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is there a connection between gambling and divorce rate?

Research from the National Gambling Impact Study Commission and the Gambling Impact and Behavior Study indicates that divorce rates for those dealing with gambling issues are estimated to be around 40% for problem gamblers and approximately 54% for pathological gamblers.  (https://bircheshealth.com/resources/gambling-divorce)

i think the moment we hide our gambling habits from our partners that is the moment we will get in trouble because that is when trust crumbles and when you get in trouble in gambling and have to tell your partner you will be surprising them

not to mention some people also spend money from money that both the partners contributed in

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Depending on the situation but as partners, there should be no more secrets anymore. That's the reason why you're already tied up to your partner and you shouldn't hide any secrets longer. The reason for most divorce and break ups are not really affairs but about financial matters. And gambling is one of the reason why someone in the relationship is having a break down of his finances because of potential gambling addiction.

Gambling itself is something that should be done privately but if it is moderate there is no need to hide it from your spouse. People feel the need to hide their gambling activities from their spouse once they know that they are addicted to it. Hiding such a problem from your loved ones can be very difficult because it is capable of ruining you down not only physically or emotionally but mentality As well

Problematic gamblers will definitely fine ways to exhibit their addiction characters and since addiction is more of a mental crisis, it can result into the gambler exhibiting multiple characteristics that make them to appear irresponsible to both their partners and family.

This harm's their mental stability and results in anxiety disorder which in this case then the gambler become the most vulnerable.

Since gambling has to do with money, it is important not to keep it a secret but to be open with one's partner because anything can happen. In relationships like marriage, there is nothing like a secret, and when you open up to one another, whatever may be a problem, at the end of the day at least one person is already aware of it, so it won't come as a surprise.

One thing that normally causes problems in marriage is when a partner gets to know something that is seriously affecting the other's finances and before now one is not aware of all this. It is better to be open about gambling so that if there is any problem with addiction, at least the partner can also be a solution to the problem.

I think it is better to disclose to your partner we are gamblers from the very beginning, it would indeed save us much problems of trust in the future, if one takes the courage and talk about it, then it becomes easier to control it, as there will be someone beside ourselves taking care of our money and taking the necessary measures to gamble responsibly.
It is worst if one becomes a pathological gambler and our secret is discovered by our partner in a bad way, it would undoubtedly create problems in the marriage. It is better just to be open about it.

I agree with you, it is important to the our spouse about our gambling habit earlier that them finding out when we have some problem, it will be really heart broken , mainly when we use money meant for both partners to gamble forgetting the fact that the money is for both of you , also when the money is meant for a particular purpose, how do you expect your spouse to feel, that is why in gambling it is adviceable to gamble with what you have and can afford to lose not gambling with money meant for a particular purpose, this singular actions most time leads to divorce because of lack of truth and trust, in steady of you as the head of the family to protect the family from danger, you are exposing the family, most spouse can't withstand this actions mainly when thew gambling was not fruitful, they can have a little tolerance when you win with the money involve, but we all know that gambling win is not guaranteed.

Marriage is a union of two different individuals, hence two become one which means whatever one is currently into, the other person should also be rightly informed. Now, if one is gambling and is deeply falling into addiction, the spouse should also be aware of it, not only to help him with his finances, but most especially to give him advices that would make him resolve his gambling problems.

Otherwise, if the other person chose to hide his gambling activities, and now it turns losing a huge amount from their joined savings, that would be a very big problem. Once the couple have not resort into finding the best solution, that’s where divorce enters and ruin their marriage.

Like it or not, the fact is, that's the case. Based on data (this is specifically in my country, it may vary from country to country). There has indeed been a very significant increase in divorce cases due to gambling. Yes, maybe not all gambling has a negative effect. However, there are indeed many cases of compulsive and irresponsible gambling that have a negative impact on finances, family integrity and harmony, and even criminal acts. Not only divorce cases, even gambling here has resulted in murder cases. It is truly a country when gambling becomes irresponsible + addicted + compulsive.

Source: Gambling-Related Divorces in Indonesia Soar 83% in 2024 (https://databoks.katadata.co.id/en/demographics/statistics/689ad79cdce8e/gambling-related-divorces-in-indonesia-soar-83-in-2024)
Source: Minister: Online Gambling Drives Up Divorce Rates in Indonesia (https://www.viva.co.id/english/1758395-minister-online-gambling-drives-up-divorce-rates-in-indonesia)

Any negative habit can destroy a marriage. And among these habits, along with alcohol abuse is a passion for gambling. And such habits will not be able to hide from partner for a long time, and most likely they will be revealed even before marriage.

There is a relation between them, gamblers especially chronic gamblers stake everything to the extent that it breaks their family, a chronic gbler is capable of staking his family for gamble and this naturally is enough for a woman to leave a marriage if it's not controllable anymore, hence research having it that it's a cause of divorce is very correct.

Additionally, hiding this kind of habit in a world that perceives it to be a bad behaviour will increase the chances of losing a marriage once they find out themselves.

Yes, I agree and this is a reality (as your research has clearly demonstrated). I just think its important to understand that the problem isnot exactly the fact that you place this bet and lose, but rather how you handle it within your relationships with the people you live with. If there's a lack of transparency, if you hide your gambling, if you're irresponsible with money, then conflicts will certainly arise sooner or later, and this could end the relationship. And the breakdown of trust is much worse than the financial losses.

The worst of all is keeping this a secret. When someone hides this from their partner, especially if the financial resources are shared by the couple, the foundation of trust begins to crumble. But if you make this clear, with defined limits and bets made with personal funds (not shared or used for household bills), the dynamic changes completely, as long as you don't exceed the gambling time and dedicate time to your relationship as well.

Communication is essential, whether you're gambling consciously, winning or losing.

Of course, the impact is extraordinary. Sometimes, some husbands are reluctant to tell the truth and only share their work results if they win. Even if they lose, they will try to borrow money outside without their partner's knowledge. This is the beginning of the family's economic decline, especially if they are constantly forced to gamble and keep losing. Sometimes, if the wife has her own income, it's not a major trigger for rifts, but if she relies solely on her husband's income, it can be quite noticeable, especially when she already has significant expenses for her children, including school fees for both secondary and tertiary education.

There is no connection between gambling and divorce rate but there is a connection between gambling addiction and divorce rate.

Let me put this is way gambling addiction that is ignored and denied, first destroys the individual and after it is done, it spreads to their partners and careers and other areas of the live of the person.

Discuss your gambling habit and any other habit you know that is capable of breaking up your family with your spouse even before you become married. Let them know what they are about to get it and be prepared for it. Where this is not done, that is where divorce and other problems come in.

Sooner or later, those who are addicted to gambling will show signs of addiction, even if they previously tried to conceal their gambling activities. I believe that people with this addiction can experience drastic changes, and attitudes and behaviors are among the things that become apparent when someone is seriously addicted to gambling.
In my neighborhood, there are quite a few divorce cases, and these cases are often caused by husbands who are addicted to gambling. I particularly remember a distant neighbor who went bankrupt quickly, losing all his assets, including his car and motorcycle, and his job. His wife, who admitted this, attributed the loss to her husband's gambling addiction.

Gambling can cause serious problems and even destroy lives if done excessively, so we should gamble wisely and in moderation.

I think everything should be disclosed for a married couple. Expenses, more so. Otherwise, the relationship is already starting to rot. For me, that's an issue of fidelity.

Of course, it's understandable if you hide it from your partner because that's usually a cause for quarrel. But the effect of it might be destructive of your bond especially in the long term. It may be a small thing now, but it could only get worse the longer you hide it.

I think it's better to be fully open and face the problem head-on, quarrels and all, than allow a worsening vice to destroy the entire family. After all, opening about it is part of the solution. That can't be done away with in addressing the problem.

It is actually not so bad to keep your gambling personality privacy from anyone including your loved ones. Although I understand your point of view because better your backup people are aware of what you can possibly do so that they can always be aware that this what you do and not feel disappointed of you when they finds out of their own or be it that an incident has to occur that has pulled your identity out as a result of gambling.

The essence of telling letting your partner know you are a gambler is to ad well keep their heads up on you alongside, so they are the ones to tell you freely that you are of had deviated from responsible gambling to irresponsible gambling because of you become an addict, they are the ones to set things up for your recovery if only to can listen to them as your dearest ones who cares about you.

In my opinion, concealing gambling activity depends on the gambler themselves. And there's no guarantee that honesty won't lead to domestic violence or even divorce, because that can happen.
The question is, does the spouse always know or follow the gambler's lead every time they gamble? This doesn't apply to gamblers who have a gambling problem that's difficult to control, even if their spouse or significant other advises them or helps them limit it, or whatever. And often, even if their spouse knows, the gambler keeps their activity secret or conceals it, and the emotions caused by gambling remain unchecked, leading to violence or even divorce.

Telling is much better, revealing gambling habits to your partner is not only about honesty, but also about building a healthy and mutual support relationship, maybe we can be more controlled in managing finances by telling our partner and vice versa by hiding your gambling information it will bring disaster for yourself, as we know that gambling makes us addicted to playing and sometimes makes us forget and difficult to control when playing. With openness in all things, the possibility of divorce is very minimal and even does not happen if it is done wisely in all things.

Divorce is directly and indirectly related to gambling. When a gambler loses his money while gambling, he becomes mentally disturbed, as a result of which his relationship with someone in the family is not good. He becomes addicted to gambling and the situation reaches such a stage that he indulges in various kinds of misdeeds to earn money from gambling. A wife, as a well-wisher, tries to remove her husband from gambling, as a result of which two types of ideologies are created between the husband and wife, as a result of which various kinds of problems start to arise between them, as a result of which it is seen that when the problem reaches the highest level, the husband and wife get divorced. Again, there are cases where a gambler puts various kinds of pressure on his wife for gambling money, which is why many times the wife cannot bear it and divorces her husband.

Depends on country because there are countries like India where divorce is frowned upon, so even if wife is fed up with husband's gambling habits, they'd still probably continue to be together.

It's retarded society I must say, because people tolerate much due to muh culture. (wow! That, 'due' and 'muh' rhymed well — guess, I can be a poet now).

That will depend on the reason for the divorce because if husband and wife have a heavy problem due to gambling problems. That can be the reason why they divorce.

But many divorce cases can happen because of violence in the family. Husband is doing harm or abusing things to family members which makes it difficult for the wife to resist their household again.

It is better to be honest and disclose our gambling habits. Our wife or husband can help us manage the money or even help to allocate the money for gambling. They will warn us and remind us when we are almost reaching the limit. However, gambling really has the capacity to break up a marriage or a family.

Those percentages seem pretty low. I thought that the divorce rate among hardcore gamblers is close to 80%.
I don't plan to get married, so I will never get divorced. Marriage is a useless institution. If I had a serious girlfriend or a wife, I would never tell her that I spend money for casino games/sports betting. I'm sure that revealing my gambling activities to my significant other would cause major problems in our relationship. I would never date a girl, who spends money on gambling. This seems like an obvious red flag to me.
"Stealing" money from your girlfriend/spouse and spending them for gambling is a b*tch move. You are in serous trouble, if you ever decide to do such thing. I would never do such thing for sure.

Definitely there is a connection between gambling and divorce rate because majority of family has gotten divorce due to gambling habits of their spouse. Because it leeds to lack of improper money management leading to problem between partner in relationships and often sterms to divorce when it's oncontroable.

It is not good to hide out gambling habits from our spouses sothat it will no be a surprise to them when they discovered that we lost a huge amount of money. Or sothat it wouldn't look surprising to them when they discovered anything from us. Because when we often too much and they later discovered, the chances of divorce is increased in it multitude.

Gambling may break your relation with your wife and the worst  if you have kids that will be affected for life with your decisions.
Gambling is not bad if you can control and do fun out of it, but if you will be addicted to gambling and spend even your savings with your wife on it.
You will suffer soon and not just you but the whole family.

It changes nothing, telling me that you are gambling as my partner doesn't mean we are cool, I am not going to get into your head to see how responsible you are with gambling, and most of the time those who called themselves responsible goes out of track later on.

There are so many things to be worried about in life and one of them is taking care of my kid, not the financial side but the stress then I still have to manage my business too, now imagine I have a gambling partner too whom I will have to be worried about, monitoring a grown ass man to not become a addicted gambler is a lot of work me.

