Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[DubemIfedigbo001]

The fact that you have to ask means he could have a different impression whenever you tell him.  If you are to tell him, you must first make him understand that it's just about a side job online.  If you are to start gambling, a minimum of a few bucks, a bit of experience won't hurt. Maybe try sports also.

Yeah, I think you should let him know about it and that your involvement is just for you to be able to continually contribute meaningfully to this section as a requirements to meet up with your weekly pay. Make him understand your patterns of engagement and the limitations you've set for yourself to ensure you don't waste your funds. If you guys understand each other properly, it shouldn't be much of a big deal, but if he first like it, you can stop and choose your marriage over your new found gambling habit

And if you just keep it a secret, it's fine. This is my preferred choice if I am to put my feet in your shoes. This is like you are just browsing websites, you happen to land on casinos because they are related to cryptocurrency.

Personally, I don't encourage keeping such secrets in marriage, everybody should be open about their activities, so your partner doesn't feel left out. He might find out one day and be really mad at you for not informing him of such beforehand. if you were just dating, it wouldn't be a big deal to me, but marriage is a different case scenario.

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[piebeyb]

Your gambling now may be your personal hobby, but we won't know for sure if this hobby will have any impact on your family's finances in the future, right? Therefore, it is necessary for you to let your husband know about your gambling.
Share honestly and I believe he will understand and may even be happy that you were able to participate in gambling in such a disciplined way. Who knows, maybe you and he can participate in gambling together.

Yes, it's better to be honest now than to hide it and eventually one day her husband finds out for himself, it will definitely hurt him, after all, even though we may feel confident that as long as gambling is still under good control or it's just a hobby, still don't ever try to use it. money that is specifically used for living needs has been given by the husband who may have entrusted his wife to manage his finances, but if it is misused for gambling it is clearly a wrong act, but if gambling is just for entertainment using money left over from shopping there may not be a problem.

The point is to try to prioritize openness to your husband because it is important, especially for a life partner who is clearly someone who must be respected, whatever our behavior is that he is not used to seeing, it is better to tell him never to cover everything up because it is impossible to hide anything secret if in the end In a matter of time it will also be revealed in the future, honesty in the household is very important to maintain harmony, lest the problem of the hobby of gambling can become an obstacle that makes the household fall apart.

[Blitzboy]

After analysing your points, it sounds you are responsible at gambling. If a person can have control over him, can manage funds as well as emotion and always keep himself in discipline then its okey. So its good to go if you wanna continue. Now you wanna tell your husband about your gambling, right? As I don't know how he thinks about gambling, so it could be difficult to advise cause many people in our society doesn't have good impression regarding gambling. they think, gamblers are irresponsible & consider gambling as offense. So first try to have an idea about his mentality then try to tell him with better explanation cause he is your partner & he deserves to know about your activities. Otherwise his impression could be difficult when he found you gambling.

Its the same as any high-stakes game, like cards or business. Be smart, know your limits, and take care of the risk. Lets not forget that the main point is to have fun.

Its a good idea to talk to your husband. People in a relationship need to know about big moves just like they need to know about big moves. Being honest and sure of yourself is a winning strategy that everyone can admire. Show him that this is about being responsible with things and not about having an out-of-control habit.

People who think gaming is bad are missing the point. Life is a game, and if you play it right, it can be fun and test your skills. There is always some luck involved, but the smart thing to do is to play sensibly. Talk to them, but remember that you're in charge, both on and off the table.

[ethereumhunter]

And if you just keep it a secret, it's fine. This is my preferred choice if I am to put my feet in your shoes. This is like you are just browsing websites, you happen to land on casinos because they are related to cryptocurrency.

Personally, I don't encourage keeping such secrets in marriage, everybody should be open about their activities, so your partner doesn't feel left out. He might find out one day and be really mad at you for not informing him of such beforehand. if you were just dating, it wouldn't be a big deal to me, but marriage is a different case scenario.

