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Title: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Fivestar4everMVP on April 23, 2024, 06:35:44 PM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..
https://talkimg.com/images/2024/04/23/jeFxG.jpeg

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Oshosondy on April 23, 2024, 06:44:13 PM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: mindrust on April 23, 2024, 06:50:47 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

No I haven’t lied to anybody like that before.

Your story and the other guy’s tweet are pretty awful imo. I don’t know if you are still gambling like that but you should probably seek professional help. The other guy on twitter too. I see no difference between your story and locking yourself in a room and drink alcohol/smoking. See how it looks now? That’s what we call “having an addiction”

If gambling prevents you from doing your daily duties then gambling is not a fun event for you anymore. It became an addiction and it needs to be treated.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Yatsan on April 23, 2024, 07:07:09 PM
We all lie for a reason; either to protect ourselves or protect other people from getting hurt. On the given example that the man lied on his fvorite time, it is subjective in the first place. There is a whole lot of definition for enjoyment and that might just confused him with his favorite moment, I assume that he enjoys both of it, still. I did the same thing before but on a different extent. I was asked if I am gambling or engaging to such activities by my girlfriend and I lied saying no. Not to gaslight but I think it is a personal thing. As long as you are not being problematic and still in control of your habits, then things are fine still to hide it for your own reason. Even with partners there are things you keep private from one another simply because you two still have different lives.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Fivestar4everMVP on April 23, 2024, 07:09:02 PM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
Naah Naah, honestly, even if my wife will like it, I personally will not want her to get near anything gambling, I am an introvert and like to do many things alone, in fact, I enjoy doing almost every thing I do, alone, except when we are watching a movie or we go out on a date, even when I choose to do the cooking, and she comes around to help, normally, that should be fun right? But I see that as disturbance and would possibly abandon the cooking for her to do if she refuse to leave me alone, this is the kind of person I am.

But then, on the other, my wife is not a gambling person at all, in fact, she hate gamblers with passion, she's one of this who peceive gamblers are irresponsible people, it's the reason why I've never allowed her to get to know of my involvement in gambling, she will be heart broken if she ever learn that I go gamble.
Many a times I've lost money in business and told her, when she learns that I gamble, she may turn around to accuse me of losing those money to gambling and lying to her that I lost the money in business, that exactly the kind of person she is, and not like I can't make her change that perspective or attitude if I want to, If I really wanted to, I can present gambling to her in a way that she will think that I just decided to start gambling and want to carry her along, I can do that and I bet she will like it, but nah, doing that will end up ruining my gambling peace of mind.
Lol.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Su-asa on April 23, 2024, 07:16:29 PM
We all lie for a reason; either to protect ourselves or protect other people from getting hurt. On the given example that the man lied on his fvorite time, it is subjective in the first place. There is a whole lot of definition for enjoyment and that might just confused him with his favorite moment, I assume that he enjoys both of it, still. I did the same thing before but on a different extent. I was asked if I am gambling or engaging to such activities by my girlfriend and I lied saying no. Not to gaslight but I think it is a personal thing. As long as you are not being problematic and still in control of your habits, then things are fine still to hide it for your own reason. Even with partners there are things you keep private from one another simply because you two still have different lives.
Lucking yourself in a room because you want to gamble so that other people close to you will not know what you are doing is a kind of getting addicted slowly, and lieing is not also exempted. Sometimes people lie for a reason though either to protect themselves or others from getting hot.
I also thought so, if the gambler didn't enjoyed being close to his wife he wouldn't have said what he said to his wife but I still have a doubt that the love he has for gamble is the same he has for his wife. Exactly, your partner is not supposed to know everything but 95% of what's happening is what she's supposed to be aware of.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: milewilda on April 23, 2024, 07:23:58 PM
We all lie for a reason; either to protect ourselves or protect other people from getting hurt. On the given example that the man lied on his fvorite time, it is subjective in the first place. There is a whole lot of definition for enjoyment and that might just confused him with his favorite moment, I assume that he enjoys both of it, still. I did the same thing before but on a different extent. I was asked if I am gambling or engaging to such activities by my girlfriend and I lied saying no. Not to gaslight but I think it is a personal thing. As long as you are not being problematic and still in control of your habits, then things are fine still to hide it for your own reason. Even with partners there are things you keep private from one another simply because you two still have different lives.
Lucking yourself in a room because you want to gamble so that other people close to you will not know what you are doing is a kind of getting addicted slowly, and lieing is not also exempted. Sometimes people lie for a reason though either to protect themselves or others from getting hot.
I also thought so, if the gambler didn't enjoyed being close to his wife he wouldn't have said what he said to his wife but I still have a doubt that the love he has for gamble is the same he has for his wife. Exactly, your partner is not supposed to know everything but 95% of what's happening is what she's supposed to be aware of.
Hiding something isnt that bad yet there are things which you are really just that tending to avoid for you not to make out some kind of argumentation specially if your partner is really that against with gambling
then you would definitely be considering on trying out to avoid but on the time that you are already keeping it on the exaggerated manner on which locking yourself on the CR just because you've been dealing up with something in correlated with gambling or some sort then this is really that showing that kind of addiction but not really that much but as you do go far ahead then you would really be going into that path.
If you are already that doing something like this and other possible hiding behavior then sooner or later your partner would really be catching you up and its better to make yourself that trying out
slowly tell your partner about it so that you wont really be having that kind of hiding for the rest of your life.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Zoomic on April 23, 2024, 07:27:37 PM


Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

No no, I have not told any lie before to gamble. Whenever i gamble, I am open about it and i face no judgement from anyone, maybe because they trust me enough to still gamble with a high level of consciousness where no one gets hurt. I am not a regular gambler, but whenever I gamble,  I do not hide my gambling activity from anyone because I am confident that my gambling activity will not be a threat to myself and the family's income.

 Having a family is all about being open to each other, your family and friends should be aware of what you are up to (especially as it involves gambling) so they will know how to help and relate with you when things go wrong. It is not actually safe hiding your gambling activities from your partner, where is the fun in hiding? A healthy gambling lifestyle can be encouraged where the entire family (excluding children) gamble together on a strict budget. When everyone is involved and honest to each other, it will be difficult for one party to go beyond his limit.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: cabron on April 23, 2024, 07:53:02 PM

I told a lie to cover up what I did. When are just kids we are going to be stupid things and lie to ask for money from our parents that's what I did. It's just to share the expense with friends in going places at weekends but I did remember lying to ask for money and the money was used for gambling at some point. When you are young and with friends, anything can happen.

But for a married person and has small kids, I would probably do it while they are already asleep. Not judging. Its good that you do not make them see what you are doing though. Kids seeing it, means they will follow what dad is doing on the laptop.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: CryptoHeadlineNews on April 23, 2024, 07:57:00 PM
More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..
Most times, not all women do understand what men go through just to provide for the family, both risky and non-risky. So in a scenerio like this, for me I will say that it's better to lie to your wife rather than telling her the truth, that is inasmuch as telling her the truth will make her up-set & ruined her day.  Because one thing I was able to observe from this story you O.P just gave above and the one in the image is that you guys have one thing in common, which is, both of you are hiding your gambling identity from your wives, due to how bad she may react if she finally finds out, which in most cases, it's never a crime telling your wife lies over minor things just not to ruined her day.

Because inasmuch as gambling is one thing we have love and passion about, and likewise our wife who we respect, balancing the equation should be the best strategy rather than quitting any.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Jaycoinz on April 23, 2024, 08:01:53 PM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
Yeah and thats exactly what will be my fear also; for my wife not be addicted. I am to believe that the females are more fragile and one thing again I do understand the struggles that's involved when you gamble at a rate of high volume and when you get addicted so I wouldn't like to expose her to such vile environment and exposed her to be addicted.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: btc_angela on April 23, 2024, 08:02:34 PM
No, never lied to my partner as regards to my gambling habits, why? It's because we gamble together. And even if I play online, she will hear the sounds on my phone that I'm playing slots or roulette or whatever game I'm playing.

So I don't cover up, although there could be time that I will just play alone before going to bed and tell her that I'm going to sleep but that's it. Never play alone on a land base casinos, if I will she knows it that I will go with my friends and same for her. Sometimes I will not go if I don't feel like and she goes out with her sisters and some close friends to gamble.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Baofeng on April 23, 2024, 08:07:14 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Yeah, but it's not like that I lost big or something, maybe I will just play with a couple with some money and that's it. And if I win, they I come back and telling her that I won this X amount of money, same when I lose.

But big money and taking a L? Haven't done that, just chump chance and that's it.

I will also see her playing games and sometimes she feel asleep playing online slot games when I woke up  ;D.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: iv4n on April 23, 2024, 08:17:56 PM
There are many sites with these "confessions", and when I read some confessions I ask myself how true it all is. I have read some things and it is all bordering on the truth, the question is whether we can believe everything we read. So I guess many people lie about their gambling habits, and when someone is lying they often get into some kind of trouble. The lesson of the story would be that we should not lie, it always gets us into even bigger problems.
 
So if you lie to cover some "bad" habit, sooner or later everything will come out into the sun. So don't do that... it's better to be honest with the things you do, the more likely you are to find a person who loves you for who you are.




Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Fortify on April 23, 2024, 08:23:27 PM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

So many of these rather lame and depressing stories have been popping up lately. You are proud and happy that you lied to your wife? That you choose to hide away and pursue a petty addiction than to hang around your kids instead? I can understand that sometimes people end up in these darker places, but I'm not sure why you feel the need to share these depressing moments of your life. If you had an open and honest relationship, you could just explain that you were playing some games to take a break from the kids, a responsibility that you might share with your wife - she needs a break sometimes and so do you. Then again, you move on to thinking beating your wife is funny, so you definitely have a broken mindset.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Cantsay on April 23, 2024, 08:35:03 PM

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

I can’t recall any incidents where I might have lied my way of a situation that had to do with gambling. Normally, I don’t gamble around people - I mostly do it when I’m alone and don’t have anything to do (or when I’m in my room/bed). I might have done it in the past but for reason nothing is coming to my mind right now.


Your story and the other guy’s tweet are pretty awful imo. I don’t know if you are still gambling like that but you should probably seek professional help. The other guy on twitter too. I see no difference between your story and locking yourself in a room and drink alcohol/smoking. See how it looks now? That’s what we call “having an addiction”

If gambling prevents you from doing your daily duties then gambling is not a fun event for you anymore. It became an addiction and it needs to be treated.

He mentioned that this happened when he was still new to gambling and I believe a lot of us didn’t one or two newbie stuffs back when we got into gambling before we finally changed our ways - I guess this was one of what he did as a newbie.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Wexnident on April 23, 2024, 08:42:10 PM
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I don't think it was THAT bad. You can have multiple favorite times in a day, at least.

Anyway, I think the only time I lied was during my early days? As I've shared before I was playing poker already with my friends back in hs, and was in a relationship. My partner abhorred the idea of me gambling (or at least, gambling with money, not poker itself) so whenever I was playing, I always told her that we were just playing with cards, no money involved. There came a point though where I was caught red handed so had no choice but to confess :P. Naturally I had to stop but eh, we eventually broke up and here I am gambling again.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: BABY SHOES on April 23, 2024, 08:46:54 PM
I've only ever lied when holding my phone thinking I was playing a game when I was gambling, but when my wife asked what you were doing “playing Cand Rush”  ;D

You have a friend who lies almost exactly like my own friend, but he confessed to his wife he lost money on the road while driving but what happened he spent all his money playing slots, in order to protect himself then the friend said to protect himself.

Many stories are habitual to cover gambling in any way, they do this not wanting to be stressed after losing a lot in question by other members, even though this is bad behavior there are still many people doing this habit.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: South Park on April 23, 2024, 09:02:49 PM
I've only ever lied when holding my phone thinking I was playing a game when I was gambling, but when my wife asked what you were doing “playing Cand Rush”  ;D

You have a friend who lies almost exactly like my own friend, but he confessed to his wife he lost money on the road while driving but what happened he spent all his money playing slots, in order to protect himself then the friend said to protect himself.

Many stories are habitual to cover gambling in any way, they do this not wanting to be stressed after losing a lot in question by other members, even though this is bad behavior there are still many people doing this habit.
As long as the losses a person is experimenting while gambling are under their control then a lie here and there does not make a lot of difference, I often hear people pushing for absolute honesty all the time, but this is not possible, and even if it was, can you imagine the chaos that it would ensue? Just to give an example, statistics show that most people hate their jobs, so if people were 100% honest with what they felt and told their bosses about it, you can be sure they will get themselves fired on the spot and may never get another job as they are unable to keep those feelings to themselves anymore.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: angrybirdy on April 23, 2024, 09:07:00 PM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..
https://talkimg.com/images/2024/04/23/jeFxG.jpeg

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

no matter which angle we look at it, what you are doing is cheating because you are keeping secrets, especially with spouses and the topic of financial discussion here,  our partners should know what activities we are obsessed with now so incase there is a problem they can help us. With that kind of secrecy, fights or problems in a family start, so you should be more transparent with our partners to avoid problems in the future. I haven't experience keeping a secret to my partner eversince especially that money is involve because it may cause a big problem to us and I don't want that to happen. I will choose my own family than my leisures so gamble at your own risk.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Yogee on April 23, 2024, 09:10:34 PM
I've heard of real stories about people using the toilet to hide some of their "business" and I find that funny to this day. About the topic - there was no need to lie about it in my case but that's not because of transparency. I just don't see the need to tell anyone about my gambling activities since I think it's a personal matter and I am not bothering anyone.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: robelneo on April 23, 2024, 09:20:43 PM

Honestly, you can't lie to your wife, your wife always knows when you're telling the truth or not, if you can get away with lying about your gambling then you are that good at lying and you can pass a lie detector test.

Honesty is the best policy and your wife will always understand, even if she knows nothing about gambling, your body language when you win or lose will give you away so it is better to tell her so you won't have to tell a lie about what you're lying.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: irhact on April 23, 2024, 09:20:48 PM

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
For someone who's married, i think hiding your gambling habit to save your marriage is not a bad idea, cause not all women would be happy to hear that their spouse is a gambler and some would think that's what eating you money when you go broke, it might even lead to a long quarrel sometimes and to avoid that hiding it from them might not  to be a bad idea, just like when I started gambling my girlfriend was against it but little did she know I was into it and to save my relationship I never allow her see me gamble or tell her about it.

 But on a second thought, sometimes it's also not a bad idea to open up to your spouse about it, especially if the person is understanding and won't end up leading to a fight, They could even be the ones that could help you avoid getting addicted or console you whenever you make big losses in gambling, lol your friend's story is very funny but he needs to control his temper so he won't end up beating his wife someday.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: $crypto$ on April 23, 2024, 09:33:08 PM
The lies that are done to avoid many people who know that we gamble consider this normal and even commonplace, almost most of them do this habit to avoid problems that arise at that time if they find out.

In essence, gambling activities always want to be hidden so lying is natural if our wives forbid it, even though some say they are always honest about gambling but for me I have done this only not too often, I once told my family not to enter the room with the PC because there is important data there so no one can enter except myself even though on the PC I played gambling. :D


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: passwordnow on April 23, 2024, 09:40:07 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
I think that I did but not to my wife but to someone about telling that I am not a gambler so that they won't know that I am into gambling. This kind of topic IMO is actually good if you're going to merge them with the others or just make it as a gambling confession thread. I am sure that it's not just going to be shown in the reddit but many of the members here are going to share their experiences and confessions about what they did as a gambler whether they're crazy or not.

And about that friend of yours, there are a lot of similar stories and I am sure that many gamblers don't want to know that they've lost a lot of money especially those that have came from their salaries because it's shameful to be known that you're a gambler, you've lost everything and your salary and then you don't have a face anymore to face your wife and admit what has happened. But you are partners and you shouldn't hide anything to her unless that's so crucial for you and your wife will surely not like it. It's important that both of you know each others flaws because you're both for each other to help in some cases like this and to give reminders that you don't have to lie about such.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Nwada001 on April 23, 2024, 09:52:11 PM
One of the things that I know makes people come out with some sort of silly lie like this is how awkward it might sound to tell someone you lost focus over something or you took a time off from what you are supposed to be doing to gamble. It's really something that, if you don't have a mature mind, you will lie about.
 
I can remember I have done some crazy stuff for gambling before as a result of not being mature enough and the fear of how people will react if I present my reason for doing a particular thing was because of gambling and all of that.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Assface16678 on April 23, 2024, 09:57:08 PM
I mean, it's not bad to hide from your wife or family about your gambling activities, as you may have a reason or they don't want someone in the family to be gambling, but the thing is, you shouldn't commit anything that you could lie about, for example, what is in the picture. Is that what you really feel? If that's so, then the effect of gambling on you is not good because you can choose gambling over your wife or family. Make it balanced.

In order to avoid being addicted to gambling, balance your activity. You should only have a limited time each day when you are going to gamble so that your family or wife will not be angry at you or feel that you are prioritising gambling over them. Lying is very bad and can be considered a lie. If you can't do gambling without lying, then you are still on the right path or with the with the right mindset.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: danherbias07 on April 23, 2024, 10:03:11 PM
I tell my wife everything as much as possible so I won't create a spark of a fight that could lead to something worse in the future. I think if there are some hidden secrets, it's just minimal and not to the extent that it would affect our monthly budget and other payments that need to be paid. She also knew about my latest win and she even asked for us to go out using the money which I accepted without thinking twice because I always want to enjoy the profits I made. I withdrew everything and then we went out with the kids to eat some good food and let the kids play whatever they wanted.

One lie could be addictive especially if we can get out of it the first time. So, I would not recommend to do this kind of act because there's a chance we might do it over and over again that could destroy our family in the future.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: lienfaye on April 23, 2024, 10:16:16 PM
If it's for the better and you know that you're playing in moderation, then why not? But losing huge of money in gambling yet you're still lying to your wife about it seems not a good idea to me. Why don't you try to be open so your wife can understand what you are up to?

It's understandable to lie to someone about our losses because we don't want to be judge. But it's a different thing if you're doing this with your partner. It involves money and it can be a reason for her to lost her trust on you.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Davidvictorson on April 23, 2024, 10:18:49 PM
If the day ever comes that I would lie to cover up my gambling habit then that is the day that I will quite gambling forever.

Why do I need to put myself in a situation where I need to lie. The consequences of that can lead to a break in trust from your spouse and the your kids or any other person around you.

And it is an early sign of gambling addiction.

What follows after lying is, stealing to fund one's growing gambling habit.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Rockstarguy on April 23, 2024, 10:24:45 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
I know most women don't really fancy gambling and it won't be cool for them if their partner should open up to let them know about gambling game that is going on.  so most men would prefer to just cover up with lies just to please their wife.
If I know my wife won't feel happy to see me playing gamble, I will pretend do something else because I wouldn't want her to feel in a certain way if she discovered. The truth is that many gamblers don't like to open up about their gambling life style to people who don't see gamble just exactly they way they see's it.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: alani123 on April 23, 2024, 10:39:24 PM
Ok, sometimes people overreact. Religious people will often consider gambling equal to the devil himself so sometimes it's best to hide some things from them for their own sake of wellbeing.

