Why has it become so difficult to say 'no' in modern society?

[Fabri-Cate]

Have you ever agreed to something that you really wanted to say no to? There are many people who agree against their will for fear of hurting others or being bad to them. We often take on responsibilities to keep others happy, which are very difficult for us to fulfill. As a result, many people experience mental stress and its impact on their personal lives. Respectfully refusing a request is also a great social skill.

Remember:

1. Do not take on any responsibility beyond your capabilities, which is never possible for you.

2. You politely tell him, you convince him that you cannot do this job perfectly.

3. It is not good to change your decision due to pressure from others.

4. Do not always think of yourself as weak and cheap.

What do you think? Why do people often agree to what others say against their will, even after understanding it?

[Dunamisx]

Fear is one of the main factors that keep people from fighting back against unpleasant situations. Some people have the boldness to confront the situation, while not everyone can behave in this same manner

This is where individual differences come in, and we cannot compare our confidence and approach to what others may have or develop in a similar situation. You can also discover that some people will be agitated for change, while some will be neutral about the same situation because they don't want to be identified with any unpleasant situation.

[Abdul Sami786]

This is a question related to our lives, why we hesitate so much to say no to others when we know that this is beyond our courage and ability because nowadays we have made it impossible to say no to someone on the grounds of respect for the honor and dignity of others and the depth of relationship.It has happened to me many times too.I would do what my elders would ask me to do even though I was tired out to show them respect and to keep my honor and dignity.Although I know that by then activity I will be physically tired and my courage will be gone yet I am doing that task.Its the same with adults.They can not say no out for the consideration for others and sensitivity respect and love.

[Vod]

OP - if you don't mind my asking, approx. how old are you?   I've been alive for five decades and I believe it has become easier to say 'no'.  When I first became an adult the world population was 5 billion.   Now it's 8.3.

More people, fewer resources - I used to witness a dozen charitable acts a day - now people only speak to deny, otherwise they stay silent.

[9ja Amaka]

Adulthood is complicated. Growing up, I thought becoming an adult meant making decisions was easy, but now I understand how difficult some decisions are, even when we have the free will to choose without our parents or anyone enforcing a decision on us. One reason people can't say no in modern society is that they are trying to be good people while also not wanting to hurt the other person. It will take long for some persons to realize that humans are meant to be both selfish in some occasions and selfless in some occasion. We don't have to be nice all the time.

[Taricoins]

OP - if you don't mind my asking, approx. how old are you?   I've been alive for five decades and I believe it has become easier to say 'no'.  When I first became an adult the world population was 5 billion.   Now it's 8.3.

More people, fewer resources - I used to witness a dozen charitable acts a day - now people only speak to deny, otherwise they stay silent.

I understand the age and all that, but I don't think it is an age issue, some people naturally find it hard to say NO, especially to people [friends and family] that are close to them, for a long time I had that issue. Definitely you can say no to strangers and people you don't really care about but for me, saying NO, to family was hard, and it took alot of realization and disappointment from this same people to change my narrative

[BTC FutureKing]

Fear is one of the main factors that keep people from fighting back against unpleasant situations. Some people have the boldness to confront the situation, while not everyone can behave in this same manner

This is where individual differences come in, and we cannot compare our confidence and approach to what others may have or develop in a similar situation. You can also discover that some people will be agitated for change, while some will be neutral about the same situation because they don't want to be identified with any unpleasant situation.

But my personal opinion is that if you are not useful in a task or if your courage and ability do not support it then it is better to refuse it.People have made it very difficult to say no to someone.Yes sometimes it is necessary to be useful to others for the sake of respect and love but the person in front of you should also see whether this task is in accordance with our courage and ability or not.If the task is not possible without you and you have the ability to do it, then you should definitely help. Some people impose work on others in fear of their own greatness which is completely wrong.You should not use your power and authority to make someone helpless.

[HyperCodexV]

Have you ever agreed to something that you really wanted to say no to? There are many people who agree against their will for fear of hurting others or being bad to them. We often take on responsibilities to keep others happy, which are very difficult for us to fulfill. As a result, many people experience mental stress and its impact on their personal lives. Respectfully refusing a request is also a great social skill.

Remember:

1. Do not take on any responsibility beyond your capabilities, which is never possible for you.

2. You politely tell him, you convince him that you cannot do this job perfectly.

3. It is not good to change your decision due to pressure from others.

4. Do not always think of yourself as weak and cheap.

What do you think? Why do people often agree to what others say against their will, even after understanding it?

The perfect situation to find yourself in a yes man or woman type of person is in a long term relationship where you become less interested in but you say yes to yourself internally for sake of avoiding hurting your partner. People often lose out of love in their relationship and when their partner casually ask them if they still love them, rather than being sincere and saybthe word no, they will pretend and use the word yes. But deep down they know it's not true. So sometimes a no can cause chaos which is why it is difficult to utter in certain situations.

[Fiatless]

What do you think? Why do people often agree to what others say against their will, even after understanding it?

People-pleasers hardly say no, even to what they cannot do. Some of them just want to do all they can to help, even when it is beyond their capacity. I have been in this situation several times when I am dealing with family and friends. You just allow emotions to control your sense of reasoning, thereby making the wrong decisions. In one situation, I offered to pay rent for my sister when I knew I couldn't afford it. I had to work hard to fulfill that promise even when it affected my health.   

The solution is not to make a decision immediately when you face a situation. Analyze the situation and discover an alternative solution. Offer what you can afford. And avoid offering health out of sympathy or emotions. Know that people will always sort themselves out with or without you.

[Findingnemo]

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What do you think? Why do people often agree to what others say against their will, even after understanding it?

The fear of losing is the reason why people are not saying no when they are supposed to.

For example in they are in a job and they are tasked to do something that is beyond what they are capable of then they won't say no because they fear that they might lose their job and instead they keep pushing themselves and end up messing completely, so they could have said no and someone else might have done it properly and the scenario changes to every situation and the main reason is almost the same.

[EluguHcman]

Have you ever agreed to something that you really wanted to say no to? There are many people who agree against their will for fear of hurting others or being bad to them. We often take on responsibilities to keep others happy, which are very difficult for us to fulfill. As a result, many people experience mental stress and its impact on their personal lives. Respectfully refusing a request is also a great social skill.

What kind of social life is that or is it because of the term applied "no"? I see that as a common verb which even a child can decline your subject.

If you displease yourself to please others, you suffers it and if you are easily controlled by others, you won't also make it a long way because in life, there are people who are fond of feeding on others like the saying that... Monkey is working and baboon is eating where he did not work.
So tell me, is the social skill you mean just about pleasing other people? I am sure only a fool will cheat himself life that.

I myself, I can not trade my happiness for others. There is also sacrifices that may worth it but not the ungrateful manner of helping others while you are not happy yourself.