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How can we learn to forgive ? Is it difficult for u ? Or may be others do not owe us anything ?

Buddha said : Holding on to anger, is like holding burning coal in your hand to throw at others. You end up hurting yourself more. Jesus Christ said on the cross of the people who crucified him : 'Father forgive them, for they do not know what they do' This is the greatest act of forgiveness practiced by divine souls. On the other hand, resentment, grudges are slow poison, so sooner you let go, the better.

Depends on the situation, it is sometimes a lot easier to hold a grudge than to forgive

Forgiveness has to do with cancelling a debt. But it is like giving ahead of time.

Somebody owes you something. But you essentially give him the thing from the time when he took it from you.

Have a forgiving heart for your own benefit.

Make the person who owes you to see that he owes you, for his benefit.

Sometimes the best thing to do is to take the person to court, not with the idea of non-forgiveness, but to show him how important it is for him to repent. When you win, let him have the substance of the debt, anyway... because you have forgiven him in your heart already.  This will humiliate him more than if you took what you won, making him more indebted to you than ever. And it will strengthen you in your forgiveness resolve.

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Forgiving others is good. But people always think it benefits that other person. But instead, forgiving others is for our own good because it takes a lot of energy to hold grudges. Hatred will kill us slowly inside out.

Of course that doesn't mean forgiving = forgetting.

Forgive. But never forget. So one can grow to be wiser not to make the same mistake in believing in a scam. If a church pastor or a monk cheats $50million and went to jail...forgive him even though he may not repent. But never forget the event. So we can teach later generation to be wiser.

Absolutely agree. Forgiving others is giving ourselves freedom. We can be free from the emotion of hatred. 😊😎

By letting go in this way, we are not saying that what happened to us was okay. We’re just making the choice to not be ruled by what happened, recover, make peace and move on.

Yet this way you will let the grudge take over and actually like that you will feel much worse yourself and your hatred towards the other person probably won't hurt them but you yourself are the one who's stuck with it.
I think Hanna Kallis had a really nice thought here too.

It is very difficult to learn how to forgive people. Sometimes you want to kill a person, who hurt you, and you are a very valuable and honest person if you can forgive people and feel good after that.

The ability to forgive is the key to happiness I think.. you'll let yourself be free of negative feelings.

You can forgive anything except betrayal. Remember this rule and live with it. For the man who betrayed you will betray you again.

I used to have trouble apologizing. But now I realized that this is simply necessary if you want to consider yourself a good person. You need to overcome yourself and apologize. Then you will feel that it has become easier for you to live and you will not have feelings of guilt. It is very important.

"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace." - Jonathan Lockwood Huie. This quote is what comes to my mind when I find it hard to forgive someone.

 I don't know how to forgive people. I live by one rule: if a person betrayed you once, he will betray you a second time

Of course everybody does not owe us, but that doesn't mean that you can't forgive them. If you have something unsaid to that person, than you have to talk with him about this. That does not cost anything, but you will feel much easier. After a little talk about things about which you are still concerned, you will forgive this person during some time.

“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

Awesome quotes, these are perfect examples.

Yes, it is difficult, because when a person offends you, of course it causes your feeling and self-confidence, but I always remember, that others do not owe me anything. So the do not owe love me or be my friend, that`s why it is easier to forgive

Forgive or not forgive, I believe that this is everyone's business. Much depends on the situation and the person in general. Someone is inclined to forgive and someone does not forgive anything at all, even little things

Forgiveness is for our own growth and happiness. When we hold on to hurt, pain, resentment, and anger it harms us far more than it harms the offender.

I am very easy to offend, but I vorgive very easily also

In most of the cases saing just "sorry" will be enough for me. I easily give the secound and the third chance, but I actually do not trust people at all)))0)

we have to think positive always, don't get angry because of those shit ppl

Just start asking for forgiveness .. At first it will be difficult, then you get used to it. But you need to apologize only if you really feel guilty.

When you forgive, you are accepting the reality of what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it. You can take your time and it doesn't necessarily have to include the person you are forgiving. Forgiveness isn't something you do for the person who wronged you, it's something you do for yourself. :)

sometimes need to forgive someone who hurt us. when you give forgiveness feel so relief. and i agree what other say we need to say sorry also to the people that we hurt so that you never feel hurt and angry in your heart

It's not difficult, just take it easy, if it's something unimportant you'll forget about it.

