10% used by bitcoind. Why do you say it eats the whole server ram?
KiB Mem: 12582912 total, 12382324 used, 200588 free
Because this happens only when i´m running the bitcoin deamon. there is nothing else on this machine. just a lighthttpd server and this deamon.
i dont have a screenshot yet but without a running bitcoin deamon the memory and cache looks untouched after a day.
and i cant run echo 3 > /proc/sys/vm/drop_caches on this fucking vBox to clear out the cache -.-