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When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

I am a man and if my wife do something like that, she is not the one that is taking care of the family financially. But I will not be happy about it and I will advice her to quit gambling because she is addicted.

For women that are depending on their husband, this can cause divorce and unwanted behavior from the wife. That is why it is good to gamble responsibly and not use your family to joke with gambling.

I don't know.. I don't think divorce decision would depend on such issue ! 😳

Just because you lost in gambling does it mean that you are going to divorce your spouse. It's a shallow reason to be honest, and it didn't happen to me although I have a friend who did the walk of shame because he doesn't have any money left and then the next day he was crying on my shoulder. So I did help him by loaning money and didn't go as far as the wife divorcing him.

The wife reach out to me as well, but he thank me and nowhere did I see reason from her to divorce my friend. Not everyone is the same though. But if the spouse is on the right frame, I don't think that divorce will be in the discussions.

And so I voted for: I forgive him/her.

It is a natural feeling that nobody would want to lose his money and there is that sad feeling going with it. This could lead to transferred aggression on other people but it leads to more problem if it is the spouse that is involved.

There is two ways that this situation of losing is made worse in the family and one is that the man is angry that he didn't make profit while the woman also is going to be sad that the man has lost the money he was suppose to take care of the family with, so there is always pressure in the family when betting is lost.


It is possible to lead to divorce that a man prefers to gamble and makes more losses and his not able to take care of his family. If this is a repeated occurrence where the man is a serial loser making him to be financially impecunious, the woman can use that to run away from the man. You don't want to live where your man isn't responsible enough to take care of the family but prefer to gamble his luck on a bet.

Divorce might be easy in other countries, but in our country, it's not. We are taught that marriage binds two people together forever. So, if that were to happen, I think I would be able to forgive my wife. If she is truly sorry, she will change, and I will support her to recover and learn from that mistake.

In our family, I am the one who is more into gambling, and like typical gamblers, I have also experienced losing a lot of money, more than what I can afford to lose. However, it's never reached the level where I've lost all my savings because of gambling. My problem wasn't the worst, but my wife is there to understand me, so I would do the same for her.

I have a few doubts to clarify before I can answer..
what do we define in this case as "everything"?
all the assets owned including the home or just the amount of money that was intended for gambling?

I don't know, I would get a divorce but the first case is forgivable, if there Is a good track of winning maybe can also recover it. In the second case (Lost all) a scenario like this would put the entire wealth of a family at seroous risk :(

You can get divorced for less... Inheritance stories are sometimes mind-boggling for example ...

Shit happens in life and although some mistakes are really very costly, but stigmatization and neglect of the victim does more harm than good. I'll show my suppose more love and have her promise me not to repeat such foolishness. But its stupidity and irresponsible gambling to throw everything at the stakes, such a person is a serious irrational addict. In all things,  love conquers all shortcomings and we are not without fault.

Its really painful to witness such, especially if you've been giving a friendly advice all along and your spouse paid deaf ears to it. Its not easy to bear, but if love truly exists, you'll forgive and move on, supporting your spouse to be a better person and have more emotional control.

I reached an agreement on the money that I can use to gamble with my partner every month. My effort is to not exceed the limits that I have agreed to. so our finances will not be disturbed.
I used to gamble uncontrollably, but that was before I had a partner. it was really bad for me at that time. and I don't want to repeat all that now and in the future.
regarding the partner's response, it is clear that it will be disappointing. but we never know the end. I just pray it never happens in my life.

Interesting, it's true that depending on the country you live in, the perspective can be totally different.


It's true, I wasn't quite sure of the wording myself, which is why I added the savings. It's more liquid.

Every one of us here didn't mean these things happen but in the world of gambling it is possible if you got addicted in gambling. it is possible that you got divorce with your love ones cause there's a chance that you don't have time for them you don't have want to bonding with your family cause all you think is gambling which is pretty bad.but you can't control yourself if you let gambling control you so you need to fight and be strong for yourself and for your family .

Remember, if you use money as the main reason you want to get married, believe me, you won't able to find the right person except you're married with the richest person in the world.

There are many factors that can cause someone become poor e.g. unrecoverable disease, bankrupt etc , although loss due gambling looks stupid, but the result is same.

Sometimes, you need to test your spouse whether he/she only wants your money or not.

I would be really pissed off, angry, mad and betrayed by the closest person I had in life. It has never happened to me, and I hope it never happens, but inevitably we are under risk in this life, because we never know the true nature of other people with 100% assurance, even the one sleeping by your side. Anyway, I don't think it's the kind of thing which happen often.

To lost it all means to lost patrimony, funds at bank, vehicles, investments, which can't be lost all at once. It must be a progressive chain of events, which will trigger the attention of the husband or wife before the other person spends everything gambling. Moreover, if the person insanely tries to sell their belongings instantly, there are financial or banking managers who will spot something is going wrong there, and will call the husband or wife to tell them about the strange behavior of their partners before they commit any irreversible mistakes.

In every cases, I would never wish to be by the side of someone so unstable like that, ready to annihilate the progress which took an entire life to achieve in a matter of minutes in a gambling session. This kind of person is destructive and will make you ill in the end, just like him/her.

The answer to the question is very simple a normal person isn't supposed to use all his life savings to gamble that's why they always say gamble responsibly. You will be happy and everyone around you will smile when you win big in gambling but do you expect them to be happy on hearing that you used everything you have to gamble no, I haven't seen or experienced that kind of situation and I won't accept that if anyone connected to me is found in that position to be very host.

Luckily my spouse do not gamble and I am the only one who gamble in my family and I usually don't push it that far,even when things are going wrong.That would of course be a very bad situation to say the least when you lose it all and you have nothing left as reserve or savings.There is not much to react and in fact I am a person who always look on how to solve a problem rather than to react about it so in that case nothing left to do except to borrow money in the bank or if you have borrowed already,then the only solution is to ask some money from friends of family until you fix it and then to stop gambling definitely.

I have no experience like that, that is something that I will avoid in my life, but I have a brother of my aunt's daughter, whose husband does that kind of thing, gambling and spending money from work and also to mortgaged land in -laws' land Alone to do gambling, isn't that very disappointing for most of my family especially. And in the end divorced, because gambling could not be treated, we had given the opportunity for my aunt's son -in -law but also not repented, and today it has been separated for a long time.

Why divorce became an option for couple facing hardship in life? Instead cutting the relation maybe much better for both to talk about important things since for sure that certain realization in life including the mistake they have done will come and for sure they regret that decision to gamble. So for sure by extending our presence we can help our love ones suffering a problem on their gambling activity. Divorce is just a easy way to escape on problem. But if you love your partner for sure you will never think about this option and help him/her recover on bad situation he's facing on.

There are a lot ways to settle this without clicking on the divorce button.

If you think money is the cause of divorce then take a look at those wealthy people who still file for divorce, do you think it’s because they no longer have money to cater for themselves anymore?

If it was me - the first thing I’d do would be to call for a family meeting, and then relates to those that will be present the issue at hand and they’ll be the one to give advise and also if necessary threaten my partner that if he should continue with his behavior he’d most likely not be able to keep me, divorce would definitely be brought up but not put into action immediately.

If you knew s/he was addicted to gambling before you started your relationship, then it means you accepted him/her like that. That means it shouldn't make a difference if s/he wins or loses. You will love that person anyway.

If I were that person and my wife lost money to a casino, It wouldn't make a difference to me. I wouldn't get upset at all. Since I was married to that person, I probably agreed to it because she wasn't a brain dead addict in the first place and that means she has common sense. She would realize her mistake and correct herself without needing my help probably after losing that money.

As a man, if my wife is a gambler, there will come a time I will tell her to reduce her gambling playing time,  I believe it won't get to the level at which she will lose it all, because she will definitely be checkmated by me. I'm a gambler myself, so I know when is becoming excessive so I will take charge as the man of the house. However even though it gets to that point where she lose it all, it won't lead to divorce but she will definitely temporary stop gambling for a very long time. There will be no time she will even use our life savings to start gambling, the rule will always be that you will gamble with your spare money.

Wasting savings with gambling Is a big big mistake. I don't know if its a general rule get a divorce that bad mistake (love Is blind) but for sure its not a basic issue.
I have a general rule. Gambler only with money/ values that you are ready to trash as rubbish. If you have not these...you have not Money for gambling ;)

When everything is fine the it would really be just that normal that you wont really be putting up some care on what your partner would really be dealing off with, but if you are that someone whose really that making out those kind advanced approach on things then you would really be just that basically making yourself that mindful about probabilities about possible potential problems that could happen. Losing money in gambling is inevitable and this is something that you would really be needing up yourself on having those kind of adjustments so that on the time that you would be suffering with that huge loses then you wont really be having those kind of impulsive approach. I didnt able to experience up these things (hopefully not) when it comes or pertains about gambling dealing.

Dont wait up for unfortunate conditions to experience before you would really be that deciding on stopping gambling because once you do have that kind of approach on things or reactions
then you would really be able to possibly avoid those potential problems. This is why it would really be best that you should be that sensible on the actions that you are taking or making.
You would really having no issues or problems if you are really just that mindful on things and not really just that playing without even thinking up.

Same with me, I would not directly think of divorce as a consequence of the problem. Love is not blind, though; if we love the person, we are willing to forgive. After all, that's just money; together, we can earn that money loss, but we have to sacrifice, as that is the consequence of the wrong action. When you are married, you become one, so a mistake of your wife could be your loss too. There's nothing to do but to forgive and start over again.

A responsible gambler would never gamble with all the money they have, it is even going to be very difficult to find someone who will gamble with all of their money. However if my spouse gets involved in that, i would try to help them get better, that is through counsel and also professional help of a therapist. It is also worth mentioning that my spouse cannot control all of my money, i don't believe in having joint accounts either, so if they get rekt through gambling, it is only their money they'll lose, and it cannot affect my finances, so i can't lose all through it if you understand what i mean.

This has never happened to me and I wish that everyone would not experience this very unfortunate scenario.

Assuming, however, that I were in that kind of position where my partner would bet everything and subsequently lost it all, I would definitely consider divorce as an option. However, this would not be the automatic response to this kind of situation as it would also depend on several factors.

If my partner is a compulsive gambler and she would bet our family savings without any regard to her responsibilities to the family, then I would definitely consider divorce. But if my partner has the responsibility of maintaining the financials despite his gambling tendencies to the point that she can control her emotions, then I would support her in any way that I could.

The non-negotiable factor here would be if my partner CANNOT meet her responsibilities and obligations to the family to the point that she would sacrifice and prejudice our savings to satisfy such urges.

I think no one in their right mind that will be happy after their partner lose everything. This is why funds that use in gambling should be money that they can afford to lose to avoid arguments with partner. This is bad if you will use money from your savings that both of you contribute.

I think Divorce or separation is the high chance outcome if the money loss in gambling is their life savings funds. But I only bust my bankroll that is intended only for gambling then I don’t see the point on getting mad on it. Besides, I will not let my partner knew my gambling funds to avoid conflict and maintain my share on our finances.

Stop him or her bad hobbies before it become critical like that. If it's not controllable anymore, it's literally wasting money instead of entertaining as the main reason of gambling.

Talking about marriage and divorce, well, if it happens and divorce is legal in your country's law, do it, i'm sure someone told her/him to save or not get addicted in to gambling before something like that happens.

If there is someone I know who is a regular gambler and if he regularly gambles he wins as well as loses money he has a higher ratio of winnings than losing money then we can consider that gambling as normal gambling. On the other hand, a gambler who gambles regularly but never wins by gambling, rather he keeps losing money, but gambling is never normal for that gambler. There are many gamblers around us who only lose money by gambling but still they don't give up gambling. As I am a gambler myself, I know that a gambler can not only gain money but also have the possibility of losing money. But I don't believe in the principle that I will always pay only money damages.

Personally, if I ever see the results of my multiple gambles going against me, I will temporarily stop gambling and try to figure out my mistakes. When I can find out my mistakes, I will correct those mistakes and try to gamble again.

First of all, who won't be mad? It is a normal response in the first place and this is not exclusive to gambling alone, but with everything; you cannot lose or spend all of your money at once without any back up plans. But if this happenes on my end, I would be also mad but not enough to file a divorce. In this scenario, we are married and not just a typical couple. Every problem should be discussed between and within the relationship itself first. Give chances and considerations. However, there are just times this is evident in repetition which is a problem to resolve with the help of professionals. If my partner will insist not having herself treated, then that's the time divorce will be considered. Addiction is something not to be tolerated indeed but the person who does the act, should be always given a chance.

There are just times you would be a bit pushy and greedy but indeed betting ALL is on a different level of drive to gamble. No matter how much you wish of winning, things won't be in favor of your desire and hope if you're unlucky. It will just appear as an act of foolishness. If it is easy to secure a winning bet then we should all rich by now.

Never happened to me.
I am the only one who gambles at the house. When we go out, that's when my wife likes to play scratching tickets from the lottery outlet at the mall. I give her just the right amount to gamble so she could have fun but once it's all gone, we don't try to chase for a win because it could lead to more losses. Then, she will just say it's an unlucky day and we move on.

That's why I don't gamble much too because I always think about her and my kids. I just set a budget that would give me enough entertainment but I wouldn't dare push it up to the point where she would get mad at me once she knew the money was gone. That's just wrong. Years of relationship could just be gone in one mistake and that will not be okay with me. I don't want my kids getting exhausted with us fighting over them and I like to keep my family intact that's why I always remind myself to keep it in a responsible gambling manner so that I won't make any money fights. We can always earn it, but it's still better if we don't waste too much in just a bad habit.

If I am the husband and responsible person in the family that I have, for sure I will not let it lead to such a situation. This is if we know that we are responsible husbands in our family.
The only ones who can do that are gamblers who have a severe gambling addiction; a gambler who is not addicted to gambling cannot do that. Remember that there are only two types of gamblers:

the responsible gambler and the irresponsible gambler, and there are no others. The question is, where are you as an individual gambler in a casino?

Divorce! Except the action has been a repeated act that after several admonitions she still continually repeats it then it's rational to call for a divorce to save yourself and your hard earned sweats from wasting away into gambling all of the times because you've a wife that is a chronic gambling addict. Such a mother is no doubt going to be of a bad influence to the character of our children seeing her behave in such manner because the mother is always close to the children more than father.

If it's just an attitude of the first time then a divorce is not necessary, it's just something two couples could sit and talk about despite how painful it gets, and especially in a relationship where children are involved I don't encourage divorce as the children are usually the ones to have the divorce impact mainly hammered on than the divorcees.

Why would you marry a person who's addicted to gambling in the first place?

Unless you're a gambler yourself, you will surely forgive him/her because you know that in gambling, sh*t happens, and you can lose your money in an instant.

