Losing at gambling

[Becassine]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

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[Oshosondy]

I am a man and if my wife do something like that, she is not the one that is taking care of the family financially. But I will not be happy about it and I will advice her to quit gambling because she is addicted.

For women that are depending on their husband, this can cause divorce and unwanted behavior from the wife. That is why it is good to gamble responsibly and not use your family to joke with gambling.

[Danydee]

I don't know.. I don't think divorce decision would depend on such issue ! 😳

[Kemarit]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Just because you lost in gambling does it mean that you are going to divorce your spouse. It's a shallow reason to be honest, and it didn't happen to me although I have a friend who did the walk of shame because he doesn't have any money left and then the next day he was crying on my shoulder. So I did help him by loaning money and didn't go as far as the wife divorcing him.

The wife reach out to me as well, but he thank me and nowhere did I see reason from her to divorce my friend. Not everyone is the same though. But if the spouse is on the right frame, I don't think that divorce will be in the discussions.

And so I voted for: I forgive him/her.

[Gozie51]

It is a natural feeling that nobody would want to lose his money and there is that sad feeling going with it. This could lead to transferred aggression on other people but it leads to more problem if it is the spouse that is involved.

There is two ways that this situation of losing is made worse in the family and one is that the man is angry that he didn't make profit while the woman also is going to be sad that the man has lost the money he was suppose to take care of the family with, so there is always pressure in the family when betting is lost.

I don't know.. I don't think divorce decision would depend on such issue ! 😳

It is possible to lead to divorce that a man prefers to gamble and makes more losses and his not able to take care of his family. If this is a repeated occurrence where the man is a serial loser making him to be financially impecunious, the woman can use that to run away from the man. You don't want to live where your man isn't responsible enough to take care of the family but prefer to gamble his luck on a bet.

[Distinctin]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Divorce might be easy in other countries, but in our country, it's not. We are taught that marriage binds two people together forever. So, if that were to happen, I think I would be able to forgive my wife. If she is truly sorry, she will change, and I will support her to recover and learn from that mistake.

In our family, I am the one who is more into gambling, and like typical gamblers, I have also experienced losing a lot of money, more than what I can afford to lose. However, it's never reached the level where I've lost all my savings because of gambling. My problem wasn't the worst, but my wife is there to understand me, so I would do the same for her.

[bitbollo]

I have a few doubts to clarify before I can answer..
what do we define in this case as "everything"?
all the assets owned including the home or just the amount of money that was intended for gambling?

I don't know, I would get a divorce but the first case is forgivable, if there Is a good track of winning maybe can also recover it. In the second case (Lost all) a scenario like this would put the entire wealth of a family at seroous risk

[Becassine]

I don't know.. I don't think divorce decision would depend on such issue ! 😳

You can get divorced for less... Inheritance stories are sometimes mind-boggling for example ...

[DubemIfedigbo001]

Shit happens in life and although some mistakes are really very costly, but stigmatization and neglect of the victim does more harm than good. I'll show my suppose more love and have her promise me not to repeat such foolishness. But its stupidity and irresponsible gambling to throw everything at the stakes, such a person is a serious irrational addict. In all things,  love conquers all shortcomings and we are not without fault.

Its really painful to witness such, especially if you've been giving a friendly advice all along and your spouse paid deaf ears to it. Its not easy to bear, but if love truly exists, you'll forgive and move on, supporting your spouse to be a better person and have more emotional control.

[Awaklara]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

I reached an agreement on the money that I can use to gamble with my partner every month. My effort is to not exceed the limits that I have agreed to. so our finances will not be disturbed.
I used to gamble uncontrollably, but that was before I had a partner. it was really bad for me at that time. and I don't want to repeat all that now and in the future.
regarding the partner's response, it is clear that it will be disappointing. but we never know the end. I just pray it never happens in my life.

[Becassine]

Divorce might be easy in other countries, but in our country, it's not.

Interesting, it's true that depending on the country you live in, the perspective can be totally different.

I have a few doubts to clarify before I can answer..
what do we define in this case as "everything"?
all the assets owned including the home or just the amount of money that was intended for gambling?

I don't know, I would get a divorce but the first case is forgivable, if there Is a good track of winning maybe can also recover it. In the second case (Lost all) a scenario like this would put the entire wealth of a family at seroous risk

It's true, I wasn't quite sure of the wording myself, which is why I added the savings. It's more liquid.

