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Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

The fact that you have to ask means he could have a different impression whenever you tell him.  If you are to tell him, you must first make him understand that it's just about a side job online.  If you are to start gambling, a minimum of a few bucks, a bit of experience won't hurt. Maybe try sports also.

And if you just keep it a secret, it's fine. This is my preferred choice if I am to put my feet in your shoes. This is like you are just browsing websites, you happen to land on casinos because they are related to cryptocurrency.

For me, women shouldn't be involved in gambling no matter how conscious you're in maintaining a good gambling habit but it's not really a good idea for a woman to be involved in gambling or gambling related activities due to some certain reasons because if a woman gets involved in gambling, her duties as a wife will begin to fade because she might not be too focused on her family again.

Sometimes, in her quiet times she will start reminiscing about the games that she gambles with and it will distract her from her normal daily duties as a wife. Even if she tells her husband about her gambling habits and her husband sees reasons with her and possibly gives her advice and clues on how to go about her gambling habit but me I can't encourage a wife to be involved in gambling though if it's a woman that's not married that one is quite different because she has time to herself unlike married ones.

I would say be open with your partner so if you go sideways then it may be easier for him to understand and take swift action but hiding things does more bad than good so my suggestion will be just say it if the situation is right.

Do you worry that your husband's opinion of you will be changed after telling it or worry about others?

Men don't like when they find their wives/gf keep secrets from them.

Just weird though on how you can keep this secret to your husband, or anyone here who live a double life. Not saying that it is bad, but you have to ask yourself, what if you husband find it out? What do you think is his reaction? Do you think that he will understand you hiding behind you gambling? Again, maybe want you list is just an excuse for you to continue to gamble as for sure we have gone to that kind of experience before and we told that we have control our gambling but the truth is, it's very hard.

In any case, just to be open with him, I will rather tell him straight in the face and see what will be the reaction. And hopefully there is no violent reaction whatsoever and maybe the next best thing he will do is to request that you stop gambling.

As long as gambling is not affecting you negatively to the extent that your husband complained of change in behavior,  I don't think that telling him will be a problem. Besides, he is your husband, you understand him better than any of us so you should know how to present the matter to him and when.

It is better you tell him than for him to find out one day, that may make him lose trust in you because he might feel bad that you kept something as big as gambling away from him.

He is your partner and should know everything that is happening with you, he has a right to be aware of your current interests and so I think you should let hime know. He will be interested in what has made you get an interest in gambling, so you will also have to explain that to him too. Women who gamble are looked at somehow as not responsible in some places, so if you do not tell him now and he finds out later that you are a gambler, he may not be happy and may develop an impression about you that you are already becoming irresponsible with gambling.

if it is bothering you that you are keeping a secret from your husband, perhaps it is good to tell him about your gambling activity, being transparent to your spouse is a great way to keep the relationship healthy. but then, what will you do if your husband has a problem that you are gambling, will you quit or will you ignore him?

If you are someone who is responsible for gambling and you don't feel that gambling interferes with your activities as a wife, why not just tell the truth, after all, what you wrote in your gambling behavior list is good enough, there is no need to worry about the end result, the point is that you have Dare to be honest with your husband that you are involved in gambling and convince him that you only gamble for fun, not to make money.

A husband wants an honest wife so it's best to be honest even if it's a disgrace or something that shouldn't be said, respecting your husband is a good way to keep your household intact and lasting, I believe your husband will appreciate your honesty as a wife. Moreover, just because you like gambling activities and as long as you keep it under control, you don't really use all your salary or your husband's salary. That won't be a problem, my advice is to stick to yourself, but if your husband doesn't want it, you should leave the gambling activity before you go too far.

whatever happens, you have to tell your husband about your gambling activities because otherwise this will have a bad impact.
I mean, if your husband is not a gambler and you are secretly gambling, of course if one day your husband finds out, it will definitely cause arguments and your household will be disharmonious.
and on the one hand, if you gamble without anyone knowing when you start to experience the beginning of an addiction, it will be very dangerous because sometimes someone who is addicted never realizes that he is addicted and can hide his addiction.

but if after you tell your husband the truth and dont allow him to gamble, it would be better if you dont force him to gamble. remember, your husband is the head of the household and you have to obey even though you have strong self-control, but you still can't do it.

As far as i know there is no law that holds anyone from gambling in my country and telling your husband isn't bad but it all depends on how he might reason otherwise nothing bad initiating with him base on your recent involvement in gamble. What matters most is the ability to gamble responsibly without going contrary to against gambling, most times it's hard to keeps all words said in terms of gambling before you knew you gradually becoming addicted gambler by then causing problems to your husband and to your entire family.
The secret you will follow is that you can involved in discussion, but do not gamble more/maybe ones in a week or ones in a month by then you don't turn into addicted gambler.

Why shouldnt women be involved into gambling? You think with strange and old stereotypes, likes women place is at the kitchen. You think women dont have that special gambling chromosome men have, but have housewife/family instead? Both women and men should identically be involved into family. What about "her duties"? What is this? Cleaning the house, raise children, cook, when husband works and earns? That is the idea of ancient times, when men went hunting because they were physically more developed. Those times have gone long time ago.

To OP - if you want to gamble, do it, dont listen to anybody. But do it only if this does not harm your family and finances, and never keep gambling in secret.

If you are wife who is responsible and respects your husband then you have to tell him, you can tell him from the beginning of getting to know gambling until you actually become gambler.
But you are quite great because you can involve gambling in you own life when you are married and there are no problems or any bad impacts from the gambling activities you do.
It just that if you continue to hide it and one day you husband finds out for himself that you are involved in gambling, there will definitely be feelings of regret and that will really hit him hard.
My advice is to tell him and explain it slowly and in detail so that there are no misunderstandings.

A man and husband can really appreciate it if his wife doesn't hide everything from him and he will be able to accept all the facts that happen if you can tell him slowly and with complete honesty.

That's up to you, because only you know your husband's character, whether he is kind, aggressive, easily angry, or can tolerate what you do. If you feel that he will tolerate it when you say that you have been gambling all this time, just tell him because honesty is the most important thing in the family. However, if you feel that he will be angry with what you did, it's best not to tell him, after all, you gamble responsibly so it won't be too obvious in your relationship with him.

"Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?" - it should look like an obligation. Surely this woman is playing with money from the general family budget, isn’t she. The husband, as a partner, must certainly know where the money from the common wallet goes.

This all looks presumptuous. I would almost believe it if you weren't a woman. :)

This is something your conscience keeps telling to you. Listen to this and confess everything to your husband.

@SmartGold01. If your conscience is judging you, that means you want to be very faithful to your husband. Then why not tell him? But the problem is for you not to tell him and he starts to like to gamble and get addicted. If you gamble responsibly since, your husband might not talk about it. But in anything someone do responsibly, not likely that someone's husband will against it. But always gamble responsibly. Just 1% to 5% of your income is enough and it should not be more than that amount.

I think it's totally different font on the gambler. If the gambling has an any effect on their family then I think there is no need if you don't wanna share your gambling. But if you are addicted gambler then I think it's necessary to inform your family you are doing gambler because then they can also help you to recover from addiction. Now you can choose yourself what you wanna do. But if you talk about responsible then I think it's not that kind of responsible.

If you both are legally married then tell him
there is no need to hide anything from your husband knowing too well that you guys love's each others then what is the extent of husband and wife if I may ask you? Husband and Wife shares things common to each others except if you both are not in a good terms and even as that he should know what you are doing to avoid any harassments from him when he might have discovered from you.

Gambling is very large and you wouldn't know when you will secretly becomes the worse gambler whereby you would start having issues with your husband, therefore to avoid some disputes in the family quickly go into him to tell about your gamble attitudes to be at the safer side.

But however, I will encourage you to reduce your activity due to your position in the family and if your husband gambles and you also gambling meaning that your children will grow worst in gambling because you can't give each others a words to follow, this will make the family gets into problems in time to come. Gamble responsibly.

Whether or not to tell your husband that you gamble is a personal choice that relies on how you and your husband feel about gambling. You should think about how this news might affect your relationship and whether it fits with both of your values. It might be worth talking about if you think that being open and honest about your actions and the rules you've set for responsible gambling will help build trust and understanding. You should weigh the possible benefits against the risks before choosing whether to share this part of your life with your husband, especially if you think it could cause problems or worries. Being honest and talking to each other are important in any relationship, but when and how you talk about things should depend on the health of your relationship as a whole.

How long can you hide your gambling habits from your husband? Openness to the husband is the wife's obligation for all activities carried out, especially gambling activities which are full of risks. I assume the level of your gambling habit has not reached the stage of chronic addiction, before something bad happens to you from a financial perspective, such as starting to borrow money from a third party, you must tell your husband everything. The sooner the better before it's too late.

This is what i have decided since I started involving myself thus, wouldn't want to go above that specific amount you made mention because there is a reason for that since I also contributes to family I wouldn't want what would affect our living. Despite my involvement I still do my parts as wife and nothing much then will have to pass to my husband very soon as you all suggested, though i am gradually reading all comments contributions here.

If you tell your husband or partner about your gambling activities, you must accept the consequences if your husband gets angry or forbids it. And you have to obey his wishes, because a wife has to obey what her husband says, especially if it is for the good.
And it's a bit strange for me if your husband doesn't know about your gambling activities because husband and wife will always be together, especially at home. And how stupid would your husband be if he didn't know about your gambling activities and also didn't pay close attention to you so that your husband didn't know about it or even suspected it.
And once you tell him about your gambling activities, and your husband doesn't get angry and let it happen, then you're in luck.

True. Either there is a huge harmony in the family, or there is completely none of it and each partner does not bother what other does, thinks, feels. It will be irresponsible secretly gambling, that telling or not doing it. The truth always comes out, no matter if it is sweet or bitter.

Question to SmartGold01 - why did not you tell your husband about gambling at first place? But rather searched for answers and comments on the forum? Answer to this is the answer to your question about telling or not telling about your gambling activities to your husband.

So a married person can still able to hide something from his/her spouse, now I wonder what did you hide from him aside from gambling? how many times you cheated your husband? ::)

I thought married people will try to being transparent with their spouses since you're live with them everyday, sooner or later they will finds out, as we know it's the best to being honest than someone caught you.

For me I would advise that you tell him everything, personally I wouldn’t want my wife to keep secret like this from me – I might be upset if I finally get to know about it myself.

But make sure you let him understand that you gambling was necessary for your Bitcointalk activities, so that you can get to know about what it is that you’re promoting and since you have already started that you can control yourself and not a compulsive gambler then everything should go smoothly unless he’s the type who doesn’t tolerate things like gambling or one that his doctrines are against, but I believe as husband and wife you should be able to figure it out.

Just remember, the sooner you tell him the better for you.

OP, you need to be open to your husband and there should be nothing to hide because if he finds out by himself, he will get mad at you for keeping your gambling activities secrete, and this might somehow affect your marriage. You should know the best time to tell him, when he is in a happy mood, I think that will be the best time to tell him, and when telling him make him know that you are doing it because you need little experience in the gambling field. Also tell him that it is temporary and after some time, you will quit. Gamble occasionally since you are a woman and don't let it get into your head. Whatever the outcome of your discussion will be just calm down and take things step by step.

The worst thing that happens in a relationship is if someone a husband or wife keeps a secret. This is a wrong idea because if I were your partner, I would be totally angry.

Keeping secrets should not be done once we already have family especially when it talks about finances, and that much more about gambling.
To be considered a responsible wife, you must not gamble unless your husband approves it. In fact, we've heard that a couple separated because of gambling, and I was afraid this might happen to you if you don't tell.

I agree with most here.  For how long can you keep this up? As his wife, you know you should be open with him about what you're doing, especially something as risky as gambling.  Even if you don't think you're addicted or anything, but I worry that if you keep gambling in secret you could end up losing more money than you can afford. 

Before this gets out of hand, you need to come clean.  It's the right thing to do and  you owe him the truth.  I hope he'll understand and you can deal with that together.  Even though it may be difficult, I think openness and honesty are important in a marriage.

Tell him, I don't think it's a big issue really. It's nothing special imo so I don't particularly see any big reason to hide it as well. Your husband also works as a sort of stopper for you in case you suddenly spiral down into gambling too much since having someone who knows that close to you can keep you in check. If an argument ensues then don't run away from it. You married each other so I reckon arguments are something you guys are supposed to tackle, not run away from anyway and I reckon discussing about habits, both good and bad, are a part of that.

Since both of you are married, I think He has the right to know this thing especially that this activity involves money. For me, it would be better if your husband knows that you gamble, so that at least he has an idea of ​​what you are doing. Also, he can help you when unexpected events occur due to gambling. it's good for him to know especially since you mentioned the thing that you don't do even if you participate in gambling, you just have to explain it to him properly and mention that you are a responsible gambler. You know? it feels easier when you don't hide anything from your husband.

Two people married to be one. Even as their may be some things that you may keep from each other, gambling should not be there. But the best is for you to not keep anything away from each other. Just tell him if you are not comfortable not telling him. But make sure you are using just little amount for it, do not gamble too much and do not let gambling take your time. If you gamble in the appropriate way, there should not be a problem.

The heck are you on about? Where do you live? Under a rock? Are you one of those men who feels like women are subject to wife duties such as cleaning, cooking, etc. while you're allowed to gamble and sit on the couch doing nothing to contribute to the house you're also living in? What kind of nonsense is this, and how can you have such a foul way of thinking in 2024?

@SmartGold01, You're asking; thus, it's something that has been bothering you. If so, then you should go ahead and be honest about it. Personally, I wouldn't like to find out one day by myself because you forgot a casino website was open or whatever. Plus, if you're honest about it, you wouldn't have to worry about doing it in secret anymore.

Revenge. Never do this brother.
Why can I say that? Because I've been there. It doesn't end well so I am passing the torch to you. There are times when we think that gambling sites will give back what we have lost, but the better idea would be to forget about it. They won't give back, it's a fucking bad joke. It would be better to start all over again than expecting something that would not come.

About responsible gambling, as long as you are not hurting the budget for the family then I think it's okay. Some would say it's still not right, but for me, that's the only possible way to control yourself.
We will always be on the path to try and take back what is taken from us so chasing losses will be a norm. But if you could possibly control that bad emotion and play in a professional way, then I think you will be okay. There's a limit for everything and I do believe the limit in gambling is if you feel like you are losing and cannot afford another bet, don't force it. Gambling sites will always be there waiting for us but our budget could sometimes not cover it anymore so it's better to just get out and try again next time.

In my opinion, you should tell your husband because he is the head of your family who has the right to know what his wife is doing. Moreover, this is about trust in the family, don't hide your gambling activities which will result in a lack of openness in the family. As a husband, I would forbid my wife from getting involved in gambling because her job at home is to be a good mother and take care of the children. What I mean here is that some family rules vary from place to place, so if that happened to my wife, it would give her some kind of reprimand because she was hiding her gambling activities outside of my knowledge as her husband. And to be honest, I strictly forbid it.

Don't feel as if you have control over your gambling emotions because the situation is temporary. You've only started gambling for just a few weeks and feel able to control all the risks and consequences? Be open with your husband even if it's a little bitter, but once again if you continue to hide it, that's not a good choice either.

In my opinion, in as much as you are not a compulsive gambler and you have not yet lost your mind to gambling, then you don't have any problem with your choice to gamble. If peradventure you started noticing some reckless symptoms of gambling addiction in yourself, then there is a need to talk to your husband about it but where there is no such for now, you are safe and you are enjoying the fun of gambling and also making some money.

Few days ago, there was a thread I came across, Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? (https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=5480809.0), the image in that thread was what baffled me because it looks like the woman has lost more that she expected.

@Smartgold01, if you finally tell your husband That you are now a gambler, how do you think he will react? And if perhaps he ask you to stop gambling there after, will you obay him?  

Like I said before, as long as you are gambling responsibly and you are not gambling off the money that is not supposed to be used for gambling, then you are safe.

Are you gambling with the funds meant for family upkeep? Is your gambling habits preventing you from fulfilling your duty as a wife to your husband? How about your kids and extended members of your family. If you are using one percent of your income for gambling and your are doing everything responsibly, then yo do not need to tell your husband about it. If you have had enough of your gambling and want to quit, then do so quietly. If he doesn't ask you, then do not tell him so that the relative peace and mutual respect which I want to believe you are enjoying in your home will still continue.

Firstly, I think you should be open to your husband. In marriage, both parties should always know about the financial and other activities of their spouse because it promotes trust and understanding. So I suggest your husband should know about your gambling activities. Another issue is your husband's view about gambling. Have you ever discussed anything about gambling with him and what was his reaction? If he is comfortable with gambling then you might have a soft landing but if he is against it, you have to be ready for his reactions.

The fact is that I would not want my wife to be engaged in gambling because it is not in line with our cultural and religious beliefs. I think the mother should focus on raising children rather than gambling. My wife could analyse games and come up with predictions but I will not want her to be an active gambler. Even if she is a responsible gambler, I will still prefer to be the gambler and let her focus on other activities. In summary, If you think he has a negative view about gambling, you might consider discussing it with him or consider quitting. But if he has a positive view about gambling, I don't think he would stop you from gambling.         

IMO, you should share the issues that are on your mind with your husband. I don't see anything that would make your husband object to you gambling seriously. And even if your husband has a negative attitude towards gambling, explain your point of view clearly. I think in a marital relationship there should not be any secrets, sharing to understand and accept each other. But remember your attitude and responsibility towards gambling, as you said. To be honest with gambling, there will be situations where you can lose control, but don't let things go too far and make mistakes make you regret.

We should really put up into your minds that there's no secrets that could be hidden or would really be kept forever on which if you are really that been bothered on everyday that he might caught you
then it would really be better that you should really be telling him, but of course you should really expect that there would really be those main questions would be asked. It would really be that impossible that your husband wont really be talking about financial spending on where you do get it? Even if you would really be telling yourself that you are on having that good control but it
is impossible that it wont really be raising up those questions that your husband would be mainly thinking.

This is why it would really be always best that you should really be telling him about it or else then it would really be that resulting into huge quarrel because
it would really be that impossible that you wont really be that having those questions or interrogations about gambling thing on which we do know
that this is something that would be a lasting kind of discussions and questions asked.

You're the wife you are in a better position to answer this, I know you already know the answer to your question and you just want to validate your answer, follow your hunch, on running a family wife's decision is always correct, and besides honesty is the best policy more so inside our home.
Ask yourself what if your husband found out in an unexpected way or from other people, so respect your husband and your family and do the right thing.
You can't go wrong if you follow your hunch and be honest about what you feel you should do.

Of course it is definitely worth telling your husband about your gambling ventures.

When a man and a woman gets married, there should absolutely be no secrets to each other no matter how difficult it may be to accept to the other party. This secret involves anything that may or may not affect the relationship- so naturally you should tell him about your gambling activities. Not only this may keep the marriage intact, but this may also be helpful for you to understand better the risks that may be involved in gambling.

At the end of the day, your husband deserves to know everything especially that the money that is being used in gambling is part of the absolute community of your marriage. Naturally, every expenses must be audited for proper financing.

If she likes what she does and she feels that she can relax from playing the game and wants to have a past time from work or taking care of her children, then why do you stop your wife from doing what makes her happy? I mean, there is nothing bad if she gambles when she knows her limit, as she stated above, and she can manage her finances and her emotions as well. I mean, let's promote gender equality, and that doesn’t mean that she is a woman; she cannot play what men are capable of.
 
If it is wrong for others to see a woman who is skilled at gambling, consider whether it is appropriate for other men to see husbands who are emotionally unstable to the point where, in the event that they lose and become enraged, their family will become involved, and he may even harm his wife. It is quite a comfort when a woman confides in her husband about personal matters. This allows the husband to know what his wife is up to outside of raising the family, and he may warn or raise awareness if she is heading in the wrong direction.

I think it's worth telling your husband so that he can understand that you are gambling and he can protect you from the problem of losing too much money to gambling addiction. Even though you still feel like you can protect yourself from gambling and not cross these boundaries, no one knows that you can stay like that when you are gambling. There are times when a person will be weak and helpless, so when he sees the temptation to get a promotion offered by the casino, he will immediately take it without thinking. That's where the problem will arise and he can lose control of himself, especially when he uses more money without anyone's knowledge, including his husband or wife. If you can be honest with your husband and you don't hide anything from your husband, he can continue to protect you from anything. But if you're not honest with him, he could be disappointed and you might end up with something you don't want.

You have a complicated situation in your life situation, if you are a woman and a gambler, you have to be very careful in situations like that, before you say what you want to say, the risk is that your household could fall apart leading to divorce.

My opinion in such a situation.
* You are a wife, of course you know your husband's activities, look and investigate first, whether he is angry or happy when you talk about gambling, don't tell him you gamble first, provoke him about gambling, If his response is positive and happy about talking about gambling, then you talk about how you gamble. On the other hand, if your husband's response is negative towards gambling, don't occasionally say that you gamble, he might get angry and divorce you.

In situations like that you have to look at both, sometimes there are husbands and wives who both like to gamble, there are also vice versa, the wife gambles, the husband doesn't and really hates gambling, so it depends on the situation between the two, after that you can talk about something, after both understand the situation.

In my opinion, even though you gamble with a goal that is not like many gamblers in general, but also because you can control your emotions and control your finances, there is no harm in telling about your habits, because if you are married, it is better to do all the things you do. open, and he himself must also be open to you, but if you feel he is closed, there's no harm in hiding your gambling activities if it doesn't make you lose money.

However, what must be paid attention to and must be remembered is that gambling can affect the thinking of someone who plays it, therefore gambling can change a person's thoughts and also their attitudes or behavior, this is what must be paid attention to. Don't let your relationship be destroyed because of gambling because that's not very good. and what I know is that there are many people who get divorced because of unstable financial problems If you gamble and are still able to manage your finances well, you must maintain it, don't let gambling affect your family's finances.

I don't mean anything or what but let me ask you this,
Is your husband the only one who makes the earnings for your family? Or do you also provide for the family?

If the money you spend on your gambling activity is your own money, I don't see anything wrong with it. But if it is your husband's money that is given to you to handle the money for the family's daily needs and monthly expenses, you have to say it.

And if there's something within you that makes you want to tell him about your gambling activities, it's better to follow it and have a discussion with your husband. Hiding anything from your husband will only make things worse if ever he finds out about it.

It would always be a better choice to be honest with your partner where after confessing your habit, both of you can think of a solution or end up on a decision whether he will support you or would ask you to stop. Since you know to yourself that you are gambling responsibly then the only problem for not telling him is that you are not sure about his reaction cause we all know that gambling is really bad if handled poorly. It could be a worst-case scenario if he found it out on his plus in a long time already. If you are already in a family or have a partner, this kind of habit and lifestyle would be normal if you are young but don't forget the responsibility of being in a committed relationship, there would be always a sacrifice like your habit that we consider not good that would affect that relationship.

