those citizens who don't feel linked to this society? Does anyone feel to not share the same principles, values and common sense of your countrymen? How to live in a society where you don't develop any bonds with your leaders and with the people who put them there?

Do you know how it feels to be a cuckoo in the nest?

You cannot entirely disconnect yourself from the society you live in. Even those who live off-grid still need to connect with people and the government to survive. Maybe such interactions are less frequent for those who disconnect from society.

I  have been trying my best not to live like most of my countrymen. I have been striving not to have interest in areas most of them are curious about. It is easier to disconnect from politicians you don't trust and those who sell their votes for financial gains and other sentiments such as racism.
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[Futurexxx]

I think the best thing is to take life the way it is. If you didn't support the government in power doesn't mean that you should isolate yourself from people or not learn from them because things mustn't go down your own way all the time. I didn't vote for the current president of my country but that doesn't mean that I don't belong there.

A stranger can even become very happy in a strange place even if he's not part of them. No man is an Island, you need people to interact with irrespective of what is happening in the society.

My exact sentiment on this bro. Is like you are already in my mind, because I don't understand why I will start isolating myself and be angry at life just because I don't like those in power or I didn't vote them in, so because of that I will stop being happy and be grumpy all the time, I will be punishing myself by doing that, so it's not a healthy practice to my mental health, which is why I will never find myself doing such.

Even as a stranger or foreigner that finds himself in a new environment, you just have to live your life and get to know people around you, so you just can't be locking yourself up, just because you may not be happy with their leader, that stupidity.