How to make a career fit a relationship before having a relationship?

[BitMos]

 

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[Chef Ramsay]

Major conundrum. Catch-22 of sorts. Unless of course you have one genre of a partner in mind and scope your so-called career around meeting and having time off to date said persona. Kind of OT if you ask me.

[ObscureBean]

Short answer: you can't.
Complicated answer:
I'd say for starters, you'd have to determine which one of the two matters most to you. Second, come to grips with the fact that a perfect scenario where relationship and career are in complete harmony cannot exist in an imperfect world. Next comes the near-impossible part, finding a partner who fits into your puzzle and who allows you to fit into hers/his.
Since it is extremely unlikely that you'll ever find a perfect natural fit, you'll have to settle for the next best thing and enter the gruesome/exciting world of concessions and compromises. Good luck!
 

[oprahwindfury]

The key to a successful relationship is compromise in my opinion. Even if you find the perfect soul mate, in one way or another you guys will have things you won't agree on. That's the make or break point. One of you has to agree to disagree and put up with the other. This was one thing I learned after my 3rd girlfriend. I didn't compromise for her and it broke us up. Completely my fault. I learned from it though and I'm doing a million times better in my 4th relationship.

[BitCoinNutJob]

Start your own business and you are more flexible, working for someone else you have less control and those around you need to fit in with you much more imo.

Whether you are able to work for yourself or not is tricky, much stress before you've "made it" also.

[bf4btc]

You will probably not be able to start a career that is hugely successful but it is possible.

You will need to find an industry that does not generally require employees to work long/late hours.

[pattu1]

Marry your boss.

[HeroCat]

It depends how old are you and what is your background. Career can be first, but can be also exceptions 

[CyberSuzy]

Marry your boss.

That is always best

[BADecker]

Adapt the career to the relationship.

Careers aren't always defined in detail. Many careers need a whole lot of detail oriented change to make them work.

The thing to do in a relationship is, make the relationship part of the career. The new career is a combination of the old career and the relationship career. If both partners don't recognize this, it will be more difficult. But it doesn't stop there.

If both partners in the relationship are career oriented, the new careers will need to be made from the relationship plus the other partner's career. For example.

Partner-A has Career-X. Partner-B has Career-Z. Into the relationship...

Partner-A has the new career of:
Partner-B = major;
+ Career-X = intermediate;
+ Career-Z = minor.

Partner-B has the new career of:
Partner-A = major;
+ Career-Z = intermediate;
+ Career-X = minor.

This, again, changes when the kids come along.

If people don't recognize this, and don't work it this way, odds are that something will fail in the relationship.

[a fool and his money ...]

Marry your boss.

this is in fact the best solution