I do not see any problem in gambling if it doesn't affect you financially, mentally, or emotionally and if it doesn't affect your life as a whole. I would rather be open with my partner regarding this than to secretly do something else behind their back, and take it as a form of respect to your partner. As you mentioned, you do it for fun and it seems you have full control of your gambling habit. I think it won't hurt if ever your husband asks you to stop gambling as it seems you are not that inclined to gambling and see it as a form of entertainment than a source of income, this is just incase he doesn't agree with you getting involved in gambling.

You are correct in your idea and suggestions I think we have both engaged in gambling discussion before I didn't see him respond negativity, just that he was neutral while talking with him about few matches that plays some days ago. Just that he was wondering how I suddenly began to pick up interest while before he was the only one who loves watching football and wrestling, my sudden interest made him started wondering, though he might be suspecting me and who knows that was why I raised this topic to have a collective idea to know how to handle this situation at hands.
Anyway.. thank you for your contribution +1 for you, I am out of sendable otherwise I could have credited.

Most people have a negative view of gambling. So when people hear the word gambling, they have a negative attitude. I think this matter should not reaveal to her husband. Because her husband's place of trust in her may be weakened when he hears about gambling. Also her husband may force her to give up gambling. If the woman is not an addicted gambler then she can continue her gambling without telling her husband but if she thinks she is addicted then she must tell her husband. So that her husband can keep herself away from addictive gambling. If there is a good understanding between husband and wife then I think it will not be problem if he know the fact. But it will depend on the mentality of her husband.

You should let him know because he is your husband and don't for him to find out that you are involved in gambling activities without you telling him the truth. This might be none of my business but yeah as a husband and wife thing I think it is important to gain trust and of course honesty to each and everyone of you since that is what you two promised in your wedding day right? Sorry about that but yeah family is family.

It's not the gender that's the issue here but rather you not telling your husband beforehand that you gamble. If you both have financial responsibilities on the household, then it's important to let him know what you're into so you can talk about it. Otherwise, if problems arise on your end financially, he will have difficulties in looking for money just because he hasn't adjusted to your activities. Communication is important, and is a two-way street, so for sure your husband will listen and try to meet you halfway.

You should tell him about your gambling activity regardless he like or don't like gambling.

If he like to gamble, it means there will be no problem except you or him turns become a gambling addict.

If he don't like to gamble, he might be angry and not accept it, but as long as you're honest and transparent with your gambling activity, I believe you will be fine. You need to show how much you make and how much you gamble, if you gamble not to big, he high likely won't complain.

On the time that we do make ourselves getting involved with marriage then we do know that this is really that pertaining about conjugal property on which what he owns then both of you does have the rights and also on what you do own too then your husband would be also have the rights to know on what you are dealing with. It do really sucks on living up on together but having lots or tons of secrets behind basing up on the things that you are dealing with. You would really be just that basically making yourself that making some potential trouble once your partner would really be caught you on doing something that he/she doesnt know specially if its talking about money on which everyone would really be that so sensitive in this regard. This is why it would be always best that you
should really be open to each other no matter how small it is.

You should let him know about your activities so that you can see his reaction if he can understand on what you are doing or not. If he find it disturbing since he doesn't want to get involve with this activity and find it as bad hobby to take then respect his decision then decide if its really worth to continue or just follow your husbands like if he advice you to quit doing this activities.

But if he support you and tell that you are fine then make sure you don't gamble to much then always try to follow his advices so that their will be no trouble created since if you insist and not follow certain things he want you to do or avoid then it can start a conflict that you might regret later on. So come tell him since its really worth to discuss this matter and make sure he's in good condition telling this since timing is also important so he will not get surprised about what you are trying to tell to him.

In the first place, you should not hide anything from your husband, by not telling him it just means that you do not trust your husband will understand you, and besides, there's a possibility that you will get hooked on gambling, and the budget of the family will be at risk and your husband will be suspicious on where the money is going.
You should tell your husband right away the more that you're hiding the more that you're putting your marriage at risk, if you're husband sees that you are playing just for fun and to fight boredom in the house and the money being used is allocated, I'm sure he will understand, you should be honest with your husband.
Dishonesty is one of the causes of broken marriages so to stop this be honest with your husband.

Everything has to be base on understanding of each other, there are times that we need to speak and say some things that will bring liberation to the current challenges we are facing while we can also choose to utter a word and the whole things got ruined, I expected her to understand the nature of the kind of situation they are into currently before making any money to say something to the man, if you know that some people around you will be highly disappointed in you after discovering that you're a gambler, then it's better you prevent that from happening right on time.

Gambling as a lady is not what to hide from your husband because even if you didn't tell your husband about it, he would eventually know about it someday through someone or seeing you involved in gambling, and that would come as a shock to him and also cause a  problem in the family.

For me, it is better to tell your husband about your new-found habit of gambling beforehand than for him to find out by himself. You know why? To be on the safe side than not knowing your stand on whether he will like the idea or kick against the idea completely because not all husband loves to see their wife engage in gambling no matter how it seems. Some husband don't want anything to serve as a distraction given to their wife as a cause of that, let it be that their wife is focused on taking care of their kids than having it elsewhere

It is nice you put up this topic here. I believe other married women and ladies too are seeing this post to learn from the replies and comments here. Many people have their own perspective of what you have said here and their ideology varies when it comes to the fact of women into gambling. Some forbids it while some see it as nothing and some just take it as fun to do.

I think letting your husband know about your gambling practice is very much alright because both of you are one and as such should know what you are really into. All these you have written down is better done this way than putting into practice because eventually, when it gets to a point where it seems you are beginning to go out of control, your husband would be very much conscious of it and immediately help you control your gambling lifestyle. So keeping it to yourself would not help any matter. I would advise you relate to him irrespective of his response you anticipate, let him know that you are into gambling. Then he would guide you through or possibly both of you join heads to make a plan for it.

Good picks I must say but as easy as they sound, the reality is different and here is my reservation about your points.

If you want to avoid this, try as much as possible to gamble what you can afford to lose. This arises most often than not when you gamble with the money you needed badly and when that happen, the next line of action that comes to your medula is "I need to get back that cash". ???


This is similar to the first one, as you think of profits, think of loss to avoid disappointment.


If you have a financial challenge, gambling should be the last thing you want to think, avoid like a plague.


This is what gambling is about but is this what it's in reality, is like telling person that smokers are reliable to die young but they love it more despite the health implications. Gambling is for fun but it's mainly money driven, people hardly even look at the fun of it but that's what it's all about.

What If your husband was not talking about the same?!
Well, if you are not wasting money or hiding a big win personally I find it absolutely normal to have hobbies and passions that we don't share with those who live next to us.
I don't see anything wrong with even talking about this passion... I think this Is just a personal choice and no more.

As I understand the concept of marriage and mutual trust which it involves, I think there shouldn't be secrets between husband and wife, especially regards activities they are practing in their routines. I think you would be bothered if your husband was doing something in secret and you didn't know... So the same is valid for him regards you. "Don't do unto others what you don't want done unto you"*. Treat them as you wished to be treated. Think about it and you will reach the answer you are looking for. It's already inside you. Just need to find it now.

*Confucius

I think you have done your research and prepared yourself for any and all pitfalls. Most people are not as careful when they go into gambling. You show responsibility and a logical mind. I think that there is no harm in letting your husband know about your gambling, although he might still be against it, he will see that you are not just throwing money around without a plan.

You could make a spreadsheet of your losses and wins so you have data to back up your claims of responsible gambling. If you do gambling right, then your losses should only be considered peanuts. 

I can relate to your precarious balance between personal and marital interests. You've done well to learn about safe gambling. Healthy gambling involves not chasing losses, gambling for fun, and minimizing financial risk.

Secrecy is key to your circumstance. I value honesty in relationships, especially in difficult topics like gambling. Not just gambling, but trust and openness in your relationship. Sharing this with your partner may soothe your guilt and spark a conversation about shared hobbies and interests.

Review your relationship dynamics las Every couple communicates and sets boundaries differently. If your husband is accommodating, he may appreciate your honesty and support your passion as long as it is pleasurable and not financially or emotionally draining. Its complicated, but its about balancing personal interests with relationship health and openness.

The revenge gambling was the biggest mistake doing by the gamblers,because they can’t accept the loss in the gambling site.The reason was they used the real money in the gambling,this also leads to the biggest loss in the gambling site.If the gamblers accept the loss and move on means it will be far better one.Only few gamblers recover the loss in the gambling site,Since it based on the luck.The gamblers who loss try to recover the loss by managing the next profit in the gambling site.The game based on the luck and the tactics,So we don’t know the result of the game 100 percentage favour us.



The second mistake made by the gamblers,actually most of the gambler is get the all in to the gambling site.Their was the might in the gambling,if we use more money.It’s possible to recover the most of the loss,but with my experience it’s not true.The gamblers use hundred percent of the income to the gambling site and worry at the end.The gambling will give us entertaining,but rich using gambling site was not sure thing.

People value honesty so yes it should be responsible of you to tell something about it as long as you are also responsible for the money you spend gambling.

It's just you who knows how your husband may react to this and if you think he will protest in how you spend your money then I guess this is a big discussion for both of you. Its a personal choice and it depends on how you see your husband.

After I saw your list of precautions to minimize something unwanted happening, it seems like it doesn't matter if you don't tell your husband, because looking at the list you showed, all of that will really keep you safe and comfortable. and can make you a responsible gambler. But on the other hand, you must maintain the understanding that gambling is a high-risk activity, the percentage of wins is much smaller than losses, and every gambler will always find many things that look tempting there, so it is not uncommon in such conditions to change their mindset and beliefs. and ultimately makes them gamblers who expect to win.

Therefore, you must remain  firm in self-control, correct understanding and also maintain good awareness, and if at any time you feel that there is a change in your gambling approach, for example, such as starting to be a little excessive, then I think at that time you you have to tell your husband.

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

You have to tell your husband about your current situation, apart from being open about your situation, you will also have more control from the external side.

Don't know whether you will become a problem gambler or not in the future, but you will feel guilty someday (if you become a problem gambler), so, try to talk to him and ask him to understand you. I know this isn't easy because I also experienced the same thing some time ago.

In a situation like this, what I will encourage you now to do is to make sure that you have not inform and let him find out by itself and with this when it ask you will explain to him, because I know that since it's your husband he will surely find out because one day you may win a big amount of money and that money you can't not be spending it in secret, so if you wish to tell him you can tell him but don't give him a full gist of how long you being playing gambling because if you do it will be angry with you, only the thing you can tell him to win his soul and it will support to continue gambling is when you have win gambling and you show him what you win in gambling with the cash.

Yes, it is one of the pros on which if ever you do find yourself that get addicted then there's your husband would really be able to save you up if you are really that not really tending to stop but it would really be that impossible that your husband wont really be stopping you on the time that he would really be able to know that you are dealing up with gambling not unless if that husband or both of you does have that same interest
on which stopping cant really be possible. I do agree on some points on here that you would really be ending up yourself on being that too secretive into your relationship if you do keep on hiding something from your husband. Dont wait out that things turns out to be worst before you would really be confessing something.

Its true that huge problems would really be coming out if you've been caught on doing something that the other one isnt really that knowledgeable about. There are ones who are really that
that might be that tolerating their wifes activity but it is really that impossible that someone wont be skeptical into this kind of activity on which we do know
that it could bring out some devastation into your finances.

The fact that you are a married woman, it is your responsibility to let your husband know what you're up to and how do you manage your finances inside and outside of the household. In fact, you both need to be honest with each other. I think your husband would be totally fine with it as long as you are able to control your finances when it comes to gambling and other expenditures.
Afterall, gambling is a form of an entertainment. As a man, I wouldn't hold back my wife if she loves to gamble, but the again as long as she can manage to control her finances I wouldn't interfere.
Don't wait for it till your husband find outs about it, he might get mad that could spark an argument. There will be a possibility that he won't let you gamble anymore.

I will advice you inform your husband and if he doesn't support with your idea of gambling then you should stop to avoid stress, I don't know if you feel comfortable keeping it a secret, this question you asked although people will make different comment but the decision is yours to make and I believe you will make the right decision.
This kind of issue depends on your marriage and if the communication between you and your husband seems strong then you might end up telling him unknowingly to you, this is quite strange cause it's very rare seeing women gamble cause they can't control their emotions and might end up stopping the process but seeing this seems encouraging.

I don't know how strong your relationship is with your husband and how the house affairs are being and by this I mean the things you both like but I believe honesty is one way to go in order to set a strong relationship between a man and a woman. I have an Aunt who also gambles and she even calls me sometimes to actually send her games to play and her husband is fully aware of it and they all take it as fun and whenever you go visit them, you would see the two talking about games but they just do it for fun as they hardly play but at first I actually thought the whole thing was wrong but to some extent I really see that parties are okay and that's the best thing so I think concealing such habit isn't healthy at all in a relationship.

First, if your husband is in this forum or on any other discussion forum, he should be aware of what gambling is and how it affects and at the same time the strength of women in gambling,  this is very vital to the point that some husband already knows that women are stronger and much more effective in risk-taking than men and at that, they will allow the wife to gamble as long as she has fun and also not becoming overly involved in gambling,  so your husband will practically understand with you.
The risk will be more if you don't tell him at all and he gets to know about it in the long run, this has been the most propelling case that we have had for quite a while now as regards to how men feel with their wives gambling,  mostly online gambling.

Glad you already know what to do and avoid in gambling but I hope you understand that these things are easy to say and difficult to follow when gambling. It's just like a newbie who's started trading with a demo account balance and her trading is profitable but when she tries real trading she understands everything is totally different.
Having said that, i believe you know your husband more than every one of us here and you ought to his level of understanding and maturity, the things he likes and dislikes. All these things will give you a hint if you can tell him about your involvement in gambling.

Yes, it's worth telling him. No matter the level of self-control that you have over your gambling habit, and you know you are going to go off limit, it's still going to be a good thing that you let him know of your involvement in gambling.

This is because it's better you tell yourself than for him to find out himself, and it will be as if you have been hiding something that was not supposed to be hidden from him in the first place, which might make it seem as if you have other hidden motivation that you are yet to talk about.
 
Providing you are gambling with your own personal money and you don't allow your gambling activities to affect your financial habits I don't think there is going to be any negative reaction from him. If you can assure him you won't get distracted from taking care of your family and performing your wifely duties, then you don't have anything to worry about.

Getting responsible in gambling venture is hard because not all would really be successful when it comes to this and this is why it is really that good that shes really that having the control and having awareness on the actions that she's making.It is really just that shes in torn in neither telling or not on what she's been into into his husband on which just like on what most people been saying on here
that it is really just that right that she would be telling the things that shes really that into. It would be always best on having a relation which it doesnt really have that kind of secrets
and having those kind of hiding on something on which it is really just that less stressful that you are really that hiding something from your loved ones.
Its not something a healthy i should say for long time.

You have listed all the things to avoid in gambling ideally and I'm not surprised that this is also coming, many gamblers say they don't want to enrich themselves with gambling and they want to do right all the things to do for them to be a profitable gambler  ;D Like you want to restart your gambling and having fun not profit lol.


Well if you want disclose to your husband, I don't see that as a problem especially if you have been making very good profit and not wasting his money on gambling. If you tell him that and he has been complaining you are extravagant he will trace it to your gambling losses immediately and you know that will not be funny. My conclusion is if you have been profiting then it is okay but if not then no need, you only manage yourself until you decide to stop. Don't tell a man you have been gambling with money meant for the family and losing it.

A wife who helps her husband to gamble never seems responsible to me, it can be happening only in dream, lol. It must be accepted that gambling brings a lot of money at a certain time, it does not mean that gambling should be made a career, right? Gambling instills greed in people, degenerates morals if he fail to keep control. You know, there are also examples of people who lose every penny and come on the road after losing money in gambling. In addition, many commit serious crimes to collect gambling money.

I just said the possible reason why any wife wants to prevent her husband from gambling, this is fear, they are fearing her husband will end up becoming greedy. If she does not prevent her husband from gambling and does not try her best to attract him on herself to find relaxation but rather encourages him gambling then she is really a dream wife, lol. I need one of this type ;D..

If you're having to ask the question here, then you're not going to get the right answer quite simply. The fact that you aren't more open about it, means that you might consider it shameful or something that should be hidden, when if it was no problem at all you might just consider it light entertainment that you do occasionally. What are you even looking for? If you just consider it a form of light entertainment, that you spend maybe half an hour on per week, then why would you need to share it or hide it? Just do your own thing. If you have it under control, then you would have no problem if he looked at your accounts, maybe you're down a few bucks or maybe you are ignoring the fact that you've really lost thousands.

who wants to have a husband addicted in gambling? Even those who are already rich are against in such gambling activity because they know what can happen especially when a person goes too far. Do you want to have a spouse who will encourage you to gamble? Funny. Then when you lose or get stuck, you will blame your wife because they didn't forbid you or they push you to do gambling but the truth is, you really want to gamble. You are just looking for someone to blame for your wrong actions and decisions.

You are husband and wife and that's why you need not to hide secrets so you must tell your partner that you're into gambling if still doesn't know what you've been doing. That's the first rule of being married, you have to make the other know what you're up to because if you don't then that means that you're trying to hide a secret that your partner doesn't want to know and that means that it's a crucial thing within a relationship.

It's not a problem that you gamble and you're not addicted or yet but make sure that you know your boundaries and it's not going to affect your relationship because that's one important factor why couples are breaking their relationships because of disagreements. If it's also just discussions, not a problem either but when you get into the actuality and both of your money is involve, that's the time that you need to tell it.

In my opinion, if one is already married then those kinds of habits and activities are indeed supposed to be shared with one's partner. It may be even matter of time before the partner realizes about your gambling habits, and it is better for anyone to realize about it directly from the person than from rumors or third parties, in my opinion.

There have been other people (mostly men) who have came here with exactly the same question about whether they would disclose their gambling activity or not to their wives and I recall saying to them that they should do it.

Marriage is supposed to be embedded in trust to one another and those kinds of secrets undermine it, it is just my opinion, of course. Perhaps, you believe talking your husband about it is not a good idea because of the religion of his or the cultural aspects of gambling. It is your decision and only you know what the context truly is. If you decided to go for it, hopefully would be for the improvement of your marriage.

If you have good control over the gambling activities you do, and you gamble using personal money, not money given to you by your husband, in my opinion this is not too problematic.
Unless you gamble using money given to you by your husband, that is something that is not allowed. Even though your husband will not ask for details of the costs you incur every day, as a form of your wife's responsibility to your husband, you should be as transparent as possible regarding the gambling activities you carry out. Because there are quite a few people out there who gamble without their husband's knowledge, even though they can gamble thanks to the money their husband gives them every day. Meanwhile, if we talk about gambling, this is an activity that has quite high risks and can result in losses. And unfortunately, the money her husband gave her was spent on gambling, while her kitchen needs were not met. So this will be a big question for the husband which will ultimately raise suspicions which will lead to disharmony in the household.

You can get some points or ideas but in the end of the day , which you own decision is something that could really be followed in the end of the day but the key points that had been saying by most people or the community itself is really just that the same on which you shouldnt really be keeping any secrets from your husband. Yes, everyone does have their own secrets but we do know that there are things which are really that needed up to be told so that it could really be able to avoid possible conflicts in the future and just like been mentioned that when it comes to money or financial expenses then everything should really be tracked or
or should be known and if you are someone who do secretively making some spendings on gambling activity then this would really be bringing up a potential problem once you do get busted.

Just like on what everybody been saying here is that there's no secret that cant be reveal.It might not be now but time will come that you would really be caught.
So it would be always best that you should be that open and be honest on each other. It isnt really just that limited to the wife but also to husband as well that there's no good
on hiding something from your loved ones because once you do get bust up then you would be fucked up.

Yes, If can.

You're marrying him, he deserved to know at least before you get some problem. It's rare to see everyone can control them self, however most of people from gambling problem they tell their family after they got a problem.

It's better to let him know.

I see gambling is not just for men but even for women as well. Hence, telling your husband that you’re into gambling for quite some time might shock him but later on he will come to understand that as long as you only gamble for entertainment, then I guess there’s no wrong with that. Just be open with your husband as he deserves to know whatever activity you got involved most especially for gambling where probability of losing is high. It’s never bad to gamble as long as you still manage your finances, but to be honest, it’s not actually decent to see a woman gambling, just leave it to your husband as it’s a men thing.

Under many cultures, even though they want a woman tk have studied as much as possible, it is considered ideal for the family to make ends meed only with the husband's income. Women are considered housekeepers and not much more. Of course under such a culture it would be considered immoral for a woman to gamble. But think about it...

Shouldn't we apply equality to how we judge people regardless of gender? Of a woman gambles, I can respect how a culture perceives it, but then you must apply the same principle to men also. Otherwise don't judge at all. Judging solely based on gender is just not right.

i guess, times are changing. gender equality is already practiced across the globe or maybe there are still some areas left still clinging to the old way of life that the husband is the provider and the wife is taking care of their kids and home.
so for me the answer to the OP here is that depends on how deep your relationship to your partner, you will already feel or know what he will say to you if ever you brought this discussion to him.


much better if you let your better half know what's going on. at least, he doesn't have to nag you if he ever finds out your other activity. as long as you think you are still in your boundaries and not doing anything wrong, there's no reason why you won't let him know, right?

First of all, no one knows who TF you are...it doesn't even matter in here..all the same,i can see how well everybody plays along, maybe because it's on the gambling section?? IDK.

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why would you say you developed an urge/interest to gamble and you're definitely evading all these criterion? What in God's name evolved the interest then? Cus you can't tell me you read so much about how peeps are scrambling, showing off their winnings and you got enticed, just to gamble with your own rules that doesn't validate anything at the end - like gambling for fun???
Do well to tell your husband what you've done. There are no two ways about it... It's either you tell him or he gets to realize it himself.

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I don't think it makes women look any more irresponsible than men to tell their spouse that they gamble.  It may be more common in men, but it isn't like women are considered crazy for gambling.  I would assume the man who marries a woman like this would be attracted to her doing things like this.  It's like women that watch football.  They're out there and there's a lot of them, but men are still surprised and usually appreciate when they come across one.  I don't think gambling has a sexist aspect to it.

It's important to understand that doing things like gambling might not make your loved ones happy when they find out. Imagine if your husband isn't happy about it; he might feel worried or upset. Keeping secrets from your husband isn't a good idea because he's your best friend and partner. Secrets have a way of coming out eventually, and it might hurt him more if he finds out from someone else.

It's a good idea to talk to your husband about it, share your feelings, and see how he reacts. Being open and honest can help both of you understand each other better. Imagine if you keep it a secret, and he finds out later  it could cause problems in your relationship. As a suggestion, try discussing it early on, so you can decide together what's best for both of you.

I think gambling is dangerous for everyone, but especially for women. In order to prevent future arguments, it is preferable to place a high value on honest and open communication in a relationship.

Your husband needs to know what you've been up to lately.  Keeping secrets from your partner whom you share a roof with is not healthy at all. It is quite early for you to be 100% certain that you are gambling safe. You might get carried away with this your new found hobby and begin to neglect other aspects of your life, you can't be100% sure of what you are or you are not capable of. Things might go messy if your husband finds out by himself that you've been gambling without his knowledge.

