Shyness in gambling

[Fatanut]

Why do you feel shy? I think that is common because it’s what other people said here. It’s somewhat because of the fear of humiliation or not knowing anything about what you are doing. Being online makes it better.

I doubt that not knowing part.

Everyone is aware of gambling and if he isn't aware of what he does, he won't gamble in the first place. But the most common reason is they are shy of being known by their relatives as a gambler. Gambling has a bad image in the industry so if they knew it that one of their relative is gambling, they feel like he has a contagious disease.

First of, having a contagious disease is not a shame, anything can happen to anyone. Secondly, gambling addiction, or "compulsive gambling" as they call it, is an illness which should be treated accordingly, and relatives of an addicted gambler should try to find a good doctors for him/her rather than to be ashamed of.

I think by "not knowing" crwth meant the dangerous phase of the gambling addiction when gambler really doesn't know why he's gambling, acting like a zombie.

What's funny is that gambling isn't even contagious. A contagious disease is something that can be transmitted to another human by contact. I've never heard of a story where someone accidentally touched a gambler or drank in the same glass as the gambler and suddenly he became addicted to gambling. Initially, we all had a choice in addiction. You can live in a family where everyone does marijuana but you can be that someone who thought it was wrong and so never tried it.

After watching documentaries about addicts, drugs, gamblers, alcohol, and food addicts, it opened my eye. Those people are simply hurt. They are using their addiction as a way to momentarily escape life. But it's gotten to the point that what they had to cope to was so huge that they had to rely on these vices in order to carry on with life. Girls flirt with men and then leave them just so they can feel better about themselves. Men crash their wive's skulls just because they had a bad day at work. Now, why are we ashamed of the addicts, those who chose to harm no one but themselves?

In order to help someone, you have to understand them. That's why I never really judge people. There's always an explanation as to why they are like that. An addict is more than addict. They are humans who are hurting inside, just like us. They just have a different way of coping with it. Something not socially acceptable unfortunately, that is.

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[Betwrong]

Why do you feel shy? I think that is common because it’s what other people said here. It’s somewhat because of the fear of humiliation or not knowing anything about what you are doing. Being online makes it better.

I doubt that not knowing part.

Everyone is aware of gambling and if he isn't aware of what he does, he won't gamble in the first place. But the most common reason is they are shy of being known by their relatives as a gambler. Gambling has a bad image in the industry so if they knew it that one of their relative is gambling, they feel like he has a contagious disease.

First of, having a contagious disease is not a shame, anything can happen to anyone. Secondly, gambling addiction, or "compulsive gambling" as they call it, is an illness which should be treated accordingly, and relatives of an addicted gambler should try to find a good doctors for him/her rather than to be ashamed of.

I think by "not knowing" crwth meant the dangerous phase of the gambling addiction when gambler really doesn't know why he's gambling, acting like a zombie.

What's funny is that gambling isn't even contagious. A contagious disease is something that can be transmitted to another human by contact. I've never heard of a story where someone accidentally touched a gambler or drank in the same glass as the gambler and suddenly he became addicted to gambling. Initially, we all had a choice in addiction. You can live in a family where everyone does marijuana but you can be that someone who thought it was wrong and so never tried it.

After watching documentaries about addicts, drugs, gamblers, alcohol, and food addicts, it opened my eye. Those people are simply hurt. They are using their addiction as a way to momentarily escape life. But it's gotten to the point that what they had to cope to was so huge that they had to rely on these vices in order to carry on with life. Girls flirt with men and then leave them just so they can feel better about themselves. Men crash their wive's skulls just because they had a bad day at work. Now, why are we ashamed of the addicts, those who chose to harm no one but themselves?

In order to help someone, you have to understand them. That's why I never really judge people. There's always an explanation as to why they are like that. An addict is more than addict. They are humans who are hurting inside, just like us. They just have a different way of coping with it. Something not socially acceptable unfortunately, that is.

