Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[maydna]

As a wife, opening up and informing your partner that you have involved in gambling does not seem appropriate. Most men would perceive it as a sign of desperation and risky behavior caused by their expectations of the best from their spouses, rather than random women who gamble as another source of money. Facts: Most men consider women who gamble to be idle and lazy; perhaps they have no right to evaluate any activity because the women in issue are grown enough to know what they want; anything that makes you happy, do it.

It's okay if the wife tells her husband that she also gambles. But a wife should be able to see when her husband is not busy and relaxing so they can chat about many things. It will also increase the closeness between the two of them so that there will be an interesting discussion between them. Maybe initially, the husband could not accept his wife's explanation, which was normal because if the husband gambled and told his wife about it, his wife would definitely do the same. So that's only natural. The wife can explain more about why she gambles to her husband, and the wife should be honest with her so that her husband does not get too angry. The wife can also say that as long as she gambles, she can be responsible well, and maybe later, her husband will ask her just to stop gambling because there are serious impacts behind gambling. And if the husband asks the wife to stop gambling, the wife must obey him and not indulge her ego because it is their household.

[Fredomago]

As a wife, opening up and informing your partner that you have involved in gambling does not seem appropriate. Most men would perceive it as a sign of desperation and risky behavior caused by their expectations of the best from their spouses, rather than random women who gamble as another source of money. Facts: Most men consider women who gamble to be idle and lazy; perhaps they have no right to evaluate any activity because the women in issue are grown enough to know what they want; anything that makes you happy, do it.

It's okay if the wife tells her husband that she also gambles. But a wife should be able to see when her husband is not busy and relaxing so they can chat about many things. It will also increase the closeness between the two of them so that there will be an interesting discussion between them. Maybe initially, the husband could not accept his wife's explanation, which was normal because if the husband gambled and told his wife about it, his wife would definitely do the same. So that's only natural. The wife can explain more about why she gambles to her husband, and the wife should be honest with her so that her husband does not get too angry. The wife can also say that as long as she gambles, she can be responsible well, and maybe later, her husband will ask her just to stop gambling because there are serious impacts behind gambling. And if the husband asks the wife to stop gambling, the wife must obey him and not indulge her ego because it is their household.

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

[klidex]

All the OP's points mentioned are correct, and if all the points are actually done well there is no problem.
However, the problem with the points mentioned by the OP is that there are no points of important obligations that the wife must carry out in taking care of the household, husband, children and other important needs. And if these points are implemented along with the points mentioned by OP, then overall it will be safe. And I'm just afraid that everything won't go well, or maybe there are some wifely obligations that have been neglected.
And I personally would forbid my wife from gambling, and I have no problem with her gambling responsibly, having fun and so on. And I'm worried that my wife will neglect some of her work or obligations and also be a bad example for the children.

It's not just about obligations or responsibilities not being fulfilled or taken care of, but it's about the trust that is being broken. When you are in a relationship, especially if it's a marriage, you would expect your partner to share everything with you, and by everything I mean every single thing that they do or happens or whatever else that one can think of, and if one day, all of a sudden, you come to know that she has been secretly doing something without telling you, how would that feel? Ask yourself.

Most of the time, we hide things from others because we think those things are not for them to know as they will either get angry, not allow us, or because what we are doing isn't ethical. But if there is something so casual, like gambling for fun, as OP said she doesn't have intentions to get richness from it, so I don't see any point why she had to hide it from him in the first place.

When we are in a relationship, whether we are dating or husband and wife, we should be open with our partner and that we don't need to hide anything which will ultimately cause arguments or commotion and if we are married it will definitely cause chaos which will make the children uneasy because they see their parents fighting. I always apply this to myself, if my partner is not honest, I will definitely be angry, therefore I always say anything to my partner so that there is nothing to hide between us.

Sometimes what causes people to hide things from us is because they feel that their partner will prohibit them, so they do things that are prohibited in secret without their partner knowing. But have we ever thought that any prohibition is only is for our good. Whereas a wife has the responsibility of taking care of the house and children a husband definitely thinks that if his wife gambles, it will interfere with his activities and is also not good for him, so most husbands usually forbid it his wife gambles not without reason.