[Shamm]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Every one of us here didn't mean these things happen but in the world of gambling it is possible if you got addicted in gambling. it is possible that you got divorce with your love ones cause there's a chance that you don't have time for them you don't have want to bonding with your family cause all you think is gambling which is pretty bad.but you can't control yourself if you let gambling control you so you need to fight and be strong for yourself and for your family .

[Plaguedeath]

Remember, if you use money as the main reason you want to get married, believe me, you won't able to find the right person except you're married with the richest person in the world.

There are many factors that can cause someone become poor e.g. unrecoverable disease, bankrupt etc , although loss due gambling looks stupid, but the result is same.

Sometimes, you need to test your spouse whether he/she only wants your money or not.

[uneng]

but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

I would be really pissed off, angry, mad and betrayed by the closest person I had in life. It has never happened to me, and I hope it never happens, but inevitably we are under risk in this life, because we never know the true nature of other people with 100% assurance, even the one sleeping by your side. Anyway, I don't think it's the kind of thing which happen often.

To lost it all means to lost patrimony, funds at bank, vehicles, investments, which can't be lost all at once. It must be a progressive chain of events, which will trigger the attention of the husband or wife before the other person spends everything gambling. Moreover, if the person insanely tries to sell their belongings instantly, there are financial or banking managers who will spot something is going wrong there, and will call the husband or wife to tell them about the strange behavior of their partners before they commit any irreversible mistakes.

In every cases, I would never wish to be by the side of someone so unstable like that, ready to annihilate the progress which took an entire life to achieve in a matter of minutes in a gambling session. This kind of person is destructive and will make you ill in the end, just like him/her.

[mvdheuvel1983]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

The answer to the question is very simple a normal person isn't supposed to use all his life savings to gamble that's why they always say gamble responsibly. You will be happy and everyone around you will smile when you win big in gambling but do you expect them to be happy on hearing that you used everything you have to gamble no, I haven't seen or experienced that kind of situation and I won't accept that if anyone connected to me is found in that position to be very host.

[swogerino]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Luckily my spouse do not gamble and I am the only one who gamble in my family and I usually don't push it that far,even when things are going wrong.That would of course be a very bad situation to say the least when you lose it all and you have nothing left as reserve or savings.There is not much to react and in fact I am a person who always look on how to solve a problem rather than to react about it so in that case nothing left to do except to borrow money in the bank or if you have borrowed already,then the only solution is to ask some money from friends of family until you fix it and then to stop gambling definitely.

[bangjoe]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

I have no experience like that, that is something that I will avoid in my life, but I have a brother of my aunt's daughter, whose husband does that kind of thing, gambling and spending money from work and also to mortgaged land in -laws' land Alone to do gambling, isn't that very disappointing for most of my family especially. And in the end divorced, because gambling could not be treated, we had given the opportunity for my aunt's son -in -law but also not repented, and today it has been separated for a long time.

[avp2306]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Why divorce became an option for couple facing hardship in life? Instead cutting the relation maybe much better for both to talk about important things since for sure that certain realization in life including the mistake they have done will come and for sure they regret that decision to gamble. So for sure by extending our presence we can help our love ones suffering a problem on their gambling activity. Divorce is just a easy way to escape on problem. But if you love your partner for sure you will never think about this option and help him/her recover on bad situation he's facing on.

[Cantsay]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

There are a lot ways to settle this without clicking on the divorce button.

If you think money is the cause of divorce then take a look at those wealthy people who still file for divorce, do you think it’s because they no longer have money to cater for themselves anymore?

If it was me - the first thing I’d do would be to call for a family meeting, and then relates to those that will be present the issue at hand and they’ll be the one to give advise and also if necessary threaten my partner that if he should continue with his behavior he’d most likely not be able to keep me, divorce would definitely be brought up but not put into action immediately.

[mindrust]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

If you knew s/he was addicted to gambling before you started your relationship, then it means you accepted him/her like that. That means it shouldn't make a difference if s/he wins or loses. You will love that person anyway.

If I were that person and my wife lost money to a casino, It wouldn't make a difference to me. I wouldn't get upset at all. Since I was married to that person, I probably agreed to it because she wasn't a brain dead addict in the first place and that means she has common sense. She would realize her mistake and correct herself without needing my help probably after losing that money.