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I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

He is a senior citizen and he has nothing to lose aside from his daily or monthly pension which will not devastate his life since he has family to support him financially. He is not a teenager anymore so I’m sure that he is just enjoying since he doesn’t have someone to accompany him on his daily life.

You should not interfere on other hobby/entertainment if they are not asking for an advice because it’s their life and it’s his family matter. You have nothing to gain if you will interfere while you can be at bad terms on him if he didn’t like what you said. There’s no upside here so just ignore him as best option.

If you are close with the man, there are ways that you can use to approach him. You can talk about gambling with him and also talk about games that you are using to gamble and also know how much that you are gambling with. I think you have known all these already. All you have to do is to just advice him because I think you are close already, but in a polite way like you are not advising him. He will have something to talk about it, if he says it is not affecting him, just leave it be.

Know first when he started gambling, if it has been a long time like over 10 years, I do not think he needs advice. I do not think someone that has been gambling for over 10 years needs advise. But if it is not long, like a year or two years ago, you can discuss about it like not in an advice way and give your own opinion which the man can see as an advise.

if you are certain about him getting addicted and you are concerned, then do it, but think carefully about how you do it, like you said, senior citizens are very sensitive to criticism. you can also just inform one of his children about your concerns.

the OP did say that he is concerned that his neighbour is getting addicted. the problem with gambling addiction is not just about financial loss, it can also negatively affect your relationship with the people around you(like his family).

She was still energetic and her skin was still tight even though she was an elderly widow. He also likes exercising. Is it true?

If he needs advice, it would be good for you to explain how to manage gambling activities. If she doesn't ask you, be a good neighbor who is ready to help when she needs help because she still has children who are ready to look after the old widow.
If you care about him, monitor him and call him out when his gambling activities go astray.

I think I can ignore that for now unless he starts borrowing or neglecting his health he is new to gambling but a senior citizen who wants to gamble for the rest of his life is something to be concerned about, we have a saying here that old people should behave like a dignified person, maybe this will come to pass since its new to him and has nothing to do the whole day.
I get the notion that it is bad to grow old alone with money coming to you without doing anything and then suddenly find gambling very interesting to indulge in, is it possible that he will be like this until the end or until he is very old and cannot walk, maybe gambling is doing great on his mentality like he is more focus and find it energetic only time can tell.

I don't think a young man who barely knows anyone older than him will be heard. I think that your neighbor, if he has money and adult children, will be able to figure out his own entertainment. We have no right to interfere with advice where we are not asked. Therefore, you can observe, and if one day you are asked for advice, boldly go to save your neighbor. But for now, do not do good so as not to receive evil.

That is a new neighbor you may have to be able to approach further than directly giving advice about gambling of course the neighbor will definitely be sensitive because you just know you immediately advise the elderly which is like rude, maybe the best way is to approach children and then do what is the best advice if you want to save him from addiction then it needs to be more familiar.

And we cannot determine whether the elderly are just having fun when they are alone or are already addicted, if you see excessive gambling activities that make the elderly stressed then you can advise in any way you can.
I myself am not so sure because these parents still have the responsibility of their children who are still there.

The old man I guess did a good work in raising his children and letting him do what he wants to do is not such a bad idea. Knowing that he even have a hired care taker means he can afford stuff. Or maybe his kids are also helping him out. Since you are talking a lot, you can always ask the usual stuff we talk here. His loss versus the win I guess if that's not so much of invading his privacy.

I do have a renter about 64yrs old who is also betting on horse race and betting on bet365. Because he is an ex-cop I just let him be. Old man like this are grumpy. He only greets me if I throw his trash.

Its not about telling him to stop is a good thing or let him is a bad thing for you as his friendly neighboor.

You must know his background first, lets say he gamble $100 daily while he has $1M in his bank account or his sons send him $10k monthly.
It will be useless and after that he will keep the distance from you.
Different story when he cant pay the bills, food and he is poor.
That is the time for you as a friendly neighboorhood coin-investorman telling him to stop and yes with a soft approach.

He is retiree and has monthly income plus being a widow which makes him have relatively smaller expenses for living necessities so it is natural for him to carry out various gambling activities.
I'm sure he did it also to entertain himself and make gambling comfortable place to have fun without having to think about anything else.

If you want to give advice, it is better to give advice on how to manage finances in gambling and also remind to always have limits and also control emotions because woman will be more easily provoked by emotions when she experiences bad luck such as losing.
But you also have to approach this advice in way that the children know about so that there are no bad prejudices about what you are doing.

Well if you say he has children who are doing well and it's an advance man, I personally think he is just trying not be bored because so many folks out there see gambling as a event we can use to ease the mind and take it as our fun activity so maybe your neighbor is trying not to be bored and besides if he has the money and the one he is using isn't going to be of any damages to him them I see no problem with him finding out time to please himself.

I understand your point here if the subject is not a senior citizen. What kind of damage to the family which a senior citizen can be done while he is just gambling on his own assuming you remove financial loss here? I assume that he is living on his own since this is the typical setup of senior citizen in my country so I’m not sure what kind of damage you are pertaining.

The subject here is an old guy probably has a lot of experience than us. Interfering others life might cause you a consequence which you can avoid if you just ignore unless you are a person who really want to dip on other personal problem then go on.


This is the right approach bro, Just observe first because I knew a lot of senior citizen that just using gambling as source of entertainment since most of their family is busy on their own life. Just help him if you knew that he is already showing sign of extreme addiction like what you said. But according to your description, He is just having fun since he have the money and I knew a lot of oldies playing gambling most of the time since they hangout with other senior citizens in there like the weekends bingo at mall.  :D

From his explanation, one can clearly see that the man is likely engaging in gambling as a result boredom or just trying to keep himself busy since he's the only one at home and mostly do not have anyone to talk to.
I think the best thing to do in other to help the man is to try and introduce him to other gaming activities that an old man can engage in his leisure time which will help reduce his gambling activities. Gambling I know might be one thing he enjoys doing but getting addicted to it isn't good for an aged man

This person cannot get addicted to gambling anymore as he’s not a small child or teenager. This person is already exposed to and has experienced many things in his life already, which I believe people who get addicted to gambling or easily get addicted to gambling are those who gamble to get money, which this person you're talking about doesn’t need because he already has children. When he needs money, they will support him, so I’m sure he is not doing it for anything but to have fun.


I don’t think it is necessary because you know how old people behave, and this person has been doing this even before he met you, so don’t you think advising him may, of course, solve your problem? He will be thinking about something that he is doing even before he knows you, and suddenly you came and told me to stop. Which I believe he will see as bad; however, why don’t you just free him and let him continue his gaming activities as he has been doing since he is only doing it for fun and he has money already, even though he has already retired, but there is a pensioner monthly and also children to support him when he needs financial assistance, which is why I said you should just leave him.