If anyone out there is divorcing because their partner is a gambler I won't stop them, there are just too many headaches in the world today, unless you want to end up locked up in an mental institution.

When we decide to marry someone, we place all our trust in them. The moment we hide secrets, that trust collapses and problems begin.
Personally, I've never hidden anything from my wife. Perhaps that's what drives me to exercise self-control when gambling. I'm referring to her moral support, and if she sees me spending extra on gambling, it makes me think (it's never happened).

A wife (and even more so with children) will not indefinitely tolerate a man next to her, whose entire behavior is subordinated only to gambling addiction. And you don't have to object that he's a poor thing, that he's sick, that you need to help and sympathize with him. No way. His brain is not clouded by drugs, which means he can fight his addiction. But deep down, he doesn't want to. Yes, it's difficult. Is quitting smoking or drinking alcohol easy? On the contrary, it is much more difficult. So divorce is a natural outcome in such a situation.

the best way to make this kind of evaluation or research is always with a medical database like pubmed.
there are also small databases (likewise nationals and so on) that allows to verify these data in a easy way and make this specific research.
I don't think that gambling has truly this impact to be honest. Probably there are also other facts involved or in general I would consider this not a real (or major) factor that could lead to a divorce.

I am sure those who has good self control while gambling can hide their habit and it will not influence their relationship with their partners because they can still gamble everytime they want the good effect is those people can able to managed their financial condition but majority current problem is people are being to addicted in gambling it caused they were too lazy to works, spend money by selling the stuffs, borrow money without their partner know and some cases selling their houses or cars and lost their responsible to their partners so these situation makes them has ruin their life with eventually their partners have to leave them and divorce

before an act of gambling goes to an extent where it result to the separation of couples, it means that the party that is involved in the act of gambling has ruined the families income in a seemingly irrecoverable manner and has been cautioned several times but have chosen to remain silent allowing the family to continue going down while satisfying his gambling urges at the negligence of the families needs. it is not ideal to single out gamble as the root cause of divorce because in general, what is actually the cause is the effect of such act on the families income. and it is not just gambling, any habit that tend to drain the families income and that is being done by one party has every tendency of leading to divorce. it could be as small as spending too much on outing by a partner or doing anything that puts the families need as a secondary need.

But I wonder why some people will even want to hide their gambling habits from their partner. Like you ain't doing a bad thing trying to have fun by gambling, or trying to make side hustle from gambling. If it turns out well your partner will benefit from it, and if it doesn't, she will also be their to support you and help you in difficult times. If you let your partner know about your gambling habits, there are times when you don't have money to gamble and she have, she can give you because she knows how important gambling contributes to your happiness. Gamblers stand to gain a lot if they let their partner know about their gambling habits.

Money matter can lead to separation everywhere including the family and gambling is money matter so it can surely lead to divorce. If a person is gambling irresponsibly and it's affecting the family's financial responsibilities this will cause problems in the home which can lead to divorce. A family person that gambles responsibly shouldn't have any financial problems in their home because of gambling. My wife knows that I gamble sometimes and I have assured her that I only use very small amounts for it so it doesn't affect our relationship.

We shouldn't hide our gambling habits from our partners, but how much we reveal depends on how interested our partner is in it... in my case, my wife isn't interested in gambling so I rarely talk to her about it. She knows I gamble, and that's it...

Gambling has the capacity to destroy families, to completely disrupt the lives of everyone involved, and to make their future uncertain. This is what happens when an irresponsible gambler spends all his money, all his savings & his family's real estate. If he gets into debt on top of that, it's just a matter of time before everything collapses like a house of cards.


It's when you have a partner who doesn't approve of certain things... and your heart wants to have fun.

Basically, a family breaks up due to lack of money, but if a gambler gambles due to lack of money, then of course that family breaks up. Gamblers who gamble due to lack of money are basically those who are addicted to gambling and face this situation. However, the reason for the separation between husband and wife is not love but financial issues and if those who gamble keep this gambling secret from their wives and face debts while gambling.
Then there is conflict between the two and if the marriage is dissolved based on this conflict, then gambling can be partly blamed in this case.

Any excessive passion will always bring trouble, especially if money intended for the spouses' and their children's well-being is spent on it. Gambling addiction also has its drawbacks if one of the partners forgets about their responsibilities to support the family and spends all the money on games. Divorce will be a natural consequence of such behavior. If the other partner, who does not have a gambling addiction, does not have the strength to convince the person to seek medical help, then the family will collapse. Do I need to talk about my gambling addiction? I think so; with regular cheating, people completely lose not only trust but also the respect of family members, so a calm attitude to gambling as one of the entertainment options will not threaten divorce, but, on the contrary, can add fun to the rest of the program.

That's true I forgot that not all marriages are fun. There are so many marriages like that, where the men aren't allowed to do certain things that gives them joy. Like I am just imagining it that I will be in a marriage and I will want to gamble and I need permission from my partner before I can gamble. Like if she doesn't approve I won't gamble?.... Honestly I don't think I can survive in such  union. That's why it's important that people get married to someone that they can get along with and share things without hiding it. Like when they are still dating, let her know that you're someone who likes to certain things. So when you guys finally get married, you won't need her approval again to do those things.

I don't think there's a connection, except when you're addicted to gambling. Let's be clear. If you have an addiction, whatever it is, living together becomes difficult, and since young people today don't want to work hard, fixing a relationship isn't their first choice. Better to divorce and be done with it.

I have seen many families in such situations, gambling can break a family. If one person in a family is a gambler and if he becomes addicted, then he will constantly take money and sell various furniture in the house and bet on gambling. Gradually that family goes towards destruction, so a gambler does not think much about breaking a family and their marriage. If a husband gambles secretly from his wife and at some point he becomes addicted, if later his wife finds out about it, then definitely there will be a huge problem with it. And this problem leads to divorce, where according to me, many families have faced many kinds of problems due to gambling, so it is always better to play responsibly while gambling.

Why would you feel the need to hide your gambling? The only people that are hiding it are losing their asses, very religious and going against beliefs, or just retarded. People need to be open and honest and find a partner that accepts them. Your actions directly affect everyone in your household, so your significant other needs to be aware so they're not blindsided.

Of course, what is the point of getting married when you can't disclose your own problems to your spouse?. Gambling addiction is a big deal, and like people say, a problem shared is a problem half solved, and if an addict is lucky to have a very good partner, then I can assure that there will be a way to manage the whole thing, if actually the addict respects his/her partner though. There is no point of hiding anything, because sooner or later, the effect of the addiction would reveal itself.


Of course it does, especially for a gambler that doesn't respect their partner. Just like you said, some even go as far as using their saved money to gamble, and in most cases that I've said, it all ended in a loss. That alone can break the trust in a home, and destroy a happy home.

Problems with gambling will affect the player, and the player’s mood will affect family relationships. It is all so interconnected that if the player becomes addicted and their problems become very serious, they will simply destroy all the relationships they are in. I think this applies not only to gambling but also to other addictions, such as drugs and alcohol. I would also add gaming addiction alongside gambling, so yes, the connection is definitely there.

I think it can break a marriage.

Imagine a responsible father turning to a gambling addict. How can he pay the mortgage, electric bills, and other needs that should be paid? Even if we hide it, there will be a time when it surfaces when all the bills pile up.
It will definitely create tension in the marriage and will probably start a bad relationship with the partner. It's best if we can avoid all of these things from happening. We should always be afraid of losing our family if we get too deep into gambling. Let's also remember that gambling will just be there waiting for us. We don't need to rush things when we are playing and wanting to win.

When you choose someone to a partner or spouse, you should be ready to let them into your life and show them even before you become married all the habits you have so that it becomes their decision to choose either to stay or to leave. It is certainly compulsory that you let your partner know about your gambling habits before you get married to them just so that it does not come as a shock or a break of trust or something surprising to them, when they discover that you are gambling.

I would be disappointed in my partner if I found out that they have a habit such as gambling and maybe they had very chronic or deep in it and did not let me know because that would mean them handing a problem to me that I should have known earlier before getting myself into the marriage.

Gambling and marriage are different things, sometimes gamblers hide their gambling from their wives, I think if he is addicted to it then there is no reason to hide it. Gambling puts a lot of pressure on the family, so before marriage there are many families who do not want to marry a girl who gambles. Yes, I saw a friend of mine who gambled but the girl's family did not know about it, the marriage was fixed but when they found out that his son was gambling, the marriage got divorced. If he gambles, then after getting addicted to it, he does not take care of his wife properly, but gambles with the money saved in the house. I think gambling can be done but not excessively which causes problems between husband and wife.

Maybe, coz it involves finances. Anyone with a gambling habit should discuss it, or at least let their partner know. As we all know, financial issues are one of the main reasons why some couples get divorced. Anything related to money should be talked about. Also, if you’re in the right mind, why would you prioritize gambling over your family? If your family is fine with it and you’re not having financial problems, then why not? But if not, just forget about it.

I think this will be the annoying aspect for the opposite partner to sue for divorce especially the woman. If a male gambler spends family money in gambling and it doesn't yield profit over time and time without number, of course it will annoy the woman in the house and persistent anger can lead to any outcome.


The spouse should know certain habit of each other like smoking, drinking, gambling should not be hidden from the woman. If the man is a gambler, the woman knows that one day he would be skint and may use important savings in the house to gamble, so she has to prepare herself for it. If she knows such habit, the better for her to decide to continue in the marriage or not to.

It is only inresponsible gamblers that would going to hide there gambling habit from there partners. Normally as a good gambler that normally gamble fun and entertainment with only what you can afford to lose, I don't see any reason hiding it from your partner. Because it is not when you would be having challenges that you would start letting your know that you are a gambler, by then she might be seeing you as someone that is not genu. However, as long as you are gambling responsibly telling your partner about it might be the best way have more trust.

Personally I would disclose my habits to my partner, not only for her to be aware of it but also she would be able to see if I am gambling too much and she can intervene with me while it's still early. Also, if you tried to keep it from your partner, there's a lot of negative things that can happen. For instance, you lose more than what your budget is and definitely your partner will quickly notice that there's a problem with your budget (if you decided that you will have joint account). Also, if you get frustrated after losing big amount, of course there will be noticeable change of behavior when you interact with your family.

Many people in my country destroys not only the marriage, even the whole family. A father, who uses his son's hard earned savings, a mother who spends all family's saving for her gambling addiction, a child who uses his tuition to place bet on sports betting. There's really a lot of scenarios and these examples happened to my close friends and family.

I personally think there's no problem to hide that from your partner because your partner also hide something from you. We should know women loves drama and conflict, if you're not the problem, then she will create the problem.

Divorce happen when the husband can't fulfill everything that his wife ask, this won't happen for someone who're a pathological gambler and can fulfill her needs.

Look how ironic it's, the country completely ban gambling, but they conduct a survey and found there are 83% divorce cases due to gambling? ::)

Because they've in relationship like for 3 years and they both can accept each other characters, but there are few thing that the partner can't accept. So, rather than risking to breakup with this partner which he think she's 9, he might not able someone as good as her, so he thinks sooner or later his partner can accept gambling.

Only someone that is not a man enough will not disclose his gambling habits to his wife. I use 1% to gamble and I gamble responsibly, there is nothing bad if my wife and I even gambled together. It would really be fun instead of me doing it alone. Anyone that is the breadwinner of the family will not be afraid to let his wife know about his gambling habit but it has to be done responsibly.

Hiding your gambling habit from your partner is wrong and can lead to divorce or distrust. If you your spouse doesn't like gambling it's better you talk about it before marriage do not lie about, be open in marriage regardless of the outcome. When you hide your habit, then your partner later finds out, it will result to many things that can lead to divorce in marriage.

My ex girlfriend hate gambling, all my days in the university I did hide to gamble without her knowledge. Imagine if we married and she find out about it, she will definitely not trust me at all.  The most important thing is integrity discuss your hobbies and bad habits with your partner and check if they can cope with it, if they can't then don't marry. The reason for most divorce cases are caused by couple discovering some strange habits from their partners while in marriage things they are not aware while dating. Let's be open to our partner to save our marriages.