[maydna]

~snip~

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

Yes, that's what he meant by discussing this gambling problem with his partner so that no misunderstandings would occur. This will allow them to discuss more closely and express what they want. This is why there must be openness from the wife about her gambling activities to her husband so that the husband can understand that his wife only gambles periodically and is still able to look after herself and be responsible for her gambling activities.

If her husband advises her to start reducing her gambling activities until her wife can give up gambling, that would be even better because neither of them would think about allocating funds for gambling. They can shift their money allocation to other things that are more important than just gambling.

[electronicash]

~snip~

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

Yes, that's what he meant by discussing this gambling problem with his partner so that no misunderstandings would occur. This will allow them to discuss more closely and express what they want. This is why there must be openness from the wife about her gambling activities to her husband so that the husband can understand that his wife only gambles periodically and is still able to look after herself and be responsible for her gambling activities.

If her husband advises her to start reducing her gambling activities until her wife can give up gambling, that would be even better because neither of them would think about allocating funds for gambling. They can shift their money allocation to other things that are more important than just gambling.

it's good if this is the case because the husband can be handled. in real life when a woman starts working and earns her own money while married, it's gonna start a tension between the two. i could be wrong but when a wife asks something like this means she has doubts about what her husband thinks.

we may have to consider where they live since she is from Nigeria. men there are dominant inside the house and will take all the money from their wives. from what i know.

[LUCKMCFLY]

~snip~

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

Yes, that's what he meant by discussing this gambling problem with his partner so that no misunderstandings would occur. This will allow them to discuss more closely and express what they want. This is why there must be openness from the wife about her gambling activities to her husband so that the husband can understand that his wife only gambles periodically and is still able to look after herself and be responsible for her gambling activities.

If her husband advises her to start reducing her gambling activities until her wife can give up gambling, that would be even better because neither of them would think about allocating funds for gambling. They can shift their money allocation to other things that are more important than just gambling.

I think that in every couple there should always be communication, there should not be any coverts or anything like that, things should always be that way , personally I am a person who also has his wife, has children , a nice family , but when she likes something that I don't, then I try to see something that doesn't negatively affect her life or mine or my children's , and if I see that they don't have any type of impact then I support her, I don't porbelma, things can be like that, now, if the rbelma is from a casino, and his way of playing, the first thing you do or what I would do would be to ask him the main thing, how much are you spending? because I see that if you are Spending a lot and without control, it will give you a couple of warnings , and that with money you have to be Careful , because it is very easy for you to fall into addiction if you do not have the Required control , it is something that Sometimes people cannot control , but they must.

  In this case things must always be shown in the correct way, inventions cannot be made with money, expenses in a casino must always be minimized so that the chances of winning can be increased, if we do not have the total understanding of how You should behave in a casino, it is better not to do it, it is better to lose help, as I have always said, if there is no money willing to lose in a casino, it is very easy to lose control, waste all the money you have at a time, and look for more to be spent again, and that is in accordance with the emotions, the impulses and with everything that has to do with good play, so every time we play or our partner plays, it would be good to tell him to play in our presence and see how he behaves with money, and if he puts money willing to lose or not, and how he reacts to basic decisions, based on this, it is the easiest way to determine his style and where the mistakes.

[len01]

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

so, that's why it's very important for couples when they want to talk about something sensitive, they have to look at the right situation to be able to say everything that needs to be discussed even if in the end there are some words that they don't agree with but at least if the conditions are peaceful, they definitely won't there will be arguments or misunderstandings and when discussing sensitive matters such as gambling, if you are not allowed to gamble, of course there is always a solution and well, as you said, gambling nowadays is not a bad thing so a wife can give confidence to her if he can maintain her responsibilities and remain a good wife who takes care of her children and gambles when she has free time.
I'm sure that as long as everything is discussed comfortably, our partner will definitely give us freedom as long as we don't cross the limits that have been determined previously.

