gambling and divorce

[Miles2006]

Hiding such from your spouse will only end in regrets, I wonder why some gamblers decide to hide their gambling lifestyle from their spouse. Probably due to fear of losing the person, some people don’t like gambling activity and when they find out their partner engage in gambling activity mostly to the point of becoming an addict they get disappointed. We’ve seen different stories how gambling activity destroys home, even during the process of getting married they can decide to call off the wedding maybe as a result of using the money meant for marriage preparation to gamble and end up with lose. This is not a new thing, gambling and divorce are connected although if the partner knows and agree to stay there’s absolutely no problem reasons why you should not keep such secret besides gambling is not bad instead gambling abuse is considered wrong.

[Bright0515]

is there a connection between gambling and divorce rate?

Research from the National Gambling Impact Study Commission and the Gambling Impact and Behavior Study indicates that divorce rates for those dealing with gambling issues are estimated to be around 40% for problem gamblers and approximately 54% for pathological gamblers.

i think the moment we hide our gambling habits from our partners that is the moment we will get in trouble because that is when trust crumbles and when you get in trouble in gambling and have to tell your partner you will be surprising them

not to mention some people also spend money from money that both the partners contributed in

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

There is a reason why it's called pattern, and during. If you gamble and you are also married you must let your partner know and your gambling habits so that they can help you when you are over reacting on gambling. From the source guy provided,I beging to think that these is the reason why many people say bad about gamble. If some people know that you are a gambler they abuse you at your back because they think all gamblers are the same.Only a gambler that is not responsible that will not tell his/her partner that they gamble , there is a reason why it is called partner and there is a reason why it's called gamble. It's risky that why they called it gamble.

[Oasisman]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

When you get married, your business is your spouse's business as well. In case you're not fully aware of what marriage is, it is a bond between two people who love each other, as they become one. That means, you should not keep any secrets nor cheat. That's the best recipe for a healthy marriage.
Now, let's head back to your concern. I would say, yes, gambling will have an impact on your marriage when it becomes an excessive behaviour. Disclosing your gambling habits to your wife may save you from having a broken family.

[qwertyup23]

I do believe that there is an association between divorce and gambling given the effects of such.

We all know that gambling is highly addictive to the point that you would choose to prioritize this over anything else. Given the data and statistics you provided OP, there is indeed an association between the two (2) circumstances.

I agree that a gambler should tell their partner about their gambling, especially if they are married. The reason is clear, because gambling can truly destroy family relationships. While telling your partner won't solve the problem, it will at least allow them to brainstorm solutions.

Honestly, in my area, there are several couples who ultimately divorced because the husband's gambling addiction caused them financial problems and ultimately separated. In fact, it's quite common here.
This discussion also reminds me that, whether I like it or not, I must stop gambling completely before I get married. Although I have a manageable approach, we never know when I might experience financial problems due to gambling.

Not only with regard to gambling but to everything.

The moment when a man marries a woman, it becomes a permanent union where the two will become one in terms of some aspects. The moment you hide something from your partner, the foundation of the family will start to crumble, thereby destroying the sanctity of marriage where trust is the essential factor.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

is there a connection between gambling and divorce rate?

I can say to an extent that those that have martial issues are coming from gambling addicts, not because they are gamblers, but being an addict makes them unqualified for having things done in the right manner and such a gambler could also lack the ability of managing his marriage or relationship properly, as a result, they ended being into divorce because the gamblers is the major reason leading to this, being indiscipline and lack focus on the right way of managing their marriage.

[Frankolala]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

If you know that gambling isn't something bad, why will you hide it from your partner. It means that you are not an open-minded person. In marriage nothing should be hidden. My partner knows that I gamble, and she only laugh at me when I lose my bet because she will always tell me that, the club I am betting on will lose the game. Most times, it plays out like that. If your spouse does not want you to gamble, you can give up to keep the marriage.

[Su-asa]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

If you know that gambling isn't something bad, why will you hide it from your partner. It means that you are not an open-minded person. In marriage nothing should be hidden. My partner knows that I gamble, and she only laugh at me when I lose my bet because she will always tell me that, the club I am betting on will lose the game. Most times, it plays out like that. If your spouse does not want you to gamble, you can give up to keep the marriage.

