... What was your mistake exactly?
Im not sure if the fee is too low or not. Segwit transactions are supposed to go with lower fees. But since there is no GUI support yet, the fee is not calculated (I guess you used the command line).
Try -zapwalletttxes to get the money back into your wallet.
I used the GUI. My mistake was to check the option Pay only the required fee of XXXX and then the amount was like 580 satochis, I thought "this is a nice amount
per sat" but turns out this was the
total fee amount. So that was my mistake, I misunderstood the message.
I understand the command -zapwalletttxes is to remove all wallet transactions that are
not in the blockchain
I would like the optional RBF checkbox to be checked by default. That would be useful.
oh and FWIW I went on holidays 3 weeks and turned my node (where the wallet is) off the whole 3 weeks, I returned and still there unconfirmed in the mempool...
Im running my node on linux, I will try abandon transaction with broadcastwallet=0 and let you know the results.
thanks for the recommendations.