It's good that my partner isn't gambling at all, but if I knew that she was gambling, I would not marry her because I know that her gambling addiction will affect us in the future financially, and might affect me emotionally as well. I guess I will just forgive her if a situation like this happens to us. I mean we're married already, and a divorce will not solve everything. Divorce will not solve one mistake.

Ideally, this should never happen that you lose all of your money in gambling. A gambler who is properly handling his games, he would only spend a certain amount dedicated to gambling and even if he loses all of the amount, that will not affect his financial status. If any gambler is spending more than this amount in gambling, then he is doing wrong and he can be in a significant problem if he loses that amount.

Also, the near and dear ones like husband and wife are linked with each other and any issue with one of them will surely affect the other. So if the husband loses a lot of money in gambling or the wife loses a lot of money, both the cases, it is a loss for the whole family and in a worse situation that can lead to separation of the two, in case the husband and wife is against gambling and the other one insists on gambling even if he or she is losing a lot of money.

I never have that experienced before and don't wants to have that in my life. I will be angry if my wife losing all of the money because of playing gambling, especially if she used all of our saving money just wants to win the gambling games. It's normal if we feel angry to our spouse when she/he playing gambling excessively with our money that we planned for our family. That's not our deals because we can playing gambling but with limitations so we can still controls ourselves when gambling. We don't wants to have a big problems from playing gambling so that's why we always applying a strict rules just to make sure we are still stick to our rules. That money is for our family and we make a plan for our future so if someone breaks it, we will have a big problems and I can't imagine what I will do for her.

This is the kind of stuff which has never happened to me and hopefully it never does, to be honest. In my opinion, when comes to finding someone to marry or have a long relationship with, one is supposed to set priorities and be clear on whether gambling is supposed to be reduced for the sake of the marriage and the children one could end up having in the long term.
Though, setting this situation as an imaginary case, I am not sure who I would react to my spouse losing so much money in gambling (to the point of being left with nothing), I know I would not react in a violent way whatsoever, though taking some distance from that person would be something which will definitely cross my mind, in those scenarios is important to try to relax and not lose ones mind over money and for that to happen it is advisable to take some distance from the source of the problem or the person involved in the problem and seek for distractions in other places.

Anyways, all I can wish for would be for people never to go through this and never get physically violent against their spouse, it will make things worse for both of them.

Look, marriage isn't just sunshine and rainbows.  When things are good, sure, it's smooth sailing.  But a gambling addiction can torpedo even the strongest relationship before you know it.  Thankfully Ive never dealt with that personally but I've witnessed the fallout enough times to know it's brutal.  You feel duped, betrayed and  and trying to rebuild trust after that kind of breach? Not easy, to say the least. 

Have an open and honest conversation about money early on.  And if a gambling problem emerges down the road, address it head on before the damage is irreparable.  Protect your partnership at all costs.

Is relationship only about money? should money be the fuel in a union between married people, I do not agree because Love is what is most important. If as someone who has married another person and knows very well about their gambling habit, And then sometimes when they were successful in gambling you were part of the participants in enjoying the money, you shouldn't run away now that your partner has faced a difficult situation and has lost all his money to gambling rather help them get themself together and stand either to stop gambling and face something else for fun and understand again that gambling is not a source of income. As a partner, you also there for the hard times, just as the good times.

Sometimes sign of addiction is not noticeable including the addict himself if he is still in the positive profit side or less loss amount side on his PnL. A casual gambling activity is acceptable if the person life is still normal.

I think most of the couple that experience this kind of this situation was they notice late that their partner is already addicted or the partner becomes addicted when they are already married. I said this because it’s very hard to socialize with gambling addicted person in able for him to have a successful love life. I’m still struggling on love life part even though I’m not gambling addict. :D

I wouldn't file a divorce immediately but would rather try to learn how it got so bad that she has to bet it all. If her reason is something that I am not expecting, or her reasons don't make sense, only then will I file a divorce. Repeated actions as grave as this warrant a consequence of equal degree, and I am not going to be dragged down by someone whose decision making in terms of financial matters make things worse.

However, if we have kids, that's a different story. I will ask her to change her ways, or she'll never see her kids again. I don't want my kids to see their mother destroying her own life and possibly destroying theirs too just because she can't handle her own when it comes to gambling.

This has not happened to me and is unlikely to happen to me as my wife not only does not gamble, but we keep our savings separate. She has no access to my savings, as well as me to hers and in my opinion this is one of the best options to exclude such a situation.

If I had such a situation for some reason, I would forbid my wife to gamble, because there is nothing worse than losing control over yourself and your desires. And this applies not only to gambling, but also to other areas.

Money problem leads to so much even beyond divorce and it even makes some families have issues they never get to resolve because it has got involvement with money, it's almost a norm everywhere and this isn't gender based especially if it has to do with a spouse gambling and loosing the funds that was supposed to be used for the wellbeing of the family to gamble and end up loosing them all to the casino, such is very much capable of causing a whole lot to the well being of the family and the general reaction of either of the spouse.

I have never been Ina position where my gambling habit turns out to be a reason me and any of my friends or relatives gets to fall out so bad that it ended the relationship because I don't see any sense in it, I don't see it as Ideal that such should happen so I try as much bas it is within my capacity to not allow such ever happen.

One thing many people don't seems to understand about gambling is that even the gambler cannot predict to how far or extent to where he could go while gambling, we all believe that gambling can be indicting sometimes, deceiving as well and if care is not tsking, it will bring the worst personality in us out and we can do nothing about it after the deed is done.


No and i don't think it can ever happen to me.

If my spouse gambles a lot and I sit down and do nothing then, any day that shit hits the fan, I will have some portion of the blame too. Because I could have helped her but I didn't and the family savings is gone due to negligence on my part.

As the direct effect of gambling addiction on the addict, the family, friends and significant others are left to suffer the indirect effect.

Well, if this ever happens to me, I'd take her for rehab after which maybe couple's therapy while I fix the financial aspect of the family.

I've never had a problem like this so I can't give my opinion about how I feel when I lose and don't have money, I'm sure every person's views are different on this matter, but fortunately I have a partner who I can trust to manage my finances and regulate my gambling budget so that I don't gamble beyond the limit which results in a gambling addiction, let alone spending all my money just because I hope to win big which ultimately causes me to lose a lot of money, after all gambling should be used as a place to have fun, not to make money.

It is not easy to find a partner who can understand us as gamblers, therefore we need to be open and honest about our gambling habits so that bad communication does not occur. It is important to maintain a relationship with our life partner and also to be together in managing finances, if our partner starts to become addicted. We have the right to stop it, that's why it's important to be open and honest with each other, we can make the relationship intact, whether it's difficult or happy, we can definitely go through it together. The point is that losing at gambling is a normal thing. The important thing is to limit your budget so you don't overdo it.  ;)

Gambling doesn't define who I am; therefore, I wouldn't let it define my life. What you described isn't something that isn't happening out in the real world; it's a very unfortunate phenomenon. Gambling, even if you're winning money, is never fine. If you're in a relationship and you're an addict, money isn't the only thing that matters, but the time you spend advocating gambling is also trivial; it's time that could be spent elsewhere, creating memories and experiences. Letting go and losing control and, therefore, your money is probably the worst scenario and is perhaps a valid reason for divorce.

The only ways your partner can react to you is when she don't know that you are a serious gambler but a condition she is aware that you are a committed gambler, she will make sure that she have console you and advice you so both of you life will be moving smoothly, but a bad wife will make sure that she take the advantage of you spending all your money in gambling without coming back home with something else, if you are my wife, I will tell you what I do most to make money should in case of something turn negative tomorrow, so I believe that you have to understand that gambling is something that deals with losses and you can not escape to be loss when you understand the conditions of gambling, try to educate your partner the effects of gambling so that she will not be against you when you lose in gambling

In the world of gambling everyday we loss so there's a chance that we can say that is a very bad day to us cause we will loss a lot of money in gambling. Also once a gambler got addicted it will getting worst as we all know that not all the time we will win so it will get mad and it will affect on the relationship between the gambler and his/her family. Anyways  it's up to us if we gamble for fun or we gamble for profit.

All of that really wouldn't be a problem if your wife/husband basically had a formula for maintaining a balance to prevent unwanted things or situations, but for the most part, they can't do it, it's easier said than done and that's a fact. It is gambling that ultimately is likely to make a person experience rapid changes in many aspects, whether it is in terms of the allocation of money at stake or also in terms of changes in behavior and traits.

Even if you treat gambling reasonably and gamble in moderation at first, there is always the possibility of increasing interest, many people who enter this phase of change end up betting something that is far from "reasonable" or "unreasonable", And of course this is a situation that can interfere with your relationship with your partner in a family where the main problem will be in terms of "money", losing balance in terms of money especially caused by really bad habits such as gambling of course it can trigger new problems such as divorce, so I think this is a problem that is very possible.

There are many situations in life in which people can find themselves and suffer, for example a person can have a good job in a large company and earn a lot of money every month, but one day the company goes bankrupt and that person becomes unemployed for many years and be poor, but at that time when that person becomes poor and who will see who are the people who really love them to the point of not having abandoned them in this very difficult moment in their life, when we are at our lowest point, the We suffer a lot and we look around and see how many people are with us and we realize the real number of people who truly love us and that we can count on them at any time and day

in the case of gambling in a scenario where one of the members of a family, be it the husband or wife, plays a game of chance and loses everything, then it is necessary that the member of the family who did not gamble and did not lose anything remains very calm, Don't panic, don't hate the person who lost everything, try to find a solution to the problem, such as seeking medical help for the person who lost everything through gambling so that the doctor can determine the degree of severity of the disease and recommend treatment , and during this period of treatment the patient should not be abandoned, it is very wrong for us to condemn a person after their first mistakes.

Now there are cases in which a person constantly warns another person who plays constantly about the great danger of constantly playing at the casino and about the danger of using money at the casino to pay bills, but even with these many warnings the person does not listen, So in these scenarios when a big disaster happens like the case of a person losing everything in a game of chance, then sometimes it is better for people to separate so that each person can live their own life, because when one person doesn't change even if the other person keep giving him advice, so breaking up is the best solution

Life presents us with unexpected challenges, and witnessing a spouse engage in irresponsible gambling that results in significant loss can be deeply painful. While such a situation undoubtedly evokes strong emotions, it's crucial to approach it with compassion, understanding, and a commitment to finding solutions. While the initial reaction may be to express anger and assign blame, this approach ultimately hinders the path towards healing. Shame and stigma directed towards your spouse can exacerbate the situation and impede their willingness to seek help or openly communicate.

Instead, cultivate an environment of empathy and open communication. Initiate a conversation where you can express your feelings and concerns while actively listening to your spouse's perspective. This exchange fosters understanding and paves the way for collaborative solutions. Gambling addiction is a complex issue often rooted in underlying emotional or psychological challenges. Encouraging your spouse to seek professional help from a qualified therapist specializing in addiction treatment is a crucial step in addressing the core issues and developing healthy coping mechanisms.

I slightly disagree with you because a gambling match never leads to divorce.But I have seen many gamblers who borrow money from different people to gamble and gamble with that money and lose. What lesson should be learned from that is how he will later repay that loan so his wife. There may be some discussion with. That is why he must control himself so that he can refrain from such betting or gambling later on. However, if he wants to gamble again later on, he needs to be careful not to become addicted to it.

It's easy to be blissfully unaware of potential problems when things are going smoothly, right? But in life, especially in relationships, ignorance isn't always bliss. Like in gambling, where ignoring the odds can lead to heavy losses, neglecting potential issues in a relationship can create bigger problems down the road.

Taking an "advanced approach" isn't just about predicting everything that might go wrong. It's about being mindful, communicative, and proactive. It's about acknowledging the possibility of challenges like financial difficulties, including gambling-related losses, and having open conversations with your partner about them. Planning for potential rain doesn't guarantee a sunny day, but it can mitigate the impact when the storm hits. Similarly, discussing potential challenges with your partner doesn't guarantee they'll happen, but it allows you to navigate them together if they do.

Remember, waiting for problems to arise before addressing them is a risky gamble. Open communication and planning are key to building a strong and resilient relationship, just like understanding the odds is crucial for responsible gambling.

It has not happen to me because my wife is not a gambler. Anyone that gambles with other people's money is not suppose to be a gambler because, gamblers should have a means of income to take care of their gambling activities, otherwise they will do all sort of things to make sure that they satisfy their gambling urge. If it was my wife I would tell her to quit gambling, because it had shown that she will likely become an addict, that is if she has not already, and she will still gamble with an amount bigger than the one she lost. We shouldn't entrust money to gamblers because they will end up using it to gamble chasing their losses believing that they can win it back.

That's right, sooner or later the habit of gambling can change a person character due to a simple factor, namely addiction. I think that even though financial balance in a household can be fulfilled, it is not enough to make a family relationship run harmoniously. What I mean by this is that gambling apart from spending money also takes up time, which should be spent with husband/wife and children, this will not happen. So avoiding gambling activities if you are married is indeed better, in order to maintain a peaceful household integrity.

We rarely see a wife experiencing an addiction to gambling, in most cases it is dominated by men. Even if there are maybe only a few women, but if these women have children then it is very fatal, because it will affect their interactions with children directly or indirectly. Therefore, I think it is better for husbands/wives who have a gambling habit to stop, because family values and goals can be lost due to this bad habit.

Self imposing negative circumstances into my thinking in life :) , I will admit my fault even though I was not the one who directly lost that money, but indirectly I was not able to prevent it measuring action of the mate. But if there is a conflict between husband and wife through this form, you should sit down and look back to see if the relationship really has enough cohesion, the decision to get married is easy, and the story of easy divorce is not the type that I want to choose. Anyway, try to find a way to fill the gap, if your love is big enough to accept all the wrong behavior from the other is the answer I think of.

If he has won sometimes, it then means he can lose at other sometimes too, so it not a one way cycle because once you win, twice you lose when it comes to gambling.

When there will be a problem is when the spouse hides what he is doing from me and took me by surprise to know that he won all the money from gambling previously and still lose all to gambling without me knowing what truly he is engaged in, but if I am in the know that my spouse gamble and i accept that, it means we should be willing to take whatever outcome for come along the way.

I really don't get the context of this but I believe it would be crazy to know that your spouse actually gamble alot and you still let especially if you are the man because from am staying gambling isn't something that woman get themselves involved in that much so if I find out that she has gambled all the funds out I would be definitely mad and even look for a way to help because that would be damn right addiction because it's only an addicted person that can gamble till there is nothing left for them.

I think this really depends on each individual, for those who can control themselves, they will certainly never gamble until it ends in things that are bad for their household relationships and it has become a habit for those who gamble in the hope of winning every time. Of course they will never be able to win the gambling they play and it would be better for them to reduce their gambling activities so that they don't have problems in their lives.