The society hasn't really embraced women who gamble, they believe women who gamble are irresponsible and not fit to be called wife materials. We shouldn't be surprised If your husband goes against your decision to gamble.  If this becomes the case, whatever your reasons are for wanting to gamble, you have to keep it aside and obey your husband. Everything here depends on your husbands understanding of what gambling is all about.

I think that there is no need to hide this from your wife, because when she finds out about this, the first thing that will come to the fore is that you actually deceived her, because you didn’t say what you probably should have said. She will think that there are things that do not relate to gambling, in which you could deceive her there too. I listened to various interviews with wives whose husbands are addicted to gambling. It was very difficult to listen to this, some eventually abandoned these men and began to build a new life, while others said that they would deal with these problems to the end. I don't even know which is better.

There are also cases when everything comes out too late, the wife is told by everyone around her that her husband owes them money, and she is the last to know about it, I can imagine how morally heavy a burden this is.

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Going through materials and your chances to get tips and advices here are not enough because it is usually easier to say than to be done.
It is believed that there are still addicted and irresponsible gamblers who are unable to take control of their emotions While Gambling. So, your readiness to stick Conciously with the above mentioned are more than necessary to be acknowledged and dealt with.

To tackling this contradiction and giving the benefits of doubts about your gambling life resulting to your secret gambling off from your husbands consent and how your conscience is demanding you to tell your husband of it would be termed risky because, the disappointment expressions of your husband may not be tolerable by him for I believe he would suspect you to be doing other undesirable things which may still have not let him know so on that note, you would be pointed to be an illegal and secret practitioner. He may demand you to tell more secret things you must have been doing behind him according to his instincts.
If your conscience could trouble you this much as a secret gambling wife,  then it is assumed you are operating prohibitably that is against the will of your husband so, the best tip is that you should QUIT.
Even though your husband one of the gamblers with his awareness about the negative potentials of gambling, he would definitely conclude that "Oh no, I a man is struggling to keep a responsible gambling so there is no possiblities that a tenderous fragile woman as my wife would be able to take control of her emotions on the race or gambling.

My advice: instead of telling him as your conscience entails you, then better quit gambling and safe yourself marriage from any form of catastrophe.

Well, if your husband is open to anything, especially in your relationship, then I think it's safe to say that you can share what you are doing with him. If you know yourself and know that you are not doing anything bad, then I guess there's no need to be afraid, and if you know the things to avoid in gambling, then I guess you can control yourself or have discipline with yourself. But the thing is, you should first know if your husband doesn't like things like gambling. If yes, then maybe you should not say it right away. You two should talk about this topic carefully so you can both understand each other. It's much better than hiding things from your partner, right? So have a conversation about this; it will be helpful for you to remove your question from your mind. I also have a partner, but she knows what I do. As long as I don't do anything wrong, it's okay for her.

This statement simply means that you have picked interest in gambling and have not started gambling yet.

This statement shows that you have been gambling. So, there is a gross misunderstanding in your post. Just be real so that the responses you will have will also be real.

What I have always heard or read is man binding his gambling life from his wife and not the other way round.

As a couple, the husband have the right to know what the wife is doing.  Regardless of whether you control yourself and emotions when you are engaging in gambling activities, your husband should know you are into gambling and gambling discussions. I do not think it will bring harm if you tell your husband about your involvement in gambling discussion although I do not know what will be his reaction about your gambling activities.  If your husband disagrees with your gambling engagement then it is better to follow his advice so that misunderstanding and argument in the family will not happen.

You know him more; question is why are you being secretive in the first place if you know to yourself that you are gambling responsibly? If it is just you being conscious of your actions then try telling it to him already 'coz he might understand it and take it positively. But if you are hiding it 'coz you know to yourself that he's against gambling and that he will never be convinced, then that would be a problem I guess. However, at the end of the day it will depend on the way you will explain it to him and to why you want to continue gambling.
It is just the stereotype behind gambling. Being responsible of something means you are carrying it well and that you can manage the consequences; both positive and negative ones. Well, gambling is for all genders and sexes as well as ages; it has nothing to do with any restrictions. In her case, given that she listed things proving that she's gambling responsibly, maybe it's just her own guilt why she did not tell her husband in the first place. We don't know the whole story yet but for sure there's a story behind it.

Yes there is no need to keeping secret as husband wife, and sincw tour partner is your support system, tou need to carry him along regardless of what the nature of what you are about to do, sometimes, when you cant help yourself,  your partner becomes the only option you have to rest back on, so imagine of you need help and you are keeping secret from your spouse how then can you get the help you seeks.
Alot need to be looked into and as sensitive as gambling,  all decision related to it must be taken based on the family understanding to avoid crisis that can be avoided innthe future.

II think this topic should go to politics and society.

That is a problem, not having confidence in yourself, by the way you think you have it and in fact you affirm it, with the decrees shown in your OP, but then you say, I don't know whether to tell him..

 Don't hesitate, it is an important decision, perhaps the one with the most influence on your game, you have to tell them.

I think your husband has the right to know what you are doing, although perhaps his first response will be to forbid you from gambling, you can explain slowly that the gambling you do is not random and you only do it occasionally with as little money as possible, explain that you gamble moderately and can be responsible, you can convince your husband with a wiser attitude, I'm sure your husband will understand and maybe will let you gamble and of course with your husband's supervision because the wife responsibility is on her husband and if you make a mistake on this site your husband can help you and if you secretly gamble without telling you and one day your husband finds out by himself, I don't think that will be good for your domestic life because there is a big possibility that your husband will be very angry.

I think every husband definitely doesn't want to see his wife gambling, but if basically his wife is already familiar with gambling and especially since online gambling is widespread everywhere then it is normal for women to take part in these gambling activities, I think the gambling that husbands and wives do is different. The wife has complete control over finances whether her own money or her husband's finances and as long as they can allocate their money then she will be a responsible gambler.

Of course that's not good looking for other people to target our anger is not right because the actions they take are actions based on their own will it's a big mistake if they gamble by looking for people to blame for the losses they get. in gambling and in my opinion it is not good if we have a partner who likes to gamble, even though they can control themselves well against gambling but still the fear that I have is about the bad effects of gambling, if I were married myself I would stop gambling because I don't want to continue gambling if I already have a wife.

I think everyone has a lot of negative views on gambling and with that, there will be many people who have a negative perspective on gambling so in my opinion as people who have good thoughts we have to forbid our partners from gambling  it's also impossible if we have a partner who supports gambling activities because even though we have enough money to gamble, it is unethical if it is legal that husband and wife still like to gamble,  it is better to focus on domestic relationships.

This is a good intention because if you are married it will be more comfortable if your husband also knows what you are doing. Especially if you use your husband's money for gambling. But I'm sure you used the money from the campaign so the money is completely yours, so whether you want to tell your husband or not, I think it doesn't matter as long as you can be responsible when gambling and don't exceed the allocation you prepared.

I'm sure you know what's best for your family and you can do it well, because in some countries sometimes gambling is considered a negative activity, especially in countries where gambling is prohibited.

There are many questions that needs to be answered, before we can answer your question.

1. Does your husband gamble?
2. Are there any religous restrictions against gambling?
3. Do you work for your income or do you get money from him?
4. Why do you have to keep this a secret?

A marriage is a partnership where two people work together in an environment of trust. You should not have to keep this a secret, if you are not doing something that will break this trust.

I'm wondering if these are the principles you set for yourself when engaging in gambling or if these are accomplishments you've actually made? If you've truly achieved these things, it seems like you have excellent self-control, and your gambling is likely low-risk.
Therefore, I think letting your husband know is entirely normal; in fact, I believe he might be happy to see you having certain successes in gambling. For the majority of gamblers, accomplishing what you've listed would be a significant success. Share this activity with your husband; perhaps you'll have someone to share joy with. If you see gambling as a fun and entertaining activity, why not play together with your loved one, right?

No matter how good you are at controlling your emotions while gambling, I still think you should tell your husband about your gambling habits. That kind of secrecy between the couples is no good. If you think your husband won't like it, it is not the end of the world. If he is a good guy, he will try to understand you or offer solutions... Maybe he will join you and both of you make bets together. If you keep this secret though, and he finds out about it somehow, now that's the worst possible outcome because he will think: "If she didn't tell me about her gambling habits, what else is she hiding from me?" And all the trust between you and him will be gone just like that.

I believe that if she can convince her husband that she is playing the  gambling for a temporary pleasure, her husband will not forbid her to play it. Gambling by informing the husband will also reduce the human pressure there. But here again if there is something opposite then there may be some problem. But above all the wife must inform her husband so that the bond of fidelity between them can be strengthened. Moreover, if her husband is also willing to bet there, then they both can do better research and take a more suitable decision to win the bet.

I don't know the husband that will be happy with the wife to disclose that she is gambling without profit. Gambling is about profiting and many gamblers have been criticized for gambling without profit and encouraging them to stop. So if the wife is gambling and she is not making profit, what is she going to be telling the husband? Just to disclose to him she has been using family to gamble without profit?

Except she is coming to make a confessional statement to the husband that she has been gambling without profit and she wants to stop.

If she disclose to her husband that she is gambling and the husband see she is not making profit and if she is asking to continue then he will demand to know how long she has been gambling and that will determine if he will support her or not. What about if the husband does not gamble, then this will become another kettle of fish because she has to show she has been profiting for she to continue.

Well it all depends on the kind of environment or how your society views female gambling, so perhaps if a female gambling is actually  a common thing at your place you can consider telling him, but however there are places that has a very bad perception on gambling general let alone female gambling so perhaps if is the kind of environment you domiciled there is no need telling him about your gambling and besides you have been controlling your emotions and your gambling behavior and at the same time making winings so there is no need telling your husband because you may not like the way he will react over it and however the first thing that will come to his mind is that all your money is being spent on gambling and he will make sure to put an end to it. Also in most cases no matter the circumstances surrounding female gamblers is always advisable to share with your husband if you are becoming an addict so that he could guide you although.

I will ask you a question, why should you hide it? What on earth are you thinking to ask that question if it's worth to tell him? Isn't it more comfortable to do gambling without hiding? If he's against it, respect it. But that was the challenge to you, give him some words that should make him think that even if you are into gambling, you still know your responsibility to your family.

Keeping that gambling as private stuff from him will just make things worse.

I have this feeling that One of the reasons why she chose to keep it as a secret is that, her husband doesn't want her to be involved in any gambling activity. Like, He has his own preference when it comes to the person he wants to be with for the rest of his life and a woman who gamble doesn't fit to his standard, But it's also important to note that when you get married, all the problems and issues inside your relationship needs to be addressed in a good way. Always remember that secrecy is not good for a relationship.

Topic reminds me about formed "should gambling be kept in secret" topic (search for it and get general idea from that - that will be the solution for OP). The situation has nothing to do with gender. It wasnt proved that men or women, husband or wife hit "bet" button better. Definitely dont focus on that, because soon "angry on life" people will come and suggest to divorce :D Want healthy relationship - dont keep secrets. Want to gamble - inform people around you so they could help if needed. Easy. Mystery solved.

it's a good idea for you to tell your husband about your gambling because after all, he is your husband and he has the right to know what you are doing. no matter how good your gambling is, it will still be related to your family's finances, so instead of your husband suspecting that you are using your money for something else, it's better if you are honest with him, and told him that you gambled but you were responsible for it. maybe if you are honest with him he will respect you more.

But she should be able to tell her husband so there will be no problems between them later. It is very difficult to accept the fact that one of them likes gambling and often gambles and that sooner or later, it will become a problem for them. And if she doesn't want to be honest with her husband, maybe if her husband finds out, they will fight because the husband feels that his wife has been gambling and didn't tell him. Maybe her husband would also suspect her because she had used the money her husband gave his wife. Anything can happen, so you should immediately tell your husband that he is gambling. Moreover, you agree to share everything with your partner when you are married. But that's up to them because we can only suggest it.

When you do tend to decide or get involved with something and you do see that your husband would really be that getting angry or disappointed against gambling but you did still that decide to play up
and continue without letting him knowing and now asking on what are the things that should supposed to do? You are the ones who could really be able to decide for yourself whether you would really be telling up
these things into your husband or you would really be continuing on hiding it like forever or until you would bust up. For me then it would be better that you should really be telling the truth as early as you could
on which dont let yourself that get caught because it would really be a huge trouble. A relationship without any secrets is always that preferable.

If you are a wife that do really talks or really that in concern in your relationship then you would really be telling all the things which your partner
 wont really be able to have those kind of disappointements. Theres no good on keeping secrets into your partner on which it is really just that
right that you should be honest as much as possible or being that transparent.

Not a simple scenario, right? I think open communication is essential in any relationship. If gambling is a part of someone's life, however somewhat, their partner should be aware of it. Trust is the foundation of strong relationships, and transparency builds it. Sharing one's life is the goal here, not permission.

Moderation is crucial when it comes to gambling. Gambling, like watching a movie or eating out, is something I view as entertainment, just like you. How an act is managed determines its impact. Responsible gambling keeps things fun without causing financial or emotional harm.

As you said, spouses support, not supervise. Partners in a marriage are equals, each responsible for their acts yet willing to aid when needed. This alliance helps navigate back to safer grounds when gambling becomes more than a hobby.

OP your topic made me pause for 5mins before typing and you're trying to take permission from other members on the Forum on how to go about business in your home or what? If you know engaging yourself in gambling will cause you your marriage then why pick interest in the first place?
All those things you made mentioned above are all what a good gambler needs to be called a gambler, if you ask me. You on the other hand don't seem like one who have started gambling in any way.
Lemme say the truth OP,  this story doesn't look real to me. And many would agree with me that we're all tired of all these cooked up stories.
How would you tell me you started gambling and your husband is not aware, or are you telling us that you haven't lost before, that you always win your bet and that's why you finding it hard to quit?🙄🤔🤔.
Let's be real for one sec, nobody gambles for fun, if you do then your aim is never to make profit just to lose. And to wrap it all, you're the best person to advise yourself because nobody advised you to join gambling in the first place (that's of what you saying is even real).

Gambling posses serious risks. The moment you decided to enter the gambling world, you should have told your spouse about it. In marriage, everything should be transparent. You shouldn't leave a detail from your partner because you are now considered as one. Every matter should be laid down on the table and talked about. Open communication and understanding from both parties is very essential in maintaining your union peaceful, respectful, and full of trust.

Considering that you are knowledgeable enough about the consequences of gambling, you should still tell it to your spouse. Privacy when it comes to financial matters should have no place in anyone's marriage to avoid breaking the other's trust and confidence in you. Discussion about your gambling expenditures and other leisures should all be addressed so that the other won't be surprised in finding out your budget allotment. Additionally, you could talk regarding establishing heathy boundaries so both will not grow resentment from each other in limiting how you will enjoy each others individuality and free time.

I understand what you are trying to say and yes there shouldn't be anything secret between her and their husband which is the reason why I said she knows her husband more than us and his level of understanding will determine her decision.
Having said that, let's be honest with ourselves. Is there a relationship that didn't have something one side hid from his/her partner? I'm not talking about something that involves cheat or disrespect.
Some things are hidden from partners due to the respect, and love we have for the person.

I think your opinion is right because it would be better for her if she shares about gambling with her husband. Because if her husband somehow finds out that his wife is gambling then he might get upset after knowing it. And when her husband  I think her husband can support his wife a lot if she tells him about gambling, but again it may be that her husband can't make her to gamble. But she should not talk to her husband about it, if there is a big difference between them later on.  There may be trouble.

I agree about on having that secrets which arent supposed to be shared and not really just that means that you dont respect your partner but rather it is really just that showing that you are really that mindful about on the possible effects that it could give once it would really be known. This is why there are really indeed things in life on which it is really that better that you should really be keeping it as a secret forever on which it would really be just that a normal approach. I agree into those points somehow that when it comes to things like this one on where something it is really that totally against with your husband likings then it would really be just that right and something that worth for it to be told into him because it would really be that creating a potential conflict if things been known.

Just like on what everybody is saying that we do know on what are the risks of gambling that could give, even if we do say that you are really having that good control but when
things becomes a hobby then it would really be that turning out to be something that will really be a default activity and knowing gambling where you would really be gonna need to spend
and this is something that you would really be needing to look up.

I think it won't be a bad idea if you open up to your spouse that you've started gambling. Marriage is all about no secrecy and truthfulness. If you keep hiding it from him and he finds out, I bet you he's not going to be happy with you. Though, you claimed you've been following gambling discussions for some time and you've been digesting some gambling tips, which is good but telling him would be wise because he's going to keep an eye on you to make sure you're on track.

If the husband had enough assets,the woman can easily say his husband to gamble to enjoy.Because enjoyment is different one from the earning,the gambler who had enough money will play gambling only for the entertainment.They never bother about the money returns from the game.The poor gamblers can’t play the gambling as entertainment because they using the gambling only for money earning purpose.If the woman also engaged in the gambling,surely she would not asked her husband to do gambling.Because the gambling was need for money for the rotation as like the business.So the gambling by husband and wife leads to financial problems.

There would really be no problems as long the finances arent really that affected or something that their income could sustain or simply  they arent compromising into those funds which are really that intended for other important means. Husband would really just that easily understand and would really be letting you to play as long there are no potential problems raised on playing gambling such as on this condition on which it is really just that understandable but if the situation is really that totally different or opposite on which your family does have that financial struggle or something that we can called to be standard
then it would be normal that your husband would really be disappointed at you because you've been spending money on something which it isnt really that important.

It depends, while some think that you must tell everything to your partner no matter how small, I personally think that even in a committed relationship some sort of autonomy must be preserved as well, so as long as you are only gambling a few dollars here and there and that is money that is not really affecting the quality of your life then it is OK not to tell him, however if you are gambling more than that, even if you have everything under control, you must tell your partner what is going on so they can budget accordingly.

The society perspective on gambling is gradually changing and alot is beginning to be looked at differently and this is what the majority of people do not understand, sometimes we need to look away from those gender inequality and look at the various advantages that gambling presents to individuals and also the negativity too, because the result of it is what the society is interested I and if you allow the gambling anxiety to take over you and become addicted that is when society will talk about you.
But these days of online gambling where anyone can gahusband'sm the comfort of their home and also make all necessary mistakes and actions without third-party knowledge,  so is hard to even discover which woman is gambling and who is not, and most times we don't even know about it.

I think this is just about the honesty of a wife who wants to reveal about her gambling to her husband, not about her making a profit from gambling and then telling her husband about her profits from gambling, I know maybe the husband will not be happy if he sees his wife gambling but not getting any profit at all because it's the same as wasting money, but a wife also needs entertainment. There's nothing wrong with gambling and the aim is not to make a profit but simply to relieve fatigue with her daily household work.

I think everyone knows that gambling is not always profitable as long as he can stick to his responsibilities and not overdo it then his gambling will be fine and a husband should be able to understand that his wife needs entertainment, not just taking care of the household because with this entertainment a wife cannot will feel inner pressure due to fatigue and most importantly there are no secrets between husband and wife if they want to do something they want.

For me it's better that you will tell your husband that you are involve in gambling cause once you will tell the truth then there's a possibility that your husband will not mad at you cause you tell him before he know that you are a gambler. But if you don't tell your husband then it is still okay cause it's your decision but one thing for sure he will know soon. Cause like what saying says there's no secret that will not revealed  and once that happen then there's a chance that he will be mad and then it cause into misunderstanding.

Hiding something from your partner, especially in terms of gambling, is like activating a time bomb, sooner or later it will explode by itself. You need to tell your partner about the activities you have been doing so far, find the right time to tell it, hopefully his attitude will accept or not be angry with the gambling you have been doing all this time. Never store jackfruit in the house, when in time the aroma will smell, I think you understand what I mean.

Why not, because gambling is not always bad things and I'm sure you do it responsibly, meaning you don't play using money for your living needs, especially if your husband is also a gambler, so you can discuss many things about gambling with him, such as casino games or sports betting, and It would also be better for your husband to find out directly from you rather than from other sources that could make him think negatively about you for hiding it from him.

We only worry about her relationship with her husband if her husband finds out that she is gambling, especially if her husband finds out about it from other people's stories. It can make him angry and will cause arguments between them. No matter how clever we are at hiding our gambling activities, there will be people who eventually find out. If the people who find out are those closest to us, maybe they won't be able to accept it even if we say that we are still okay with gambling. He will feel cheated by you because you have not been honest with him, even though honesty is the most important thing in a household relationship, especially since we spend all the time with them. Hopefully, she can tell her husband, and everything can end well.

Would be funny if OPs husband would also confess that he gambles ;D I really wonder what has triggered OP to hide fact of gambling. Like this is something to be ashamed of or do secretly. Maybe OP is from a country where gambling is illegal, and telling husband is making him partner in crime. And even then it is advisable to tell the truth. Since you are married, this means you are at least an adult, who is allowed to do everything that is legal. Since it is a husband, second closest person (first one is always a mother), I would not hide anything, as he must be the first person to help you.

Everyone I believe have their different ways of reasoning and personal opinions about some vital issues especially when it has to do with personal issues and decisions and that's why it's important to respect everyone's opinion even when they look contrary to your own personal opinion.

If my own wife happens to be gambling without informing me and starts feeling guilty for her actions, the best thing to do for her is to stop gambling totally instead of telling me about her gambling engagements because I'm not gonna find it pleasing that she's been doing that for some time without notifying me. Gambling is a sensitive engagement that a wife is supposed to tell her husband before embarking on it in the first place so I'll find it very disrespectful that she started gambling without informing me so to save us from any kind of drama, it'll be best for her to end every gambling engagements she does in other to free her from any kind of guilt-tripping instead of telling me about it.

Op you understand your husband very well and I'm very sure you should know if you inform your husband about your gambling activities you know how he will react,  if he will be okay with it or not. The most important thing is that if you play gambling responsibly and you are not addicted and you are very sure gambling is not affecting you negatively you don't need to be worried about. For me I think if you are not struggling will gambling like addiction,  playing with all your savings, playing everyday their is no need telling anyone about it. You can keep it to yourself if maybe you feel you husband will have a impression about your gambling lifestyle.

I think honesty is important in relationships. Even well-intentioned secrets put distance between. By telling your husband about your gambling, you're sharing a personal part of your life. Trust can increase. However, sensitivity is a must when discussing it. Highlight your understanding of the dangers your commitment to not allow it hurt your financially, and that it's fun, not a financial strategy. Know his reaction and expect a range of feelings. His gambling perceptions and experiences will impact his response

Transparency strengthens relationships, in my opinion. It fosters understanding and cooperation. If he understands you, he may provide advice or assistance. Frame the conversation to show your responsibility and willingness to be open. This could be a turning point for both parties because relationships depend on honesty and respect

When marriage is built on lies,there is that believe that the marriage will not last,the first thing that needs to be done while they are in courtship is for them to learn and try to understand each other,they must be open to each other in terms of all their deeds.If there is transparency in every thing they do,one party will not lie about his or her activities or engagement in gambling.
Gambling is not supposed to bring problem to any family because it is a means of survival,most persons are training and feeding their family with gambling,so when the wife finds out that the husband Gambles,it's not surposed to be a problem.