Someone who's hiding something from his partner have a reason for doing that, maybe his partner doesn't like him gambling and he's desperate to gamble most of the times. But the truth of it all is that keeping secrets with your fiancee will turn into a disaster in the future. If they don't like it you just have to figure out another thing to do which they will like. When it comes to gamble the bother parties should agree on how to do it because if their children future. But it's obvious that many gamblers don't consider their children future before they make most decisions.

[rachael9385]

Marriage is a union of two different individuals, hence two become one which means whatever one is currently into, the other person should also be rightly informed. Now, if one is gambling and is deeply falling into addiction, the spouse should also be aware of it, not only to help him with his finances, but most especially to give him advices that would make him resolve his gambling problems.

Otherwise, if the other person chose to hide his gambling activities, and now it turns losing a huge amount from their joined savings, that would be a very big problem. Once the couple have not resort into finding the best solution, that’s where divorce enters and ruin their marriage.

Not everyone is comfortable with opening up to their spouse about an addiction especially if its the man that's in that situation. Some men would feel like it's a let down to them that's why they hide it from their partner because a man is supposed to be a provider and a protector those are his sole responsibilities. Being addicted to gambling would not allow his family see him as such but it's still advisable not to hide this issue

[Pandorak]

is there a connection between gambling and divorce rate?

Research from the National Gambling Impact Study Commission and the Gambling Impact and Behavior Study indicates that divorce rates for those dealing with gambling issues are estimated to be around 40% for problem gamblers and approximately 54% for pathological gamblers.

Basically, gambling can become a big problem when a person is married but unable to be a responsible gambler. I observed from my friend's case study that his main mistake was not being able to allocate a budget for his family life and gambling. He combined the two, and it was not uncommon for him to lose money gambling and use up his gambling budget. Instead of stopping, he would gamble away money meant for his family's needs, we can guess how that ended. This made his partner so tired that she decided to divorce him. Honestly, we are free to gamble, there are no rules prohibiting it even after marriage. However, we must know the limits of our gambling budget, when that money is gone, it’s better to stop and find other forms of entertainment.

[virasog]

If your spouse does not want you to gamble, you can give up to keep the marriage.

Well, that's interesting. If the spouse does not want you to indulge in gambling then it becomes a very difficult situation. It is not easy to give up on marriage only because of this. Also, it is almost impossible to give up on gambling if one is a habitual gambler. So what situation is left in this case 

One option is to talk with the wife and try to convince her, but if she still doesn't agree, then what? This leads to only one option and that is the most easiest one too, do gambling while keeping it hidden from your spouse.

[fredericktaylor]

is there a connection between gambling and divorce rate?

Research from the National Gambling Impact Study Commission and the Gambling Impact and Behavior Study indicates that divorce rates for those dealing with gambling issues are estimated to be around 40% for problem gamblers and approximately 54% for pathological gamblers.

Basically, gambling can become a big problem when a person is married but unable to be a responsible gambler. I observed from my friend's case study that his main mistake was not being able to allocate a budget for his family life and gambling. He combined the two, and it was not uncommon for him to lose money gambling and use up his gambling budget. Instead of stopping, he would gamble away money meant for his family's needs, we can guess how that ended. This made his partner so tired that she decided to divorce him. Honestly, we are free to gamble, there are no rules prohibiting it even after marriage. However, we must know the limits of our gambling budget, when that money is gone, it’s better to stop and find other forms of entertainment.

The main purpose of gambling is entertainment, if someone expects more from gambling, then gambling will turn into an addiction in his life, so it is never right to expect anything other than entertainment from gambling. It is true that we are all free to gamble, it cannot be the right decision to ban it even after marriage. Any problem can be solved through discussion, so I think if a husband can convince his wife well, that he mainly plays for entertainment, it is not a part of his life, that he has self-control over himself to manage gambling. If these issues can be explained well, a relationship can be expected to become stronger.

[crwth]

I agree that hiding something from your significant other is problematic. Imagine why you would hide it if there is nothing wrong with it. That alone speaks a lot, and everyone should be careful when doing something like this.