We don't encourage them keeping such secrets in marriage but that's happens to many couple because they thinks that will be better if they keep that for themselves without telling their spouse.  That will depends on each decision because we can't force them to follows what we suggest. They are free to choose whatever they wants with their gambling activity and if they thinks that keeping their gambling activity secretly, they can still do that. But that woman should realizes about what will happens to their marriage if she keeps hiding their gambling activity to her husband. We can only suggest people about what they should do but we can't force them to follows our suggestion and that will be their responsibility to face what will happens later.

[EarnOnVictor]

And if you just keep it a secret, it's fine. This is my preferred choice if I am to put my feet in your shoes. This is like you are just browsing websites, you happen to land on casinos because they are related to cryptocurrency.

Personally, I don't encourage keeping such secrets in marriage, everybody should be open about their activities, so your partner doesn't feel left out. He might find out one day and be really mad at you for not informing him of such beforehand. if you were just dating, it wouldn't be a big deal to me, but marriage is a different case scenario.

We don't encourage them keeping such secrets in marriage but that's happens to many couple because they thinks that will be better if they keep that for themselves without telling their spouse.  That will depends on each decision because we can't force them to follows what we suggest. They are free to choose whatever they wants with their gambling activity and if they thinks that keeping their gambling activity secretly, they can still do that. But that woman should realizes about what will happens to their marriage if she keeps hiding their gambling activity to her husband. We can only suggest people about what they should do but we can't force them to follows our suggestion and that will be their responsibility to face what will happens later.

What is even so secretive about gambling that we can't share with our spouse? Gambling is not criminal, and neither is it a stimulant that can injure one's life, it is just part of the way of life, an activity of betting, it should not be secretive at all, especially if we are wise about it. But if you know that your spouse would frown at it, it is better you quietly it immediately and quietly. That's if you can tell him or her directly. Still, I advise that people tell their spouse so that they know the direct response. Who knows, the whole situation might be surprising to some people as their spouse could accept it, especially if the gambler is living a quality life and is responsible towards gambling to the extent that people may not even know that such a person is gambling.

This is the kind of gambling lifestyle we want, everyone can be proud of this, unlike the way most people go about gambling which makes people view it as irresponsible. Lastly, good family members, especially couples should be able to know everything about themselves, so letting the spouse know about this is the best way out. Unfortunately, keeping it till the spouse detects by his or herself may lead to more issues/damage than telling him/her yourself.

[GideonGono]

For me you should tell your husband about it, keeping it a secret would only cause problems in the future.
For me if money is involve your partner should always know it, you didn't do anything wrong you could control your greed and if it doesn't really affect your daily life or you are using only your spare or excess money then there is nothing wrong with it, you are doing it for fun you are not addicted to it.

[Bravut]

I see most members on this forum playing along with Rule 7 on your list, my take remains we shouldn't lie to ourselves whether or not we all gamble because we want to win not for fun, please we shouldn't be blindfolded with this unrealistic believe, it only fun when you have enough money you are willing lose,  and you just place random bets caring less about winning. Though this can't be overstretched as everyone has reasons for there action and believe is subjective.

Back to the real business.

No need to hide such from your husband, one of the quality of a healthy relationship is openness between partners, keeping it a secret might cause misunderstanding if he finds out by himself or in a different situation, so the earlier the better. You understand your husband practically well than any of us meaning you know how to go about it as far there is love between both of you it will be sorted out. No need for fear or panic.
The truth will be that you abide by the rules of the game, and it shouldn't in anyway affect your relationship or become a limiting factor to the family finance.

[madnessteat]

I still maintain that spouses should not hide things from each other. Only in the full trust of both spouses is it possible to achieve full mutual understanding and, consequently, a long and happy family life. That is why my wife found out that I like to gamble before she married me. And in fact it did not embarrass her at all, although she does not play gambling. Sometimes she watches me gamble, but she's not as interested in it as I am. She is more interested in her work and making the house comfortable.