I think every partner has the right to know what is happening with you especially if it includes financial decisions. Better, you are husband and wife so he definitely must know that you are gambling. I don't think he will be mad about it. Just my instincts. Maybe he will even just laugh it out.
For me, it's a sign of respect which is why I also told my wife about my gambling habit. Well, she also knows that I am too afraid to bet high amounts which is why she won't stop me from doing it. She knows I can control it and I am responsible enough that I don't let any day without food on the table. The same goes for their necessities and some food cravings whenever we go outside.
The truth is, it's harder to tell it to ladies than it is to men. Most men would not care as long as their partners are happy about what they are doing, especially for ladies who are staying at home and are too bored with their everyday routine. Better just be honest with it, I really feel like it won't go south when you tell the truth. If I am in that position, that will be my reaction. It's not like you are in pursuit of being a professional gambler.  ;D

You two are married so the husband has the right to know, everything between the two of you is conjugal properties, so the money that you've used to bet is also your husband's money, so it's just right that your husband knows where the money is going, it's not good if he finds out that your spending both of your money on gambling.
So better tell her as early as possible it will have bad consequences if he finds out and it will have a bad effect on your marriage.

If you are comfortable asking this question publicly then definitely you should talk to your husband and explain to him that you are gambling just in your spare time and not at all addicted or losing too much money. Look men are not evil, it's just that we want to make sure our life partner is not indulging in any wrongdoing or wasting money on something meaningless like gambling.

I feel that "how" you tell him is more important than "when" you tell him because if you tell him with a guilty face then it will look bad and despite all your efforts, he will believe you have a gambling problem. If you take the time and prepare yourself how you are going to tell him, then it will be much better. You might as well ask him what he thinks about gambling and if he has ever done it himself. Based on his answers you can plot how to inform him about your gambling habit.

I just think that you're enjoying gambling and that you forget your obligation to your husband, your loyalty and your obligation should be with your husband, it's dishonesty if you are doing something that your husband does not know.
You will be hurt also if your husband is dishonest with you husband and wife should share everything even small things and gambling is not a small thing, it will cause a big misunderstanding if he finds this out through other people, so be the first to tell him about this to avoid bad consequences.

I don't think she intentionally doesn't want to tell his husband, maybe she was just enjoying but at some point, maybe she feels guilty and that's why he ask the advise of the majority of members here who might have been in the same situation before.

And even if we haven't experience the same, I think the best advise that we can give is to really tell it right away to his husband. And then explain everything and I have a feeling that being his better half, he will understand what she is going through, so no harm done.

I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

I agree with what you said. However, when gambling turns into a hobby it shouldn't be considered gambling anymore cause that's abusive because gambling is not meant to be a hobby but a game of chance that should be considered participating sometimes that's why casino always advises their user to gamble responsibly.
If a woman or man gambles as a hobby then he/she needs help and it's better to inform the partner about it.

You have a bright  knowledge about gambling before you even started betting and this made you far
from becoming addicted so why not tell your husband ? how long have you been married ? because I may understand
if you are newly wed but if being together for years now ? then I see no problem for him understanding you.

and besides you are in crypto world , enjoying signature campaign and as we knew most of the campaign
now requires gambling posting so how could you communicate in gambling section when you don't understand what is
gambling and how being gambler is?

just continue with limited time and funds in gambling , and tell your husband what he needs to know.

I agree that you need to share even the smallest things with each other, because it is important, because there are almost no such people to whom you can say this. Many will not understand, even friends may stop picking up the phone after this when they see that you are calling them. In general, concealment can cause the onset of mistrust, and this gives rise to other negative feelings. And as mentioned above, the most unpleasant thing for me personally was if I learned such things from a friend and not my girlfriend. It looks like everyone knows but me, I don’t know what could be worse. I know real stories where something similar happened and they were just about gambling.

It is true, I agree with you, if indeed she gambles by being responsible for everything can control everything well including with her finances she has nothing wrong with telling her husband about her gambling habits, because with her telling her husband of course her husband can give a clear comment her husband will give advice or what is the goal for her own good as well as her own family relationship, because gambling is related to money and families can be destroyed because of unstable finances.

also indeed family relationships will be good if there is a sense of trust in each other, and by being open without hiding anything one of them, of course I also if I don't know my partner likes to do things secretly and he tells me I will talk about it, if it can't be eliminated from his habits, then find a way so that it doesn't have a bad impact on the relationship that is being carried out. because as you said, we have to think about it well by considering everything well so as not to take the wrong step.

Perhaps she doesn't feel comfortable telling her husband that she's a responsible gambler. But her husband should know about her gambling activities so that there are no secrets between them. We don't know what will happen if her husband doesn't find out about her gambling activities. Perhaps his trust will immediately decrease, and what's worse is that her husband could leave her because he has been dishonest. By telling her secrets about her gambling activities, at least it can let her husband know and perhaps she can stop gambling with her husband's help. Hopefully, she can make the right decision by telling her husband about his gambling activities.

Don't hide things from your hundred or loves ones, something as serious as gambling need to be told to your husband so he doesn't get angry when he finds out that you have been gambling with money that could have used for other things in the house. Regardless of it being your money that you're using to gamble and not the family money, you still have to tell him so it doesn't spoil your marriage. Gambling has spoiled alot of families, If you love him tell him on time.

If he finds out he'll think you're hiding other things from him and he'll never see you the same again to trust you so don't hide anything from your husband. If you're scared that he'll ask you to stop gambling, take your history of gambling to him so he can see that you're not just losing money but making some profits while you enjoy yourself and also make him to know that gambling won't interfere between your duties as a wife.

I have an alternative solution for you. As you already know the Don'ts of gambling you can start practicing it and control your gambling habits.
Once you have done that and are fully in control of your gambling habits then casually gamble in front of your husband.
He will ask you about it and then you can say him you were gambling casually and then you will know how to proceed based on the reaction of your husband.
If he says to stop then you will find it easier to stop since you are in control of your habits.

I think it better you tell than letting him know your gambling activities by himself of course as a responsible wife after informing him you should let him know that you had a total control of your gambling activities and assure him that your gambling activities wouldn't affect the family financially for instance your husband might suspect that  part of the money meant for buying of stuffs is being diverted to gambling and be transparent from every deals involving both of you moreso you shouldn't let your kids knew that you are involved in gambling activities lastly you should try as much as possible to control your emotion in case of losses by avoiding transfer of aggression to your husband or kid/s.

In relationships that have progressed to marriage, honesty is also a fundamental part and it builds sustainability, but it is not necessary to reveal all secrets to our partner because the first stage of marriage is just cultivating and observing as well as planting the gardens of the soul, if we trust enough, the door of the soul will automatically open. Living together is always very easy to know each other's secret actions and I think the husband here already knows the problem but as long as it's not at a level worth considering, respecting and waiting for the other person to open up is also a good point.

Big problems start from small problems, covering up habits is a small thing, but it will become a big problem someday because gambling in particular (in the case of problem gamblers) will have a negative impact on other aspects. That's why I advise OP to be open with her husband about her current situation, even though there will be cons, OP will find more pros.

In my opinion, she's not doing anything to make her husband leave her. What does it matter what she spends her free money on - going to cafes with her friends, going to the movies or gambling. She's having fun without inconveniencing her husband. At least I think so. But in fact a lot depends on how her husband treats gambling. It's quite possible that he doesn't tolerate it. Let's hope their marriage doesn't fracture after her confession.

Absolutely! Just let your husband know about your interest in gambling and assure him that you're being responsible about it, doing it for fun and not risking too much. Keeping open communication helps in any relationship!

Yes, perhaps that's okay from the point of view of those of us who don't know what type of husband he is because, after all, there are types of husbands who don't like dishonesty between husband and wife. Indeed, there is no problem if the wife goes to spend her money with her friends or with her husband, but this is gambling, and in some places, it is considered inappropriate to do so even though there are husbands who can accept their wife's gambling. But most husbands probably don't like it if their wives gamble because it's usually their husbands who gamble ;D

Yes, we can only wish their marriage well, especially after she admitted to her husband that she gambled. I think it would be better if she could be honest with her husband about his gambling activities so that later, there would be no misunderstandings between them.

it's easy to tell the truth particularly to our spouses, especially if you know there is nothing wrong with your actions and as you've said, you are a responsible in your actions and decisions, you can explain it to him properly so that you will understand each other. always remember that having a good communication and comprehension is the key for a healthy relationship.

It’s always good to be honest with your partner, you just have to do it properly so your husband wont misinterpret your gambling activities. Its better to tell him now because for sure he will still find out, its just a matter of time. Always be responsible, gambling can ruin your family and I’d hope that your husband will understand your sincere explanation and won’t force you to stop gambling because it can be very addicting.

You must consider your decision before you gamble, so the interest in starting gambling will not be realized if you decide not to gamble because you are worried that your husband will not accept this fact even though you can gamble with responsibility and strict rules that limit you from gambling, I think different in this case because I would not approve of my wife gambling, she is the financial treasurer in the family and the wife's duty in the household is to be responsible for her family, I cannot imagine what would happen if my wife gambled and was addicted to gambling, she is sure will lose family savings and financial management will collapse due to gambling.

But however I think there is still another much better choice they can take which is to not be involved in gambling at all, because they are married and of course not being involved in gambling will allow them to fully utilize the money they have for something they need in the family, meaning no unnecessary expenses. But on the other hand it is just a suggestion which in common  sense is a much better option, and yes I respect every choice and decision they will/have taken by staying involved in gambling.

The point is to keep control and boundaries and along with being a responsible gambler, you really have to be strict in applying some of these precautions because as we know that in gambling there are so many things that look tempting that can certainly tempt you, On the other hand, it is not uncommon to find some gamblers out there who end up losing their control and  boundaries due to being too careless until they finally get carried away and end up addicted, so the point is that changes in mindset and perspective are very likely to occur when you  are involved in gambling, so my advice is that you really need to be firm in applying self-control and the boundaries you made before.

If you think it will increase your income and try playing gambling to gain experience and stick to your promises, you don't need to tell him because most likely your husband's answer will not support you and will even disappoint you, but if you are aware and you have gone too far Please tell your husband immediately so that you don't fall into deep gambling

I have the feelings that the husband is reading this thread also unless if he is not a member of this forum, but then we have to face the truth as a community that practices just and right, and for that not telling the husband is a big mess waiting to happen, and if the husband later discovered that the wife is gambling secretly, it may not go down well with him also, and of that be the case, then we need to advice with rhe right set of advice and in my own opinion, is very inappropriate for spause to keep things away from each other, most especially things that involve high risk such as gambling.

If you say the woman should keep this away from the husband, it will eventually results into issues along the way most especially, if and when there are cases as regards to addictions and problematic gambling issues that requires the help of a third-party such as the husband.

Honestly sad that you didn't tell him about this. Put yourself in his shoes and you'd probably be mad at him for not telling you that he's gambling, while I do commend you for being very smart with gambling so there's that. Anywho, it would be a transgression honestly if you don't teach him the ropes of gambling. Cause one way or another a curious man will find a way to know what they want to know, it's better that it come from someone who's responsibly gambling than perhaps a friend that is belligerently wasting his money. Teach him how to play the games you love playing and it could even become a thing that you both do every now and again, which could further your relationship and bond.

Let him know from here on out of all things that you do especially if it involves money. You guys are married and if you have shared accounts this will be a massive bummer and breach of trust in my opinion, if it wasn't, it's still good enough to tell him about it you know.

If you think that your husband needs to know about your gambling activities, then immediately tell him and talk heart to heart that you are a responsible gambler, However, if your husband is someone who cannot control his anger for certain things, then it is better to keep those secrets forever.  Not all couples are able to accept the fact that their partner is a gambler, you alone know what your partner's nature and character are, that can be a consideration whether you want to keep it to yourself or tell him.

Only applicable if you really have that set limitation that you can follow, but most of the time, gambler start getting addicted either they expereinced the decent win or they are losing huge amount of money, both sides have their respective emotions that can lead anyone to engage that much to gambling.

It's better to inform your husband to make sure that there's someone who can look on you, it will help not to lead yourself into addiction, knowing that your husband is monitoring you helps to control and follow that said limitation that you setup.

Sharing the gambling habit is good, because we don't know how we'll be when we're gambling regularly. Someday we might be good and sometimes we'll be in loss and the same could be affecting our lives. By the time there needs to be someone to accept our mistake and redirect towards the right path. Not everyone does it, and when a Women says husband to gamble he should understand what support she had given him and according to that he needs to be responsible and have his limits. Maybe this can help with some sort of healthy gambling habit.

I am not sure how it would differ from you being a woman or a man, at least not where i live. If you are married, and not telling everything how you spend your money, i guess it goes both ways and your husband doesn't need to tell how he spends his money either. And it's totally ok if you want that kind of relationship and you want to keep your secrets. But if you have a strict budget and money is for both of you, and you want to plan it together, you might want to come clean. And then there's the question of why are you keeping those secrets? Don't you think that your husband would accept (or allow) gambling? Or are there some other reasons for it?

That being said, you seem to have a good grasp on how to avoid getting addicted and you are allowed to keep secrets. But if i can suggest that you might want to spend only your own money.

yes, because being dishonest to your partner is a sin. That's called betrayal in a marriage.
If you have been gambling responsibly, I think there's you should not fear telling him the truth, besides, you are as one when you got married, so for sure he'll understand, if he would say no, then you abide since he is still the man, the head of the family.

Why are you gambling in the first place?

If you just want to have fun, or doing it since it's part of your job ^{(i see you are promoting a gambling site)}, I'm sure it's not hard for him to understand. Don't be afraid, being honest is being responsible.

I don't see anything wrong with what you are planning to do to tell your husband. It's better that you say it, especially if you know your husband well enough that he will understand you. Your honesty can even make your wife wonder.

So, I also support the strategies you use in playing gambling and as far as I can see, you are a responsible gambler and you know how to apply self-control and self-discipline as a gambler. So, go ahead with what you are planning.

Honesty and openness about the things that's happening to you in your relationship should be a priority, if you're hiding something from your partner or loved one then the possibility of that relationship maturing to the point that you're together forever is going to go down, I don't say this as someone that's biased on gender or someone that wants to meddle with your relationship but I do think that you should let your husband know about this habit of yours because this involves finances and I don't think that anyone in a relationship appreciates that their significant other is hiding something from them, who knows, your husband might even support you or even join you gambling, this might be your new bonding time as a couple and it's also a good thing for you to be able to be honest with your husband because it eases up your heart and soul because you're not bottling something inside that when left unchecked would explode on you in the worst possible way.

It's better to be open with your husband since clearly you have discipline everytime you play. Therefore I don't think it will become an issue if you tell your husband about this because you're not addicted to it and just playing in moderation and as you've said, for fun.

However, there are things that you can keep to yourself especially if this activity doesn't affect your relationship with the family and your finances. But of course, it's still best to have an open communication with your husband so he will be aware of what you are up to.

At first gambling is not good for women and no man will be happy seing his wife Gambling. Because men alway see women that gambles as inresponsible women. Because if women takes gambling serious, it might cause a serious problem in the family in the sense that woman are like manager of the family and if they fail to manage the family financial issues, it might cause havoc because the woman might be the fund given to her by her husband for family expenditure to play gamble. and always find excuses that might atract third party interference. So its better not to let him know Because if you do it will generate alot of controversies between you both except maybe you have won a huge some of money before letting him know.

I don't know about the cultural differences of different regions and how things work, but based on the rules of marriage and marital partnership, a partner isn't supposed to hide anything from their partner, whether it's husband or wife. There is a level of trust among two people that are married to each other based on which they are supposed to share everything which creates a general understanding among them and they can discuss and decide what one or both partners need and need not to do.

So, I think you shouldn't have hidden it in the first place. I understand that you are using your own money but he is your partner and you shouldn't hide anything from him. So, I would say you should go ahead and let him know because if he finds out about it, that will shatter the trust he has in you which isn't good for your relationship.

A gambler may bring trouble to his family by gambling. But if a husband or wife of a family is addicted to gambling, he should give up gambling for the peace of the family. There are some people who gamble without thinking about the family. Became addicted to gambling. People who get addicted to gambling without thinking about their family have to face many family problems. If a wife is addicted to gambling then her husband should explain his wife and take her away from gambling. And if any  A husband becomes addicted to gambling and his wife's duty is to convince her husband.

Okay i have also seen your view towards this but the point is that he knows that i am into this forum as well earning little via sig promotion, so I think it is better to let him know than keep shuts. However, we've both discussed it and he didn't give any negative feedback towards my involvements rather he was saying that "Na so the hustle don carry me reach"?. So indirectly i understand as a woman I shouldn't go above my limits and bands, and i don't even plans to gamble regularly talks less of becoming an addicted gambler. Btw Who told you that women don't gamble is there any law by our Federation that stated women shouldn't gamble in our country or something similar?

That's a good sign I guess, by hearing that from your partner means that he understand you and trust you in terms of limiting yourself, as long as there's no problem that will raise I guess that words from your partner is an indication that he's giving you the green light just do your responsibility not to dwell that much to avoid any problem to come out.

Gambling is gambling and the bad after effect is something that can ruin your relationship so better to always put that above in any decision making that you'll going to do while playing/gambling.

Depends on the people you’re telling, since not all are sincere to help you or to at least hear your side, so make sure you only tell stories to the real people. If your wife opens about gambling to you then that she is asking for an assurance that you wont be mad and you’ll hear her side. Having a partner should always be open to each other and have a good communication so you can have a healthy relationship, this can also be the way to help your partner when the trouble comes.

Healthy relationship would really be pertaining on having no secrets into each other, it doesnt really need that those personal problems would be able to be reached out into those people
speaking about this and about that. They arent the ones who could help you out but rather it would be better that you should really be that telling honestly into your husband or your wife
that you are really that engaged into something. Having those kind of sincere explaination and asking for some forgiveness when it comes on lying or hiding something from your lived ones
then it cant be avoided sometimes on not to be angry specially if you had been blinded but telling them early as you could then it would might be just accepted and forgiven so easily.

Yes I don't take it as a career or as a must and a must do something without undermining my limits I can't even gamble with the mindset of making a living chasing rewards from gambling and secondly people tends to channel their efforts and thinking on becoming very rich through gambling with this mindset they will always get addicted to turns into serious issues among themselves. When people understand the values of a responsible gambling then they will always learn to set a limitation for themselves without looking out whatever profit they will make or that is to come, when they play or bets any game they should look their limits to save their home.

That is a good thing for you. Another positive result is that you can finally talk with your husband regarding your gambling habits. At least you already have his consent, you can do gambling without being worried about what will be the opinion of your husband about it. As long as you know your limitation, and you don't think that your gambling activities will be a problem between you and your husband in the future, you will be a responsible gambler.

Well, I do not know about your relationship with your husband and how much you both have mutual understanding but still in an ideal family situation husband and wife should not hide anything between them and both should have the big heart to accept each other choices and opinions.

I guess, if you think that you can convince your husband and he won't be angry with you, you can tell him that you gamble without telling him. It can be much worse if he discovers himself that you are involved in gambling but the intensity of his reaction will be much less if you, yourself tell him that you're an occasional gambler.

Again I would repeat try to make your relationship open with your husband so that you do not need to hide anything. It will be good for both the husband and the wife.

It depends.If he is a pussy all house and church and is afraid of all what people might perceive as unhealthy activities it is better to not tell him that you are involved in such activities.In case he is a real man then even if you tell him I don't think he will make a big mess about it and most likely accept what you have been doing,maybe he will start giving some advices and monitor you more than before but overall I don't think it will be a big problem for him.In the end as you see depend on the type of guy your husband is.

Yes, if their husbands really give permission to engage in gambling activities then I think there will be no problems in the family relationship between her and her husband, but I just hope that she will be able to maintain her husband's trust by having a good approach and way of gambling so that things don't happen in the future. And maybe I would advise her to remain firm in applying awareness, caution and vigilance to her gambling involvement because as we know that this activity has a lot of things that look tempting that can certainly change one's perspective and mindset such as the temptation of winning.

It is not uncommon to find gamblers who eventually fall into the addiction phase even though they initially had boundaries and control, as I said above that there are so many things that can tempt you and that means anything is possible and it cannot be denied that you might become one of the next victims. So my advice is to maintain awareness and firmness on the precautions you have in place to keep you safe.

Could be a new way for you and your husband to bond over something really. But I say you guys should proceed with caution. I've seen one to many a story about families being ruined by gambling all because they couldn't check themselves or control their urges and impulses.

It's so easy to lose track of your own self when you're enjoying the company of other people, especially those that you really care about. Even though you're gambling pretty responsibly there's a pretty good chance that you guys may fall in too deep when the both of you start your gambling spree and lose on a couple of games. Both should have a way to check on each other or at least be responsible enough on their own to quit gambling when they are already aggravated with the results of their sessions. As I said this could be a new way for you two to really have fun when other means of enjoying yourselves aren't available at the moment. Both of you teaming up or going against each other on certain games like poker and dice are a real way to connect and enjoy each other's companies even at the comfort of your home. Just need a little precaution and care to make sure you guys don't get addicted to gambling. And of course, you should let him know about it and be honest with him as well so trust can be built between you guys.

Even if she doesn't tell him, he will know about this secret at some point. It's impossible to hide a gambling routine, because it directly interferes on the financial life of the couple. The husband will notice there is money missing, so he will ask the wife where she has been spending it. If she lies, it will get even worse, as the husband will become highly suspicious of her and will start looking for left tracks of the money. He just need to check bank account's history to see deposits made at casino platforms.

If she decided to lie, then I fear it's the end of the marriage, because he won't trust her anymore, doesn't matter the situation. And without trust, no marriages can exist, at least in a true way, although there are people who decide to remain together solely for formal reasons, to not disappoint the society or not be criticized by people around.

To tell the truth is the best alternative, despite the consequences.

Women generally don't like gambling much like my wife is always against gambling if I want to gamble it has to be done secretly. And if a woman in a family encourages her husband to gamble without stopping him, then that family will face many problems.  However, women in most families do not like gambling, which is why they pressure their husbands to stay away from it and reduce the effects of gambling on men.  And in married life, no man can continue to gamble for long, hidden from his wife

Honestly as couples, we should be able to know ourselves well and be also accountable on each other, there's no how we can make a decision on our own without involving our partner, of your wife is just making a discovery of you being a gambler now over the time being you both have been together then you're a cheat and not to be trusted, there's no point hiding for your wife whom you're or what you do as long as you're being confident about it, so such woman can rake on her husband more than enough if she got to discover such.

All the OP's points mentioned are correct, and if all the points are actually done well there is no problem.
However, the problem with the points mentioned by the OP is that there are no points of important obligations that the wife must carry out in taking care of the household, husband, children and other important needs. And if these points are implemented along with the points mentioned by OP, then overall it will be safe. And I'm just afraid that everything won't go well, or maybe there are some wifely obligations that have been neglected.
And I personally would forbid my wife from gambling, and I have no problem with her gambling responsibly, having fun and so on. And I'm worried that my wife will neglect some of her work or obligations and also be a bad example for the children.