[Quidat]

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

so, that's why it's very important for couples when they want to talk about something sensitive, they have to look at the right situation to be able to say everything that needs to be discussed even if in the end there are some words that they don't agree with but at least if the conditions are peaceful, they definitely won't there will be arguments or misunderstandings and when discussing sensitive matters such as gambling, if you are not allowed to gamble, of course there is always a solution and well, as you said, gambling nowadays is not a bad thing so a wife can give confidence to her if he can maintain her responsibilities and remain a good wife who takes care of her children and gambles when she has free time.
I'm sure that as long as everything is discussed comfortably, our partner will definitely give us freedom as long as we don't cross the limits that have been determined previously.

Everything should be opened and you wont really be finding any problems in regarding into your relationship towards your partner on which you wont really be that making yourself
having those kind of doubts and anxiety that you might really be caught on what you are doing. This is why it would really be that better that you should really be telling
things no matter how small it would be because something that wont really be that liked and once you do get caught then it would really be ending up that kind of possible arguments
on which it isnt really that healthy for a good relationship. You should really at least know on what are those things which your partner is liking or not.

[Dewi Aries]

As a wife, opening up and informing your partner that you have involved in gambling does not seem appropriate. Most men would perceive it as a sign of desperation and risky behavior caused by their expectations of the best from their spouses, rather than random women who gamble as another source of money. Facts: Most men consider women who gamble to be idle and lazy; perhaps they have no right to evaluate any activity because the women in issue are grown enough to know what they want; anything that makes you happy, do it.

It's okay if the wife tells her husband that she also gambles. But a wife should be able to see when her husband is not busy and relaxing so they can chat about many things. It will also increase the closeness between the two of them so that there will be an interesting discussion between them. Maybe initially, the husband could not accept his wife's explanation, which was normal because if the husband gambled and told his wife about it, his wife would definitely do the same. So that's only natural. The wife can explain more about why she gambles to her husband, and the wife should be honest with her so that her husband does not get too angry. The wife can also say that as long as she gambles, she can be responsible well, and maybe later, her husband will ask her just to stop gambling because there are serious impacts behind gambling. And if the husband asks the wife to stop gambling, the wife must obey him and not indulge her ego because it is their household.

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

But in my opinion, the negative point of view of the community on gambling will still persist and most likely this negative point of view will continue to persist until an unspecified time, because obviously the risk of gambling will still be there and this is what the couple is afraid of, namely when the gambling committed by one of their partners is no longer helped over time or in the sense that it has entered the phase of chronic addiction, the impact will be felt by all family members there.

On the other hand, I agree that communication is indeed one of the good approaches in terms of maintaining good family relationships, having good communication along with being able to balance a good mindset between the two parties will be useful for solving any problems that occur in the relationship, and on the other hand I really hope that they will be able to consider gambling activities from various sides, especially in terms of adverse effects and discuss rationally to find the best decision.

[dezoel]

But in my opinion, the negative point of view of the community on gambling will still persist and most likely this negative point of view will continue to persist until an unspecified time, because obviously the risk of gambling will still be there and this is what the couple is afraid of, namely when the gambling committed by one of their partners is no longer helped over time or in the sense that it has entered the phase of chronic addiction, the impact will be felt by all family members there.

The negative effects of gambling aren't the matter here because she has clearly stated in the opening post that her gambling activities are in no way affecting her or her family's life and she isn't gambling for richness or is using funds intended for other purposes, the only issue is that she has been hiding her activities from her husband.

On the other hand, I agree that communication is indeed one of the good approaches in terms of maintaining good family relationships, having good communication along with being able to balance a good mindset between the two parties will be useful for solving any problems that occur in the relationship, and on the other hand I really hope that they will be able to consider gambling activities from various sides, especially in terms of adverse effects and discuss rationally to find the best decision.

You're right, communication is crucial, and it's better to discuss things and reveal the secrets yourself with your partner before they find out from somewhere else or finds out about it himself which would make him feel very bad because it would feel you've been deceiving him on his back since you never shared it with him.

