Does over pampering prevent children of seeing the realities of life

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Anything that goes out of moderation is something that is not even good to think of, to pampered children is good but the saying that one should not be too soft and too bitter show be apply to your children that will makes them sit up and know that life is not all about the way they perceived it when you pampered them. To spare a child with rod for correction goes along way , to restrict them for certain demand even when such thing is available is also very important, given them some task even when other options are there for the same thing is all about lesson to learn about life , today many don't know how to survive after parents left them with massive wealth but sell off those establishment because of over pampering where they learned nothing about life education is not all to life there is some life activities that are practical as lesson to enhance knowledge which can only be gotten by some task not by pampering the child at that stage every stage has it lesson that equip the child and parent who failed on this despite education lose all they acquired when they are more with the children because they are not trained towards those task.

[Proty]

 Some parents are like this , they don't allow their kids to do anything and to them they may feel like they are protecting them without knowing that they are not helping the child. Children should be allowed to do some things for themselves especially some house chores. Another thing is that there are parents who don't punish their children no matter  what the children may have done, in fact there child is always right. Parents have a role in modelling their children and the way children behave when they are outside their home reflect how they were brought up.

[icebar]

Anything that goes out of moderation is something that is not even good to think of, to pampered children is good but the saying that one should not be too soft and too bitter show be apply to your children that will makes them sit up and know that life is not all about the way they perceived it when you pampered them. To spare a child with rod for correction goes along way , to restrict them for certain demand even when such thing is available is also very important, given them some task even when other options are there for the same thing is all about lesson to learn about life , today many don't know how to survive after parents left them with massive wealth but sell off those establishment because of over pampering where they learned nothing about life education is not all to life there is some life activities that are practical as lesson to enhance knowledge which can only be gotten by some task not by pampering the child at that stage every stage has it lesson that equip the child and parent who failed on this despite education lose all they acquired when they are more with the children because they are not trained towards those task.

I agree with some of your points. It is definitely necessary to teach a child to take responsibility from an early age, along with loving him. I do not completely agree with the idea that punishing a child will make him come to the right path. Because physical punishment often creates fear in a child instead of teaching him to understand his mistakes. Today's children most of the time do things that you do not want, so you should look for alternatives.

There are reasons why a child may not fulfill all his needs despite having the ability, so that he understands the difference between needs and wants. When a child asks you for something, if you give it to him immediately, then this habit will remain in him. I agree with you that only formal education is not enough, real life experience is also very important. However, in my opinion, it is more important to discipline a child with love and develop the ability to make his own decisions than to punish him harshly.

[Samlucky O]

I just wounder how parents are becoming so weak in training up children nowadays. The fact is that most of those parents grew up in a traumatized environment like a child that grew in the street with no helper or an abandoned child who suffered really hard before they succeed. while others in an environment where they feed from hand to month, after which they went through all this, and they somehow became rich , they'll vow never to allow any of their children suffer, thinking it's the best way to train a child without knowing that such training could lead to laziness and currupttio. Many bad parenting has destroyed the life of many innocent children all in the name of love and care. My advice is that no matter how we love our children, we shouldn't joke with punishing them hard when necessary. Beating a child doesn't kills but change their behavior for a better tomorrow.

[Sulegzy39]

Nowadays, the majority of parents view disciplining their kids as a form of punishment rather than a form of correction. All of us who weren't raised in wealthy households aspire to become wealthy so that our kids can experience the things we weren't able to. There is nothing wrong with spoiling a child or your children with gifts and a comfortable life, but you should also teach them that "life is not a bed of roses" so they will grow up knowing that they must work hard to earn money and develop into responsible adults.

A child shouldn't be overindulged; instead, you should correct them when they act foolishly by either beating them or giving them a small punishment to make them realize that they have done something wrong. Teach them social graces and how to treat others with respect. Two children from a wealthy family I know constantly make fun of their housekeeper, which indicates that their mother also mistreats and insults the maid, which is why the kids imitated their mother. Along with teaching our kids good morals, we should also instill in them a sense of humility and respect.

[Futurexxx]

Pampering your children is not bad, because you are definitely going to take proper care of them, if you truly loves them, but the problem lies in overdoing it, because excess of everything is bad.