[Fatunad]

And if you just keep it a secret, it's fine. This is my preferred choice if I am to put my feet in your shoes. This is like you are just browsing websites, you happen to land on casinos because they are related to cryptocurrency.

Personally, I don't encourage keeping such secrets in marriage, everybody should be open about their activities, so your partner doesn't feel left out. He might find out one day and be really mad at you for not informing him of such beforehand. if you were just dating, it wouldn't be a big deal to me, but marriage is a different case scenario.

We don't encourage them keeping such secrets in marriage but that's happens to many couple because they thinks that will be better if they keep that for themselves without telling their spouse.  That will depends on each decision because we can't force them to follows what we suggest. They are free to choose whatever they wants with their gambling activity and if they thinks that keeping their gambling activity secretly, they can still do that. But that woman should realizes about what will happens to their marriage if she keeps hiding their gambling activity to her husband. We can only suggest people about what they should do but we can't force them to follows our suggestion and that will be their responsibility to face what will happens later.

What is even so secretive about gambling that we can't share with our spouse? Gambling is not criminal, and neither is it a stimulant that can injure one's life, it is just part of the way of life, an activity of betting, it should not be secretive at all, especially if we are wise about it. But if you know that your spouse would frown at it, it is better you quietly it immediately and quietly. That's if you can tell him or her directly. Still, I advise that people tell their spouse so that they know the direct response. Who knows, the whole situation might be surprising to some people as their spouse could accept it, especially if the gambler is living a quality life and is responsible towards gambling to the extent that people may not even know that such a person is gambling.

This is the kind of gambling lifestyle we want, everyone can be proud of this, unlike the way most people go about gambling which makes people view it as irresponsible. Lastly, good family members, especially couples should be able to know everything about themselves, so letting the spouse know about this is the best way out. Unfortunately, keeping it till the spouse detects by his or herself may lead to more issues/damage than telling him/her yourself.

In any relationship specially when you are a married person then having those kind of secrets on which we know that there's no secret that could be hidden up forever. Lets say that you've been hiding your gambling activity into your husband but one day he had caught you on act on doing such thing, then what you would gonna do? So its better to tell him up about on the things that you've been dealing as early as possible,
this isnt really just only saving up yourself on possible conflicts but also it do lessen up the burden and stress of keeping it on secret. This is why it would really be that best that you should really be keeping no secret
neither from your husband or wife because nothing beats out on having that peaceful living on which you arent that hiding something.

Gambling is never been bad as long you do find yourself that responsible then it should really be just that fine but if you are really that making things out of control
specially with money spending then this is where issues do really come out and this is something that you should really be stopping in the first place.

[Jody.Drummer]

I still maintain that spouses should not hide things from each other. Only in the full trust of both spouses is it possible to achieve full mutual understanding and, consequently, a long and happy family life. That is why my wife found out that I like to gamble before she married me. And in fact it did not embarrass her at all, although she does not play gambling. Sometimes she watches me gamble, but she's not as interested in it as I am. She is more interested in her work and making the house comfortable.

Yes, it is true because the harmony of a relationship must always involve honesty or openness in various matters or old or new habits that our own partners have, because on the other hand it cannot be denied that this might cause problems in the end when it turns out that your husband knows about your gambling habits or even he caught you gambling, problems will very likely occur especially if it turns out that your husband is one of those people who does not like or always tries to avoid gambling.

Although basically we think that we are able to control and manage our gambling activities well so as not to cause any problems in the end, but still the name of a couple must be able to be open to each other, even though for example your husband is not angry with the gambling you are doing but it is not impossible that he could be angry due to your lack of openness in having this new habit. Therefore, it is clear that to minimize the occurrence of a problem, it is better to be honest with our partners.

[Quidat]

I still maintain that spouses should not hide things from each other. Only in the full trust of both spouses is it possible to achieve full mutual understanding and, consequently, a long and happy family life. That is why my wife found out that I like to gamble before she married me. And in fact it did not embarrass her at all, although she does not play gambling. Sometimes she watches me gamble, but she's not as interested in it as I am. She is more interested in her work and making the house comfortable.