Very nicely put! I just want to add that to understand someone you should have the same experience. That's why the best therapists for drug addicts are former drug addicts. And the best therapists for people who have a post-war syndrome or any post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) are those who had been in similar situations in the past. As far as we are gamblers, and as far as some of us were addicted at some point, we can help the current addicts to overcome the addiction. I was addicted more than 2 years ago and it lasted not more than 3 weeks, but still I remember the condition and I remember how to withdraw yourself from it.

Just imagine if doctors were ashamed of sick people instead of helping them. That's not how it should be.

[Claudyah]

Have you ever felt that you didn't play just because you were shy? I have felt this in casinos, and I just felt the pressure, but there's no need to be because everyone just minds their own business in gambling. Probably some people even pushed you to start gambling. I just thought about this because when I tried gambling for the first time in casinos, I don't know if it's okay to sit in tables whether the game is blackjack, poker, anything in the casino just so that I just felt shy because I'm a newbie.

Have you felt this way? I don't know if playing online casinos would have that effect also. What do you think?

My experience of gambling for the first time I did not feel embarrassed, because before I started to gamble I saw and sought experience first so that I did not feel ashamed of what you said, so use self-confidence because it was very good to be at the table and it would beat nervousness and shame

[maydna]

Have you ever felt that you didn't play just because you were shy? I have felt this in casinos, and I just felt the pressure, but there's no need to be because everyone just minds their own business in gambling. Probably some people even pushed you to start gambling. I just thought about this because when I tried gambling for the first time in casinos, I don't know if it's okay to sit in tables whether the game is blackjack, poker, anything in the casino just so that I just felt shy because I'm a newbie.

Have you felt this way? I don't know if playing online casinos would have that effect also. What do you think?

My experience of gambling for the first time I did not feel embarrassed, because before I started to gamble I saw and sought experience first so that I did not feel ashamed of what you said, so use self-confidence because it was very good to be at the table and it would beat nervousness and shame

some people can do like what you did and the other feels shy in gambling places and for the first time, they only watching the games without join in one table. but I agree that we can use self-confidence to prevent shyness in gambling so we can try to play the game like other people. this is what happens if we are playing gambling in the casino because we are meet many people which we don't know.

[Fatanut]

What's funny is that gambling isn't even contagious. A contagious disease is something that can be transmitted to another human by contact. I've never heard of a story where someone accidentally touched a gambler or drank in the same glass as the gambler and suddenly he became addicted to gambling. Initially, we all had a choice in addiction. You can live in a family where everyone does marijuana but you can be that someone who thought it was wrong and so never tried it.

After watching documentaries about addicts, drugs, gamblers, alcohol, and food addicts, it opened my eye. Those people are simply hurt. They are using their addiction as a way to momentarily escape life. But it's gotten to the point that what they had to cope to was so huge that they had to rely on these vices in order to carry on with life. Girls flirt with men and then leave them just so they can feel better about themselves. Men crash their wive's skulls just because they had a bad day at work. Now, why are we ashamed of the addicts, those who chose to harm no one but themselves?

In order to help someone, you have to understand them. That's why I never really judge people. There's always an explanation as to why they are like that. An addict is more than addict. They are humans who are hurting inside, just like us. They just have a different way of coping with it. Something not socially acceptable unfortunately, that is.

Very nicely put! I just want to add that to understand someone you should have the same experience. That's why the best therapists for drug addicts are former drug addicts. And the best therapists for people who have a post-war syndrome or any post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) are those who had been in similar situations in the past. As far as we are gamblers, and as far as some of us were addicted at some point, we can help the current addicts to overcome the addiction. I was addicted more than 2 years ago and it lasted not more than 3 weeks, but still I remember the condition and I remember how to withdraw yourself from it.

Just imagine if doctors were ashamed of sick people instead of helping them. That's not how it should be.

It's good to think that those who have PTSD and those who were once an addict are those that are helping those needs help. It's nice to think that the people in the medical field are the ones who once needed the help, was helped by someone, and now they are devoting their lives to helping other people.

Those who have been in a similar situation in the past as the patient, they are the ones who can truly empathize. It's also more believable to them. To the patient, it's like finding a person who's in the same specie as him. And he can think to himself, "if he was able to survive that, and so can I."