Knowing how to clean your environment, cook what you will eat, and do other house chores is a basic skills all adult should know, because at a point in your life you are going to stay only by yourself, so if a child cannot do all this, then I would put all the blame on his parents because they failed in doing what all responsible parents should do, which is teaching them things like that at a tender age.

I am an adult now, and I don't see all those things as a problem because I was doing all that when I was still living with my parents, but anyone that came from a home where he was not taught all this, that person will definitely struggle to stay only by himself if he doesn't have a maid that will do all that for him.

[Tmoonz]

I just wounder how parents are becoming so weak in training up children nowadays. The fact is that most of those parents grew up in a traumatized environment like a child that grew in the street with no helper or an abandoned child who suffered really hard before they succeed. while others in an environment where they feed from hand to month, after which they went through all this, and they somehow became rich , they'll vow never to allow any of their children suffer, thinking it's the best way to train a child without knowing that such training could lead to laziness and currupttio. Many bad parenting has destroyed the life of many innocent children all in the name of love and care. My advice is that no matter how we love our children, we shouldn't joke with punishing them hard when necessary. Beating a child doesn't kills but change their behavior for a better tomorrow.

Some times beating a child makes them to become worst than they are, the more you beat them the more stronger and resistance or getting used to your beating, what some children needs are words of advice, scold in love without abusing the child, this is because most parents have killed their child while correcting them with beating, of course over pampering a child is bad and also over beating the child is also bad, some children are scared of their parents and can't easily express themselves even over things that are very important because of the way they handle them. Things should just be in moderate like no much beating and no much pampering, a child that will have good sense of reasoning will definitely do so.

[Agbamoni]

Your cousin will learn life the hard way if he doesn't learn now. How old is he? It's over for him if he is over 20 years old.
I know someone with a similar excuse for not doing anything. When he lost his father, life became tough for them. He didn't let anyone tell him to start doing things for himself. He's obviously going to suffer if he doesn't take care of himself. I'm not praying for your cousin to lose their parent, but let him imagine life without them, only that way will he understand that nothing is permanent in this life. The luxury he is getting from his parents will not last forever.

[DanWalker]

I just wounder how parents are becoming so weak in training up children nowadays. The fact is that most of those parents grew up in a traumatized environment like a child that grew in the street with no helper or an abandoned child who suffered really hard before they succeed. while others in an environment where they feed from hand to month, after which they went through all this, and they somehow became rich , they'll vow never to allow any of their children suffer, thinking it's the best way to train a child without knowing that such training could lead to laziness and currupttio. Many bad parenting has destroyed the life of many innocent children all in the name of love and care. My advice is that no matter how we love our children, we shouldn't joke with punishing them hard when necessary. Beating a child doesn't kills but change their behavior for a better tomorrow.

What  are you basing it on when you say parent today are weak at  raising kid?
As a parent myself, I do not see much difference between how kid get raised now and back in the day, tbh. If there are any differences .  They  mostly come down to economic circumstances, and living conditions , and each family's approach to parenting.

Just because someone had a tough upbringing doesn't mean they'll know how to raise their own kids well. And giving kids a comfortable life doesn't automatically make them lazy, either.

Parenting  should take each child's personality, age, and circumstances into account. Do not assume that beating kids and making them afraid is what it takes for them  to grow up properly.

[Abdul Sami786]

Some parents are like this , they don't allow their kids to do anything and to them they may feel like they are protecting them without knowing that they are not helping the child. Children should be allowed to do some things for themselves especially some house chores. Another thing is that there are parents who don't punish their children no matter  what the children may have done, in fact there child is always right. Parents have a role in modelling their children and the way children behave when they are outside their home reflect how they were brought up.

Too much pampering and overly strict vision can eliminate children options. Children become the mold they want to be molded into.Every behavior of children is shaped by parents how they are learning to take care of them and face difficulties. Being possessive is good for children but being overly possessive does not allow children to grow up with time and children feel that they cannot make any decision without their parents whether it is a decision about a clothing collection or admissions in any other subject.If children make these small decisions it becomes easy for children to see right and wrong for themselves.