I would say just let him be, since it's just new to you but probably he is doing that for a very long time, and if addiction becomes a cause for concern then eventually will run out of funds based on the assumption that he is living from his pensions. Another fact is, it is quite an impossible task to change the habits of a senior citizen all of a sudden and probably that is one of the few things he can enjoy now.

the damage I am pertaining here is the emotion, the possibility of ruining a relationship with your kids can be extremely hard for someone, especially for an old person, believe it or not, old people are pretty emotional when it comes to their relationship with their kids or grandkids, old people are also far more at risk at being depressed.  

having a lot of experience doesn't mean they'll be able to battle gambling addiction. also, as I said before, OP should think carefully about how he is going to do it.

Gambling addiction among elderly people is much more common than we think.
But see, this is not a very serious problem.

Adults (not elderly) usually play because they want to make money and get rich, that's a fact!

An elderly person certainly does not have the intention of making money and becoming rich, because after reaching a certain age and physically depending on other people, a lot of money will not change their life. So why do elderly people gamble? For fun!
The problem is if your neighbor ends up committing his entire retirement to gambling or if he owes money to the bank, this could even affect his heirs' income in the future.

Other than that, I don't see many problems for him.

How sure are you that he is getting addicted to gambling? I don't know if you can talk about things that you notice about the man that make you think he is getting addicted to gambling. You said he gambles only during the weekend, I don't see anything bad in that, but if he is really addicted to gambling, he should be gambling maybe every day or almost every day.

You said his children don't know about gambling addiction, it's better you keep it away from them. If the children don't notice it by themselves, they shouldn't hear it from you that their father is addicted to gambling. You shouldn't try to cause some problems in the family. If you are close to the person, you can just caution him about his gambling activities if he is going to listen to you, but if you are not close to him, then it's better you mind your business, don't involve yourself in things that will end up causing problems for yourself.

I hope you know that elderly people get bored easily and most often missed their children, who knows playing casino is what he enjoyed and use in killing time since you said he is a widowed meaning he doesn't have a partner to share time with, playing that will definitely be one thing he loves doing the most just to be out of boredom, not thinking about life or been alone.

Something is also not clear, you need to know how he fund this casino because he will definitely have a way he fund it and if it's from money the children send for him, then I think it's better you inform the children or somebody closer to him. It might sound disrespectful as a neighbor to intrude into another person privacy and want to advice him on what to do and how to live his life.

The first thing you should ask him is how long he has been active in online casinos and other gambling activities.?
You can only advise him depending on how long he has been actively engaging in gambling activities. Every elderly person certainly has a different past, maybe when they were young they were addicted to gambling so this habit is very difficult to break even when they are old.

You have to take a closer approach to protect his feelings when giving him advice. You can give advice when you are joking or in a good mood, usually the person being advised is more likely to accept advice from other people when they are in a happy mood.

Usually I adivce people to gamble within limits but if I were a senior citizen and if I were widowed then I would enjoy the damn life however it is.
So in this case, you should let him be himself because there's nothing he can do by saving that money.
Now is the time to enjoy it and he is doing exactly that.

You should at least be sure if he's getting addicted first. Because at such age just as you've mentioned he probably will be enjoying his alone time playing games on casinos. In my country, men of his are mostly found playing games of that sort and I don't find it addictive but rather as a means for them to exercise their body and brains for them not to be inactive. He's kids might also be aware of his gambling habit. so the best thing you might want to do for him is to spend more time with him when you are less busy and keep him company. that's if you truly care about him not being alone.

How do you know he is getting addicted? Are you sure you are not mistaken being active for addiction? You already said he is retired, a pensioner and all his children are professionals... in my opinion, he is having fun. You don't need to advice him because he does not need the advice.

If you must advice him, you first ask question to know if there is anyway the gambling is impacting on him negatively. If there is no way he is feeling the effect, then there will be no need advising him.

Yes I agree with you as sometimes giving an advice to a stranger like in this case, he is your new neighbour he may get offended and your relationship with your neighbour may get a bit awkward.

I hope his family know about it and they know what is good or bad for him and there is no need to interfere in his life. It's better that you leave him on his own and let his family decide what is best for him. These days people do not like interference in the life specially when they are not your friends and not in your family.

It was clear that the widow had no one to guide and accompany her in every activity she did, including gambling activities, For me, give him advice and understanding about the dangers of gambling, give him understanding and views on gambling addiction, if you are a close friend who he trusts.

Because he has children for responsibilities that he must carry out in the future, tell your friend that gambling is not the best solution to solve economic problems in his life, there is still a lot that can be done to be able to make money for his and his children's living expensesfuture.

For me, your intentions are good, do what you can to advise the widow and give her a good understanding, before she becomes addicted.

And also on the other hand not everyone is able to take advice well, or I mean if they are one of those people who do not like to be criticized by others regarding whatever they do then maybe they will say something unpleasant to you, especially on the other hand it is a new person in your environment in the sense that your social relationship is still too early with them. Yes, I also understand that maybe you care about them with the aim of helping them get out of the gambling activity through some of the suggestions you put forward, but in my opinion don't immediately take action like that, it's better to approach first, find out first whether the person is addicted or not and also if you can invite the person to chat to make sure and ask whether the activity has a bad impact or not on his life, and now after that you can give some effective advice.

And also on the other hand you have to find the right time to socialize with them especially with the aim of interfering with the activities they do, lest you be labeled as a neighbor who likes to interfere in other people's affairs. On the other hand, I am sure that one of the people in the family must have the right mindset and they will definitely know what to do to help overcome the addiction problem of one of their family members if they are really addicted.

This is a situation that should be handled with extreme caution. First you do not want to upset him and second you do not want to sound like you are poking your nose in his business because you are not his kid, nor a family member, nor an attorney and you literally have no right to advise him on whatever lifestyle/activity he has decided to adopt.

Loneliness maybe one of his reasons why he's always online and gambling. If you feel that he's getting addicted to gambling you should try and be his friend and rather than talking him out of his gambling habit look for an activity that the both of you can engage in that is not gambling-related. It would help reduce his time online.

i think it would be better for you if you don't interfere in his affairs, you should know that an old man will be very difficult to command or advise, or if you don't want to get involved further in his life, you can tell his child about the activities carried out by his father because only his son has the right to forbid his father from gambling.  Gambling is a person's choice, for those who have nothing to lose when gambling, the prohibition you say will only be considered a passing wind, it is better for you to just make him like a friend, and continue to promote moral support to him and convince him. to stop one day, but still with gentle words and without the impression of coercion.

Based from your story, I guess we're from the same country and I do hope that you don't try to approach them advising them to stop with their cockfighting and gambling leisures for your own safety  ;D

Just like you've mentioned, senior citizens are sensitive being told to especially when it comes to their leisures whether it's for drinking or gambling even with their family members. One way that I've found to openly discuss this without offending them is having a discussion outside their gambling leisures and try to direct the conversation to it and try to approach with your opinion on it. But still, I don't really recommend that you advise them anything as it is much better coming from their family members instead.