But still, if you have to lie about how much you put in gambling and how much grief you're going through, or even hiding addiction, then it's a problematic situation. It should be embraced and treated normally without remorse. Personally I haven't needed to lie about gambling. I'm very comfortable admitting to anyone that every now and then I'll play a hand of blackjack online or make a sportsbet. When I play though, I make sure to only handle amounts I can afford to lose. And surely I've lost plenty of times but it's not a problem if it's not important.

I just think that if you establish that with your peers, and if they have common sense, you will no longer need to project lies about gambling to them.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Kemarit on April 23, 2024, 10:40:54 PM
I once did, 2017 or 2018, I had my Christmas Bonus and the first thing I do is go to land base casinos and then "donated" it all. Went home at night and I can't tell to my wife straight away that I've lost my years hard work in just a couple of hours. Didn't do the walk of shame, but I was just staring and she notice me and so I admit what I have done.

Of course she was furious to me, and didn't talked to me for one day. But after that, it's back to normal and I didn't do that again. Or if I'm going to gamble, she would come. However, since the advent of online casinos, we knew when each other is going to gamble. And so I didn't do that after that big mistake of mine.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Slow death on April 23, 2024, 10:41:29 PM
In my opinion, he should tell his wife everything, he shouldn't hold back because lying and something could one day destroy him. for example, he is addicted and as he doesn't tell his wife everything, it is difficult for his wife to be able to help him when he is having addiction problems, often people think that hiding things in their lives that they find shameful would thereby preserve their good image of them, when in reality they are giving space to lies, they are giving little space so that the other person cannot help them when they one day need help. The less we know about another person, the fewer ways to help them we will have. That's why I always advise people to always be sincere and honest


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: usekevin on April 23, 2024, 10:58:29 PM
We all lie for a reason; either to protect ourselves or protect other people from getting hurt. On the given example that the man lied on his fvorite time, it is subjective in the first place. There is a whole lot of definition for enjoyment and that might just confused him with his favorite moment, I assume that he enjoys both of it, still. I did the same thing before but on a different extent. I was asked if I am gambling or engaging to such activities by my girlfriend and I lied saying no. Not to gaslight but I think it is a personal thing. As long as you are not being problematic and still in control of your habits, then things are fine still to hide it for your own reason. Even with partners there are things you keep private from one another simply because you two still have different lives.

This two things was the important one in our life,because we should not hurt our beloved wife.Sometimes the hiding of your secrets will give you the peaceful life,because many of the life partners not like the involvement of their partners in the gambling.Because gambling may or may not hurt you in the financial situation.Some gamblers had loss their money and get into the biggest trouble because of the loss of money.That guy had enjoyed the time with their wife,but he had received more fun in the gambling compared to the time with heir life partner.

If it's for the better and you know that you're playing in moderation, then why not? But losing huge of money in gambling yet you're still lying to your wife about it seems not a good idea to me. Why don't you try to be open so your wife can understand what you are up to?

It's understandable to lie to someone about our losses because we don't want to be judge. But it's a different thing if you're doing this with your partner. It involves money and it can be a reason for her to lost her trust on you.

If the gambler loss the funds in the gambling,he may lie to their wife.If the gambler had gained huge money from the gambling site at that time he could open his hidden secret with his wife.Now he will get two advice from his wife,one being hiding doesn’t matter until it’s affect our family financially.Secondly he asked his husband to stop the gambling and don’t loss the winning money again to the gambling site.Because he get more confidence which leads to the money loss which was earned by the same gambling site.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Ojima-ojo on April 23, 2024, 11:10:13 PM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
Gambling is so addictive that both spouses shouldn't get involved at the same time, because at a point they may lose control of their emotions which could impact on their relationship negatively and if care is not taken one or both partners may become uncontrollably addicted and that will become an unbearable turn out of events.


But if it is one of the partner preferably the husband becoming addicted the wife can easily help him to get out of such addictions, so the man in the story did the right thing not telling the wife his gambling expertise.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: alegotardo on April 23, 2024, 11:11:06 PM
After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

Many people have told me that lying is part of human nature, but I think this argument only serves to assuage guilt or justify a wrong act, such as your hidden addiction to gambling. But, whatever the reason, the fact is that we are always telling a lie every day without even realizing it, and there was even a British study (I don't have the source) that said that a person tells an average of three lies during a 10 minute conversation.

But, when lying becomes frequent and is intended to hide something that could be harmful to you or other people, then it really means that you have a problem.

You know that many gambling players become addicted very quickly, if a friend or family can at least monitor your problem, it is "easier" for you to seek the correct path again, but if you hide it from other people, it can be May you lose control quickly and no one can help you.
The addiction problem will become a financial problem, then it will affect your marital relationship, it will affect your mood, other problems will arise... you don't want that in your life, right!?


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: EluguHcman on April 23, 2024, 11:29:21 PM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..
https://talkimg.com/images/2024/04/23/jeFxG.jpeg
The guy actually loves his wife and knows how to make feel blushing and special as one of those good threats and hyping which women enjoys.
Indeed he can actually have more relaxations during when with his wife but does not mean he can not find funs elsewhere.
The confession there is that when he is sitted on the gambling he does stay a long time but he has never explained in the so confession text that he enjoys the times of his gambling and the night times spending with his wife.

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit.
Every gambling times requires concentrations and Privacies of possible so that we don't give excuses to our losts instead when we lost, we could assume it is out of wrong predictions and not to say it was because we were being distracted.
Actually gambling as when stake of funds is involved requires absolutely quietness and concentration so that you could feel those vibes of analyzing before game plays or finding errors after game losts.

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.
Once you lost what is not affordable to loose in the gambling of course you would be filled with grieves of anger inside of you and any silly move from others would get you annoyed unnecessarily because your emotions is indeed need of how to ease your depressions through the expressions of angry actions.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Yes, when I lost my TV on gambling stake I told my parents back then that I took it to the technical workshop for service.
Meanwhile it was on a collateral and when I could bail it, I still pretended like I just brought it back from the workshop.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: DiMarxist on April 23, 2024, 11:36:27 PM
That is always a common habit for gamblers. I'm most time they don't want their wife, children and religion friends to know that they are gambling so all what they do is to tell them that they are studying, doing assignments and other important things while within them they are busy gambling and they don't want to their people to know about. But one day they will still know as your wife noticed you. And those are the kind of styles that the addicted gamblers used in the family setting when they noticed that they can't move out to play gamble.
They deceive their friends, wife and children that they what to do important thing. I am just giving an instant and not you.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: AmoreJaz on April 23, 2024, 11:48:31 PM
That is always a common habit for gamblers. I'm most time they don't want their wife, children and religion friends to know that they are gambling so all what they do is to tell them that they are studying, doing assignments and other important things while within them they are busy gambling and they don't want to their people to know about. But one day they will still know as your wife noticed you. And those are the kind of styles that the addicted gamblers used in the family setting when they noticed that they can't move out to play gamble.
They deceive their friends, wife and children that they what to do important thing. I am just giving an instant and not you.

The decision is entirely on the gambler himself. Whether he wants to disclose his gambling habit to his wife or not. If you are just an occasional gambler, I believe there's nothing wrong to share it with your wife. I can understand that if you are in the addicted level, it is hard to tell it to your family because their reaction is quite worrying. But do remember, in times of your trouble, they will be the one who will help you out in the situation you are in.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Stepstowealth on April 23, 2024, 11:50:57 PM
So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..
I don't think the person telling the story lied to cover up his habit of gambling, his wife may have known about him gambling but what she didn't know was that he considered gambling the favorite part of his day and not the time spent with her. Telling the wife the truth that whenever he gambled was the best time of his day is a statement capable of ending the marriage. He is a chronically addicted gambler who does not want his partner to know how addicted he is to gambling, and an adicted gambler who will not easily change.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: acroman08 on April 23, 2024, 11:56:02 PM
lying about your gambling habits can get ugly really quick, it's always better to be upfront and truthful about your gambling habits instead of hiding them, as long as you are keeping a healthy balance between gambling and your responsibility, I don't really see the reason of lying about your gambling habits. also, it's kind of sad to hear that the guy on the Reddit post views his gambling as the best part of his day, just imagine the hurt his wife would feel if she hears that.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Darker45 on April 24, 2024, 02:23:58 AM
Reading through the 3 different experiences in the OP, I don't find them funny. I do have my share of lies when it comes to gambling and although I and my friends would laugh at them, they're not really funny. I mean, to make lies in the name of gambling, of a vice, isn't funny at all. It may even be a start of something more serious. As with many serious problems, they may start as simple issues. I guess rather than brushing it off as an acceptable problem, it should be addressed.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: betswift on April 24, 2024, 02:36:05 AM

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

The story you shared is very unfortunate. It’s troubling when someone reacts with aggression just because others don’t believe their lies, as it’s often a sign of an unhealthy psyche, unfortunately..

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
Naah Naah, honestly, even if my wife will like it, I personally will not want her to get near anything gambling, I am an introvert and like to do many things alone, in fact, I enjoy doing almost every thing I do, alone, except when we are watching a movie or we go out on a date, even when I choose to do the cooking, and she comes around to help, normally, that should be fun right? But I see that as disturbance and would possibly abandon the cooking for her to do if she refuse to leave me alone, this is the kind of person I am.

But then, on the other, my wife is not a gambling person at all, in fact, she hate gamblers with passion, she's one of this who peceive gamblers are irresponsible people, it's the reason why I've never allowed her to get to know of my involvement in gambling, she will be heart broken if she ever learn that I go gamble.
Many a times I've lost money in business and told her, when she learns that I gamble, she may turn around to accuse me of losing those money to gambling and lying to her that I lost the money in business, that exactly the kind of person she is, and not like I can't make her change that perspective or attitude if I want to, If I really wanted to, I can present gambling to her in a way that she will think that I just decided to start gambling and want to carry her along, I can do that and I bet she will like it, but nah, doing that will end up ruining my gambling peace of mind.
Lol.

You're right to trust your own feelings about your relationship, as no one knows your situation better than you do. However, consider the possibility that your partner respects and loves you just as you are. She knows you're an introvert and may be giving you the personal space you need without any reproach because she understands you. This open understanding might allow you to be more honest with her. There's no need to hide anything when you feel understood and accepted at home


As long as the losses a person is experimenting while gambling are under their control then a lie here and there does not make a lot of difference, I often hear people pushing for absolute honesty all the time, but this is not possible, and even if it was, can you imagine the chaos that it would ensue? Just to give an example, statistics show that most people hate their jobs, so if people were 100% honest with what they felt and told their bosses about it, you can be sure they will get themselves fired on the spot and may never get another job as they are unable to keep those feelings to themselves anymore.

Why not start with being honest with ourselves? Perhaps if more people embraced this, they would leave unfulfilling jobs and pursue work that truly brings them joy. Emphasizing honesty and openness in the family is crucial, especially since home should be a place where you don't need to hide or lie. After all, if you can’t be yourself even at home, then what's the point? Home and family should be your safe haven, where you can truly relax and be yourself after a long day at a job you dislike  ;)


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: michellee on April 24, 2024, 02:51:20 AM
That is a normal thing that would be done by a gambler who does not want his gambling activities to be known by other people. They will lie to other people for many reasons so that other people do not suspect what they are doing. They will cover up their gambling habits so they can continue gambling.

I lied a bit just to hide my gambling habits from others. I will just find free time to gamble and will be alone for a while. But sometimes, I also lie and say I'm doing something related to my job ;D

I think many people will lie just to cover up their gambling habits. They don't want anyone to know about their gambling habits so they do things like that. But we should not have to tell big lies so that there are no problems.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Oasisman on April 24, 2024, 03:03:54 AM
I should say, he does not need to tell his wife if he can manage his finances without being noticed that he is actually spending on gambling. The wife may never going to find it since she's complacent that the husband may not have done something that could add up to their expenses as the he never left the house in the first place.
However, if the man are unable to handle his finances and the wife is about to find out, then I should say, that man needs to stop before the wife finds out. It's better to just stop than confessing it to the wife when there are already a lot of money that was spent on gambling.
I have a belief that every man has to keep their gambling habits secret for as long as they can or even at one point before telling their wives. They'll get mad of course that's a normal reaction lol.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: bitbollo on April 24, 2024, 03:04:57 AM
I suggest you watch the movie "Horse Fever - Febbre da Cavallo - 1976" it shows a fairly cynical portrayal of the "addicted" gambler.
well, here you see a whole series of clichés and stereotypes.
Personally I would never lie for gambling, I find it to be a very negative aspect related to this hobby.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: retreat on April 24, 2024, 03:48:18 AM
Your wife doesn't know what you were doing, but she definitely has suspicions about what you were doing at that time, because believe it or not, a woman's intuition is higher than a man's, they can understand what their partner is saying. whether it's really honest or not. And actually, men are terrible liars, but why do most wives just shut up and walk away? that's because they don't want to make a fuss about it and they are too tired to fight with their partner. So for me personally, instead of having to constantly lie to my partner, it's better for me to be honest with her and tell her the truth, regardless of whether she accepts it or not is a matter for later - because lies that are continuously covered up will eventually be revealed, and I don't want it to become a time bomb in the future.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: ZippyPixL on April 24, 2024, 03:49:00 AM
So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..
I don't think the person telling the story lied to cover up his habit of gambling, his wife may have known about him gambling but what she didn't know was that he considered gambling the favorite part of his day and not the time spent with her. Telling the wife the truth that whenever he gambled was the best time of his day is a statement capable of ending the marriage. He is a chronically addicted gambler who does not want his partner to know how addicted he is to gambling, and an adicted gambler who will not easily change.

It's really sad and puzzling. Why do people stay in relationships that bring them less joy than gambling? This could indicate a dependency, or perhaps it suggests a need to find a partner with whom they can truly be happy. In any case, if you're engaging in activities that don't bring you pleasure (be it gambling, relationships, or any form of entertainment) it's a clear sign that it's time to stop or make a change


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Samlucky O on April 24, 2024, 04:21:05 AM
I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
I have once lied because of gambling. I use the money I intend using to buy some food stuffs to gamble, unfortunately I lost all to virtual gambling I never knew what to tell my wife, so I just told her I lost the money and the worst part is that I don't even know how come about it. She was very anoid about that and I pretended as if what I was saying was the truth till she believed me. I then have  to call a friend to send me money because that was the only money I had in my savings back the around 2017


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: SeriouslyGiveaway on April 24, 2024, 05:03:08 AM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

In my case, I don't know if it's a lie or not. I have a habit when I come home after gambling, I always give money to my wife whether I win or lose. I gave her some money and said that today I won, and I want to give a part of this money for her. I found this method quite good because the next time I asked her permission to go gambling, she was always happy and mostly didn't complain about my gambling. ;D

However, this method requires me to always set aside a small amount of money and not lose all my money. One time, I unfortunately lost everything and I had to borrow some money from my friend to bring home and give to my wife.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Porfirii on April 24, 2024, 05:05:29 AM
I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
I have once lied because of gambling. I use the money I intend using to buy some food stuffs to gamble, unfortunately I lost all to virtual gambling I never knew what to tell my wife, so I just told her I lost the money and the worst part is that I don't even know how come about it. She was very anoid about that and I pretended as if what I was saying was the truth till she believed me. I then have  to call a friend to send me money because that was the only money I had in my savings back the around 2017

That was time ago, so I hope you learnt the lesson (although if you got the money back from your friend, perhaps you didn't get the morale).

I think that we must be mature enough to make our own decisions, but also to accept the responsibility of any consequences arising from our decisions.

I don't know your wife, the wife of Fivestar4everMVP's story, nor the one mentioned in the OP, but I feel that in all cases they pay for their husbands' faults, and that's not ethical nor fair.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Kelvinid on April 24, 2024, 05:47:10 AM
A lie can be something good or naturally bad.
Sometimes we make some excuse and pretending of busy with something because of our gambling addiction. Sometimes we spend more time on this rather than having a good time with the family. Well, that was a few years back when our minds were in the box of imagining what would happen to us when we hit the jackpot.

It is probably most of us who are experiencing this one. Maybe some are telling their partners already while some do not and keep it secret.
But I don't suggest new gamblers to this especially if we have family already because this is also a reason why some couples separated. Must remain responsible and knows our priorities as well.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Crypt0Gore on April 24, 2024, 06:31:15 AM
It's very easy to lie, it's in human nature to go the easy route, some times a lie is necessary to get on your right Journey, even in my business I need to lie to sell to my customers, because the truth isn't so interesting to people this days.

Assuming I bought goods for $100 each and to resell I need to add an extra $20 per the good and this includes the shipping costs and clearance, if I tell my customers to pay $120 for the goods they will want to price it lower, this is where I need to tell them a higher price, knowing that they will price is lower and probably ends at the same $120 per the goods.

In real life relationships, either among friends or most especially in a marriage, lies will ruin your trust, you don't want that to happen, its better to build your relationship on trust, if you are a gambler and also married, normally when you lost some money your partner will think about your gambling lifestyle.

When it comes to gambling it's better to be open about your losses to your partner, remember that they can be of help if something is about to snap in your head.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Hewlet on April 24, 2024, 06:41:56 AM

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
lol 😂 this is just typical of anyone that looses a bet and didn't want people to know that they've lost such amount.

My own is that it just change my mood and if you ask why, I will just tell you not to be bothered about it. We have our stories and certainly loosing is part of the game and if you've not lost at some point in time then you've probably not gamble, but then, it's not everything you will want to tell your partner most especially as it regards your losses course not all of them have the emotional intelligence to handling it and might feel that you're squandering all your resources away through gambling but again, there should always be some sort of balance such that you make yourself a bit valnourable and accountable to her so as to reduce your gambling excesses.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: harapan on April 24, 2024, 06:51:53 AM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

No I haven’t lied to anybody like that before.

Your story and the other guy’s tweet are pretty awful imo. I don’t know if you are still gambling like that but you should probably seek professional help. The other guy on twitter too. I see no difference between your story and locking yourself in a room and drink alcohol/smoking. See how it looks now? That’s what we call “having an addiction”

If gambling prevents you from doing your daily duties then gambling is not a fun event for you anymore. It became an addiction and it needs to be treated.

Exactly,I don't give a lie for whatsoever reason to cover up my gambling habits,whereas I'm a responsible gambler and when I want to gamble it's just little of my time and I don't mind telling a friend of mine or anyone close to me that this is what I'm doing because I'm not spending more or using more time doing this.im just doing it cause I want to feel the dun that moments and then I give a stop.