Forgiveness requires feeling willing to forgive. Sometimes you won't, because the hurt went too deep, or because the person was too abusive, or expressed no regret. Do not attempt to forgive someone before you have identified, fully felt, expressed, and released your anger and pain.

If you decide you are willing to forgive, find a good place and time to be alone with your thoughts.

Forgiving is not just for the one who made the sin but also for the victim. To be truly happy, we need to let go all of our grudges against that person.

Remember the good things for the person you want to forgive. Do not think too much about his bad things and try to forget and give him another chance.

Actually instincts as humans, where when we are hurt by someone we must be hard to forgive someone. But, if we are sincere, sincere, and do not hold a grudge against someone who has hurt us, then naturally we can forgive all the mistakes of that person.

What if that person is the one who made us truly happy before but then they hurt us? How can we learn to forgive if we are hurt by those we loved the most?

Isn't supposed to be that you should forgive him/her more, since that person holds so much in your heart. After all, true forgiveness comes within your heart. I am not saying that it is easy to forgive nor to trust that person again. Just let go of all grudges you hold so your can heart can be free again. You can say that it is like gambling (https://to.crwd.cr/cm) your heart once again. Either you can have him/her back again or lose that person, at least you did forgive that person.

Laurence Sterne said "Only the brave know how to forgive. ... A coward never forgave; it is not in his nature.


 the words may be hash but its the truth, i believe when you forgive it makes you a free man

To judge or to hold a grudge against someone else is ultimately the same as allowing yourself to be judged on the Last Day - and with the same measure as well.

If, on the Last Day, you have been able to forgive all things, and hold no grudges - then all things you have done will also be forgiven and no grudge will be held against you.

This is the essence of what Jesus tried to teach.

As much as i can understand that, i still have trouble holding to it myself.

Good luck to all ^^

Forgive but never forget ,
There are times that it would be easy to forgive,
The hard part is forgetting it, For what ever reason is the one asking for forgiveness would be forgiven but the mistake that he/she did would be hard to forget.
And you should also know when to forgive someone or just let them go.

Learning how to forgive depends on the person's deed to you. If it's too heavy and you just can't forgive him/her, take time. Wounds aren't healing quickly, there's always the right time to forgive. There are people too that are easy to forgive regardless of what the people did to them.

Just forget if you have already forgiven that person, there's always string attached to the past if you will never forget. Your emotion will mix and trigger if you will not forget what they did. It's hard but you have to.

forgiveness is actually divine and because of this most religion advocate for forgiveness.  We can only be perfect and peaceful if we can develop that mindset to be able to forgive those that offend us.

Other we really don't have to, you need to be able to forgive people and let go

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Forgiveness isn't necessarily towards another person, it can be within. Recently, I've learned how to forgive myself. That is because of a mistake I can't move on from, I formatted my hard drive with the codes to my BTC in it. Yea, it crushes me for sure, and for a time, I lost grit and the drive to do it anymore. Yet, for some reason, I came to realize that I can't change what happened so I forgive myself and started to move on. Now, I'm regaining that money is lost through investing and trading again and sometimes playing betting games in Vegascasino.

You seem like a amazing person, you are very indulgent. May i know where you are investing at? and where is that vegascasino? coz i might do what you are doing to distract myself and forgiving someone.

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You forgiving those that offended you will be a plus to your life, so just learn how to forgive

Forgiveness is given to the person with whole heart and this cannot be just asked right away

For me it will be depending on what kind of sin committed towards me,and from then i will decide forgiveness,but for sure its not that easy and need effort to seek from me

Forgiveness is essential. Why? Because what goes around comes around.

If you don't forgive, you won't be forgiven. But if you DO forgive, you will be vindicated even if you aren't forgiven.

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Truly it is harder to be good than be bad.. Being bad is very easy, forget who you think you're or your mind set is. Forgiving is hmm..... A really big thing, only those with understanding can do.

Forgiveness is something that is very difficult, especially when we really have been disappointed with something. Forgive or have no rights for someone. However, if you are a follower of a religion, I am sure your religion will advocate forgiving everything and not taking revenge.