I think you have nothing to fear because I'm sure that grandpa is in control of himself when it comes to gambling. He doesn't do anything else so he just enjoys it. You said that he is a pensioner, which means that he worked for several years so that his children could become professionals, and I salute that.

You're not very close to him because he just moved, it's not good to criticize the hobby of someone you don't know very well yet. that you assume that he immediately becomes addicted to gambling. For me, it's normal for people at that age to become gamblers because they don't do anything in their lives anymore, they just enjoy the time they have left and I don't see anything wrong with that.

If he asks for your help then you should give him some advice. But if he's not ever asking for your help then you better let him do what he's doing.

He might even tell you to mind your own business and don't get involved with others affairs if you tell him something that he's asking for.

Or make a friendly conversation if you really want to give him some tips and from there you start the whole advising.

What is the amount of money that he Is investing in this activity? Are you sure he Is not keeping track of this activity and maybe he Is just investing a low amount (for him?)
If you are not really confident with him I would avoid any discussion on It... of course of you noticed some negative signs so yes, you should talk about It...

Unless you see him playing with large amounts of money that you know he cannot afford, just let him be. Monitor whenever you can to see if he's being responsible. Just because someone is gambling, doesn't mean they are addicted or going too far.

Well I think he is actually just doing it for fun and to keep himself busy since he has no one to engage with in activities or discussion but the fact that you said he is almost getting addicted to gambling seems far fetched though. Although as senior citizens and age factor, he would be very sensitive to your plight but you can still do it in a ca way buy just being jovial and enteracting with him as a kind of opinion on how to cut the time and funds he spends on gambling maybe you can introduce him to a flexible activity to while away his gambling time and if you must do this, possibly let his children know and seek  their consent so that if it happens he reports you to his children, they too are already aware and would overlook it without getting worried over it otherwise they might likely press some charges against you.

Op I think you need to get more closer to him to find out if he is addicted already to gambling before considering how to help him out otherwise you may decide to approach him but he may see it as an insult since you said he's doing things he never enjoyed doing at his young age. If you find out that he is an addited gambler, you can advise him by letting him know the dangerous effects of addiction, you can win his heart by pointing out the disadvantages of gambling to him I believe he will see the need to stop gambling if you give him a very good explanation.

You can also introduce him to a better place to start saving the money he uses for gambling once he sees needs to save, teach him things about Bitcoin who knows if he will be willing to learn and some day he may have the interest to invest in Bitcoin instead of gambling with his fund.

If you care enough about the person, then there is nothing wrong if you approach the person further so that you can give advice easily and the person can accept the advice you give. Because keep in mind that sometimes there are some gamblers who often show an arrogant, competitive, overconfident attitude and lack of empathy, so they often ignore people who try to advise them on their behavior.

And my advice is, in order to address your concerns about this person, then do your best to bring them to their senses. But remember this must be done with a good approach and strategy. because if not, apart from your efforts will fail but you will also be hated by the person. And if in the future your efforts fail, then it's okay not to interfere too much with other people's affairs and just pray from a distance that he quickly realizes from a bad behavior that he did. However, I hope that you can do this well.

I would worry more about the domestic service girl!

They say around these parts "an old dog barks lying down" if he doesn't get up, leave him alone. In any case, the mistake, if something happens, is his children's, good luck to the old man, which that someone like you cares.

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Just let him be, i know that deep inside that we do have that kind of concern but since its his money or do came from his children then we dont have the rights on telling him on what he should gonna do.
If he do find out that playing is really something that do enjoys him then its his choice. He knew that he could be able to sustain himself considering on having pension plus his children are already having those stable work on which there's something that he would worry about but instead he would be thinking about having those entertainment and enjoying himself into his retirement days.
We are really just that too judgmental on some point on which presuming that people would easily get that addicted and basing on what we do see then we could make out those kind of conclusive approach without even trying out to realize that there are people who are really just spending their money for fun but not really that totally addicted.

I don't see any reason you should go tell him anything except he is going worst by selling off his property or cars to gamble, the main goal is that if he finds pleasure doing it without becoming an addicted gambler then there's no essence meeting him or trying to interfere in his personal business except he opens a door for you to come into his personal affair before you could start pitching it little by little without using all arrogancy or boldness to tell him about what he is doing is wrong especially with his age bracket he don't mind calling 911 for you.

I would leave the old man alone,I believe he to have enough money to enjoy his weekends of betting and since he is active most of the time during weekends it means that he is not addicted yet although this does not mean he can be free of the threat of addiction.

If he finds joy in these online casinos why to stop such joy from him when we know that when people are pensioners they have not that much more to live so I would talk to him about the gambling in general and I would not stop him from enjoying life in these last years of his life.

Op,  according to your story you said the man is a newly packed-in neighbor, please how are you able to know that he is a gambling addict?,  just because you had some conversation with him and have seen him partake or often engage in gambling activities is not enough reason to classify him as getting addicted, he could be doing it for fun and nothing else, however, I would even suggest you let the man be and further watch his activities.

Old age is not the time to go astray in gambling so I will check if he is still in control or has gone astray and lost control of himself, I think I will get a hint if his health is deteriorating because he will keep up both in his health and finances and I will just let her children to advice him with this.

I will just anonymously tell his children that their father is gambling too much, but if I see that he is still okay I will just casually warn him by telling him my experience on going too much on addiction, old people sometimes listen to people who are close to him and show interest on what they are doing.

If he does that every weekend, give it to him. That's not a sign of him being addicted to it unless he starts doing it every day. And for a retiree, let him enjoy his money because you're meddling with what he does during his retirement. Better give him his deserved peace and do everything he wants to do.

He's got his own money, he's not touching others' money to sustain his cockfighting and lotto betting. So, just leave the old man on his own and you have said that he's got professional children. That means that leave that obligation to his children if ever that he's going to that point of being addicted.

Other than that, with these situations, we just have to enjoy every single thing that we have when we're old because you'll never know what will come by tomorrow and as long as he's also meddling with other people, that's fine whether he gamble every weekend either with lotto or cockfighting, horse racing or anything.

I always believe that I shouldn't put my nose on other people's business since I believe that this kind of action may start a conflict between individual.  An advice shouldn't be given when not asked, but a reminder in a respectful tone can be appreciated by people.

If are too concern on your neighbor, you should remind her in a very respectable way, or if you happen to know her family, you should tell her family and let her family be the one to talk with her about her gambling activity.

That's lovely idea. Go ahead with him and tell him about the disadvantages with his gambling so far. But since he has such money to care for himself and gamble, yes it is unwise to force or convince anyone to buy and invest in Bitcoin but nice to educate them on the merits that comes with the utilization of Bitcoin. Why not take this chance to throw that his way?

Buy those little SATs would be peng idea even if his kids are professionals, he can accumulate em and give them as birthday gifts to his grand children. This is just my idea though.