We'll I feel such habits is a real sign of an addiction on a high note that needs to be minimize, tackled but we all have different ways of doing things and so it's so difficult to limits such behavior's.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: summonerrk on April 24, 2024, 06:52:26 AM

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

All this is a small lie on the scale that gamblers are used to lying.  While studying the psychology of gambling, I heard the following stories:

- a mother left a neighbor with a young child to go to the casino. At the same time, she knew this neighbor very poorly, in fact, she left her child with a stranger for gambling, probably it was a sign of addiction to uncontrolled play.

- The second interview was about the fact that the guy was a student and lived in a rented apartment, and at some point he became interested in betting. And when he ran out of money, this guy sold all the furniture from the rented apartment to keep betting. And then he lied to his parents about being robbed.
It's unbelievable, and of course the truth came out later.



Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: hyudien on April 24, 2024, 06:57:52 AM
Gambling is so addictive that both spouses shouldn't get involved at the same time, because at a point they may lose control of their emotions which could impact on their relationship negatively and if care is not taken one or both partners may become uncontrollably addicted and that will become an unbearable turn out of events.


But if it is one of the partner preferably the husband becoming addicted the wife can easily help him to get out of such addictions, so the man in the story did the right thing not telling the wife his gambling expertise.
The fact about gambling that can indeed be addictive is real, and indeed if both partners are involved in gambling addiction then the negative impact certainly cannot be held back or prevented, even I think when in a relationship when one of them is addicted it can have a negative impact on their relationship. Because when someone is addicted to gambling, the bad impact is not a strange right, it is with one of the addicted parties, especially if both of them are addicted, it will be very bad in the future because they are both addicted, even I think that when both of them are addicted, they may prioritize each other's egos and conflicts like this may not be avoided.
If one party is addicted, the other party must be able to realize that they can get out of their addiction, it is impossible to just leave it alone, because even if it is left alone it will be bad in the future while of course no one wants to experience badness in their life. Therefore, as a partner, you must be able to help the other party who is addicted to be able to improve the situation.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Nrcewker on April 24, 2024, 06:58:20 AM
Gambling habit develops when you have extra funds with you. If you completely think of investing the funds in somewhere stable, then you won’t get the habit of gambling. In this way, you will be also saved from telling lies to hide your gambling habit. Now a days, I hardly gamble in casino games. Occasionally I place bets on sports events, hence I didn’t find any chance to lie about gambling to any of my family member.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Lida93 on April 24, 2024, 08:38:19 AM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
I don't support the idea of husband and wife gambling, it's not advisable at all. From op story it appears there kids are still very young so assumings the two parents are gambling together who is going to watch out for the kids in between those time they are using to gamble.

Let the husband do his thing and not involve his wife except it's a business investment then it's necessary to involve wife but not gambling. It's left for the husband to gamble responsibly not to financially reck himself. To me I feel there are certain lies that are necessary just to keep the peace at home, especially when we know the type of wife we have.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Apocollapse on April 24, 2024, 08:45:53 AM
Why he act like he broke a very critical thing? come on, a lot people lies almost everyday!

If you have a food and beverage business, will you tell someone about the secret of your business e.g. your supplier, the ingredients, cooking skills, and your profit every month if they ask it?

Same to this case, lying if the best time is into a bed with her is fine, but it's just not okay for you that you're an addict and not want to cure your addiction.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Zigabel on April 24, 2024, 08:46:12 AM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
In as much as this is coming from a very harmless place that wants to probably have the perfect idea of two coming together to make a better idea, it aswell has got its own inadequacy aswell as that's in the fact that it could become unhealthy when the family is in dare need and both of you will think of trying gambling as an option to multiply funds only to loose it or probably both persons get addicted to gambling, it becomes really tough as there will be no one to caution the other, it's best she knows but doesn't get involved so she could help him in some cases where he needs to quit but finding it difficult doing it.

Gambling isn't something that should be allowed to be brought to just anyone and women can be extremist at times she could go all in because at the time her emotions may be high and driving her towards that direction only for it to turn out detrimental to the couple in the long run.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Awaklara on April 24, 2024, 09:02:58 AM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Stories of lies from gamblers to their family members will probably always exist and almost happen to all gamblers. what I experienced was lies regarding the amount of money I bet. I used to risk $100 every time I gambled. but at that time there was a colleague who paid his debt to me. I forget the amount, but if I'm not mistaken it was probably more than $500. and I spent it on betting without telling anyone.

that's what happens when gamblers actually have the opportunity to bet more and leave behind the restrictions that usually bind them.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Z390 on April 24, 2024, 09:47:52 AM
I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
I have once lied because of gambling. I use the money I intend using to buy some food stuffs to gamble, unfortunately I lost all to virtual gambling I never knew what to tell my wife, so I just told her I lost the money and the worst part is that I don't even know how come about it. She was very anoid about that and I pretended as if what I was saying was the truth till she believed me. I then have  to call a friend to send me money because that was the only money I had in my savings back the around 2017

That was a time ago, so I hope you learned the lesson (although if you got the money back from your friend, perhaps you didn't get the morale).

I think that we must be mature enough to make our own decisions, but also to accept the responsibility of any consequences arising from our decisions.

I don't know your wife, the wife of Fivestar4everMVP's story, nor the one mentioned in the OP, but I feel that in all cases they pay for their husbands' faults, and that's not ethical nor fair.

Imagine if the wives are lying to their men on this forum, I bet they won't like it either, lies in a relationship is different from lies to save someone from trouble or others, I dont want to lose to my woman, I will feel wrong about it unless I am trying to safe her life.

There are good lies and bad lies, there was a time when some hoodlums were chasing after a lady when I was still in college, she ran past me and told me not to tell anyone about her, he hid at the back of a compound closer to my family home and when the hoodlum came to ask me question I told them that the lady ran straight down the road and the continued their chase.

I went inside and told my mother, who called the police the hoodlums are nowhere to be found but the lady was taken back to the police station for questioning, my mother said they might be trying to rape her or rob her, later we got informed that she was escorted back to her home later that day by a policeman.

This was what I meant by a good lie and a bad lie, some lies will save your life, and some will likely ruin you or put you in a bad situation.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Jawhead999 on April 24, 2024, 09:48:05 AM
What a funny guy, so he already know if he has a symptom of gambling addict, but he choose to lie instead of communicate to his wife? if he can't being completely transparent with his wife, it means his wife is just a stranger. I feel bad for her as this guy didn't completely trust his wife.

From this short story, we can know the reason why gambling addict always exist and can't be recovered, since they didn't even care at all.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: len01 on April 24, 2024, 12:26:35 PM
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Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
before I got married, I often did bad things, namely lying to my family or several relatives and what I did more often was lying to my parents when I was very young asking for money to buy school supplies but I used the money to bet on playing poker with friends and that I often do it several times.
after I graduated from school I started working to earn my own money and I still did the same thing lying to my brother that my salary had disappeared on the way home from work and at that time my brother gave me around $100 to heal my loss while I will use the money for gambling.

since I did a lot of bad things and became addicted to gambling in my youth, after that I recovered from the addiction, left gambling for several years and got married.
but after getting married I returned to gambling again but never lied to my wife and I was always open about my gambling activities and my wife understood it.
the reason I was too brave to tell my wife was because I was gambling, given my wife's permission, but it had to be cold hard cash without having to go beyond my means.

so, as long as I have been married I have never lied to my wife just to cover up my gambling activities and the past is just experience.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: o48o on April 26, 2024, 12:50:15 PM
We all lie for a reason; either to protect ourselves or protect other people from getting hurt. On the given example that the man lied on his fvorite time, it is subjective in the first place. There is a whole lot of definition for enjoyment and that might just confused him with his favorite moment, I assume that he enjoys both of it, still. I did the same thing before but on a different extent. I was asked if I am gambling or engaging to such activities by my girlfriend and I lied saying no. Not to gaslight but I think it is a personal thing. As long as you are not being problematic and still in control of your habits, then things are fine still to hide it for your own reason. Even with partners there are things you keep private from one another simply because you two still have different lives.
I agree, it's a white lie. In and telling that would only help the relief for the writer's conscience. To be honest this thought process the writer of that screenshot has, seems like he has passive aggressivity underneath. As he would be doing that purely for himself, and knowingly hurting his wife.

But lying in relationship is an interesting subject. I don't consider not telling everything a lie, but that obviously depends on the relationship. Also just not sharing something versus avoiding to tell something are very different cases. Reason for not sharing something can be protecting them, or just a mundane fact like going to shop, that isn't even significant and worth sharing. And then we can protect ourselves because we are ashamed and afraid of judgement.

I have different relationships with different people, and with my girlfriend, we are pretty direct. So communication is easy. There's really no need to lie as we share even things that most people don't because they would make them jealous and uncomfortable. But i would never want to knowingly hurt her, or value her against others like the guy in the screenshot was thinking. I have said that a gamble a little, but i won't share details, as they are insignificant until i win a lot.



Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: fullhdpixel on April 26, 2024, 01:25:23 PM
Well, talking about the situation of the person who made that post on Reddit, I would say he did the right thing and shouldn't tell the wife the truth. The reason behind that is that women would always want themselves to be the top priority to their men in anything they do, and if you tell them they aren't the top priority for you in anything in general, that can be troublesome, it can even affect your relationship to an extent if the wife is too sensitive and emotional.

So for the sake of the relationship, one can lie once or twice only to keep her happy and let your marriage be. However, talking about your situation, even if I don't call that addiction, I would say it is unethical to do that because she trusts you the most and you are breaking her trust by doing that.

For me, I would never do that because if I'm hiding it and she finds out, that is even more troublesome.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: moneystery on April 26, 2024, 02:36:03 PM
indeed, sometimes we need to lie to be able to cover up sensitive things like that, because not all wives understand what their husband is going through, maybe he is bored and needs entertainment and maybe gambling is one way to get pleasure. but even so, gambling must be done responsibly, so that it does not become a problem for our partner and instead it will destroy our relationship with her.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: coin-investor on April 26, 2024, 02:47:54 PM

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

The problem with telling a lie is that there's a loophole and when it comes to gambling or any vice you should never lie to your wife, wives are good at looking at body language, they are up to the details on how their husband behave, and their hunch is always perfect.

The only lies I told my wife is when I lose a huge amount of money and each time she always catches me, because of my body language, so better be honest because when you're lying they always catch you, and most of the time they catch you when you are off guard.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: DubemIfedigbo001 on April 26, 2024, 03:18:26 PM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
I don't agree to this Honestly, I'm Not a fan of my spouse gambling with me, Truth be told we sometimes go out of our disciplines and budgets when gambling, only to recall ourselves and correct the error immediately. That kind of excesses  wouldn't be very nice if its coming from the two. It could mean bigger loses. Again gambling can be slightly distracting, and for a man, this isn't much of an issue because the wife is very attentive to the children. When both of them are gamblers, who now gives keen attention to the children?, especially if they're still small and can damage things in the house or even put themselves in harm's way.
Secondly, children are closer to their mothers during their early years with the exception of a few. The possibility of them becoming underage gamblers is very high.

Reacting to the topic, back then in school, I've consistently delayed for my roommate to  leave the house for church activities before me so that I'll go to the betting house instead because if we go together, he wouldn't let me enter the gambling house.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: qwertyup23 on April 26, 2024, 03:41:34 PM
Nope- I do not think I have lied with anything related to gambling as I am very open with anyone who asks me about my experiences.

When I used to gamble, I actually tell everything to my friends and family so that they would know my experience. Even if I experience something that is negative, I always tell them the truth since I believe that they deserve to know everything. Not to mention, by telling my experiences, they could also discern and decide whether they want to try gambling or not.

On the story that you provided OP, it was painful for me to read it. I think our partners deserve to know everything even if it is something that could affect the overall relationship. If you lie on the small things, that could escalate and create a snowball effect into something bigger- a lie that can transcend into different small lies that would eventually evolve into a bigger problem in the future.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: danherbias07 on April 26, 2024, 03:52:16 PM
indeed, sometimes we need to lie to be able to cover up sensitive things like that, because not all wives understand what their husband is going through, maybe he is bored and needs entertainment and maybe gambling is one way to get pleasure. but even so, gambling must be done responsibly, so that it does not become a problem for our partner and instead it will destroy our relationship with her.
Actually, this will be the start of the problem.
We tell them lies but they actually know the truth and it's written all over our faces that we are making a story and lying to our teeth. Do it over and over again and I bet you will see bags that are packed the next day.
If two people have been through thick and thin, I surely know that they know each other and they will have no trouble identifying if their partner is lying or not. I am not saying I am clean but I never crossed the line when it comes to lying especially when it's all about gambling. That is why I tell her everything, from how many bets I made in one sports game or how much I won, especially the last time when I got my highest multiplier ever. She was so happy, I can tell and she enjoyed every bit of the money with me and the kids.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: SmartGold01 on April 26, 2024, 04:36:17 PM
You can only get yourself involved with lies when your partner don't know whether you are a gambler or not but truth be told, when there's lapses you would look for an alternative to cover oneself up because you know if you don't defend yourself definitely there must be questions that would arise later or sooner how where about you spent money.

Keep that asides, and as gambler you shouldn't hide anything from your wife, just take for example as me, initially I was scared to relate with my husband about my involvement in gambling and that leads me to go create a topic and after some reasonable answer from people over here and the other forum I decided to tell him and guess what?

It wasn't a bad respond rather he understood and bear with me although I don't do what will totally override me or put me in a tension whereby I can't be able to control myself and feeling towards gambling in a way it could results to lies or lying to my partner.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Sim_card on April 26, 2024, 04:48:11 PM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
It is not all women that will like to try gambling to see if they will enjoy the fun, and also some women can get very mad at you when you just mention the word gamble. This is because, they feel it is something bad and for irresponsible people because they have seen people that gambled irresponsible and got frustrated with addiction. I refer to keep my gambling activities secret from my wife, so that I can continue to enjoy gambling or else, I might not be able to gamble whenever I feel like gambling. I have said some lies just to cover up for gambling.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: dimonstration on April 26, 2024, 04:54:03 PM
You can only get yourself involved with lies when your partner don't know whether you are a gambler or not but truth be told, when there's lapses you would look for an alternative to cover oneself up because you know if you don't defend yourself definitely there must be questions that would arise later or sooner how where about you spent money.

I think the contrary since if my partners don’t know that I’m gambling then I don’t need to lie just to cover up what I’m doing since she doesn’t have any suspicion on my gambling habit. I believe I will be more often lying if my partner knew about my habit since woman is known for being nosy to everything that we do especially if it’s gambling.

I personally don’t lie about my gambling habits since there’s nothing to be ashamed as long as I’m using my funds properly while I can still sustain properly our daily expenses and other necessities.

Lying about gambling only means that the person is not doing well on his gambling venture.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Su-asa on April 26, 2024, 05:03:21 PM
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
It is not all women that will like to try gambling to see if they will enjoy the fun, and also some women can get very mad at you when you just mention the word gamble. This is because, they feel it is something bad and for irresponsible people because they have seen people that gambled irresponsible and got frustrated with addiction. I refer to keep my gambling activities secret from my wife, so that I can continue to enjoy gambling or else, I might not be able to gamble whenever I feel like gambling. I have said some lies just to cover up for gambling.
Men can tell their fell men about their gambling life but I have a big doubt that a woman can tell her fellow women that she gamble. Men can understand things so quick but it's hard for a woman to know the truth in gamble. However they must have think that Gambling is bad because they must have seen some addicted gamblers that's irresponsible towards their own family. Every women don't want to here when someone lose their money on bet, all what they want to hear is the winning and I feel thats the reasons why it might be very difficult for women to gamble for entertainment purposes (not all women though).


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Ultegra134 on April 26, 2024, 05:32:44 PM
Nope- I do not think I have lied with anything related to gambling as I am very open with anyone who asks me about my experiences.

When I used to gamble, I actually tell everything to my friends and family so that they would know my experience. Even if I experience something that is negative, I always tell them the truth since I believe that they deserve to know everything. Not to mention, by telling my experiences, they could also discern and decide whether they want to try gambling or not.

On the story that you provided OP, it was painful for me to read it. I think our partners deserve to know everything even if it is something that could affect the overall relationship. If you lie on the small things, that could escalate and create a snowball effect into something bigger- a lie that can transcend into different small lies that would eventually evolve into a bigger problem in the future.
You could possibly say that such a lie could be deemed a white lie—those insignificant ones that we say to avoid hurting others or because the truth is more complicated to explain. Although I also believe that it's best to be open and straightforward, lying can put you in difficult situations if you're caught, because eventually you will be. However, this isn't the worst part; I find it extremely saddening that the favorite part of the person in the Reddit post is to hide in the toilet in order to gamble, or generally speaking, to be forced to hide what you're doing. 


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: SmartGold01 on April 26, 2024, 05:34:46 PM
You can only get yourself involved with lies when your partner don't know whether you are a gambler or not but truth be told, when there's lapses you would look for an alternative to cover oneself up because you know if you don't defend yourself definitely there must be questions that would arise later or sooner how where about you spent money.

I think the contrary since if my partners don’t know that I’m gambling then I don’t need to lie just to cover up what I’m doing since she doesn’t have any suspicion on my gambling habit. I believe I will be more often lying if my partner knew about my habit since woman is known for being nosy to everything that we do especially if it’s gambling.

I personally don’t lie about my gambling habits since there’s nothing to be ashamed as long as I’m using my funds properly while I can still sustain properly our daily expenses and other necessities.

Lying about gambling only means that the person is not doing well on his gambling venture.
Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: irhact on April 26, 2024, 06:10:20 PM

Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.
Well that's because you're independent of your husband's money and you have a busy schedule that makes you not to have the time to monitor how he spends his money since you're busy making yours and how he spends doesn't affect the family, in a case where he doesn't provide or complain of being broke often I bet you'll be very worried and willing to know what he puts his money into or how he spends it rather.

 Well I don't think it's only the addicted gamblers that lie about their gambling habit to their spouse, their are some individuals who are comfortable to open up to their spouse cause not everyone would be happy to hear that who they're married to or in a relationship with is a gambler, it could be okay for men cause majority of men are into gambling whether open or secret, some even gamblers with their friends when they play snooker games but for a woman I don't think not all men would tolerate their wives to gamble.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: GxSTxV on April 26, 2024, 06:52:44 PM
Those are very funny stories that shows how soms gamblers are dedicated to gambling.
Personally, I never lied about my gambling habits to anyone, maybe because I wasn't in a situation where I had to. From the very first beginning I have told my girlfriend about my gambling activities, she handled that very well surprisingly and we ever gamble often together which makes it ×10 times better than gambling alone in secret.

I think what pushes some gamblers to lie about their gambling habits is the feeling of shame and being shy to tell others about it because of the fear of their reaction about it. It is totally normal to gamble, it is a fun entertaining activity, we should just be careful and know when to stop and when to gamble and how to manage our own actions.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: coolcoinz on April 26, 2024, 07:11:58 PM
Why he act like he broke a very critical thing? come on, a lot people lies almost everyday!

If you have a food and beverage business, will you tell someone about the secret of your business e.g. your supplier, the ingredients, cooking skills, and your profit every month if they ask it?