In my opinion, to be able to avoid addiction, we have to limit gambling activities and have to set limits on the bets we use for gambling and we also have to obey these rules if we don't want ourselves to suffer from gambling addiction.

If someone is that much irresponsible to bet the entire savings amount on gambling for whatever reason then I don't think it's acceptable at all and divorce maybe the right decision for our sake. I don't think we need to tolerate that kind of partner for entire life because it will turn into hell of a life in the earth itself. And talking about savings it is always good to save the money individually instead of pooling with your partner but when they are in financial needs for something essential then it's indeed to help.

Well, this is a tricky situation probably. My wife doesn't gamble, that part belongs to me, but I never lost more than I can afford to lose... I had a crazy gambling experience before I got married and got kids, many times I was literally on zero, emptying wallets one by one until I lost everything I had, but even then I never borrowed money for gambling, I earn and I come back to gambling again. With marriage and kids, many things changed, now I don't take risks as I used to, so I guess I can't get so deep into gambling problems.

So I don't need to worry about my wife's gambling activities, she simply doesn't do it. And I think she doesn't need to worry about me as well, I gamble with what I can afford to lose.

First, as a man I am, I will never be married to a woman who gambles, in the time of our courtship, if I discover she gambles, she will have to stop it if we must get married, and this is because I myself is already a gambler, some people may see it as cool, but honestly, I do not buy the idea of husband and wife both engaging in gambling, as fun as it may seem, it can turn out very messy in the future, most especially, when family expenses rises, and as well as in the life of the children, when they see their both parents gambling, they may grow up with the wrong mindset.

Now, coming back to the topic of discussion, such have never happened to me and will never happen, I have once lost a huge amount of money to gambling but my wife did not know, to me, that money was all I got, but I still hid it from my wife because, she has never known me to be a gambler, and finding out I lost such an exorbitant amount to gambling might break her, ever since that experience, I've been very careful with how much I stake in gambling, so that such a thing does not happen ever again.

What's different is that you realize when you're still living alone and after you get married you can be better at setting limits when it comes to gambling. For me, your past experiences lead you in a better direction now, just imagine if you had never experienced all that and got to know gambling after you got married, it would destroy everything, your children, wife and family might leave you.

When we are married, our obligations increase, especially if we are a man who is the head of the family. We have to be able to manage everything, finances, time and so on. Especially when it comes to gambling, the money that should be used for our children and wives is used for gambling, for example, which will ruin everything. If we still want to gamble when we are married, then we have to really prepare everything, prioritize money for our main needs, then save and invest as much as possible and if we have any left over we can use it to gamble. Don't let it be the other way around, we prioritize gambling and hope that there will be more return that we can use for needs that should be prioritized.

Well in my own opinion,a responsible,and educated wife will never think of  playing gamble reason is because they have come to know the implications.for a wife to be addicted to gambling is a very  big problem, probably when the husband give them money to buy food stuff they can decide to cut the money into two part and use one part to gamble as a result of being addicted.and this set of people are very lazy they don't take good care of there children even if you are a working class lady you don't depend on your husband that doesn't change any fact.

No I don't think so, not everyone would gamble but that doesn't mean women shouldn't gamble, a responsible gambler should gamble because he or she is responsible for anything. When you are not depending on your relationship you can gamble because you have your money. As it goes you should also risk what you can afford to lose. Many relationships today has ended because one of them are not capable of their duties, in a relationship it is not only the man that has a duty to keep, the woman also have a responsibility. Just make sure what ever amount you risk shouldn't affect your relationship/home.

If you're not bitching when they're winning, you shouldn't be bitching if they're losing or lost it all. Seem hypocritical to do so IMO. You either support them 100% or you get them help no matter if winning or losing. Cannot have it both ways.

Gambling could be fund if we usually make profits anytime we gamble. If we usually lose money in gambling, we need to check our pattern of gambling so we don't need to keep losing for nothing sake. It is very important to review our gambling history and try to know what could be wrong with us why we don't earn from gambling. Everything sometimes do falls to luck and we need to be aware of the kind of games we are playing so that we don't end up keep losing and complaining. If we don't have luck in some particular games, ut is good we avoid such kind of games and move to the next one without think twice.

On the time that finances are already affected on which it do comes into a point on where it is really that giving that huge problem when it comes to family budget or whatever your plans
like investing/business/family expenses then you would really be definitely be ending up on having that divorce if things becomes more worst or cant be controlled. If possible then
both you and wife should be having those serious talks about on the things been happening before making those conclusions because divorce is never been that a good thing.
This is why it would really be that important that you should really be having those communication in between husband and wife so that both could make out some solutions into the current problem.

Gambling is just that for fun but on the time that it is already that giving out that huge impact into your finances on which it is already affecting your family
then this is the best time for us to quit but if you do fail on doing so and still tolerate things to happen then it would be that a huge
problem on which it would really be resulting into divorce.

The question here is why would you react only when it became a problem not when you could have prevent it from happening.
It was all good when your partner was earning from risking the money, you couldn't stop or say anything but when things go wrong you suddenly have the urge to do something about it?
If this was a real scenario then you only stayed because it was convenient for you, and you wanted to move out when things aren't favorable for you anymore.
You don't love the person, you only stayed cause you feel secured because your partner have the power to support you.

Luck is something beyond our imagination, we can assume that particular game or set of games we are losing other than that everything is going fine but luck doesn't work like that, it can change all of a sudden and you could win 100K lottery with $2 dollar ticket and that too happens even if you didn't expect to win at all. What we can do is to limit out betting money under our control and don't get tempted when someone is winning and you lost it all for that month.

It became a natural thing because if I also did that, my partner would have left me because I gambled irresponsibly and thoughtlessly.

We must realize that in the end gambling can only be done if we can use the rationality of the brain that we have and the responsibility that we have to do.
We cannot be short-sighted as if gambling is everything and risking everything we have into gambling is ultimately something ridiculous.

Indeed, in this case we definitely want quick and instant profits when gambling but on the other hand we must realize that gambling is a business and we as players only expect luck from the business that has been made by the bookmakers and people who are behind the scenes of gambling so there is no need to force your luck by risking everything here because the ratio of defeat is definitely greater than victory and we know that.

It hasn't happened to me because my wife doesn't gamble, but let's imagine this exact scenario that OP is proposing.
We don't use one account, but have bitcoin (which I hold), 2 separate bank accounts and cash at home. It's impossible for her to drain it all at a casino. She's not stupid to bet her whole savings, but even if she did and lost it all, that would be a very small part of our total savings, as I have more money in the bank and cash at hand than she does, not to mention bitcoin. We'd survive.
Would I divorce her? Probably not because we know each other for a long time and I'd treat that as a lapse of reason, pretty much like if she had a car accident. Things would change though if she started doing it on regular basis, then I'd try to send her to rehab and if all fails divorce her.

You're absolutely right that issue of gambling goes beyond just the gambling industry itself, there's indeed there are also implications for individuals, families and society at large. Every gambler should beware of getting into addiction because gambling addiction can lead a person to problems such as financial strain, neglect of family responsibilities as well as other consequences. the worst part of it is that it's not just about the person who's addicted, gambling addiction affects also families and friends that are related to the addicted person.

I really won't be happy if such had happened to me. It's today an unreasonable decision that anyone would make when it comes to gambling. As I've always said, when we gamble, we shouldn't use money that were meant for important responsibility to gamble. We should be able to plan ahead and separate any funds that's meant for gambling away from our savings or other stuffs.
It's indeed a reason for couples to break up as it really and act of irresponsibility and addiction from such partner. When gambling, we should be wise enough not to make any move that might put us or people around us in danger. Spending all available funds in gambling will lead to unnecessary problems, fights and misunderstanding. Let's all be wise when it involves spending for gambling activities.

Divorce is definitely the right option for any of the pair that is the affected party in the relationship and I believe the male is in much situation to do this although am not saying I haven't seen crazy female gamblers but they are very rare and it's only a few percentage. Gambling like this is a really crazy gambling and with such habit the both parties will even put the welfare of their children at stake so it's best they separate.

I have seen my neighbour divorce his husband just because the husband is so addicted to gambling. The man was having a car, he sold the car just because of his gambling activities. From the money with which he sold the car, he bought a motorcycle and gambled with the remaining money. Later, the man sold the motorcycle and gambled with the money. The man was not responsible, he wasn’t providing for the family, it was the wife that was doing everything. I think the woman got tired of everything and the husband wasn’t ready to change, so she filed for a divorce.

I haven’t gambled with everything I have before. It’s surprising to me when I see people do some crazy things. Why do you have to gamble with all your savings? It doesn’t make any sense to me. Gambling should be done with a small amount. You shouldn’t gamble with all the money you have. It doesn’t make any sense to me. Always control yourself when gambling. Always set a limit for yourself and don’t exceed it.

This thing never happened to me yet, but in case the world made a joke on me and this thing happen, I believe I won't file a divorce too soon.  I need to have a heart-to-heart talk to my partner, set things straight, and help my partner get rehabilitated if somehow my partner becomes addicted to gambling.

I feel that it is too rude to leave our partner when things go rough when our partner has nothing left.  At least let us show our responsibility and obligation being their partner and not just be ok when everything went well and leave as soon as things go too rough.  Remember, we enjoy the money when our partner is winning, so we should always be considerate and help our partner to recover from such losses and if possible support and get our partner rehabilitated.  I will only leave my partner if my partner is so stubborn and never listens or has the intention to change.

This case is very common between couples where one side of them ruin things with a very irresponsible move ( huge bet leading to a big loss). Most likely the other partner will ask for divorce or at least a break from the shock of betrayal. Wasting important money or savings on gambling is a very irresponsible thing to do and the easiest way to lose your partner trust and relationship, gambling responsibly should be with the gambler money without touching the family's savings or any other partner's money.

Personally, if this thing happened where my partner which is my wife for instance, I would've lost her trust until a very serious and convincing reason of why she did it. It my differ from a relationship to another honestly and how much you know your partner, gambling is very dangerous for some people who would do anything chasing their loses with bad mood and irresponsible actions

Too bad not everyone took the survey, as it turns out 92% of people would forgive. Some of the answers make it clear that you see things in such a way that it's the man who earns the couple's money, so he can do what he likes with it, even if he has to be reasonable with his bets. I guess it's a cultural thing. Forget this aspect, i.e. that it's the man who earns the household money, and ask yourself the question simply by envisaging that both people in the couple have a salary and pool the money (with a view to buying a house, for example). Personally, if I realize that my partner is losing too much money while I'm trying to save for a common goal, I'll give him a chance, but not two. Trust is important in a couple, but money is also the sinews of war.

Talk it out, seriously! Share what's on your mind about the money mess and how it's hitting both of you. Get some expert advice, maybe financial counseling to figure out a plan. Dive into why the gambling thing happened and team up to rebuild trust and get back on a solid money track. It's all about tackling the problem together and making sure you're a strong team

For the ladies I see no much effect but when it comes to the head of the family divorce might not be the problem but we all know how ladies get angry with little or big issues and it can lead to quarreling but going further to file a divorce is wrong and I have not see such. Despite the divorce stories I see online some related to gambling issue but I Strongly believe such union lack love and care. No one should make such expensive mistake when gambling but regardless everyone deserves to be treated rightly.

For me I have never heard or seen anything close to such reaction of couples. But my question is, there anything like love in such relationship? Because if there is then I don't think anyone will divorce his partner because of huge loss in a gamble because before hand one should have already know that his or her partner is into a thing of risk that might lead to a bad reaction some day. .

Anyone going into gambling should be aware of the pros and cons of it before venturing into it and divorce could be one of the consequences.

Well, if this is the first time it happens, then I think we can talk about it and forgive her, because remember, if you are married, you will be together in the worst-case scenario. Yeah,  the impact of that might be the worst and will be a very hard challenge. But if this happening keeps on going, then that will be a different case; more than once is enough; that should be a lesson to stop gambling at all costs. especially if you are already in a family, being responsible is a must. Stop what you are doing that could affect the family's state.

But there is still a case wherein the loss of money gambling is so bad that divorce is inevitable. For example, if the funds or money that your partner lost in gambling should be allocated for an important thing in your life, like tuition for your child.

There are various kinds of household problems and not all financial problems are the cause of divorce because there are also married couples who are grateful even though their lives are simple because the economy can still be improved if both try harder, but the problem is if the economic problems are caused by gambling. Of course, as a partner, you definitely don't accept it if your partner continues to gamble excessively, especially if it causes addiction. Whoever the person who is your partner will definitely suffer a lot because they have to see their family experience this, sometimes gambling addiction is what causes divorce because the economy cannot be repaired if the husband or partner continues to gamble and to cure it is quite difficult.

So the factor that causes divorce is not economic but because of gambling, but if the gambling remains responsible and able to manage finances well and does not cause unstable financial problems then this will not lead to divorce. But if you are addicted then it will be difficult to accept the loss ratio is definitely very large when it comes to gambling, therefore it is wise to manage your finances if you have a family so you don't experience these problems.

I never gamble outside of entertainment and always use a fixed income budget like 1%-5% for gambling. I always gamble to keep myself safe. I never gamble to put myself in trouble. If I ever lose everything in gambling I will never mistreat my wife because I love her the most. If I ever lose a gamble, I will not mistreat my wife or ask her for a divorce. All this can be said by those who are addicted and addicted to gambling. Every such gambler should treat his wife well, if he treats his wife well or if the wife can treat her husband well then life will be beautiful, happy, no one will blame anyone if they lose in something.

Losing in gambling, in my opinion, is a natural thing because it will definitely happen often we gamble, so the defeat that will be more often obtained is not victory. The problem that often occurs in a relationship or family is indeed finance, because finance is an important thing in my opinion so as much as possible if you already have a family or official partner then do not often gamble, with the fact that gambling will only give defeat that will make us a loss of money just. Financial problems are often a major problem in a family, many divorce cases have occurred due to unstable finances. In my opinion, if you already have a family, don't gamble too often, because what you have to pay attention to is our economy, don't have a family when we are single, it's not good if we often do gambling, do gambling as naturally as not to overdo it because it will drain our finances quickly . Having self -control in gambling must, because we cannot get a victory with certainty. No matter how often gambling is done it will definitely end with defeat not with victory, because I think the host also holds gambling to make a profit instead of sharing profits to every gambler who plays it with sure to get it, that is impossible.

I myself a man who must have a work that produces because I also have needs that must be fulfilled also with the future that must be prepared when I have my own family or wife, if I already have my own family or my wife but I don't have Work of course I am ashamed, because I do not have a clear income, so I think having a job before marriage is important. Also I will not marry a gambler, even though I like gambling, it doesn't mean that I have to have a partner who likes to gamble too, because in my opinion when married is no longer we have to gamble, we must be able to focus on the relationship that must be well guarded, Do not let problems occur with relationships that have been established. I myself intend to stop gambling or depending on my gambling habit when married, I do not want to happen problems such as risking everything just for gambling.