It’s better to bring this to the forum,because you will get the better advice from the more experienced people.Since his children was the professional now,So it my opinion he wa not suffering for the money perpesctive.Because the money was consider on giving the advice to this person.So the family not suffer with the money problem.So you should allow the senior citizen to live their life happily at the end of his life.Because with your words,he must be experienced gambler with huge skills in online casinos and cock fighting.Because we don’t know his experience will help to win the jackpot money,which help his children after his dead.

Maybe as a senior and widowed, perhaps he is just enjoying his life? And it seems from the way you portray him, he is rich with just a house helper with him all the time. So he can pay that house helper to be with him and so maybe he has nothing to do in his everyday life. His children are no longer with him, so just imagine you were like in the 70's and you are alone then of course you will think of some ways and maybe gambling is his escape in the last remaining days of his life.


Very hard to advise mate, it's really up to you. Maybe you can tell his children in a nice way about their parents playing and that your concern is that he might turn into a gambling addict, simply as that. So it's really up to them on how they are going to react, if they are professionals already maybe they know what is up already or perhaps they have an idea that their father is already on gambling.

I don't think the old man is addicted; he is just doing what he likes and what makes him cope with loneliness. As you said, he is a pensioner. I don't think that he will spend all the money he has, especially since he is alone now. He is just enjoying and entertaining himself; it can't be helped. But I get why you are concerned; he is old and alone. Maybe you could talk to him often or play with him the gambling games, such as card games or such.

Well, its good that you show concern over the old man, but I think it is not a good thing to force him to stop or to limit the old man, as I think the old man knows what his limit is. Just be there and watch over the old man and let him enjoy what is accompanying him. Just gambling is more popular with old age, and it is incredible that he is updated to online gambling; it is convenient for him.

As a senior citizen, they have experienced life, and actually there is no advise that you want to give them then they have not heard before or know themself. Let the senior citizen be and let him enjoy what is left of his life, the way he wants to enjoy it. Not everyone needs your advice every time, some people understand very well the consequences of their actions and still go ahead with it. It is not your duty to play advisor always.

I won't do that if I am in your position.
Simply because he is old and he knows what he is doing. And if he is living alone I don't think he will need much money for his own food and other expenses. His money will be received monthly as a pensioner so there's no chance he could spend all his pension.
What you can do? Just be a friend. In case he needs help, that's when you will come in. But, not to scold him about his mistakes, just give him some little tips on how to stretch his budget while still enjoying all his gambling habits.
Most of these guys don't have much to do and they are just enjoying themselves through that means. Let's not snatch that from them just because we think we are clean.

Maybe this is an issue that is not important to some people because it will only waste time, energy and thoughts. but here I strongly support the steps you want to take and this shows that you still have a sense of empathy as a human being who has noble values, likes to help, cares about each other and is balanced. And here you already know that senior citizens are "sensitive" to advice and criticism, especially if the person who tries to criticize and give advice is someone younger than him because he thinks that he is more experienced than you, so it is not impossible if later the person will ignore and dismiss all the criticism and suggestions that you throw at him.  But still, age and experience cannot guarantee that the person is mature enough to do everything including gambling. So before you take further steps to try to advise or try to make him realize the alarming activities that he has been doing, it would be better if you give an understanding of a saying that says "don't look at who is talking, but look at what he is talking about". And I am sure, if the person can fully understand the content and meaning of the saying, then he will voluntarily listen well to all forms of criticism and suggestions that you give him.

I say let him enjoy. I don't think he has or would have that many problems in terms of money due to his pension plus his kids, but it might be better to let them know about it though.  They might reduce or manage the money involved he uses in playing, but it's probably a lot better imo than letting them discover he needs money for doing something else (which probably increases every now and then due to increasing frequency). If he doesn't take it well, then it might be better to just tell his children. Might seem like we are throwing the problem to them, which we are, but it's a lot better to find it sooner than later imo. They'd pretty much find a middle ground anyway since they're much more open to the details of the flow of money involved.

Yes, they have enough knowledge at this age. Maybe deep down, they know this is not good for them. But they want to enjoy what they like, even if it's wrong. It's completely valid in this case. We will also fall into that situation later, yearning for things our youth cannot do. Because time cannot come back for us to do that, let's do it while we can, even if we get older. What we need to do is help them silently monitor or, in the worst case, peacefully resolve the consequences they cause.

I guess your neighbor is just having a good time again he's a senior and he spent all of his time in too much working and that's the time he just having fun his life, those gambling his doing is just his leisure time or just hobby I guess in my country those are the common things they are doing just to relax like that, introducing him gambling in crypto is vague to him so I guess best ideal is to let him what he doing.
Again those incentives is just enough to their needs or unless their children giving them funds more than that. Base on my experience with the people surround me it's just their fun time.

It cannot be denied that sometimes we feel reluctant to give advice to older people, because there are some of them who don't like hearing advice from younger people, or they are closed-minded about what other people say. But this may only be a few. However, we do need to be careful in every set of words when giving advice, so that we don't directly appear as if we are patronizing them. This is a bit difficult indeed.

So, he lives alone, right?
I thought, is it because he feels lonely? So his gambling activities are done to fill his time because he feels lonely? Sometimes we don't know the reason why someone enters the world of gambling. However, if you look at the situation, if he only gambles on weekends, it means this is to fill his time. Even though the weekend should be spent with his family, because he is alone, he might feel bored and that is one way to make him happy.

but it's true. Gambling, if done continuously and uncontrolled, can later become an addiction, and of course this will have bad consequences. especially at a young age, it might have an impact on his health. So, maybe you can just remind yourself to keep yourself safe so you don't get caught up in gambling continuously and only do it to fill your limited free time on weekends. not become a routine, and know when to stop. This may not be easy to get rid of if it has become a habit. but actually, maybe your children need to know this so that they can at least spend time together on the weekend. Even though he can't stop it 100%, at least he can reduce and manage his gambling time.

You cant teach an old dog new tricks, it would be more dangerous if he were drinking too much then something fairly harmless.   I dont think he is in much danger and not from anything he has not seen and experience prior so maybe he could teach you something rather then vice versa.  I would help out someone old with only the things they hadnt seen before, maybe certain tech aspects and security perhaps.

I don't know what's the big deal there. Why not just enjoy your talks without being advanced thinking about what will happen in the future?

He should have more knowledge of you dealing with gambling addiction. Since that old man is your newly moved neighbor you didn't even know how long he's been into on that gambling activity. It's not that he will turn his gambling habit into addiction or maybe he was already there before.

Just listen to his story whenever engaged with each other. Don't interfere with how should he manage his gambling habit.

If you have got an approach you consider good and a good strategy to manage his his gambling activity I think it will be nice to share with him but know that it will come with initial resistance after which if he tries it out nd it works he will definitely be grateful.

He may be doing it just for the fun because it's possible he uses only spare cash or funds for such so I think if you advise him and he it works he will listen so that he doesn't continually loose on the games. One thing about the fun in gambling is that you may enjoy it so much that you wouldn't know when you are becoming addicted especially for a retired person who does only little and have enough time to spare.