[EarnOnVictor]

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

First, it is good to know that you are a careful gambler, and with what you iterated above and what you believe and avoid in gambling, if you can keep them truly, then you are good to go with no reasons for worrying. It shows clearly that you are mostly gambling for the fun but if the money comes from it, you will be happy. This is the right mindset to gamble, so I do not see any reason why you do not tell your husband, you are not just irresponsible with it. Gambling is not that bad, and even if your husband is not gambling or a religious person who frowns at it, it is still his right to know unless you are practising something else but falsely calling it family.

To me, although it is subject to the kind of spouse we are talking about, everything should be revealed in the family with an open mind. It is better for him to be angry or even scold you, but as a family, you will still come to a reasonable conclusion on this. Perhaps, if he tells you to leave it (which I don't think so with your responsible gambling style), you should please yield. This is in the name of peace, after all, gambling is not a must but your relationship is as a couple.

[Solosanz]

so, that's why it's very important for couples when they want to talk about something sensitive, they have to look at the right situation to be able to say everything that needs to be discussed even if in the end there are some words that they don't agree with but at least if the conditions are peaceful, they definitely won't there will be arguments or misunderstandings and when discussing sensitive matters such as gambling, if you are not allowed to gamble, of course there is always a solution and well, as you said, gambling nowadays is not a bad thing so a wife can give confidence to her if he can maintain her responsibilities and remain a good wife who takes care of her children and gambles when she has free time.
I'm sure that as long as everything is discussed comfortably, our partner will definitely give us freedom as long as we don't cross the limits that have been determined previously.

But don't expect it will go well, most people don't want to reveal their secrets because they scared if their spouse might not agree with their habit/choice/activity. The problem is when you reveal your secret in the beginning, he/she will underestimate and don't want to have a relationship with you. However if you reveal it when you both already in relationship, usually your spouse will try to accept that.

There's no clear answer because you will never know what the real personality of your spouse when you've married for long period.

[maydna]

~snip~

it's good if this is the case because the husband can be handled. in real life when a woman starts working and earns her own money while married, it's gonna start a tension between the two. i could be wrong but when a wife asks something like this means she has doubts about what her husband thinks.

we may have to consider where they live since she is from Nigeria. men there are dominant inside the house and will take all the money from their wives. from what i know.

We don't know how husband and wife live directly, so we have many different assumptions. But if a wife gambles, she must tell her husband that she is gambling. There must be communication between husband and wife so there are no misunderstandings between the two. Married life requires honesty between husband and wife, including when one of them gambles because, after all, gambling using their income budget can affect the allocation to various kinds of daily needs. They will find it difficult to control their finances if they use their money for gambling. By discussing it between husband and wife,, there could be a solution to the problem.

~snip~

I think that in every couple there should always be communication, there should not be any coverts or anything like that, things should always be that way , personally I am a person who also has his wife, has children , a nice family , but when she likes something that I don't, then I try to see something that doesn't negatively affect her life or mine or my children's , and if I see that they don't have any type of impact then I support her, I don't porbelma, things can be like that, now, if the rbelma is from a casino, and his way of playing, the first thing you do or what I would do would be to ask him the main thing, how much are you spending? because I see that if you are Spending a lot and without control, it will give you a couple of warnings , and that with money you have to be Careful , because it is very easy for you to fall into addiction if you do not have the Required control , it is something that Sometimes people cannot control , but they must.

  In this case things must always be shown in the correct way, inventions cannot be made with money, expenses in a casino must always be minimized so that the chances of winning can be increased, if we do not have the total understanding of how You should behave in a casino, it is better not to do it, it is better to lose help, as I have always said, if there is no money willing to lose in a casino, it is very easy to lose control, waste all the money you have at a time, and look for more to be spent again, and that is in accordance with the emotions, the impulses and with everything that has to do with good play, so every time we play or our partner plays, it would be good to tell him to play in our presence and see how he behaves with money, and if he puts money willing to lose or not, and how he reacts to basic decisions, based on this, it is the easiest way to determine his style and where the mistakes.

