Marriage vs. Divorce

[PlasticIcescapades]

Marriage and divorce. Both will seem like good ideas at the time. Both will end up disappointing you.

[franz2]

Marriage is a sacred union between man and woman who are deeply in love with each other. But what if you come to a point that you are no longer happy with your marriage, or you feel that your love gets weaker after several years due to infidelity of your partner, or being irresponsible of his/her obligations? Would you file for a divorce or will you hold on to your marriage not because you love your partner but because it's your commitment? Just wanted to know your opinion. Thank you!

First of all, marriage is not like a food that you will eat and if it is too hot that you can just spit right away. But if your marriage comes to a point that your partner is no longer happy with your marriage and started doing things like infidelity, or you're starting to hit each other or starting to neglect all the responsibilities that are assigned to him/her, in my opinion, that's the time to call it quits and file a divorce, not to mention if you already have kids, and they are seeing all the things that are happening around them, it is not good for them. This is my opinion and I am also looking forward to knowing what you think. 

[mdhedayetullah27t]

There are many incidents involving the separation of marriage, which is nothing new to say, marriage is a combination of men and women, giving some people the validity of having two men together. Marriage is a marriage, a marital life, a way of life, many people think that they have no marriage, they do not want to live with each other, they want to be separated, the separation is the separation of marriage.

[ciro1]

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Sometimes loving your partner is not enough to pull the marriage through till the end, try talking to your partner, look at how you got to that low point and try to fix things back, but if everything fails then find peace elsewhere. Marriage vows says "until death" but you're not gonna want to just sit there and wish to die quicker so you can get out of the marriage.

[Sithara007]

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Sometimes loving your partner is not enough to pull the marriage through till the end, try talking to your partner, look at how you got to that low point and try to fix things back, but if everything fails then find peace elsewhere. Marriage vows says "until death" but you're not gonna want to just sit there and wish to die quicker so you can get out of the marriage.

Obviously marriage is a lifetime commitment. But at the same time, there is no point in staying together if the couple feel that they are not compatible to each other. Going through a lengthy legal battle will only deepen the wounds and worsen the financial situation for both the parties.

[Babylon]

Marriage is a sacred union between man and woman who are deeply in love with each other. But what if you come to a point that you are no longer happy with your marriage, or you feel that your love gets weaker after several years due to infidelity of your partner, or being irresponsible of his/her obligations? Would you file for a divorce or will you hold on to your marriage not because you love your partner but because it's your commitment? Just wanted to know your opinion. Thank you!

For my opinion i rather stay though , its not just by commitment , its a promises you both made in the front of God , for sickness and health , and etc... its like a fire though , days by days and years by years the fire will decrease or should i say it can gone , but its a choice , both of you have a choice , do anything to spark it up.

[vina.lugtu]

Marriage is a sacred union between man and woman who are deeply in love with each other. But what if you come to a point that you are no longer happy with your marriage, or you feel that your love gets weaker after several years due to infidelity of your partner, or being irresponsible of his/her obligations? Would you file for a divorce or will you hold on to your marriage not because you love your partner but because it's your commitment? Just wanted to know your opinion. Thank you!

If the marriage is not working for both parties, I think it is a wise decision to file for a divorce. There are times that it will not just work for us no matter how hard we try. I still believe that if love is there, it can overcome any problem in a relationship. If a relationship is not working, maybe both parties lack effort. Just loving your partner is not enough in a relationship. It requires passion, commitment and a huge amount of effort to make your lives better.

[Moana]

I wonder why people do great marriage parties instead of doing fabulous divorce parties. Marriage is never as necessary as Divorce is, when divorce is necessary.

[yinyangwinwang]

First I would snap get a divorce because what is the point of being unhappy that is the dumbest thing anybody could do. Second I hope you had a pre-nup because if you didn't your ass is getting taken most likely in court. I also hope you didn't have a kid with this women because more likely than not, you will lose access to them to (for no good reason). If I were ever to get a marriage it would involve a pre-nup and I would maybe get a post-nup.

[h31s3nb3rg]

Marriage is a sacred union between man and woman who are deeply in love with each other. But what if you come to a point that you are no longer happy with your marriage, or you feel that your love gets weaker after several years due to infidelity of your partner, or being irresponsible of his/her obligations? Would you file for a divorce or will you hold on to your marriage not because you love your partner but because it's your commitment? Just wanted to know your opinion. Thank you!

I know to some people happiness is what matters the most when it comes to marriage. However, if I were in such position, I would definitely consider fixing it or even consult a marriage counselor to save our marriage. Most of the times, a rocky marriage is due to a misunderstanding. We think that it's just our partners choice to cheat on us and be irresponsible, but we missed and forgot that we could also be the reason for their infidelity. It could definitely go back to the way it was if we learn how to open up to one another.

[giantcrypto]

Marriage truly is a sacred union. It is known in catholic church as a sacrament of holy matrimony. It is expected that before a man and a woman should come together as husband and wife, love, understanding, interest, tolerance, endurance and every other features that unites relationship and marriage are in existence between both of them. However, if along the line, these features that brings happiness and joy in marriage are lost, the marriage remains boring to both parties. As for me, when it matters on infidelity, my confidence and trust on my partner is no longer assured, then it becomes dangerous to cohabit. At this point if steps are not retraced back, divorce become the next option.