I would say that you carefully approach him and try to know him a bit better before drawing some conclusions on whether you should giving him advice on what to do or not, because in the end it is important to know whether your advice could make him feel upset or not. There are senior citizens who do not like to be told what they are supposed to do.
Once you get to know him a bit more, then I would advise you to make your own judgment and advice him if you feel it is the right thing to do, one is always supposed to be led by ones own principles.
If I was in your position, for example, I think I would indeed step forward and talk to him about how to protect his bankroll and his mental health, but there will be always people who would not care about it, because it is not their Problem.

It is on you, Op.

Do you noticed something as a bad effect of his gambling activity? If not, then let him be because maybe that's his way to entertain himself. Moreover, as a senior living alone (with his helper) away from his family, you really need an activity to spend your time and enjoy to prevent thinking of bad thoughts like the feeling of being neglected.

So just be a neighbor that he can talk to. You can give advice especially if you're a gambler as well but don't make it to a point that you seem interfering to his business.

actually this problem is not that important because there is has nothing to do with you @OP and this is their personal matter, but if you are worried about your neighbor there is no harm in giving advice but with wise words so as not to be easily offended, but it seems like this woman he was just lonely, he used the money for his personal enjoyment, maybe if he wasn't lonely and had someone to chat with, the woman would be able to forget about gambling gradually, someone who was familiar with gambling when he was young, in old age would definitely want to do it again occasionally just for fun. becomes entertainment for those who experience loneliness in old age so it actually doesn't matter even if the woman gambles because she may not be chasing losses or becoming addicted because her goal may be just for entertainment.

   -  I don't think you need to advise him anymore because he is just enjoying his life; he has finished or fulfilled his job as a father to his children.

As far as I can see, gambling is just a hobby; just let him do what he wants to do, and I also think that he is satisfied and happy with the
life he has reached and for his children as well, in my opinion. Then you know that most senior citizens are sensitive, and do you think they should take gambling seriously? I don't think so.

As you said the lady is a widow and she is living on pension money. He is living with his children with the salary of a caretaker of pension money but in this way he can not only lead a normal life but more to bring up the children and educate them well thinking that maybe he is at such a stage of age that gambling is his profession. Chosen as  If he can master gambling properly and gamble the right way then I think he can provide a good financial support to his family from here. As that old lady is your neighbor it is your responsibility to help her as much as you can. I am not talking about financial help as he has chosen gambling as his profession but you will give him as much knowledge and help as you can about gambling and hope he will benefit greatly.

You have a point, You can approach him politely or talked with him about on what he's doing but dont give him an advice if you're not asked for it. Maybe what you supposed to do as a concern neighbor is to check him if he's okay or you can accompany him if he needs someone to talk to, I think playing gambling is one of his coping mechanism because he just misses his children or possible he is sad. You're right, mostly senior citizens is very sensitive in everything that's why i suggest to not interfere in his hobby. Just let him enjoy his retirement life.

Nobody is above correction. He is a senior citizen doesn't mean that he knows everything. For me, if I see anyone going astray and I have the opportunity to help I will gladly do that. If you observe that he is getting addicted, as a responsible gambler you should give some advice. But this will depend on some factors like:

1- You have to be sure that your observation is true so that it will not be as if you are insulting him. Ensure you observe him very well to ascertain if he is indeed suffering from gambling disorder.

2- Your involvement in his personal life will also depend on the culture of your area. Some societies are highly individualistic. Everybody minds their business and you don't have the right to intrude on people's matters. But if your location upholds interaction with neighbors, then you have good footings to advise him.

3- You shouldn't just start advising him without making him your friend. Let there be a relationship between both of you before you go on with the advice about his addiction.

4- Advise him respectfully. Choose your words carefully and control the tone of your voice. Don't forget that the elderly can be easily irritated and feel insulted. You should also be ready for any response, don't be offended too.

Knowing that he is very active in online casinos and gambling, I thought that he was already addicted to gambling.
I'd see his situation as all about making himself enjoy instead of getting bored alone. In fact, his children are professionals already which means that he never worries about their future aside from pleasing himself and doesn't bother to tell his children because probably they will stop him.

You either tell him not to really get into addiction or neglect his health but suggesting he will stop gambling, it surely doesn't work.

You're doing well to notice these things. It's what neighbors do, right? They protect each other. Your neighbor is a senior and deserves to enjoy his years, money, and time. But enjoyment has limited. It's no longer fun when it becomes addiction, a major issue. You must step in, but do so carefully. You don't rush in and tell him his problem. No, that's not how you do it. You talk, you converse, you build trust. You must be the expert he doesn't know he needs. Share stories of how internet gambling can get out of hand and how it's meant to keep you playing and betting.

I don't think old people doing stuff means it's something they missed when they were young. I started betting at a young age and I have no plans of stopping even when I grow old.

You seem to have developed a deep friendship so maybe there is a way to find out if he is betting small amounts or something big already. Because betting regularly with minimal amounts is not worrisome. You can approach him when he is in a good mood and do it like you're just joking or when both of you are laughing or having fun.

Provided he is indeed betting huge amounts then the best thing is to just simply tell him the truth. The house rules and everything. You can also persuade him into sports betting in order for him to limit his bets. Sports betting also needs time since doing some research is needed. Ask him about his favorite sports and his teams and athletes.

As he is not yet addicted but on the way to becoming addicted so at this point if possible he should be given an early idea of addiction otherwise he may go astray. If he is given advance ideas he can keep himself very safe there. But I don't know how long he has been gambling. If he has gambling habit for a long time then I think it will not have any harmful effect for him but if gambling for a short period of time then chances of him getting addicted will increase. Since he is single, gambling can be a good platform for him to pass the time. Since he is gambling with his own money, no one has the right to say anything to him.

This is about the concern of someone who sees his neighbor often gambling and wants to remind him about the dangers of gambling, especially since he is a widow and a retiree. The approaches may vary, but what is clear is that you can invite him to do other things that have nothing to do with gambling, such as sports, gardening or cooking so that he has other activities that keep him active throughout the day. I think her children will also agree if they see that their mother can do things that are more useful for her old age than just spending time gambling.

Maybe it's not a criticism but a suggestion so that he wants to do other more useful things. There must be something that can attract his attention so he wants to start trying to do it. You can ask someone else to help you and if he has started doing it, make sure he keeps doing it regularly so he can divert his attention from gambling.

He already made it this far, what is there to be worried about? He is getting money in his old age and even his children are doing their part, this old man is probably making more money than I am  :D so leave him be, he can look like an addict, I mean every gamblers are always a straight up addict to those who don't like gambling until they reveal their gambling strategy.

You should only feel concerned if you start noticing a change of mood, if he is always happy and friendly like he used to then things are going fine, old men likes doing math in their heads, he must have know how much he is getting every month and how much he can keep risking with gambling, at that older age what else will he even use money for? So I don't expect such person to be taking unnecessary risks.