[Wiwo]

I don't think you should hide anything from your spouse, and that includes gambling too. Gambling addiction is bad on its own, then hiding it from your partner is a betrayal. Gambling has to do with your finance, so it's very important you share it with your partner,  so you both can even make a budget for it, so it does not affect your finances.
Hiding your gambling habit from your partner could lead to divorce, when they find out that you have been hiding it from them. They will definitely feel betrayed and it's really going to affect their trust for you, and when trust is broken in a relationship,  it's might lead to a divorce.

Sometimes we need to keep Somethings to ourselves regardless of the level of trust, i know that my spouse knows i gamble, but she also know that i have been gambling as responsible as i can, and she doesn't have anything against me so regardless if i tell her or not, she will definitely not feel disappointed if she discovered that i gamble.

[Dareo]

I don't think you should hide anything from your spouse, and that includes gambling too. Gambling addiction is bad on its own, then hiding it from your partner is a betrayal. Gambling has to do with your finance, so it's very important you share it with your partner,  so you both can even make a budget for it, so it does not affect your finances.
Hiding your gambling habit from your partner could lead to divorce, when they find out that you have been hiding it from them. They will definitely feel betrayed and it's really going to affect their trust for you, and when trust is broken in a relationship,  it's might lead to a divorce.

Sometimes we need to keep Somethings to ourselves regardless of the level of trust, i know that my spouse knows i gamble, but she also know that i have been gambling as responsible as i can, and she doesn't have anything against me so regardless if i tell her or not, she will definitely not feel disappointed if she discovered that i gamble.

I believe the most important distinction here is that the household is or is not being affected by gambling. When it is just a little hobby and the boundaries are kept strict, most of the partners will not really mind especially when there is already trust in the relationships. However, when a person begins to conceal it, the secrecy itself may become bigger than the gambling. I have a friend who occasionally gambled and his wife was okay with it but the second he started to hide losses the trust was more hurt than the lost money. Transparency will therefore both save the relationship and finances in the end.

[Iranus]

I agree that hiding something from your significant other is problematic. Imagine why you would hide it if there is nothing wrong with it. That alone speaks a lot, and everyone should be careful when doing something like this.

Yeah, keeping things from your partner usually indicates a deeper problem.  You know, in addition to mistrust, secrecy frequently results from social shame & self stigma.  It is a major warning sign for our society. concealing finances or gambling in a relationship, I could call it nothing but Financial infidelity, which undermines trust & the stability of the partnership.  Most of the gambling related people I know have at some point hidden money related problems from their partners.  so I will say open communication is essential, put support, empathy, & honesty before judgment.

[r_victory]

It's not just about hiding gambling habits, as reported in the research. I believe divorce occurs due to a combination of factors, not a single one. But, yes, one of the main causes of separation is a lack of trust in the other person. When trust is broken, it becomes difficult to repair the relationship.

[radjie]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

People who gamble secretly without their partner's knowledge usually won't be honest about the income they get from their work or other things. Because usually some people who are married need their finances to be known by their partners (women), if he is honest about using his money for gambling, his partner will most likely not allow it; therefore, many men gamble secretly without their wives' knowledge. However, some of them also become addicted to gambling so they become irresponsible and even reduce the nominal amount of money that should be given to their wives in full but use a lot of it for gambling. This can certainly cause arguments and even end in divorce.

[AYOBA]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Some people will get to a point in their gambling where they don't give any thought about the future of their marriage. I can say that some people are quickly becoming addicted to gambling since some people have no control over their gambling and will attempt to recover their losses after they have lost a significant amount of money. One issue with gambling is that by the time they become addicted even their family will no longer be able to comprehend them, which is why some marriages end since they can no longer support the family.

[BABY SHOES]

Witnessing a female friend's marriage fall apart due to irresponsible gambling... leading to divorce because the relationship was no longer harmonious, as the money that was supposed to be given to the wife was instead spent on gambling.

If gambling is not done responsibly the consequences will be like this.
It can lead to other problems because gambling can become complicated in many ways.

I myself still hide my gambling activities because I know my wife will be angry... especially since finances must remain stable and everything must be secure... besides I don't gamble too much, and now it's strictly regulated in such a way.

[Mahiyammahi]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Well I don't see the actual connection between Gambling & devorce. If you ask me it's the mentality and the commitment to your partner for the reason of Devorce. If you are gonna steal your partner's money, or express your stress , dissatisfaction on your partner's than it should lead to devorce. You should be truthful to your partner.