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yeah gambling can & does destroy marriages. A few months ago, I read an article (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3870974) that stated that hiding bets is essentially setting up a breakup trap, with lifetime divorce rates for problem gamblers being close to 40% & for pathological gamblers being 54%.  that is why , I always advise my friends to be honest, tell your partner, safeguard joint funds, seek counselling & call helplines if needed.  Additionally, remember that divorce can encourage gambling, so take action now rather than later.  Transparency & treatment is always preferable to secrecy.

In other to make your marriage last it is important we don't hide anything from our partner and I think even before we get married it is important we let our partner know our gambling habit because some people don't like people that gamble not to talk of getting married to someone that love gambling, if you don't disclose it to your partner surely he or she will fine out one day and when they do they may not want to continue the marriage anymore and in other for them to stay they will give you a condition that you should stop gambling and I'm sure it will be difficult for you so it's better you tell them everything about your self even your gambling habit they have the right to know about it.

Yes gambling has the capacity to break marriage or a family, just like I said above if you don't tell your partner your gambling habit and he or she finds out they may decide not to continue with the marriage especially if they are the kind of people that hate gambling.
And again if you are addicted to gambling your partner may decide to divorce you because of your addition to gambling, I have seen someone that his wife divorced because he was so addicted to gambling that he started selling his property.

For me, I am always of the opinion that our partners should know about some of our habits that could cause issues when it's been kept a secret from them. I can't keep my gambling lifestyle a secret from anyone and that's because they are not the one funding me and I am not also addicted to gambling. What causes divorce sometimes is because a partner kept their gambling lifestyle a habit and then when the wife or husband got to find out about it, it was already too late for them to accept the disappointment.

Problems may arise even if you disclose your gambling habits to your spouse. You mentioned some figures but we could do the same with several other practices (drinking, being a sports fan, being unemployed, or crypto enthusiast) that could potentially impact the marriage. I think that it is important both for you and for him/her to be honest with your partner, but it won't save you from divorce if he/she doesn't like what you do.

And yes, gambling definitely has the potential to break up a marriage or a family, but as I said, like many other things in our lives.

I've read many sad stories of marriages that ended because one partner got involved in gambling. The reasons are varied, from a lack of attention that one partner began to give the other because they started spending more time gambling, to using money that was supposed to pay bills, and women rarely forgive this. From what I've understood from the many cases I've read, the biggest problem is finances.

In many cases, when wives learn that their husbands are involved in gambling, they warn them to stop gambling. This is why many husbands continue gambling without telling their wives, and when they find out, the problems escalate until they reach the point of divorce. If someone plays in casinos and has a wife, that person needs to be very responsible to never cross the red line: not letting the game get more attention than the wife and not using money to pay bills.

You have made some great points... perhaps the most important one is about choosing a partner in the first place. You shouldn't hide things, especially the ones that are important to you as a person... you should be as open as you can be, and choose a partner who agrees with you and doesn't mind who you really are. Those who hide things sooner or later get into trouble, and some of those troubles can be very serious.


That's a nice way, but if you wish to have Joker in your hands, you need to let her know that you are crazy/hot-blooded, and you can get crazy in moments if circumstances are right... So it's like a free pass to do some things she won't question, and she will not be surprised when you do some crazy stuff, or she will, but she will understand & not make drama about it. So if she still wants to be with you after all that, that's real love, and marriage is just a formality on paper that makes some things easier.



Right in the spot... I would like to add time/energy/money! Family comes first, with all the responsibilities like paying bills & putting food on the table, and most of the time/energy/money must go there... If most of it goes in any other direction (in this case, gambling), the family will suffer.

In fact, this is just one of many reasons why families fall apart. If you look at divorce statistics, they are simply huge. According to the statistics, 50% of marriages, that’s every second one, end in divorce. I don’t think gambling is the main cause of this. On the contrary, I believe that divorces due to gambling make up a very, very small percentage. I wouldn’t say that gambling somehow contributes to it. Families always have many different problems, and if they can’t cope with one of them, they decide to divorce.

IMO, it's important that our partner knows what we are up to. Being honest and open to your partner is crucial to have a strong relationship. Not only about gambling but in general. I remember a couple renting house in our neighborhood. Their marriage went on the rocks because of gambling. The wife didn't know his partner is spending their savings in gambling (cockfighting specifically) and it became uncontrollable. It's already late before she found out, when a person called her asking to pay the debt of his husband. They are already separated now (not legally though as they're not divorce yet), it's just sad that there's one child who now have a broken family. Kids are the ones who's truly affected in this situation.

Gambling can really affect relationships because when someone hides it from their partner it immediately creates a wall between them once secrets start even if the amounts are small the trust begins to slip away and trust is often harder to repair than money. When money is shared in a family it becomes more serious because every dollar is supposed to be for both partners or for the children if one uses it for gambling without telling the other it doesn’t just cause financial stress it feels like betrayal and betrayal can cut deeper than any loss at the casino.

Gambling also takes time and attention away from the relationship if someone spends long hours chasing wins or recovering from losses the partner might start to feel neglected or unimportant this emotional distance is often what breaks people apart before the money even does.So yes gambling does have the capacity to break marriages and families apart not only because of the debt it can cause but also because of the secrecy and lack of communication around it the healthier way is to be open about it with a spouse even if it’s just a hobby because once it is hidden it slowly eats away at the foundation of the relationship honesty and boundaries are what keep it from becoming destructive.

The deep relationship between husband and wife can sometimes be ruined only due to addiction to some forbidden things and gambling. It has become a common thing that nowadays the amount of violence against women and divorce due to gambling has increased a lot. The abuse of women to manage gambling money is a reality of today's society. Divorce is currently occurring due to abuse of women, and the problem behind this is definitely gambling.
But one important thing is that if the husband and wife share their problems in a similar way, then in many cases, it is possible to solve deep problems. Many times, husbands hide their gambling habits from their wives, and when the wife finds out, there is a possibility of divorce. Responsible husbands never hide any problem from their wives, but they both try their best to solve the problem together. I think when the husband and wife try to solve each other's problems, then divorce will definitely decrease to a great extent.

It all comes back to doing anything in moderation, when you start taking it to excess then you are bound to cause problems even if you refuse to see it. I don't think most partners would mind being with someone who places the odd small sports bet on a weekend, maybe connected with watching their favorite team play. The problem comes in if you are gambling daily and it starts to interfere with your other commitments in life. Addiction can often start off slow but eventually engulf and change a person. An addict can often ignore or not acknowledge that they have a problem, because it would stop the activity that they love the most. It can sometimes become more important than the relationships surrounding them, at which point they really need a reset and break off betting for a long time to recover.

I don't think you should hide anything from your spouse, and that includes gambling too. Gambling addiction is bad on its own, then hiding it from your partner is a betrayal. Gambling has to do with your finance, so it's very important you share it with your partner,  so you both can even make a budget for it, so it does not affect your finances.
Hiding your gambling habit from your partner could lead to divorce, when they find out that you have been hiding it from them. They will definitely feel betrayed and it's really going to affect their trust for you, and when trust is broken in a relationship,  it's might lead to a divorce.

If gambling is not done responsibly, it will have a big effect on the romance of the household, and also hiding gambling activities is also one of the things that causes a strain in the household relationship, I personally always tell my wife about my gambling activities, because when I am out of control, my wife is there to restrain me and in my opinion, gambling activities do not need to be kept secret from my wife.

It depends but in general I agree that everything will be disclosed to our partner since both their finances is involved once they are married due to sharing of wealth law.

I said it depends because sometimes our partner can’t handle this activity even if you are gambling moderately and you have full control to your expenses.

If I’m doing okay on gambling while my partner has tendency to not accept what I’m doing I think I will choose to hide my gambling activity but not the addiction.

Most divorces are caused by gambling because the person cannot distinguish between money for meeting the family's basic needs and money for gambling. Obviously, it will be problematic if gambling interferes with basic finances, but try to manage your finances as well as possible with a budget outside of basic needs. I think it will be fine. An individual has the right to hide their gambling activities from their family because the reaction of people who do not understand gambling can be very bad, plus you don't want anyone else to get involved. It is better to keep gambling as a private matter and only you know about it as long as it does not interfere with the budget I mentioned above.

There's this added advantage that disclosing things to your spouse's brings and I think it's one thing that bonds two people together as partners and build long term trust between them, bit when things are done otherwise there would be chances of chaos and it's one aspects that leads to a divorce. People think differently though and their conclusion varies but in most things it's best your partner is aware.

I have to be agreed with you about this but still its matter of regional as well because still in few countries specially in subcontinent this is not problem even here gambling strictly prohibited but too many involved and having this as addiction.
Joint family system and arrange marriages always encourage things like these because both never talk about this and after marriage mostly never want to live divorced life which encourage things like these few families which understand consequences always done strong decisions and fixed this.

Its matter of education and allowing women to have some skills which always give them confidence and courage for taking strong decisions can make things better.

We should disclose it; it’s a ground for divorce here in our country, it’s a ground for marriage annulment if you cannot fix your gambling addiction, and the partner feels that she’s been betrayed, he can file for a divorce.

Marriage is all about being honest. You should disclose all your past and present vices and addictions, and your mental well-being, past and present, which is why there is such a thing as getting to know each other stage.

And you should consider marriage if you think you have found the right person or have accepted yourself as you are, with all your good and bad traits and habits.

Due to the stigma attached to gambling, most persons by default wants to hide their gambling habit from their partner especially when they know their partner is a very hyper active and repulsive person, and such partner cannot handle such information about  their other partner in most cases, that alone gets them to want to keep hiding their gambling activities so as not to cause any form of uproar in the family or pit their relationship on the line.

But all of this is not excuse enough because if you hold onto those excuse to hide your gambling behavior, eventually you will get exposed and loose out in your relationship in some cases so it is best to come clean amd inform your partner soyou don't have to battle it in the nears future and cause issues you would have prevented much earlier

For me, gambling itself has no connection to divorce but how people deal with their gambling habit is the one which make a couple divorced.
Irresponsible gambling make lead someone into financial issue, emotional conflict, trust issue, violence, etc which is something trigger a couple into divorce.
Gambling, as long as it is done responsibly and as long as our partner also know about will be better because our partner will also able to remind and control our gambling habit.
This is what I do, I told my wife and I ask her to control my budget for gambling so I have to request my wife when I want to gamble.

It's a known fact that if someone is married and one of them is addicted to gambling, the marriage will likely be strained, and even worse, divorce. But I have a friend whose brother or sister is a gambler, and he's married with a partner and children. I was shocked when he said all of his family members enjoy online gambling. It's insane.

If you’re living together and not yet married, you have the option to hide or be honest about it, and let your partner decide whether he wants to stay or not. However, he has no business interfering, but once you get married, you have an obligation to tell everything.

Here in our country, it serves as a basis for legal separation or annulment, as divorce is not recognised. To address issues in your marriage, be honest with your partner, because he will eventually find out, and this will cause a rift and a quarrel. No wife wants to marry someone who risks the family’s finances.
 

It makes more sense if every gambler should let his partner know about their gambling habit so it wont turn out to be a topic for debate that will cause problem when they get married. If they dont, they are at fault when their partner finds out, but if they do, it shouldn't be a problem in the future as the partner supported it from the very beginning.

Although life event can lead to people who are not interested in gambling before they get married to start gambling. And yeah, there are many who transformed into gambling because of responsibilities and unexpected occurrences.

Bro!! i kind of also think that there is some for of a real connection because the moment you start hiding your gambling activities from your partner!! i think that’s when the real problem kicks in. Because trust is one of the strongest things in any relationship and once it is broken, it is never easy to fix back. maybe it is not just about gambling responsibly!! but also about being open to sharing it with the next person you hold dear to your heart. Because in marriage or any serious relationship!! money usually gets shared one way or another so if you are spending behind your partner’s back!!! especially when losses come in, the damage goes deeper than the money itself... so gambling can break a marriage or family not just because of the money part but more because of the secrecy! the lies and the broken trust that comes with it at the end.

When you hide your gambling habits from your partner, and you may inadvertently have problems involving your family's finances. Your partner may consider it a betrayal because of your lack of openness regarding gambling.

If you are already married, although your gambling is a form of your own privacy, you may still need to share some of your stories with your partner. If your communication with your partner is good, as long as finances are not problematic because of your gambling, I think the relationship will be just fine.