You stated that he is gambling every weekend, that's even better than those gambling almost everyday, I don't see how you know that he is an addicted gambler, you noticing him to be an active gambler every weekend doesn't make him a addicted gambler, you need to move closer to him as a gambler for you to know if he is becoming an addict or not, as of right now, all you have is guessing.

In my country, we are not used to communicating with our neighbors too deeply, besides, it will be difficult to advise someone who is older than us. I know your intentions are good, but you just need to pay attention to developments. If you are a good neighbor, you should not interfere too much in other people's privacy and pleasure. , as long as he can still control it and within reasonable limits just to have fun.

We will never know why he gambles, there must be a reason that we may never know in detail, so I think it's enough to pay attention to him, after all there are still his children who might be able to help him if he ends up addicted, if he just lives alone without his children maybe we can help him as neighbors until he really needs our help, sometimes in life you have to have manners for older people, at least just respect them.  ;)

It is important that you investigate whether his children really do not know that he is playing in online casinos. Once you know this, you will need to talk to him to find out what his sources of income are and how much money he earns. Once you have done these investigations, the next step is for you to tell him that you also play and ask him to show you how he plays, this will allow you to know how often he plays, how many hours he plays and how much money he spends playing. after you finish all the investigation and have proof that his children really don't know that he gambles in casinos, knowing that he earns little retirement money, knowing that he keeps putting all his retirement money in the casino

So the next step will be to get in touch with the children and tell them everything, it doesn't matter if the children and elderly people get angry or hate you, the most important thing is that you were honest and told them what you saw and showed them proof. Then whether or not they believe it is up to them. You did your part as a friend or as a neighbor of the old man. a true friend is one who takes harsh measures when necessary to save his friend, a good person, does everything to save other people, even if it means hating him. good luck with this case

NB: elderly people should not get involved in gambling, because they are more likely to get heart disease, any strong emotion could lead to their death. take this into consideration

Old people barely take advice from people who are younger than them because they have the believe sometimes that they are more experienced and have seen more of life than the young person giving them advice. So, if this senior citizen is a stubborn person and one of those kinds of old people, your advice will not be considered, and you will just be wasting your time. Instead of advising him to stop, try to introduce him to other kinds of activities that can be fun for him at his age.

I dont really know how old he is because you did not mention it but judging from your topic it seems like he is quite old and it seems like you dont need to do that.

firstly he is old enough to have income from his pension and on the one hand his son is well established and can always give money to his parents so you dont need to worry about addiction because even if he gets addicted he is old enough to get worse I mean even if he is addicted he will not do things that are beyond reasonable limits so you dont need to worry and just let him be because he just wants to enjoy his old age by having the pleasure of placing bets at home, sitting back and relaxing while waiting for his old age to run out.

and what you have to do is just monitor him. If he might be addicted to doing things that cross the line, its better if you give him good advice, but that rarely happens to elderly gamblers.

Not sure if you are the best person to approach him on the subject. Since you only know him for a very short time he might become defensive and this could ruin the relationship between you two forever. I worked in the past with elderly people and I can tell you that they can be very stubborn and once there is an issue they will rarely change their view and try to make peace. You won't believe how much drama there is in retirement homes and that even people who are above 80 will stop talking to each other because of very minor things. My best advice would be to try and get some contact information to his children and have a chat with them first before talking to your neighbor directly. Since the children are already old, they should know how long their dad has been gambling and if there was an issue before. If his children think there is an issue it should be also them that talk to their dad directlly. It's much better to have a serious talk with your own family than with a stranger.

I would prefer not to interfere in his business, namely regarding his gambling activities, unless he is the one asking for advice or has a very close relationship so that the approach and advice given can be well received because usually advice from people who are not close can actually damage the relationship because they don't have closeness. so you understand that advice has a good purpose.

However, if you still want to give advice then start by having a good relationship and opening up a conversation about the gambling he is doing until finally you will have the opportunity to tell him the importance of continuing to gamble carefully so he doesn't get caught up in addiction, but because he is a pensionary, gambling is his activity which can provide pleasure because he has very few other activities

Leave the person alone, at least in his old age. )) He dedicated his whole life to someone, family, children, work, and so on, and now he just wants to play the lotto and play the slots, there’s nothing wrong with that, and you don’t know what his gaming budget is, maybe he’s in spends the day on 5 bucks per game, many retirees spend more on beer and cigarettes, so I don’t see any problem in this...

Even myself wont really be that confident on telling someone on what they should gonna do, its their money then its their full rights on what they should gonna do with it. Just like on what i have
said earlier is that we should really that minding on our own business and wont really be touching up others. Yes, we do have that kind of in concern towards others but we should really know about the boundaries or limitation because there are things which are supposed to be left alone and wont really be that ideal that you should really make some involvement.
If he decided to spend up his money on gambling then let him be, you arent the ones who would really be wrecked up on the end but it seems that he could be able to sustain his gambling leisure
then its really just that right that he does have that capacity on doing so and since he's senior and he do have that monthly allotment then it is really just that fine.

If he is your neighbor then it is your duty to give him proper advice he has no one to help him maybe he is struggling to make ends meet with pension money so he tries to solve his financial problems by gambling. As you said he is very active in cock fighting so he may have a lot of knowledge about this sport so he chose this sport. If you can control yourself it is better if you don't become an addict You can talk to him and educate him little by little about the pros and cons of gambling. It is difficult to master everything in old age given the right advice he may find some other way than gambling.

I agree with many of users are saying here:
1. It's not your business.
2. Old people always think they're better than the young generation.

For users who are saying @OP need to warn @OP's neighbor because he might addicted to gambling, I just want to say "anything that you think good for you is not always good for the other people, because life is a choice"

So it's she or he? there's only one person in this discussion. :D

You can give her advice about managing her gambling activities. After all, she had already retired and should no longer need to gamble. She can enjoy her old age well and doing other things will be more beneficial for her.

Maybe the lottery still seems safer than other gambling games. But if this is not managed, she could spend all her savings to buy lottery tickets. You could teach her to allocate some funds to buy her lottery tickets every week or month. It would be better for her not to spend so much money buying lottery tickets.

Or you can talk to the children about their mother's habit of buying lotteries and cockfights. This is so that the children know and can give other suggestions to their mother. Indeed, advising older people requires caution because they are more sensitive. So it looks like you need help from his children because you are his neighbor. Or you could leave it like that because you're afraid to offend him by giving him advice.

The OP's thinking may be a good one in wanting to help others, but in this case, I'm not sure whether the man is a gambling addict or simply lonely, so they seek help for the fun of gambling games. Because I also came into contact with a similar case, but on the contrary, the person I came into contact with taught me that I should not be exposed to gambling games much but spend more time with people around.

And going back to the OP's story, I just want to suggest that you regularly discuss understanding better with your neighbor, to know better and why he likes to gamble, and definitely need advice if he's deep into gambling.

I don't expect the old man to listen to you, I mean how old are you? Who are you to advice someone who have take responsibility on his family through the days of his life before he get to this final stage of his life? It's in old men to not listen to anyone younger than them, so good luck in advicing such person.

