Do you blame the world for your problems?

[codishmumu]

Let me start off by telling you that we do not control what happens to us, but we do control how we react to it.

Example: Your spouse of nine years that you have a baby with is leaving you for a rich doctor who sexually satisfies them. You can:

A. Be emotional about it
B. Threaten the person to stay with you
C. Try to talk to them about what they want to change within the marriage and see if you both can compromise. If you cannot, simply walk away from the relationship and come to an agreement on 50/50 custody for your child.

You can pick any of those. What you choose to do is not the fault of your spouse cheating. The situation with people is that we work on second nature, so the very first action that pops into our heads is what we run with. Problem is, most people would stop time to think about what they're going to do if they had the option. We're constantly forced to think on our feet, and not with our heads. It's still quite possible to make better decisions. It's all about training yourself. It's hard, but it can be done.

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[TTMNewsMJ]

No.
Why I should need to blame the world???

[twister]

Let me start off by telling you that we do not control what happens to us, but we do control how we react to it.

Example: Your spouse of nine years that you have a baby with is leaving you for a rich doctor who sexually satisfies them.

I am going to disagree with the highlighted part, we do control to some extent what happens to us and if my wife is leaving me for a RICH Doctor then it's not at all about her sexual needs but it's that she was always a money-grubbing whore and now that I am not making enough money to pay for her luxuries she has found someone else who will.

And I will accept that it's my fault and I should have married the other girl who was a little less hot but had a good heart and therefore I will say, what happens to us is the result of what decisions we make.

[effigy2]

Let me start off by telling you that we do not control what happens to us, but we do control how we react to it.

Example: Your spouse of nine years that you have a baby with is leaving you for a rich doctor who sexually satisfies them.

I am going to disagree with the highlighted part, we do control to some extent what happens to us and if my wife is leaving me for a RICH Doctor then it's not at all about her sexual needs but it's that she was always a money-grubbing whore and now that I am not making enough money to pay for her luxuries she has found someone else who will.

And I will accept that it's my fault and I should have married the other girl who was a little less hot but had a good heart and therefore I will say, what happens to us is the result of what decisions we make.

If u both trully love each-other, there won't be the 3rd people at any point of marriage. Just it's getting harder and harder to do that as world is getting more and more materialistic :/

[minionsgelato]

... what happens to us is the result of what decisions we make.

agree with your nice words
nothing to blame, that all already happened
if he/she have been made to be our lover, he/she will back to us.. if not we can't make them to stay with us, they have their right to choice with whom they will live and getting old together
life must go on

[codishmumu]

Let me start off by telling you that we do not control what happens to us, but we do control how we react to it.

Example: Your spouse of nine years that you have a baby with is leaving you for a rich doctor who sexually satisfies them.

I am going to disagree with the highlighted part, we do control to some extent what happens to us and if my wife is leaving me for a RICH Doctor then it's not at all about her sexual needs but it's that she was always a money-grubbing whore and now that I am not making enough money to pay for her luxuries she has found someone else who will.

And I will accept that it's my fault and I should have married the other girl who was a little less hot but had a good heart and therefore I will say, what happens to us is the result of what decisions we make.

I've been called hot...

That doesn't mean I'm a money grubbing whore. Not all "hot" women are gold diggers. I use to be homeless, and I'd rather live in poverty with someone I want to make love to than sleep in a bed fit for a queen with a person that doesn't make me happy. Don't generalize. Marrying the wrong person could happen to anybody.

[twister]

I am not generalizing, I never said all hot women are evil, and likewise not all less-hot women are kind. I was only saying.. that we do control what happens to us to some extent by the choices we make. And if your wife truly loves you, she won't leave you for money, sex or anything else.

And we all make mistakes.. and if you wife does that to you then you have to forgive her.. and ask yourself.. "what did you do wrong?"

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[FanEagle]

I blame the world because it doesn't go like I would. And yes I'm trying my best to solve my problems.

[TTMNewsMJ]

I blame the world because it doesn't go like I would. And yes I'm trying my best to solve my problems.

Yes.
Just try and try until you solve your problems.