There are many reasons for divorce and gambling could be a small of those reasons. Could be below 1%.
I actually work somewhere where we deal with divorce data and these kinds of data and the number one reason for divorce has always been cheating. Addictions are also a big part of it but its mostly drugs addiction or that of other intoxicating things. I have heard about a few case where they divorced due to gambling addiction and most of the problematic partner is male.
I have no idea about research on gamblers but its obvious that compulsive gamblers would have a destroyed life and family.

Gambling is not an activity that should be hidden from one's partner. It should be one of the most important discussions that should happen before marriage because it involves money. If your partner is not willing to tolerate your gambling behavior, you would have to choose between leaving the relationship and quitting gambling.

There was a thread here on this forum that talked about a young man who used funds that were saved for their marriage to gamble. It was even his partner who brought most of the funds. My partner was not comfortable with gambling because she had the wrong mindset about gambling. But when she saw that I gambled responsibly, she was no longer worried about my gambling events..

I agree that a gambler should tell their partner about their gambling, especially if they are married. The reason is clear, because gambling can truly destroy family relationships. While telling your partner won't solve the problem, it will at least allow them to brainstorm solutions.

Honestly, in my area, there are several couples who ultimately divorced because the husband's gambling addiction caused them financial problems and ultimately separated. In fact, it's quite common here.
This discussion also reminds me that, whether I like it or not, I must stop gambling completely before I get married. Although I have a manageable approach, we never know when I might experience financial problems due to gambling.

Hiding such from your spouse will only end in regrets, I wonder why some gamblers decide to hide their gambling lifestyle from their spouse. Probably due to fear of losing the person, some people don’t like gambling activity and when they find out their partner engage in gambling activity mostly to the point of becoming an addict they get disappointed. We’ve seen different stories how gambling activity destroys home, even during the process of getting married they can decide to call off the wedding maybe as a result of using the money meant for marriage preparation to gamble and end up with lose. This is not a new thing, gambling and divorce are connected although if the partner knows and agree to stay there’s absolutely no problem reasons why you should not keep such secret besides gambling is not bad instead gambling abuse is considered wrong.

There is a reason why it's called pattern, and during. If you gamble and you are also married you must let your partner know and your gambling habits so that they can help you when you are over reacting on gambling. From the source guy provided,I beging to think that these is the reason why many people say bad about gamble. If some people know that you are a gambler they abuse you at your back because they think all gamblers are the same.Only a gambler that is not responsible that will not tell his/her partner that they gamble , there is a reason why it is called partner and there is a reason why it's called gamble. It's risky that why they called it gamble.

When you get married, your business is your spouse's business as well. In case you're not fully aware of what marriage is, it is a bond between two people who love each other, as they become one. That means, you should not keep any secrets nor cheat. That's the best recipe for a healthy marriage.
Now, let's head back to your concern. I would say, yes, gambling will have an impact on your marriage when it becomes an excessive behaviour. Disclosing your gambling habits to your wife may save you from having a broken family.

I do believe that there is an association between divorce and gambling given the effects of such.

We all know that gambling is highly addictive to the point that you would choose to prioritize this over anything else. Given the data and statistics you provided OP, there is indeed an association between the two (2) circumstances.


Not only with regard to gambling but to everything.

The moment when a man marries a woman, it becomes a permanent union where the two will become one in terms of some aspects. The moment you hide something from your partner, the foundation of the family will start to crumble, thereby destroying the sanctity of marriage where trust is the essential factor.

I can say to an extent that those that have martial issues are coming from gambling addicts, not because they are gamblers, but being an addict makes them unqualified for having things done in the right manner and such a gambler could also lack the ability of managing his marriage or relationship properly, as a result, they ended being into divorce because the gamblers is the major reason leading to this, being indiscipline and lack focus on the right way of managing their marriage.

If you know that gambling isn't something bad, why will you hide it from your partner. It means that you are not an open-minded person. In marriage nothing should be hidden. My partner knows that I gamble, and she only laugh at me when I lose my bet because she will always tell me that, the club I am betting on will lose the game. Most times, it plays out like that. If your spouse does not want you to gamble, you can give up to keep the marriage.

Someone who's hiding something from his partner have a reason for doing that, maybe his partner doesn't like him gambling and he's desperate to gamble most of the times. But the truth of it all is that keeping secrets with your fiancee will turn into a disaster in the future. If they don't like it you just have to figure out another thing to do which they will like. When it comes to gamble the bother parties should agree on how to do it because if their children future. But it's obvious that many gamblers don't consider their children future before they make most decisions.

Not everyone is comfortable with opening up to their spouse about an addiction especially if its the man that's in that situation. Some men would feel like it's a let down to them that's why they hide it from their partner because a man is supposed to be a provider and a protector those are his sole responsibilities. Being addicted to gambling would not allow his family see him as such but it's still advisable not to hide this issue

Basically, gambling can become a big problem when a person is married but unable to be a responsible gambler. I observed from my friend's case study that his main mistake was not being able to allocate a budget for his family life and gambling. He combined the two, and it was not uncommon for him to lose money gambling and use up his gambling budget. Instead of stopping, he would gamble away money meant for his family's needs, we can guess how that ended. This made his partner so tired that she decided to divorce him. Honestly, we are free to gamble, there are no rules prohibiting it even after marriage. However, we must know the limits of our gambling budget, when that money is gone, it’s better to stop and find other forms of entertainment.

Well, that's interesting. If the spouse does not want you to indulge in gambling then it becomes a very difficult situation. It is not easy to give up on marriage only because of this. Also, it is almost impossible to give up on gambling if one is a habitual gambler. So what situation is left in this case  ???

One option is to talk with the wife and try to convince her, but if she still doesn't agree, then what? This leads to only one option and that is the most easiest one too, do gambling while keeping it hidden from your spouse.

The main purpose of gambling is entertainment, if someone expects more from gambling, then gambling will turn into an addiction in his life, so it is never right to expect anything other than entertainment from gambling. It is true that we are all free to gamble, it cannot be the right decision to ban it even after marriage. Any problem can be solved through discussion, so I think if a husband can convince his wife well, that he mainly plays for entertainment, it is not a part of his life, that he has self-control over himself to manage gambling. If these issues can be explained well, a relationship can be expected to become stronger.

I agree that hiding something from your significant other is problematic. Imagine why you would hide it if there is nothing wrong with it. That alone speaks a lot, and everyone should be careful when doing something like this.

Sometimes we need to keep Somethings to ourselves regardless of the level of trust, i know that my spouse knows i gamble, but she also know that i have been gambling as responsible as i can, and she doesn't have anything against me so regardless if i tell her or not, she will definitely not feel disappointed if she discovered that i gamble.

I believe the most important distinction here is that the household is or is not being affected by gambling. When it is just a little hobby and the boundaries are kept strict, most of the partners will not really mind especially when there is already trust in the relationships. However, when a person begins to conceal it, the secrecy itself may become bigger than the gambling. I have a friend who occasionally gambled and his wife was okay with it but the second he started to hide losses the trust was more hurt than the lost money. Transparency will therefore both save the relationship and finances in the end.

Yeah, keeping things from your partner usually indicates a deeper problem.  You know, in addition to mistrust, secrecy frequently results from social shame & self stigma.  It is a major warning sign for our society. concealing finances or gambling in a relationship, I could call it nothing but Financial infidelity, which undermines trust & the stability of the partnership.  Most of the gambling related people I know have at some point hidden money related problems from their partners.  so I will say open communication is essential, put support, empathy, & honesty before judgment.

It's not just about hiding gambling habits, as reported in the research. I believe divorce occurs due to a combination of factors, not a single one. But, yes, one of the main causes of separation is a lack of trust in the other person. When trust is broken, it becomes difficult to repair the relationship.

People who gamble secretly without their partner's knowledge usually won't be honest about the income they get from their work or other things. Because usually some people who are married need their finances to be known by their partners (women), if he is honest about using his money for gambling, his partner will most likely not allow it; therefore, many men gamble secretly without their wives' knowledge. However, some of them also become addicted to gambling so they become irresponsible and even reduce the nominal amount of money that should be given to their wives in full but use a lot of it for gambling. This can certainly cause arguments and even end in divorce.

Some people will get to a point in their gambling where they don't give any thought about the future of their marriage. I can say that some people are quickly becoming addicted to gambling since some people have no control over their gambling and will attempt to recover their losses after they have lost a significant amount of money. One issue with gambling is that by the time they become addicted even their family will no longer be able to comprehend them, which is why some marriages end since they can no longer support the family.

Witnessing a female friend's marriage fall apart due to irresponsible gambling... leading to divorce because the relationship was no longer harmonious, as the money that was supposed to be given to the wife was instead spent on gambling.

If gambling is not done responsibly the consequences will be like this.
It can lead to other problems because gambling can become complicated in many ways.

I myself still hide my gambling activities because I know my wife will be angry... especially since finances must remain stable and everything must be secure... besides I don't gamble too much, and now it's strictly regulated in such a way.

Well I don't see the actual connection between Gambling & devorce. If you ask me it's the mentality and the commitment to your partner for the reason of Devorce. If you are gonna steal your partner's money, or express your stress , dissatisfaction on your partner's than it should lead to devorce. You should be truthful to your partner.

I believe if one has a partner, and they are married, one must disclose anything about the gambling activity.  This way it will lessen the impact of unknown gambling activity.

We all know that overengagement in gambling affects the players time spent to his family.  And when unlucky, gambling irresponsibly often eats up the family budget.  And when a family is hungry or has insufficient funds for daily living, conflict between partners arises. The couples will keep on arguing until one had enough and think of a break up.


As much as gambling can make two strangers become friends, it also has the capacity to break up relationships, including marriage.


Irresponsible gambling can lead to a broken family.  That said, gambling has a connection to divorce and breakups.  It is a series of interconnected relationship of event. When a person became an irresponsible gambler, he tend to gamble excessively to the point that he won't be able to sustain his family needs.  When there is insufficent supply and hunger, the partner knowing that the reason for the family suffering that fate is gambling will speak to the gambler partner.  From there conflict and misunderstanding occurs.  If the misunderstanding and conflict not fixed and extended for  long time, the other party will have enough and just give up the relationship resulting to divorce.

Divorce often occurs when a partner engages in bad behavior, and financial factors are also common. It's true that gamblers often divorce because of gambling, as this is the case in almost every country. This may be because they gamble irresponsibly, neglecting their household needs.

So, can gambling destroy a marriage? This depends on the individual gambler. If you gamble but never meet your household needs, this will inevitably lead to divorce. Therefore, it's best to gamble when your household problems are resolved, or in other words, when your household needs and finances are stable. Perhaps if those are met telling your partner about your gambling won't be a problem. However it's best to keep your gambling problem to yourself, and not to tell your partner even if you gamble responsibly. Because people generally view gambling as a negative thing.

Yes, it is true that one of the reasons for divorce is financial crisis. And gambling can put a person in a financial crisis. There are very few records of a gambler maintaining his financial condition through gambling. Everyone thinks of winning something big very quickly to strengthen his financial condition but what happens to them is always the opposite. And such an activity can definitely increase the risk of divorce. Because when someone loses everything through gambling, the life partner will not go to spend his life with him if he cannot fulfill his needs. This is a normal calculation.

It depends on how big the gambling problem is—because we know that many problems arise when they lose a lot of money gambling and there is no money left for family needs, so obviously this will be a big problem.

So how do we manage our finances well for gambling? Rest assured that you will not have problems with your family.

Wives should know about our gambling habits, whatever their response may be, the important thing is to let them know.

When I'm ready to settle down, there is nothing my partner will not know about me all the way from my health life history down to the things I do for fun but will be limited with investments, she will know things I do but wouldn't disclose the amount but gambling wouldn't be among things I'm going to limit. I will tell tell her the things I do for fun and will know all the this things before we becomes one family, even though I'm not a reckless gambler, I think it's important your partner knows much about you.

If I have a sister, I will want her to do the same with her man. I will not be happy if my sister end up marrying an addicted gambler, I will not even think twice if she decided to leave man that has refused to quit gambling because they got addicted but I will support as well if he is ready to change. To be sincere it's easy to see your partner sell off your property because of an addiction, those people careless about their family before they make any difficult decisions.