Sadly there are those who work in the medical field that are there for the money. Some are there because they are a family of doctors and he was basically forced to follow his parents' steps.

some people can do like what you did and the other feels shy in gambling places and for the first time, they only watching the games without join in one table. but I agree that we can use self-confidence to prevent shyness in gambling so we can try to play the game like other people. this is what happens if we are playing gambling in the casino because we are meet many people which we don't know.

But why does shyness have to be addressed by meeting people in a gambling casino? There are tons of ways to overcome it and if you overcome shyness in a casino, then perhaps you're putting yourself in a box. You might end up being not shy in a casino but very shy in a different social situation. This might raise a question to yourself, "Have I really overcome shyness or have I just become confident inside the casino as I'm now familiar with the people?"

There are things you can do like challenging yourself to talk to 3 strangers a day or maybe get yourself one friend at a time.

[sunsilk]

I would not consider myself to be shy, but I prefer playing on my own and online.  It could be because the closest live casino to me is a bit of a drive.  I do enjoy poker home games.  Find your own niche and enjoy your gambling!  Its supposed to be a pleasure, not to make a living from.

Can't disagree on that. Some gamblers tend to love and find their comfort that way, they aren't shy but they have their own playstyle. I'm also enjoy gambling at home and there's no pressure from peers or the crowd that watches you while you gamble.

There's no need to be shy of if you are a gambler but if you are doing such things that are causing others a ruckus because of your addiction, then you have to be shy of it. A challenge comes to the gambler when he feels shy and that makes him stop to gamble in a casino.

Technology's helping the shy gamblers as well. 

[fasdorcas]

I would not consider myself to be shy, but I prefer playing on my own and online.  It could be because the closest live casino to me is a bit of a drive.  I do enjoy poker home games.  Find your own niche and enjoy your gambling!  Its supposed to be a pleasure, not to make a living from.

Smart move mate! Smart move!! If a lot of people can think this way, I am sure we would be able to have more of sane gamblers than insane gamblers as time goes on. What a lot of people are looking forward to from gambling these days is to be able to make substantial income from it, which is something that is never going to be possible.

However, for those who see it as just a way to while away time and have some little fun, it should not be a problem, and I really do not see any reason why anyone should be shy when it comes to gambling.

[Husecomang]

I would not consider myself to be shy, but I prefer playing on my own and online.  It could be because the closest live casino to me is a bit of a drive.  I do enjoy poker home games.  Find your own niche and enjoy your gambling!  Its supposed to be a pleasure, not to make a living from.

That is right, try to enjoy your gambling activities and not always focus on earning great money since it will not ensure any good amount of money for you, that will still depend on your luck. I don't look at gambling as a source of income but as a leisure, an activity that I can do whenever I have a free time. I also hope that I can win huge money but I don't think I would be able to do that since I am just using a free faucet Satoshis.

For those who enjoy the activities, they always tend to be able to control themselves better than those who are simply so focused about what they should be making as a huge win at the end of the day.

Some due to their personalities though may be a bit shy when associating with crowd which is something you would see in a casino and cannot hide from, but all in all, I really do not see reasons why someone should be shy as a result of fear of humiliation like some people mentioned.

[Symphonized]

I would not consider myself to be shy, but I prefer playing on my own and online.  It could be because the closest live casino to me is a bit of a drive.  I do enjoy poker home games.  Find your own niche and enjoy your gambling!  Its supposed to be a pleasure, not to make a living from.

That is right, try to enjoy your gambling activities and not always focus on earning great money since it will not ensure any good amount of money for you, that will still depend on your luck. I don't look at gambling as a source of income but as a leisure, an activity that I can do whenever I have a free time. I also hope that I can win huge money but I don't think I would be able to do that since I am just using a free faucet Satoshis.

Sure consider it for fun at least but keep it focused on. You dont want to lose concetration on some specific rolls.

Just take your paste and follow throw it you will eventually win with it.

[onrise]

I would not consider myself to be shy, but I prefer playing on my own and online.  It could be because the closest live casino to me is a bit of a drive.  I do enjoy poker home games.  Find your own niche and enjoy your gambling!  Its supposed to be a pleasure, not to make a living from.