Same to this case, lying if the best time is into a bed with her is fine, but it's just not okay for you that you're an addict and not want to cure your addiction.

I feel like his wife needed that lie ;) He's probably a weirdo if he's really waiting to lock himself with his phone, regardless of what he's doing there, pooing, masturbating, or gambling.
Yes' we sometimes have to lie because people expect that from us. They don't want to hear the truth.

I've never lied about gambling because I do it with my own money and I use cryptocurrencies so nobody knows how much I won or lost. It doesn't affect my social life and finances, since I consider money put aside for gambling as lost. If someone ever asks me about it, I won't lie (unless it's the IRS :D).



Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Zigabel on April 26, 2024, 07:34:46 PM
You could possibly say that such a lie could be deemed a white lie—those insignificant ones that we say to avoid hurting others or because the truth is more complicated to explain. Although I also believe that it's best to be open and straightforward, lying can put you in difficult situations if you're caught, because eventually you will be. However, this isn't the worst part; I find it extremely saddening that the favorite part of the person in the Reddit post is to hide in the toilet in order to gamble, or generally speaking, to be forced to hide what you're doing. 
I understand your point completely, sometimes in oder to avoid too much explanations that will arise from telling the truth because sometimes they may not be able to understand completely the truth the way it is especially when it has to do with gambling like this, sometimes people just like the reddit guy will just hide to even avoid bringing to the knowledge of others about their gambling habits so they don't get t o lie or even defend a truth that's been told. Sometimes these are just mechanism to help them still maintain their relationships which they still find very important to them away from gambling so in other to protect it they keep the drama away.

I think it will be even more helpful if it can be spoken about with their patterns probably in a way that you get them to understand that you gat it in control and it wouldn't be detrimental to the family because most times the fear of the effects of gambling to the family could be reasons why some patterns will want to condemned and criticize the habit.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: uneng on April 26, 2024, 07:36:19 PM
I never lied to cover up my gambling habits, because I don't think it's necessary. When you lie you are attracting bad karma for your future, so it's definitely not an alternative if you want to to walk a good path in life. In practical words, it means that when you lie, you are creating relationships where people won't feel comfortable to trust you. They will have a negative view regards you when you lie to them. Therefore, your presence won't be valued anymore, just like your opinions, statements and promises. It creates an environment of unstability which inevitably will destroy the family on long run.

Maybe for some people these little lies are fun and reasons for jokes, although in fact they aren't, and shouldn't be encouraged, even if done once in a while. Moreover, lies to cover up gambling practice can be very dangerous, because once the family members identify the patriarch of the family is having issues with his gambling habits, it can be too late, because the money lost may be already a large sum of the total funds they have disponible. So, be careful with harmless lies, as in the end they might not be so harmless like it seemed for first.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Onyeeze on April 26, 2024, 07:40:08 PM
I've only ever lied when holding my phone thinking I was playing a game when I was gambling, but when my wife asked what you were doing “playing Cand Rush”  ;D

You have a friend who lies almost exactly like my own friend, but he confessed to his wife he lost money on the road while driving but what happened he spent all his money playing slots, in order to protect himself then the friend said to protect himself.

Many stories are habitual to cover gambling in any way, they do this not wanting to be stressed after losing a lot in question by other members, even though this is bad behavior there are still many people doing this habit.
so many people tells lies to cover up their shit, so that is what I mean by some persons because if you are married and you are a gambler who gambles almost everyday you will recover yourself up when you have spent the money that you are supposed to spend in your family and you spend the money outside the family based on gambling you must have one or two things to cover up the lies so that they will not be a problem between you and your wife, that's the reason why men tell lies


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Lanatsa on April 26, 2024, 07:50:54 PM
I've only ever lied when holding my phone thinking I was playing a game when I was gambling, but when my wife asked what you were doing “playing Cand Rush”  ;D

You have a friend who lies almost exactly like my own friend, but he confessed to his wife he lost money on the road while driving but what happened he spent all his money playing slots, in order to protect himself then the friend said to protect himself.

Many stories are habitual to cover gambling in any way, they do this not wanting to be stressed after losing a lot in question by other members, even though this is bad behavior there are still many people doing this habit.
so many people tells lies to cover up their shit, so that is what I mean by some persons because if you are married and you are a gambler who gambles almost everyday you will recover yourself up when you have spent the money that you are supposed to spend in your family and you spend the money outside the family based on gambling you must have one or two things to cover up the lies so that they will not be a problem between you and your wife, that's the reason why men tell lies
We do tell lies if we do see that it isnt really that affecting on things on which would really be gonna be affected but on the time that if things turns out to be obvious and your partner would already be making out those kind of questions because of suspicions then how you would gonna handle it? There would really be times or moments that you would really be gonna fucked up yourself hard. People do believe that they could really be able to solve out the problem without telling and just simply quitting or stopping once they've seen such problems but on the time comes that it did happen then this is where you would really be realizing that it wasnt that easy to make out such act.

This isnt really just that limited on gambling but also in other things as well on which we do really trying out to cover up our shit which we know that this is something that could really be resulting
into some potential trouble or simply the other one didnt really like nor let you to deal with it. It would really be just that depending on such situation yet
not all would really be that wise on making up such decisions on every condition.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Shamm on April 26, 2024, 07:57:01 PM
Sometimes we need to lie in order to to prevent such things happen and those lie called white lies. For example we need to hide our from our family members so we won't let them know that we are in involve in gambling so we make some lies  I orde to prevent our secret safe. But in reality I don't think that lies is the answer of our problems cause I think that telling the truth is the best thing to do in order to preserve the trust that built for several years. Cause when we lie on them and then they will surprisely know then the trust will broke.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Juse14 on April 26, 2024, 07:58:03 PM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..
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Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Hi also....  ;)

I lied because I wanted to gamble safely. Where I live, gambling is considered a negative activity, and so are some members of my family. And to maintain harmony in the family, I try to cover up these activities by not gambling when I'm at home. And who knows what will happen next, if my gambling activities are discovered by them, because after all the lies will definitely be discovered too. just like a carcass, because no matter how clever we are at hiding it, in the end the smell will still be smelled. This is all just a matter of time, and hopefully when they find out that I am a gambler, this will not affect harmony in the family, but before that happens, in the next few days I will try to be brave and honest with what I am doing. That seems better than them finding out about the gambling activities I do from other people.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Jaycoinz on April 26, 2024, 08:00:03 PM
I've only ever lied when holding my phone thinking I was playing a game when I was gambling, but when my wife asked what you were doing “playing Cand Rush”  ;D

You have a friend who lies almost exactly like my own friend, but he confessed to his wife he lost money on the road while driving but what happened he spent all his money playing slots, in order to protect himself then the friend said to protect himself.

Many stories are habitual to cover gambling in any way, they do this not wanting to be stressed after losing a lot in question by other members, even though this is bad behavior there are still many people doing this habit.
so many people tells lies to cover up their shit, so that is what I mean by some persons because if you are married and you are a gambler who gambles almost everyday you will recover yourself up when you have spent the money that you are supposed to spend in your family and you spend the money outside the family based on gambling you must have one or two things to cover up the lies so that they will not be a problem between you and your wife, that's the reason why men tell lies
Well there is nothing a desperate gambler cannot do and this particular lies told by gamblers is common and that's I tend to be skeptical about some stories my friends which I know are gambler tell me. This thing is very common and its not only gamblers that do it, lies are told all the time just to cover up things we don't want people to know.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Zlantann on April 26, 2024, 08:17:13 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

In some cases lying seems to be the best option but I can attest that it is the worst. One might just tell lies to cover up an ugly event but the question we should ask ourselves is what will be the reaction of the person who later discovered that you were not telling the truth. Your wife might be scrolling your phone and discover from your browsing history that you were gambling at the time she asked the question. This can lead to mistrust which could affect relationships negatively. I know it is fearful and very difficult but we should learn to always tell the truth no matter what the reaction from our partner will be.

I have not told any gambling related lies to my partner but I have tried to cover up my losses to avoid arguments and quarrels. There was a time when I had some losses that were above my gambling budget and I had to hide it from my partner and avoid her questions regarding how I used my monthly allocation. Fortunately, I was able to recover the losses before she became more inquisitive.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Ultegra134 on April 26, 2024, 08:24:52 PM
I understand your point completely, sometimes in oder to avoid too much explanations that will arise from telling the truth because sometimes they may not be able to understand completely the truth the way it is especially when it has to do with gambling like this, sometimes people just like the reddit guy will just hide to even avoid bringing to the knowledge of others about their gambling habits so they don't get t o lie or even defend a truth that's been told. Sometimes these are just mechanism to help them still maintain their relationships which they still find very important to them away from gambling so in other to protect it they keep the drama away.

I think it will be even more helpful if it can be spoken about with their patterns probably in a way that you get them to understand that you gat it in control and it wouldn't be detrimental to the family because most times the fear of the effects of gambling to the family could be reasons why some patterns will want to condemned and criticize the habit.
I'm a straightforward person and prefer to be honest about my beliefs; if you're asking my opinion, you'd be expecting my actual view, not a lie that won't hurt your feelings. However, some subjects are a little controversial, such as gambling or cryptocurrency investments, where telling a few white lies is far easier and more convenient than explaining the whole situation, which is usually something that I prefer not doing.

Lying inside a relationship for petty stuff, such as your desire to gamble, is setting your relationship on the wrong foot, and even you see it as something negative because it's likely that you're addicted and have to hide, not only from your partner but from yourself as well.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: goaldigger on April 26, 2024, 08:33:18 PM
Sometimes we need to lie in order to to prevent such things happen and those lie called white lies. For example we need to hide our from our family members so we won't let them know that we are in involve in gambling so we make some lies  I orde to prevent our secret safe. But in reality I don't think that lies is the answer of our problems cause I think that telling the truth is the best thing to do in order to preserve the trust that built for several years. Cause when we lie on them and then they will surprisely know then the trust will broke.
That’s the big check, lying can’t stay longer or else that could break someone else trust and even if its your family, lying should not be your option because being honest and having a good communication with your partner, that is more healthy. Well, if its gambling we always make lies because of our personal reason and whenever you’re ready, better to confess your gambling activities especially if you think you are already falling into this trap.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: taufik123 on April 26, 2024, 08:57:21 PM
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Lying inside a relationship for petty stuff, such as your desire to gamble, is setting your relationship on the wrong foot, and even you see it as something negative because it's likely that you're addicted and have to hide, not only from your partner but from yourself as well.
And again, no one can control when someone has fallen into an addict.
If honest and open with gambling activities carried out to couples, there will still be those who care when gambling has exceeded reasonable limits.

After all, why lie and hide the activities carried out against people who really should know.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: topbitcoin on April 26, 2024, 10:25:04 PM
For the first time I entered the world of gambling, I still played secretly and always tried to cover up my gambling activities, especially in front of my parents. Because at that time I had just graduated from school and didn't have a job or income at all, so some of my needs were still met by my parents. And if they find out that some of the money they gave was spent on gambling, then they will probably scold me, and it is possible that I will no longer be given pocket money. So I always try to cover these activities.

However, not at this time, because at this time I already have a job and income, no longer financially dependent on them. I dare to speak honestly about the gambling activities that I do. and they allowed it, with a note, that I could only gamble when my needs, savings and investments had been met. although it is quite difficult to do. However, rather than continuing to hide these activities, it's better for me to tell the truth because lying really makes me quite tired. It's better for me to be honest, because after all this is all for my own good.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: mirakal on April 26, 2024, 10:59:26 PM
Why he act like he broke a very critical thing? come on, a lot people lies almost everyday!

If you have a food and beverage business, will you tell someone about the secret of your business e.g. your supplier, the ingredients, cooking skills, and your profit every month if they ask it?

Same to this case, lying if the best time is into a bed with her is fine, but it's just not okay for you that you're an addict and not want to cure your addiction.
I guess lying for the sake of gambling is not actually surprising. A lot of people create lies so they can sustain their urge in gambling, and even myself is not an exception. Well, that’s how when I was still starting with gambling and eventually get hooked to it that fast. To the point that I have to lie that all my funds are used up with those high priced bills when in reality I screwed them all to gambling.

However, I’ve learned my lesson now and that there’s no way that I would be lying again just to satisfy myself with  my gambling habits. I can gamble with my spare funds, but using all my hard-earned money for gambling, that won’t never happen again.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: danadc on April 26, 2024, 11:21:43 PM
Why he act like he broke a very critical thing? come on, a lot people lies almost everyday!

If you have a food and beverage business, will you tell someone about the secret of your business e.g. your supplier, the ingredients, cooking skills, and your profit every month if they ask it?

Same to this case, lying if the best time is into a bed with her is fine, but it's just not okay for you that you're an addict and not want to cure your addiction.
I guess lying for the sake of gambling is not actually surprising. A lot of people create lies so they can sustain their urge in gambling, and even myself is not an exception. Well, that’s how when I was still starting with gambling and eventually get hooked to it that fast. To the point that I have to lie that all my funds are used up with those high priced bills when in reality I screwed them all to gambling.

However, I’ve learned my lesson now and that there’s no way that I would be lying again just to satisfy myself with  my gambling habits. I can gamble with my spare funds, but using all my hard-earned money for gambling, that won’t never happen again.
When players depend on other people or have to hand over accounts to other people, sometimes others do not like gambling because it is money that easily goes into the casino, because casinos are places where you can lose money very easily. and if the player is a person who does not control himself and lets himself be carried away by emotions, he can lose all the money, the player who is good has to control his emotions because if he runs out of money he has to go back to look for more. keep playing, and that is a bad sign, it goes straight to addiction, so in this type of things you have to be very intelligent, play very calmly and accept what is done in the casino, don't go crazy if you lose. money or seek revenge.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Ultegra134 on April 26, 2024, 11:57:00 PM
And again, no one can control when someone has fallen into an addict.
If honest and open with gambling activities carried out to couples, there will still be those who care when gambling has exceeded reasonable limits.

After all, why lie and hide the activities carried out against people who really should know.
To be honest, I believe that we are able to control more than we're taking responsibility for. You can't directly control if you're becoming an addict, but it's practically impossible not to acknowledge that you have a gambling problem. Unfortunately, gambling is perceived as something negative, even when it's conducted with specific boundaries, which is probably one of the reasons some prefer to hide it. There's no excuse in hiding such things from your partner though, you're only hurting your relationship in the long-term.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: EarnOnVictor on April 27, 2024, 09:39:04 AM
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Hahaha... I have a lot to reply to here.

First, about the guy who lied to the wife that being beside her is his best moment, I advise him to keep it that way. Women like you to make them feel the most important, it is better to keep it that way. All he can work on is to be a responsible gambler, a good husband and a father. If those are in place, the rest is a story.

As for your story, I must say I truly laughed here and it deserved my merit. Online course indeed! :) Regardless, it saved the day, kudos to you and your lie. Besides, in your case, since you are a better man now, you may still tell her the truth on a casual note. Though it's not compulsory, it's a choice, just for you guys to laugh over it.

About your friend, I hope he can change his ways, this is so irresponsible, he just has to turn a new leaf. Also, the wife is not fair by saying he should have been beaten by the robbers to believe. It is not all robbers who beat or harm you when you cooperate with them. She shouldn't have thought it that far but for the safety of the husband whether he is lying or not. This is unless the guy is just entirely irresponsible which could have been his usual way to make her think that way.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Never! I don't have any reason to do so. Since I am a responsible adult and do not collect or steal money from anyone to gamble, I can't just think it twice than to tell you I gamble or I am gambling as the case may be.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: shivansps on April 27, 2024, 09:51:09 AM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..
https://talkimg.com/images/2024/04/23/jeFxG.jpeg

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Yes, it happened to me that I lied to my friend about the bets I placed on eSports matches. I myself don’t know why I reduced the amount I bet on the match and lost. Although if I had told the truth, no one would have condemned me for this. I probably thought about my reputation and sometimes I felt ashamed to admit to losing money. It makes you look like you're a loser. I think it's better not to say anything than to lie. I mean the situation where you don't have to give an answer at all.
I also believe that an adult should not do things that would have to be hidden, be it from friends or from his wife or anyone else.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: angrybirdy on April 27, 2024, 10:44:37 AM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..
https://talkimg.com/images/2024/04/23/jeFxG.jpeg

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Yes, it happened to me that I lied to my friend about the bets I placed on eSports matches. I myself don’t know why I reduced the amount I bet on the match and lost. Although if I had told the truth, no one would have condemned me for this. I probably thought about my reputation and sometimes I felt ashamed to admit to losing money. It makes you look like you're a loser. I think it's better not to say anything than to lie. I mean the situation where you don't have to give an answer at all.
I also believe that an adult should not do things that would have to be hidden, be it from friends or from his wife or anyone else.

Been there done that, mate. I can say that it's okay not to say anything than to lie, since no one is asking about what you're doing then don't make a story about your whereabout, you should handle it on your own and it will gives us a peace of mind knowing that no one knows tha truth because you're not telling it to anyone rather than telling lies.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Mr. Magkaisa on April 27, 2024, 10:46:22 AM
      -   There are people who love gambling and will do anything just to gamble. Now, to the point that we can lie because of gambling, I have never experienced it, but I only keep
my gambling a secret from my wife.

Maybe the time I lied to my wife was when I won gambling and I didn't tell her that the money I gave her came from my crypto gambling winnings. Actually, even up to now I played gambled without her knowledge although I know that it won't be a problem, but I just really don't want her to know what I'm doing.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: AnonBitCoiner on April 27, 2024, 11:18:25 AM
Honestly, you can't lie to your wife, your wife always knows when you're telling the truth or not, if you can get away with lying about your gambling then you are that good at lying and you can pass a lie detector test.

Honesty is the best policy and your wife will always understand, even if she knows nothing about gambling, your body language when you win or lose will give you away so it is better to tell her so you won't have to tell a lie about what you're lying.

A wife can understand each and everything but sometimes she pretends to be not familiar with the fact and I think no one should hide any activity from his wife because hidden things can be termed as cheating with your wife which she cannot tolerate.

If someone's wife does not like your gambling habit then you should stop it because it is such a risky field that not only will you be in danger but your wife will also feel insecure. Your wife will definitely understand what is going on in your mind and most of the relationship becomes weaker due to the habit of a husband who hide most of the things from his wife.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: usekevin on April 27, 2024, 01:19:16 PM
     -   There are people who love gambling and will do anything just to gamble. Now, to the point that we can lie because of gambling, I have never experienced it, but I only keep
my gambling a secret from my wife.


The gambler had two types,one they play the game just for the fun.They like to play the game for the entertainment,So they love to play the game irrespective of expectations of profit from it.Second one is the gambler who consider the gambling as the money making machine.So mostly expect the profit from their capital investment.The gambler who had love to play the game never disclosures their involvement in gambling,because some day their wife or family members will ask to quit the gambling.This gambler will lie to their wife to save their game to the gambling site.


