Nobody is considering the fact that now she filled her "need jar" she is an happy woman, nobody?
You do have to put yourself in her husband's shoes as well.
Ain't a nice place to be, is it??
If I was her husband I would find a way to make her happy or ask her what she needs.
When you look at someone you can see in their eyes if someone's really happy or sad.
If you are indifferent on your spouse that kind of thing happens.
Then you find out there a thousand of married women in need of that.