And how did you get to know that he is suffering from addiction? I won't care much about becoming a responsible gambler at such age after doing my best on my kids and family, it's time I don't need to worry about the future anymore, so let me be an addict.

That man can be going through the best days of his life with gambling, something he might not be doing when he was young, mind your own business OP because there is nothing left for this man to lose, and also there is nothing left for him desire for, he might sleep and not wake up tomorrow,  I pray he live more longer though, but at such age there isn't anything left worth chasing.

Let him have the fun while he still can.

That's exactly what I thought, feels like his neighbor is having a hard time and feeling lonely because he's the only one left in his house together with his caretaker. Maybe gambling is one of the reason so that he can't feel the loneliness that he felt.  If i were OP, I will talk to him at first and I'll never give him an advice as long as he didn't request for it. Also OP may consider of inviting his neighbor to do some other physical activities so that his neighbor's attention will focus on other activities rather than gambling, also to lessen the use of mobile devices which affects his neighbor's health knowing that he is a senior citizen.

Op has provided a pretty good place for us to exchange ideas in terms of finding solutions to stop or avoid gambling. Although we have good intentions to help them but on the other hand basically it is quite difficult for us to know whether they experience problems as a result of this gambling or not at all because they come only to seek pleasure. Of course for this problem only the gamblers themselves know because they feel the impact, and maybe we can also find out a little by approaching the person and asking whether this activity causes a lot of problems in his life or not.

And also yes as you said there are also some of them who come because they are lonely and just looking for fun. Of course that is true, if you are lonely there are basically many other alternatives that you can choose if it is just for fun, rather than gambling and having a lot of financial problems. I think your first step should be to socialize with your neighbors before you interfere in their personal affairs including their gambling activities, lest you be called a person who likes to interfere with other people's affairs, and also on the other hand it is better at least your relationship with them can also be more harmonious.

I think for me, the better approach would be to ask him first if how long he is been gambling because it seems you didn't know this yet. You shouldn't jump to a conclusion of giving an advice without investigating things first. If his response is he already been gambling for a long time now, then you shouldn't worry about him because he already knows what he is doing. He might be even better than you, and it looks like he is the ones that should give you advices :D.

Another thing is, he is already old and he has a pension plus a successful children. I'm sure his children will also let him enjoy his small time left on the earth. Money is not a problem here.

I think you just leave him alone. He does not need your advice because we all know that senior citizens needs to enjoy the remaining days of their lives with what they have either they were pensioners or not. Since that old guy you are talking about is a pensioner and has stable source of funds or income, I think there is no problem with that.

At old age, our bad habit gets worse while our good habits get better. I don't believe people pick a habit at old age. It's always a habit that's there but suppressed somehow. The widower didn't pick that gambling habit at old age. He merely found solace in it since the wife who probably was checkmating him had transited to the great beyond. The old man is possibly thinking that he's catching fun of whatever is left of his life now and thinking he's enjoying himself by that past indulgence.

Senior citizens are like that, they do the things they missed doing and enjoyed doing when they were young, and most of the time they overdo them, in the case of your neighbor this is not something new, since there's nothing to worry about anymore, there's money in, his children are all professionals so since he has nothing to worry about where to get the money he just pours everything and live life to the fullest.

We all going to get old and we want to remember the things that we enjoy and want to keep doing them until we are old enough to do this, so I recommend to OP to just guide him, the most important thing is he will not neglect his health and his health will not deteriorate because of gambling.

According to OP's story, it looks like the widowed senior citizen is already enjoying his pension, so gambling is obviously just a hobby for him. And in my opinion, it is not in his condition that he has an addiction to gambling.

So, maybe OP is just misunderstanding what he sees in that senior citizen. So it's better for him to keep to himself what he thinks about the old man, and besides, Niot's condition seems to be fine in my opinion as well, if we base it on the op's story.

In my opinion you should approach talking about gambling and asking him what is his take regards it. So you share your personal experience as well, what your family think about, talk about losses and winnings, so at some point he will start about his as well, what can give you a better picture of how gambling is affecting his life.

If your conclusion is that gambling is being potentially harmful to him and that his family has really no clue of what he is doing with the money, then you can go ahead and start advising him to talk to his sons and to be find alternative activities to spend his time and money.

Of course, there is always some chance he won't like a stranger telling what he should do, but I guess you will have done your part to help him and should feel proud of yourself for that.

That's right, I think there is a misunderstanding here. OP immediately assumed that the senior citizen was becoming addicted to gambling when he noticed that the senior citizen was active in gambling.
The person is retired and and has a pension. For me it's clear that this is just entertainment because his/her children have finished school and are also professionals as well.

Well, if both of you are getting along really fine as you said, I don't see any reason why you should hold your advice back if you really think that he needs it, atleast, the advice will not only help him (if he did listen and do as you advised him), but this also will help you learn more about the type of person he truly is, since he is a man only got to meet recently. If he takes your advice well and didn't pick any offence or whatsoever, then, that is a sign that, he is indeed someone that you are freely communicate with. But if he picks offence or tries to act defensive, then you know that you will have to be careful of what and what you should say to him whenever you both are discussing, to avoid him getting angry with you or so.

So yeah, I personally advice you to go ahead and advice him, as long as you are very sure he needs the advice, a simple advice doest harm anybody after all, but if he actually did find your advice offensive and possibly got angry, or acts defensive, then just apologize to him and leave him alone to himself and his decisions.

I do not think that the person is struggling in meeting his daily needs.  He has kids that can help him anytime plus his pension.  I think the person have surplus of fund, possibly the reason why the guy does not mind losing his money on a gambling activity to have fun.

It is not our duty to give our neighbor a proper advice if the person is not asking about it.  It will often end up in misunderstanding if we give them advice when they feel they don't need it.  Besides the person just move in, so the chance of being a close friend is far from possible.



I highly agree with you, worst case scenario the person might feel that the person giving an unsolicited opinion is trying to meddle with his life.

Perhaps if is something that he has been doing for many years even when he was young, that means he is fully aware of the possible risk involves while gambling, perhaps if he was not affected by gambling during his youth age I believe that it will not affect him in anyway because is not his first time of gambling.

Or perhaps just like you said, he could be doing it to have some fun and also as a reminder of how he was doing it when he was young, but however if you feel that he is becoming an addict in the gambling were as he is spending all his money on gambling perhaps you could advise him or instead bring the notice to his children in other for them to guide there father.

Well, I don't remember op mentioning that he has contact of his children, he only said that they all have grown and become professionals. You might want to ask how then did op know that he man's children have grown and become professionals if he doesn't have their contacts, my answer is, perhaps, the man told him(op), cus op did not also mention that the children stays with their father, he(op) said that the man stays alone with a house help.