Maybe the time I lied to my wife was when I won gambling and I didn't tell her that the money I gave her came from my crypto gambling winnings. Actually, even up to now I played gambled without her knowledge although I know that it won't be a problem, but I just really don't want her to know what I'm doing.

The gambler who made the winning dollar are not going to lie to their wife,because they can say their wife absolutely the winning dollar to show their supremacy in the game.But some time this may back fire,after hearing this the wife may ask to quit after this game to avoid loss of money in the future.If you gave some dollars from the winning money means,she get more happy about your winnings.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: swogerino on April 27, 2024, 01:30:53 PM
Lies like that in the first post here in the thread are not hurting ones,they don't do any harm,quite the opposite they give the woman what she wants to hear from her husband and the husband can keep to himself that he loves gambling more than her at certain times.The only harm I see in such declarations is exactly the signs of addiction I see in here,if they truly care about gambling more than anything else then this is a big problem which they need to fix as it will undoubtedly hunt them after some time have passed,the wife will find out and that is how a big number of divorces happen,the biggest number in the country where I live is exactly from gambling.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: junder on April 27, 2024, 03:41:00 PM
     -   There are people who love gambling and will do anything just to gamble. Now, to the point that we can lie because of gambling, I have never experienced it, but I only keep
my gambling a secret from my wife.

Maybe the time I lied to my wife was when I won gambling and I didn't tell her that the money I gave her came from my crypto gambling winnings. Actually, even up to now I played gambled without her knowledge although I know that it won't be a problem, but I just really don't want her to know what I'm doing.

It also depends on the individual, in my opinion, if the person is happy with the gambling they do, maybe they will not hesitate to say that they often gamble, on the other hand there are gamblers who win to cover up their gambling activities, so it is not strange if they tell lies, such as in the use of money that says what to buy or to use other things but the main purpose is to bet on gambling. You yourself must have your own reasons why you keep your gambling a secret, I myself keep it a secret from my family because I don't want my family to know that I like gambling, maybe if they know I like gambling they can be disappointed.

That's a sure thing guys hahaha  :D
In fact, I think there are also other people like that who do give the money they have to their wife or other family members but don't tell them that the money is the result of gambling. But I don't think it's a problem, because as long as they are happy it's okay in my opinion.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: dimonstration on April 27, 2024, 03:52:37 PM
You can only get yourself involved with lies when your partner don't know whether you are a gambler or not but truth be told, when there's lapses you would look for an alternative to cover oneself up because you know if you don't defend yourself definitely there must be questions that would arise later or sooner how where about you spent money.

I think the contrary since if my partners don’t know that I’m gambling then I don’t need to lie just to cover up what I’m doing since she doesn’t have any suspicion on my gambling habit. I believe I will be more often lying if my partner knew about my habit since woman is known for being nosy to everything that we do especially if it’s gambling.

I personally don’t lie about my gambling habits since there’s nothing to be ashamed as long as I’m using my funds properly while I can still sustain properly our daily expenses and other necessities.

Lying about gambling only means that the person is not doing well on his gambling venture.
Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..


It’s nice read woman point of view here in forum because my comment about my partner is just my assumption and observation since I don’t confront here with this kind of trivial discussion or else I will be sleeping in the couch.

I usually just provide everything to my partner and just get my allowance out of my salary while the rest is up to her on how she will budget in. I guess what I’m doing is right since your opinion is same with that.

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Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.

Definitely, addiction makes you isolated with your family since you don’t want to get busted on what you are doing because you knew it’s not right.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Solosanz on April 27, 2024, 03:52:51 PM
     -   There are people who love gambling and will do anything just to gamble. Now, to the point that we can lie because of gambling, I have never experienced it, but I only keep
my gambling a secret from my wife.

Maybe the time I lied to my wife was when I won gambling and I didn't tell her that the money I gave her came from my crypto gambling winnings. Actually, even up to now I played gambled without her knowledge although I know that it won't be a problem, but I just really don't want her to know what I'm doing.
You didn't lie but you can gamble secretly from your wife, let me ask you, is your wife really love you? I don't think a person that live with you in the same house didn't know what each other doing. If she didn't care with that you do and don't want to dig deeper, then she might don't really love you.

No one can stay really anonymous with someone that live in the same house.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: SmartGold01 on April 27, 2024, 04:17:28 PM

Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

I usually just provide everything to my partner and just get my allowance out of my salary while the rest is up to her on how she will budget in. I guess what I’m doing is right since your opinion is same with that.

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Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.

Definitely, addiction makes you isolated with your family since you don’t want to get busted on what you are doing because you knew it’s not right.
Every woman with the way they behaves, you might be providing your monthly allowance to her but she may not get satisfied over what you does with your money at times it might leads to question you if what you are earning as salaries does reflects to your real life, activity and investment then she could be led to speak out. The most important thing is be open to each others with this there will be much worries over you since she knows what you are into how the money are being spent out every day.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Zoomic on April 27, 2024, 07:34:37 PM

Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

I usually just provide everything to my partner and just get my allowance out of my salary while the rest is up to her on how she will budget in. I guess what I’m doing is right since your opinion is same with that.

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Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.

Definitely, addiction makes you isolated with your family since you don’t want to get busted on what you are doing because you knew it’s not right.
Every woman with the way they behaves, you might be providing your monthly allowance to her but she may not get satisfied over what you does with your money at times it might leads to question you if what you are earning as salaries does reflects to your real life, activity and investment then she could be led to speak out. The most important thing is be open to each others with this there will be much worries over you since she knows what you are into how the money are being spent out every day.

I don't think any woman will be worried over her partner's mode of spending money if those unnecessary expenditures ain't affecting his responsibilities to his wife and family. Most times it is not all about money, but the level of attention you give to gambling that might make your family yearn for your attention. I still maintain that gambling activities should not be done in secret, if you are gambling right, your partner will adjust and let you enjoy whatever benefits you derive from gambling. Gambling is not a bad game, what matters most is how you go about it. If your partner shows concern over your gambling habit, it shows she means well for you.  It is now left for you to prove to her that one can be a gambler and still be responsible.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: darkangel11 on April 27, 2024, 08:00:31 PM
I'm completely honest about my gambling and never had to lie about it. What I do though is avoid the subject. When someone asks me if I have some bonus money from somewhere, I won't even say that I participate in a casino signature campaign. It's not that I'm ashamed or anything, but I don't want the conversation to go that way. Usually I feel like people are starting to interview me when they hear that I gamble, pretty much like if I told them that I rob stores at night or that I'm in a MLM campaign. So, derail the conversation and you won't have to lie ;)


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Mia Chloe on April 27, 2024, 08:10:04 PM
Hiding your gambling activities or lying about it could sometimes be a sign of gambling addiction. Like if you come to think of it , why hide something if it's right or doesn't have something more to it ? One of the biggest issues of hiding gambling activities from the people around you especially family members is when they eventually find out without you breaking the news to them before then. Majority of the they view it as a scenario where the feel they are distrusted by the gambler.

This can cause relationship and emotional issues. Also , as a responsible gambler I don't think you should measure the love you have for your loved ones like your wife with the amount of fun you have when you gamble except you are probably an addict.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Hispo on April 27, 2024, 09:46:09 PM
Hiding your gambling activities or lying about it could sometimes be a sign of gambling addiction. Like if you come to think of it , why hide something if it's right or doesn't have something more to it ? One of the biggest issues of hiding gambling activities from the people around you especially family members is when they eventually find out without you breaking the news to them before then. Majority of the they view it as a scenario where the feel they are distrusted by the gambler.

This can cause relationship and emotional issues. Also , as a responsible gambler I don't think you should measure the love you have for your loved ones like your wife with the amount of fun you have when you gamble except you are probably an addict.

I agree it can be a sign of gamgling addiction, but I rather see it as the beginning of a long lasting addiction to gambling. Depending on the context, anyone could start to gamble in secret for a variety of reasons: it could be about religious stigma on gamblers, it could be because it is illegal for people to gamble or bet, it would be even because the person who wishes to gamble does not want the rest of their peers to realize he had money and wagered all of it on a casino.

Though, as losses accumulate and as the person continue to keep the habit a secret, it becomes more likely she/he will never address the problem and open up to their family and friends about it, perpetuating the gambling untill all the assets are gone.

That is one of the reasons I believe talking about losses with our loved ones is important, before they start to accumulate, so we can feel liberated from the guilt and shame which comes with all of it, I assume it helps to move on from behavioral addictions like problem gambling.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: LUCKMCFLY on April 27, 2024, 09:47:11 PM
Hiding your gambling activities or lying about it could sometimes be a sign of gambling addiction. Like if you come to think of it , why hide something if it's right or doesn't have something more to it ? One of the biggest issues of hiding gambling activities from the people around you especially family members is when they eventually find out without you breaking the news to them before then. Majority of the they view it as a scenario where the feel they are distrusted by the gambler.

This can cause relationship and emotional issues. Also , as a responsible gambler I don't think you should measure the love you have for your loved ones like your wife with the amount of fun you have when you gamble except you are probably an addict.
I believe that everyone does their things as they see fit to have their own benefit. In this order of ideas we can say that if someone does not harm Anyone, then they can hide everything they Want and do what they like the most, as long as they do not They hurt no one , that is something that is noticeable and that you always have to raise Awareness, so when you see all these things you can prioritize things, if it harms the family you can't be in a game, in a casino , at least I can't. be damaging my own blood, then when they hide it and it is known, many things can be destroyed, and that is why so many things happen, separating families , fathers and mothers, children suffer and a family is Broken it fades away, and of course, this happens thanks to Addiction.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: betswift on April 27, 2024, 10:28:14 PM

Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

I usually just provide everything to my partner and just get my allowance out of my salary while the rest is up to her on how she will budget in. I guess what I’m doing is right since your opinion is same with that.

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Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.

Definitely, addiction makes you isolated with your family since you don’t want to get busted on what you are doing because you knew it’s not right.
Every woman with the way they behaves, you might be providing your monthly allowance to her but she may not get satisfied over what you does with your money at times it might leads to question you if what you are earning as salaries does reflects to your real life, activity and investment then she could be led to speak out. The most important thing is be open to each others with this there will be much worries over you since she knows what you are into how the money are being spent out every day.

I don't think any woman will be worried over her partner's mode of spending money if those unnecessary expenditures ain't affecting his responsibilities to his wife and family. Most times it is not all about money, but the level of attention you give to gambling that might make your family yearn for your attention. I still maintain that gambling activities should not be done in secret, if you are gambling right, your partner will adjust and let you enjoy whatever benefits you derive from gambling. Gambling is not a bad game, what matters most is how you go about it. If your partner shows concern over your gambling habit, it shows she means well for you.  It is now left for you to prove to her that one can be a gambler and still be responsible.

Absolutely true. As long as one's responsibilities aren't neglected, there shouldn’t be an issue. You're right in saying that honesty is crucial. We're all adults here, capable of having open and constructive conversations, especially within a partnership. With mutual understanding and respect in place there really shouldn't be any problems with a partner being aware of and accepting the other’s preferences whether its gambling or anything els


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Accardo on April 27, 2024, 10:41:22 PM
Hiding your gambling activities or lying about it could sometimes be a sign of gambling addiction. Like if you come to think of it , why hide something if it's right or doesn't have something more to it ? One of the biggest issues of hiding gambling activities from the people around you especially family members is when they eventually find out without you breaking the news to them before then. Majority of the they view it as a scenario where the feel they are distrusted by the gambler.

This can cause relationship and emotional issues. Also , as a responsible gambler I don't think you should measure the love you have for your loved ones like your wife with the amount of fun you have when you gamble except you are probably an addict.
I believe that everyone does their things as they see fit to have their own benefit. In this order of ideas we can say that if someone does not harm Anyone, then they can hide everything they Want and do what they like the most, as long as they do not They hurt no one , that is something that is noticeable and that you always have to raise Awareness, so when you see all these things you can prioritize things, if it harms the family you can't be in a game, in a casino , at least I can't. be damaging my own blood, then when they hide it and it is known, many things can be destroyed, and that is why so many things happen, separating families , fathers and mothers, children suffer and a family is Broken it fades away, and of course, this happens thanks to Addiction.


It's unfair to rate gambling above a spouse then lie about it in their presence. That attitude could lead to trouble someday. Players are meant to enjoy the game and forget about entangling themselves with too many thoughts which could affect them mentally. It's not necessary having those thoughts in our brain as gamblers. Because of the future impact it may have on the gambler or his spouse, bringing up such thoughts can be harmful to the spouse. Jokingly, one would want to express himself openly and would say mistakenly the truth, something too annoying for someone so dear to hear. The thought is stored on the subconscious of the gambler and one day he'll cough it up. Personally, I think, the player just developed a thought within him, that makes him think he's lying to his spouse. Those thoughts are not necessary. Why hide or lie when everything could be done moderately.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: ZippyPixL on April 27, 2024, 10:44:46 PM
Lies like that in the first post here in the thread are not hurting ones,they don't do any harm,quite the opposite they give the woman what she wants to hear from her husband and the husband can keep to himself that he loves gambling more than her at certain times.The only harm I see in such declarations is exactly the signs of addiction I see in here,if they truly care about gambling more than anything else then this is a big problem which they need to fix as it will undoubtedly hunt them after some time have passed,the wife will find out and that is how a big number of divorces happen,the biggest number in the country where I live is exactly from gambling.

Yes, lying here indicates underlying problems. A happy person is unlikely to fabricate stories to hide their harmless preferences. Typically, a person lies because they are ashamed: either they fear judgment, feel they are addicted but don’t want to confront the truth, or, despite not being addicted, they anticipate misunderstanding from their partner. Any of these reasons suggests issues both personally and in their relationships

Hiding your gambling activities or lying about it could sometimes be a sign of gambling addiction. Like if you come to think of it , why hide something if it's right or doesn't have something more to it ? One of the biggest issues of hiding gambling activities from the people around you especially family members is when they eventually find out without you breaking the news to them before then. Majority of the they view it as a scenario where the feel they are distrusted by the gambler.

This can cause relationship and emotional issues. Also , as a responsible gambler I don't think you should measure the love you have for your loved ones like your wife with the amount of fun you have when you gamble except you are probably an addict.

same thoughts. Responsible gambling means enjoying it without letting it interfere with family commitments. Open discussion and management of gambling within the family context should be possible without secrecy or guilt.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Odusko on April 27, 2024, 10:49:36 PM
Lies like that in the first post here in the thread are not hurting ones,they don't do any harm,quite the opposite they give the woman what she wants to hear from her husband and the husband can keep to himself that he loves gambling more than her at certain times.The only harm I see in such declarations is exactly the signs of addiction I see in here,if they truly care about gambling more than anything else then this is a big problem which they need to fix as it will undoubtedly hunt them after some time have passed,the wife will find out and that is how a big number of divorces happen,the biggest number in the country where I live is exactly from gambling.
This lies is just for self satisfaction of not there is nothing more to why any gambler will lie, because when you want to categorise lies we fine this kind of lies told in the ops to be self afflicting lies, because in his story his lies truly did not hurt anyone and also he did not direct it to any but self, so the action may be justifiable.
Diving into the issues of addiction in the ops story is a different ball game entirely because yes to some extent I believe why the man in the story choose to say such lies just to justify his actions shows he is heavily addicted.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: SmartGold01 on April 27, 2024, 10:54:35 PM

Yeah you are correct, you know most times we as woman we often tends to know the way about our husbands money although it depends since I joined here I have never took much part to what my husband does with his money, provided that he has his part to play in the family correctly I don't kill myself over his instead I focused here after doing necessary things needed to be done at home then I can make out time and chances to read here all though..

I usually just provide everything to my partner and just get my allowance out of my salary while the rest is up to her on how she will budget in. I guess what I’m doing is right since your opinion is same with that.

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Most men who lies at those are addicted gambler, let say they fails to carry out their responsibility as Menh or as woman at home when there weekly or monthly allocation are being given to them to adequate care of the family and they went ahead wasting into gambling, at this point they could be pushed to cook up a story as lies to defend themselves which I think is not necessary to do that rather open up.

Definitely, addiction makes you isolated with your family since you don’t want to get busted on what you are doing because you knew it’s not right.
Every woman with the way they behaves, you might be providing your monthly allowance to her but she may not get satisfied over what you does with your money at times it might leads to question you if what you are earning as salaries does reflects to your real life, activity and investment then she could be led to speak out. The most important thing is be open to each others with this there will be much worries over you since she knows what you are into how the money are being spent out every day.

I don't think any woman will be worried over her partner's mode of spending money if those unnecessary expenditures ain't affecting his responsibilities to his wife and family. Most times it is not all about money, but the level of attention you give to gambling that might make your family yearn for your attention. I still maintain that gambling activities should not be done in secret, if you are gambling right, your partner will adjust and let you enjoy whatever benefits you derive from gambling. Gambling is not a bad game, what matters most is how you go about it. If your partner shows concern over your gambling habit, it shows she means well for you.  It is now left for you to prove to her that one can be a gambler and still be responsible.
Like I said your partner could mad at you when started noticing insincerity in you or maybe you aren't carrying out your obligation as man at home and yet she knows that you are working and earning salary at a times also believed that you are gambler then here comes her suspect, and here comes her monitoring to know your activities especially that concerns with your finance, and some kind of lost attention whenever you are being called or caught off at some secret place could be room or toilet, being alone, quiet at some point then this will generate suspicion for yourself as gambler.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Hirose UK on April 28, 2024, 02:21:36 AM
Lies like that in the first post here in the thread are not hurting ones,they don't do any harm,quite the opposite they give the woman what she wants to hear from her husband and the husband can keep to himself that he loves gambling more than her at certain times.The only harm I see in such declarations is exactly the signs of addiction I see in here,if they truly care about gambling more than anything else then this is a big problem which they need to fix as it will undoubtedly hunt them after some time have passed,the wife will find out and that is how a big number of divorces happen,the biggest number in the country where I live is exactly from gambling.
Every gambler will definitely lie to cover up what he is doing with his gambling activities to the people around him, including family members.
Likewise, husband will definitely hide his gambling activities from his wife because he doesn't want it to become problem if the wife finds out that her husband is gambler because the wife will have different sentiments when she finds out that her husband uses some money to gamble.
Moreover, not everyone will accept or consider gambling activities to be good activities and most people have bad view of gambling.
But in my opinion, the only person we can prevent from knowing about the gambling activities we do is our children, as father I really don't want my children to know that I often gamble.
This will have much worse impact than the wife finding out, if the wife finds out it might just be angry but if it is child then it has the potential to make the child curious and want to know about trying gambling.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Dewi Aries on April 28, 2024, 05:40:06 AM
One thing is that no matter what the name of a lie is, especially if the lie is about something that has a bad point of view in the eyes of society, usually over time it will also smell or mean that they will eventually be found out that they are involved in gambling. For the initial stage maybe yes you can still hide it but over time I think your wife or your partner will still feel that there is something odd in the behavior of his partner who gambles, especially this is gambling which requires money in order to get involved and play which means there is a possibility that one day your partner will find a number of money allocations that are not known where they are going which over time the suspicion will definitely get stronger when they find something increasingly odd, especially if you are married which is usually really difficult to hide about finances to our wives or partners, they will definitely ask a lot of questions related to where you use the money, none other than because they know our monthly income from work so when they see that we have no money then obviously prepare yourself to answer all the questions that come with pressure. :D


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Julien_Olynpic on April 28, 2024, 06:14:27 AM
There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Gozie51 on April 28, 2024, 06:33:40 AM

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

I'm familiar with this kind of stories and lies that husbands adopt to tell their wives when they have used their salary to gamble for luck to double it but they ended up losing all. So yes men do this alot, I know of a gambler in same vain went to bandage his hand that he was beaten by some street gangs when he was struggling with them from taken away his money. The unfortunate thing is that after such lies most women will end up in pity for the man and after two days the man is up and that incident becomes a forgotten story in the house.



Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

I have not had to lie on that because I don't gamble irresponsibly. It is when you gamble in such manner that you would need cover up for the misfortune.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: ethereumhunter on April 28, 2024, 06:39:55 AM
There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.
It's better we tells the truth so there will be no misunderstand to us and them. We can talks to them about our gambling activity and no needs to lie because we wants to makes them understand about our gambling activity and we wants them to knows that we can control our gambling activity so far. We can tells them that we always limits our gambling activity and will not breaks our rules because we knows the consequences of lose our controls in gambling. If we can tells them without lied, they will try to understand what we wants and we can asks them to be besides us when we playing gambling so when something is almost change, they can reminds us and helps us to stops our gambling activity. They will see that we have a strong minds and really take care of ourselves in gambling so there are no worry from them to see we playing gambling.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: noormcs5 on April 28, 2024, 06:43:16 AM

I do not think that there are only one moment of life that is more enjoyable than the others. Sometimes people enjoy multiple things and you cannot compare between the two. I think the gentle in this statement is lying again that he enjoyed gambling more than being in bed with his wife. I think he enjoyed both the situations and should openly confess it.

Also the wife should not be unhappy if he is happy with activities along with being enjoying in bed. Life is much more than being all the time in the bed  :D
Also if the husband and wife have a good relationship they will know each other habits, likes and dislikes and then husband can watch the Tim Naki's daily blackjack stream not in the toilet but in the living room  :)


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: madnessteat on April 28, 2024, 08:20:50 AM
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I don't know why you're hiding from your wife that you like to gamble. Personally, I think that this kind of secrets negatively affect the trust of spouses. Just imagine what can happen when your wife finds out about your secrets, and you find out about her secrets. I don't think it would do any good. I told my wife about gambling before I married her, so it makes no sense for me to hide from her when I want to gamble. She understands my hobbies perfectly well and tries to stay out of it.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: arwin100 on April 28, 2024, 11:06:47 AM
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I don't know why you're hiding from your wife that you like to gamble. Personally, I think that this kind of secrets negatively affect the trust of spouses. Just imagine what can happen when your wife finds out about your secrets, and you find out about her secrets. I don't think it would do any good. I told my wife about gambling before I married her, so it makes no sense for me to hide from her when I want to gamble. She understands my hobbies perfectly well and tries to stay out of it.

Exactly since if he's just open to whatever activity he participate then for sure that her wife would understand about what he do. If he's unfortunate that her wife doesn't understand about what he do since what she think is his husband is just wasting their money then maybe its good to make her understand the whole situation and make her see that you are just relieving your stress from heavy days of work. For sure everything will be settle on proper discussion so we should not hide any secrets to our wife so that there's no relationship will get destroyed. Sometimes Its hard to admit that we are participating on gambling activities since there are people always have negative impression about it but for sure they will get used to it once they see that you are fine even if you gamble on some occassions.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: teamsherry on April 28, 2024, 11:19:37 AM
Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: boyptc on April 28, 2024, 11:22:58 AM
Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.
You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: khiholangkang on April 28, 2024, 11:34:37 AM
Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.
You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.
Try a deeper meaning, if you read the truth about why someone can claim that gambling is a hobby of his to seek pleasure, here I am not trying to find validation, but look at how a person treats a hobby whatever the field is, and if someone is impulsive then he is trapped in the hobby itself which causes addiction, then there is no such thing as a hobby anymore in him, because if you look at me personally I come when I want and gamble to feel happy, especially when I am with friends.

It is true that winning will bring great pleasure into our lives, and losing will get sadness is the doctrine that occurs, but it is not that simple if you understand what is called seeking entertainment in gambling, and the name of the entertainment place definitely requires you to spend money.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Dailyscript on April 28, 2024, 12:38:03 PM
Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.
Your mentality and other gamblers based on fun is different. The way you get fun that's not the same way people get their fun. Fun can come from entertainment and hobbies. That is why you see serial killers and people doing some crazy things all in the name of fun. So if you hear someone saying they gamble for fun then am not surprised because I know its possible.

Gambling can be very fun when you have enough money and you dont feel any pains when you lose. There are weird people who are like that, the fun there is they derive joy from the wins and loss gambling gives to them.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Fivestar4everMVP on April 28, 2024, 12:58:41 PM
Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.
Your mentality and other gamblers based on fun is different. The way you get fun that's not the same way people get their fun. Fun can come from entertainment and hobbies. That is why you see serial killers and people doing some crazy things all in the name of fun. So if you hear someone saying they gamble for fun then am not surprised because I know its possible.

Gambling can be very fun when you have enough money and you dont feel any pains when you lose. There are weird people who are like that, the fun there is they derive joy from the wins and loss gambling gives to them.
Well, you are right, but the other guy is right too, so, let's just come to an agreement that the both of you are right.
It's no doubt, absolutely true that the majority of people who gamble today and claim they are doing it for fun, aren't actually gambling for fun but just using that statement to try to convince their minds not to feel depressed over their losses to gambling.
I personally have been a victim to this, I can attest to the fact that there was a time in my life when I usually tell people, and in doing so, I am also trying to convince myself, that I am only gambling for fun, when deep down in me, I know fully well that is a lie, because to be honest, I am deeply hungry for a win.
We can agree within ourselves that no one actually derive joy from losing money, and even when for example, someone actually still try to be joyful after losing money, it honestly depends on the amount of money they lost, if it's a tiny amount of money, like an amount that is very small compared to what the person is earning on weekly or monthly basis, then we can indeed agree that it's possible to lose to gambling and still be happy, but then on the other hand, it's completely a big lie to see someone who is clearly losing an amount that is considered to be big, some amount on the norm, they really can not afford to lose, and still claim to be happy because they are just gambling for fun, it's a lie many of us tell ourselves just to make ourselves feel alright, mostly after having encountered loses we never planned for, this convinces our mind, and helps us not to think too much concerning the loss.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Yamifoud on April 28, 2024, 01:20:29 PM
Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.
You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.
The majority are gambling for money, that is the reality. It is possible any of you guys is one of those gamblers who can't afford to lose and blame other people for your losses. I was skeptical of those who were saying just for fun as this is not the main reason, I might consider it if they are rich but if these words are coming from poor and average people, that is impossible.

As a gambler, we know what is in our mind when gambling - that is to win. It means that we are in the chase of money, not for fun or entertainment.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: dezoel on April 28, 2024, 04:46:43 PM
Those are very funny stories that shows how soms gamblers are dedicated to gambling.
Personally, I never lied about my gambling habits to anyone, maybe because I wasn't in a situation where I had to. From the very first beginning I have told my girlfriend about my gambling activities, she handled that very well surprisingly and we ever gamble often together which makes it ×10 times better than gambling alone in secret.

I think what pushes some gamblers to lie about their gambling habits is the feeling of shame and being shy to tell others about it because of the fear of their reaction about it. It is totally normal to gamble, it is a fun entertaining activity, we should just be careful and know when to stop and when to gamble and how to manage our own actions.
Some can find it funny but I would be guilty if I have such a confession. Gambling is only hard to resist but I can only hope that I will have the courage to confess with my wife one day and hopefully she will still forgive me and allow me to play and the good part is that she will join me now. That's great to hear that you don't lie about your gambling habits but if only we have such control as yours, maybe we also didn't get to a point where we are now.

Gambling is not like any other normal activity because some religions or countries can restrict it. For those who don't, they should follow your advice there, to ensure that no problems are going to get experienced a long the way.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Blitzboy on April 28, 2024, 04:58:45 PM
There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.
It's better we tells the truth so there will be no misunderstand to us and them. We can talks to them about our gambling activity and no needs to lie because we wants to makes them understand about our gambling activity and we wants them to knows that we can control our gambling activity so far. We can tells them that we always limits our gambling activity and will not breaks our rules because we knows the consequences of lose our controls in gambling. If we can tells them without lied, they will try to understand what we wants and we can asks them to be besides us when we playing gambling so when something is almost change, they can reminds us and helps us to stops our gambling activity. They will see that we have a strong minds and really take care of ourselves in gambling so there are no worry from them to see we playing gambling.
We need to be honest when it comes to gaming. Things get worse when you hide them. If we're being honest, thats where the power is. It is not about being weak; it is about being in charge. You know the risks and clearly define your own limits. That is sensible, and it keeps you in charge. Sharing it with others builds trust. Perhaps someone can assist you in managing your life. Thats smart to be responsible. Its not about judging; its about keeping a hobby that could become addicting from getting out of hand. Finally, the best thing you can do is face the truth straight on.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Alphakilo on April 28, 2024, 05:04:54 PM
I don't think the person telling the story lied to cover up his habit of gambling, his wife may have known about him gambling but what she didn't know was that he considered gambling the favorite part of his day and not the time spent with her. Telling the wife the truth that whenever he gambled was the best time of his day is a statement capable of ending the marriage. He is a chronically addicted gambler who does not want his partner to know how addicted he is to gambling, and an adicted gambler who will not easily change.
This is why is good to be opened with your partner. When you communicate with them do not use words that are ambiguous that even when they do  not understand, they cannot ask you what it means exactly. I think that he may not have told his wife directly that the favourite part of his day was gambling and it is not good because someday when they have a very heated argument, he would go on to blurt it out.

And how do we think it will make her feel. I think that we should all avoid any conversation that can put in in this position where we neither lie and can't tell our partners the truth. Since he is good at hiding his addiction, he should go get some secret therapy such that before his wife knows what's happening, his gambling will be under control.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: betswift on April 28, 2024, 08:58:08 PM
Another big fucking lie is that it's a hobby or I'm doing it for fun, your doing it for fun and it's costing you a fortune then you must be a fucking out of your mind, I've heard some person saying that they take gambling as a hobby and that is the biggest fraud lie anyone told himself, do you feel bad when you lose? Yes, then how is that fun, fun is supposed to be entertaining not to make you sad about lose.
Your mentality and other gamblers based on fun is different. The way you get fun that's not the same way people get their fun. Fun can come from entertainment and hobbies. That is why you see serial killers and people doing some crazy things all in the name of fun. So if you hear someone saying they gamble for fun then am not surprised because I know its possible.

Gambling can be very fun when you have enough money and you dont feel any pains when you lose. There are weird people who are like that, the fun there is they derive joy from the wins and loss gambling gives to them.
Well, you are right, but the other guy is right too, so, let's just come to an agreement that the both of you are right.
It's no doubt, absolutely true that the majority of people who gamble today and claim they are doing it for fun, aren't actually gambling for fun but just using that statement to try to convince their minds not to feel depressed over their losses to gambling.
I personally have been a victim to this, I can attest to the fact that there was a time in my life when I usually tell people, and in doing so, I am also trying to convince myself, that I am only gambling for fun, when deep down in me, I know fully well that is a lie, because to be honest, I am deeply hungry for a win.
We can agree within ourselves that no one actually derive joy from losing money, and even when for example, someone actually still try to be joyful after losing money, it honestly depends on the amount of money they lost, if it's a tiny amount of money, like an amount that is very small compared to what the person is earning on weekly or monthly basis, then we can indeed agree that it's possible to lose to gambling and still be happy, but then on the other hand, it's completely a big lie to see someone who is clearly losing an amount that is considered to be big, some amount on the norm, they really can not afford to lose, and still claim to be happy because they are just gambling for fun, it's a lie many of us tell ourselves just to make ourselves feel alright, mostly after having encountered loses we never planned for, this convinces our mind, and helps us not to think too much concerning the loss.

let me throw in a bit more to think about. People who play for fun are unlikely to put their monthly salary on the line. That's kinda like believing in free money.
People who gamble responsibly also take responsibility for the amounts they spend. You can spending money on a party, attractions, or a restaurant. And you don’t really regret dropping cash on good times, cause that’s what you went out for, right? Joy, fun, a break from the daily grind. After all, you paid for the pleasure. If the restaurant told you during dinner that you had become our 100th visitor and we are giving you your money back for dinner, this would be a nice bonus. But even without it, you would still enjoy the spending. The whole joy of gambling, its not in the winning or the losing but in the playing, provided you're playing it smart and within limits.
 
It’s all about what you’re telling yourself when you lay down that bet. Are you in it for the thrill or are you lying to yourself, trying to make the pain of a loss feel a little less painful? It’s a fine line and where you stand well it depends a whole lot on your mindset and how deep your pockets are when you decide to play.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: fikrett on April 28, 2024, 09:13:35 PM
Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction)  :P


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: boyptc on April 28, 2024, 10:33:00 PM
Try a deeper meaning, if you read the truth about why someone can claim that gambling is a hobby of his to seek pleasure, here I am not trying to find validation, but look at how a person treats a hobby whatever the field is, and if someone is impulsive then he is trapped in the hobby itself which causes addiction, then there is no such thing as a hobby anymore in him, because if you look at me personally I come when I want and gamble to feel happy, especially when I am with friends.

It is true that winning will bring great pleasure into our lives, and losing will get sadness is the doctrine that occurs, but it is not that simple if you understand what is called seeking entertainment in gambling, and the name of the entertainment place definitely requires you to spend money.
There's actually no deeper meaning with that. Someone will say that they're for the hobby but gets emotional when they're losing money and seem to be not prepared for it.

You will always gamblers tell that they are there to gamble for fun but when they win, it is giving more fun. Ans when they are on a losing streak, it is no longer fun.

It is entertaining and fun to gamble but it is certainly a lie that gamblers who tell that, are only actual for fun.
The majority are gambling for money, that is the reality. It is possible any of you guys is one of those gamblers who can't afford to lose and blame other people for your losses. I was skeptical of those who were saying just for fun as this is not the main reason, I might consider it if they are rich but if these words are coming from poor and average people, that is impossible.

As a gambler, we know what is in our mind when gambling - that is to win. It means that we are in the chase of money, not for fun or entertainment.
That's true, we're all for it. Whether we admit it or not but I guess it also depends on the mood that we're having. Like if we're happy and losing today isn't a problem, we can reason out that we're only gambling for fun and not actually for the money.

We've got mood swings so reasonings are changing.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Casdinyard on April 28, 2024, 11:02:40 PM
I don't think the gambler in this post made this statement to cover up a gambling habit, it's just being very upfront about how he thinks the relationship is going or in a sense, a reflection of how the relationship with his wife is going, and in my opinion, it's a little unfair for the guy to just assume that he's already addicted to gambling, even though he's probably doing this every night. Plus let me ask you this, are you really going to be upfront about how you feel with your wife? Not even because you afraid of her or whatnot, are you really going to break your wife's heart, with literally nothing to gain for? It doesn't make sense to not lie in this situation, and no, I'm not doing this just because I like to play the devil's advocate or something.

Sometimes, there are things better kept to yourself, especially if it's not gonna bring any form of benefit to the person you'll be confessing it to. Do you think the wife's gonna do something about this, perhaps make his life even better and more fulfilling just so he'd look her way and quit the late night blackjack? I don't think so, matter of fact, this might even be grounds for divorce, something that I don't think this guy's looking forward to.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Accardo on April 28, 2024, 11:48:50 PM
Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction)  :P

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: fikrett on April 29, 2024, 12:35:54 AM
Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction)  :P

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.

I think the crux of the issue comes down to balance and self awareness.

Gambling, like any other activity, should be something that adds value or enjoyment to life without becoming the focal point that diminishes it. The concept of lying especially when linked to an activity supposed to be enjoyable indeed signals a deeper issue like potential addiction. It's a slippery slope when enjoyment turns into compulsion and deceit becomes a mechanism for managing that compulsion.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Accardo on April 29, 2024, 12:55:15 AM
Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction)  :P

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.

I think the crux of the issue comes down to balance and self awareness.

Gambling, like any other activity, should be something that adds value or enjoyment to life without becoming the focal point that diminishes it. The concept of lying especially when linked to an activity supposed to be enjoyable indeed signals a deeper issue like potential addiction. It's a slippery slope when enjoyment turns into compulsion and deceit becomes a mechanism for managing that compulsion.

Nothing is wrong with sharing our gambling experience with our loved ones. It helps in regulating compulsive gambling. Although the spouse must be tough enough not to get involved into gambling as well. But gambling discussion is the awareness a gambler needs to creates amongst people around him, not everyone. The important ones who could stand when things begin to go wrong in the process. So hiding the habit from such people has its disadvantages and could lead a player to suffer alone his gambling addiction. Gambling with no body to share information about how the gambling went could be boring.

I don't prefer gambling alone, even when I do, they'll be nothing to hide, especially when asked. Not just in situations like in the Op. But, a case where I'm asked if I gamble? Lying about that is wrong. It also depends on the person who asks the question, the answers can be twisted to make things clear for the person. At least, he wouldn't think of joining the game. All conversation with such people should be based on true experiences. Which could make them smile over the mistakes made by gamblers. Not promoting wins as a factor, is also a good method of handling non addicts in a conversation, so, they wouldn't think of becoming a gambler.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Strongkored on April 29, 2024, 06:21:41 AM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
It seems like never before, because I have never told anyone about my gambling activities until now.
Every person lies there must be a reason, and the stories you find on Reddit are just lies that can be said to be funny, I mean what he said to his wife must have been said by other men too but what he was thinking was not about gambling but other things, for example, other women  ;D

However, the lies you are doing are quite dangerous in my opinion, even though you are a responsible gambler, but as an active gambler, of course, we have been in a phase where we can't control ourselves and gamble beyond our capabilities, so this can disrupt our finances and even our relationship with our partner when she finally finds out and you have spent a lot of money, telling the truth to our partner may one day be useful because she becomes the person who can control our gambling when has exceeded the limits.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: davis196 on April 29, 2024, 06:42:13 AM
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I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Why would the robbers steal your money and beat you at the same time? Seems like a waste of energy for nothing. ;D Just kidding.
I never had to lie to my friends and family about my gambling habits, mostly because I'm a pretty moderate gambler.
All types of addicts start lying to their friends and relatives in order to cover their addiction. The only time I lied to my parents was back in high school, when I wasn't going into class because I wanted to play poker with my friends(but we didn't use money to bet, so this can't be considered gambling). This is my only lie related to a gambling game, but I didn't bet actual money back then.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: arjunmujay on April 29, 2024, 08:17:25 AM
~snip~
All types of addicts start lying to their friends and relatives in order to cover their addiction.
If this lie can keep you safe for a while, I don't think it's a problem. However, it is better when you lie to cover up your losses in gambling, you also instill in yourself not to gamble anymore.
If you lie but still have thoughts of recovering your losses, over time the lie will be revealed and you will lose everything, including money and the trust of the people around you.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: dezoel on April 29, 2024, 06:19:03 PM
Those are very funny stories that shows how soms gamblers are dedicated to gambling.
Personally, I never lied about my gambling habits to anyone, maybe because I wasn't in a situation where I had to. From the very first beginning I have told my girlfriend about my gambling activities, she handled that very well surprisingly and we ever gamble often together which makes it ×10 times better than gambling alone in secret.