The question is: why was it done like that? Those kinds of problems are usually the advice that I often know is counseling first before leading to what you say is that divorce will be the solution. The question is, is divorce the solution to that?

All the problems can be resolved through that proper conversation if one applies understanding. That means when one is too proud and the other is calm, of course he will understand the proud because he is usually moved by emotions. Are there situations like that that happen?

I could in any case have the opposite assumption, as I am the only one who bets. Besides, the idea that your wife can bet everything is too unrealistic, at least in my case. If you have a house, a pension plan or investment funds in the bank, your wife can't sell them without you knowing about it in order to gamble it all. I think my situation is far from this simple example.

Dafuck is probably what I'd say first then probably talk it out about what the hell happened. Impulsive decisions usually stem from a sudden rush of emotions which may be caused by various different things like stress and whatnot. I'd honestly like to talk it out first but whatever happens afterwards, I'm probably not too sure since I'd have the same rush of emotions. And from what I know of myself, I'm pretty prone to anger.

Something at the level of divorce or worse would happen though. I mean it's not only because its about his money, but rather the money of the family after all.

Most people fail to understand that in the long run, the house always wins, unless you are playing a game that involves skill like poker. There are some other exceptions, where people are able to construct profitable strategies in things like sports betting, but the majority of the time you will be playing a losing battle. There's a reason that Bet365 (and many others) make hundreds of millions of profit each year, because they offer enticing odds and are able to do a lot of analysis on what they offer. All offers by bookmakers also have a margin of error, in their favor, built into the price. So if you set a bet of 1.1x odds, you could potentially be lucky to break even on the real odds the bookmaker calculated of 1.

Just because you lost the gamble does not mean that the marriage must be divorced. Instead of thinking about your family, you focus on gambling excessively for which you are in such a situation. It is really stupid to waste all money in gambling. It is not right for you to spend so much money in gambling thinking about the future. If you have made a mistake, the best course of action is to let them try to make amends without divorce. It should be understood well so that it does not make such a mistake later.

No one is above mistakes, we make them steadily every year. Mistakes are made every day, and lessons are learned in a variety of ways, both difficult and simple. Losing, all of us who participate in the system have experienced unprecedented losses in the space, but we ensure that our losses do not exceed our profits proportions. Making critical mistakes in life. It will undoubtedly become one of the saddest occasions in one's life on earth. How can he be in danger when he is fully aware that he is the cause and gambling is the source of these severe and fatal conditions?

You are fully aware that your partner is into gambling and you accept it based on your statement because you mention that you accept your partner's losses and winnings but you should be fully aware of how risky gambling is and there's a possibility of your partner losing everything or winning a jackpot.

It's one-sided if you divorce because your partner happens to lose everything, but what if he won a jackpot after you divorce your partner will you ask your partner to get back at you?

You have a bow that you will stick through thick and thin you should have stopped your partner from gambling if you don't agree with this habit in the beginning. But you condone your partner so you accept any eventualities whether it's in your partner's favor or not.

By the way, this is the result of the poll and the majority voted that it should not result in divorce.

Your spouse/husband earns a lot in gambling but one day loses it all: how do you react?
I'm divorcing / leaving him or her   - 1 (5.9%)
I forgive him/her   - 16 (94.1%)
Total Voters: 17

If you are married and like to gamble, the best way is to give your wife monthly money first before you use it. I never really spent all my money in gambling because I always gave monthly money to my wife. If I spend my money on gambling, then it doesn't matter because my wife holds the money for our family's needs for the next month

However, if we fail to manage our finances, it is very likely that the things you mentioned will happen. Recently I read the news that a husband committed suicide because he always lost gambling and had a lot of debt even though his wife was pregnant and his first child was being treated in hospital.

Oh yeah? Will it be that easy if you are in that position? Forgive her? I doubt that. The first thing that will come out of my mouth will probably be curse words and it will never end for a week or maybe a month until she gives up and just leave me alone. ;D
Those are savings and everything you have financially. How are you going to pay the electric bills? Mortgage? Water? Internet? And everything. And I bet she (if it's the wife who did it) will come back gambling trying to chase the losses once she possesses money again. It's not easy to forgive when it comes to money cases and lots of married couples get a divorce because of money. What more with someone who spent it all on gambling?
I might reconsider when it's an investment that failed because it will not be fully her fault, it happens. But in gambling, she had a choice, she could just stop and end the day in gambling, clear her head, or maybe ask the husband for permission first before she exhausts everything.
You are married for a reason, the half of you must know everything first, if that won't happen then I guess both of you have trust issues.

It's a good thing that my wife doesn't know how to gamble or else, I may be experiencing such a thing.
But assuming that situation, I couldn't think about leaving my wife or she might because we can still earn money if we find a job. Financial problem is a common reason why some couples separate that is why, being a husband we should consider and think deeply about why we should limit our gambling addiction and always think about the welfare of the family, not just ourselves. We never get that worse if we also understand the needs of the family over our personal happiness and addiction.

It's not right to divorce your spouse/husband because in the first place you know that he is gambling you did not stop your spouse/husband it's your fault actually because you should know that gambling can take everything from you or your husband can win a jackpot if you don't want your spouse/husband to gamble you should tell him right away and walk out right away, but you agree on what your spouse/husband is doing so whatever happens good or bad you should bear with your husband, your not a good spouse/husband if you only want winnings and don't want to be part of losses.

None of the options are correct for me. Why would you divorce them when you were in on it the whole time? And on the other hand,  why do you even need to forgive them when they lose? They are human, in fact when your partner loses what you should do is to go and console them. Make them understand that they may get it next time. And you should have told them from the onset to quit gambling or maybe play safe so they don’t lose everything instead of feeling offended when they finally do.

Probably the topic assumes that the gambler lose everything as in including the funds which they are both save. This is the common reason why married couple destroyed when the problem is due to gambling addiction.

Some people can’t stand already their partner once he already affected the family finances in general. No one will gonna have a problem if the gambler still earn or doesn’t loss since it’s still part of entertainment but I believe even can’t stand a husband/wife that spend too much in gambling to the point that your family savings is already at loss.

There are 18 votes for forgiving her/him and only 1 vote for divorcing... who is the one not happy with his/her wife or husband? :D

This votes should casted in a certain context and generalising is hard, but the obvious answer in general is that, if you love your partner, you have to be with him/her no matter what happens (almost). Moreover, in the example there is no real loss because the result means getting back to the starting point; it would be more serious if he/she lost an important amount of savings that you need to pay your bills or mortgage.

To me, instead of divorcing, the moral would be: "I hope you have learned from this experience".

If you let your wife/partner or significant other to go to that point then it's probably your fault too that they've gone to that point, you tolerated the gambling habit because the turn out is favorable and your partner showers you with riches when they get a win, I think that in that case, divorce is probably the only choice or if it's not legal, annulment or separation because you both are only digging your own graves the longer you stay together. Gambling is something that should be talked about when you're in a relationship because gambling is a life destroyer if left unchecked. It's really specific situation OP, is there a truth in that or it's all hypothetical?

Regards to the choice of forgiving that person, I believe that it depends on the severity of the case, if you really can't get back on your feet with that lose that your partner did then it's probably going to take someone a long time to forgive them and I believe that no matter how severe the case is, if gambling and money problems is constantly getting in your marriage or relationship then divorce or separation should be the only option, I think in this choices that's the most logical, forgiveness will come someday, let yourself get out of that quicksand that you call a relationship.

I know how tempting gambling can be but if there other people's responsibility on your head i don't see the reason wht you should gamble with the money that is for you and your wife. If I was the wife to I want take it likely with my husband. Because  the chances are 50/50 so why use the money to take such risk. This economy is a terrible one so taking our money to gamble i won't feel happy at all. If it is money to gamble I prefer to gamble with my own money. Am not even use to gambling with other people's  money. So its either with my money or nothing. Anyone that gamble with other people's money anything that happen. The person either he or she will carry there own cross. I don't like any form of pressure. I do my thing my own way.

The question is, who is going to gamble like that? I don't think I have ever seen such a case where a gambler risks all his money, including savings. This is a stupid act. I was a regular gambler. I lost plenty of cash before by gambling. But, I did not exceed the limit. Sometimes, I gambled more than I could afford to lose. But I haven't bet any money that may ruin my life.

If some e's partner is going to play with that money, they already know that their partner is addicted. They should take a step away before something happens like this. I don't think breaking up the relationship will fix everything. They have to sit together and find out what to do next.

Firstly, painful. A nightmare, right? I'd be furious if my spouse gambled with our future and left the coffers empty. Fun till its not. My response? Call for a serious, no-holds-barred chat. Trust, right? The savings and trust were gambled away. Uncool. Setting boundaries and even seeking expert help are needed. Today its gambling; tomorrow, who knows?

What if I experienced this? Thankfully not. But I've witnessed it. A hard ride. Key? Communicate and possibly open a savings account. Right? Always have a backup.

If things turns out to be his/her first time mistake about gambling then of course majority will really be choosing on forgiving. We arent that too rushed on having that divorced decision right away
on the time that you would really be experiencing those situations or stuffs. We do know that we are just humans and we are prone to error and mistakes but on the time that you have caught your partner on having those involvement and forgiven already but it do keeps on repeating on the same thing all over again and again. Then i would say that this would the time that you would really be considering on having a divorce but of course everything would really be just that depending on you on which you would really be the ones who do make out such decision.

There are really those people who are really that loves to make out some conclusions and doesnt forgive but well all of our patience does have an edge on which
on the time that you cant take it anymore then it would be that just good on having that kind of decision on having a divorce. This is why it would be best that you should really be
trying out to balance in between based up on the condition or situation. It is really just that there are moments in life on which we do need to draw a line
specially if it talks about financial basis with your family then its a common approach.

Well, i thought there would be more people who would select the other option but I think these are two extreme conditions. You should not go for divorce and also you should not forgive for losing everything in gambling. If you let go, then the husband may do the same anytime in future.

The best way is to talk to the husband, better bring in the relatives from both sides and make him realize his mistake and take an oath and promise from him that he will not repeat the same mistake again and again. You can give him any other punishment but asking for divorce is something way too harsh. However, there would be wives who are not happy with their husbands and they will be using such incidents as asking for separation from their life partners. So it really depends upon case to case basis but only forgiving the husband is not the right solution to this problem.

Although the way you have been dealing with your husband is kind of awful, perhaps you should reconsider. You can't just file for divorce, after all, unless he hurts you or the situation becomes too much to bear. However, if you two can stand it, perhaps you should set aside some time for some honest conversation so that you can let him know how disappointed you are in him and how you are feeling. I believe you can easily forgive, but you cannot easily forget the things he has done to strain the relationship in the family. Given that it's a private matter, you two can have some counseling sessions and advise him that he would lose everything, including you, if he couldn't give up his gambling vices. Scaring our partner is a good way to let them know what's going on sometimes.

The gambler is not a responsible gambler and that was why he used everything and lost them all. A responsible gambler with family must now how to gamble when it is necessary. As it said in other threads, a budget must be set out for a routine gambling and with that he wouldn't loss all at a time. He didn't plan well before he execute the gambling games. Then secondly, the wife was also happy when he was winning therefore she should not divorce him or quarrel him when he loss all because she didn't warned him to stopped gambling and knowing fully well that gambling is 50/50. So she should also bear the pain until things come back to normalcy.

Yes because there is no word "stagnant" in the desire to gamble, meaning that change will always be something that may occur and be experienced by some people, one of the reasons why this can happen is because gambling is an activity that can stimulate the human brain and mind which in the end we usually call it an addiction where someone is already at a very high level of curiosity so that they cannot ignore the slightest time not to gamble. In addition, the victory in gambling is "money", logically everyone needs money, especially if the financial situation in a family is in a "concerning" phase, obviously it can increase a person's interest to be more crazy in gambling because he wants to realize something he always hopes for.

On the other hand, what you said is also true that the impact of gambling not only causes problems with money but also it can be very draining on your time that you should spend with your family. However, this is a fear that should have been thought of earlier, and if you are not married or single then yes, obviously a pretty good solution is to try as much as possible to stop gambling before you enter the household phase which basically you will have a big responsibility from the need factor that will not be tolerated.

For the problem of women, yes, I think we all agree that it is rare for women to be involved in gambling, I think one of the reasons is in terms of socialization where women usually spend more time at home with homework activities, while men, you probably already know how they are, they hang out more outside the home with a friendship environment which means it is very possible for a man to find new things as an influence of environmental factors, whether positive or negative and maybe one of them is gambling. The bottom line is that if you are married and one of your partners is gambling then I think you should immediately think of ways to stop it, that's the best preventive measure.

When you live as a couple and both work, you can consider that a certain percentage of each salary can be devoted to your hobbies (depending on your income).

For one it might be gambling, for the other going to the pub.

The percentage set at the outset must not be exceeded - it's like a marriage contract, it's a commitment. Breaking this contract by gambling away the couple's savings is very serious and is grounds fordivorce, just as infidelity is (when both people have sworn fidelity). Living as a couple is hard enough, so if on top of that, one of you is spending too much and jeopardizing the family budget, it's untenable.

Never happened to me.

But this is one reason why a couple breaks up, finances. It's okay when any of you gambles but when coming to a point that both of your finances have been affected. Then, don't expect that relationship is going to last.

Whether you like it or not, a foundation of having a great finance is what making marriage and relationships lasts. And when it's teared down by gambling, it's hard to put that back with those little pieces.

For me or both my wife on which we are not already putting up a budget when it comes to hobbies etc.. which it would really be adding up in overall expenses on which this is something
that we rather putting up those amounts into something more useful or something that more worth specially for the family.  Losing in gambling is inevitable and it is really just that right that you should really know on how to give out importance to priorities of course and if it turns out that both you and your wife are gamblers then expect that sooner or later you would really be having those unwise spendings or would really be that going excessive which might lead into those shortage on which this is something not that good anymore in overall for the family.
You should both needing to make up decisions which for the better of all.

Maybe, if the situation of losing it all is only one time, I guess, you can still forgive your spouse. But of course, it would give you reason not to trust him or her, the next time around. Because if such situation will happen again and again, it means, your spouse is not respecting the agreement that you have. So yeah, a divorce is imminent if you see that your spouse is not changing to save your marriage.


Unfortunately, a lot of gamblers are irresponsible with their actions especially when they are already losing a lot and they are still in front of their games. Hence, they are forgetting that they have other half to take care of. Losing it all should be a one time scenario, otherwise, don't expect that your spouse will be happy about it. Serious consequences will indeed emerge from this situation.