Yes, it is true because the harmony of a relationship must always involve honesty or openness in various matters or old or new habits that our own partners have, because on the other hand it cannot be denied that this might cause problems in the end when it turns out that your husband knows about your gambling habits or even he caught you gambling, problems will very likely occur especially if it turns out that your husband is one of those people who does not like or always tries to avoid gambling.

Although basically we think that we are able to control and manage our gambling activities well so as not to cause any problems in the end, but still the name of a couple must be able to be open to each other, even though for example your husband is not angry with the gambling you are doing but it is not impossible that he could be angry due to your lack of openness in having this new habit. Therefore, it is clear that to minimize the occurrence of a problem, it is better to be honest with our partners.

Honesty is the best policy
One lie ruins a thousand truths.
A half truth is a whole lie

These are the things that i do believe about honestly on which we know that once trust is broken then it cant never be that goes back to normal
on which it would really be that something that common sense that you shouldnt really that make yourself that involved into those secrets
because once its been find out then trust is something that could be broken and its not really that something good to a relationship.

[mirakal]

What you said shows that you have been involved in gambling for a long time before you can practice such principles. It's not easy, especially for a woman like you. But I am wondering  that you have been involved in gambling for so long and your husband still doesn't find out?

Your gambling now may be your personal hobby, but we won't know for sure if this hobby will have any impact on your family's finances in the future, right? Therefore, it is necessary for you to let your husband know about your gambling.
Share honestly and I believe he will understand and may even be happy that you were able to participate in gambling in such a disciplined way. Who knows, maybe you and he can participate in gambling together.

Gambling is not actually need to be hidden, or keep it as a secret, as long as you are doing it for fun and just a side income, without compromising your finances, then that’s good to tell. Your husband might understand your purpose most especially if he is also a responsible gambler. But if he is on the other side and treat gambling negatively like how others are seeing it, that would cause a little problem. That’s why you have to be honest to him as earlier as now, so that whatever your reason why you are in gambling, he will clearly understand it without doubts and hesitation.

[youdacapt]

This is not about husband and wife’s, man or women. But in gambling you should make sure never to be compelled into practicing gambling.

Gambling comes with huge risks and responsibilities, being compelled into gambling is a recipe for disaster and it is a bad idea as well.

OP, such advise in the subject post is bad and not responsible

[Quidat]

This is not about husband and wife’s, man or women. But in gambling you should make sure never to be compelled into practicing gambling.

Gambling comes with huge risks and responsibilities, being compelled into gambling is a recipe for disaster and it is a bad idea as well.

OP, such advise in the subject post is bad and not responsible

Yeah, you should really be a responsible gambler but we do know that when it comes to marriage then everything should really be transparent because on the time that you would really be that hiding
something into your partner then you are just basically putting up yourself on getting caught. I do agree into those words above that there's no secret that cant be known or would be hidden forever.
This is why as early as possible then you should really be telling on everything into your partner because you cant really be able to know on when you do get busted.

No matter how responsible you are in gambling but you do often on playing no matter what then sooner or later you would really be able to experience
the worst when it comes to gambling addiction. It would really be that impossible to hide when finances are already that gradually been eaten up or spend on.
There's no way that it could really be hidden it into your partner.

[angrybirdy]

This is not about husband and wife’s, man or women. But in gambling you should make sure never to be compelled into practicing gambling.

Gambling comes with huge risks and responsibilities, being compelled into gambling is a recipe for disaster and it is a bad idea as well.

OP, such advise in the subject post is bad and not responsible

Yeah, you should really be a responsible gambler but we do know that when it comes to marriage then everything should really be transparent because on the time that you would really be that hiding
something into your partner then you are just basically putting up yourself on getting caught. I do agree into those words above that there's no secret that cant be known or would be hidden forever.
This is why as early as possible then you should really be telling on everything into your partner because you cant really be able to know on when you do get busted.