I think what pushes some gamblers to lie about their gambling habits is the feeling of shame and being shy to tell others about it because of the fear of their reaction about it. It is totally normal to gamble, it is a fun entertaining activity, we should just be careful and know when to stop and when to gamble and how to manage our own actions.
Everyone doesn't need to have the same reason behind lying, everyone has a story behind it. I also agree that no matter what happens, we should never lie. It should be taken because we have a saying that a lie has no legs, a lie can be caught anywhere, and it always leads to shame, not only that, but we lose our importance in the eyes of people. We can never be believed, so resorting to lies cannot be useful in any situation.

I think one of the main reasons why people hide their gambling habits is that when people lose money or are afraid of losing, they hide their success from the world. People like to boast but they want to hide their failure from everyone. The main reason is that losers often hide from others that they used to gamble or play and they are quite good at it and have never lost money. Another major reason for lying is that gambling is not allowed in some religions, so people hide it from others.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: AliMan on April 29, 2024, 06:34:05 PM
I had done that before in my high school days, my mother doesn't knew about that I'm betting for local lottery outlet at my place. Surprisingly she'd found out those old tickets I had in my journal notebook, then there's a lot of questions about those that she saw.
Thinking that she'd be angry I used to lie just to cover up my gambling activities, but she never believed me in the first place and just reminded me of the bad effects of it.
However, when I graduated and took a job I realized that doing such thing is just for fun and luck was just once in a lifetime opportunity.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Aniel Jay on April 29, 2024, 09:00:21 PM
People struggling with gambling addiction may resort to telling lies to conceal their habit. These lies can take various forms, such as:

1. Financial Lies: They may fabricate stories about the source of money or expenses to hide their gambling losses, such as claiming unexpected expenses or financial emergencies.

2. Denial of Gambling: Some individuals may deny or minimize the extent of their gambling behaviour, even when confronted with evidence or concerns from loved ones.

3. False Promises: They might make false promises to stop gambling or to repay debts, intending to buy time or alleviate pressure from others.

4. Deception about Time Spent: They may downplay the amount of time spent gambling or make excuses to cover up frequent absences or unexplained disappearances.

5. Rationalization: They may justify their gambling behaviour with rationalizations or excuses, such as claiming they can control their gambling or that they are pursuing legitimate strategies to win.

These lies often serve to protect the individual's ego, maintain their image, or avoid facing the reality of their addiction. However, they can strain relationships, erode trust, and perpetuate the cycle of addiction. It's crucial for individuals struggling with gambling addiction to seek help and support to address their behaviour and work towards recovery.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: fikrett on April 29, 2024, 09:52:21 PM
Honestly, reading this thread makes me wonder, why lie at all? I mean with so much deception in the real world it seems that home should offer respite not another arena for defense. Every day, we face challenges, work through problems and endure constant stress. We yearn to return to a safe environment where we can relax, play, and rest before facing another day.
Other side, if lying becomes not just a defense but also a source of pleasure or a thrill in gambling (wondering whether you will be caught or not), then it may seem okay. (Im lie, its not okay, its could be a sign of addiction)  :P

Lying over things like gambling doesn't show any form of responsibility. People are not meant to do things that will make them lie due to gambling. In such cases where by a gambler begin to build new ideas subconsciously within himself he would think lying is the right thing to do in most situations. But in the Op's context of writing I don't consider that a reason to lie. As it doesn't warrant lying in the first instance. Players are required not to start out a fresh idea in them that seem irresponsible. Coming up with a thought that places gambling ahead of someone else is bad. That means when spending time with such people the gambler would think more of gambling. Thereby reducing quality conversation between both people.

Hence, if the player is allowed enough time he would focus on gambling than his family. Which is wrong. The timing should not be unbalanced. A player can be more interested in gambling. But not to such an extent. It's is inadmissible, in some sense that players should be seriously focused on those that matters, non gamblers. These are the advantages a gambler has but fails to see it. without his spouse, if the player gets addicted he would face more struggle, dealing with it alone. Showing care to non gamblers is important, because things could change and the player gets addicted. So, gamblers should also be good to non gamblers especially when the player is not compulsive.

I think the crux of the issue comes down to balance and self awareness.

Gambling, like any other activity, should be something that adds value or enjoyment to life without becoming the focal point that diminishes it. The concept of lying especially when linked to an activity supposed to be enjoyable indeed signals a deeper issue like potential addiction. It's a slippery slope when enjoyment turns into compulsion and deceit becomes a mechanism for managing that compulsion.

Nothing is wrong with sharing our gambling experience with our loved ones. It helps in regulating compulsive gambling. Although the spouse must be tough enough not to get involved into gambling as well. But gambling discussion is the awareness a gambler needs to creates amongst people around him, not everyone. The important ones who could stand when things begin to go wrong in the process. So hiding the habit from such people has its disadvantages and could lead a player to suffer alone his gambling addiction. Gambling with no body to share information about how the gambling went could be boring.

I don't prefer gambling alone, even when I do, they'll be nothing to hide, especially when asked. Not just in situations like in the Op. But, a case where I'm asked if I gamble? Lying about that is wrong. It also depends on the person who asks the question, the answers can be twisted to make things clear for the person. At least, he wouldn't think of joining the game. All conversation with such people should be based on true experiences. Which could make them smile over the mistakes made by gamblers. Not promoting wins as a factor, is also a good method of handling non addicts in a conversation, so, they wouldn't think of becoming a gambler.

That’s right, there’s nothing to hide. This is exactly my point too. It’s possible that OP prefers solitude due to introversion which is perfectly fine. However, even then dishonesty isnt justified. The person close to them likely knows who they married and can respect personal boundaries while still providing space for individual activities. Indeed, sharing both positive and negative experiences can foster a supportive environment potentially helping to regulate compulsive gambling behaviors.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Churchillvv on April 29, 2024, 10:39:30 PM
I don't think I have been an addict on gambling hence lie to cover up the habit before but I have seen lots of people lie because they are either addicted to it or they just want to cover up for their bad acts of either neglecting something important just to remain focused on gambling.

Some time ago, I was with one of my homies and he was busy predicting sport games that we all felt might be interesting enough to gamble on then we remembered we had something more important than gambling to do, we all left and focused on our businesses but this dude kept his phone beside him and later he took it and continued gambling playing different games when we were all deep into our works, we realised and asked him if he was working or following up the work and he responded yesterday but at the end we discovered he never open the work, he only opened the app and continued with the gambling.

I have seen other niggas lie to parents, siblings, wives etc to cover their gambling habits which is very poor.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: ethereumhunter on April 30, 2024, 06:48:02 AM
We need to be honest when it comes to gaming. Things get worse when you hide them. If we're being honest, thats where the power is. It is not about being weak; it is about being in charge. You know the risks and clearly define your own limits. That is sensible, and it keeps you in charge. Sharing it with others builds trust. Perhaps someone can assist you in managing your life. Thats smart to be responsible. Its not about judging; its about keeping a hobby that could become addicting from getting out of hand. Finally, the best thing you can do is face the truth straight on.
Yes, we can honest to people around us so they don't thinks much or negatively about what we doing. Being honest will not makes us in trouble because other people can also helps us when we have a problem so we can fix that immediately. We will not have any difficult when we can honest about what we doing so there will be no understanding between us. Sharing with others will builds trust and I agree with that so when there are a problem, we can helps each other to fix the problem immediately. Well, maybe some people doesn't like with what we do but at least, we already trying honest to them so they knows that we playing gambling with our limitations. They can suggest us something that we needs to prevents the lose and they will helps us when we tells about our problems.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Accardo on April 30, 2024, 07:23:00 AM
That’s right, there’s nothing to hide. This is exactly my point too. It’s possible that OP prefers solitude due to introversion which is perfectly fine. However, even then dishonesty isnt justified. The person close to them likely knows who they married and can respect personal boundaries while still providing space for individual activities. Indeed, sharing both positive and negative experiences can foster a supportive environment potentially helping to regulate compulsive gambling behaviors.

Yes the balancing is important, good you indicated that. Non gamblers should also know about the good aspects of gambling, how it could be beneficial to health, critical thinking, money and time management. Such conversation can be intriguing to a non gamblers and could result to a slight debate, between the gambler and the non gambler, on the doubts the non gambler will have upon hearing about the advantages of gambling. A lot of them know of the disadvantages of gambling, how it ruins people's finance and life. Developing their horizons of the health aspects of gambling, not to convince them into gambling, will increase the non gambler's interest on gambling discussions.

And as well could change their initial wrong thoughts on gambling to something better. Hence, gambling conversation shouldn't include a lie of any type. Sharing the reality of gambling with a spouse strengthens the bond between both friends and boost their understanding towards the need of helping a gambling addict. Non gamblers, a lot, have the initiative of blaming addicts that's why they hesitate on helping them when they mostly need it. Being aware of such needs and how it's an emotional problem, a non gambler would add extra efforts in changing or assisting a player in trouble to a better emotional condition. They'll also detect addiction easily, a form of addiction proof for any gambler.



Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: fikrett on April 30, 2024, 03:20:02 PM
That’s right, there’s nothing to hide. This is exactly my point too. It’s possible that OP prefers solitude due to introversion which is perfectly fine. However, even then dishonesty isnt justified. The person close to them likely knows who they married and can respect personal boundaries while still providing space for individual activities. Indeed, sharing both positive and negative experiences can foster a supportive environment potentially helping to regulate compulsive gambling behaviors.

Yes the balancing is important, good you indicated that. Non gamblers should also know about the good aspects of gambling, how it could be beneficial to health, critical thinking, money and time management. Such conversation can be intriguing to a non gamblers and could result to a slight debate, between the gambler and the non gambler, on the doubts the non gambler will have upon hearing about the advantages of gambling. A lot of them know of the disadvantages of gambling, how it ruins people's finance and life. Developing their horizons of the health aspects of gambling, not to convince them into gambling, will increase the non gambler's interest on gambling discussions.

And as well could change their initial wrong thoughts on gambling to something better. Hence, gambling conversation shouldn't include a lie of any type. Sharing the reality of gambling with a spouse strengthens the bond between both friends and boost their understanding towards the need of helping a gambling addict. Non gamblers, a lot, have the initiative of blaming addicts that's why they hesitate on helping them when they mostly need it. Being aware of such needs and how it's an emotional problem, a non gambler would add extra efforts in changing or assisting a player in trouble to a better emotional condition. They'll also detect addiction easily, a form of addiction proof for any gambler.


Yes, highlighting the positive effects of gambling can indeed open up enlightening discussions. Its crucial for both gamblers and non gamblers to engage in these conversations openly without any misconceptions clouding their understanding.

Moreover when nongamblers understand the potential benefits and the skills that can be developed through gambling, it can reshape their views and foster a more supportive environment.
This doesn’t mean encouraging them to gamble but rather helping them see beyond the common negative stereotypes.

Besides, I think that sharing true comprehensive experiences with gambling not only strengthens relationships but also builds a foundation of trust and understanding. This way if a problem arises a nongambler is more likely to approach the situation with empathy and active support.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: fullhdpixel on April 30, 2024, 05:30:34 PM
There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.
That's only what some people can do because they might not have any fear or obligation from their families or even from society. After all, gambling might not be considered something bad among their people. Mostly, those who hide their gambling activities do it only because they have some fear in their mind or heart, either their family, society, or religion don't support gambling or they don't want anyone to be asking questions about gambling because they don't like it.

A lot of people keep these things private because they feel like it isn't something they should be discussing with anyone, others do it because they don't want people who are against gambling to know that they gamble because then they might be considered a gambling addict or something.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: madnessteat on April 30, 2024, 06:01:27 PM
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I'm not quite sure why an adult and self-sufficient person would hide his gambling hobbies. Don't you think it's silly enough to change your life because of other people's views on your hobbies? Personally, I think that you should live your life the way you want it, not adjust to someone. Unless it violates someone's freedoms and rights. I don't think that gambling does any of the above, so I don't think it's necessary to hide my hobby from my relatives. Whatever they think of me.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: South Park on April 30, 2024, 07:53:56 PM
I don't think I have been an addict on gambling hence lie to cover up the habit before but I have seen lots of people lie because they are either addicted to it or they just want to cover up for their bad acts of either neglecting something important just to remain focused on gambling.

Some time ago, I was with one of my homies and he was busy predicting sport games that we all felt might be interesting enough to gamble on then we remembered we had something more important than gambling to do, we all left and focused on our businesses but this dude kept his phone beside him and later he took it and continued gambling playing different games when we were all deep into our works, we realised and asked him if he was working or following up the work and he responded yesterday but at the end we discovered he never open the work, he only opened the app and continued with the gambling.
Whenever I see someone forgoing their responsibilities in order to do something else and I know this is a common occurrence, at least to me this is a clear signal that there is something wrong with that person, and the situation you bring forward is a perfect example of this, since most of your friends could give up on gambling as soon as they remembered they had something more important to do at the time, but one of them was unable to do this, showing through his actions that at least to him gambling is more important than his work, the pay he receives and everything he can buy with it.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Fatunad on April 30, 2024, 08:16:37 PM
I don't think I have been an addict on gambling hence lie to cover up the habit before but I have seen lots of people lie because they are either addicted to it or they just want to cover up for their bad acts of either neglecting something important just to remain focused on gambling.

Some time ago, I was with one of my homies and he was busy predicting sport games that we all felt might be interesting enough to gamble on then we remembered we had something more important than gambling to do, we all left and focused on our businesses but this dude kept his phone beside him and later he took it and continued gambling playing different games when we were all deep into our works, we realised and asked him if he was working or following up the work and he responded yesterday but at the end we discovered he never open the work, he only opened the app and continued with the gambling.
Whenever I see someone forgoing their responsibilities in order to do something else and I know this is a common occurrence, at least to me this is a clear signal that there is something wrong with that person, and the situation you bring forward is a perfect example of this, since most of your friends could give up on gambling as soon as they remembered they had something more important to do at the time, but one of them was unable to do this, showing through his actions that at least to him gambling is more important than his work, the pay he receives and everything he can buy with it.
Anything which is too much
Anything that disrupts you on doing your main priorities
Anything that would be compromising your finances
Anything that do involves lying and hiding something

Then this is an indicative sign that you are already that out of control on whatever the things that you've been dealing with. Just like into the situation on what we do have on here is that
trying out to cover up your gambling habit and making out some lies or any other false reason then you might be seeing it to be that not much of an issue but on the time that you
do find yourself that hiding up and get scared then there's something wrong with you. Totally that stressful and something that risky with your relationship specially into your wife on which
on the time that you do get caught then you do know on whats next.  :)


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: alastantiger on April 30, 2024, 08:48:14 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Yes I have. I have told a gambling lie before and I consider it to be a harmless white lie. I had to do it to protect the recipient of the lie and myself. I don't want my spouse to gamble. It is not a good thing. I want to gamble while she's aware and acts as my second mind in case I start being delusional with gambling habits. If she gambles and I gamble,  it won't be good for the family. She handles the cash, she hands over to me the money planned for gambling when it is exhausted, no cash is coming from her towards that area.. that's a good agreement to have. It eliminates lie, deception, and distrusts.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: betswift on April 30, 2024, 08:55:25 PM

We need to be honest when it comes to gaming. Things get worse when you hide them. If we're being honest, thats where the power is. It is not about being weak; it is about being in charge. You know the risks and clearly define your own limits. That is sensible, and it keeps you in charge. Sharing it with others builds trust. Perhaps someone can assist you in managing your life. Thats smart to be responsible. Its not about judging; its about keeping a hobby that could become addicting from getting out of hand. Finally, the best thing you can do is face the truth straight on.

You are so right, man! Honesty truly is a powerful tool, especially in areas as engaging as gaming. By being transparent about our habits, we take control and also empower ourselves to manage potential risks. And this is not weakness, rather it showcases strength and responsibility. Facing the truth head on is undoubtedly the wisest strategy.

^

I'm not quite sure why an adult and self-sufficient person would hide his gambling hobbies. Don't you think it's silly enough to change your life because of other people's views on your hobbies? Personally, I think that you should live your life the way you want it, not adjust to someone. Unless it violates someone's freedoms and rights. I don't think that gambling does any of the above, so I don't think it's necessary to hide my hobby from my relatives. Whatever they think of me.

It really does seem unnecessary for a self reliant adult to conceal their gambling hobbies. After all, why should one's personal enjoyment be influenced by the opinions of others?  ???
I share your view there's no real need to hide such activities from family or anyone else for that matter. Embracing who we are including our hobbies, is about living genuinely. So it's refreshing to hear you advocate for personal freedom and responsibility so openly.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: betswift on April 30, 2024, 09:19:45 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Yes I have. I have told a gambling lie before and I consider it to be a harmless white lie. I had to do it to protect the recipient of the lie and myself. I don't want my spouse to gamble. It is not a good thing. I want to gamble while she's aware and acts as my second mind in case I start being delusional with gambling habits. If she gambles and I gamble,  it won't be good for the family. She handles the cash, she hands over to me the money planned for gambling when it is exhausted, no cash is coming from her towards that area.. that's a good agreement to have. It eliminates lie, deception, and distrusts.

It sounds like a good deal and an effective way to manage your gambling responsibly while keeping family relations healthy. I think any method that works well for both parties is commendable. But your concept of white lies although seemingly harmless can actually be a bit selfish. Every lie no matter how small, can rob someone of their agency depriving them of the chance to react to the true nature of the situation. I believe we really need to strive for more honesty. In doing so, we allow real trust to develop, ensuring that decisions are made with all the cards on the table.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: taufik123 on April 30, 2024, 09:30:23 PM
Yes I have. I have told a gambling lie before and I consider it to be a harmless white lie. I had to do it to protect the recipient of the lie and myself. I don't want my spouse to gamble. It is not a good thing. I want to gamble while she's aware and acts as my second mind in case I start being delusional with gambling habits. If she gambles and I gamble,  it won't be good for the family. She handles the cash, she hands over to me the money planned for gambling when it is exhausted, no cash is coming from her towards that area.. that's a good agreement to have. It eliminates lie, deception, and distrusts.
Better so, so there is control, and you won't be able to bypass those restrictions.
Your partner will be a huge barrier to over-gambling, as a reminder and as a holder of your gambling allocation.