It is a difficult decision for your partner to accept because you have spent your finances on gambling, unless you have a high monthly salary then she can consider his decision to wait for salary payment the following month, but if you have lost all your finances just because of you If you are addicted to gambling then there is no warning even if it happens for the first time, the decision is final to divorce you, so you have to be very careful in allocating funds for gambling and make sure you use low funds to gamble just for fun and not greed for gambling, then don't do anything stupid if you don't want to lose a loved one just because of the influence of gambling.

Having a high monthly salary is more reason to proceed with the divorce. It only means that the money was hard-earned and there's a possibility that this kind of situation may repeat due to this reason. No other reason should be seen but to do the divorce as there is no trust anymore. It is hard to earn the trust of someone even if it is the spouse.

A lot of same cases like this have really been happening, the more they hold and continue to forgive their spouse the more they have a hard time with their finances. This is more reason why they should let go of this problem and proceed with divorce to make their life better.

I understand gambling so well and I will not let my wife gamble to the point of losing everything. There is an adage which says that prevention is better than cure. Even when my wife is winning, I will try as much as possible to ensure that she gambles with a budget. However, if she gambles with everything I will not think of divorce but rather how to make her rise. Sorry to bring in religion, but it is clear that marriage is for better and for worse and as an ardent follower of Christianity, seeking divorce is totally out of place.

She will feel remorseful after losing everything and even go to the extent of saying that she will not gamble again but I will not let those talks get to me rather I will limit her access to money, seek to know how she spends her money and prevent her from gambling because I wouldn`t want her to make the same mistake again.

Of every individual who does it, gambling is mostly the reason why someone's household is destroyed because they can't control it. Knowing the point where you have to stop gambling is of course a must, because it will make gambling more controlled. If there is no more control, it will have many negative effects on finances and household life. no one wants to have a partner who is too much of a gambling addict. But for those who can control gambling, they are great and are not affected by the abyss of detrimental gambling.

Concerning financial strain and the potential consequences for the partnership are the few impact gambling addiction. Indeed, excessive gambling can lead to significant financial losses, causing strain and conflict within a relationship. A high monthly salary may provide some flexibility in addressing the issue, but the loss of all finances due to gambling addiction can be devastating and may lead to irreparable damage to the relationship. The decision for a partner to accept or reject a situation where finances have been squandered on gambling can be extremely challenging.

People who engage in gambling need to differentiate between gambling for entertainment purposes and gambling driven by greed or addiction. You just need to use low funds for gambling and approach it as a form of leisure rather than a means of financial gain. It can help prevent excessive losses and minimize the impact on the relationship. Preserving a healthy and supportive relationship requires mindfulness, responsibility, and a willingness to address and overcome challenges such as gambling addiction.

Finances are very important in family relationships because this is what can keep you and your family alive, and yes what you say is true that gambling is one of the activities that can destroy a person's relationship, especially those who are married, where they will definitely experience some financial problems if their gambling activities have exceeded reasonable limits.

It is not uncommon for me to see several family relationships that eventually break down because one of the couples is involved in gambling activities and also I have one of my neighbors who experienced a case like this, which in the end there was no other decision they took other than agreeing to divorce. It was a very desperate situation, not only was it financially devastating but the family relationship was also devastated and obviously I can't imagine the pressure that was felt in that situation. So in my opinion there is nothing better than to quit gambling at all costs, or at least try to be a responsible gambler by only putting in the amount you can afford to lose, and along with that turn your attention to other things.

My vote was also the same as the majority because a divorce would be too much in my view plus it only takes time before you can be financially stable again, and i've heard worse situations from other gamblers like being in debt. If this happened to me in the future, i'd probably be frustrated for a moment, and then move on to helping my partner deal with the situation. Then again i'm not surprised with a few that voted for divorce, as it can be a way to enforce that tough love, and sometimes that's what it takes for others to change.

But that makes what I’m saying. It’s foolish for a partner to be all in love and happy when their other partner is winning all the gamble. But when he/she loses, the love is gone and you want a divorce. If it were me, I’d divorce her because it means that she never really loved me. When you love someone, you should be with them at their worst (especially if you were always with them at all the bright times).

Now there's 3.

I feel like it depends on how people understand the question. If you had $1k in the bank and she used that, no problem, you can make it back, but imagine that you had your whole life's savings there, a million or two and she'd lose it in one night of stupidity, what would you do? There's no way you can earn that money back. You will die poor because of her dumb decision. In such case many people would choose to divorce.

IMO it depend on the initial commitment because after all it is reckless to risk everything in gambling and it would be foolish if your partner agreed to it because after all in this case we know that gambling is a condition where luck plays an important role and it doesn't mean that you will become profitable if you risk everything you have because it could actually make you stuck in a silly choice because the possibility of losing is clearly greater than winning.

If in the end your partner initial commitment allows you to risk everything then I don't think it will be a problem because the responsibility is shared but sometimes problems arise even to the point of causing divorce because we decide unilaterally where our partner doesn't even know we are risking everything for gambling. I think it's a natural thing if our partner eventually decides to leave because he's not considered even though it's a shared wealth even though it's the man who plays a role in making money but in the end we also can't be selfish when we already have a partner because the decision to do something is based on a joint decision and not one party.

The outcome of gambling is always about winning and losing, I understand what you mean here in that we have to look more at the idea of a "habit that has the potential to create bad situations", I understand that winning is possible and maybe even by a large amount but isn't losing also a possibility? Obviously, that means losing and winning are the outcome of gambling and losing is a situation that you will definitely experience at any time and even dominantly.

Everyone is happy with the name of victory or when they get a win, but if the partner can think wisely about the gambling habits of his partner then I think it should not be for him to feel too happy with the victory that his partner managed to achieve because of course they will think that defeat will definitely occur which may even be with a greater amount than the previous victory that his partner managed to get. So the point is that people who really love are those who are able to think about the good for their partners in the long run, so I am sure that if your partner is able to think rationally then he will definitely advise you to stop gambling even though you just got a big win.

No one would really be happy to know that their partner had lost all his money and savings to gambling. A real and caring partner would see to it that their partner stops anything that would put their relationship in jeopardy. This practice would actually help to prevent situations like this that are likely to occur.
Gambling as it's fun, can sometimes be destructive that's when one becomes addicted and spends far more than he is supposed to spend on gambling. If gambling is taken for fun only, we won't have much of addicts that will loss their sense of reasoning just because of gamble. Let's all be wise when it comes to situations like this to avoid causing problem's for our self.

Well, fact is that it’s not done for fun. Most people claim that they gamble for fun but it’s all word of mouth; It’s all about money. If there was no reward when you win, people wouldn’t be gambling. If you want to have fun, I’d say you maybe play video games, watch football matches or movies. But gambling? It’s not for fun, especially for the fact that you can lose your life savings.

To some persons it sounds cool that they are there when the gambling is favouring them and leaving when there's nothing again to offer is cool aswell, most persons who are in a parasitic relationship get to suffer this because their partners are actually depending solely on their wins and are not in anyway trying to stay when the winning are no longer there, most definitely it clear thst these persons are not good partners buy were there just for the benefits they got aal along. Sometimes it's not good to explain or make known your gambling profit to anyone and this could include your partner too, if they are not looking promising to you.

Keeping some of our habits a secret is essential and important sometimes because it helps prevent certain things from happening as people can only spoil thst which they know, they can't spoil anything they don't know or take advantage of something they have little to no information about.

Just because everything is going fine does not make gambling a realistic income source. Any spouse that does not understand this, and does not rather seek a different income source, is putting the entire family in risk of financial ruin. Especially if this is not the first time that that spouse has lost his/her bets.

I view gambling from a mathematical perspective, which says that making a steady income with gambling is not possible.

Sure you can get lucky. Maybe even have a long, lucky streak. But does that justify going against logic?

Football is a game of passion but most people have indulged in the critical sectors and losing money all in the name of seeking for more. I've been dormant in one position but that doesn't mean I'm not growing, infact everyday, I'm getting closer of succeeding in life. It doesn't take too much but consistency matters in everything one is doing. However gambling can be for fun and also making ends meet. You don't expect some adults to be playing video games because they actually see it as childish or lack of utilization of time. Most people have watch how the space operates and are actively in to print more money.

A caring and responsible partner should indeed take measures to prevent anything that could potentially jeopardize their relationship, including addictive behaviors like gambling. Gambling can be entertaining and enjoyable when it's done in moderation, but it can also become highly destructive, particularly when individuals develop an addiction. Addiction to gambling is a serious danger to relationship, because it can lead to financial ruin and overall negative consequences for both the individual and their loved ones.

Partner can help prevent situations where gambling spirals out of control by promoting responsible gambling practices and intervening when necessary. Encouraging open communication and setting limits on gambling activities are all important steps in safeguarding against the harmful effects of gambling addiction. Prevention and awareness are key in fostering a safer and more enjoyable gambling environment for everyone involved.

The first choice in the poll is crazy. Really? Divorcing him that quick? Lol. It wasn't even his money but it's from the casino and it's like he is only returning what he borrowed. This is a common scenario that happens to us gamblers. We don't know on why the cash out option seems to be so passive but this could be the psychology behind gambling.

They will only let you experience a win or excitement, and they are not afraid of losing at first because later on, they know that they can still recover it and earn much more than it. In a married life, especially for a normal or poor one, we hardly have savings but if we have it and then our partners uses it for gambling, well that is another story anymore. This would be an addiction already and if he/she does this a lot of times, I guess it's now safe to leave him/her.

Thankfully it didn't happen to me but if this ever happens, I don't think I'll be able to love that person again, that kind of blunder in a relationship is definitely a big way to break the heart of your partner and either you're going to stay on that relationship and slowly let that sinking feeling that you've got eat you away while they don't care about you even if they're saying that they do or you can achieve peace of mind divorcing them, this is the most painful of the two choices but the other one is a slow death so if I'm ever in that situation I'm definitely going to be choosing that divorce part, it's not till death do us part when you're partner or couple isn't trying to keep you both alive.

You wont really be able to say that specially if its his/her first time on committing out such mistake on which you would definitely be still considering it up on forgiving him/her on which we do know that it wont really be that so easy on having some divorce on someone on whom you do love for long years. It isnt really just that enough reason that you would really be considering out such step just because of having that kind of problem.Yes, each person is really that different but it would really be just that too much if you do have those kind of conclusive approach on things as if you are perfect.
We are just humans on which we are really that prone to error and mistakes and if things turns out to be already that severe and uncontrollable, then this is the moment that you would really
be making out such decisions but as much as possible  then it would really be best that you shouldnt really be coming up with this kind of solution in mind specially if this one is that firstly been done
on his/her entire life. Making those serious talks would really be a great help on this regard.

I agree with you if it's the first time a mistake is made, and it should indeed give a chance to change himself to be better again and be able to build the economy back to be better or return to the previous position where your partner did not make a mistake in gambling that spent all the money he had, but that thought I also agree if our partner makes the same mistake continuously, even though he wants to say to change but still gambles impulsively and does not change at all then divorce is the last resort to avoid our minds from the stress of dealing with impulsive gamblers. I think it is not only men but also women, because today there are many women gamblers.

The thing is that no one should gamble with the mindset that you will make some profits, and should be done with risk in mind, and for such we tend not to lose more than we can afford,  first as a couple you shouldn't take gambling as means to earn money for the running of your family and shouldn't stake any amount that can affect your family.


But in this case, the wife has been enjoying the previous winnings and at that, she is aware that the husband gambled so she should have warned him beforehand and also advised him to invest the money when he made the first winning.

Yes, the point is that if they really love their wife/husband then obviously they will tell their partner to stop gambling, no matter how much they win and no matter how much they win, because it is nothing more than a lucky situation that will not always be repeated in the future, and it means that it is very likely that in the next few sessions they lose and lose some money.

However, overall gambling is an activity that jeopardizes life in many aspects, not only will it destroy the financial situation but it can also cause a lot of problems in friendships, or family relationships. I think gambling will only be truly enjoyable when you are able to treat gambling activities properly according to what most people suggest or according to a rational point of view about gambling itself, because obviously there is absolutely no pleasure when a gambler has entered the addiction phase where all situations will be dominated by tension and pressure. So it's really a choice, and I think the wise and best choice is to stop or not gamble at all, this is what you should do if you really don't want to experience any bad possibilities in the future.

I've actually never experienced this situation, and I hope it won't happen to me. If I were in that situation, I would be really shocked, as the future lies ahead for the couple with no money left to live on. In addition, the psychology after losing a large amount of money in gambling is always accompanied by great psychological instability in the following days. Surely my wife and I will not be in the mood to continue doing anything during this time period. One important thing I think is whether we can get through this period or not depends on the other person. If one spouse is still there to encourage the other to continue overcoming it, I think things won't be too bad afterward. Otherwise, this will seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife.
I know that it is not easy for our wife or husband to accept forgiveness after we have used up all our savings to gamble, and if we have children, things will be even more miserable, obviously. You are irresponsible and especially do not think about your children. This is a story that I think is not rare, it still happens every day, so controlling your account when participating in gambling is a top priority, especially for those who have families.

Yes, of course everyone should not gamble with the hope that they will win with the money they hold, because we have to think that if we lose at gambling then we can still meet the needs we need and if we bet to win Of course, this will make us and our partners have even more difficult problems if we lose on the bets we play.

If their partner has got their first win and one of them returns to betting in the hope of winning more, it would be better to withdraw a little of the winnings that have been obtained first so that if they lose the bet they can still have funds left that can be used for other purposes.

If my partner gambles a lot and loses everything, it would be a big problem since we both rely on that money. I would feel stressed, frustrated and angry. It could be really tough, but I would communicate openly with my partner to set clear limits, set boundaries, seek support and resources to manage debt and financial strain,

Not being able to accept what our wife or husband has done is normal, especially if all the money we have is used for gambling until all the money is gone. It will be a tough time for us but anyway, it all happened.
We have to get up and get through these bad times and we can still encourage our wives or husbands that we can still get up and start all over again. That is a valuable experience for us so that we don't experience it again in the future.
It's better for us to learn that lesson and think about the next steps because that's what we must do if we want to change our lives. It may be hard to get up, but we have to try, especially if our wife or husband regrets everything he/she has done and he/she wants to show his regret by doing better things.

I will never experience such, because I am not an idiot who will risk even 50% of all I have on something like gambling, I don't even take such risks on investments that are likely guaranteed to succeed, only an idiot would do such thing and if your partner leave you because of this it's your fault, who risk all they have on gambling? Idiots, and your partner just figured out how big of a idiot you are.

Partners are meant to forgive themselves but gambling is something that should not crumble your home, it means both of you are idiots if it happens unless your partner never knew about your gambling activities before, it's wrong to depend on gambling, it's wrong to trust any games of gambling that will prompt you to take big risks.