[Alonso_]

It is good to teach your children the most important things, which is good character, and for them to learn how to be responsible for themselves, it’s very important for you to discipline your children so they can become a better person in the future tomorrow, however for your friend I don’t think it’s the fault of the parents, it just shows how lazy he is, because I wonder who will be sleeping for that long and doesn’t do anything in the house, I’m just wondering how that makes him comfortable, if it’s me I will personally send him away to go get some proper home training, there is a possibility that his parents tried to bring him up in a good way but his been the problem and refused to learn anything good.

[Marvelockg]

So parents should not over pamper their children because too pampering can cause harm than good to any child.

A Childs comprehensive upbringing goes beyond provision of finance for the Childs schooling needs and also provision of food for the Childs consumption. it goes on to include other things that makes the child a complete person when he relates with his peers. if you are supplying everything you child needs, you are draining down the Childs potential and to an extent, your child should not get access to some of the privilege's that is due to him or else it makes him to become a lazy adult that things life is soo easy.

A child that can take responsibility of basic needs in the home will easily grow up not depending on you for everything he desires. you wont be always available to cater for his needs and if all he knows is depending on you for all of those needs, you have succeeded in training a liability rather than an asset an a potential helper. Even if you are so rich that your maid can watch those plate, the child should know that it is a previlege that he get assisted with those things. that will to a large extent give him balance about life.

[Doll2233]

Today our society shifted from what we used to be but turned to something I can't account of due to ego and pride of most parents today their responsibility has been channel just on academic training of the children but some morals are not inconcate to the children, some years back when parents who are financially solvent and those whose parents are not as cousin is hardly separable, on how they will learn even follow to do some farm work, domestic work etc making them versatile in all aspects of life but today, if your cousin are more financially solvent if you visit them you become their house help they will restrict their children from doing anything they become lord over you and they won't do anything such training will make such children lazy and always feel entitled to be served always , there is a gap in the biblical saying of training up the children that is affecting the cousin I would say it's laziness but ignorant because his not trained to do such it could be that their house help does the work.

It is a responsibility of the parents to teach their kids with good responsibility and moral values but we should not judge them or just their parenting that by looking at the children whether they do domestic chores or not. There are children who grow up in wealthy families but they still are very hard working, humble and respectful. The problem arises when most of the time parents teach their kids to look down on others just because of their lower financial status. Having a house help is not a problem but it is the responsibility of the parents to teach their kids, that they should learn to appreciate and respect the ones who serve them. The parents should develop kindness, humility and sense of responsibility in their children because wealth does not automatically make anyone or any children lazy and similarly poverty does not automatically make them well mannered

[LOVER BOY 422]

Yes don't over pamper your child if not you will spoil them , so the best thing is to also use cain on them when they go contrary to your well and if their actitude change at home , but is not good to beat them much and it's very bad to over pampers them.

[Nwadiche]

Yes, if we keep backcarry our children when they have legs to work, definitely they won't know that the road is far. Over  always spoiled children especially this young generations, women over pampered their children mostly if the baby happens to be woman, they prevent their daughters to do some house choice forgetting that the girl will grow up some day and find herself in a man's house as a wife, where no one will assist do those things she ran away when living with her parents. That's why when some lady got married they'll request for house help who knows about house choice Some parents prevent their children from knowing every bad side of lives, both from work also.

[hafiztalha]

A child should be allowed to do all his own work from early age and should be taught so that he can take on bigger responsibilities in the future. Now if a child cannot do all his own necessary  work before the age of 10 the activities that OP mentioned then when this child becomes 14+ years old, even if he can do these things, he will not want to do anymore. Because he has not been accustomed to it from the beginning. For this reason parents should make their child active and hardworking from the beginning. If they cannot do that, they will not be able to work responsibly in difficult times. Most of the people in my area are very poor. Many have also stopped sending their children to school. then a long time  letter they have been being made to practice various types of work. Because if there is financial shortage in the family, all the members have to work. Only then income comes and from there it is possible to fulfill all the needs.

Children should learn discipline and responsibilities from an early age but I don't think that they should be forced to handle responsibilities before becoming mature enough to understand the real circumstances. Childhood is about personal development, education and enjoying life. It is not all about preparing for the future. If a child is not doing household chores before the age of 10, it does not mean that he is lazy or irresponsible.