Yes, there must be communication between husband and wife so that they do not misunderstand. Most problems in the family arise because of misunderstandings and a lack of honesty about what has happened, which makes them feel suspicious of their partner. This must be resolved immediately so that it doesn't become a problem that could cause them to experience even more complicated problems. By discussing the problem well, husband and wife will clear the air so that misunderstandings will disappear and they can live their lives well. When a problem is hidden, one partner can feel it so that he will ask his partner about it. If his partner is not honest with him, he will know, which usually triggers the problem. And if the problem can hurt their family, the husband and wife can immediately find a solution so the problem doesn't get bigger.

If one of them gambles, it would be better for his partner to know about his gambling activities so that he can control the use of his money, especially if he sets aside a small portion of his income to allocate funds for gambling. After all, gambling requires money, and if they are husband and wife, there is a possibility that they will use the money for their family, so if they don't really monitor their use, it could be more than they imagined. His partner can always remind him to stay within his limits and not exceed what he can afford so that there is no unnecessary use of money just for gambling. However, if their partner has started crossing his limits and still thinks he is fine, the husband or wife must act immediately to save him from crossing his limits. After that incident, he and his partner can discuss how to proceed with their gambling activities, and if they feel that gambling will only hurt both of them, maybe they need to stop their gambling activities and leave gambling forever.

[slapper]

~snip~

Good point,  timing is a factor when discussing complicated things like gambling,  though we are already in an Era where gambling is no longer a big deal,  there's still a chance that your partner will not agree with what you are dealing with, but if you put it in the position where  both your mood is in the same place, you can use it as opportunity to discuss things where you and your partner  can openly provide your sentiment regarding to what you wanted him to realize.

Good communication helps not to increase  risk but instead  it will serves as a safe guard when you deal things the right way.

Yes, that's what he meant by discussing this gambling problem with his partner so that no misunderstandings would occur. This will allow them to discuss more closely and express what they want. This is why there must be openness from the wife about her gambling activities to her husband so that the husband can understand that his wife only gambles periodically and is still able to look after herself and be responsible for her gambling activities.

If her husband advises her to start reducing her gambling activities until her wife can give up gambling, that would be even better because neither of them would think about allocating funds for gambling. They can shift their money allocation to other things that are more important than just gambling.

I think that in every couple there should always be communication, there should not be any coverts or anything like that, things should always be that way , personally I am a person who also has his wife, has children , a nice family , but when she likes something that I don't, then I try to see something that doesn't negatively affect her life or mine or my children's , and if I see that they don't have any type of impact then I support her, I don't porbelma, things can be like that, now, if the rbelma is from a casino, and his way of playing, the first thing you do or what I would do would be to ask him the main thing, how much are you spending? because I see that if you are Spending a lot and without control, it will give you a couple of warnings , and that with money you have to be Careful , because it is very easy for you to fall into addiction if you do not have the Required control , it is something that Sometimes people cannot control , but they must.

  In this case things must always be shown in the correct way, inventions cannot be made with money, expenses in a casino must always be minimized so that the chances of winning can be increased, if we do not have the total understanding of how You should behave in a casino, it is better not to do it, it is better to lose help, as I have always said, if there is no money willing to lose in a casino, it is very easy to lose control, waste all the money you have at a time, and look for more to be spent again, and that is in accordance with the emotions, the impulses and with everything that has to do with good play, so every time we play or our partner plays, it would be good to tell him to play in our presence and see how he behaves with money, and if he puts money willing to lose or not, and how he reacts to basic decisions, based on this, it is the easiest way to determine his style and where the mistakes.

All about balance, right? Communication and understanding are crucial. Your support for your wife while considering your family is admirable. There's more to consider when the casino chips are down than just how much is spent. About why. The hunt, not the money, makes gambling exciting. When your partner plays slots or tables, you must understand why. Is it innocent fun or a problem? Recognizing differences is key.

How to manage casino habits Spending less is smart. Not just odds, but control. Control is essential in gambling and life. Your suggestion to play with your companion is smart. It's about sharing experiences and understanding each other's reactions and decisions, not monitoring. Couples must work together to handle money. Not simply the money lost or won, but the journey you go together making these decisions. Partnership is about that, right?