If the family you have mean a lot to you, gambling won't even get close to take this away from you, if hardship comes, learn new things, find better jobs, save up money and invest some, you will grow in a matter of few years and all your hardship will reduce, do not expect life changing opportunity from gambling.

In the film "Trust No One: The Hunt for the Crypto King", there's a couple whose man has lost everything in the platform (QuadrigaCX).

She forgives him: it seems to me that this case is different, because in the end he invested and was fooled, which could happen in any business. Nevertheless, as we often say, only invest in crypto what you can afford to lose. Gambling is more of a hobby and should be kept under control, except perhaps in the case of card games like poker, where you can become very good at it and make a living of it.

The truth is that gambling can cause major problem between two couples, because of how gambler is addicted to it, in the case when a man wife is gambler, it’s not a wrong thing for some men, but the only issue that if it is addicted gambling it will definitely attract a problem to the family because of the addiction, it is always advice for someone to set a standard of betting amount per month sometimes betting is good. But I wouldn’t advise Wife to go into betting because they are all emotional I’m very fragile. In the other hand, if it were to be a man, it will also attract the same problems when he is addicted.

This will be so pathetic and absurd to think of,I never pray for it to happen to anyone close to me or myself cause it will be so disastrous and even lead to someone death in no time.
As a gambler you are prone to loosing and the tendency for winning too is also sure but why will one know all of this and still want to go extra miles to gamble with everything he/she had,it's devastating,I'll be so mad to such person because he's not something to joke about.

If by chance anyone tried it with me,it's a total shutdown and end fir such person as I will cut every ties and connection, communication with him/her and focus on how to regain from my loss.Any man that will have such wife that gamble's alot should file for a divorce in no time because the end results like you said loosing everything and nothing left will be something to pen down.

That's something I won't allow to happen to me and my partner even I will admit that I'm a regular gambler.

I will make sure that outside my gambling habit, my finances are managed properly and can cover all our financial obligations.

Big thanks to my partner who's good at handling our family's finances and budget. As a token of gratitude for my partner's kindness and being responsible to our family, I won't allow myself to just throw away money in gambling irresponsibly. She knows that I always gamble and never she stopped me. I will keep my consistency in being a responsible gambler.

Losing on gambling is more disgraceful than losing your through investment because they have different purposes. Investment main goal is grow your money through buying assets without any house edge unlike gambling that is design for entertainment purposes only since gambling games has house edge that will make players in guaranteed lose over time.

Even I will do the same about forgiving my partner if he loss his money on investment since there’s always like that on investment unlike in gambling that it’s a natural phenomenon.

It's frustrating if it's happened to our family. I will now wait if there will be good changes after that worst experience. Even though disappointing, I will still consider it a blessing in disguise that such an incident happened as it will test my partner. Of course, my partner won't be able to handle that situation easily. As a partner, I will try to always be there to help for a better change.

As time progresses, I'm expecting that my partner will now be a responsible person and won't ever allow that bad experience to happen again.

It's always frustrating to lose money while gambling, but we must remember that losing is a part of the process. But it's important to remember how to control your emotions when you lose; it doesn't mean you won't have luck the next time, but at that point, all we need to do is take a break from gambling and do something else which we enjoy, but some people don't recognize this; they don't want to give up, they just want to keep playing in order to recover everything they've lost, and they'll be under pressure, but the truth is, the more they play, the more they lose. So all they need to do is back off.In the meanwhile, give it a break, and one approach to avoid making such harmful choices is to make a strategy for how much money you are going to spend on gambling, as well as to take control of your emotions by exercising self-control, etc.

You are definitely right, sometimes, things like this do happen for a reason, and some how, if we can manage to be patient and cope through it for a while, we will in the end discover that it was actually a blessing in disguise after all.

It's like what is commonly said that before a bull zooms forward, it first super charge it self by going back first, to come forward with full force.
Let's also use a catapult (also known as fling) for example, when we put a stone in our fling and are about to shoot the stone out, what do we do first? We first draw the fling backward, so as to super charge it, and the stronger we are able to super charge it, the further the stone will go when released.

Some times, before a man or a woman meets his or her breakthrough, he or she must first lose it all, the losing it all is that going back, the super charge, as for such person, the next event in their life could bring about major blessing or breakthrough that he or she will completely forget about all that he or she has ever lost in previous times.

So, running away in such a situation is not the best thing to do, but stick around and support your partner through it all, believe he or she have learnt his or her lesson and won't allow such happen ever again.

It doesn't matter what the love loss ratio is, no one should ever gamble regularly, if it is husband / wife, because in this case there will be no one to help, no one will be able to stop gambling. And when everyone in a family is a gambler, no one can save that family from the hand of evil. their descent is undetermined. So no matter what the profit/ loss ratio is I would not encourage them to continue gambling as gambling should only be done for fun.

I made same mistake in the past but that is one time only that all my month Salary plus my Christmas bonus have been risked and lose in gambling , my wife almost leave me that day lucky that Her parent interfere and give me second chance.
sometimes we must keep in mind that we are not solo in this world and there are others that need our support .

This has not happened to me because I am single therefore no responsibilities and I had never experience to spend all my money all at once that ends me up nothing. But if that is the case I think it won't come to a point where she is gonna spend all of the money to gambling because I have limits and therefore she does as well but if she is really that hard headed and instead make here own decicion to still gamble that money and then lose it all I think the next step is to move on and warn here about that mistake if she has to ever do it again then we're done! Though divorse is too expensive I don't mind getting married haha.

You were already addicted at that time, I'm glad you have been given a chance, others might end their marriage because of that mistake. After all we are just humans, we make mistake like losing money, but if that's the way to learn from our lessons, then that should be accepted fully as money can be earn in the future as long as we work hard for it.

Happy for you, I hope you are not anymore addicted with gambling now, as just like you, I also experience to be in the bad situation in the past where people hated me especially in my family because of gambling, but now that I'm able to control it, I can educate our relatives on how to be responsible.

lolz. Marriage is for better and foe worst. It is not because of the gambling loss will make them to divorce themselves but they have to look for alternative way to settle their case. Both of them supposed know that gambling is for the ways either you lose or you win and that is where 50/50 come to play in gambling. So when you visit gambling hall you have to put at the back of your mind that you might lose and might win. Id you lose you have to wear thick skin and leave as gentleman and id you win then you go home with joy. The man too didn't try at all because if he was a responsible gambler, he would have made a provision to reserve some the money so that even if he lose more, small would left with him to buy some food items in the house. The man played the game irresponsible.

Absolutely marriage is for worst and better, but some people uses divorce as a threat to their partners anytime they are going against a kind of decision that will make them go back to the stages they have passed. You made a good suggestion here, to stop someone from gambling is a very big decision to pertain and you also need a stand without because if anything happens (good or bad) it is going to affect the both of you. When a gambler win bet he's always rejoicing most likely when the money is 30× bigger than the initial deposits, a gambler is always happy when he win bet but feels sad when he loses a bet. Although that's the nature of gambling essentially when they gamble for money/profits.

This has never happened to me, it is bad and everyone should avoid it. Gambling should not be by force, we should weigh our risks and not allow it to affect us or anyone that is depending on us. It is not always about gambling when people are saying bad things about it but the people who are gambling. Gambling itself is a neutral avenue for betting activities, it should not be blamed when we do bad things in it. Imagine this character you narrated, the guy is clearly a bad actor towards gambling. For the irresponsibility, there is no way it will not negatively cause issues for himself and his dependent(s).

I wonder how a woman can be living with a man of this kind of character, even if the woman is good, it will get to a point where she would get tired and no one can blame her because she is a human being. It takes two to tangle but if the other party is not cooperating in the union, it becomes a headache that anyone would want to get off them or avoid as the woman cannot be the one taking the whole responsibility all the time. What if the man is even the breadwinner of the family or even the sole provider? That makes matters worse. To avoid issues like this, we should always be calculative towards gambling and above all be responsible and ensure that we are not addicted to it. Being disciplined is a good way forward here and we should ensure that proper budget and management are involved in our gambling activities.

Gambling usually benefits the house, while the player often loses money, dignity, respect, and even their family. Absolutely, its how people handle gambling, not the gaming itself. Gambling irresponsibility is a time bomb that will cause mayhem. Betting over family is depressing and leads to a disastrous road thats hard to recover from.

Its bad and irresponsible for a man to gamble away his family's future. Leading your family into a storm without an umbrella will get you all wet. Here, discipline is crucial. Important and non-negotiable. Discipline includes setting limits, knowing when to quit, and realizing that your actions affect others.

Wake up, irresponsible men. Whats left if you squander away your bread as the breadwinner? Just crumbs. You must take responsibility and be the man your family needs. All others, gamble with your head, not over it.

Gambling is not a something you will be perfect with it through out your winning because, there are some days you will lose for your wife to feel the sign of losing from you and, there are some days you will win in your gambling for your wife to feel the sign of winning from your smile which are some of the things people most notice from you.

The most important thing in gambling some gamblers need to learn, never to be addicted to gambling as a wife or husband because it can break up a marriage once your wife or husband discover that you are selling things anyhow to gamble in the gambling center.

This is very common for those who gambles very aggressively perhaps that's the reason why having self discipline is very important because it always reminds you when you are gambling out of line  because with self Dicpline it will be very difficult to gamble with the money that can course you emotional trauma if being lose through the gambling process, however one of things that can make someone gamble that much is actually because of greed, this factor has been the reason why most people has lost so many things through gambling because is quite surprising to see someone with his right mind will use all his money to gamble when he has a family to take care of, although in as much as the wife will be happy with the man after seeing that he has won doesn't mean that she will be happy with the man losing everything they have because of gambling, of course this has lead to so many break up in the marriages, so for me I cannot gamble with all my money because of the desire of making higher win and also I only gamble when I have a spare money that I just decided to try if it will work or not because I don't gamble irresponsible.

It's true what you said, after all, if they have experienced the name of addiction, they will most likely only focus on the things that make them addicted. Even if it harms themselves or harms others they tend not to care about it. But it is very bad if we already have a legal partner and we are addicted, of course it will greatly affect finances and may spread to the relationship that is established, where with finances that become unstable, the needs that should be prioritized are always lacking and eventually lead to quarrels, many divorce cases are also caused by unstable finances. Even unstable finances are sometimes not due to gambling alone but because of other things such as not having a job that produces.

In addition, they should not expect more from gambling, because the defeat in gambling is certain. Most of those who gamble are not prepared for the risk of losing their money, so it triggers them to become addicted to gambling which has a bad impact on many things including their own family relationships. I can't imagine what you're saying with everyone in the family being gamblers, maybe they'll put their own selfishness first, maybe they won't care about each other.

If after all our money was gone and my spouse admitted the mistake and promised to change for good, then we could talk things properly. Since it's my spouse after all, there's always room for a second chance. I might feel angry at some point but if I feel that the promise is genuine, I need to put trust.

I will now see if a real change is happening as we move on to that bad moment. I hope so that everything will went well.

Yes, that's right, there is still a second room to discuss and find a solution together to overcome this problem. If your partner really feels guilty and apologizes along with promising to change for the better, then clearly there's no harm in giving him a chance. or a second room to try to improve, but I think if for example this is the umpteenth promise, or what it means is that they have said that they want to change for a long time but always make the same mistakes that make your family lose money for free as a result of their partner's actions you then clearly I think this is another thing that must be taken seriously.

I understand that saying is always easier than doing, but if for example the situation is that your partner always makes the same mistake several times then perhaps in my opinion you need to give a firm warning or even do something that could really traumatize your partner, such as threatening him. or whatever.

In this case, the head should be hot, but those who can control themselves in this situation can only become a professional gambler. But in my country many gamblers lose all their funds in gambling bets and quarrels and fights among family members often occur. Especially in today's society, because of this gambling, along with violence against women, terrible curses like dowry are always seen. Defeated by the tide, many husbands divorce their wives and commit women abuses and heinous crimes which are not desirable at all.

In my opinion only a small percentage of gamblers are able to control everything properly and in accordance with the suggested directions, while most others are controlled by gambling and not those who control gambling or in the sense that they gamble on the wrong path, and for the problem of impact, yes it is clear that the impact of mistakes in treating gambling can destroy all aspects of life, losing balance in terms of finance is the main target as a result of wrong gambling and after that problems can spread to many other things, and one of them causes problems in family relationships.

On the other hand, I am not sure that a spouse can accept gracefully about the problems experienced in the family due to activities or habits carried out by their partner that have an impact on family finances, after all, money is the most important thing in life, especially when you are married where there are so many needs that continue to grow and cannot be tolerated. If for example you have a partner who is involved in gambling no matter if they are a fairly responsible gambler then my advice is to try to get your partner to stop from this activity in any way that you think is effective enough, not least because the impact of gambling can get worse over time when your interest is getting higher.

Actions scream, words whisper. Giving allowance for change is important, but when is enough? Choices, not mistakes, are involved in the umpteenth promise. Your partner's repeated offences that drain the family finances are decisions, conscious or not

A firm warning or traumatising action may seem excessive, but sometimes the wake-up call must be loud enough to be heard above repeated failures. Threats are a gamble that generally leads to mistrust and dread, not solutions

Consider accountability instead. Concrete steps. Show me their plan if they're serious about change. What will they do? So how will they prove it? This goes beyond trust to constructing a foundation where promises are backed by deeds. Because we're human, flawed, and changeable if we work hard

In my opinion, this is normal if it happens, because for those who cannot accept defeat, of course it will be difficult for them, where their feelings and thoughts will be affected by excessive gambling and ultimately become addicted. Of course, when you are addicted, it is likely that many problems will occur, including family quarrels, whether because of changes in the attitude of the person addicted or because finances are in disarray. What is clear is that family relationships can become messy with just one person who is addicted to gambling.

Indeed, there have been many cases of divorce because finances have become a mess and that is because one of them is addicted to gambling. What we have to pay attention to is that we have to be able to accept the reality of losses that will definitely occur in gambling. Don't mind the defeat that occurs, because it is a reality that will definitely happen and therefore should be accepted well.

To be honest, I have experienced being at the lowest point in my life, including gambling. but in household cases that never happens. therefore, I am very grateful for the experiences I had in my youth. this makes me have more experience so that it doesn't happen again for the umpteenth time. for me, it is very important to review every incident that we go through. in particular, something related to the problem. In the case of gambling, the first rule, winning or losing is something that is important to know and be aware of. eell, related to your question and voting thread.

honestly, I won't answer and speculate. in fact, I don't want to fantasize like that. because, for me, this has a negative element. Moreover, I have never actually experienced this with my partner until this moment. But that doesn't mean we don't have problems. Problems are part of life, so they are normal and how we respond to them. well, so does gambling. it is not uncommon for divorce to occur due to gambling addiction. Usually in cases like this, the mistake is caused by the male partner. because gambling is synonymous with men, even though it shouldn't always be like that. well, for me the question is the opposite of what you said in this thread.

