Does over pampering prevent children of seeing the realities of life

[POPOLUV]

It is good for us to share our knowledge on our experience on this topic, so that it can also educate others and shaping any one that is going out of track the can destroy someone futures, because this portion Bible that  said in Proverbs 22:6.Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it, it is very obvious that most parents do neglect this portion of Bible because I'm talking out experience when my uncle son came to living with us in House, and during his stay with us, i was able to notice that this cousin of mine couldn't do anything for himself, things like washing his plate, washing his clothes or sweeping the room that will both do sleep, and till the day i ask him the reason behind all the characters he exhibit and reply and said that he parents doesn't all him to do anything in relation to house choice and there are many things he can't do on his own that i just wish to mention few points.

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

[Sim_card]

He is lazy if not why wouldn't he be able to do anything even if his parents doesn't allow him. I have a friend that does not do anything at home because they have a care giver doing everything but he can wash his clothes and sweep his room. What if your friend is staying alone. If the person is rich what if he gets broke tomorrow, life will be very difficult for him.

[Jerrycrypto2024]

Today our society shifted from what we used to be but turned to something I can't account of due to ego and pride of most parents today their responsibility has been channel just on academic training of the children but some morals are not inconcate to the children, some years back when parents who are financially solvent and those whose parents are not as cousin is hardly separable, on how they will learn even follow to do some farm work, domestic work etc making them versatile in all aspects of life but today, if your cousin are more financially solvent if you visit them you become their house help they will restrict their children from doing anything they become lord over you and they won't do anything such training will make such children lazy and always feel entitled to be served always , there is a gap in the biblical saying of training up the children that is affecting the cousin I would say it's laziness but ignorant because his not trained to do such it could be that their house help does the work.

[Bd officer]

Of course, you should not pamper your child excessively and fulfill all his wishes, if you do that, it will become a cause of danger for your child in the future. Every parent should teach their child reality. When I was a child, my father used to tell me that you should grow up learning everything and not being lazy, which will make it easier for you in the future. Now I am gradually realizing my father's advice.

And you mentioned that your cousin cannot sweep the room, actually it is not a hard work. I would say that your cousin has become very lazy, for this your uncle and aunt are definitely to blame. I have a 5-year-old sister, I sometimes see her trying to sweep the room.

[Charles-Tim]

It is good to teach your children how to do everything, but the way some very rich people brought up their children can be very different. Especially if the child is a boy and not a girl and in some cases also girls. Some parents prefer their children to know more about their business when they grow to certain age. If some rich men's children tell your that they are suffering and explain to you, you will even be wondering that it is not suffering at all but enjoyment.

[Bigjoe33]

These days, what most parents do is Feeding and not Training.

Some of them feel that giving children good and paying there school fees and meeting up with there financial needs is just okay to take care of the child, which is nothing compared to training and properly rasing children.

Children learn easily from what they see and hear. So, if you must train them properly, you must guest become an example of what you want them to become. Secondly, you must always say what you would want them to say. Meaning, you shouldn't be lying and so many other things. In this present century, apart from social media influence, peer groups and environment, parents are the next of people that are failing to do there work in raising children properly.

[Marykeller]

A parent who pampers their son or daughter is actually doing themselves because a time will come when they will find out that they made the worst mistake of not letting their son or daughter do the minor things they can do for themselves.

What some parents don't know is that their son or daughter, whom they have in high esteem, not to do anything, won't be with them forever. There will be a time when they will live alone, be the one to wash, sweep, cook, and take care of themselves. How will they survive then when there won't be people available to do things for them

[New Judgement]

He is lazy if not why wouldn't he be able to do anything even if his parents doesn't allow him. I have a friend that does not do anything at home because they have a care giver doing everything but he can wash his clothes and sweep his room.

I wonder how many kids would want to do their laundries  and sweep their spaces when they are seeing a maid that receives salary present to do all these chores for them. How will the parents treat the maid for allowing their child do what she’s paid for. I bet it your friend wasn’t washing his clothes and sweeping when he was little, it’s something he forced himself to do as he grew older. Parents should allow their kids experience these things as they are growing up. You can’t set up a child to be lazy and blame the child for being domestically lazy tomorrow. I don’t blame the guy for being domestically lazy, I blame the parents for not laying a good foundation for him. It is often difficult to learn some basic things when you get older.