Just like in my neighborhood, I saw a couple whose wives already knew their husbands liked to gamble, and the husband was always honest that he would gamble.
Rather than being banned, his wife gave some money to gamble and there would be no extra money.

That way there are no lies or addictions and spending on gambling can be controlled.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: danherbias07 on April 30, 2024, 09:52:53 PM
There is no need to lie to anyone. It’s enough just to find a time and place for privacy so that no one will disturb you and control your gaming expenses. It's actually not difficult. After all, in reality it is difficult to lie. In order to lie you need to have a good memory. Moreover, lies beget other lies. In the end, it resembles a vicious circle that will sooner or later break. We lie only because we do not meet understanding from our loved ones. But if you control your losses, then information about your games is unlikely to interest anyone. Rather, you will look like a quiet crazy person who wastes his time playing online games.
That's only what some people can do because they might not have any fear or obligation from their families or even from society. After all, gambling might not be considered something bad among their people. Mostly, those who hide their gambling activities do it only because they have some fear in their mind or heart, either their family, society, or religion don't support gambling or they don't want anyone to be asking questions about gambling because they don't like it.

A lot of people keep these things private because they feel like it isn't something they should be discussing with anyone, others do it because they don't want people who are against gambling to know that they gamble because then they might be considered a gambling addict or something.
It mostly happens in a religious country and I think you are right. They will try to keep it a secret as much as possible because they don't want to be branded as a gambling addict or just a person with a gambling problem. An example of this is my family itself. I know there are a lot of my relatives who are gambling secretly because I have seen them and told me not to tell anyone back when I was a kid. Well, I don't blame them, it's a strict rule in our house that we should not gamble because it is "evil". Things change though, they don't really mind those now and they might know that some of us are gambling but they ain't asking. The funny thing is, my grandfather was spending money betting in the national lottery and yet it's like for them it's not gambling at all. Here in our country, lottery is not considered as gambling by many.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: GideonGono on April 30, 2024, 10:13:30 PM
There were a time when I lied about the amount that I lost in gambling, so that it wouldn't be such a big deal or cause a drama.
I also used to lie that it was just a normal match or game even though the match/game has money involve.
That was all the lies that I used back then that I could remember.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: bitcoin_mining on May 01, 2024, 01:09:08 AM
Suppose when I start gambling I must lie because when my family asks me about these things but I can't directly tell my family that I am involved in gambling. That's why I can't discuss these things with my family because my family will never accept my gambling rather they don't like gambling. Since they don't like gambling, when they ask me about my work, I have to tell them that I'm not playing online games or that I'm freelancing. That is, I have to hide so much from my family and play gambling.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Outhue on May 01, 2024, 10:29:52 AM
There were a time when I lied about the amount that I lost in gambling, so that it wouldn't be such a big deal or cause a drama.
I also used to lie that it was just a normal match or game even though the match/game has money involve.
That was all the lies that I used back then that I could remember.

Thanks for your honesty but I will like to know how you will feel if your partner did the same to you? Before I do unto others I have always think about myself first, I don't want to lie to my partner because I don't want them to do the same with me.

I easily give up on others if necessary, once I find out that you aren't honest then I don't have to be honest about you, it is a different thing when in a relationship, it must be build on trust, if your partner finds out the truth they will be disappointed.

If one is a gambler it is better to reveal it to their partner, just in case, you will always have someone who will be there to warn you if you are going out of safe zone, also it is better to spend less time in gambling when you have a family to look after, losses and more losses in gambling is mostly from how people feel, emotions here and there.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Natsuu on May 01, 2024, 10:52:05 AM
There were a time when I lied about the amount that I lost in gambling, so that it wouldn't be such a big deal or cause a drama.
I also used to lie that it was just a normal match or game even though the match/game has money involve.
That was all the lies that I used back then that I could remember.

I think this is worse than being addicted to gambling. That is to tell lies especially to people who are truly important to you. Because communication is the most important thing right? And if you don't tell all the things that are happening to you especially the bad days, then they won't be able to give you the help and support that you need mentally and emotionally when you are going through that period of difficulties.

And in fact if they truly cares for you, they won't judge you and instead would help and understand your situation.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Su-asa on May 01, 2024, 11:03:04 AM
Suppose when I start gambling I must lie because when my family asks me about these things but I can't directly tell my family that I am involved in gambling. That's why I can't discuss these things with my family because my family will never accept my gambling rather they don't like gambling. Since they don't like gambling, when they ask me about my work, I have to tell them that I'm not playing online games or that I'm freelancing. That is, I have to hide so much from my family and play gambling.
I think before, we can easily know when someone is gambling but now it's hard to know if someone  is a gambler because of how the Internet have token over the local casinos that's why under age people can be gambling right under your nose and you won't know because they make use of the internet only. It's because you are using the internet to gamble that's why you can be able to gamble secretly. However, I would advise you not to get addicted to gamble because it will be hard for you to stop as you are a secret gambler.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: aioc on May 01, 2024, 12:45:45 PM


I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

It depends on who is asking if it's my wife I will try to be honest because it is hard to lie to your wife and if it's a friend who laughs at you every time I lose, I will tell the other way around that I won big and treat all my co-workers, if it's in the office I will not tell them that I gamble a lot because it might affect my trust rating and reputation.

You can tell white lies depending on who you telling it and the circumstances but don't tell a lie to people close to you because they have the right to know.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: casinosfyi on May 01, 2024, 01:18:28 PM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..
https://talkimg.com/images/2024/04/23/jeFxG.jpeg

After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling (https://casinos.fyi/bitcoin-casinos-advanced-online-gaming/), and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Common lies that I told:

1. A friend needed money
2. I didn’t gamble today
3. I'll never gamble again


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: 0t3p0t on May 01, 2024, 01:27:31 PM
I now know the main reason why you guys brought your phones in the cr. 😅 I think you should tell your wife about that so she was always there to beat you when you started to get addicted to gambling. Kidding aside. 😆 I mean not the word "beat" but just to remind you to not go beyond your limits. I know she will understand you because you are honest not unless you didn't tell her and you're caught in the act. 😅


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: joeperry on May 01, 2024, 01:39:17 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Yes of course, I usually gamble online and my family know about this but I always told them that I always lose and I only place a small bet weekly just for entertainment but they didn't know that most of the time I do gamble and somewhat winning but it's true that I only deposit a small amount and work my way up (I won but not that high less than $300) but I started somewhere $30-$40, yeah it's just small but it's just for entertainment but there's a time before that I won $1000 from around $100 that I have and told them I am losing, because I know it would jinx if I told them that I am winning.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: jcojci on May 01, 2024, 02:14:13 PM
Suppose when I start gambling I must lie because when my family asks me about these things but I can't directly tell my family that I am involved in gambling. That's why I can't discuss these things with my family because my family will never accept my gambling rather they don't like gambling. Since they don't like gambling, when they ask me about my work, I have to tell them that I'm not playing online games or that I'm freelancing. That is, I have to hide so much from my family and play gambling.
I think before, we can easily know when someone is gambling but now it's hard to know if someone  is a gambler because of how the Internet have token over the local casinos that's why under age people can be gambling right under your nose and you won't know because they make use of the internet only. It's because you are using the internet to gamble that's why you can be able to gamble secretly. However, I would advise you not to get addicted to gamble because it will be hard for you to stop as you are a secret gambler.
The existence of the internet makes it easy for many people to hide their gambling activities. They can gamble secretly in their room so that no one knows. They also don't need to visit local casinos around their city because by gambling at online casinos, they can hide it from other people. And maybe this is what makes many people lie to other family members when they want to gamble by saying they will do something. But they should understand that it can trigger gambling addiction if they cannot control themselves when gambling. They gamble secretly without anyone knowing, so if they can't limit themselves to gambling, they will only become addicted to gambling later.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: bettercrypto on May 01, 2024, 03:03:42 PM
~snip~
All types of addicts start lying to their friends and relatives in order to cover their addiction.
If this lie can keep you safe for a while, I don't think it's a problem. However, it is better when you lie to cover up your losses in gambling, you also instill in yourself not to gamble anymore.
If you lie but still have thoughts of recovering your losses, over time the lie will be revealed and you will lose everything, including money and the trust of the people around you.

There are others who lie because they avoid having an argument with their husbands, they don't want to be criticized, or they also think that it will be a shame for their family when it comes to their relatives.

As for me, I don't really tell my husband, but when I win, I say that I won gambling here in crypto, but I don't say that I gamble often for a month because I know if my wife will be angry with me.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: YOSHIE on May 01, 2024, 03:38:08 PM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
Interesting story, this is the first time I have read a story about someone losing gambling and lying to his wife unprofessionally, it looks funny.
My understanding is that this person is not good at lying, he should not have told his wife that he had been robbed, maybe he could have found another reasonable reason, so that his wife could believe where the money he used went.

That's why I often say here, gamble professionally and use your side money to gamble, don't use salary money or money whose source your wife knows, that way you will be safe from an economic perspective in your household, so you don't have to be suspicious and fight.

Gambling if we don't control and think about the risks that could happen to our lives, of course gambling will create disaster for ourselves, gamble as much as we can and keep thinking about the risks that will happen.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: arjunmujay on May 02, 2024, 02:20:56 AM
There are others who lie because they avoid having an argument with their husbands, they don't want to be criticized, or they also think that it will be a shame for their family when it comes to their relatives.

As for me, I don't really tell my husband, but when I win, I say that I won gambling here in crypto, but I don't say that I gamble often for a month because I know if my wife will be angry with me.
The story you describe actually didn't just happen to you. I think everyone is like that. will talk when he wins, and keep quiet when he loses. even lying when they lose to keep a fight from happening.
If our partner finds out that we are actively gambling and spending a lot of money, we will certainly be angry, on the other hand, if we win, they will be happy and enjoy it.  ::)


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Ever-young on May 02, 2024, 02:36:18 AM
There were a time when I lied about the amount that I lost in gambling, so that it wouldn't be such a big deal or cause a drama.
I also used to lie that it was just a normal match or game even though the match/game has money involve.
That was all the lies that I used back then that I could remember.
Every gambler at some point have done crazy stuffs in their gambling adventures, which includes lying about their gambling behaviour or outcomes, and it takes a lot of courage to share such experiences to others, especially people who aren't gamblers like you because sometimes it can be really hard for them to understand that it's actually a very common behaviour for gamblers, especially those who are actually struggling with addiction and so they lie about them to conceal or minimize the truth in some way to avoid being judged by people.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: klidex on May 02, 2024, 11:00:31 AM
I understand that you do that to keep yourself safe and your wife doesn't nag you if you are actually gambling, but if your wife knows that there is a history of expenses from your mbanking, what should you say?? ;D Actually, it's okay if you keep your gambling a secret by telling your wife untrue things so that you are free from her nagging. But you also have to understand how to stop and not overdo it if you want to gamble so that your wife doesn't get suspicious if you take out money from your card. Just imagine if you make a large deposit for gambling, your wife will definitely be suspicious and ask what the money is for, maybe if you win it's no problem you can replace it, but if you lose, what should you do to cover up your mistake for keeping it a secret?

I never lie about anything I want to do, even for gambling, my wife always knows when I am gambling because she believes that I can control her well so she doesn't worry if I will go beyond the limits, after all I always ask for recommendations about football betting and asked my wife who was likely to win even though my wife actually didn't know anything about football, usually I relied on her luck but she always advised me not to take risks by betting large amounts and I obeyed.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Hypnosis00 on May 02, 2024, 11:30:12 AM
There were a time when I lied about the amount that I lost in gambling, so that it wouldn't be such a big deal or cause a drama.
I also used to lie that it was just a normal match or game even though the match/game has money involve.
That was all the lies that I used back then that I could remember.
You are able to save your ass now but it was not a good excuse and thing to do especially if you are a family man. We better be transparent with our partner as this already involves money. It is worse when your partner knows it from others, so please don't do it again. I'd rather pretend to be busy but I was gambling already than not tell that I've lost for I'm sure, my partner could able to understand. But in your situation, I couldn't imagine how can take a look straight into her eyes.

Yes, we need to be responsible in all things as much as possible. Our partners could understand us (gamblers) if we don't hide it but of course, must also listen to our partners as well.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: TopTort777 on May 02, 2024, 11:52:46 AM
If our partner finds out that we are actively gambling and spending a lot of money, we will certainly be angry, on the other hand, if we win, they will be happy and enjoy it.  ::)

Sounds like one partner must ask other partner for acceptance to do something. Such relationships isnt healthy. If a husband ask wife if he could go out gambling, go fishing or with friends to bar, then in such relationship wife has balls :D Imho it is correct no to ask something, but warn. Warn husband or wife that you will be gambling, you will take 100 bucks and we can afford that, and that is it. Warning others that you gamble might save from loosing to much in one night. Also, lying to someone that is very close you, that is totally wrong. If I lie to my wife, I would feel uncomfortable after that. But in general, why would an adult hide that he gambles? Absurd to me.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Winterfrost on May 02, 2024, 12:00:17 PM
There were a time when I lied about the amount that I lost in gambling, so that it wouldn't be such a big deal or cause a drama.
I also used to lie that it was just a normal match or game even though the match/game has money involve.
That was all the lies that I used back then that I could remember.

I think this is worse than being addicted to gambling. That is to tell lies especially to people who are truly important to you. Because communication is the most important thing right? And if you don't tell all the things that are happening to you especially the bad days, then they won't be able to give you the help and support that you need mentally and emotionally when you are going through that period of difficulties.

And in fact if they truly cares for you, they won't judge you and instead would help and understand your situation.
what he said is not telling a lie, there are people that can't understand you when you tell them you've lost a certain amount in gambling. You don't have to tell them how much you used in gambling except it's your spouse and even though the person in this situation is your spouse, it's still not right to tell her plainly that you have lost certain amount of money because some people are not emotionally strong enough to handling such issues and so it becomes deficult to trust them with the outcome of your gambling most expecially when it happens that you lost some money in the process of gambling.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Reid on May 02, 2024, 12:04:34 PM
That's unhealthy. But for men this is normal. :D We keep our secrets to ourselves that is why I am kind of curious on why this guy told  his secret on social media. Perhaps his wife won't know about it but still, it could become our weakness.
I tell my wife lies everyday but it's more of white lies, jokes, and made up stories. All of it has a reason and most of the time it's to make her smile or laugh. I don't like an environment with a heavy feeling. Lighter is better as it makes the whole house positive and it becomes a home.
When it comes to gambling, I don't tell lies because it's money related. As much as possible she would know how I spent the money.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: EluguHcman on May 02, 2024, 12:27:48 PM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..
https://talkimg.com/images/2024/04/23/jeFxG.jpeg

There is nothing wrong about it as long as it is not one of a marital offence. It is just some source of where the guy derives fun which of course the wife may as well have Source by which she feels fun especially when the husband is not around.

I don't see gambling being an issue to a responsible married man as far as he is also doing the gambling stuffs in the responsible manner. So he can go ahead and tell the wife but should not make the wife feel that the bedtimes with Hera's claimed was not necessary or remarkable.

The wife on her own may even tend to also tell the husband probably that she enjoys doing the house chores especially dealing on the delicacies in a quiet time when alone.
So it does not make any offence of couple telling each other how they finds fun at their leisures.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: alastantiger on May 03, 2024, 08:28:23 PM
Your neighbours are very lucky. It is not every man that has a great relationship with their spouse. Situations like are possible where the husband and wife have a good understanding and love eachother. They help, support and lookout for eachother. In gambling it is no different. We know that it is not all about playing slots, roullete and other casino games. Some spouse may also want to start a social media page on gambling, write a book about gambling and what have you. A supportive spouse makes everything easy.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Zadicar on May 03, 2024, 08:37:30 PM
That's unhealthy. But for men this is normal. :D We keep our secrets to ourselves that is why I am kind of curious on why this guy told  his secret on social media. Perhaps his wife won't know about it but still, it could become our weakness.
I tell my wife lies everyday but it's more of white lies, jokes, and made up stories. All of it has a reason and most of the time it's to make her smile or laugh. I don't like an environment with a heavy feeling. Lighter is better as it makes the whole house positive and it becomes a home.
When it comes to gambling, I don't tell lies because it's money related. As much as possible she would know how I spent the money.
There are really things which we cant really be able to tell into our wives on which it would really be that something that will really be that not healthy i should say specially if you do keep on hiding just because you are doing something that your wife doesnt known and its not something that i dont really like for me to do and it would be better that you should really be making out some confession that you've been dealing with gambling and this is something that you should really be doing in the first place.

Its really that totally different if you are living a life with your wife without having any secrets or any hiding on which you could really be freely and confidently be dealing up with things
as long you do say on what you are doing. Although there are really things which isnt really that needed to be told but keeping up secrets and making up some gambling or
those kind of behavior when you are on bathroom then this is an another story.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: Dailyscript on May 03, 2024, 09:01:17 PM
That's unhealthy. But for men this is normal. :D We keep our secrets to ourselves that is why I am kind of curious on why this guy told  his secret on social media. Perhaps his wife won't know about it but still, it could become our weakness.
I tell my wife lies everyday but it's more of white lies, jokes, and made up stories. All of it has a reason and most of the time it's to make her smile or laugh. I don't like an environment with a heavy feeling. Lighter is better as it makes the whole house positive and it becomes a home.
When it comes to gambling, I don't tell lies because it's money related. As much as possible she would know how I spent the money.
Very sweet of you. At least you choose having a home rather than having a house filled with sad people. Gambling can twist someone who is sincere and honest into someone who wont stop telling lies everyday. And this is as a result of  gambling addiction or perhaps other gambling habit which has planted a negative seed in the heart of the gambler.

In my opinion i feel its normal telling your wife most things especially things that troubles you. Its biblical that the both of you are now one and to share in both pains and happiness. If one is certain in the kind of wife he has, he would have relief and good advice with support from his wife to quit some gambling habit.


Title: Re: Lies told to cover up gambling habit
Post by: sompitonov on May 03, 2024, 09:11:12 PM
Your neighbours are very lucky. It is not every man that has a great relationship with their spouse. Situations like are possible where the husband and wife have a good understanding and love eachother. They help, support and lookout for eachother. In gambling it is no different. We know that it is not all about playing slots, roullete and other casino games. Some spouse may also want to start a social media page on gambling, write a book about gambling and what have you. A supportive spouse makes everything easy.
The lie is simply needed so that the wife does not ask unnecessary questions and does not think that we are dependent. Therefore, our brain comes to such unusual simplification and cunning. If we tell the wife the truth, we can spend hours listening to questions from the wife. For example, why do we do this and play, where do we get the money to play and many other similar questions, there will be a thousand of them. Not everyone can stand it and decide to lie, although I never liked telling a lie to anyone in different situations. However, if the wife ultimately understands that we are lying to her and says that she is not against it, then she is the best ;D