So the question is, how can we avoid what you said in this post. what's more, it's such a terrible thing to have nothing. what you mean is that you may no longer have property, work, etc. so, this should be a reminder for gamblers, not the other way around. hence, the importance of understanding, responsibility that gives birth to self-control. however, it's not easy as I said. because, it is important to train so that we get used to it and have discipline.

Reading through the thread and the context of the OP, you'd see that the player was making good profits, before everything dwindle down the hill. What would be the reaction of the spouse? In that case where there are no funds to run the family, anymore. Taking loan for the survival of the family is the first move, then setting up other means of income. Both spouses, seem to be generating funds, because the gambler was able to gamble with the family funds. Hence, they only need to wait some time to get stable up using their earnings.

There would be no essence for divorce, provided the spouse love one another. There, you'd notice that love is more important than money. Not every family is held with the bond of money. Separating for the sake of money, only leaves the gambler broken, and could lead him to addiction. Being there for one another is quite important, especially in cases where the person has wronged us and shows some atonement for their mistakes. Going away, takes up much emotional stress from both parties, and can cause anxiety.

yeah mate its hard but I managed to give my self a chance in changing and this will never happen again , not in this lifetime .because love my family and I need them more than gambling.

Thank you so much , Yes addiction is just part of my past and will never be my future or present again.

Never happened to me, but the example does not seems as something that is very likely to happen, as if you were to open a joint bank account with your partner, you could specify that in order to make any withdrawal both spouses need to give their approval for this to happen.

So even if a spouse was to experiment a moment in which they lost control of themselves, they could only spend the money they have on hand and not touch the money on the joint bank account.

They both already had a taste of how losses feels like, why must one of the decide to risk it all on gambling? Thats irresponsible gambling and it won't get to this point in my life unless my spouse was into gambling and I never knew all along.

There will always be a problem if you gamble all the time, now let me just imagine that my woman is into gambling and I detect that she is gambling almost all the time, that's a problem on its own, we need to discuss about it before it get out of hand.

To say the truth, I can't live with someone who isnt in control of their gambling habit, thats if all of a sudden I get married to a gambler, because I wouldn't, I don't want to, its always a time-ticking for gamblers who turned gambling into a hubby, they can at any point in time turn addicted, I would rather not start what I can't finish.

If she loses at gambling, maybe I will act normal as if nothing happened, because I expected it would happen. But when she loses and spends all our family savings, maybe I will be very angry with her, but not to the point where I will divorce her - because after all she is my wife and whatever happens I have to accept that fact, because I made a promise at the altar to love her as she is. But maybe I'll teach her a lesson by not giving her access to our savings anymore and making every effort possible so that she doesn't get involved in gambling again.

I was reading some articles, online, consigning gambling and people addicted to it. That is the reason why I have to come back to this topic to express myself and contribute gambling has been a very big problem to some families. This is because I read an article concerning a man that love drinking at the same time gambling Each time he comes home, he is drunk after spending much money gambling,All he does is to come and lie down and sleep without even thinking about the family if they are all right if they have eaten so therefore it is really a very big problem if you find out that your spouse is an addicted gambler well sometimes I will advise that the person should seek the presence of God to help him stop gambling addiction. A lot of marriages today has been on major problem because of this.

A wise attitude as the head of the household is that you are very wise in making decisions and you apply them in your household, that is, one day your wife loses at gambling and as if you didn't know it, act. relax and be normal, but behind your back your wife definitely already knows and is still watching, in other words you have aims and objectives so that there are no problems in your household, and after that if your wife is found out, she has spent a lot of money in her savings and you just give him a lesson or punishment. but don't divorce her, that's the right action, after all, whether it's your wife, good or bad, you have to accept it happily because you both have promises that must be kept.
But nowadays I don't think there are many people like you, in fact what I know is that if one of the partners makes a mistake in gambling by frequently losing, then the final path is divorce.

not just pretending or pretending, in my opinion we should act normally when the gambling we do ends in defeat, because in my opinion losing at gambling is something that is certain to happen, even if we think hard about it. It won't change the situation, in fact, in my opinion, if we question the losses that occur, it will likely trigger our own emotions and cause excessive gambling with thoughts such as wanting to recover losses, even though this is not recommended.
but if he gambles excessively to the point of spending his savings then I will scold him, because in my opinion it is a stupid act, why should he spend a lot of money on gambling, if that is not the right way to make money. To make money, of course we have to work because it is a necessity, rather than hoping for gambling where it is not clear that we will win. I agree with you, maybe I will also limit him from getting involved in excessive gambling again.

I personally haven't faced this kind of scenario but if ever I'd feel devastated and stressed. It's not just about losing the money, but also losing trust and stability within the relationship. And he/she is my partner, I will communicate with him and encourage him that it's time to stop gambling. I'll support him and seek help to professionals.

Always get to know your partner better before getting married, know what they are into and what they aren't into, if what they like doing doesn't sound well for you, do not be blinded by love, find someone else.

There is nothing anyone can use to confuse me that an addict can keep his or her home without one of them getting tired, have you ever leave with a addict in the same roof? It's very hard.

In the end, if they fail to change, everyone closer to them starts keeping their distance, and they will end up alone, can I judge that they are evil people for leaving the addicted person? No way, because I know how it feels to live with an addicted person, either drugs or gambling.

Obviously the votes shows forgiveness because at once he/she won right?but doing another
wrong decision losing it all in one game but  at least  this will serve it a lesson for not to lose the
same way again and maybe will go home with tons of winning in the coming days.
Maybe because our relationship is not going any bad than what OP is asking, and i believe
this is very rare to happen not seeing any of my friend has this situation.

Addiction, whether to gambling, alcohol, or drugs, is a complex problem. It can damage not just the addict, but also everyone around them, including family, friends, and the community as a whole. In the example of the individual you cited, it's devastating to consider how his behavior affected his family.  Addiction is frequently a symptom of something deeper, such as loneliness, financial stress, or a loss of meaning in life.
 I believe there is significant value in managing addiction through a process known as "harm reduction."
 This strategy focuses on lowering the negative consequences of addictive behavior rather than forcing the person to stop. It is a more empathetic approach, but it can still result in beneficial outcomes. For example, if someone is addicted to gambling, you could work with them to lessen their financial losses rather than asking them to quit immediately.

Oh, how unfortunate it is for wives to marry husbands who are both addicted to gambling and drinking. These two causes are threats to family happiness and are the cause of broken homes. That's why many women always want to find a way to "cure" their husband's gambling addiction. 'Pray to God,' I think it will not be possible to help in this matter. In fact, gambling addiction can completely be overcome, but the process is extremely difficult. People with an addiction need perseverance and help from relatives. This is a long process and cannot be done in a day or two.
They must clearly understand that "in this world there is no free lunch", even though gamblers may win a little money at first, they will soon lose it all. Try looking around you to see how many people gamble, and what are the consequences that most of these people have to face. And, of course, if you want to help your husband escape this path, you must prevent him from contacting friends with the same passion. Limit your husband from meeting, talking, and interacting with people addicted to gambling.

Sometimes economic problems can cause things to strain relationships and none other than people who are addicted to gambling will definitely lose their sense of trust in their family and also their partner if they have crossed the line and don't want to be asked to stop. If it's not too late, we can advise him well and help him to stop, but if it's too late, it's quite difficult to advise people who are addicted to gambling, they need to discuss things with each other in a calm manner so as not to cause feuds in the household because economic problems like this are the beginning of the breakdown of the household.

Thankfully that this didn't happened to me and hopefully that it won't be in my entire life. But if I found out that my partner spend all of our savings and money and we've got nothing left, I'd definitely going to be mad at her and she should have given me an advise on her gambling needs. Because with that, I'll be able to help her control that addiction and will help her on the budgeting for her gambling needs because if it's not for her, I won't be happy but at the same time we should be planning for our future together and someone has to help each other in terms of finances. I may be the one that can be good at finances or it will be her but then the other one is reckless in spending so that tandem is going to be terrible and useless in the end.

If both of us can't agree to things then we know where this relationship is going. But if that's the first time that she did it, of course everyone deserves a second chance and if ever I am the one on her shoe then I'd be asking her to forgive me and I'll do my best to become the better me and won't be doing the same mistake of losing our entire life savings. But I don't think that someone will ever do that when they're inside a relationship and have been out of control and will be losing their entire fund because of gambling. That's a serious gambling addiction that needs to get addressed because if it won't get some help from the experts in psychology then that will be continued and mistake will be repeatedly done no matter how much and how many times we'd be giving some reminders about it.

Once you do crossed the line and once you have broken their trust then everything wont really be ever the same on which for all of your life there would really be that blaming and there's really that kind of suing you out in regarding with the mistakes that you have done in the past. If you dont like on ending up something like  this then it would really be better that you should really be mindful on the actions that you would really be making and never ever make that kind of actions on which it would really be something that would be resulting into disaster or something that you would really be ending up on having that huge problem. Losing in gambling is inevitable and its just that normal considering that it could really be only have 2 possible outcomes on which its winning or losing.

Real transformation requires more than wishful thinking or supernatural intervention. Action, tenacity, and a stubborn support system are needed.

No more poisonous influences? An absolute must.  The goal is to replace the negative with the positive. Inspire new hobbies, interests, and relationships. Its a war on mental, emotional, and social fronts.

Dont underestimate professional help. Therapy, support groups, and treatment are essential. Its about giving victims the tools, techniques, and resilience to rebuild. Not a sprint, but a marathon. Persistence, support, and firm love can make all the difference.

It is absolutely true that knowing one another, for example, getting to know a partner's preferences and tendencies, is essential prior to entering into a marriage union. Nonetheless, the idea of instantly leaving your partner because of some variations in interests or habits may sound too extreme. In contrast, mutual understanding and dialogue may assist in forming successful relationships.

Not surprisingly, saying that an addict is so much of a burden that they cannot be left at home and tolerated by others at all is an overstatement. It is true that addiction can put pressure on a relationship; however, this does not always mean that the person in the relationship has to leave their addicted partner. In making such decisions, there are many factors that should be considered, including support, treatment, and readiness to change.

The choice to depart from an addicted partner is likewise not right, using the term "bad person" to describe someone. Such a decision to leave a relationship with an addict is highly personal, very complicated, and two-sided and needs to be given thorough consideration by both parties involved.

The gambling is not the bad one,many people portraits in a bad way.We should update our skills in the gambling to avoid of losing the money in the gambling.The gamblers learn the skills by the game in the gambling with no money as a trail.So the trail will help the gamblers to get away from the loss.Most of the gamblers will do the trail game in the gambling because they have gap in the gambling game,So the play without the practice will leads to a loss.Instead play the game without the loss of money by the trail games in the gambling site.

The gambler who had huge experience will try to manage their game with the gap less gambling play.The reason is they will do the gambling as their regular activities.Many gamblers can make the money by using the strategy of every game.The gamblers should skip the betting with the random game betting,because the random game will always make the gamblers to loss their money.The gamblers who have enough money to play the initial game with the less budget can able to make money in the gambling site.The gamblers should not play the risk game all the time.Sometimes risk free bets also essentially important to avoid of full loss.

I hope that doesn't happen to me and I also don't want that to happen to me because in a household what we have to think about is the children.

I like gambling even though I'm not very active and I also do it secretly without my wife knowing, and I just play for fun on the weekends after five stressful working days. And that's just by spending a few dollars using money you can afford to lose. And that's if I have the urge to gamble, otherwise I won't.
And another reason, I also always spend time with my wife and children when I'm at home, so even though sometimes I feel guilty for hiding my gambling activities, I consider my gambling to be very normal and not excessive. And I am very aware of my gambling behavior, so if I wanted to stop I could easily do so.
And I also realize that many cases of gambling destroy their households and even lead to murder, and negative incidents regarding gambling will remind me that I have to play with full awareness so that it is easy to control it.

Well, as long as the addict is still living it is never too late to advise him as you have noted. Overcoming addiction is difficult but not impossible. Gamblers struggling with addiction often face innumerable challenges that go beyond financial implications. The compulsive need to gamble can lead to deceitful behaviour, lying about losses, and hiding the extent of their addiction from their family members. This dishonesty erodes trust and can lead to feelings of betrayal and resentment among loved ones.

An addicted gambler is always having economic problems since he gambles all the time which makes it easier to lose at every point in time. This is so disturbing since economic problems can put a significant strain on relationships and a breakdown of trust within the family and between partners as the gamblers may prioritize their addiction over their loved one’s well-being.

I am a guy and my partner do not gamble, so I think I will not be in the position you have described above. I will not also want to put my partner in that situation because I see gambling as something that should help me make progress in life and family and not something to destroy my relationship. This is the reason I have always supported having stable income before gambling and using only money not meant for other basic things for gambling. I understand the risk involved in gambling so I ensure I do not expose myself to risky so high that it will impact on my ability to meet my family and relationship demands. Maybe because of these steps I took, my partner have never complained about my gambling even though she already know everything about it.

Those experts are actually doing their job well because they know what exactly you need to do and they know how to approach you but there's something we can't deny those experts are mostly too costly and only a few places you can find to ask for professional advises which kinda hard for the others to look for it and ended up causing more troubles with their addictions because they don't know how to cure it once they get addicted and most likely they don't know what to do anymore and just simply return to do the same loop over and over again every day.

The economy clearly affects our lives as well as the way we spend every day, but here we must analyze clearly, when we win, our family shares joy and conversely, when we fail, our family also needs positive attitudes, addicts sometimes have good intentions for the family's future, so I don't understand why many family members would overreact when they discover this problem. Conflicts should not start with such things, winning and losing in gambling are not concepts that can be managed, simply rebuild and stop blaming, put feelings and relationships as a higher priority.

For people who are addicted I don't think advice is what's needed at that point rather such persons or people should be provided with help and not trying to advice them because they may not at that point heed to such an advice and it's will look like they are been disrespectful or not listening but the truth is that they at that point don't have control over their selves sometimes so they just need help either professional or probably from family or friends, such that will help them come out of such habit, there are measures with which we can take or suggest to these people and if they apply it relatively to the peculiarity of their case they may turn out better.

Advice isn't the solution even if it Also helps at times but professional help is usually the ultimate especially for those whose addiction is beyond the one who we will consider to be at the beginners stage. When they go to professional therapy they get to see them through processes that will help thsm quit gambling and become better persons.

Don't know how much it costs for a therapy session in your place or town, but I've confirmed from multiple sources that it's expensive. Yet, a relationship with the therapist also matters. It's risky paying a whooping amount and the addict continuously misses therapy. The healing process for an addict requires time and help from within before seeking a professional for help. The family of the gambler must be sure their ward is ready for therapy, if not, they should try to get him to calm down and think about receiving help. If he's not yet interested, there is nothing a therapist can do. Those professionals are limited to the cooperation of the addict. Hence, it's excellent for home therapy with a loved one to commence, first, before any other healing method.