A relationship without having no secrets is much better and much preferred rather than on having a partner which does have those hidden things or secrets on each other.
You would really be that definitely be ending up on having that kind of possible arguementation on the time that one of you would really be caught up something on doing the things
which arent supposed to be done or simply that the other isnt really that liking specially on doing gambling on which on the time that you do get caught then it would surely be a
problem and this is why it would be always best that you should really be honest most of the time. This is why its better to tell him rather than on getting you caught.

I think there is one missing there and that is being a responsible wife/partner.  I think it won't matter for the husband if his wife is engaged in gambling as long as the wife still do her part in the family.  Even if the wife done all those listed things stated by @OP if she is irresponsible when it comes to her task in the family, the husband will mind his gambling activity.


I believe the husband will be ok with the gambling involvement of his wife as long as the obligation of his wife is not compromised due to gambling activities.


This is confusing, you will forbid your wife from gambling even though you have no problem if she gamble responsibly and I do not think that a gambling wife will be a bad example to the children as long as she do her responsibility and prioritized it over her gambling activity.

What is mentioned is in my opinion and it all depends on the husband, even though the points mentioned by the OP and the point of his obligation to carry them out well are his rights and I am just giving my opinion.
However, I personally say that I will not let that happen because there is a possibility that several points of the wife's obligations will be neglected, especially in the long term.

I hope you understand what I mean.

This question doesn't really have a universal answer. The first question is if the husband is a gambling hater. Often times when husbands find out their wives are gamblers they usually get very angry with them especially because they feel their wife may be an addict who had been hiding it from them for a very long time.

A wife should understand if the husband is a gambling hater or he actually tolerates the act  before beaking the news to him. This will prevent an unnecessary argument or misunderstanding between the couples.

Come to think of what OP said, I have not seen a woman or a lady that has a gambling addiction, could this be because of their nature of because we have few of them in numbers that gamble? But we have many of them that come to land based casino to have fun and play all sort of games and yet you never seen them depressed like the way guys do or even show this obsession with gambling, it's always the makes that want to gamble and more money or maybe the nature of man because they are risk takers and are seen as the providers.

If you are married, your husband has every right to know what you do and every of your activities, I'm speaking from religion views and not some western marriage of a thing where everybody does their thing. In Africa, you must tell your husband what you do because he bears your full responsibility and anything thag happen to you. There is nothing bad if you tell your husband that your gamble and you do it from your phone, that will save you from explanations any day you win large amount of money and that will prepare him so you don't get addiction because he will also be watching you closely.

You put yourself in a bad position OP. It's like you feel that you're doing something wrong and making things worse by not telling him. First of all, ask yourself if gambling is a bad thing. Is he opposed to it? Doe he feel like it's a sin? What are the things that stop you from telling him?
I'm asking about all this because if you had a new hobby, like arranging flowers, and you'd spend some of your money on it, would you tell him? If the answer is yes, what's stopping you from telling him that you gamble? Are you afraid he'll leave you for it, or demand that you stop? If it's not a sin and he's not a recovering addict, or someone who hates gambling for no reason, just tell him. What's the worst thing that can happen?

There should be some level of trust and honesty between husband and wife, and if it's my wife in question, I will like for her to tell me everything, even if I will not like it. At least hearing it from her will go a long way for me.
 
And secondly, you said you are not using his money, and I believe he is also aware of your activities in this forum, which means you are exposed to a lot of information that can guide your part in responsible gambling, and you are also in a casino campaign that might need you to know more about what you are advertising here in the forum, so you might not even get a negative response from him as you might think as things turn out better than we expect them to be sometimes.

I can never argue with you since everyone has their own way of thinking, and I assumed that whatever others said about something was accurate because they had a reason for it. When it comes to two best friends, they believe things should be done transparently to build trust; husband and wife are far more than best friends because they live and do things together; I don't believe gambling can be done secretly because of the danger involved; as you said, if the wife decides to keep it a secret, what if the husband later notices? I believe the first thought that will come to his mind is that his wife is keeping it a secret, and this alone will reduce the trust he have for her.

As for me, I don't like gambling, despite the fact that I would appreciate it if she told me, and even though I can stop her, if she tells me, I will know what to do to avoid problems with her gambling habit.

There is even an expression that is appropriate here - everything secret sooner or later becomes clear. And the wife will definitely find out, but the main thing is from whom and when. These could be the husband's friends from whom he borrowed money and did not return it. After this, any wife will be surprised and think that maybe he is not telling anything other than this. Although until this moment she was sure that there was not a single secret from each other. This could be the first crack in your strong alliance. Someone will try to forgive such behavior, but remembering it every day will not be able to bear it anymore and ultimately the union will fall apart. The husband should have dared earlier and said everything directly. After stories like this, it’s better to think about whether it’s worth hiding anything about each other...

You have to follow your intuition and what you think is right. We as men, sometimes we're also hiding our activities like gambling to our wives because we don't want them to know that we're on it.

Or there will be a point of our lives that they might look for the extra money that we have but then, they will have no clue that it's already been spent on gambling and already have lost.

But if you're conscience tells you to tell your husband for him to be aware of it, do what is necessary based on your intuition.

You either choose honesty in your relationship, or secrecy and the "I know better" stance. That's your choice.

Personally, I always choose the first one. We share bank accounts, cars, whatever and we talk about everything and make plans together. If your idea for marriage is that you keep your secrets, eventually he's going to find out because you're together all the time. You're going to let it slip somehow and then you're going to regret it because he'll know you were dishonest so you can do it again. It's easy to destroy trust and very hard to rebuild it.

One reason why some couples get separated is due to keeping secrets. I don't think it is a shameful act if we tell our partner about it and it is a part of the relationship to let our partner what we have done. And while we are talking about gambling, it should not be hidden because it already involves money and that should need approval from our partner. It is really a big mistake not to tell it and you're right, that is another form of dishonesty and that would be the start of big trouble and assumptions that there is more that is hidden.

I'm not sure, if I have the right advice to you. however, if you are a woman, especially if you are married, you should know that the habit of keeping secrets will usually have a bad impact. Likewise, if the situation were the opposite, how would you respond if your husband secretly liked to gamble. what is certain is that if things are kept secret, they will usually invite an unpleasant response, especially if they are known indirectly. in other words, for example, if you are caught secretly gambling.
in fact, I don't know you, not even your husband. so, you yourself can assess your own husband's characteristics. in your opinion, is your husband a typical neutral person or someone who upholds rights and freedoms? If that's the case, you can immediately open up to your husband. but with the condition, you have to explain it and take the time for it. so that there are no misunderstandings or missed information, prepare in advance the ideal words that will be used in your discussion with your husband. then, you can share your story and tell the truth. give him confidence, that you are just doing it for fun and nothing more. also give your husband an understanding about gambling, that in essence you gamble not to seek wealth, get additional income, but rather for entertainment and do it for fun but with certain limits. Tell your husband that the money you spend as gambling capital does not interfere with basic needs or does not use money that should not be used for gambling. You have to give him understanding from various points of view, that way your husband will understand and comprehend what you are doing.

Note, what I said was aimed at husbands who really don't know gambling or can be said to be lay people. However, if your husband is the type who thinks gambling is something wrong or something like that, your job will take time to give him insight and understanding first. Try not to be suspicious, so let it flow like you're having a discussion. most importantly, avoid arguments.
By the way, I hope what I say can help you, especially if you can do it more creatively.

Yes, it is true what you said, that the woman must tell her gambling activities to her husband. Because he is no longer a child, if he has to play with secrets. Both of them are old enough to be able to understand each other.

And here I don't know for sure the main reason OP decided to gamble, perhaps because she didn't get enough attention and affection from her husband. OP decided to look for other pleasures, namely gambling. But whatever the reasons behind it, however, as a wife, you need to tell them about the gambling activities you do, because no matter what position you are in, you are already married, where you are already part of your husband's responsibilities. So what the wife does, the husband will be responsible for it, both in this world and in the afterlife.

There's nothing wrong. It is a way to give the husband the free mind to gamble and keep him under the radar. This also makes the husband know his limits and gamble than just going on the flow and losing. Transparency between the two will increase love, and the same used to give moral support. Even if the husband have experienced a massive loss the wife will stand for him and console. This will make life better than just losing and thinking unwanted things.

Man should be respect by telling them what is going on since you are the wife, you should not hide this things to him if you get addicted to gambling and he found out , your family is loosing money he will think that you are cheating, and might end bad for the both of you and your child if you have, your responsibility is for your family and being responsible is telling your husband this things.

You tell her of course. Why hide it? You are husband and wife so I guess the two of you should be fully open about each other's activities, hobbies, experiences, etc.

Why do you even hesitate to share it with your husband? Are you afraid that he will get mad at you or he will stop giving you a share of his income?

I think there's no problem sharing it with your husband because you are a responsible gambler. And then you two discuss how you should handle it.

Hiding it doesn't help. It would be a bigger trouble if he catches you gambling with him not having even a little clue that you have been doing it secretly.

I support gender equality, no matter what gender you are, I personally believe that you should still say that you are doing gambling to your husband given that gambling is an hazardous thing that could possibly lead to addiction, it would be better that your love ones are supportive on the things that you love to do. Though this depends on the person you are telling because we all have different views and opinion about gambling, your husband might be anti-gambling because of the experience he had that you didn't know. He might tell you to stop doing gambling at worst. Evaluate yourself on how much you know about your husband, you are the only one who can understand the possible reaction of your husband.

It's your call fbut personally with the context that you gave, I don't see nothing harmful on saying that you are engaging on gambling activities.

I think you are very happy in married life because your wife rules you a lot and seems to love you. If you gamble without listening to your wife it is not right for you. Because gambling is bad addiction it can ruin your life. My  Ex girlfriend's husband was addicted to gambling and lost all his money in gambling and committed suicide. Now I am thinking of marrying my ex girlfriend I think my ex girlfriend can keep me away from gambling.

It is equal, as some men don't like gambling so some women don't also like gambling.
Generally, people don't like gamble because their misconceptions won't let them believe that gamble is safe, if they don't gamble with loan money or selling their personal belongings to gamble.
The reason why some people don't want to gamble is because how they have seen some gamblers that have do a lot of things so that they can gamble, some have sold their houses and lot more of their properties to gamble.

I agree with you and indeed hiding things that should be known to each other can lead to misunderstandings and in the end disputes that lead to destruction will definitely occur.
As couple, husband and wife must be able to understand and complement each other so that whatever one of them lacks, there will be someone who can complement it, and when problem occurs, the solution or solution must be done together.
Gambling in most countries does not have prohibitive regulations and most countries have legalized gambling, so when see or know about gambling activities, think it can be accepted well.
The most important thing is openness, honesty and also being able to understand each other, so whatever is done if it does not exceed the normal limits of woman, I sure husband will be able to accept it well.
A husband is responsible figure and is leader in family so that when he doesn't like what his wife is doing, advice and suggestions will definitely be given, and even guided to better path.

After all, we as men prefer and respect every honesty expressed from our respective wives.
This is form of affection for wife, namely being able to accept all shortcomings and also forgive and guide wife.

True, he has a wife who is very caring and concerned about him, I think it seems like his wife has a good understanding in the overall point of view of gambling, she can really conclude that in gambling there are more negatives than positives, if you understand what gambling really is then you will also have the same point of view as that woman, we can see many examples and maybe even you are also aware of the fact that in gambling losses usually always dominate more than wins that only come occasionally and with this means that if you can't stop or just limit it then you will lose money slowly in a certain amount.

So I think if you are experiencing the same scenario as that family where the wife is against gambling then I think it's better to reconsider, don't let you experience problems in your family relationship with your partner just because of gambling which is really an activity that is not recommended because of the many dangers that might befall you. On the other hand, like your story that your ex-girlfriend's husband committed suicide and that is the bad impact of addiction that makes a person suffer from many problems that make him depressed to do things out of control.

If husband cannot trust his wife then there will be no peace in the family. A wife should share everything from gambling to her husband. As OP mentions, the wife is not an addicted gambler. But she may feel shy that her husband might think badly of her if he knows about her gambling. But she should also know that if her husband knows about gambling behind her back, it may create a bad attitude towards her. So if the woman informs her husband about her gambling before he knows it, there will be no rift in their relationship.

I agree with you, because as husband and wife of course they have to be open with each other, not by keeping things a secret from each other, including gambling, because even if one of them gambles, if it doesn't disturb their family relationship then it's possible that the other party will too. I won't mind it, but if the other party is against activities that can be done, such as gambling, and he tells you to stop and stay away, that's because he doesn't want anything bad to happen to himself and his family relationships.

I think it's normal for the husband to be angry because gambling shouldn't be done, because gambling has an extraordinary impact, and being angry doesn't mean it's without reason, but it's a sign that the husband loves his wife so he doesn't want anything bad to happen. hit their family. That's right, just hiding it won't help her, but it will only make the problem bigger because the husband doesn't know about her habit, and it's worse if the husband finds out about it from someone else like his wife's friend. , if it's like this, in my opinion, there will be big problems in a family, and of course this shouldn't happen, because this could lead to divorce.

It has to be, it's not about being responsible in admitting something because it's a habit, whatever is done especially if it has become a fairly frequent activity, if it's a form of acknowledgment and if it's not done it becomes a mental burden, that's right. As long as you don't use emergency money or your own money (from work) for your personal needs, I'm fine with it.

You're a good wife for wanting to maintain honesty and it's not too late as long as you haven't stopped gambling.  Honesty is valued more by me than knowing everything that is hidden and known from others. Gambling is practically the same as you describe, although in reality it is enough to start the money you want to play and stop with enough profit even if the vapo or loss is a little bit the point is to manage expectations, and if the prediction is of course even though the general discussion but similar to speculation. Because in each country, gambling may be a tradition even though it is packaged in each game, either among humans or the system in the mobile app.

I don't think your husband will be disappointed for too long with your decision to tell the truth, although there is the potential for him to be a little pensive because he is afraid that you have crossed the line, or will increase your time schedule for working hours and taking care of the family at home, worried that you have a lot of energy. But I think you will still be accepted and become a wife in the house as long as you gamble within reasonable limits and do not harm the whole house ;D

I am very happy in my married life like op because my wife takes good care of me and always tries to keep me away from bad activities like gambling. I used to gamble in front of him for some time and he didn't say anything but he followed my activities now he doesn't let me gamble. He realized that I was slowly becoming addicted to gambling. My wife started speaking against my gambling from the day she came to know that I took a loan from the bank and squandered the money by gambling. Glad to hear you are still keeping up with your Ex girlfriend.  he he he

Gambling doesn't need gender. It isn't exclusive to men nor women. Anyone who wants to gamble as long as they are at the right age and have the means to do so if free to bet and play. The same way people could also avoid gambling because they have their own decision to begin with. Some men and women might not really like the idea of gambling, and that's the truth. This is mostly because of their own misconceptions of gambling and also because of the negative connotation of it. We can't really blame them for having such idea because it is somehow true that gambling can be a scary thing depending on the person's ways of handling it. It will really boil down on how a person can control his emotions and urges to avoid falling into the trap of gambling addiction.

Husband and wife must trust each other, but hiding a wife's gambling activities from her husband can cause problems between husband and wife. A wife should not be ashamed of her husband because that is what she does, and it is better if she is honest with her husband so that there is nothing to hide from her husband. Her husband might be able to provide a solution to what his wife is doing. A good husband will not want to see his wife fall into gambling and will do something to get his wife to leave gambling. There are still many fun activities they can do, and it's not gambling where if you gamble, there will definitely be risks that must be faced. And that risk can be greater if there is no responsibility. And before bigger problems occur, the wife should immediately admit her gambling to her husband.

Gambling is good but I think it is very stupid to gamble with a loan from the bank. Because the loan you gambled with did not work properly. I think if your wife was not by your side, you might have lost all your money in these few days. Gambling would ruin the back. So I would tell you that if you are going to do something big, you should consult your wife first so that you don't get into any big danger. I think your wife wouldn't want you to have any big problem. So it will be good for you if you share everything with your wife.

How about if you refuse to let him know and he later finds out himself? Have you considered how his reaction would be? You know your husband very well more than anyone and you can guess his stand on gambling entirely or women involved in gambling. Just coming across the post now and I believe you have gotten series of opinions already. I did not read through all the pages, I don't know if someone has given similar opinion like the one I am about to give. I would advise you to initiate a conversation with him about gambling gradually and from that discussion you can be able to know his stands. If it's positive, you can continue with the discussion and tell him what you are doing and if the reaction is negative, don't bother telling him and stop gambling before he finds out to avoid problems.


You might have other reasons why you choose to have this opinion but if it is because of the above stated reason, I will disagree with you because it is not convincing enough and besides, the poster already gives insight on how she's managing her gambling habits. I understand where you are heading to based on how delicate women emotions can be but gambling is not a respecter of any gender and I see it unfair to conclude that women are more susceptible to its effect than men. What is necessary is gambling education and the risk involved to both gender not gender stereotyping to exclude female gender from gambling space. They should be allow to enjoy their right as well but I also do not support extreme gambling for women. It must have a limit because women can not handle frequent tension associated with gambling.

It is really just that putting a gun into your head if we do speak about getting up some loan and then you do really gamble out of those funds completely on which simply you arent that making use of it into more worthy manner. It might really that sound that impossible but there are actually people who do really make out such step and really make out such decision due to extreme or severe gambling addiction and this is why they do really end up on having this kind decision and later on they do make out those kind of regrets because of too much debt on which they do make themselves getting wrecked because of too much loan.

Basing up into the situation or condition then it would really be that advisable that you should really be telling things into your husband because once you do make yourself that
being secretive then it would really be that possibly be creating that kind of conflicts because lying is never been that a good thing for a relationship.
it would be always best that everything should be told and be transparent.

It's not just about obligations or responsibilities not being fulfilled or taken care of, but it's about the trust that is being broken. When you are in a relationship, especially if it's a marriage, you would expect your partner to share everything with you, and by everything I mean every single thing that they do or happens or whatever else that one can think of, and if one day, all of a sudden, you come to know that she has been secretly doing something without telling you, how would that feel? Ask yourself.

Most of the time, we hide things from others because we think those things are not for them to know as they will either get angry, not allow us, or because what we are doing isn't ethical. But if there is something so casual, like gambling for fun, as OP said she doesn't have intentions to get richness from it, so I don't see any point why she had to hide it from him in the first place.

I think differently, this call for full transparency has always seemed to me to be uncalled for, telling the important things to your partner is a must, I agree on that, but telling them even the most minute and insignificant things is not necessary, as an example if I bought a TV this is something I would tell to my partner at the time, but if I bought a bottle of water, why should I go through the trouble of telling them about an insignificant purchase?

Its a must thing if you do really want a life on which there's no hiding nor secrets because if you do put up yourself into your husbands conditions on which you are really that getting blind on something which you dont really like, then you would really be that happy? Then it would really be just that better that you should really be telling those things directly into your husband
and would really be that admitting into the things that you are dealing with and dont wait for him to be the ones to bust you up on the things that you are dealing with.

When it comes to marriage life then having secrets is never been that good, it wouldnt really be giving out that kind of result once you do get caught.
Trust would really be that mainly be that affected on which it might be lasting up for a lifetime.

Opening up to your husband is a good thing, who knows, he might also be gambling without your knowledge. If yes, you are very lucky to have a life partner who has the same hobbies.
Regarding the points you want to convey to your husband, it won't have any effect as long as it doesn't disrupt your household's cash flow.
Because gambling does not require gender A or B, everyone has the same right to pleasure as long as it does not harm other people.

Unless you damage your household's cash flow and then you tell your husband, that will be a complicated problem.
Because the main problem in a husband and wife relationship is an economic problem, right?

It's not a questioned if it's worth it or not. It's good that your partner knows your involvement in gambling.

Since you are responsible gambler at the end, expect that you won't end up in an argument with your partner. You can start the discussion by taking things as funny as it should be like you will mentioned gambling in a fun way and considered it just a normal activity the same way you are doing your other hobby. Your partner will surely get along with that discussion also in a fun way. It's good that we don't keep secrets to our partner especially gambling.

As long as it doesn't affects the family cashflow and personal responsibility of the women it has nothing to be feared with having a woman gambling but best done with the knowledge of the husband as you said,who knows maybe the husband also is gambling secretly, and lookinyflr ways and opportunities to let the wife know also.

And if the wife open up to him, it then means alot for both paterners since the both of them will be collaborating and having the fun together at all time since both now have same hubby.

My advice will be inline with that which I already share with you on altcoinstalk, and that is that, telling your husband you are into gambling is completely up to you, as to me, gambling is a prerequisite or should I say, something you must do as a promoter of a gambling casino.
Promoting casinos on this forum requires us all to engage in gambling discussions on daily basis, how will you effectively blend into a gambling discussion is you yourself is not a gambler, or have no single knowledge of what gamble is or feels like?

So, for me, if I was you, I either will tell him or not tell him, it's completely up to me, it's not an obligation or whatsoever, it's what I am required to do based on what I do online to make money.

For example, I've been gambling for years now, and my wife does not know about it, and the truth is that, I should have stopped gambling a long time ago, but because I am required to engage in gambling discussions as often as possible, I have to keep gambling from time to time, to stay updated with the latest stuff, and have what and what to share with the gambling community.

Husband might not really be that much in concern if he do sees out that it isnt really that affecting or compromising their budget which it is really that unlike into the condition that they do have
 that struggle way of earning and then suddenly you have caught your wife or you've known that shes really that doing gambling on which we do know that when it comes
to gambling then spending up money would really be that standard or default. This is why it would really be that best that you should really that know on what are your priorities
and dont let your partner would be caughting up on what you are  doing specially if its really that against on him/her because it would really be a huge quarrel
but if there's no big money that involved and only just peanuts then it wont really be that something that severe.

I think that would be worth it, surely a guy can understand as long as you don't gambling what is meant to be for future use. You're in marriage and for sure you'll understand that everything you do is surely involve the other half, that's what my parents doesn't tired to tell me. Gambling or not, opening something will mean respect and honesty.

As someone's husband, i always tell her that i do this and i do that, currently doing this and previously did that. There's nothing wrong about telling it, as long as you didn't make loans for gambling and never sold things that came from your savings. Especially the things you mentioned since you're the kind of person who knows how to control and manage things (based on what you have said), I think he deserves to know those things as your husband.

The question why is that, why would a woman that is already married decided to gamble? What would have triggered her interest to indulge in gambling? This not a bad ethics and I would never support that. If it is in a case of a single mother, I could concluded that she needed money to take care of her child. In a case when she has an husband, it looks absurd and not a good lifestyle. Society sees women gambling as irresponsible especially in a region where their is no much of internet influence. Anyone can decide to do whatever they like but not in a case where they wife would be gambling and the husband does not know about it.

There are instances that it has been with her when she was single then decided to quit when got married but that wouldn't be erased instantly and that urge her to gamble again. Or, just for leisure purposes considering her (the OP) seems to be in control of what she does. If it's online gambling I can attest that even my close relatives do it and they're just plain housewives, nothing much to do in free time seems to be their way to pass the time or to try their luck.

