Importance of not envying others

[CristianOff]

By nature we tend to envy those people who have what we need.
The envy is good only if constructive (aka for you to realize that
you don't have what you need so you have to take action and
change your life), but most people will use it against themselves.

Let's have an example, you see a yellow Lamborghini Urus
parking. Most people will criticize the owner, saying that the
Urus is not a good choice because is ugly, or,
most people will jump to conclusion saying that the owner
has only got that Lamborghini because he either inherited money,
won lottery or, scams other people. What most people don't do is
appreciating and recognising that other people have a better life,
that other people have made it with their own power.
The successful people have the 'energy of success' and by envying
you deny it. The guy has everything you want and you deny having
it because you envy.

Start appreciating the small things, stop criticising, stop envying and
then you will have what you want. It doesn't happen overnight.

The reason I am sharing this is because since I started applying this
concept in my life, everything goes my way. Every obstacle or barrier
that I had, I could easily bypass it. Hope this will enable others to
become successful person. If you want to add something, or share anything
let us know in this thread 

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[puffy smoke]

To envy someone is not a bad thing in of itself. It can become a powerful drive in your life that can propel you to the upper echelons if you are able to harness the desire to have what others have and apply your efforts to emulate their efforts. As long as the person you envy isn't doing anything illegal, you can learn allot by studying what they have done and doing the same. You CAN envy someone's good fortune while at the same time NOT begrudge them for it. If everyone used the stories that of how people came about their good fortune we could all learn a lot as well. As a bonus, retelling some of those stories can also be a source of entertainment.

[Hematoma]

I think the picture is a little bigger. A lot of this has to do with internal feelings about external stimuli.

I recently heard about a study in which found people who had perceived social support, regardless of the size of their social group, were happier.
A similar study looked at wealth and income. Folks who felt they had enough income to take care of themselves were much happier, regardless of how much money they actually made.
All this to say, feelings of envy, desire, jealousy, insecurity, usually are a result of how you perceive the world around you, not necessarily the actual things in your life.

[CristianOff]

I think the picture is a little bigger. A lot of this has to do with internal feelings about external stimuli.

I recently heard about a study in which found people who had perceived social support, regardless of the size of their social group, were happier.
A similar study looked at wealth and income. Folks who felt they had enough income to take care of themselves were much happier, regardless of how much money they actually made.
All this to say, feelings of envy, desire, jealousy, insecurity, usually are a result of how you perceive the world around you, not necessarily the actual things in your life.

I don't get the part with internal feelings and external stimuli. Don't
you connect your feelings with the external world? Maybe I am
misunderstanding.

Regarding the part in bold, that's exactly what I mean. When you are a 'big guy',
small things for you could mean big things for others, so everything must be appreciated
in equity

[CristianOff]

To envy someone is not a bad thing in of itself. It can become a powerful drive in your life that can propel you to the upper echelons if you are able to harness the desire to have what others have and apply your efforts to emulate their efforts. As long as the person you envy isn't doing anything illegal, you can learn allot by studying what they have done and doing the same. You CAN envy someone's good fortune while at the same time NOT begrudge them for it. If everyone used the stories that of how people came about their good fortune we could all learn a lot as well. As a bonus, retelling some of those stories can also be a source of entertainment.

I perfectly agree. The part with begrudging sounds to what I meant to say! Thanks for teaching me this term dear user

[puffy smoke]

Glad to have been of service CristianOff

[Goldleader]

Don't need envy . Work for it

[BTT4ME]

We are all human so I don't blame everyone when we feel "envy". But the question is, does it do good for us? Will it help us feel happy? These are some of the questions I asked myself if I'm starting to feel envious to a person.

[JustMyFewCents]

You will have a peaceful life.

[shakerbitcoin]

Will save you from the 10 commandments.

[evvga]

Envy is formed in childhood and remains for life. Envious people are unhappy. We need parents to think about it.

[wealthnook]

Thanks for sharing this. Being envious will only make people not contented with what they have thus making them unhappy in life.

[cHacHi907]

Envy is for people who always looks on others achievements rather than appreciating and seeing owns blessings. We are blessed in different ways, be contented with what you have.

[Llaux]

Since I'm a human sometimes I feel envy in my heart but when I do I notice it and mold that feeling to inspire me rather than keeping me in that toxic state. There are people to look up to and I let them fuel my own development.

[WeiWangg]

I would recommend everyone this article.
From it we can learn that envy is good as long as you focus on yourself


My favourite part:

If you find yourself sitting around too much and not having enough to do then it’s very easy to feel stuck and to get stuck in thought loops and go into a downward spiral.

[Lintormi]

I fully agree with the author of the post. Most people think that way. Sometimes it is a shame that people think so. Most of these are people who have not achieved anything.

[belford11]

Envy is a very bad thing, I would say - one of the deadly sins, when a person is jealous, he sinks to the bottom, because this is a kind of humiliation. Is someone to blame him? Not! In fact, he is angry at himself, because he has not achieved the same as others.

[Karamabit_209]

By nature we tend to envy those people who have what we need.
The envy is good only if constructive (aka for you to realize that
you don't have what you need so you have to take action and
change your life), but most people will use it against themselves.

Let's have an example, you see a yellow Lamborghini Urus
parking. Most people will criticize the owner, saying that the
Urus is not a good choice because is ugly, or,
most people will jump to conclusion saying that the owner
has only got that Lamborghini because he either inherited money,
won lottery or, scams other people. What most people don't do is
appreciating and recognising that other people have a better life,
that other people have made it with their own power.
The successful people have the 'energy of success' and by envying
you deny it. The guy has everything you want and you deny having
it because you envy.

Start appreciating the small things, stop criticising, stop envying and
then you will have what you want. It doesn't happen overnight.

The reason I am sharing this is because since I started applying this
concept in my life, everything goes my way. Every obstacle or barrier
that I had, I could easily bypass it. Hope this will enable others to
become successful person. If you want to add something, or share anything
let us know in this thread 

I think envying others is not a bad thing when it takes by the person not too much. It is because sometimes, envy can make you thrive more for you to reached the person you have envy with or to even surpassed him or her. Just don't take it to much and make it as a motivation for you to become a better person.

[Kamoteng Kahoy]

By nature we tend to envy those people who have what we need.
The envy is good only if constructive (aka for you to realize that
you don't have what you need so you have to take action and
change your life), but most people will use it against themselves.

Let's have an example, you see a yellow Lamborghini Urus
parking. Most people will criticize the owner, saying that the
Urus is not a good choice because is ugly, or,
most people will jump to conclusion saying that the owner
has only got that Lamborghini because he either inherited money,
won lottery or, scams other people. What most people don't do is
appreciating and recognising that other people have a better life,
that other people have made it with their own power.
The successful people have the 'energy of success' and by envying
you deny it. The guy has everything you want and you deny having
it because you envy.

Start appreciating the small things, stop criticising, stop envying and
then you will have what you want. It doesn't happen overnight.

The reason I am sharing this is because since I started applying this
concept in my life, everything goes my way. Every obstacle or barrier
that I had, I could easily bypass it. Hope this will enable others to
become successful person. If you want to add something, or share anything
let us know in this thread 

I think envying others is not a bad thing when it takes by the person not too much. It is because sometimes, envy can make you thrive more for you to reached the person you have envy with or to even surpassed him or her. Just don't take it to much and make it as a motivation for you to become a better person.

Is that so?  I can't apply it to myself. I always pity myself when I get envy to other people because instead of to betterment of my life, it makes me look down to myself.

[amaraportia]

Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self-worth.  Each of us has something to give that no one else has.     
-Elizabeth O'Connor