[Dewi Aries]

But in my opinion, the negative point of view of the community on gambling will still persist and most likely this negative point of view will continue to persist until an unspecified time, because obviously the risk of gambling will still be there and this is what the couple is afraid of, namely when the gambling committed by one of their partners is no longer helped over time or in the sense that it has entered the phase of chronic addiction, the impact will be felt by all family members there.

The negative effects of gambling aren't the matter here because she has clearly stated in the opening post that her gambling activities are in no way affecting her or her family's life and she isn't gambling for richness or is using funds intended for other purposes, the only issue is that she has been hiding her activities from her husband.

Yes I understand about that buddy, I have read the statement that indeed the woman has some restrictions and mindsets that are quite advisable and that can at least make her safe in her involvement in gambling activities, but what I mean is that she is worried that she may experience changes over time and of course this is something that should not be ignored, considering that it is not uncommon for some gamblers who, although initially had a pretty good preparation, it turned out that over time they experienced a change in mindset because maybe the tantalizing things in gambling affected their mindset slowly, and yes, the point is that I hope whoever is experiencing a situation like this to still really maintain firmness in himself regarding some of the boundaries he has built, not only that because the strong awareness factor must also really be applied and maintained. For the initial problem about her with her husband I think it is better to tell her husband that she is involved in gambling, family relationships will be stronger if we are able to be open to each other, and in addition this is a gambling activity that always cannot be completely avoided from the name of risk.

On the other hand, I agree that communication is indeed one of the good approaches in terms of maintaining good family relationships, having good communication along with being able to balance a good mindset between the two parties will be useful for solving any problems that occur in the relationship, and on the other hand I really hope that they will be able to consider gambling activities from various sides, especially in terms of adverse effects and discuss rationally to find the best decision.

You're right, communication is crucial, and it's better to discuss things and reveal the secrets yourself with your partner before they find out from somewhere else or finds out about it himself which would make him feel very bad because it would feel you've been deceiving him on his back since you never shared it with him.

Yes that's the point and indeed that's the best thing to do, as I said before that having good communication and being able to be open with each other is something that can further strengthen the relationship because this is related to trust and if it's like you said that her husband found out about this from other people then I'm sure at least this will be a problem in the relationship and trust might fade a little, by telling our partner about anything then on the other hand this will also make them feel appreciated by you for his presence.

[Gheka]

so, that's why it's very important for couples when they want to talk about something sensitive, they have to look at the right situation to be able to say everything that needs to be discussed even if in the end there are some words that they don't agree with but at least if the conditions are peaceful, they definitely won't there will be arguments or misunderstandings and when discussing sensitive matters such as gambling, if you are not allowed to gamble, of course there is always a solution and well, as you said, gambling nowadays is not a bad thing so a wife can give confidence to her if he can maintain her responsibilities and remain a good wife who takes care of her children and gambles when she has free time.
I'm sure that as long as everything is discussed comfortably, our partner will definitely give us freedom as long as we don't cross the limits that have been determined previously.

But don't expect it will go well, most people don't want to reveal their secrets because they scared if their spouse might not agree with their habit/choice/activity. The problem is when you reveal your secret in the beginning, he/she will underestimate and don't want to have a relationship with you. However if you reveal it when you both already in relationship, usually your spouse will try to accept that.

There's no clear answer because you will never know what the real personality of your spouse when you've married for long period.

For the person with whom you have seriously established a relationship or can be called your life partner, revealing small nooks and crannies is not just to receive evaluation and caution from them, revealing it here is just so they can see another version of us because our lives wear so many masks, they are meant to cover these corners, being able to peel off these faces to face the person in front of you is the greatest proof of faith and trust. This hidden corner may be special, but through it we can love someone more completely and that person will soon change and quit gambling because of our gentle response.

[AmoreJaz]

But don't expect it will go well, most people don't want to reveal their secrets because they scared if their spouse might not agree with their habit/choice/activity. The problem is when you reveal your secret in the beginning, he/she will underestimate and don't want to have a relationship with you. However if you reveal it when you both already in relationship, usually your spouse will try to accept that.

There's no clear answer because you will never know what the real personality of your spouse when you've married for long period.