[Balorck]

I think that in this case it is necessary to address to the family psychologist. I like the opinion of a friend of mine who thinks marriage is unnecessary. A man starts a family only for the continuation of the genus. You only need a wife to have a baby with you. But otherwise the man doesn't have to deny yourself the pleasure to have sex with others. This is a departure to the primitive system, if it were now, the problems would be less.

[GideonGono]

Marriage is a sacred union between man and woman who are deeply in love with each other. But what if you come to a point that you are no longer happy with your marriage, or you feel that your love gets weaker after several years due to infidelity of your partner, or being irresponsible of his/her obligations? Would you file for a divorce or will you hold on to your marriage not because you love your partner but because it's your commitment? Just wanted to know your opinion. Thank you!

If I will be on that situation , I will still love her no matter what happen , I will never file a divorce , like you said on the first paragraph a man and woman who are deeply in love with each other , even the time come will there is no fire anymore.

The memories will serve as a fuel and little by little it will burn and suddenly the fire will become big again.

On the other hand , although we have the same perspective still we have a choice , but remember that you comit it , its your responisiblity.

[sathi7890]

Marriage truly is a sacred union. The two families get married through discussions. Who does not want happy bridal life? But that happiness does not match everyone's life. The life of many couples became poisoned on minor issues. Very unexpectedly, there were many different events happening one after another. The result of which is the divorce separation. The usual type of evidence that occurs before the wedding break is:
The quarrel between husband and wife lies in the quarrel.
Because of understanding is not right of between.
Love and tolerance are not right between husband and wife.

[rainmaximo]

In my opinion, Marriage for me is sacred a union between a man and a woman. According to the Bible," what God has put together , No man can put them apart" So my stand will be Pro marriage. I think before a person gets married he or she should think seventy seven times because I believe  that  "marriage is not a play thing or it is a serious matter that you can't back out easily.  So if you truly love someone and if you get married see to it that you prove your love till the end. Be serious about it. If can't last your marriage a lifetime don't commit your self , don't get into a situation that you can't make it till the end. Your Yes should be Yes and promises should not be made to be broken. So before getting married think more than twice and be firm to your decision no matter what.

[paulwallyall]

Maybe it's cause my parents are divorced and both seem really happy, but I don't think you should stay married to someone who makes you miserable. There are marriages that suck just as a result of bad fit, nothing more, and those are the ones that should probably not continue anymore.

[Croco1234]

Marriage is a sacred union between man and woman who are deeply in love with each other. But what if you come to a point that you are no longer happy with your marriage, or you feel that your love gets weaker after several years due to infidelity of your partner, or being irresponsible of his/her obligations? Would you file for a divorce or will you hold on to your marriage not because you love your partner but because it's your commitment? Just wanted to know your opinion. Thank you!

I believe that there is no perfect marriage, no perfect couple. which marriage has a sacred promise of both couple that for better or for worse for richer and for poorer til death they were part. both of them should adjust and accept their weaknesses. after all, before they get married, first the boy courted the girl without knowing all of that person. so if you accept all the changes of your married life, one should adjust and give their best to make that marriage life works.

[Sithara007]

I believe that there is no perfect marriage, no perfect couple. which marriage has a sacred promise of both couple that for better or for worse for richer and for poorer til death they were part. both of them should adjust and accept their weaknesses. after all, before they get married, first the boy courted the girl without knowing all of that person. so if you accept all the changes of your married life, one should adjust and give their best to make that marriage life works.

Your statement doesn't make any sense. If a couple is not capable of living in peace, then they should separate. Else, it will only give rise to more and more troubles. But the most important thing to remember here is that they should think about it a hundred times before taking the decision to break-off.

[maksimukr1989]

If there is no more love in the relationship it's just stupid to stay together.

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That's a fair point, but with that mindset - marriage is not for you. Why would you get married and pledge your life-long commitment ("for good and bad... until death do us part") if all you really mean is "until I'm 100% satisfied".

The idea behind marriage is (was?) to start a family. The person you married becomes your closest family, and you don't abandon/replace your family even when things get rough, you work it through. Can you imagine anyone abandoning their child or mother because 'things weren't very great between us lately'?

But sadly, that only worked when divorces were rare and socially unacceptable. You simply had no other way but to make things work and fix your relationship. Currently, when things go bad, the first thought is "am I better off alone?" or "would I be happier with someone else?".

Relationship dynamics are a motherfucker. With loose social/religious norms it's hard to pull off a lifelong relationships, unless both parties got it figured out and know exactly what they want. That's why marriage rates are higher (and divorce rates lower) in the upper class, when people tend to be more intelligent.

In short: Don't get married if you're not ready to commit 100%.

you wrote everything right.I want to add.before you get married you need to evaluate objectively your second half. as she behaves in difficult situations as she prepares and most importantly, is there really LOVE?Love that you can't fake.which is in the heart.

[hualangktsld841]

I think marriage is the constant understanding of each other in life and love, which requires mutual tolerance and spiritual communication. If it is because of the fissures caused by infidelity or irresponsibility, it is difficult to repair perhaps divorce is a good choice, but many of these are due to the lack of mutual concern and communication between the two sides, and I think marriage is like a business that needs to be managed well.