It?s easy to forgive for me but i wont forget. Damage has been done but Nobody’s perfect  and even God didnt get tired forgiving us.

forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and with the help of this, you can anger free feel. While there is some debate over whether true forgiveness needs positive feelings toward the enemy, experts agree that it at least involves letting go to hold negative feelings.

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Forgiving people is really hard because there are a lot of people who doesn't change, even you have started to forgive them.

It's very difficult to forgive because it's against our nature.
I know how much difficult is to control our negative emotions like hatred or anger.
How to overcome it?
Go to the church, read holy books and you may find power there.
From my experience, such things can help.

It is not much difficult to forgive just practice it and take it easy even if they did wrong things.

Depends on what is to forgive , and there are different people who are willing to forgive and some don't , I think you need to let go of evil and go good

Definitely true in many cases.
The key is, never allow the same person an opportunity to betray you the second time.

Ofcourse forgiveness is can be  given for anyone who damaged us but to forget is really hard.as this can be done again if we will let them so better to just forgive and never give them a chance for anything that can bring hurting to us

Not necessarily but have high chances.You no need to accept the person into your life again just forgive and let the karma do the things for him for his betrayal.

I like the comment, to forgive but not forget. Forgive maybe just for peace of mind, I don't think it's healthy to hold grudges. And maybe to have improved relation, in case something positive can come out of it. But never forget, I'd like to think how to avoid being wronged the same way again.

Forgive everyone keep your heart clean,One day you will be rewarded by GOD with best for this.  :)

At first it is really hard for me to forgive especially when I have fights and I don't have the revenge, I feel so hard in my feelings. But someone told me that your pride will not result anything good and if you think about it you'll realize that he is correct. From that time I started to change and I am here now ready to forgive.

Forgiveness is difficult initially- there is a lot of anger if someone burns you at first but practicing self love and counting your blessings will help   

forgiveness is the way to get the success and be a bigger person in life so if you had any problem with someone trying to forgive and forget so so it will definitely give you the best things after this story happens.

Human is not perfect but you don't need to interact with nasty people.

forgive and forget this is the statement will be suitable for this topic because we are all living in the same world so we need to be collaborate each and everyone in the life so forgiving someone will be difficult but it will be possible when you had think ok just deeper in your mind.

I think everyone knows how to forgive by themselves, it's not necessary to learn how to, but just to awake this feeling inside ourselves. However you should be very careful when forgiving others, because some people ask for you pardon, but right after that they start deceiving you again!
The difficulty on this matter is to be wise to know who deserves to be forgiven and who doesn't.

Forgive but it does not mean you allow yourself to be abused.

For me, it is really difficult to forgive to people. I learn from my life, that we could forgive to only those people who have no relation with us, and it is easy to forgive them strangers.
But we couldn't forgive those people who are our blood relations, if our closer family members hurt us then it is hard to forgive them. So for me, i can't do it.

forgiveness brings you relief, you don't focus on negative things and open doors for good things in your life!

People which can't forgive are trapped in negative feelings and can't get out.
If it is too long they can get sick or they will simply be unhappy.
Forgiveness has the strength to heal a man.

People can't be forgiven, it's silly

I still believe in what the Bible says that revenge is to God. It will take much energy in may part to hold grudges against people who hurt me and taken advantage of me and sometimes in our desire to avenge, the most people that end up to be miserable is us also. We are being blinded by our desire to hurt back to the point of hindering happiness from our lives. I decided, it will not add me a single day or hour in living my life or will not make me a better person if I be angry with them for the rest of my life so I better shrug my shoulder off and move on. Let God do the revenge in my behalf.

I find it easy to forgive people, but I tend to not forget how they wronged me.
Would rather not carry grudges, but I am how I am.
A man's not a lone island, we're social animals and should learn to accept others' shortcomings so we can get along better.

But i think it is not easy as you think. We are not robot, we are human being and as a human being we have emotions, and if someone hurt us then we feel it, so it is not easy to forgive in a second and without say to sorry. But if someone said us Sorry then definitely we should forgive him.
But unfortunately people not accept it that they hurt us, and that's why they are not ready to say Sorry to us.   

Everyone deserves second chance because making mistake is human nature and forgiving those mistakes is the evolution of human nature.

^^^ Most people need a million second chances.     8)

it is one of the best qualities that you need to have in your life forgiveness is the most best thing in this world when compared to any other so if you had some problem with someone forgive and forget then the problem will definitely solve easily.