Totally depends on what kind of person are  you or simply being wife. Lets say that they are housewives but we do know that gambling isnt something that to be that ideal for you to deal with
into those vacant time.Although no one does have the rights on what we should gonna do into our lives but dealing up with something which you would really be needing to make some
deposits or spending then it isnt something ideal nor really that preferred because it might really cause up that financial devastation if things turns out to be not be able to control well.
We do know that women arent really that someone whose really that good when it comes on handling situations specially into those who could cause that emotion impulsiveness
and on the time that they are on stress then this is where real different story would really be beginning.

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she is in a situation because his side job involves gambling just as what she said in the OP. whether to tell her husband that she gambles sometimes or not, its up to her since she knows her husband more than we do.

but i would suggest not to tell after all it's just her job. tell him about it, maybe just spark interest in the husband and may ask more about it and probably gamble as well.

Yes, as many people say, it is not easy to stop gambling activities, even if for example you have stopped and managed not to touch gambling for some time, there are still memories and feelings of curiosity that can be an encouragement for you to try your luck again. and finally everything returns to the initial situation where you will start to have difficulty again stopping or ignoring the activity even though your goal is only for recreation.

Online gambling gives all gamblers the freedom and convenience to get involved whenever and wherever they are and of course I can confirm the statement you made that housewives usually have more time at home because their work is not too heavy and does not require a lot of time to complete. homework, therefore it is possible that when they are already in a boring situation without any activities they have the possibility to try their luck, I think this is a possibility that has quite big potential.

Gambling is never a bad thing and telling your husband that you gamble is the ideal thing to do. It will be bad if he finds out by himself.  By implication, he will feel that there are other things you might be hiding from him.

What matters in gambling is your ability to control the situation and manage your loss. However, since your involvement in gambling has not affected your relationship, lifestyle, or finances then, your husband will not pick any offense.

Don't be surprised that your husband might also be gambling. Hence, tell him. Men are overthinkers. Don't let him figure it out on his own. His reaction might be pathetic.

As a wife, opening up and informing your partner that you have involved in gambling does not seem appropriate. Most men would perceive it as a sign of desperation and risky behavior caused by their expectations of the best from their spouses, rather than random women who gamble as another source of money. Facts: Most men consider women who gamble to be idle and lazy; perhaps they have no right to evaluate any activity because the women in issue are grown enough to know what they want; anything that makes you happy, do it.

It will depend on his response towards this, but if both of you do share everything together I think telling him about it wouldn't be a bad idea, note if your husband is someone that condemns gambling, he won't find it funny, but still telling him is a good decision in the right direction, your husband may feel bad because he might feel that you are too anxious to make money by all means and again their are some part of the world that doesn't encourage women involvement in gambling, they see it as not being traditional for women, I didn't say that women are prohibited to gamble in that part of the world but it is been seen as irresponsibility if a woman indulge in such act, I will also advice you that if you are doing such, you should thread with caution.

As a married woman, is not wise for you to keep anything from your husband and something as risky as gambling that needs all the advice that you can get to help you maintain a stable and mindset that will help make the best of decision at all time.
This is why as a woman, you will be needing the help of the husband to stay at best position while gambling,  because majority of men have good k knowledge of gambling and even if gour husband happened not to a gambler, he will still ha e o e or two experience about gambling that can help you as a man and if you also need to retain the trust between the both of you, yoh must have to share what os going on with you with your husband

The keypoint on here is about having that no secrets into each other, no matter what on the things that you are getting involved into as long you are really that open or really that letting
the other side on the things that you are dealing. You are already married and it is really just that right that you should really be that honest just like i said earlier.
There would really be no problems if two of you would really be that open to each other, no matter how small it is because nothing beats out on having a relationship
which is really that open to each other and there's no secrets.

In speaking about gambling then its not bad to gamble, telling it wont really be an issue.Issue comes when you are already
spending tons of money just for you to gamble.

It's okay if the wife tells her husband that she also gambles. But a wife should be able to see when her husband is not busy and relaxing so they can chat about many things. It will also increase the closeness between the two of them so that there will be an interesting discussion between them. Maybe initially, the husband could not accept his wife's explanation, which was normal because if the husband gambled and told his wife about it, his wife would definitely do the same. So that's only natural. The wife can explain more about why she gambles to her husband, and the wife should be honest with her so that her husband does not get too angry. The wife can also say that as long as she gambles, she can be responsible well, and maybe later, her husband will ask her just to stop gambling because there are serious impacts behind gambling. And if the husband asks the wife to stop gambling, the wife must obey him and not indulge her ego because it is their household.

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

When we are in a relationship, whether we are dating or husband and wife, we should be open with our partner and that we don't need to hide anything which will ultimately cause arguments or commotion and if we are married it will definitely cause chaos which will make the children uneasy because they see their parents fighting. I always apply this to myself, if my partner is not honest, I will definitely be angry, therefore I always say anything to my partner so that there is nothing to hide between us.

Sometimes what causes people to hide things from us is because they feel that their partner will prohibit them, so they do things that are prohibited in secret without their partner knowing. But have we ever thought that any prohibition is only is for our good. Whereas a wife has the responsibility of taking care of the house and children a husband definitely thinks that if his wife gambles, it will interfere with his activities and is also not good for him, so most husbands usually forbid it his wife gambles not without reason.

Yes, that's what he meant by discussing this gambling problem with his partner so that no misunderstandings would occur. This will allow them to discuss more closely and express what they want. This is why there must be openness from the wife about her gambling activities to her husband so that the husband can understand that his wife only gambles periodically and is still able to look after herself and be responsible for her gambling activities.

If her husband advises her to start reducing her gambling activities until her wife can give up gambling, that would be even better because neither of them would think about allocating funds for gambling. They can shift their money allocation to other things that are more important than just gambling.

it's good if this is the case because the husband can be handled. in real life when a woman starts working and earns her own money while married, it's gonna start a tension between the two. i could be wrong but when a wife asks something like this means she has doubts about what her husband thinks.

we may have to consider where they live since she is from Nigeria. men there are dominant inside the house and will take all the money from their wives. from what i know.

I think that in every couple there should always be communication, there should not be any coverts or anything like that, things should always be that way , personally I am a person who also has his wife, has children , a nice family , but when she likes something that I don't, then I try to see something that doesn't negatively affect her life or mine or my children's , and if I see that they don't have any type of impact then I support her, I don't porbelma, things can be like that, now, if the rbelma is from a casino, and his way of playing, the first thing you do or what I would do would be to ask him the main thing, how much are you spending? because I see that if you are Spending a lot and without control, it will give you a couple of warnings , and that with money you have to be Careful , because it is very easy for you to fall into addiction if you do not have the Required control , it is something that Sometimes people cannot control , but they must.

  In this case things must always be shown in the correct way, inventions cannot be made with money, expenses in a casino must always be minimized so that the chances of winning can be increased, if we do not have the total understanding of how You should behave in a casino, it is better not to do it, it is better to lose help, as I have always said, if there is no money willing to lose in a casino, it is very easy to lose control, waste all the money you have at a time, and look for more to be spent again, and that is in accordance with the emotions, the impulses and with everything that has to do with good play, so every time we play or our partner plays, it would be good to tell him to play in our presence and see how he behaves with money, and if he puts money willing to lose or not, and how he reacts to basic decisions, based on this, it is the easiest way to determine his style and where the mistakes.

so, that's why it's very important for couples when they want to talk about something sensitive, they have to look at the right situation to be able to say everything that needs to be discussed even if in the end there are some words that they don't agree with but at least if the conditions are peaceful, they definitely won't there will be arguments or misunderstandings and when discussing sensitive matters such as gambling, if you are not allowed to gamble, of course there is always a solution and well, as you said, gambling nowadays is not a bad thing so a wife can give confidence to her if he can maintain her responsibilities and remain a good wife who takes care of her children and gambles when she has free time.
I'm sure that as long as everything is discussed comfortably, our partner will definitely give us freedom as long as we don't cross the limits that have been determined previously.

Everything should be opened and you wont really be finding any problems in regarding into your relationship towards your partner on which you wont really be that making yourself
having those kind of doubts and anxiety that you might really be caught on what you are doing. This is why it would really be that better that you should really be telling
things no matter how small it would be because something that wont really be that liked and once you do get caught then it would really be ending up that kind of possible arguments
on which it isnt really that healthy for a good relationship. You should really at least know on what are those things which your partner is liking or not.

But in my opinion, the negative point of view of the community on gambling will still persist and most likely this negative point of view will continue to persist until an unspecified time, because obviously the risk of gambling will still be there and this is what the couple is afraid of, namely when the gambling committed by one of their partners is no longer helped over time or in the sense that it has entered the phase of chronic addiction, the impact will be felt by all family members there.

On the other hand, I agree that communication is indeed one of the good approaches in terms of maintaining good family relationships, having good communication along with being able to balance a good mindset between the two parties will be useful for solving any problems that occur in the relationship, and on the other hand I really hope that they will be able to consider gambling activities from various sides, especially in terms of adverse effects and discuss rationally to find the best decision.

The negative effects of gambling aren't the matter here because she has clearly stated in the opening post that her gambling activities are in no way affecting her or her family's life and she isn't gambling for richness or is using funds intended for other purposes, the only issue is that she has been hiding her activities from her husband.

You're right, communication is crucial, and it's better to discuss things and reveal the secrets yourself with your partner before they find out from somewhere else or finds out about it himself which would make him feel very bad because it would feel you've been deceiving him on his back since you never shared it with him.

First, it is good to know that you are a careful gambler, and with what you iterated above and what you believe and avoid in gambling, if you can keep them truly, then you are good to go with no reasons for worrying. It shows clearly that you are mostly gambling for the fun but if the money comes from it, you will be happy. This is the right mindset to gamble, so I do not see any reason why you do not tell your husband, you are not just irresponsible with it. Gambling is not that bad, and even if your husband is not gambling or a religious person who frowns at it, it is still his right to know unless you are practising something else but falsely calling it family.

To me, although it is subject to the kind of spouse we are talking about, everything should be revealed in the family with an open mind. It is better for him to be angry or even scold you, but as a family, you will still come to a reasonable conclusion on this. Perhaps, if he tells you to leave it (which I don't think so with your responsible gambling style), you should please yield. This is in the name of peace, after all, gambling is not a must but your relationship is as a couple.

But don't expect it will go well, most people don't want to reveal their secrets because they scared if their spouse might not agree with their habit/choice/activity. The problem is when you reveal your secret in the beginning, he/she will underestimate and don't want to have a relationship with you. However if you reveal it when you both already in relationship, usually your spouse will try to accept that.

There's no clear answer because you will never know what the real personality of your spouse when you've married for long period.

We don't know how husband and wife live directly, so we have many different assumptions. But if a wife gambles, she must tell her husband that she is gambling. There must be communication between husband and wife so there are no misunderstandings between the two. Married life requires honesty between husband and wife, including when one of them gambles because, after all, gambling using their income budget can affect the allocation to various kinds of daily needs. They will find it difficult to control their finances if they use their money for gambling. By discussing it between husband and wife,, there could be a solution to the problem.

Yes, there must be communication between husband and wife so that they do not misunderstand. Most problems in the family arise because of misunderstandings and a lack of honesty about what has happened, which makes them feel suspicious of their partner. This must be resolved immediately so that it doesn't become a problem that could cause them to experience even more complicated problems. By discussing the problem well, husband and wife will clear the air so that misunderstandings will disappear and they can live their lives well. When a problem is hidden, one partner can feel it so that he will ask his partner about it. If his partner is not honest with him, he will know, which usually triggers the problem. And if the problem can hurt their family, the husband and wife can immediately find a solution so the problem doesn't get bigger.

If one of them gambles, it would be better for his partner to know about his gambling activities so that he can control the use of his money, especially if he sets aside a small portion of his income to allocate funds for gambling. After all, gambling requires money, and if they are husband and wife, there is a possibility that they will use the money for their family, so if they don't really monitor their use, it could be more than they imagined. His partner can always remind him to stay within his limits and not exceed what he can afford so that there is no unnecessary use of money just for gambling. However, if their partner has started crossing his limits and still thinks he is fine, the husband or wife must act immediately to save him from crossing his limits. After that incident, he and his partner can discuss how to proceed with their gambling activities, and if they feel that gambling will only hurt both of them, maybe they need to stop their gambling activities and leave gambling forever.

All about balance, right? Communication and understanding are crucial. Your support for your wife while considering your family is admirable. There's more to consider when the casino chips are down than just how much is spent. About why. The hunt, not the money, makes gambling exciting. When your partner plays slots or tables, you must understand why. Is it innocent fun or a problem? Recognizing differences is key.

How to manage casino habits Spending less is smart. Not just odds, but control. Control is essential in gambling and life. Your suggestion to play with your companion is smart. It's about sharing experiences and understanding each other's reactions and decisions, not monitoring. Couples must work together to handle money. Not simply the money lost or won, but the journey you go together making these decisions. Partnership is about that, right?

Yes I understand about that buddy, I have read the statement that indeed the woman has some restrictions and mindsets that are quite advisable and that can at least make her safe in her involvement in gambling activities, but what I mean is that she is worried that she may experience changes over time and of course this is something that should not be ignored, considering that it is not uncommon for some gamblers who, although initially had a pretty good preparation, it turned out that over time they experienced a change in mindset because maybe the tantalizing things in gambling affected their mindset slowly, and yes, the point is that I hope whoever is experiencing a situation like this to still really maintain firmness in himself regarding some of the boundaries he has built, not only that because the strong awareness factor must also really be applied and maintained. For the initial problem about her with her husband I think it is better to tell her husband that she is involved in gambling, family relationships will be stronger if we are able to be open to each other, and in addition this is a gambling activity that always cannot be completely avoided from the name of risk.

Yes that's the point and indeed that's the best thing to do, as I said before that having good communication and being able to be open with each other is something that can further strengthen the relationship because this is related to trust and if it's like you said that her husband found out about this from other people then I'm sure at least this will be a problem in the relationship and trust might fade a little, by telling our partner about anything then on the other hand this will also make them feel appreciated by you for his presence.

For the person with whom you have seriously established a relationship or can be called your life partner, revealing small nooks and crannies is not just to receive evaluation and caution from them, revealing it here is just so they can see another version of us because our lives wear so many masks, they are meant to cover these corners, being able to peel off these faces to face the person in front of you is the greatest proof of faith and trust. This hidden corner may be special, but through it we can love someone more completely and that person will soon change and quit gambling because of our gentle response.

if you truly love and trust your partner, you will be very honest with him or her. because no matter what, he or she will be the first one to help you out in case you put yourself into a terrible situation. you will know also when to reveal your side once you know your partner well. because if you think you are not yet ready, it means, you have some hesitations that your partner won't truly understand you.

though it would take time to reveal your totality as a person, but consider the fact that your spouse should know all about those small details of you, so  he or she knows what to do if caught up in a compromised situation because of your doings. it is hard to explain if your spouse has no idea about what's going on with your life. and suddenly he or she will be in a terrible situation because you failed to inform him or her about your other side of things.


you are one lucky person if you find a partner who can understand such balance concept. so long you know your boundaries when it comes to gambling, i guess, there's nothing to worry about. sometimes we need this facet of life to see the fun side of things. after all, we are all not work and stress in life. we can have our entertainment on the side as well. there's nothing wrong to experience the gambling side together. if you both know the consequences of what you are doing, i guess, you will be more careful when you are into this activity.

The woman who tell their husband to gamble by their own interest in the gambling site,she may not get the chance to play the gambling.It was the reason for the recommendation of the gambling to their husband.Even she may married her husband because he is the gambler.The couple should manage their expenses because they need hug money for the rotation of the continuous game.The trust was the essential one in the gambling,the gambler should trust the process of the gambling game.Because some game will give the gambler more money,some game will make the gambler to loss the money.The luck also important to the gambler to make huge profits.

If you are still able to control yourself as you say, there is no need to tell him, but if you feel you have done more or even violated what you said, it is better to tell your husband immediately before it is too late because the effects of gambling are very big, without us realizing it, we can destroy it. Our life is only in 1 minute so stay careful

However, you need to know that if your financial condition is still stable then your partner will not have a problem with your activities in gambling, the balance of the relationship is still fine, but you must anticipate that our finances will not always be stable, so gambling will be the main factor that will be blamed if you experiencing financial problems even though you have gambled with strict rules does not result in financial losses.

The right solution is for you to be honest with your partner about the funds you use for gambling, so that your partner will not blame you if your financial condition worsens, because he already knows the history of the account you use for gambling deposits and he does not blame you for gambling. .

Indeed, there will be no guarantee that everything will be fine, but there is no harm in telling the truth to our partner. after all, we have a relationship with our partner of course on the basis of mutual acceptance and if we tell each other honestly about something we didn't know before, of course we have to accept each other's honesty even though your partner will not agree if you gamble, of course you also have to respect your partner not to gamble anymore because he as a partner has respected you while hiding your gambling activities and after you tell the truth don't let your partner be disappointed.

maybe we have different lives and have different partners but I believe as long as I have a partner it means he accepts everything I do and I also have to always be honest with my partner.
and for me, this honesty is a form of mutual respect and a way to protect us from the bad effects of gambling because there is always someone who reminds us not to gamble recklessly.

Spouses can have different views about something and if she had kept it from the husband deliberately from the first day of their relationship, it might mean that the guy is not such that associate in such or even liked gambling at all, so she might have had her reasons for doing that. But this will break the heart of the guy if he eventually finds out, and living with a woman that you didn't know completely could be so dangerous and the guy could term this to so many things if found out by himself. This is why I will advise her to tell him regardless of what the response of the husband would be, after all, they are family, and they can talk it through and come to a reasonable conclusion one way or naother.

And unless she is not working, I think that she still can prove to the husband that she is not depending on it or addicted to it for any reason, it might just be her hobby and that doesn't mean anything. Also, judging by the way she explained herself in the OP shows that she is a responsible gambler which is a plus in this regard even as the husband would know the kind of wife she marries, so I do not think this is a serious issue. But peradventure the husband didn't agree to it, I think that gambling is not a must, she can go for another hubby than that. Her marriage is so important because if she doesn't yield this time and the guy retaliates with another thing, it might be too painful for her just in the name of gambling.

I don't know if he will feel comfortable seeing his woman as a gambler, you know him better, if he is capable of handling this then tell him, he can also be your way out if you somehow get addicted some day, you guys are one already, the reason why you feel like telling him is because you knew its wrong to keep something like this away from him, what if one day he find out on his own? That won't be so good isn't it?

Tell him how you are gambling, to make him feel at ease that his woman isn't a addicted gambler, show him that you are indeed a responsible gambler, and he won't need to be worried about the state of your mindset health.

I hope you have a job? If yes then there won't be any reason for him to think that you will be wasting his money on gambling, as afar as you are a responsible married woman there is no cause for alarm.

They should be able to discuss it carefully so that it doesn't cause many problems later because after all, they already live together and manage their money for the common good. There must be a reason why her husband doesn't like gambling, and this can only be found if his wife wants to talk to him carefully to explain that he gambles responsibly and doesn't use a lot of money. If her husband could understand and know that his wife was speaking the truth, he could still accept her and even accompany her to gamble. What is important in domestic life is openness between husband and wife about what they want to do. If something makes them uncomfortable, they can discuss it well without causing misunderstandings.

If after her husband finds out that his wife is gambling and her husband forbids his wife from gambling again, his wife does not need to continue her gambling activities because she must understand that the money she is holding is money to meet her husband's daily needs. He must be able to suppress his ego to want to give in for the sake of his family, and even though he is a responsible gambler, no one can guarantee that his wife can remain a responsible gambler because there are so many temptations from gambling that can make someone forget themselves. A marriage is an important thing, and it's not worth it if it's ruined because of a gambling problem, so it's best for them to talk about it well.

 It is very true that things should always be focused on good communication, there is no other way, things are always like that, for us to be okay with everything we have to do things well, and every time we are in a possible argument with our partner try not to raise your voice or anything, because things should be settled in the best way without getting upset, rather a debate, because one's partner is who one is always with and that is the only thing that matters, so if one If both of you are in danger with the game, what the other should do is help you, if necessary you should go with your partner to the casinos and see how you play, how you can play, win, lose, all this, then because These things must be done well, therefore it is something that will always be generated, the best thing of all is that they can help each other, there is no other way.

Now, for this, your partner must understand, that sometimes things are like that in casinos, which should help prevent them from falling into an addiction where both are affected, because if in the couple one of the two is wrong Well, the other must be there to give you their support, that's the most common, and the most normal thing, so in that way you can help, as we here have a little more knowledge about this casino, because it's easier to give advice about the game, the first thing I would tell you is that you have money, only use the money that you are willing to lose, there is no other option, because you can't do anything if things go to another level, we as good players and people with experience we must do everything possible so that things go well and thus protect our partner, because there is nothing stronger than falling into an addiction, that is the worst, I could say that things like this are more difficult easy to treat, which is why Support is something that Should be given immediately and without much thought.

Totally depends on what kind of woman you are on which there are ones who are really that have fears into their husband on trying out to hide something but there are ones who doesnt really care as long
they are really that dealing into their own interest without bothering on telling  their husbands on what they've been doing. Its up to their own personal choice whether they would really be that honest and
really that having the respect into their partners on which it would really be something that would really be just that depending. Just like the rest been saying that it would really be best that you should
really be that honest and be that having no hidden thing from your husband or your wife specially on dealing with gambling which we know that it could affect finances that on such severe manner
if ever you dont able to control yourself towards it.

There are ones who are really that just fine as long they arent compromising their life savings but in overall it would really be that best that you should really be telling
even if it isnt really that something too big or much of a concern. It would be that best on having a relationship on which you do know that it is really something
that nothing is hidden.

Of course, it is very important that we have to be able to manage financial stability if we don't want to experience problems that will be faced related to gambling and relationship balance. Set aside money that is really loose so that we don't need to worry because we have already managed the expenses that will be used for gambling so that it doesn't exceed this limit if you don't want to lose economic stability. Increasing the bet amount will affect the initial rules so never use money that exceeds the initial limit.

It is true that we must be honest and open with each other about the expenses we want to use for gambling because to maintain the financial stability of our family and partners we can remind them if we exceed a certain limit in terms of gambling and if it is regular then we can enjoy gambling happily without worrying about it causing significant financial losses.

No matter how he feels, the right thing should be done. Here, the right thing to be done is that she tells her husband that she is into gambling. I don't think there is a need for such privacy in marriage. No husband will pick offense especially when there is no trace of recklessness in the activities of his wife.


Knowing an addicted gambler is not through word of mouth. A gambler might deny being an addictive gambler whereas his antecedents show otherwise. If the woman is an addictive gambler, her husband will know because she might not have been showing prudence in her finances.


This will be imperative because it will control any panic from her husband. It will hit differently if she is a dependant and still gambles. Having her finances is a must if she must gamble but then, it should be done responsibly.

In my opinion, the main perpetrator should be honest with his partner, because if their partner can accept it, that's not a bad thing, also if they get angry and give advice, that's good, because he himself doesn't want anything bad to happen to the main perpetrator, which means he loves the perpetrator. mainly. When we are in a relationship, especially when we are married, it indicates that we have to be open with each other, because it is natural for couples to be open to each other without keeping any secrets, because that could cause problems.