No matter how responsible you are in gambling but you do often on playing no matter what then sooner or later you would really be able to experience
the worst when it comes to gambling addiction. It would really be that impossible to hide when finances are already that gradually been eaten up or spend on.
There's no way that it could really be hidden it into your partner.

Well said, when it comes to marriage life, everything should be transparent between husband and wife, if you really respect your partner, you have to said everything to them especially that money is involved in this case. It is also good that your partner knows the activities you do so that in case there is a problem, he is aware and knows what can help or give you advice. When you're married, you two should know each other, even the smallest details, because that's one of the vows you made when you got married.

[ethereumhunter]

What is even so secretive about gambling that we can't share with our spouse? Gambling is not criminal, and neither is it a stimulant that can injure one's life, it is just part of the way of life, an activity of betting, it should not be secretive at all, especially if we are wise about it. But if you know that your spouse would frown at it, it is better you quietly it immediately and quietly. That's if you can tell him or her directly. Still, I advise that people tell their spouse so that they know the direct response. Who knows, the whole situation might be surprising to some people as their spouse could accept it, especially if the gambler is living a quality life and is responsible towards gambling to the extent that people may not even know that such a person is gambling.

This is the kind of gambling lifestyle we want, everyone can be proud of this, unlike the way most people go about gambling which makes people view it as irresponsible. Lastly, good family members, especially couples should be able to know everything about themselves, so letting the spouse know about this is the best way out. Unfortunately, keeping it till the spouse detects by his or herself may lead to more issues/damage than telling him/her yourself.

Maybe for some people gambling is okay to be share to their spouse but for some people, that is a secret that no one needs to knows. As long as that person can be wise using gambling and can be a responsible gambler, she will not have a problem when playing gambling or after she finish playing gambling. But there are a chance for her to gets deeper in gambling, especially if she lose control while playing gambling. She will not gets a help from anyone when she gets a problem from gambling and that's why she must tells to her spouse about her gambling activity. If her spouse knows about her gambling activity and he is not agree with that, he can asks her to stops his gambling activity for her own good. Our spouse will suggest the best thing for us so we will not makes a problem for our family.

If someone used gambling as his lifestyle, he will not be able to follows because playing gambling needs money while we have many things to be filled. It's better we can used as an activity like the other activities and not playing gambling too often to avoids many problems or impacts that can occurs while we interact with gambling. If we wants to playing gambling, we must have self control and responsible in gambling so we don't have to lose much money and can still enjoy gambling as an entertainment.

[nara1892]

What you said shows that you have been involved in gambling for a long time before you can practice such principles. It's not easy, especially for a woman like you. But I am wondering  that you have been involved in gambling for so long and your husband still doesn't find out?

Your gambling now may be your personal hobby, but we won't know for sure if this hobby will have any impact on your family's finances in the future, right? Therefore, it is necessary for you to let your husband know about your gambling.
Share honestly and I believe he will understand and may even be happy that you were able to participate in gambling in such a disciplined way. Who knows, maybe you and he can participate in gambling together.

Gambling is not actually need to be hidden, or keep it as a secret, as long as you are doing it for fun and just a side income, without compromising your finances, then that’s good to tell. Your husband might understand your purpose most especially if he is also a responsible gambler. But if he is on the other side and treat gambling negatively like how others are seeing it, that would cause a little problem. That’s why you have to be honest to him as earlier as now, so that whatever your reason why you are in gambling, he will clearly understand it without doubts and hesitation.

True, basically if you or anyone is able to control and manage their gambling activities properly in the sense of gambling without putting hope and seriousness on winning then yes maybe it won't be a problem if we don't keep it a secret from others, after all the most important thing is that we gamble with our own money and don't harm others or that means if for example you do everything yourself without involving others then yes it doesn't matter not to keep it a secret.