This helps reduce expenses on the addict's family. Thereby, saving the ward, despite waiting for the right moment to visit a therapist. A family that's not buoyant enough can end up demoralized by the funds needed to visit a professional and end up not giving proper treatment to their ward. So, anybody can represent a therapist in such a case. What's needed is a relationship with the addict, a person who can talk to him and he'd listen. That's the core root of therapy, if this stage is not achieved, the whole point of therapy is a waste, whether with a professional or not. Every addict needs family support to heal.

My understanding is that the household or family is everything to me, that is my principle, of course I don't want the household to be damaged because of gambling, for us it is very insulting.
Thus, until now, I gamble and never know my wife/family, What's more, when it comes to money, I'd rather use other types of money rather than having to take out my basic money, for example salary, other income known to the family, that way I'm safe to gamble, win big or lose.

For this reason, we should have principles before gambling, if you gamble, you should take money that is known to your family, it's better not to gamble, gamble as you are, don't force the situation, Thus, if you lose at gambling, separating from your partner is clearly not a good idea, give him a chance to change, if the warnings are not good for your partner, then the decision will be made to divorce or stay.

In recent years it has been normal for marriages not to last long, this is because many wives get tired of their husbands' behavior and when they receive their salaries at the end of the month, they rush to spend all their money on alcohol, other women and gambling. . It may seem like fantasy stories, but they are real stories. There are people who, when they receive their salaries, go to the physical casino on the same day and play until they lose almost everything and the remaining money goes to sit in restaurants or nightclubs and consume alcohol and sleep with many women and then this person sleeps outside. from home and returns the next day when he lost all the money. It's been like this in many homes, women fight with their husbands to see if they change their behavior

but unfortunately they don't change their behavior and as a result the couple separates and the children are left with separate parents. These are sad situations that are increasing every day. In some countries because these kinds of sad things are on the rise, it has led governments to get tougher on gambling and to regulate and limit nightclub hours. but the problem is that the governments that do this do not also limit the supply of alcohol in the country, on the contrary the alcohol companies increase production and the governments are happy with this because this way the government will collect more tax and because also the guys in the government are partners in alcohol companies. they keep more profits

At the end of the day, it's up to people to take responsibility. be it gambling, alcohol, sex, they should not be abused. everything needs to be done in moderation, because addiction will destroy the person in every way. It will destroy the person physically, psychologically and destroy the relationship that the person has with other people and leave the person alone, few people have managed to cure themselves of the addiction and regained the love and attention of the people who were close to them. In most cases, the person is cured of the addiction but does not regain the friendships they had or the good relationship they had with their family.

it's not worth it to leave your partner just because he lost at gambling and spent all your savings. indeed, the mistake he made was quite fatal, namely that he gambled using savings which should not have been used for gambling. but try to look at the other side, how long was your marriage, what are the memories of the two of you, what will your children be like in the future, and there are many other things that need to be considered before deciding to divorce.

so forgiving him is much better than divorcing him because after all divorce will not solve the problem, in fact it will make the problem more complicated and worse. so it's better to solve the problem together and find a solution, there must be one.

It's easy to say to forgive and give a chance to change but I bet it will be different if it really happens.
Just imagining all my savings gone because of an irresponsible person who gambled everything. My first question will be: Why? Is the total income not enough to gamble it and try to double the money? You have savings, which means the income is enough, so why?
I won't be a hypocrite and I forgive the person who did it especially if it's your partner or your spouse. There will be a crack in the trust and I doubt it's going to be a healthy relationship when you continue it. Every time a financial problem pops out, that event where he/she gambled the money will float again and it's the start of an argument.
I don't see a relationship moving forward after that kind of mistake.

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Confidence in your abilities and empathy for beginners are key. People think gambling is for losers, but I argue its for victors who play their cards well.

Practice makes perfect. You warm up in the minors before entering the majors, right? Your trial games are great. Gamblers' apprenticeship. After mastering the game, you hit the jackpot. Not luck, but skill, planning, and flair.

Its not about betting on every game and hope for the best. Smart, planned play is what its about. The "gapless play" you describe is because skilled gamblers execute a strategy. They know when to wager, fold, risk, and play safe. Thats how to win in life and gaming. Always plan and know your game. Knowing you'll win makes it not gambling.

we all know how painful it is to lose everything to gambling and the fact that your partner made a very irrational choice and that is why it is always good to have a budget and not to pass it because you might endanger yourself and your family because some of your decision will affect them one way of the other. and leaving that partner won't help them the best thing is to get help for them because if you don't get help they might do worse. and everyone is open to mistakes so the best thing the wife can do is to get help for him. before he ends up selling the house all in the name of gambling and trying to win. separating is not even an option. devolve is not even a good option because it will affect the partners and also the children so it is better to talk things out than to divorce.

It didn't happen to me or my own family...

Often have heard how many cases where husbands spend more money on gambling until they don't have any money, the reaction as a wife acts where they want to ask for a divorce because of injustice to their family, then this is more trouble until it ends up being separated without apologizing.

That gambling often destroys a harmonious couple if you as a man do not maintain the balance of money spent on gambling, for gambling itself never put a lot of money quite a bit even 2% is enough, well sometimes human nature will not be satisfied with a little gambling allocation.

Self management and self discipline matters a lot for a man with his family, so that he can use his cash inflow properly by assigning only little amount of his monthly income on gamble. This is why as a family man, you need to put your family first before your own personal expenses to avoid problems.

Gambling should be done with caution to avoid overdoing it, so that it does not have side effect on you and your family, which will lead to divorce because of addiction. One should only use the amount of money that he can afford to lose, so that it will not affect him emotionally, to the extend of using all the money in the house for gambling because he is busy chasing his losses.

I agree with that, family is indeed an important thing in life, of course if we already have a family we must be able to prioritize family. when we have income, of course we have to be able to prioritize family and basic needs, and after that, only our own needs, such as wanting to buy what we want or gambling, many families divorce because of financial problems where the head of the family only prioritizes gambling, and that's Of course it is a problem, if we are married but always prioritize gambling then the destruction of the relationship will be at stake.
That's right, gambling should be done in moderation, not overdone. Balancing ourselves with our preferences is important, if we really like gambling then we must be able to balance our preferences with our needs, be able to differentiate between what is important and what is not so important. Don't let us gamble excessively, such as using large amounts of money just for gambling but don't think about our needs.

Initially, you need to think not about how much you can lose, but how much you can earn, this is a psychological moment that already shows the player where he needs to strive. Although I agree that most players will lose more than they win, and for such, of course, limits need to be set so that they do not lose more, than they can afford, so that this is within reason.

There are several things which could perturbate the harmony of a couple, there are several things besides gambling. It could be alcohol, abuse (physical or psychological), lack of honesty or even an affair.
Though, one should never underestimate the impact uncontrolled gambling can have on the integrity of a couple. There have been cases about couples separating over money management, that is true, and it would be up to them to face the actions of one of them gambling away money or to separate from each other indefinitely.

It is easy to assume smthose kinds of reckless actions can be forgiven, but it is not that easy, one needs to put oneself in the shoes of a woman who just discovered all their money being flushed away down the toilet. I would not blame anyone for separating because of it. It is very though.

Exactly, limits should be set. What I do is that I have some days that I gamble in the week, and d I also have time limits for my gambling activities. This enable me to manage my gamble losses, so that it will not affect my family. But if I gamble often, the odds of becoming an addict or using funds for the family to gamble will be high.

There is no need to gamble when you don't have extra funds to do that, because it will look as if you are not matured enough to start using funds for an important purpose to gamble, and start acting funny, without thinking about the next person.

Your question and your post give different vibes about what's happening here. If she lost winnings she made before and didn't use them or cash out yet, i would be technically ok with that. As i don't even count money that hasn't been cash out as nothing more then casino chips.

But problem is that we should have a seperate budget that would be good enough reason for me to say "it's not really even my business".

With joint budget she would knowingly leave out telling me that she won in the first place, so i probably wouldn't be mad for something i didn't know about. But if i found out, i don't think there would be enough trust between us that would hold the marriage together. Because why would she withold that kind of information? And what has happened in our lives when we have "nothing" left. What that even means? We don't have a roof over our head? Food, money or what?

This is how it has been going on for ages, especially when a man gambles and loses everything in gambling, it affects his wife and inhuman abuse descends on her. When a gambler becomes bankrupt, his wife is kept mentally disturbed by inhuman torture and pressure of dowry. All these recent incidents are a common and insignificant incident in our Bangladesh. Every now and then, hundreds of bad cases like divorce happen here only because of not being able to manage the dowry money. When a gambler puts pressure on his wife for dowry, there is family turmoil as well as emotional turmoil.

The main priority that needs to be considered is both sides. When I said both sides, I meant either you want to earn or you lose, because when you emphasise what you will earn, you will end up losing. Although we all know that you most likely believe that you will definitely lose. As a gambler, you have to be someone who always sees the future, which might be good or bad. That is just what will sustain you and not end up exceeding your budget. Because when you focus on the profit you earn, you will end up taking a risk that might result in your life, so mostly you should emphasise both factors, which is either you lose or gain. Just not to a someone that will end up regretting his actions after the game is over or whenyour money has finished.

I haven't been a victim of such circumstances (even as a woman)... You gotta brace up and adjust your spendings to be able to cope with the current adversity...

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Gambling and spending illicitly have been a major reason for several divorce cases... It's best for a man to control his habits as that would not only be problematic to him, but his family and reputation as well..."I've heard several stories way-back from the neighborhood" Their wives would openly complain of shouldering the family's responsibility because of the man's carelessness.

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I am trying as much as possible not to find myself in such condition or situation neither do I wish to see my wife in such condition where she will become a gambling addicts and bet away everything we have sort for in just a day or for gambling, though no hope is lost and if find ourselves in such condition I will have to jail her at least for like 6 months in prison then she will come to her normal senses since I believe addiction is involved and when she is at quiet place restricted from gambling I believe next she would not take such decision or even trying to dip her head into gambling again because she knew that we really work hard to have everything out there.

What if there is no bank account involved? Some people save money in cash and keep it either at home or somewhere in a safe where they feel they would be secure, and maybe the partner can access those funds without any approval from the other person and spend it all in a physical casino while thinking they might double the amount or at least win something on top of that. That can be disastrous and I'm sure there are stories such as this one out there.

However, as you said, it is foolish to follow this method of saving money and two partners should always have a joint account where they can both save a percentage of their earnings for their future and that account should only allow withdrawals if both parties agree on a withdrawal.

Too concentrated on winning, you miss the plummet beside you. Gambling is not dice and prayer. Knowing the game, what you're betting, and yourself is smart. Most gamblers get lost in the weeds, focusing on the immediate win rather than long-term preparation

This seeing the future? No one can. Calculated risks and quick adaptations. And the hope of winning against danger of losing dynamic? That's the basic. It's about viewing the glass as it is, not half empty. Those who assume they'll lose have already lost

Let's not overdo risking your life. Important distinction: money at stake. The true risk? Forgetting why you gamble. The rush, the puzzle, or just having fun? No matter how much money you have, the gamble ends when it's no fun. It's intended to be fun, so stay calm and move smartly

Very often it happens that gambling ends at the same time with money. If the gambler did not expect to lose the money he deposited, it is unlikely that he will experience some fun. On the contrary, rather he will sink into depression and will be angry.

The one who assumes that with a greater probability of losing is just more pessimistic about life and assesses their chances not relying on dreams, but relying on game theory and statistics.

We as players are always going to give priority to things as they are, if we are betting we know that money is at risk, we cannot always Expect to win, it is clear that we will always seek to win under any circumstance, but losing is also a very powerful power high, in fact the casinos have their own house advantage that guarantees that the casinos win, but not for the clients, one as a player has to learn to lose, if you bet a lot of money and you lost, well you lost, you have to accept that, If you win, what you should do is take advantage and withdraw the money , Enjoy that money and do everything possible to enjoy it.

When we lose in a casino we must have the maturity that it is something that normally happens and that we cannot worry about it, it is something common, but it depends on us if we want to put more money when we should not play, because we will be losing often and that must be done avoid it.

This has never happened in my small family. However, this is a warning in itself about how we can be more careful in carrying out gambling activities, and can manage these activities better and wiser than before. because if not, then the gambling activities that we often do will only have a negative impact on our financial situation, life balance and the relationships we are building. where quite a few people have had their finances destroyed and fallen into poverty, their balance in life has been disturbed and they are no longer productive either at work or in carrying out their daily activities, and quite a few people have also had their relationships run aground in the middle of the road and their families are in disarray just because of their bad behavior in gambling.

Therefore, it is quite important for these tips to be able to limit ourselves from gambling activities, so that the gambling we do does not cause significant losses and serious problems that can affect our financial situation, life balance and relationships. intertwine. Be a responsible gambler, not only to yourself but also to the people around you, especially your family.

My gambling habit is quite in check and I don't think I'd ever find myself in a position where I'm going to throw away everything I've so much worked hard for on gambling including my relationship/marriage. Honestly, I wouldn't want to do life with a woman that gambles because she's supposed to be the one warning me of spendings and not the other way round. So I don't know what I would do if my spouse lost everything we've got on gambling. I guess I wouldn't let it get to that point, the moment I find out she's addicted, I'd assist her in seeking for help.

If, for example, you can still control and manage your gambling activities well and in accordance with what common sense recommends, then yes, that is good and you have also said that you are not willing to spend everything you already have, such as money or sacrifice the harmony of family relationships. just for gambling, in fact, everyone definitely doesn't want to experience the bad effects of gambling, but they always put their seriousness and hope in something that has absolutely no certainty whatsoever in terms of results.

Yes, I think everyone will say the same thing as you said, namely that they definitely don't want to have a partner who is involved in gambling, especially if you are married because it is clear that the possibility of bad impacts will always lurk regardless of whether your partner is a responsible gambler or not. no, and clearly there is no other action. The best thing you have to do is find a way for your partner to get out of gambling before they end up regretting it.

I will applaud you for such discipline and hope that other gamblers emulate you. One of the reasons why most gamblers are involved in problem gambling is because of indiscipline. They find it so difficult to control how they gamble and so they gamble unnecessarily thus creating complications in their lives. It’s essential to recognize the potential risks associated with gambling and to have a proactive approach to managing it responsibly. By being aware of the signs of problematic gambling behaviour and setting boundaries, a gambler can continue without it negatively impacting his life or marriage as you noted.

It should be re-emphasized here that responsible gambling involves setting limits, being mindful of how much time and money is spent on gambling activities, and seeking help if you feel like it’s becoming a problem. Keeping open communication with loved ones about your gambling habits can also help maintain accountability and support in case you ever need assistance.