[Zackz5000]

A parent who pampers their son or daughter is actually doing themselves because a time will come when they will find out that they made the worst mistake of not letting their son or daughter do the minor things they can do for themselves.

What some parents don't know is that their son or daughter, whom they have in high esteem, not to do anything, won't be with them forever. There will be a time when they will live alone, be the one to wash, sweep, cook, and take care of themselves. How will they survive then when there won't be people available to do things for them

There is something most parents don't, they think that beating up their children when they something bad is wrong, they over pet them and the children misbehave tomorrow, it's actually how you make your bed that you will sleep on it. The bible says that spare the rod and spoil the child, hit him hard he will not die, beating a child when he does something isn't bad it's just a way to correct the child so he can know what he did is bad and won't do it again next time, most problem you see going on around is caused by human being and this is as a result of poor home training.

[Emjay24]

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

When parents over pamper children they end up spoiling them. Some parents think it's showing a child love, but on the contrary they're doing the child a great injustice. A spoilt child finds life difficult since they were not trained to take responsibility for themselves, therefore they cannot act smartly. Parents who over pampered their children destroys the future of such a child, the world doesn't reward lazy people but those who can take up opportunities and produce results and I don't over pampered children can grow up into responsible adults who can take up various responsibilities and remain consistent with positive results.

A child should be exposed to taking tasks and taking up responsibilities for themselves from a young age, it builds them both mentally, psychologically and physically and prayers then for a bright future.

[Pearl_20]

There's something every parents should know, you providing your child with good meal, send them to good schools, making sure they're healthy is your duty as a parents but when you start doing the things that a child could do for him or herself now becomes pampering. A child of 4, 6, 8, 10 and 16 should be able to do some certain things for themselves and not you helping them out or entrusting all their activities in the hands of nanny or their caregiver.

Over pampering children can make them not confident as their daily activities is either done by their nannies or house help, they don't understand that there's something called mistake or failures and that you can actually fail and also rise again, over pampering can make children who are rejected depressed because they can't take a simple NO have seen a lady who was rejected in a relationship said nobody has said NO to her and the guy can't leave her except she does that's what happens when children are over pampered for such lady she has lived her entire life getting every single thing she wants without hesitation and now reality has hit her so hard that she couldn't take NO for an answer.

Every parents should provide their children with what they need and sometimes let them know of how you work really hard for the money, say NO sometimes if they ask for money or something that they can do for themselves. From age 4 a child should be able to do little things like pick up his clothes, wear them let them know how expensive things are even if it requires you to tag them along side with you when you go shopping so they know how expensive things are, children who are over pampered struggles to fit in with the realities of life especially when things are no longer like the way it use it be and some of them hardly relate with others.

[BitBakerr1]

Over pampering spoils children, and also prevent them from seeing the realities of life, when I was a child, I had friends that their parents pampered them so much because they were the only child and that made them not to see the reality of life, right now that they have grown up, they cannot do anything for themselves. The pampering has made them very lazy.
A friend of mine find it very difficult to keep his room clean and he also finds it difficult to work and make money for himself and this is as a result of too much pampering.

Some parents thinks that they are doing the child good, not knowing that they are damaging and destroying the life of the child.

[Tungbulu]

Kids need lots of love and care, but it’s also crucial for them to learn responsibility when they are still very young. When parents literally do everything for their children, they do so with the mindset that they’re helping them or doing the best for them, but if you really look at it very well, you see that they’re also indirectly making it hard for them to become independent adults. I’m not saying that you should inflict pain on them or let them overwork themselves, but letting them do some simple tasks, like doing the dishes, cleaning their room, and doing their own laundry can actually help them learn discipline, self reliance and responsibility. This isn’t about making childhood difficult, but simply teaching children the essentials of life.