But on a generally terms though, you are right, if the op did have the contact of the man's children, he can indeed contact them and tell them to caution their father, that their father is wasting too much money on gambling.
But also think about this, what if the man's children doesn't know that their father is gambling, and the man himself doesn't want his children to know that he gambles, don't you think op calling his children to report to them that their father is wasting to much money on gambling, will be op invading the man's privacy, which could result in the man becoming seriously angry with op, and possibly consider op to be a too loose a person to trust and share secret with?

Giving him some piece of advice will not make him feel bad as long as you do it not on an offensive way. Just tell him that he might be losing a lot from gambling and that his health might be affected in the end. While we know that gambling is part of entertainment, but if you know you are heading into gambling addiction, you are not only putting your money into waste but you are also putting your own emotional and mental state into danger. So never gamble more than you can afford to lose, and always see to it that when you gamble, never expect for huge profits but face the fact that when you gamble, you are going to lose your money. While it’s okay to lose, but only lose the amount that you will never regret in the end.

As long as it doesn't affect his finances and his supply or income, I'll say you let him be but its wise to have his children know about his gambling nature so they can route a different approach to the way they take care of him.

Most advanced people don't have much concerns about things that generate money and materials anymore as they consider themselves successful, having trained their children to become professionals and all that, what those millenials now require is peace of mind and joy. If gambling gives him that joy without any form of damage to his finances then he can be allowed to enjoy the years of his life with it.

The problem with most of the older gamblers is that since they have better experiences in gambling, so they know more how to deal with gambling than those who are only starting to gambling. With that, it’s really impossible that your advices will be heard. However, it also depends on how you are going to deliver your advice. If you advise like a close friend, probably he will try to listen and consider your advice especially if he knows he is going far with his gambling habit. But if you advise him like you know better than him in gambling, you are only wasting your time because once he feels offended and sense that you are already over interfering on his own gambling business, then your advice will be useless and will only be taken for granted.

Maybe for now, let him do what he wants to do with his life. Anyway, he's a pensioner and his games are like his companion these days.
Try giving such piece of advice if he asks for it or give hints that he needs help about his gambling habits.
But without showing any indication that he needs help, don't offer it. As you said, he will just ignore those words.
He is enjoying his senior years, and maybe this activity is helping him to stay sane and active with life.

You can always make suggestions to someone, however it sounds like the guy is a bit older and by that point in life is less likely to take onboard the opinions of others in matters like this. You might find that he is doing it out of sheer boredom and to pass away some time, but you also don't necessarily know his financial situation to make certain judgements. Maybe he's playing for cents at a time and keeps within sensible boundaries every day. Even if his children were to find out, there may be no influence that they can have over his activities because they cannot be looking after him at all hours of the day. You're unlikely to change his habits, maybe you can steer him towards less expensive gambling or even free pursuits instead.

Considering the situation in question, it wouldn't be wrong to state that the person is addicted to gambling but how actively he gambles is also a criterion that needs to be analyzed well to determine at what stage this addiction is. I don't think there is a need to warn someone who has turned to gambling probably out of boredom because he lives alone if he gambles in a way that doesn't put a strain on his own budget. However, if this person is negatively affected financially and psychologically due to gambling I think he needs advice and warnings regarding this.

Also, I think this person may need advice on this depending on his age and his level of gambling addiction. As I mentioned, if he isn't negatively affected financially and psychologically by this addiction there will be no harm in him continuing gambling. However, if gambling negatively affects this person's psychology and financial situation I definitely think he should be adviced about it.

Is gambling interfering with his other activities? Probably not.
If this was a situation where a man doesn't take care of his children, wastes all the money he works for and there's not much left for the family, can't afford to buy stuff and has to ask others for help, yet he still gambles, it would be a good idea to talk to him. In case of your neighbor, he's bored. He doesn't work anymore, doesn't need many things. He's trying to win to get some emotions into his boring life, maybe he wants to leave some money to his children and thinks he hasn't got enough time to earn that, but might get lucky and win it? I wouldn't say anything to him. Maybe casually ask him how he's doing and if he recently won anything.

First, we first look at and investigate what the case is. if he can afford to lose because of his gambling, why should I forbid him. That doesn't mean I don't care at all, but I also have to look at several other aspects. Based on the first story, this old mother was lonely and was only accompanied by a servant. Maybe, that's why he's looking for entertainment without having to do activities outside the home or visit somewhere.
At this point, we don't know for sure why the old mother loves gambling so much. there are many factors, and I have already mentioned one of them.

Secondly, if it turns out that the old man has stable finances, plus gets other income from the share given by his child, for example. That means, this old lady doesn't feel worried about the activities she carries out in her gambling. Maybe, he understands better than us and is able to manage the expenses he has to incur. in particular, those related to gambling. as I said at the beginning, basically we don't know what the real situation is. and most importantly, if he gets pleasure from his gambling activities, why should we prohibit it, after all he has the right to his own pleasure.
So, before you give advice or provide education, you can first get to know it more closely. so that you know how far he is in his gambling. besides, if it doesn't harm him, it means he's fine. If, however, the situation is not like what I said, a persuasive approach is a better first step before we judge someone. After that, especially if you know what happened, then you can act according to the situation and your conscience.

I agree with your opinion, we can only give advice if he asks for it but if your relationship is very close to the old widow then you can communicate the gambling problem to suggest gambling with limits and avoid the effects of gambling addiction. I feel sorry for the old widow who earns a monthly pension but her children don't necessarily send her funds every month. If he doesn't have other income then it won't be enough to use to gamble every day because he also depends on buying other necessities using those funds.

I wouldn't interfere.

There's a lot of these situations where you feel like you should do something but don't know if it's the right thing to do and if that person really wants it.
Just look at the state of that person. Don't try to protect someone you don't know from bad things that aren't happening but could.

Old guy is having fun. I bet he's doing it for longer than you so you'll only make a fool of yourself trying to give advice to an old gambler.

Right. even though for example we already have good intentions to help them but basically if they don't show signs of needing help then yes we can't do anything, and if we force them to follow some advice from us maybe they will think of us as people who like to interfere with other people's business. Therefore, a better first step is if indeed your socialization relationship with that person is not too close then do whatever it takes to make your relationship closer and one of them might be by always greeting them. I think this method is quite effective to do, with that I think then you will be able to find out whether they need help or not.

The impact  of gambling is huge and casinos never see who their target is, young or old it doesn't matter because of course the control is on the gambler himself, if he can't impose any limits on his gambling then obviously they will enter a worrying addiction, and I hope the old widow realizes soon that this activity does not have a positive impact on her life,  but will only cause a lot of problems, that's clear.

He may still be fine and doesn't gamble as much even though he has more free time. You can watch him from a distance to see if there are any changes in his health. If something has changed and his house helper asks you for help, you can help him and contact his children. Maybe he felt lonely because he didn't have his children or grandchildren visiting often, so when he saw gambling, he found something entertaining. But you can visit more often so he can chat with you. He can also reduce his gambling time. I think an older person needs other people he can chat with so that he doesn't feel bored living in his old days rather than just gambling all day.