How to build confidence with girls ?

[phantastisch]

I am at uni and usually I am alright with girls but the ones at uni are ok but they can think a lot of themselves but the guys I hang around can just talk to them and hang around with them.

Girls are not much different then guys if you think about it... So just pretend your talking to a guy!!

In my case that would fail so bad.

Probably only a few times. Because it is a numbers game. I'm pretty confident in talking with people.... because i have talked to so many. Remember : strength in numbers.

[mprep]

I am at uni and usually I am alright with girls but the ones at uni are ok but they can think a lot of themselves but the guys I hang around can just talk to them and hang around with them.

Girls are not much different then guys if you think about it... So just pretend your talking to a guy!!

In my case that would fail so bad.

Probably only a few times. Because it is a numbers game. I'm pretty confident in talking with people.... because i have talked to so many. Remember : strength in numbers.

Not to hog the thread but I don't tend to be interested into many girls at a time. And by interested I don't mean the 'hey, lets spend the night together' scenarios so numbers isn't particularly good in my case.

[phantastisch]

I am at uni and usually I am alright with girls but the ones at uni are ok but they can think a lot of themselves but the guys I hang around can just talk to them and hang around with them.

Girls are not much different then guys if you think about it... So just pretend your talking to a guy!!

In my case that would fail so bad.

Probably only a few times. Because it is a numbers game. I'm pretty confident in talking with people.... because i have talked to so many. Remember : strength in numbers.

Not to hog the thread but I don't tend to be interested into many girls at a time. And by interested I don't mean the 'hey, lets spend the night together' scenarios so numbers isn't particularly good in my case.

Lol, from talking about getting confidence and a date to full blown don julio. Take it slow , talking to a girl is only the first step. You are probably Miles away from a spend the Night together with your current attitude.

[mprep]

I am at uni and usually I am alright with girls but the ones at uni are ok but they can think a lot of themselves but the guys I hang around can just talk to them and hang around with them.

Girls are not much different then guys if you think about it... So just pretend your talking to a guy!!

In my case that would fail so bad.

Probably only a few times. Because it is a numbers game. I'm pretty confident in talking with people.... because i have talked to so many. Remember : strength in numbers.

Not to hog the thread but I don't tend to be interested into many girls at a time. And by interested I don't mean the 'hey, lets spend the night together' scenarios so numbers isn't particularly good in my case.

Lol, from talking about getting confidence and a date to full blown don julio. Take it slow , talking to a girl is only the first step. You are probably Miles away from a spend the Night together with your current attitude.

No I'm just trying to clarify that that's not my final goal. You don't have to tell me how much I have left. Believe me, I know. I never have the courage to take the first step. I say to myself 'OK, lets do this' and after taking 2 more steps towards her I say 'Screw it. Not today.'

[cryto4rig]

#1 - Dont spend all day on bitcointalk.
#2 - Go outside and be around people.

[Lethn]

I don't know if any other guys here are the same, but I have this thing where I can talk to a girl absolutely fine even if she's a complete stranger but if the conversation goes towards flirting I completely fuck it up lol I've come to the conclusion that I'm just really sucky at initiating.

[cryto4rig]

Well, the best piece of advice is, just act natural as you would with a girl friend of yours, if you fuck up the conversation or flirt, so what, move on and find another girl, plenty of fish in the world, its not like your fuck up will be on national news... thinking about it that way, theres no reason to have any nerves.

[JusticeForYou]

In California, drive a Tesla.
In the mid-states, drive a F-150 Lariat.
In the North East, drive a Mercedes.
In Florida, drive a golf cart.

Oh, and pay for diner.

[FiatKiller]

In California, drive a Tesla.
In the mid-states, drive a F-150 Lariat.
In the North East, drive a Mercedes.
In Florida, drive a golf cart.

Oh, and pay for diner.

That'll be sure to get a woman with the right priorities.  lol

[Mike Christ]

I say to myself 'OK, lets do this' and after taking 2 more steps towards her I say 'Screw it. Not today.'

That's usually how I am, but I'm a total introvert so I'm like that with anyone I have or want to meet.  Lucky for me, women usually ask me out first, so I've never had an issue with making the first move.  Only problem is, the same types of women ask me out, whom I assume are extroverts, and considering I'd probably get along much better with another introvert, which I'll likely never meet as neither of us want to make the first move, I'm always stuck with chicks I really don't like being around for too long, which would explain why my relationships never last longer than a few months, tops.

But anyway, those types of girls are usually interested in just sex so I guess I'm supposed to think that's pretty rad, or at least that's what I'm told.

[FiatKiller]

That's just because they want you to draw them.
Have you considered working for a gaming company like Uibisoft?

[favdesu]

stalk them on twitter, and invite them to ice-cream (over twitter).

worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:

[mprep]

stalk them on twitter, and invite them to ice-cream (over twitter).

worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:

Thats probably the weirdest love story I ever heard so far.

[Mike Christ]

That's just because they want you to draw them.
Have you considered working for a gaming company like Uibisoft?

To pick up hot gaming industry chicks?  Duly noted and archived.

[FiatKiller]

No.... I was switching topics to landing an awesome gig.  :-p

[favdesu]

stalk them on twitter, and invite them to ice-cream (over twitter).

worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:

Thats probably the weirdest love story I ever heard so far.

No pain no gain

[Garfield]

Be yourself.  Changing for anyone is pointless and very short term.  If you do what you like and someone likes you for it, you have the basis for a long term relationship.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender.   Then you already have something in common to talk about.  but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!. 
You are awesome just the way you are, you just have to find one more person that sees that. I struggled with similar issues when I was younger, beating myself up emotionally for not being "popular", being a geek and not having the clique of people around me, but all it takes is 1 person, and you won't find them sitting in front of a monitor all day.

[Lethn]

Be yourself.  Changing for anyone is pointless and very short term.  If you do what you like and someone likes you for it, you have the basis for a long term relationship.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender.   Then you already have something in common to talk about.  but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.   

Gotta love these self-contradictory motivational speeches, you just said changing for anyone is pointless and then tell them to immediately do change themselves by being more social etc. some people just don't do well in the usual social settings, I know I don't

[PrintMule]

I am at uni and usually I am alright with girls but the ones at uni are ok but they can think a lot of themselves but the guys I hang around can just talk to them and hang around with them.

Girls are not much different then guys if you think about it... So just pretend your talking to a guy!!

That is the worst advice ever

[Garfield]

Be yourself.  Changing for anyone is pointless and very short term.  If you do what you like and someone likes you for it, you have the basis for a long term relationship.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender.   Then you already have something in common to talk about.  but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.   

Gotta love these self-contradictory motivational speeches, you just said changing for anyone is pointless and then tell them to immediately do change themselves by being more social etc. some people just don't do well in the usual social settings, I know I don't

READ, before attacking the comment!! 


Not self contradictory.   I said "Change for yourself", never change for a girl or for anyone else).  Obviously, your current habits/hobbies don't put you in a place conducive to meeting girls you like/want/care to be with.  So change THAT.
There may be a problem with your lifestyle in that you may not place yourself in enough situations to be able to find "the one" to be with.  What would you offer a girl?  Think about that.  Are you interesting?  Are you boring? Are you funny or really smart?   Everyone has some quality that makes them interesting to someone else.  Find yours and capitalize on it.