Yeah it is very important and necessary that you should all your partner knows that you are a gambler than pretending not to be a gambler because if your partner eventually finds out that you are a gambler and it happens that your partner is the kind that doesn't want you to gamble since it involves winning or losing of money, it can course divorce between two partners, so it is very advisable to always show up who you really are from the beginning when you are still in a relationship and if your partner will truly love and marry you for who are, that could be better than hiding what course harm to a relationship or marriage.

Obviously gambling has the potential to aid divorce or even breakdown of family, mostly if it involves secrecy, financial strain, and also addiction. The statistics you sited displayed how seriously it is connected to great divorce rates. The major concern shouldn't be gambling itself rather the trust and money issues that accompanies it.

From my view, for one who is in a meaningful relationship, it is wise to be transparent about your gambling habits. You might claim to gamble responsibly yet hiding such from your partner can make them feel used, and can be worse than the act of gambling on itself. It is hard to fix a broken trust.
Therefore gambling can tear apart families, but truthfulness with your partner about it is safer route.

And the first one that will be affected is obviously the family if someone falls for the addiction of gambling. I would say that it will be a catalyst, specially in cases you mentioned, if the gambler hides everything from his spouse for example. And when it's time to settle the bills i.e. rent, electricity and there is no money despite the person has a good and decent paying job but as a degen gambler, money is gone already. Maybe in some society the opposite can tolerate it, but the worst is that if the other party finds it out and so it means that she or he could file for a divorce because of someone's addiction.

I kept wondering what relates gambling with divorce but then, a partner could get tired and frustrated concerning the spouses addiction and file for a divorce, that's one of the disadvantages of gambling addiction, it could affect a family thereby leading to separation of two spouses, I think things like these should be talked about when informing gamblers concerning addiction cause I believe it would go long way to help gamblers take precautions and gamble responsibly so they won't get addicted and cause problems in their family.

Honesty is very important in a relationship, especially in marriage. Even small things should be communicated honestly between partners, unless it’s something truly sensitive that doesn’t necessarily need to be shared. In the case of gambling activities, we should be fully transparent with our partner. After all, no matter what happens, our partner is usually the one who can truly help us if things go wrong


Gambling isn’t really what causes divorce or breaks up families. The real problem is the mindset of the gamblers themselves, who often misunderstand how gambling should actually be done. If people saw gambling as something you only do with extra money after covering all your needs, and not as a way to make money, then things like this wouldn’t happen. Unfortunately, a lot of gamblers today have the wrong mindset and end up ruining their own lives because of it.

Gambling has the capacity to make up a marriage and also break up a family, it all depends on the person getting involved. If the both spouses are responsible enough to maintain family finances and knows how to risk enough, then the possibility of going successful with gambling is there, there are family where the husband as well as the wife is involved in gambling where each of them is aware and nothing wrong with it because they are responsible gamblers.

The opposite criteria are really for those who are not responsible enough to understand each other, gambling will eventually ruin such family apart, break every piece of bond created and scatter the family.

Is that even a question we should be asking, why marrying someone you can't tell all your secret. No marriage should have secrets or that's the starting point of the marriage not lasting. Your spouse should know the things you spend money on so that you both can plan yourself and the future of your children better when you know how much is coming into the family and how much is going out. With gambling causing lost if problems already I won't be surprised if it's also getting into couples divorcing. I can't imagine staying married to someone that couldn't trust me to disclose their gambling activities to me. That'll make me lose trust in them when I find out.

Recently I came across a story of a guy that used up the money that was in the savings account of his wife meant for their wedding, this led to their divorce. When gambling gets to this point where you hide things like this from your spouse it becomes a problem. I don't blame some people if they file for a divorce because gambling addiction is dangerous, especially when the person affected doesn't put in effort to change

Your story got a little bit confused, though.
How did they manage to get divorced of they were not married to being with? Perhaps, meant to say that girl was a fiancee, like you know... Those two were engaged and planning to get married, but the guy blew it with his greed and love for money.

Honestly, that is something I would have done as well, of I had a fiancee who spent all my saving on online casinos, when trust is broken in such a way then it becomes difficult to even picture sharing one's life with someone who keeps things as serious as those away from one's knowledge ...

If the partner is nagger, that also makes the husband to stop telling the truth and continue to hide secrets like his gambling activities. So, we need to be transparent with them and they will also reciprocate.

You're absolutely right, too many problems already to worried with and if someone just tries to divorce their husbands because they're a gambler. I get it that they don't like it but they're doing it because of the impact of gambling to their lives.

For someone to be your spouse or partner there's a level of trust that you must have for that person...you should be able to communicate when you have challenges you are dealing with instead of hiding it, this is actually what breaks marriages apart, secrecy doesn't solve the problem it only makes things worse...instead of hiding your gambling addiction speak up to your spouse about it, that's why the person is your partner

It's related, and I assume this rate is high. Couples have responsibilities in marriage, and these responsibilities also include financial ones. If someone loses the family's income to gambling, the outcome will be divorce. I've also witnessed couples becoming addicted to gambling together. If only one person has a gambling addiction, they should be supported.

Yes, it can be a difficult situation, but couples have supported each other through difficult times, even in the worst circumstances and situations.

If you're a divorcee and also an addicted gambler, then something serious is wrong with you because this two aspects can't allow you to get yourself in order, it has happened to some that they got affected in their marriage with gambling addictions leading to their divorce in marriage, this is because they couldn't afford to manage running them together and having the ability of managing each without leaving one unaffected.

Most definitely, gambling have the capacity to break up marriage or family if the gambler is irresponsible and addicted to gambling, I've seen a situation where an addicted gambler used money meant for his children's school fees to gamble and unfortunately for him he lost the bet and was left with nothing. We should always disclose our gambling habits to our partners from the beginning of our relationship so that they would know what to expect eventually, it is the business of your partner to know about your gambling habits to avoid shocking surprises when you get into trouble, your partner have every right to know from the onset so they would choose to stay strong regardless or quit.

For me, gambling has never been a problem with my partner as she knows what I do. Sure, she’s not happy when I lose, but when I win she’s just as happy since she also gets a share.

I know gambling can sometimes ruin relationships but I don’t see that happening to me because I only treat it as entertainment. Divorce or broken families usually happen when people who don’t earn enough see gambling as their vice. They neglect their partner and their responsibilities, and that’s what destroys the relationship, not gambling itself.

That’s why I believe we can’t blame gambling. The real issue is with people who gamble irresponsibly. If you can’t handle it, then you shouldn’t be gambling in the first place.

Yes, it is best to come clean to your partner in anything you do that can have an impact, financially, emotionally and in major aspect of companionship.

It may look the least of things to discuss but knowing that your partner accepts your habit, can help avoid certain cases of misunderstanding and house conflict.

If the marriage is working well even with one partner gambling, it doesn't call for a divorce. In the case of addiction, when household priorities are not considered before fueling gambling habit then it is fair enough under any course of action.

Divorce is the worst consequence that an addicted gambler has to face. Never get involved in gambling if your partner doesn't support it, and I think it's very important to maintain trust with each other. If you and your partner are both fond of gambling, then the effort to maintain the relationship is even more difficult. monthly expenses will be much larger, many responsibilities will be neglected, one of which is a lack of attention to children.

I've also read a lot of news on social media about divorces caused by gambling addiction, and the numbers are constantly increasing. In my opinion, the government needs to step in to address this by tightening gambling regulations and restricting gambling advertisements. Gambling should be considered entertainment, and should not be taken seriously to the point of causing separation in the household.

Financial troubles are a major reason for why people get into fights and ultimately those fights and problems can lead to divorce. And of course, gambling addiction can easily be the cause of those financial troubles.

So, yes, gambling can definitely be a reason for divorce.

I think if you have a partnership in life with someone, you should consider your own finances more carefully and not gamble without the permission of your life partner.

When it comes to this topic, I feel like trust is built on so many things, but just one misconduct can destroy everything down to ashes. It's always better to let your spouse know your rough edges and let them decide if they'll stay or leave. In a situation where a problem arises as a result of your habits, it can also affect them.
This can be filed as a case of fraud, but things like that can be avoided on an early stage in relationships.
If anyone decides to not tell their spouses about their habits, they shouldn't do anything that will affect/ get them in trouble, even in the future -- it's as simple as that!

The way I see that gambling can destroy a marriage is if one of the two falls into addiction and does not let themselves be helped, and that person is so bad that they go blind, the other option is lies, that a person hides from their partner that they party at the casino, although it is very unlikely that it will be destroyed because of this, I consider that it is not something relevant and easy to solve, but it is silly that a marriage is destroyed by the effects of the casino, knowing that the casino is just for fun.

Yeah, gambling absolutely has the capacity to break up a marriage and or family, I have witness this happen myself, it happened to my direct friend whom we both were working in the company here in my country before we both got married, my friend was a gambling addict which I wasn't aware of, I knew he was into gambling but I never knew he was addicted, I got to find out he was addicted only after he got married, when ever he was out of money to use or spend on gambling, he would start searching his wife's things and take her money and squander it on gambling.

At a point, the girl became fade and she took their only child, a boy and left the marriage, this is was way back 2017 and till date, they are not yet back together as I learnt since I myself later relocated to another city.

And speaking of disclosing our gambling activities to our partners, well, for me, I do not buy the idea but it depends on the type of gambler the man is anyway.

The more reason you are been called husband and wife is to share things in common, shared each other's secrets and perhaps knowing the in and  out of each other especially when it concerns a sensetive issue like gambling. It is very important disclosing your gambling habits to your wife or husband who knows they could be your positive way of getting rid of your gambling addiction.
 


Yes it can, because it can terminate trust in marriage. When you hide your gambling habits from your spouse then may be your spouse later find out by his or her it becomes a major problem that if you not careful it can cause you your marriage. Situations like this has broken so many home today because the family will always be a partaker of the later suffering or financial set back that attached with gambling addiction, so why wouldn't you want your spouse to know about it at the first point but you want her to take part in suffering that she knows nothing about. It's crazy

When one partner is hiding gambling without allow the other partner to know he or she is into gambling, it has scatter many marriages because some like gambling while some don't like gambling and they don't want to associate with gamblers, gambling is not a bad thing but addicted to gambling is what some that have the knowledge of gambling will not accommodate from wife or husband because they know what will happen once the man or woman don't have fund to gamble and he or she has prosperity, the spirit of addicted to him or her will force him or her to start selling properties to recover losses which is the end of that gamblers.

I’ve known quite a few people in my life that have gotten divorced, but I can’t think of a single case where gambling was related. I don’t really know any gamblers, so that is probably the main driver behind this observation. I could see how spending tons of money on entertainment could lead to marital problems.

A family's financial problems can lead to a bad situation like divorce. When a husband falls into a financial crisis, he becomes mentally disturbed and cannot continue to treat his wife normally. A husband's inhuman torture of a wife and constant pressure on her for dowry. In the economic context of our country, divorce and talaq for dowry are increasing at a rapid pace. And gambling is at the root of all this, so a husband should not ruin the good relationship between husband and wife for the time being because of gambling.

Yes, you have made an important point, I agree with your words. It is certainly true that if someone has a gambling habit or gambles, there is no need to hide it, especially from his wife. If you think that if you tell it, you will have a fight or trouble with your wife, then if you accept it, then it will bring disaster, because while gambling they forget and lose control. If they share it with their wives, then their wives will definitely give good advice and advise them so that they do not get addicted to it. Many times, divorce is seen due to the influence of gambling.

If there even is a connection between gambling and divorce rate, then its a very small connection. It more correct to say then that there is a connection between money earned or spend and divorce rate, as everything ends with how people manage their money after all. Or, it can be said, that everything can be lead to divorce and its hard to find connection and divide reasons into categories.

I would be surprised if any family could remain happy if one or both people were addicted to gambling.

Once considered addicted, it means that their life is no longer balanced, they only focus on satisfying their addiction and ignore other things. How can they maintain and keep their family happy when they spend all their time and money satisfying their addiction? It sounds absurd.