I'm not married myself, but I agree with you, if it is true,  couples must accept each other, and honesty is an important thing in a relationship,  because I myself hope to have a partner who is not reluctant to talk openly,  because that is one of the keys to the survival of a relationship so that it remains well, rather than keeping it a secret but in the end he will find out for himself,  especially if he finds out from other people's words then that will is a big problem in my opinion.

I believe the main thing in the family existence is trust. That is, when husband and wife trust each other, the bond of love is formed between them. If there is no trust, discord, frustration and distrust will take their place. And when the negative aspects are excessive then that family will be destroyed and there will be no more family. Divorce has become a common thing nowadays and one of the reasons is that one cannot trust the other.

Gambling may be a simple thing but when this simple thing comes to her husband's knowledge indirectly, their romance can take a big shape. Of course, I also think that the woman should tell her husband about her gambling condition in order to have a good relationship. By doing this she can surely get better advice from her husband. There will be no hindrance in the relationship.

There is nothing wrong in this , Only if you know how to limit and not to become a stupid gambler.

This is more than enough to prove that you know what you are entering so  just go and enjoy

How long have you been married? do you think there will be an issue once you tell Him about your gambling activities?
because if he trusted you and  you trusted Him then better talk closely and with heart.

Well for a woman to plainly tell her  husband that she's into gambling I think that will be very thoughtful of her, because if she  keep hidden it from him probably he finds out that this is what she have been doing behind his back he's not going to take it likely with her as the wife.

Even if you're a working class lady at least you're suppose to get him involve if he's going to stick with it, even if he's not the one providing the money you use to gamble that doesn't change any thing, the facts remains that he's your husband he's supposed to be aware of it

Then after telling him probably he sticks to it I will advice you play responsibly and you shouldn't allow it to hinder you from doing your duties as a wife.
 

Whatever is considered perhaps not normal activity to do, it is still wife obligation to tell her husband honestly about what she has been doing.
This is not only responsibility to be open with each other but also an attitude of wife who must be obedient to husband.
If, after saying everything, her husband forbids her from repeating gambling activities, then she as wife must obey him, she must obey what her husband says.
I sure that husbands will always have good mindset for the long term and husbands will be able to decide what is good and what is bad for the future of their family. Moreover, wife must also still have control over anything related to money because wife becomes place in money management in the family.

What is quite worrying is that when it is publicly known that woman or wife likes gambling, we know that the sentiment in some places towards women who gamble is not positive sentiment.
There will be negative thoughts and conversations and this must be avoided.

Even if he is going to get angry because of what you will tell him about gambling it won’t change the fact that you still need to tell him, at least he is your husband even if the money that is going to be used for gambling is not going to come from his pocket it’s important to at least let him know of what the wife do with her free time. The feelings no matter how bad it will look it won’t be as bad as when he will have to discover it by him self so better off telling him on time and get it off your mind.

Its important to stay calm in emotional circumstances like gambling. I think a supporting partner is crucial in a casino. The important thing is supporting each other, regardless of the outcome.

I recommend making a budget before entering the casino because I value financial advice and emotional support. One basic yet successful method is to only gamble what you can lose. This strategy protects your finances and promotes a healthy gaming relationship. Take pleasure in the game without allowing it dictate your relationship.

Finally, helping a gambling partner is admirable. Equally crucial is recognizing addiction symptoms. Taking preventative measures can avoid many problems. Be transparent about gambling and ready to get help if things go wrong. Gambling should be fun while being responsible.

By communicating well, husband and wife couples will not experience misunderstandings that can cause them to get involved in unfinished arguments. When husband and wife are involved in endless arguments, they may experience a divorce, which would not have happened if they could communicate well. By communicating, the couple can resolve the problem amicably, and there is no need for arguments to occur. Maybe his wife being honest about her gambling activities can make her husband understand and will encourage him to end his gambling activities so that his wife doesn't have to experience bad things.

By asking him to leave his gambling activities, he can give his wife the opportunity to do other things that can benefit his wife and husband too. Before the situation gets worse, especially if we are talking about gambling, where there will be impacts that we will feel apart from losing money, it is better just to end it and decide not to gamble. With support from her husband, his wife can choose what to do so that even though she feels she can be responsible for her gambling activities, she will prefer to stop her gambling activities. Moreover, he has experienced losses and wins from gambling, so he will think it is better just to stop his gambling activities rather than later he will get into bigger problems. Meanwhile, no one knows when someone will experience a gambling addiction, so before someone experiences a gambling addiction, it is better for him to stop gambling and do other activities that are more useful.

Yes, it takes courage for a wife to say that she likes to gamble and must accept the consequences because maybe her husband will not like it. But if the wife prefers to hide it from her husband, there is a possibility that there will be misunderstandings and arguments when her husband finds out. A husband or wife doesn't like being lied to or dishonest about what they do, so it's best to tell the truth to her husband immediately.

Yes, he is her husband, and as a wife, she should be honest about her gambling activities rather than causing something uncomfortable in her household. With honesty, a wife and husband can get through this together.

Maybe after his wife is honest about her gambling activities, her husband will accompany her when gambling so that she doesn't gamble excessively. And her husband might stop his gambling activities and replace them with other, more useful activities.

Yes, at this point things should be done that way, we are people who must use intelligence at all times, it is well known that emotions are difficult to manage in many situations , so we must help ourselves to minimize them. That responsibility and having good results , in this order of ideas it is good to budget before playing, and to have that money willing to lose, because basically when you have money willing to lose you can do many things, the first thing is taken away from On top of that, the responsibility of Self-monitoring of the emotions , a person knowing what they can spend and not going overboard in making deeper partners because it's simple, things don't get bigger, so only in this way is it easy to determine things well , if not, we have We have to take stock of things we Should control and it turns out to be more Complicated.

So the player who has already pre-Established what he is going to win, can take it for granted that there is a lot to go, that even things can be taken with the perspective that is, one should not do anything other than deposit what we are willing to lose, then in view of that it is when we do anything to not remove our own rules, in this case things can look different, a person can eventually go crazy if they want to play, but always respecting the outcome that they can lose, otherwise You can see if the person loses control of the money or something, but if the person sees that they have a good performance and they have profits, another thing is whether they can withdraw , if they withdraw it is a good time to have to be able to Establish any something so that he leaves with full pockets , something that I see as excellent, but in the case that not, the acceptable thing is that after certain wins a player has to withdraw , otherwise he will never see the good in this, and the good thing about this is earning money , taking advantage every time that you are lucky enough to win.

When I am doing an activity as important as this, what I do is Focus on mine , if I have Someone then let them know, and it will not cause any type of change in anyone, I could say that when there are people who are The Avant-garde of Doing anything in a casino should do it , regardless of Whether you have a husband or not, if you are Married, then obviously the husband has to know that he is a person who likes the game and that he Cannot deny that, I am not going to stop doing something I like only because my husband doesn't like it, that's why you earn money yourself by Working.

When I have a partner, I don't tell him what I'm going to do, but he already knows what to do and he doesn't like it because it's bad, but I'm not Going to stop Doing my thing s, in this case things can be different if they are done Secretly, but otherwise there is nothing to hide, Well that's my way of Thinking.

personally, I don't like the idea of a lady going into gambling nit because it is totally bad but I feel that it doesn't fit their gender that much. Their was a certain time my female freeing for reasons best known to her decided that she was interested in soccer gambling and came to me for advice on how to go about it. I just told her to forget about it that I wouldn't tell her shit because it doesn't go down well with me that I am gambling and my woman would also gamble with me.

This is just a personal something and I know their are others that might find it cool that their wife is into gambling but I think before taking this decision of going into gambling as a leader you must have seen that it would go down well with your husband if he finds out and if that's the case then you are good to go.

But regarding the rules you've set out as bench mark you wouldn't cross as you start up your gambling journey, I feel they aren't necessary I you're going into a gambling niche that you enjoy playing with friends. Just don't for fun as a lady and don't allow yourself to become addicted or become used to it.

Its never been cool looking if you do see your wife on doing gambling, even if i do say that im a gambler but seeing my wife on doing gambling things is never been appealing and never
been that good looking. It is really just that there are people who are really that too lenient when it comes to their wives doings. Well, its not really that bad on dealing up something like this but
as a men or male then we do know on what are the risks involved with gambling.Even if we do say that they are really that responsible on their spending but as the time that you are really that
playing or getting engaged with it then you are really that prone to addiction which might lead into possible messed up gambling activity later on.

As wife or even husband, whatever the things that you've been dealing or making, then it would really be always better that you should really be honest
and be transparent towards your partner so that you wont really be that having those potential problems later on.

Allowing him discover by himself that you do gamble will definitely ruin things much more than it would if you tell him and he gets to know through you informing him, then he will be able to accept the fact that you respected him enough to have told him what you are doing with your funds and your free time .

He may not take it lightly when he first gets to know and that's normal because it's definitely going to shock him to know that his wife does such a but then the way you will approach him with it is definitely going to matter and have a lot to do with how he's going to react if you tell him ramosfully and promise to quit if he wants you to or regulate your habit as he wishes, you will see that amicably he's going to discuss it with you and there's definitely not going to be a big deal made out of it.

Exactly my point, telling him with her mouth is better than the husband using his hand to discover because if that happens it will be hard for the husband to forgive and secondly their might be a little clash on trust in such marriage which is what no man or woman want in their marital life.

Gambling is not completely bad and the husband will also understand if she cool her self down and give an explanation to the reason she is gambling and she is also in control of her self.

Well, in a relationship, and even more so when you get married , because there has to be more confidence and better results in your life as a couple, you can't just think about one person what the other can do, you have to think together and make a difference there, that's why every time we decide to be with someone in a serious situation  , we Consider ourselves a couple , Because if we have to tell things, even though many times when we try to have a relationship like that, well It becomes toxic but if there must be a Communication that shows that the Things that are done like this , of Being in a Casino, of being managed within what a casino is, then that must be Communicated , We have to see those things, when it comes to money, then things must be communicated even more, because it is a budget for both, and those things are delicate, as long as there is money involved   , things are like that.

When we are generalizing things to Another level we see that many couples are somewhat toxic in the sense of communication, so they are constantly telling each other Everything , and I don't know, sometimes things can look bad in that way , I don't know I see well.

Couples who do not reach a good consensus of communication either, because obviously it results in divorce, and when there is not much that can be done , they have tried to see things from all sides and have tried to see things from every point of view Seing as it is good, if there is no way to fix things, then whatever is possible, but considering that things in the casino for some people can cause addiction, because it is something that one person needs from the other to overcome it, and If you are addicted, the other person has to take care of it, give immediate Treatment to your partner to get out of it, and that represents an opportunity for things to be handled better when there are problems.

Well, I think it’s just bad to even think not telling him and waiting our thoughts about this matter which relate you both only especially that it’s something not that serious as you described it, you are not an addict, understand how to gamble for fun only. So, In my opinion you should already told him as long as he is okay with gambling too and nothing forbids him from gambling, or it’s the total opposite? If your husband is religious and consider gambling as a sin and something very bad, then I suggest thinking more about a good explanation and how you both can find a solution to this that would serve both of you.

In your place, I have a girlfriend and in my first days I asked what she thinks of gambling, even though she didn’t gamble before, we agreed that we can do it together sometimes for fun. Already had few sport bets together and it was so fun watching the game we have bets on it together. I wish you go through the same and that husband accepts your activity.

Best to hear a perspective of an actual woman than a man that are into this discussions. I can't go and read each of the posts here if they're a woman telling that their husbands to gamble.
Because most of the thoughts that we'd hear is that it's totally fine like men were designed to do these things and there's no problem as long as the husband provides everything.
And if you're the wife that gambles and wanting to expose yourself to your husband that you've been gambling, it's the same with the reasoning that as long as you take care of the house then everything is fine.

It's better to tell your husband as soon as possible, because it's only a matter of time before your husband finds out and will be even more disappointed with you as a gambler, especially if you are addicted and spend a lot of money just to gamble.
as @GxSTxV said, by telling about your gambling activities, who knows, your husband will accept it and even be able to play together and have fun gambling. However, if on the contrary, your husband forbids you from gambling, then stop gambling.

Telling your husband you gamble looks responsible; what does not look responsible is keeping that away from him, because every responsible married lady always has to keep the marriage peaceful by not trying to hide anything from their husband, and the husband will also do the same thing.
 
Your husband might also be a gambler without you even knowing, or he might have told you, but he is not a chronic gambler, which means it doesn't affect his day-to-day life activity or the family's finances. If you can assure him that he doesn't have anything to worry about in terms of control and fund safety, together with not putting gambling first before your family, I don't think he will react harshly.

Better than the husband find it out on his own and create doubt with her, telling something in a manner that the husband deserves the truth is creating good relationship between the two, you are already attach to your husband and if you need to tell him something that may create bad things to your marriage better to tell him.

Telling your participation into gambling will also helps to watch you out and not to let you go on deep and get addicted, changes in mood and your actual attitude may allow him to make a good stop and prevent you to keep on playing.

In my opinion, in marriage there should be no secrets, it is very important that in a marriage people know that they will live on the basis of agreement on both sides, a man cannot decide to spend money to pay bills and take that same money to gamble in some casino, I have read many cases of marriages that ended because the man became addicted to alcohol, addicted to drugs and addicted to gambling. although the casinos of gambling addictions that I have read are very low cases, still the few cases of gambling addictions that I have been able to read have left me very shocked, this is because they are stories with very beautiful beginnings, but with a very sad end. When I started reading that the guy got a good job

then he managed to marry a good woman, he had 2 very beautiful daughters, his life was very beautiful until one day he went into a store where they had a slot machine and played a little and then he started to get very interested in playing even more, then he went to other gamble, he began to play a lot to the point that he lost track of the time he had to go to work, he was always late at work until one day he was fired, at home they no longer had money to pay the bills and his wife She started fighting with him a lot until she got tired and left the house and took her daughters. he lost his wife and children and job and home. These types of stories constantly happen when the husband or wife is addicted.

Responsibility is not based on whether you tell other people including your husband about your gambling activities or not, because responsibility is something that is within yourself, the point is that I cannot be sure that you are a responsible female gambler even if you tell your husband. And anyway I think there are quite a few husbands who would actually allow their wives to engage in gambling activities, overall gambling has a negative viewpoint in the eyes of society and maybe even in the eyes of your own husband and it is possible that you may not get permission from your husband to engage in this activity.

One of the things that I think will be on your husband's mind is that he is worried that the money he gives you as money to meet the needs of the kitchen turns out to be used for gambling, it cannot be denied and this is a possibility that is quite potentially large to happen, no matter even though you have a good responsibility in gambling by being able to resist all the temptations that exist in gambling, I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea.

And we do know that there's no secret into this world that could be burried down forever or something that cant be known. Sooner or later those things would be exposed or would be known and once caught then expect
on whats the potential arguements and words would be heard off, specially if you do have those kind of financial related problems on which you would really be having those questions on where those funds go
or your husband would really be having those questions about  your salary or income source on which it is really just supposedly to be applied and make use in families expenses and other payment or bills.
So as a wife that been dealing up with gambling on which even if you would really be saying into yourself that you do have the control or discipline but still it would really be that ideal that you should
really be telling everything into your husband so that you wont really be having those problems on the time you would be caught. Also, having those transparency and open mindedness is one of the
things we do really need to have in a relationship.

For women to have a social life, they will need to gamble and play with their friends. A loving husband I think wouldn't want to see their wife just wake up in the morning, get dressed, and then just sit on their porch watching cars passing by.

They gotta have a social life and not just taking care of their grandkids, they are not going to redo that over again, they are done with that. Some of them just visit their dying batches and friends all over the town, I'm sure it's a very sad situation ffor these old women. I would prefer them to just gamble around with their friends.

So this is really that actually situational on which not all would really be having that kind of treatment towards gambling on which there would really be those husbands that would really be preferring for their wives on involving into something on which it would really be dealing up with some activity but im pretty much sure that most husbands wont really be choosing over gambling as a side activity on which we know that money or financial is the main thing that could really be affected possibly with their families overall budget and finances on which it would be common sense for us to know that its not something ideal for
someone to deal off with. If we do talk about socilization then there are other things on which she could be able to deal with or engaged with and not necessarily that would be pertaining about gambling.

Agree into those sentiments above that it would really be best that you should really be telling your husband while its still early rather than on making yourself that missed out on doing so
or keeping it as a secret forever on which its true that there's no secret that could be hold up forever. Time will come that it would be bust up sooner or later.

Do you think having a social life is only possible when they gamble? No, they can build social relationships with many people through other mediums and not just in the world of gambling, I understand that by gambling in a physical casino then you will be able to make many new acquaintances because you will meet many visitors who gamble at the same time as you, but if you mean more social relationships then I would say that a wife can improve social relationships with others in other ways such as hanging out with friends once a week on holidays, or exercising every morning with her neighbors in a group or going to one of the entertainment venues.

So you can't say that having an active social life can only be achieved by gambling, in fact this activity has the potential for a much worse situation when one day they have lost their responsibility in gambling activities which means they can end up like other addicts who have already fallen. For me, the saddest thing is when a woman who has full responsibility as a housewife ends up with an addict, because this can lead to arguments with her husband due to the excessive allocation of money to her gambling activities which makes them have problems making ends meet.

Something that is covered up will sooner or later find its way to the open. So before that happens, it's a good idea for her to tell her husband about this, even though this will make her husband angry or disappointed with her, but that doesn't matter, rather than later her husband finding out himself and being even more disappointed with what his own wife did.
There have been many cases of marital breakdown due to gambling, as a result of the wife/husband not wanting to be transparent with their partner and instead ignoring the matter. So instead of making the problem worse, telling your partner about your gambling activities is the best thing.

After analysing your points, it sounds you are responsible at gambling. If a person can have control over him, can manage funds as well as emotion and always keep himself in discipline then its okey. So its good to go if you wanna continue. Now you wanna tell your husband about your gambling, right? As I don't know how he thinks about gambling, so it could be difficult to advise cause many people in our society doesn't have good impression regarding gambling. they think, gamblers are irresponsible & consider gambling as offense. So first try to have an idea about his mentality then try to tell him with better explanation cause he is your partner & he deserves to know about your activities. Otherwise his impression could be difficult when he found you gambling.

so first off, you know your husband better than any one else and you are obviously in the best position to tell what his reaction will look like if he finds out you're into gambling. I know quite a handful of ladies that gambles and it doesn't even show in their life and the way they go about doing things. As long as you know you can manage your emotion and wouldn't allow it comes to the stage where you will start to mismanage the resources that's in your desposition for house hold management, then it doesn't make a difference if you gamble or not. But the only issue that's worth taking into account is that if you have children that are quite young, you might need to ensure you don't expose them to gambling at an early age so it doesnt affect them negatively so you would want to ensure you've fixed that right before getting started.

Even when the person doesn't know how the husband will react to the whole issue, it's better, as she brought up the discussion here, and most of the advice that was given to her was to tell her husband.
 
It's better she tell him first than for the husband to find out by himself that one will be a total different case, so the only thing that she will do if she has not done it is to mind the approach that she will use in telling the husband in other words not to make the case look somehow, and as I have seen, the Op is a very reasonable lady who knows her way around and is also in control of her gambling activities.

What you said shows that you have been involved in gambling for a long time before you can practice such principles. It's not easy, especially for a woman like you. But I am wondering  that you have been involved in gambling for so long and your husband still doesn't find out?

Your gambling now may be your personal hobby, but we won't know for sure if this hobby will have any impact on your family's finances in the future, right? Therefore, it is necessary for you to let your husband know about your gambling.
Share honestly and I believe he will understand and may even be happy that you were able to participate in gambling in such a disciplined way. Who knows, maybe you and he can participate in gambling together. ;D

That makes sense, indeed if you can control yourself, including what you said, by being able to manage your finances and emotions, maybe it will be fine. But all of that can change at any time quickly, because gambling can usually influence our thinking to become messy and tends to lead our thinking to take big risky actions, such as accepting a bad defeat, of course this can trigger emotions and can make everything happen. so messy.
yes, I agree with you, it is true that most people have different views on gambling, even though we gamble responsibly, such as being able to manage our finances well and controlling our emotions too, there are still those who have a less favorable view of gambling. it will comment negatively, including the winnings obtained at gambling, maybe it will also be viewed negatively.

Yeah, I think you should let him know about it and that your involvement is just for you to be able to continually contribute meaningfully to this section as a requirements to meet up with your weekly pay. Make him understand your patterns of engagement and the limitations you've set for yourself to ensure you don't waste your funds. If you guys understand each other properly, it shouldn't be much of a big deal, but if he first like it, you can stop and choose your marriage over your new found gambling habit


Personally, I don't encourage keeping such secrets in marriage, everybody should be open about their activities, so your partner doesn't feel left out. He might find out one day and be really mad at you for not informing him of such beforehand. if you were just dating, it wouldn't be a big deal to me, but marriage is a different case scenario.

Yes, it's better to be honest now than to hide it and eventually one day her husband finds out for himself, it will definitely hurt him, after all, even though we may feel confident that as long as gambling is still under good control or it's just a hobby, still don't ever try to use it. money that is specifically used for living needs has been given by the husband who may have entrusted his wife to manage his finances, but if it is misused for gambling it is clearly a wrong act, but if gambling is just for entertainment using money left over from shopping there may not be a problem.

The point is to try to prioritize openness to your husband because it is important, especially for a life partner who is clearly someone who must be respected, whatever our behavior is that he is not used to seeing, it is better to tell him never to cover everything up because it is impossible to hide anything secret if in the end In a matter of time it will also be revealed in the future, honesty in the household is very important to maintain harmony, lest the problem of the hobby of gambling can become an obstacle that makes the household fall apart.

Its the same as any high-stakes game, like cards or business. Be smart, know your limits, and take care of the risk. Lets not forget that the main point is to have fun.

Its a good idea to talk to your husband. People in a relationship need to know about big moves just like they need to know about big moves. Being honest and sure of yourself is a winning strategy that everyone can admire. Show him that this is about being responsible with things and not about having an out-of-control habit.

People who think gaming is bad are missing the point. Life is a game, and if you play it right, it can be fun and test your skills. There is always some luck involved, but the smart thing to do is to play sensibly. Talk to them, but remember that you're in charge, both on and off the table.

We don't encourage them keeping such secrets in marriage but that's happens to many couple because they thinks that will be better if they keep that for themselves without telling their spouse.  That will depends on each decision because we can't force them to follows what we suggest. They are free to choose whatever they wants with their gambling activity and if they thinks that keeping their gambling activity secretly, they can still do that. But that woman should realizes about what will happens to their marriage if she keeps hiding their gambling activity to her husband. We can only suggest people about what they should do but we can't force them to follows our suggestion and that will be their responsibility to face what will happens later.