But yes try to treat gambling activities in accordance with the advice, or that means gambling only with the intention and purpose of entertainment and this is advice for all gamblers because after all the intention and purpose of earning can never succeed if you bring it to activities that have absolutely no certainty whatsoever in terms of producing winnings. So of course as you say that it is better to be honest with our partners about our gambling habits, because after all the name of the carcass will one day smell too, or the point is that even though you always try to hide but in the end I am sure your partner will find out because through the family's financial condition is suspicious, so rather than in the end causing problems it is better to be honest from now on.

[swogerino]

This is not about husband and wife’s, man or women. But in gambling you should make sure never to be compelled into practicing gambling.

Gambling comes with huge risks and responsibilities, being compelled into gambling is a recipe for disaster and it is a bad idea as well.

OP, such advise in the subject post is bad and not responsible

Yeah, you should really be a responsible gambler but we do know that when it comes to marriage then everything should really be transparent because on the time that you would really be that hiding
something into your partner then you are just basically putting up yourself on getting caught. I do agree into those words above that there's no secret that cant be known or would be hidden forever.
This is why as early as possible then you should really be telling on everything into your partner because you cant really be able to know on when you do get busted.

No matter how responsible you are in gambling but you do often on playing no matter what then sooner or later you would really be able to experience
the worst when it comes to gambling addiction. It would really be that impossible to hide when finances are already that gradually been eaten up or spend on.
There's no way that it could really be hidden it into your partner.

Well said, when it comes to marriage life, everything should be transparent between husband and wife, if you really respect your partner, you have to said everything to them especially that money is involved in this case. It is also good that your partner knows the activities you do so that in case there is a problem, he is aware and knows what can help or give you advice. When you're married, you two should know each other, even the smallest details, because that's one of the vows you made when you got married.

I strongly agree with this approach for the simple reason as if it is not done like that then most likely the marriage or relationship would tear down in ashes.I do this with my wife,she knows I gamble although I don't tell her the exact amount of money as that maybe as a stopper for her to don't let me continue my activity,or better at least I used to do so as so far it is been a while since I have not been gambling at all because of huge lost amounts of money in a consecutive way.

The real way to go is to share even the small little things you would not be sharing normally with your wife or husband as this can strengthen the relationship between the two and make a family stronger in any circumstance that may occur.

[entertheabyss]

For me you should tell your husband about it, keeping it a secret would only cause problems in the future.
For me if money is involve your partner should always know it, you didn't do anything wrong you could control your greed and if it doesn't really affect your daily life or you are using only your spare or excess money then there is nothing wrong with it, you are doing it for fun you are not addicted to it.

Gamble for fun or you definitely mean the real deal? The facts still remain, husband gamble doesn't call for any attachments for the wife to join in gambling because the whole scenario becomes complicated as both of them will utilized budgets money to place wagers and runs heavy losses in the system. It is better, and stated to clarify the fact that you inform your spouse you gamble, it will be more simpler to spot out the differences and feelings, other than the husband finding out on his own, and we know how confrontational most of them can turn out to be.

[Hirose UK]

Honesty is the best policy
One lie ruins a thousand truths.
A half truth is a whole lie

These are the things that i do believe about honestly on which we know that once trust is broken then it cant never be that goes back to normal
on which it would really be that something that common sense that you shouldnt really that make yourself that involved into those secrets
because once its been find out then trust is something that could be broken and its not really that something good to a relationship.

This is quite an impressive statement, honesty is everything because lies will only bring destruction and add new problems that are much more difficult than before.
Maybe lying can hide what happened for while, but you have to understand that no lie can continue for long time, there will come time in the future when all these lies can be exposed.
When everything is known, that where new problems start to emerge that can destroy anything, including trust in wife, clearly this is something that must be avoided because it is related to family integrity and harmony.
Moreover, saying everything about what happened earlier would be much better and more acceptable than hiding it and letting husband find out directly what he did.
Obviously emotional, and also feelings of not being appreciated arise and trigger bad things to happen if the lies that have been carried out can be found out directly by the husband, of course the consequences could be much worse.
Maintaining trust is not easy because once trust is destroyed it will be difficult to get it back.