I don't have any advice for couples because I'm not a psychologist but in my opinion if one of the two is addicted and can't get back on the right track. Divorce is necessary, for the future of the other person as well as their children.

good, I also read the thread and it seemed like a real load of rubbish to me
I don't think there is a connection, absolutely
There are many people I know who make small bets, nothing big and are happily married or living together

Well gambling nevertheless the gender because tons of people even men and woman play gambling but seems most of the gender ive seen playing gambling are mens we know how does people get addicted with excessive playing of gambling and we know its not only for entertainment but also for their sake to earn reason too it affects their decision making not just in game but also in real life situation why it affects to their relationship.

It's undeniable that a common problem in marriages is financial instability. Some people experience this problem, but they seek a way out by gambling, hoping to win and improve their unstable situation. However, instead of improving their situation, their actions only complicate things due to their persistent addiction.
If you do gamble, discussing it is crucial to avoid escalating problems that could lead to divorce, as gambling can be a potential source of divorce, as has been the case in many cases.

I agree with you. Even if a negative habit persists even though a partner knows about it, there is a chance the partner will become bored and potentially leave. I believe that gambling itself is not wrong, meaning it is all the fault of the individual who gambles badly, or what we might call irresponsible gamblers, because it usually affects the circumstances and situation of their relationship, especially in financial. Therefore, whatever we do, it is best to do it in moderation, not excessively, so we can manage everything under control and avoid significant risks. This applies not only to gambling, but also to anything that allows us to engage in negative habits. So, be wise in our actions and become a responsible person.

If the situation goes worse and they can't handle the pressure brought up by gambling problems then I guess this is what going to happen with relationship which has been affected by heavy addiction.

That's why people should think in advance and make those situation as something they need to fear of. So that they can control their selves towards spending excessive amount on their gambling activities.

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Once gambling addiction creeps in it’s no longer just about money it’s about time energy and focus that should have been for the family but instead gets poured into chasing wins that never come. This makes a spouse feel abandoned even when the gambler is still physically present because their mind is elsewhere always thinking of the next game the next bet. Kids also grow up seeing this chaos and it shapes how they view money responsibility and trust. Some even carry those scars into adulthood repeating the same mistakes they witnessed and that cycle of broken families and hidden struggles keeps going.

In many cases gamblers tell themselves they’ll fix it before anyone finds out but the truth is the more they try to cover it up the deeper the lies get until the relationship has no more space for trust. Secrecy in marriage breeds suspicion and suspicion turns into fights and distance.That’s why some people say it’s better to open up early even if it’s hard because sometimes a partner can become the strongest support system to break free from the habit. But if the gambler waits until everything is damaged beyond repair then the only thing left might be regret and a broken home.

Let's define what partners are first. As far as I know, when you have a partner in life, you shouldn't hide anything from each other. It's unfair if one person is completely open with you,
but you're not fully open with them. However, if you're both open about everything, it won't be difficult to handle unexpected challenges that come your way as partners.

Hiding things can become a root of conflict between a couple because it can seem like you don't trust them. If your partner knows you're gambling,
they can at least remind you when they notice you've reached your limits.

I think that it is true. But the first reason is a lie, gambling is only the second. First of all you lied your partner, after it you lost(mostly) your common money. If you win, your partner can forgive you and allow to continue the game. But if you play and lose it - it can become the first big step to break up a family.
About me - i told my wife that i plan to go betting, it would take lots of time and i would use for it only my money, but will share profit to family. She was sceptic but agreed and gambling didn`t become a problem for us.

It can greatly increase the divorce rate if the gambler is in addiction and does not care about his family at all, he has only one thing in mind and that is to gamble no matter what. Very few women if any would accept such reckless behavior and normally the amount of divorce would only grow by such persons, I know a lot of such persons who had a married life, happily married life and they lost every thing because of addiction to gambling. I was addicted myself but not to the point to not care about my family and thinking about my daughter brought me into stopping massive amounts of money thrown into slot machines.

Yeah that's true, there's a level whereby a gambler addiction would reach, at that point all their income would be for satisfying their addiction, some even go to the extent of selling properties just to gamble, not all spouse would tolerate that, and even though they've been tolerating it for long, at some point they'll get tired and file for a divorce. People who are supposed to be more careful concerning gambling to avoid addiction are those who are married cause the have more better responsibilities to take care of and getting addicted to gambling shouldn't be an agenda since it could destroy their family.

Of course, gambling has the ability to break the marriage/family. The reason for saying this is that when we get addicted to gambling, family can suffer a lot of damage. And economically too much can be damaged. So when we are gambling, it is better not to reveal to everyone. And if a husband expresses it to his wife and if that wife is like him, then there will be no problem. But if for some reason the opposite, then divorce should be normal. Because if a husband does not go to the words of his wife, the world is never happy. That is why we should gambling a lot of thoughts, so that our family and husbands do not have any problems.

Gambling can destroy your family if you gamble excessively, leading to addiction. Some people lose their fortunes due to gambling. This happens frequently in my community. Those who gamble and lose their fortunes end up divorcing their wives, and even having their families throw them out because they can no longer be taught to break free from the gambling cycle.

However, a wife needs a man who can control himself and lead his family. A man must create peace within the family, both spiritually and materially, for the sake of his family's life. If a man cannot do this, the woman will leave him.

Yes, divorces have an absolutely direct relation to gambling addiction. And despite the fact that there is such a broad concept as the experience of an addicted gambler, but still, if a woman sees that her man has lost his job or constantly lies, or now has no money at all (and even asks his relatives for a loan), then she, of course, will divorce him.
And, of course, in such a case, I always feel sorry for the children, who are completely innocent.

There should be no secrets between couples but there could be time for individual pursuits or hobbies and this could include gambling. This doesn't mean that you should keep it a secret. At the very least, you should use your own money when gambling and do not touch the money for your family since it is for your own individual hobby.

Yeah,  gambling contributed to most of the divorce cases that has been happening lately. some people are addicted to gamble to an extent that they don't listen to what thier wife is telling them. And you know when one is addicted to gamble they   find it hard to listen to people's advice not even thier partner except they have decided to stop gambling that's when they can listen to people's advice and you know not every woman that can take such, once they ask you to quit from gambling for like 3 to 4 times and you refused to listen they will just do something you never thought nor imagine. And yeah, majority of this addicted gamblers lose thier partner just because of this  reason.

Of course, especially if for example something that is hidden is gambling or other activities that also involve money and risk, honestly in my place there are many divorces due to experiencing problems due to gambling and it is true that when a gambler has become an aggressive or uncontrolled gambler then they will definitely experience financial problems, so from most cases especially those that occur in my place a woman asks for a divorce from her husband because her husband is in debt due to the gambling he did so that he can no longer meet the daily needs of his family, and that is the reason why I have the intention to stop completely before I get married, honestly I am afraid that my family relationship will be destroyed because of this activity.

within the setting of marriage gambling creates serious conflict mostly if the person gambling is an addict.most families don't support gambling,I will advice you talk to your partner/spouse very well as a gambler before you go into marriage,the person finding out after marriage can also end it because a spouse who often try to intervene and stop his partner from gambling,such efforts can lead to clashes of ideology and constant argument.
Trust me,as the addiction deepens,trust erodes, communication breakdown too and the marriage suffers slot, mostly if you have started having kids. Divorce is still certain in most cases when the gambler (addict) places financial pressure on their partner demanding and requesting for money to continue gambling,when it becomes unbearable separation, anxiety and divorce becomes the common outcome.

From data Gambling and Divorce: Statistics and Information (https://bircheshealth.com/resources/gambling-divorce), that I have read and the worst and rising divorce results are globally due to economy and gambling.
Example:

For this reason, it is no longer a secret that we can see in the trial of the largest and general divorce case either the plaintiff or sued the biggest factor in gambling, it does not only happen in my country, global.

In my area for 2024 the divorce case of gambling factor of more than 2,923 cases this highest number compared to 2023 only 372 cases, I did not want to say whether it was a clear coincidence that all cases were caused by gambling.

If a woman doesn't know that her husband is gambling, then it's already a marriage full of lies. It means she doesn't know her husband and doesn't know what he's doing.
A married friend of mine had to sell his luxury car because of gambling. When he sold the car, his wife found out he was gambling, and now they constantly fight.

Nothing would go wrong if a gamer opens up to the spouse about their gambling habit. Relationships should be made transparent. One party only can get upset if matters are left untold to them, and they get to find out when it gets really tough or bad. Most people whose spouses file for divorce where compulsive and also hiding the truth. Nothing can be made away from a close friend like a spouse without them finding out. Gamers who open up at first are one step ahead of problem gambling because the lover will be an indirect therapist, which would help in discovering any kind of emotional development that's not acceptable.

Usually, many things are kept secret during a wedding, especially when a gambler marries, they keep the gambling secret and get married. When a wife finds out about her husband's secrets after marriage, there is nothing she can do, but there are some women who cannot accept the matter, which can lead to incidents like divorce. I had a friend who, after he got married, found out that his wife was drinking alcohol and after a while, she started living separately from him. At some point, when the friend stopped drinking alcohol, his wife started living with him again.

A husband that hides his gambling activities from his wife might as well be cheating and he's hiding it since he's good at hiding something. There's no way a gambler is suppose to be with you and you'll not noticed some signs that they're gambling therefore if they can successfully do that then you should know that there are other things that they're hiding. As a husband, your wife should know things like you being a gambler because it'll be better that way than her finding out later and it becomes a problem. But the wife too should be considerate because maybe the husband was ashamed of telling the wife that he has gambling issues.

One should not assume that divorce will occur solely because of gambling, especially in the case of professional gamblers who participate in gambling with self-control. Of course, they share their gambling with their wives and participate in gambling with their wives' permission. In many cases, their wives encourage them. A conscious professional gambler would never imagine divorcing his wife because of his gambling. They value relationships more than gambling and value their wives highly. By sharing small things with their wives, they try to understand each other even during upset times and keep the relationship strong.

I do agree with you, it is very bad for partners to be hiding things from each other especially gambling. In marriage there should always be mutual trust from both parties, a situation were by there is an issue of trust them the marriage may never work because once one partner start keeping secrets it will leads to doubt and suspicions. However, I believe the reason why most people do hide things like gambling from there paterns is as a result of fear and shame which I believe a little communication will definitely be of help. Talking to our partner in a language in which they will understand will save one the stress of wanting to keep a secret that will end up becoming a problem that may ruin ones marriage.  if a good reason is given to ones partner and being able to convince ones partner as regards gambling will be of great help than keeping it as a secret.

I agree, we shouldn't touch our couple's fund but if we've got some spare money. Then that's all what we're going to use. Some couples are supportive to each others' hobby and that's why even if they spend some quite large amount of money, it's fine. But don't abuse it because it could lead to addiction and misunderstanding for both partners. So, sometimes it's good to just talk about it and let both of you see your points whether you agree to it or not. As long as there's an agreement and understanding, it's going to make the relationship last even gambling is there.

For some reason, that is a very bad way to start up a family, at least your spouse should be aware of all the weak points that you need to work on so that their can help you to work on them, Instead of acting as if you are ok whereas you have something to hide from your partner who surpose to be the closest person to you

Keeping secrets can ruin a marriage in the long run, most especially if it’s all about finances that is one of those important factors to make a married life works. So if one is addicted with gambling, he shouldn’t deal with it alone, what’s the purpose of having a spouse anyway. You don’t make a problem solved alone, but you have a partner to help you with.

I mean, the fact that people are considering the question of disclosing or not disclosing their gambling habits makes it seem a bit of an issue.

I think more than gambling it is the behavior or the type of person that gets in trouble gambling the ones that end up more in divorce, but not gambling per se, as in, maybe there would have been an alcoholic if they were not a gambler, etc.

It is basically the way that people behave, not gambling per se.

Indeed, lying in a relationship, especially a marriage, can be complicated. In fact, divorce isn't limited to addiction; there are also divorces that occur outside of addiction. The common thread is the deception, whether by one or both partners. It's crucial to be open with your partner, as even the smallest lie tends to escalate.
Perhaps it's best to tell them about your gambling habit and find a solution.

Such things happen naturally when a person starts gambling in a new situation, no one can understand it at first. When they lose all their money and see bad aspects in their behavior, that is when they understand that the person is addicted to gambling. There are many people around us who are addicted to gambling but their families are not able to understand it till now. Only when they lose all their money and sell their assets, that is when they will understand that they are addicted to gambling.