That is right, try to enjoy your gambling activities and not always focus on earning great money since it will not ensure any good amount of money for you, that will still depend on your luck. I don't look at gambling as a source of income but as a leisure, an activity that I can do whenever I have a free time. I also hope that I can win huge money but I don't think I would be able to do that since I am just using a free faucet Satoshis.

Sure consider it for fun at least but keep it focused on. You dont want to lose concetration on some specific rolls.

Just take your paste and follow throw it you will eventually win with it.

If you keep playing just to win it will never happen and all those who want to make money and that is why they are playing will end up losing a lot of money . So it is better that if you lose you just quit the gambling for the day or enjoy the game without taking much tension of losing.

[crwth]

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If you keep playing just to win it will never happen and all those who want to make money and that is why they are playing will end up losing a lot of money . So it is better that if you lose you just quit the gambling for the day or enjoy the game without taking much tension of losing.

I think that’s the general rule with regards to gambling because if you continue and gamble more, the higher the chance you lose more money just because of the chance and the house advantage towards the player. I agree that you should just take a break like a day after either losing or winning.

[MMysterious]

Being is shy in gambling cause of lack of confidence that you will win. Gambling is taking risk to win big so you need to have confidence in what you are doing. You cant predict that you will win in casino but you can make high probability to win in your favor by being confident in your gambling skills. When you are going to gamble you should left your shyness in your home.

[Fatanut]

Being is shy in gambling cause of lack of confidence that you will win. Gambling is taking risk to win big so you need to have confidence in what you are doing. You cant predict that you will win in casino but you can make high probability to win in your favor by being confident in your gambling skills. When you are going to gamble you should left your shyness in your home.

And how is there a relation to each other? I can be very confident in my bets but I don't see gambling sites changing the odds to a different number. I don't see an increase in my winnings as well. Why is that? It's because they have no relation. The shiest gambler has the same chances of winning as the most confident ones.

But maybe you are talking about a game like poker where how you appear to your opponents actually do matter. You can bluff in poker and be able to make it seem like you're holding a good pair of cards because of your confidence but superficial confidence can only take you so far. Eventually, your confident act will be noticed by your opponents and they will know that you're using such act to cover up the fact that you aren't holding good cards and nor your are a good gambler. Confidence should come from a place of mastery before it can have any use at all. I personally would rather be shy but know my thing than be confident and don't have an idea of what's going on. You will just end up appearing as dumb to people and to yourself, if you're not blinded by the fake confidence that you put on.

Overall, shyness shouldn't really affect your bets as gambling is only about numbers and luck, who you are has nothing to do with it.

[boyptc]

Being is shy in gambling cause of lack of confidence that you will win. Gambling is taking risk to win big so you need to have confidence in what you are doing. You cant predict that you will win in casino but you can make high probability to win in your favor by being confident in your gambling skills. When you are going to gamble you should left your shyness in your home.

That's not only about having lack of confidence but there's also some effects that you don't want to see which is negative.

You can predict but there's no way to be sure of it. Confidence isn't the only thing that you should take into consideration for the gamblers, some have deep reasons why they are shy but not related to confidence.

[Wete]

Shame and insecurity when we first go to the casino is a natural thing. We must be able to cover up the shame by staying calm in playing, and don't risk your money too much, because it's very risky. Gradually you will definitely be the best gambler. Hopefully luck always sided with you.
 

[crwth]

Shame and insecurity when we first go to the casino is a natural thing. We must be able to cover up the shame by staying calm in playing, and don't risk your money too much, because it's very risky. Gradually you will definitely be the best gambler. Hopefully luck always sided with you.
 

The problem, in my opinion, is not knowing what to do with the game. Since it is your first time, how could you do it well? You might get embarrassed or something. It's one thing to study the game before playing, but it's different once you are there already. If you have already tried a little online gambling, then that would be great. Applying what you have learned. No one can be the best gambler unless you are a well with financial budgeting and most importantly, not greedy.