What is even so secretive about gambling that we can't share with our spouse? Gambling is not criminal, and neither is it a stimulant that can injure one's life, it is just part of the way of life, an activity of betting, it should not be secretive at all, especially if we are wise about it. But if you know that your spouse would frown at it, it is better you quietly it immediately and quietly. That's if you can tell him or her directly. Still, I advise that people tell their spouse so that they know the direct response. Who knows, the whole situation might be surprising to some people as their spouse could accept it, especially if the gambler is living a quality life and is responsible towards gambling to the extent that people may not even know that such a person is gambling.

This is the kind of gambling lifestyle we want, everyone can be proud of this, unlike the way most people go about gambling which makes people view it as irresponsible. Lastly, good family members, especially couples should be able to know everything about themselves, so letting the spouse know about this is the best way out. Unfortunately, keeping it till the spouse detects by his or herself may lead to more issues/damage than telling him/her yourself.

For me you should tell your husband about it, keeping it a secret would only cause problems in the future.
For me if money is involve your partner should always know it, you didn't do anything wrong you could control your greed and if it doesn't really affect your daily life or you are using only your spare or excess money then there is nothing wrong with it, you are doing it for fun you are not addicted to it.

I see most members on this forum playing along with Rule 7 on your list, my take remains we shouldn't lie to ourselves whether or not we all gamble because we want to win not for fun, please we shouldn't be blindfolded with this unrealistic believe, it only fun when you have enough money you are willing lose,  and you just place random bets caring less about winning. Though this can't be overstretched as everyone has reasons for there action and believe is subjective.

Back to the real business.

No need to hide such from your husband, one of the quality of a healthy relationship is openness between partners, keeping it a secret might cause misunderstanding if he finds out by himself or in a different situation, so the earlier the better. You understand your husband practically well than any of us meaning you know how to go about it as far there is love between both of you it will be sorted out. No need for fear or panic.
The truth will be that you abide by the rules of the game, and it shouldn't in anyway affect your relationship or become a limiting factor to the family finance.

I still maintain that spouses should not hide things from each other. Only in the full trust of both spouses is it possible to achieve full mutual understanding and, consequently, a long and happy family life. That is why my wife found out that I like to gamble before she married me. And in fact it did not embarrass her at all, although she does not play gambling. Sometimes she watches me gamble, but she's not as interested in it as I am. She is more interested in her work and making the house comfortable.

In any relationship specially when you are a married person then having those kind of secrets on which we know that there's no secret that could be hidden up forever. Lets say that you've been hiding your gambling activity into your husband but one day he had caught you on act on doing such thing, then what you would gonna do? So its better to tell him up about on the things that you've been dealing as early as possible,
this isnt really just only saving up yourself on possible conflicts but also it do lessen up the burden and stress of keeping it on secret. This is why it would really be that best that you should really be keeping no secret
neither from your husband or wife because nothing beats out on having that peaceful living on which you arent that hiding something.

Gambling is never been bad as long you do find yourself that responsible then it should really be just that fine but if you are really that making things out of control
specially with money spending then this is where issues do really come out and this is something that you should really be stopping in the first place.

Yes, it is true because the harmony of a relationship must always involve honesty or openness in various matters or old or new habits that our own partners have, because on the other hand it cannot be denied that this might cause problems in the end when it turns out that your husband knows about your gambling habits or even he caught you gambling, problems will very likely occur especially if it turns out that your husband is one of those people who does not like or always tries to avoid gambling.

Although basically we think that we are able to control and manage our gambling activities well so as not to cause any problems in the end, but still the name of a couple must be able to be open to each other, even though for example your husband is not angry with the gambling you are doing but it is not impossible that he could be angry due to your lack of openness in having this new habit. Therefore, it is clear that to minimize the occurrence of a problem, it is better to be honest with our partners.

Honesty is the best policy
One lie ruins a thousand truths.
A half truth is a whole lie

These are the things that i do believe about honestly on which we know that once trust is broken then it cant never be that goes back to normal
on which it would really be that something that common sense that you shouldnt really that make yourself that involved into those secrets
because once its been find out then trust is something that could be broken and its not really that something good to a relationship.

Gambling is not actually need to be hidden, or keep it as a secret, as long as you are doing it for fun and just a side income, without compromising your finances, then that’s good to tell. Your husband might understand your purpose most especially if he is also a responsible gambler. But if he is on the other side and treat gambling negatively like how others are seeing it, that would cause a little problem. That’s why you have to be honest to him as earlier as now, so that whatever your reason why you are in gambling, he will clearly understand it without doubts and hesitation.

This is not about husband and wife’s, man or women. But in gambling you should make sure never to be compelled into practicing gambling.

Gambling comes with huge risks and responsibilities, being compelled into gambling is a recipe for disaster and it is a bad idea as well.

OP, such advise in the subject post is bad and not responsible

Yeah, you should really be a responsible gambler but we do know that when it comes to marriage then everything should really be transparent because on the time that you would really be that hiding
something into your partner then you are just basically putting up yourself on getting caught. I do agree into those words above that there's no secret that cant be known or would be hidden forever.
This is why as early as possible then you should really be telling on everything into your partner because you cant really be able to know on when you do get busted.

No matter how responsible you are in gambling but you do often on playing no matter what then sooner or later you would really be able to experience
the worst when it comes to gambling addiction. It would really be that impossible to hide when finances are already that gradually been eaten up or spend on.
There's no way that it could really be hidden it into your partner.

Well said, when it comes to marriage life, everything should be transparent between husband and wife, if you really respect your partner, you have to said everything to them especially that money is involved in this case. It is also good that your partner knows the activities you do so that in case there is a problem, he is aware and knows what can help or give you advice. When you're married, you two should know each other, even the smallest details, because that's one of the vows you made when you got married.

Maybe for some people gambling is okay to be share to their spouse but for some people, that is a secret that no one needs to knows. As long as that person can be wise using gambling and can be a responsible gambler, she will not have a problem when playing gambling or after she finish playing gambling. But there are a chance for her to gets deeper in gambling, especially if she lose control while playing gambling. She will not gets a help from anyone when she gets a problem from gambling and that's why she must tells to her spouse about her gambling activity. If her spouse knows about her gambling activity and he is not agree with that, he can asks her to stops his gambling activity for her own good. Our spouse will suggest the best thing for us so we will not makes a problem for our family.

If someone used gambling as his lifestyle, he will not be able to follows because playing gambling needs money while we have many things to be filled. It's better we can used as an activity like the other activities and not playing gambling too often to avoids many problems or impacts that can occurs while we interact with gambling. If we wants to playing gambling, we must have self control and responsible in gambling so we don't have to lose much money and can still enjoy gambling as an entertainment.

True, basically if you or anyone is able to control and manage their gambling activities properly in the sense of gambling without putting hope and seriousness on winning then yes maybe it won't be a problem if we don't keep it a secret from others, after all the most important thing is that we gamble with our own money and don't harm others or that means if for example you do everything yourself without involving others then yes it doesn't matter not to keep it a secret.

But yes try to treat gambling activities in accordance with the advice, or that means gambling only with the intention and purpose of entertainment and this is advice for all gamblers because after all the intention and purpose of earning can never succeed if you bring it to activities that have absolutely no certainty whatsoever in terms of producing winnings. So of course as you say that it is better to be honest with our partners about our gambling habits, because after all the name of the carcass will one day smell too, or the point is that even though you always try to hide but in the end I am sure your partner will find out because through the family's financial condition is suspicious, so rather than in the end causing problems it is better to be honest from now on.

I strongly agree with this approach for the simple reason as if it is not done like that then most likely the marriage or relationship would tear down in ashes.I do this with my wife,she knows I gamble although I don't tell her the exact amount of money as that maybe as a stopper for her to don't let me continue my activity,or better at least I used to do so as so far it is been a while since I have not been gambling at all because of huge lost amounts of money in a consecutive way.

The real way to go is to share even the small little things you would not be sharing normally with your wife or husband as this can strengthen the relationship between the two and make a family stronger in any circumstance that may occur.

Gamble for fun or you definitely mean the real deal? The facts still remain, husband gamble doesn't call for any attachments for the wife to join in gambling because the whole scenario becomes complicated as both of them will utilized budgets money to place wagers and runs heavy losses in the system. It is better, and stated to clarify the fact that you inform your spouse you gamble, it will be more simpler to spot out the differences and feelings, other than the husband finding out on his own, and we know how confrontational most of them can turn out to be.

This is quite an impressive statement, honesty is everything because lies will only bring destruction and add new problems that are much more difficult than before.
Maybe lying can hide what happened for while, but you have to understand that no lie can continue for long time, there will come time in the future when all these lies can be exposed.
When everything is known, that where new problems start to emerge that can destroy anything, including trust in wife, clearly this is something that must be avoided because it is related to family integrity and harmony.
Moreover, saying everything about what happened earlier would be much better and more acceptable than hiding it and letting husband find out directly what he did.
Obviously emotional, and also feelings of not being appreciated arise and trigger bad things to happen if the lies that have been carried out can be found out directly by the husband, of course the consequences could be much worse.
Maintaining trust is not easy because once trust is destroyed it will be difficult to get it back.

I am not judging anyone but what you just mentioned in the first line is one of the issues with marriages these days, why end up with someone you can't share everything with in the first place? That's what the person will have to live with for the rest of his/her life which I don't think is cool. I understand that relationships are not the same and we have to "dance to the music as the beat sounds," nevertheless, if such a little matter can be hidden, much worse would be hidden/pretended as well which will not make the spouses to be plain with each other and I do not see that as a good relationship. This is sad. I do not want to sound like a relationship expert but a concerned fellow.

I won't ignore the fact that I love peace in every relationship, which will always make me advocate one mind in relationships, or quit if that is not possible to avoid future issues. Gambling matters is the easiest thing I believe any free spouse can discuss, and for the good of the family, the resolve of both of them should be the final. After all, gambling is not a must, you guys may resolve into better things that will even be more beneficial to the family than gambling. Thankfully, you mentioned the spouse possibly helping in case of addiction or gambling challenges. However, if the spouse does not share the gambling issue but rather wastes money which affects the family both directly and directly, that can't be cool.

I agree, sincerity between two people who are friends is essential, we would not be doing anything if this is lost, that is why many people appeal to continue in a relationship where both deceive each other, or where one of them deceives the other. . On the other hand, I also start from something, between heaven and earth there is nothing hidden and in a couple when it is discovered that one of the two hid something from them, the other person will feel offended because they will say: what am I doing here? What to do with a person who is supposedly on your side and hiding things? It is something that should not be done, things tend to be clear in the couple, that is why there are so many Divorces in the world , because people do not know each other at Least a little better, when they have secrets , Some people don't let them know that they don't like them and they don't forgive them. If you have a partner, I think you Should always trust that partner.

This is where it is really that important when you are still dating someone, whether you would really be going for wife-material girl or would really be still that for the sake of fling or non serious relationship but since dating could really give out that kind of chance on knowing him/her even more. Its true that when hiding something on a relationship which does shows up
that you dont have that kind of respect towards your partner. Once you do caught up your partner to be having that behavior or kind of trait then expect that when you do go to marriage
then it is most likely that would really be committing out on the same mistake on which this is something that would really be happen. This is why it would really be best that you should
really be that honest as much as possible because this would really be leaving out with that kind of worry free if you arent that hiding something.

Agreed, I fear lack of solid foundation, in whatever you plan to do, the beginning is the most important part, how you start is what will define the end result, and so is relationships too.

Before you start a relationship with anyone you must have claimed to like them, even if you are a natural liar, you should understand that becoming someone's life partner is different, don't ever start using lies to build your foundation, it's not going to end well.

You could end up fighting every day to make them believe that you have changed, because in today's world, once someone finds out that you lied to them it means you can't be trusted, and they won't see you the same way they used to.

Solid foundations are always built on trust, especially between spouses, give no room to lies.

Isnt it depends on a gambling results ? :D We had topic here, when women split with boyfriends after winning a hefty amount in a lottery. So if you are a good at gambling, win regularly and your relationships arent healthy, then keep it in secret. And win a tag of "greedy toad" :D I would not keep anything in secret with my second half, but it is all up to you. Weigh all pros and cons, but I bet there will be no pros at all.

It is really difficult to determine when a person is serious or wants to grab something for fun, that's why I say something, you have to find a person and speak to them as clearly as possible, telling them that you want something for a while, for a party or something Serious , I think that in the world there are many people like that and that they are for all those tastes, of course one as a gentleman must do it, there is no other way, of course that also depends a lot on how a person can see it, whether a woman or a man, one As a man proposes it and the woman is willing, there are women who are not looking to get married nor are they going for the same thing, so in these things you have to be very clear, not get too excited and see things really as they are, it is a Shame that in a couple that Probably had a possible good future Because you have to ruin things for money.

It is really difficult to determine when a person is serious or wants to grab something for fun, that's why I say something, you have to find a person and speak to them as clearly as possible, telling them that you want something for a while, for a party or something Serious , I think that in the world there are many people like that and that they are for all those tastes, of course one as a gentleman must do it, there is no other way, of course that also depends a lot on how a person can see it, whether a woman or a man, one As a man proposes it and the woman is willing, there are women who are not looking to get married nor are they going for the same thing, so in these things you have to be very clear, not get too excited and see things really as they are, it is a Shame that in a couple that Probably had a possible good future Because you have to ruin things for money.

Very often, a family marriage begins to fall apart due to the fact that one of the spouses finds out that the second spouse was hiding something from him. In fact, any of us would not want this kind of thing to happen behind our back. This is why I am of the opinion that SmartGold01 should tell her husband about gambling. In any case, it will be better if he finds out about this from her lips than to check her browser history and discover a lot of new things.

That is very true what you say, whenever a relationship or anything else that involves two people, if it is based on lies, then things will never work well, because a person who is used to cheating or something like that, it is difficult for another person to do it. will take it in a good way, no one likes to be deceived, sometimes we as human beings are used to the hypocrisy of hearing what we want to hear and that is full of the world, even in the forum, only those who are authentic and say what What is or the truth because others consider him rebellious or irreverent, but since he is who he is, he is not afraid of anything, so this is what we must see, in a relationship whether we like or not the tastes of the other person, the couple. You must agree with what they do, with what they feel, otherwise everything will be a deception, there can be no deception, especially when it comes to money.

We do know that there's no secret that cant really be hidden up forever on which it would really be better that you should really be that open as much as possible with your partners specially when you are already that married because we know that once trust is broken then it would really be so hard on taking it back to its original. Also, it is really that too stressful on hiding up something away from your partner or on which having that sense on having no freedom because you are really that trying to hide something and since you dont like on getting caught then you would really be having that kind of
hiding and keeping it as a secret not until on the time that you would really be getting caught. Its always better to tell up the truth and it would be always better that you should be telling everything as much as you could or being that transparent.

Family relationships will be more harmonious when everything runs with full openness, in any case between the two parties, between you and your husband, and of course keeping things a secret from your partner is something that is not recommended because after all, they are our life partners who will always be accompany us until death do us part, and in addition I am sure that if you hide something from your partner then one day this will only trigger problems between you and your partner which, as you mentioned above, most likely your partner will not trust you again.

Even though basically, maybe you are a typical responsible gambler who can manage and control your gambling activities well and safely, but still the problem is keeping something secret from your partner, which can reduce the level of trust and possibly disrupt harmonious relationships in your relationship. family. So don't think that if you are a responsible gambler then you don't tell your husband, because maybe your husband has a different point of view towards gambling, maybe he will assume that even though you can maintain your involvement in gambling well, it's still a thing. The risk of losing money is a definite thing, and in fact this will only result in a number of unnecessary losses, however there are still quite a lot of other entertainments that you can do without any possible risk of loss.

Some are saying that each one of us does have a secret that even our husband or wives doesnt know about, if this one pertains into those things that happened before marriage or on the time that you created your own family then i dont see any issues with it but its true that nothing beats out on living in a family on which you arent that hiding on something. Just like on what been mentioned that having that kind of openess would really be bringing out that kind of happiness on which we know that telling everything nothing but the truth would be always that something which crucial on any relationship in between.

We do know on how important it is when it comes to trust and really that tell everything you do and everything you do have in mind. This is where you would really be able to see and say that your partner does really give out that kind of importance and respect towards their partners on which this is something commendable and recommendable of course.

Yes but the main problem here is that they have a habit that involves the use of money, no matter if for example you are a responsible gambler even still in the end the possibility of losing money is a sure thing, and simply put if for example you are not involved in gambling then there will be no amount of money lost even if the amount is not large, so even if the habit you have before you get married still when you get married then you should tell your partner about you having this habit.

As we know that when we have entered the household phase, the responsibility will be even greater because usually there will be a lot of money allocated to meet many needs where it is better for us to use the money to meet family needs than to gamble. Actually this will not be a problem if for example you have other habits that do not involve the risk of losing money even if for example you keep it a secret from your partner, but if for example the habit is gambling then in my opinion it is better to tell your partner, lest it causes problems in the end when you unconsciously turn into an impulsive gambler which is clear your partner will also scold you. What we have to look at here is "having a gambling habit" which involves the risk of losing money, it is this context that should be of concern.

Marriage does not supposed to have any hidden words or behavior in-between. The husband need to be honest to his wife while she also have to do the same. It is obvious that nothing is hidden from the sun and any thing hidden will surely be unveiled soon. It is better for she to tell her husband that she is into gambling so that the man can look for ways to help her to reduce the gambling pressure or interest in her. A man can gamble which might not be tolerated by the wildlife but a woman which is meant to keep the family and take care of the children are not meant to be seen gambling, what will the children learn from her?

Neither man or a woman in family or marriage then there's should really be that kind of transparency or being that honest to each other because this is one of the most important component or
thing that could make that marriage bond to be way more stronger and tougher and cant really be just that easily be taking down but on the time that there would really be those conditions on which trust has been broken then this is something that cant really be easily be taking back into original state on which it would really be that so hard on doing such thing. This is something that you would really
be needing to protect no matter what because once false or mistake you would be able to hit up then it wont be forgotten forever, or something that would really be creating that kind of doubt
and thinking.

Exactly. There is nothing as bad and painful as hiding something from your better half, according to how it's being called. Keeping something a secret from him or her alone shows that the person has or might have a hidden motive for why they choose to keep it a secret.
 
No matter how you try to explain it, when the next person finds out, it will be hard to rebuild and regain that trust back, so even if it will hurt, the best is to tell the next person first, then try to explain the reason why you do it, prove that it won't have any negative consequences for the family, and all will be well.

Starting off, he's your husband and should be aware of everything you do except the marriage was forced, thinking  or concluding about the discussion being unnecessary should be his to decide.

and when it comes to marriage, we should all inform them especially if there is money involved because it can even start or cause a fight and misunderstanding, maybe in the end it will even be reprimanded. Others say that our partners don't need to know all the moves, but for me, when you enter the world of marriage, what you have will automatically become his too, so they should really know everything and if you have respect your partner, you won't keep secrets because at the end of the day, you two will be on your side and will help each other especially if there is a problem.

To me it depends, while being honest in your marriage is key, at the same time you do not really need to tell your partner everything you do if it is not that significant, so assuming a person is earning thousands of dollars per month and they gamble a few bucks each week, that is not enough for me to raise some kind of alarm for being dishonest or anything, as each person within the marriage should have some freedom to spend some money in whatever they want, and only once the amount of money you spend reaches a certain point, then you must tell your significant other about what you are doing.

From my own experience, sometimes some wives don't like the surprises that are there for her, of course pleasant surprises, sometimes I have had some arguments with my wife because of that, she says that I don't tell her anything and that she feels that I have secrets with her and all these things, the truth is I am very relaxed and if she fights then sometimes I don't even stop her and thanks to that, when they are surprises or something like that for her benefit, I try not to do it to avoid problems or arguments because it is very annoying , but if something like a jaguar is hidden from her in a casino, it is something that she will not like at all and I am sure that she will reproach it all her life, but things must be very equitable, if a woman hides something like that from a man , it will cause some anger, but the duty is that the woman also tells her husband, because what you are risking is money and if you lose control and try to fall into addiction you will have the support of your husband, These things must be seen from the point of view that each person's tastes must be accepted and respected.

Of course honesty or openness is the key to harmony in a relationship and I understand that there may be some things that do not need to be told to your partner, but this is gambling buddy which involves money and also involves the risk of losing money, and you also said it above that a partner is advised to tell about his habit if it is significant and is not the possibility of losing a large amount of money an undesirable thing? And wouldn't that be a significant event? Of course, so what we have to look at here is the context of the habit which is gambling which over time can increase a person's interest in gambling and of course the consequence is destroying the financial balance.

So maybe there are two things that can trigger problems here, first your partner might scold you for not being open with them and the second is experiencing financial problems when gambling has become a priority for you which is possible over time for someone to experience an increased interest in gambling, on the other hand even though for example the amount allocated is not too large, it is possible that one day they try to put a larger amount and the impact can disrupt family finances.

Everyone of us have responsibility in the system. Telling your husband that you engaged in gambling activities as a woman have automatically ruined the plans for the possible future with the husband. Almost 90% of men in the world don't give room of feel happy to watch or acknowledge their wives gambling because they're suppose to be their companion and supporting wife, caring for the children and taking good care of the household, ensuring to execute the budgets for the family and everything will change because the wife does gamble.

There is no need to hide your behavior from your partner. Any behavior you think will not be condoled by your spouse should be stopped, this is the price we should pay to sustain our marriage. I don't wish to marry a gambler but if she is a responsible gambler and she is compatible with me, I wouldn't mind spending my life with her. But we have to do everything possible to shield our children from learning before the gambling age. My concern is that our family might raise gamblers if we are not careful. However, if she hides her gambling activities from me because she wants to pretend, this will not go down well with me because she just wants to deceive me. Notwithstanding it is important to acknowledge that some cultures frown at women gambling and this is the case in mine location. This means we would also have to keep the gambling activity secret from neighbors, friends, and families.

Where do you come up with such notions? We have long lived in a world where women have all the same rights as men. So why do you think a woman can't gamble?

SmartGold01 in her initial post clearly explained that she has no gambling addiction and has full control over her gambling expenses. I assume she can combine her family responsibilities and gambling.

Do you think it would be better if her husband accidentally finds out that she likes to gamble? In my opinion this option is more likely to lead to divorce.

Well, in case you are in a country that, due to their religion or something, they are prohibited from playing, then that is very understandable, although I see that as something that does not have much to do with anything bad, but each religion has its beliefs. and that is respected, however when you have a partner you can give yourself some freedoms, but everything changes when you have children and a family, things change a lot because that is something else, in fact you forget about yourself to be able to give them everything, so I think that the sense of responsibility changes much more with them, well that's what happened to me, one no longer thinks so much about one's own benefit because if one sees that one's children are well and one goes to second place, those who prioritize themselves themselves first before their children, they should not complain when their children grow up because they do not have that affection, that love towards their parents.

In my own it's good to you and your family once you will tell them especially your husband  that you are involved in gambling and secretly you are playing some games. Once you already said that on your husband then one thing for sure it will shock but afterwards you and your husband talk about gambling and if he gonna tell you that it's okay to gamble then thats a good one but if not I don't think so. Cause it will matters how you involve in gambling and if they found out that you are too long involve in gambling that your husband will got angry for sure.