Children can learn habits at any age, whenever they are guided properly with an explanation of responsibilities. There is a difference between forcing kids to work and teaching them to work. Poor families most of the time stop sending their kids to school because they need extra income, that can help them to survive but that limit child opportunities to grow in future. Education is a way to escape the cycle of poverty. It is the responsibility of the parents to teach their kids about basic life skills so that they can understand responsibility.

[Supreme Donvic]

I just wounder how parents are becoming so weak in training up children nowadays. The fact is that most of those parents grew up in a traumatized environment like a child that grew in the street with no helper or an abandoned child who suffered really hard before they succeed. while others in an environment where they feed from hand to month, after which they went through all this, and they somehow became rich , they'll vow never to allow any of their children suffer, thinking it's the best way to train a child without knowing that such training could lead to laziness and currupttio. Many bad parenting has destroyed the life of many innocent children all in the name of love and care. My advice is that no matter how we love our children, we shouldn't joke with punishing them hard when necessary. Beating a child doesn't kills but change their behavior for a better tomorrow.

Some times beating a child makes them to become worst than they are, the more you beat them the more stronger and resistance or getting used to your beating, what some children needs are words of advice, scold in love without abusing the child, this is because most parents have killed their child while correcting them with beating, of course over pampering a child is bad and also over beating the child is also bad, some children are scared of their parents and can't easily express themselves even over things that are very important because of the way they handle them. Things should just be in moderate like no much beating and no much pampering, a child that will have good sense of reasoning will definitely do so.

I agree with you, beating a child regularly cannot change the child to a better person, in fact if you continue beating the child everyday the child is going to adapt to the beating and is going to become worst because he or she will be thinking that you hate him or her and with that thought he or she is going to become worst, the best thing to do is to correct them with love, give them advice.
I believe a child that will be a responsible person just need a word of advice, you don't have to beat the child everyday to make the child a better person in the future, I have seen children that have gone through beating from their parents but they still turn out worst.

[Iranus]

Yes don't over pamper your child if not you will spoil them , so the best thing is to also use cain on them when they go contrary to your well and if their actitude change at home , but is not good to beat them much and it's very bad to over pampers them.

I'm with you on not spoiling kids. But I do not buy idea that you have to reach for the cane everytime they go against us or do something wrong.

There are plenty of ways to teach discipline without resorting to violence. Caning certainly doesn't necessarily make a child better behaved. Most of the time, it just teaches the child to conceal their mistakes or become even more stubborn…Instead, parents should tell the children what they did wrong, lay down the law and punish them when they willfully disobey.

Also, going against their parents doesn't automatically mean a kid is in the wrong. Kids need to be heard and get a chance to speak their mind too.

[$crypto$]

Now I have seen two differences, between a child who is educated and spoiled, whatever he wants will be given by parents without having to work hard first.

There are people from ordinary circles, educated in a harder way, anything must be done alone, such as wanting a dream item then the child must be able to save from the money given every day or school fees set aside.

This difference is too striking, when they are adults, the spoiled one child when he was still big still rely on parents, and people from ordinary with strict discipline upbringing he can now thrive even start a small business.

So, indeed, the upbringing of people to children is important, including how spoiled the child is willing to be independent, when parents do not think that the child's future will not have any benefit.

[AYOBA]

In my opinion, raising a child to meet their own needs without being dependent on others is the ultimate sign of how much you value them. Teaching them practical life skills so they can stand on their own two feet in the future feels like a genuine act of love.

As a parents it’s good training a child in a good way so that if they raise up they will not depend on others and also they will always respect their elders which make difference of people be proud of your child. But some will allow their child to be so lazy, they won’t bother to practical in way that they will be on their own tomorrow, is not that parents will not love their children but people love their child’s in a wrong way.

As a girl, alongside everything I learned about housework from my mother, I also learned a lot from my father about fixing things and basic repairs throughout my childhood. When I lived on my own in a different city for university, being able to fix my own leaky faucet without needing anyone else felt empowering. Every single time I solve my own problems without depending on others, it feels like a reflection of the true love my parents gave me.

You have done the right thing for yourself  it show that you’ve ready to build your future with a positive attitude towards, because we all only know today nobody knows tomorrow, and what ever you learn today from your parents will be the one stand for you tomorrow.