But here we are talking about gambling, so we can only assume that it's one factor that lead to the dissolution of marriage. Perhaps that old and traditional way that you will tell everything to your wife prior to marriage. Or even when your time that both of you are sharing the same home and you are the provider, you should at least be honest that you are gambling and maybe she will understand and you can sit down together to discussed.

It might be interesting if we really have this kind of situation here? Maybe a member has went to this experience? Nevertheless, it's none of our business, but but for me personally, I don't have that issue as he and my wife are both recreational gamblers.

Yes, but the point is that it could happen with anything that destroys the family or the family unit.
Even alcohol, or smoking, or drugs. The point is that addiction to anything destroys everything.
If you're playing normally for fun and a chat at the bar, i don't think it'll cause any problems. My partner and i had an experience.

On the other hand, has this woman ever asked where husband spends money on? Or has she ever told him that it bothers her how he spends money? I did not tell my wife that I went for lunch with colleagues and we ate so much tasty food, that I had to tell her I wasnt hungry when she asked me about dinner. Does it makes me a liar? Nevertheless, I wont agree that gambling has any connection to divorce rate. If second half never raise any interest to what other half is doing and spending money on, there is no right to blame only one person if situation is getting to divorce.

Addiction is a very serious issues that if not handled in a reasonable manner could lead to too many things affecting the person involved and this could be their individual lives and maybe their marital lives a the case maybe. this isn't limited to gambling alone only that the context in which we are discussing it at this point is with gambling and so it becomes mostly that we wan to relate it with gambling but we know that even with things such as drinking and smoking can lead to hurts and harm on the individual and their families.

Even when playing for fun at any place with your partner, it is very important that you put into consideration the fact that you should avoid it getting to the point of addiction because even with your partner, you both could get addicted combinedly as a couple and that is even worse off.

Of course, your spouse should be aware that you are a gambler and this should be done in the beginning of the courtship before getting married. So that, if she is not cool with it, you can find decide to choose between her or gambling. At least, things hasn't been complicated at that time. Unlike, we you have already gotten married before she discovered by herself. Because you get addicted, she will be the one to suffer for it.

OP, I have witnessed many family cases which involves gambling and divorce in my country. A man hid his gambling lifestyle from his wife for quite a long time and when she discovered it, she divorced him on grounds of gambling addiction and keeping it a secret from her which she termed "breach of trust" and she couldn't continue anymore because she feels he might be hiding more things from her which she can not be able to tolerate for keeping it a secret from her.

Situations as this is very sensitive that one would need to handle amicably. There is no crime in letting your spouse know about some things you do as she's part of you. This would also give her a sense of belonging in the home as she also takes part in decision making in the home.

Most times it's not about the gambling that makes wives divorce their husbands but rather keeping it a secret from them for such a long time running into years without their knowledge is what triggers the divorce because at that moment, they will not be able to trust you anymore for that act and they will push for divorce. Some women are like that, once they make their decision to divorce, it is final.

You know that this issue can be or could have been avoided from the beginning if the husband or the wife which ever of them that is a gambler had spoken up at the  to tell their self the truth that they were gamblers. For example, during courtship, if the man is a gambler or if the woman is a gambler, they don't need to hide it so that if they are both aware of the situation, they can know how to follow it so that it doesn't cause a problematic addiction that will lead to divorce in the future.

The main problem is not hiding gambling from your partner, but because the money that should be used for primary needs is spent on gambling. The increasing number of divorce cases is due to the inability of gamblers to control their emotions, ultimately they lose control and become irresponsible gamblers.
As long as you are able to provide for your wife and children in all aspects, your relationship will remain safe, here it is clear that the main factor is the lack of money in the family.

As much as i know, gambling addiction don't only affect a single person, it affects both families, friends, relatives and those around.

An addicted gambler with consistent loses is an angry person, this set of gamblers are always in a bad mood which will cause chaos in the family.

An addicted gambler will not have enough to care for his family well being, even with the little he keeps as upkeep for the household will not meet the needs of the family, if the other spouse can't fix the addiction problem, the only option will be saving ones mental health.

When you have a partner, you should be open with them. Whatever the problem is, you should discuss it with them. But this situation can be difficult because you may not fully trust your partner. However, if you are husband and wife, there should be no big secrets between you.

I think there is a strong correlation between gambling and divorce. Even if you gamble responsibly, you should be open with your wife. Gambling carries significant risks that can greatly impact your life, your wife's life, and your family. Those who are unable to control themselves and squander their assets will face many problems in their family. Ultimately, because they cannot find common ground, men and women will tend to separate.

I think those partners who are gamblers are having hard time to explain on how things happened. On how they became addicted and how they can escape addiction, and that's why if they're going to tell it to their spouse or partners, they'll be criticized by them and that's what they are trying to avoid. But you're right that they shouldn't hide it and dealing with it alone is just making themselves have a hard time about it.

That is true, but we are talking about gambling, where the context of someone who is addicted to gambling after having a family will be a different story. Most people will experience divorce when their gambling affects the way they manage money and care for their family.

We may encounter incidents like this more than once in our neighborhood or area, where someone who is addicted to gambling will lose their family.

This may be triggered by several things:
-Taking his wife's money/cheating on his wife and using the money for gambling.
-Relying on his wife's money, being lazy to work, and preferring to gamble.
-Committing domestic violence, We know that an addict will be more emotional, especially if he asks for money and doesn't get it, etc.

Addiction is one of those things that creeps in slowly and before you know it you are caught up in something that takes control over your decisions it doesn’t just affect the individual but it spreads out to family friends and even work life it drains finances damages trust and makes people lose sight of what really matters. Many people think they can handle it because it starts small maybe a few games or a few drinks but when there is no control it builds into a habit that is very hard to stop once it reaches that point it feels like the person is no longer choosing for themselves but being driven by the addiction itself. The worst part is how it blinds people to reality they ignore the warning signs keep making excuses and tell themselves they will quit tomorrow but tomorrow never comes until something major happens like losing money losing a partner or facing serious health problems that is usually when people realize how deep they are in. To stay safe it is important to build discipline early always know your limits and never let any habit take the space of your priorities life is bigger than these temporary pleasures and no short term thrill is worth losing long term peace and happiness.

Gambling does have a connection with divorce.Oftentimes, many gamblers hide their gambling activities from their spouse.Meanwhile,studies show that couples where one partner has a gambling problem, they're more likely to separate or divorce.In essence,gambling,especially compulsive often damages finances and trust in a marriage.

This is why both need to open with each other before getting married and better to create prenuptial agreement with a rule if either one fall to gambling, the gambler should give more money to it's partner. We know human can change, that's why even though before getting married both aren't gamblers, they could be a gambler in the future.

Only for spouse who don't want to see their partner become a gambler, for me it's fine as long as the partner can fulfill and complete their obligation.

Normally people do have challenges regarding living together as couples in marriage, but when things like this occurs, it all depends on how it was being handled, if a gambler is not trusted form how he lives his kind of gamblers lifestyle, then if they have some issues that has to do with gambling, then it goes a long way to get resolved depending on the kind of partner one has, some may take things likely with us while on the other end, some will not take it easy on each other when they find their partner being offensive, but the majority of these challenges comes from the gambler.

It makes sense. It's not really a matter of being open with your partner about your gambling the biggest issue in divorce cases is when someone gambles but can't meet their partner's basic needs. Many people gamble even though their partners know about it, but divorce still occurs, primarily due to financial reasons. Likewise, when someone hides their gambling from their partner but maintains financial stability, divorce doesn't occur.

This again depends on the individual gambler. When you gamble excessively or irresponsibly, divorce is highly likely. It's not just about gambling trading or drinking alcohol when household needs aren't being met can also lead to divorce. Therefore whatever you do there must be calculations and responsibility for household finances so that the household remains harmonious.

After all, it becomes too challenging to live with an addicted individual. It has a direct impact over the general health of the family and the relationship, so it's really not possible to blame someone for wishing to not continue married with an addicted. It's too stressing and frustrating. And when there are children involved, they suffer even more, because they are in a development stage of life, where every experiences will impact over their personality and behavior during adulthood.

If they cannot fix that problem and don't talk about it. The relationship is at risk and likely to get separated. But even if the other one is a gambler, they can have a setup wherein the gambler can continue to do it but with limit. Everything can be done in talks if they have to do it. For as long as they understand each other and there's a limit to how much one can gamble to, it should work fine.

Divorce in gambling is not just caused by addiction because if an addicted gambler were just addicted to gambling but it didn't affect them financially, it wouldn't be a problem for their spouse. However, the divorce happens because the addiction is affecting the marriage financially. Divorce doesn't just happen; it is due to certain lifestyles that may be affecting the other partner.

One thing about addiction is that when one is addicted, it will always affect the people around them, especially in marriage when two people have become one. In marriage, when one is going contrary to or living a certain lifestyle, it makes the marriage unbearable.

Yeah I agree, proper communication might prevent them to seperate as long as there's mutual understanding between them, gambling may treat as part of social activities or something that can be enjoyed if treated correctly, though similar to what the post above mentioned it can be a reason of divorced if there's no open communication and both financial and mental aspects are already been compromised.

Most time gambling can affect one relationship, but it depends on how the gambler approach gambling and the impact of gambling in such folk lives . Gambling can lead to slot of things especially when one is not responsible, like short temperament due to losses , reckless spending , and some other negative stuff . But if one can actually keep to his budget and gambling only when necessary not frequently then be able to secure a healthy relationship while being into gambling

There are dozens, if not hundreds of divorce cases in my area stemming from gambling addiction. It's ironic, but that's the reality when gamblers lose control of their emotions due to severe addiction and loss of emotional control. I don't know the exact number of divorces due to gambling this year in my area, but the last time I read the media, the number reached over 300 cases throughout 2025.

Gambling is strictly prohibited in my country, but millions of people gamble every day making it a potential business opportunity for some. Gamblers gamble in secret, some in public as if it were legal, but I can clearly see that regulations prohibit it. The addiction exacerbated by economic hardship further exacerbates family problems, especially as wives demand various things. This is the result of a loss of control and excessive emotions that can ruin everything.

As I've said before, it's best to tell them about our gambling habits and find a solution, or perhaps a better solution. The key is to ensure that gambling doesn't lead to serious problems that could lead to divorce. There have been many cases of this happening, and it's a good lesson to learn from them. Even if we're good at controlling ourselves, honesty with our partners is essential.

When you apply common sense to your gambling without listening to other gamblers that loss their marriage toward gambling issues, you will not lose your relationship or marriage because of gambling, because the common sense will not make you to do what will make your wife misbehave. Make sure there are enough food items and money in the house, because those are some of the things that will not make woman to get angry with her husband even though she knew her husband is a gambler because he is providing for the family to play his responsibility as the man of the house. Once you can hodl up to your budget in gambling without change you change your mind, you will not do what will make you to have issue or crisis in your marriage.

When I was a child, I didn’t know that in fact, many loving women are ready to follow their man almost to the end and the only thing that can stop them is when he stops providing for the family, having a small child.

I think this is the reason why many women start to worry about addicted gamblers, and also money for them, even from their friends. But if there is a baby in the family, then the woman switches priorities to him.

That's true, when a partner is even aware of it in the early time, they could be there to help the person when the situation of addiction occurs, but the partner is not even aware that their man is a gambling and then it gets to a point of addiction, it is going to make some women want to leave at that point because they can't bear it, only some that will agree to stay and fight for the problem to be solved.

Gambling that can affect a relationship is gambling that is done excessively, for example, a head of a family has the responsibility to provide for his family, but when the head of the family earns income, he prioritizes gambling. Although the goal is to gain more profit to be able to meet needs more freely, the determination in gambling, this profit is not guaranteed to be obtained, losing could make the head of the family lose all his income. On the other hand, as you said, if you can control everything well, being responsible for the family and prioritizing it is good, by trying to do things that are enjoyed without causing problems that can impact family relationships.

Loving women do not want to leave their husbands easily and even stay with their husbands until death if their husband values them enough. Many times, women stay with their husbands despite having a gambling husband because if they have small children in their family, women stay with them for the sake of those children. In that case, women give more importance to their husband's family and children. I have seen many abused women who do not divorce their husbands, but instead live a very difficult life with their gambling husbands and raise their children.