For the person with whom you have seriously established a relationship or can be called your life partner, revealing small nooks and crannies is not just to receive evaluation and caution from them, revealing it here is just so they can see another version of us because our lives wear so many masks, they are meant to cover these corners, being able to peel off these faces to face the person in front of you is the greatest proof of faith and trust. This hidden corner may be special, but through it we can love someone more completely and that person will soon change and quit gambling because of our gentle response.

if you truly love and trust your partner, you will be very honest with him or her. because no matter what, he or she will be the first one to help you out in case you put yourself into a terrible situation. you will know also when to reveal your side once you know your partner well. because if you think you are not yet ready, it means, you have some hesitations that your partner won't truly understand you.

though it would take time to reveal your totality as a person, but consider the fact that your spouse should know all about those small details of you, so  he or she knows what to do if caught up in a compromised situation because of your doings. it is hard to explain if your spouse has no idea about what's going on with your life. and suddenly he or she will be in a terrible situation because you failed to inform him or her about your other side of things.

All about balance, right? Communication and understanding are crucial. Your support for your wife while considering your family is admirable. There's more to consider when the casino chips are down than just how much is spent. About why. The hunt, not the money, makes gambling exciting. When your partner plays slots or tables, you must understand why. Is it innocent fun or a problem? Recognizing differences is key.

How to manage casino habits Spending less is smart. Not just odds, but control. Control is essential in gambling and life. Your suggestion to play with your companion is smart. It's about sharing experiences and understanding each other's reactions and decisions, not monitoring. Couples must work together to handle money. Not simply the money lost or won, but the journey you go together making these decisions. Partnership is about that, right?

you are one lucky person if you find a partner who can understand such balance concept. so long you know your boundaries when it comes to gambling, i guess, there's nothing to worry about. sometimes we need this facet of life to see the fun side of things. after all, we are all not work and stress in life. we can have our entertainment on the side as well. there's nothing wrong to experience the gambling side together. if you both know the consequences of what you are doing, i guess, you will be more careful when you are into this activity.

[Westinhome]

For the person with whom you have seriously established a relationship or can be called your life partner, revealing small nooks and crannies is not just to receive evaluation and caution from them, revealing it here is just so they can see another version of us because our lives wear so many masks, they are meant to cover these corners, being able to peel off these faces to face the person in front of you is the greatest proof of faith and trust. This hidden corner may be special, but through it we can love someone more completely and that person will soon change and quit gambling because of our gentle response.

The woman who tell their husband to gamble by their own interest in the gambling site,she may not get the chance to play the gambling.It was the reason for the recommendation of the gambling to their husband.Even she may married her husband because he is the gambler.The couple should manage their expenses because they need hug money for the rotation of the continuous game.The trust was the essential one in the gambling,the gambler should trust the process of the gambling game.Because some game will give the gambler more money,some game will make the gambler to loss the money.The luck also important to the gambler to make huge profits.

[kojektea]

If you are still able to control yourself as you say, there is no need to tell him, but if you feel you have done more or even violated what you said, it is better to tell your husband immediately before it is too late because the effects of gambling are very big, without us realizing it, we can destroy it. Our life is only in 1 minute so stay careful

[erep]

you are one lucky person if you find a partner who can understand such balance concept. so long you know your boundaries when it comes to gambling, i guess, there's nothing to worry about. sometimes we need this facet of life to see the fun side of things. after all, we are all not work and stress in life. we can have our entertainment on the side as well. there's nothing wrong to experience the gambling side together. if you both know the consequences of what you are doing, i guess, you will be more careful when you are into this activity.

However, you need to know that if your financial condition is still stable then your partner will not have a problem with your activities in gambling, the balance of the relationship is still fine, but you must anticipate that our finances will not always be stable, so gambling will be the main factor that will be blamed if you experiencing financial problems even though you have gambled with strict rules does not result in financial losses.

The right solution is for you to be honest with your partner about the funds you use for gambling, so that your partner will not blame you if your financial condition worsens, because he already knows the history of the account you use for gambling deposits and he does not blame you for gambling. .