Time Wasting at Funerals: Why?

[Chato1977]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Thats not Heck,instead you are the Heck of us,why do you care about others belief ?respect ours and we will respect you STUPID one.

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[Mpamaegbu]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Thats not Heck,instead you are the Heck of us,why do you care about others belief ?respect ours and we will respect you STUPID one.

Hey, mind your language and stop addressing people rudely. The OP is meant as a question and was never addressed to anyone in particular. No insults. But if that's what you do or it's your belief system you might explain your view in simple and CORRECT English and not hurl insults here. This is a sane community. Otherwise you won't go far.

[lienfaye]

Well we have different belief and traditions. It might be a waste of time because it cant change anything. But for some people having a funeral for their loved ones is a way to remember their time spent here and for the family to send their final goodbyes.

[zackchyi]

I don't think.
This is a traditional practice that we should uphold and remember.
because whatever you don't get reminded you might eventually forget about it, and the younger generation will no longer know it.

[KiloFoxtrot]

Family reunion.    

Exactly mate,actually most of the time funeral turns as family reunion because almost the whole family members also extended family goes to the mourn special in the last night before settling under 7ft I know this is not part of tradition but maybe this kind of occasion gives the opportunity to the family members to take a OFF from work or what they are doing in life and go tighter to see each other again.and this may happen again when someone died in future lol 😂

I suddenly recall and agree, that in some families wherein there's no actual organized annual family reunion, a funeral gathering does serve the same purpose too.

Also, it's a way for everyone to pay their respects to the dearly departed friend or family member, an opportunity to see everybody else and to keep in touch once again since everyone's usually too busy nowadays.

[Kamilaz]

i mean, yeah, if you're seeing it in a technical point of view. i guess people are just sticking with the tradition...

[Rruchi man]

Lol, you sound very pained, almost like you jabe attended many funerals, and they have wasted a lot of your time. Blacks most especially believe in elaborate activities, that is why their funerals and even wedding ceremonies are filled with many unimportant activities. It is such a pity.

[mich]

It's just a way to pay your condolences to those no longer with us. 

It's about respect and tradition and I don't think there is anything wrong with continuing this tradition.

I have buried many loves ones and its the same routine every time.

[bitterguy28]

If you know the meaning of the word "RESPECT" then you'll have not to ask things like this.

We have our own Beliefs and rights on what is our ancestors tells us what to do , If you don't have mourning in your world , well then we have it.

We show our last Goodbyes to our love ones and sorry to say but you must not care about what we have , Do your own and let us do ours. simply as that.

[Mauser]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

I don't find funerals a waste of time. They are helping friends and family to move on. It's a few hours on a special day, I am not sure why you would be skipping it. Like the thing with families and friends is that they usually don't live in the same city or even state. So with the funeral everybody is coming, you usually get a day of from work which makes travelling a lot easier. And you will be able to meet friends and family you haven't meet in a while. I hope we won't stop with funerals.

[acener]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

In my opinion through funerals we show our respect toward deceased people.
Usually the death of a family member is a very difficult emotional loss for family and relatives.
Family need a certain funeral ceremony and mourning so that they can face the loss of loved ones.
You will understand when you are older.

I would like to give some merit to you but it seems that I don't have any sMerit right now.
And I agree it is for those who truly loves the deceased every moment that they could to see their love ones wouldn't be consider as a waste for them.
Not everyone is the same as OP had mention some of the people who goes at the funneral goes there to show respect to grieve or mourn with the family not just for the food or drinks.
But we are free to tell our own opinion.

[Chato1977]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Thats not Heck,instead you are the Heck of us,why do you care about others belief ?respect ours and we will respect you STUPID one.

Hey, mind your language and stop addressing people rudely. The OP is meant as a question and was never addressed to anyone in particular. No insults. But if that's what you do or it's your belief system you might explain your view in simple and CORRECT English and not hurl insults here. This is a sane community. Otherwise you won't go far.

Why should I? you are the one who called it as HECK you stupid one? and in CORRECT English ? as if you are a literal english speaker ?

Get a Life you and Pay respect to our religion , I don't know what have you do in your dead people , but ours ? they are most respected and the emotion is indeed deep.

[newwest]

Every religion has their own system and traditions which is done to mourn the departed soul and various offering and prayers are offered. This is belief where people want to do it or follow it or no. There would be reasons to it and that is why it is done and also say have you decided for yourself and written a not that after you are away from earth what and how it should be done ?

[Mpamaegbu]

Why should I? you are the one who called it as HECK you stupid one? and in CORRECT English ? as if you are a literal english speaker ?

Get a Life you and Pay respect to our religion , I don't know what have you do in your dead people , but ours ? they are most respected and the emotion is indeed deep.

I don't know why you're so insinuative over a harmless post as that. Could it be that you make a living from funerals and you felt threatened by my post that someone was about to take the feeder off your mouth? Well, I merely expressed a concern and asked others for their opinions concerning that and didn't go past that line. Whatever your fancies are, they're yours and shouldn't be imposed on others. And for the fact that someone didn't agree with what you think shouldn't amount to name dropping. You talked about religion there whereas it's tradition that's in question. If it were religion, I liked for you to cite such from a religious book.

Again, you may want to learn how to express yourself in simple but correct English.

Now, go get a life!

[Chato1977]

Why should I? you are the one who called it as HECK you stupid one? and in CORRECT English ? as if you are a literal english speaker ?

Get a Life you and Pay respect to our religion , I don't know what have you do in your dead people , but ours ? they are most respected and the emotion is indeed deep.

I don't know why you're so insinuative over a harmless post as that. Could it be that you make a living from funerals and you felt threatened by my post that someone was about to take the feeder off your mouth? Well, I merely expressed a concern and asked others for their opinions concerning that and didn't go past that line. Whatever your fancies are, they're yours and shouldn't be imposed on others. And for the fact that someone didn't agree with what you think shouldn't amount to name dropping. You talked about religion there whereas it's tradition that's in question. If it were religion, I liked for you to cite such from a religious book.

Again, you may want to learn how to express yourself in simple but correct English.

Now, go get a life!

so you are really affected now ? continues posting here even if this is not part " Of Your Paid Post from your Signature " Hahaha

Common Man don't Be Butthurt  and lets not use insult from how people post in english because it only reveals that you are a Trying hard english speaker also Stupid Loser 

if i am to get a Life then what is for you?

Maybe when someone from your tribe dies? you have just Dump  them like a Dead  Rabbit in the Bush ?     Live a life that what represent your Tribe and don't pretend that you Knew how city life is 

[peter0425]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

I don't find funerals a waste of time. They are helping friends and family to move on. It's a few hours on a special day, I am not sure why you would be skipping it. Like the thing with families and friends is that they usually don't live in the same city or even state. So with the funeral everybody is coming, you usually get a day of from work which makes travelling a lot easier. And you will be able to meet friends and family you haven't meet in a while. I hope we won't stop with funerals.

I believe that this is a religious belief mate , Lets Look how our brothers Muslim has , As far as i know (According to my Muslim friends ) their Dead love one must be put on grave before the sun down , meaning there is only short time for mourning , Please correct me if I'm wrong here mate.
While in Christian beliefs there must be a Funeral service that lasts from 3 days to sometime longer , I remember My brother died back in December and my parents wanted the funeral to be last up to January 2 for the reason Christmas  and Newyear is no longer fun because we have someone to Mourn .