I think that the same situation would be if the man would be a fisherman, with big expenses. But if he need just one fishing rod and goes fishing few times early morning - no one woman would worry about it.
The first problem is a lie, the second problem is money which man spend as he want.
I told before - i got "permission" for gambling when i said my wife that i would spent only my own money, that i planned to spend for my hobbies. I don`t know what was more important for her, but the result - i hadn`t problems in the family.

Some husbands are honest and transparent with their wives, while others aren't because they're afraid of what their spouses might find out. But it's always better to be open
with your partner; they will surely understand you if you're open about everything.

I agree with something I once read: if your partner knows about your gambling habit, they can be a guide to help you avoid a full-blown addiction in the end.

Although not exactly the same story with what is being discussed here but gambling have a lot to do with divorce and have lead to divorce that I know of. Remember that gambling involves money which is vital to running a family, if the man is gambling and it is affecting him in delivering on his duties as the man of the house, it will lead to problems which can eventually lead to divorce. There are instances in which a man concealing his gambling activities can even lead to divorce when the wife, who vowed never to marry a gambler, finds out. This is what I have experienced and till date the marriage ended.

That is why it is important to have a consistent communication with the partners. They will understand why people gamble and they will see that you as a gambler has been consistent and responsible. You know your limitations and you're not the others that are irresponsible. That's the reason why it's best to talk with it as usual and if there is some misunderstanding that keeps on happening, always start from the beginning and have it on the seat and talk about it. There is always a solution when the partners are consistent with each other and keeps on communicating, not that they're going sulk just because they are not given the favor. Not a single good thing will happen if that's how both reacts.

Of course gambling has the power to break up a marriage or family. However, with some good advice and intelligence, everything can be saved. For example, if we share our gambling habits with our family and husband and wife, then it is certainly possible to gamble while maintaining a good relationship. For example, I have shared my gambling with my family and my wife. My family knows about my gambling and everyone knows that I am only participating in sports betting for entertainment. In this case, I am 100% sure that there will never be any trouble with my wife. Moreover, there will be no talk about it in my family because everyone knows that I am using gambling for entertainment and participating with a very small amount of money.

If you know the essence of marriage, you will never have the idea of hiding your gambling activities and addiction. That’s an insult to your partner, while she made it all transparent for you, but you chose to be secretive on her because you know gambling addiction will never do good for your marriage.

Know your place as a husband/spouse, you’re supposed to be building the foundation of your family to make it strong, but what you did is the opposite, and that would lead into a divorce that any couple or family does not wish to experience. Get rid of secrets, but chose transparency and family over the greed for money.

Marriages fall apart due to finances or lack there of. Now dont quote me but I want to say that somewhere I read that 50% marriages fail on the first 7 years due to financial stress. Now im sure a good portion of that are people with gambling problems. It 100% has the capacity to break up a marriage or family if its a big enough issue.

Gambling and other addictive process can lead to marital disharmony. If the one who is gambling does not control their habits to minimal limits the partner will feel left out and not given attention or find money being spent on gambling rather than needs or even being asked for money.

Indeed from the side of the partner this is a bad thing and hence these problems.

Some spouses will just accept it and adjust with their spouses habits. But money problems cant be solved. Hence I dont blame anybody for such divorces, rather the burden is on the gambler to adjust.

In every instance there will be a negative impact on gambling addicts. If you are a rich gambler then the impact may be less. Most gamblers are addicted to gambling and it immediately spreads to the family. Those poor gamblers want to back up the family through gambling because they are weak in income.

Not all family members will agree with the advice you have given. Those conservative families who dislike gambling are because they have seen many addicted gamblers lose their wealth. In a family, working women or housewives are more calculating than you compared to men. They mostly try to refrain from risky activities that waste money or have a high chance of losing.

I think gambling should be a personal matter gambling in moderation and continue gambling so that you can continue to have fun and meet the daily needs of the family without any negative consequences.

I completely agree with your assumption that these items shouldn't be used as the primary means of supporting a family or as a primary source of income. There's certainly some enjoyment involved, but as you said, these games can quickly impoverish someone if they have limited capital and aren't skilled.

Enjoyment, of course, varies and can come from various sources, but in this case, it should be personal, and only we can experience the rewards, whether we win or lose. In my opinion, fulfill your primary needs first, and then, if you're more likely to enjoy yourself responsibly.

You're right. If we talk about it from the start, we might be able to negotiate or discuss it properly to find a solution. But once we're already caught with an addiction, it's highly unlikely our partner will accept it. A spontaneous decision is more likely, with a greater chance of leaving. Therefore, being open is one of the behaviors that can help a relationship survive; hiding secrets only fuels the fire.

Maintaining transparency in your relationship is essential, especially when it comes to financial decisions. Sharing your choices with your partner, including regarding betting, helps build trust and avoid conflict. Therefore, it's crucial to know how to balance your finances with the entertainment of betting, ensuring that leisure time doesn't compromise your relationship's stability.

I think gambling can, and maybe should, be done socially...

I say this because I reckon there are more chances to become addicted if there is no one around you that you know.

If someone is isolated, then it's easier to just continue in negative behaviors, as there's no feedback.

even those who got lucky in lottery found a way to invest their money or at least to sustain it and that is one smart way to take advantage of gambling wins but not depending on it too much because they know that gambling is not sustainable source of income
this applies to everywhere not just gambling we should put primary needs first to ensure our survival and safety before luxuries

That's very correct, I wonder why some people likes to hide such kind of lifestyle from their partner, whether they are too ashamed to talk about it or they are afraid not to lose their partner but what ever reason they have, I think the best decision will be to talk about it so that the problem doesn't get out of hands when the secret is finally let out. I don't see any reason why I should hid my choic of gambling from my partner.

I agree with that. We cannot do everything solo after we get married or we have a life partner that we want to spend the rest of our lives with. They should know everything to keep the trust healthy. Even the darkest gambling habit that we have, they must know because they will also be affected by our decisions.

I have always told my wife about my winnings, although I keep to myself the losses because I don't really spend much that would affect our budget. Up until now, I still do the same, and we have never had a fight when it comes to money.

You may know everything about your partner, but over time people change, and sometimes in a relationship they behave differently when unpleasant situations occur. For example, if one of them loses a lot of money for some reason, they might want to hide it. I agree that this can harm the relationship, but on the other hand, it might be done to protect from stress, and if they can fix it, it won’t affect the family budget in any way. I believe that a family should have open relationships, but we know that in life things can turn out differently.

It seems to me that if an addicted gambler cannot be motivated to quit gambling by the fact that he is about to lose his family, then big questions arise about his perception of the world and moral values.
Because there is no greater value in the world than the well-being of children and their calm and confident future, which, of course, should be provided by their parents, in particular their father, who, instead of losing money, should earn it.

If you managed to fill your responsibilities then use only spare amount of money will allow you to enjoy and be entertained, though if you exceed there's a chance that you may messed up with your finances, and most of the time that's a reason where relationship also messed up, to the point that it can be the reason of getting divorce.

Best to balance your time and your money and make sure not to treat gambling as source of income, it's risky and can ruined a life.

When you say gambling and divorce are connected,  then we are simply saying that  the common  factor here is money 💰,  and for anybody married, you know that you need money to keep the relationship going for all the basic needs to sorted, if this is missing it also means the wife isn't being taken care of and with time if gambling is involved and no profits made..that simply means the basic necessities aren't met and  the love won't be just there...

The situation can be like this many times, we may not be able to understand this issue well from the stage we are in, but those who have faced this situation know that these things can happen due to gambling. Suppose a person got married and had a child in his family, everything was fine until then, but then that person got involved in gambling and gradually he became addicted to gambling. After that, he did not fulfill his family responsibilities as before, due to which that person's family faced many problems financially. When the wife tries to convince the addicted gambler in many ways that you should come out of this addiction or take responsibility for your family, when the gambler and his wife argue about this issue, only then can the two decide to divorce due to the unrest in the family.

I think a gambler should not be so addicted to gambling that the addiction can completely ruin his family life.
First we have to be responsible, then we have to move forward with our gambling, only then can we keep everything in order and continue gambling.

Theoretically, this is a nice approach, but is this what happen in real life!? I don't think so. It's always a debate on whose wrong and whose right. The gambler partner argue that this is his right to chose the way he prefer to entertain as long he fulfill all his missions as a family member. And the other partner also argue that this is a risky practice that can develop to be a pathological habit even he practice it with moderation. Sometimes it reaches an end even before without the family life get harmed.

Addicting is the most dreadful part of gambling, and the reason mots people hate gambling, if your friend or relatives peradventure fall into addiction then you'll understand how difficult  it to have an addicted gambler around because of all their thoughts are chanelled to how they can play and won huge. But the worse part is they never admit that they are doing the wrong thing and that Is why they keep doing it, even when you advise them to stop, it seem they've found something very unique unknown to them that it's just a trap

That's true, every gambler should set their priorities well, so that gambling doesn't destroy their household. I imagine if that happened, the children would be the most disadvantaged. So, be wise in managing your gambling budget, don't prioritize personal ego to enjoy entertainment while neglecting more important obligations.

If your gambling is under strict control and you’re not gambling aimlessly, there is no need to tell anyone about your gambling habits, not even your spouse. I feel gambling is like a personal thing to you that you don’t need to tell everyone that you’re into it.

In a case where your spouse will get involved should be when you’re not gambling with a proper risk management, spending your money without control and has started affecting your finances and also causing you emotional problems. You can confide in your spouse and just maybe they could help relieve you of the addiction.

Your partner being so addicted to gambling can lead to divorce if you can’t afford to manage him like that, especially when he can’t provide as he should to the household and his addiction and spending on gambling keeps increasing and doesn’t like who will change.

Ideally, that is how it should be, but sometimes the treatment and expectations we want do not quite work out as originally intended, especially in the context of gambling. We always hope to be able to set reasonable limits on gambling, but in the end, what happens is sometimes beyond our expectations, which can make the situation difficult.

We know that if the ideal conditions for gambling were as you described, there would certainly be no gambling addicts because we would all be aware of what we should do. However, the opposite is true today, with many people still struggling with gambling issues, indicating that the ideal conditions for gambling in moderation and knowing our limits do not align with our expectations.

If you're going to go into lifetime partnership with a spouse, then it's ideal to share lifestyle habits with them such that if these are habits that you'd need help and support breaking out of, then they can help. Otherwise you'd just be shooting yourself in the foot by hiding details like that. Even though the habit haven't become a net-negative affair, it's still a wise call to let them know because marriages should be about full transparency.

Involving others in a problem may not be entirely justified - but sometimes the advice of others can change the situation for the better. In cases where the effects of gambling can lead to separation from a partner - some people divorce due to aggressive behavior and other unpleasant behaviors, advice from those closest to them can help improve the situation. I think it depends on how a person deals with problems - social environment can sometimes help and sometimes it can be the beginning of a person's downfall.

A lot of relationships not just marriage end up being broken because of money. It’s the greed and selfishness and our tendencies to keep secrets that put us all in trouble. We all have financial problems and if you do not prioritize your family first before all then you guys will surely have a problem.

I would say that it's all depends on the type of partner you have, some partners do not just like money but love it, even much more than they love their partner, there are partners that they only time they are Everly in peace with their partner is only when the partner have alot of money to give them, but as soon as the partner goes broke for some reason, they both will start having series of misunderstandings and fighting.

I would also say that gambling has nothing to do with divorce on a general level because, I have seen a several men who live with their wives and kids respectively speaking, and this men are serious gamblers, but yet, they have lived and managed their family for tens of years now and still counting.
Meanwhile, I have also seen a fresh couple who just wedded getting divorced over minor issues.
Divorce is always something personal, it all depends on the type of partner one has like i initially said, most marriages still last till the man or woman dies even with the man or woman or both gambling.

Many people view gambling as a bad activity because many people misunderstand gambling, becoming addicted and experiencing significant negative consequences. However, this is ultimately due to their own fault for misbehaving while gambling. However, when gambling is done with proper limits and discipline, it won't lead to problems like recurring addiction.

Addicted individuals tend not to easily recognize that their actions are wrong, and they are likely to continue doing what they desire, which is none other than gambling for the chance of winning big.