[ruykeri]

A child should be allowed to do all his own work from early age and should be taught so that he can take on bigger responsibilities in the future. Now if a child cannot do all his own necessary  work before the age of 10 the activities that OP mentioned then when this child becomes 14+ years old, even if he can do these things, he will not want to do anymore. Because he has not been accustomed to it from the beginning. For this reason parents should make their child active and hardworking from the beginning. If they cannot do that, they will not be able to work responsibly in difficult times. Most of the people in my area are very poor. Many have also stopped sending their children to school. then a long time  letter they have been being made to practice various types of work. Because if there is financial shortage in the family, all the members have to work. Only then income comes and from there it is possible to fulfill all the needs.

[MusaPk]

Over pampering your children will make them lazy and difficult with passage of time. Life is tough and when such child's grow up they find their every task difficult to complete. Parents should involve their kids in different activities on daily routine, this will make them more focused and confident in life. Parents who pamper their kids are not doing any favour to there kids because parents won't be their forever and its responsibility of parents to give proper training to their kids about how to handle things on their own.

[Findingnemo]

We can't train a human, I mean we can but they are not supposed to be trained because they have their own consciousness and should decide anything on their own. I only wish a parent to teach their kids about right things and moral standards and how to be kind and instead of teaching them, just show them a living example, which means being one yourself.

Basically, what I am saying is practice what you preach...

[Soulistic]

In my opinion, raising a child to meet their own needs without being dependent on others is the ultimate sign of how much you value them. Teaching them practical life skills so they can stand on their own two feet in the future feels like a genuine act of love.

As a girl, alongside everything I learned about housework from my mother, I also learned a lot from my father about fixing things and basic repairs throughout my childhood. When I lived on my own in a different city for university, being able to fix my own leaky faucet without needing anyone else felt empowering. Every single time I solve my own problems without depending on others, it feels like a reflection of the true love my parents gave me.

[Fiatless]

It is good for us to share our knowledge on our experience on this topic, so that it can also educate others and shaping any one that is going out of track the can destroy someone futures, because this portion Bible that  said in Proverbs 22:6.Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it, it is very obvious that most parents do neglect this portion of Bible because I'm talking out experience when my uncle son came to living with us in House, and during his stay with us, i was able to notice that this cousin of mine couldn't do anything for himself, things like washing his plate, washing his clothes or sweeping the room that will both do sleep, and till the day i ask him the reason behind all the characters he exhibit and reply and said that he parents doesn't all him to do anything in relation to house choice and there are many things he can't do on his own that i just wish to mention few points.

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

China has integrated house chores and practical life skills into the compulsory school curriculum nationwide since September 2022.  Students in primary and middle schools learn basic skills like sweeping floors and organizing belongings. Those in higher classes would learn the methods of peeling/washing vegetables, planting vegetables, and cooking independent dishes.

https://www.bjreview.com/China/202205/t20220516_800293345.html

A child needs to learn how to do so many household chores because he would have to do them when he lives alone. In my country, female children are compelled to learn how to perform household chores while the males don't offer support. This has made many of them become bad husbands who don't support their wives. A child needs to be raised to be outstanding in character, household chores, and academics.

[Shineup]

When a child grows up with everything within his reach without struggling or waiting for it, they always think the world own them a special treatment, and this has led so many children astray, after waking up to realities, maybe the one making the provisions as at then is no more or show less interest, you will find so many of them doing everything possible to live that same life they had lived from the beginning, and this will cost them to go to any length to get they life they desire, and before you know it some will go into some illegal act, and that alone won't be off good use to the society, some times parents should not be all there for the children, even if the thing he needs is there, you will have to make him want it the more with the mindset of getting it is not that easy, instead of keeping everything in a plater of gold, such gesture is not always favorable to children, so parents need to amend.

[Silverstonez]

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

I have come to discover that the children of this generation are becoming too lazy, most of them are lazy to extent that they prefer to take shortcuts rather than work hard to achieve their goals. Parents should stop treating their as they are gold, they should discipline them when they are wrong, correct them when they make mistakes, teach them the importance of hard work and the reality of life. These lessons will help them as they grow up.