Opinions on relationship in the society.

[Rruchi man]

Oftentimes most single men from not so much a well to do background like myself and others that I have come across are constantly in the dilemma of wanting to be in a relationship for some reasons and not wanting to be in a relationship for some other reasons. Some say they are avoiding relationships because they cannot handle the financial burdens that come along with it, while others say they are waiting for a relationship that will be symbiotic (beneficial) to them. I hold no personal opinions about their respective choices. I however find myself asking the question-
“Would you term the conscious selection of who you want to be in a romantic relationship with on the basis of the other benefits apart from the usual sex which you get as “Gold digging “?

[Natsuu]

Oftentimes most single men from not so much a well to do background like myself and others that I have come across are constantly in the dilemma of wanting to be in a relationship for some reasons and not wanting to be in a relationship for some other reasons. Some say they are avoiding relationships because they cannot handle the financial burdens that come along with it, while others say they are waiting for a relationship that will be symbiotic (beneficial) to them. I hold no personal opinions about their respective choices. I however find myself asking the question-
“Would you term the conscious selection of who you want to be in a romantic relationship with on the basis of the other benefits apart from the usual sex which you get as “Gold digging “?

Gold digging refers to a person who wants to gain benefit from a relationship without having neither personal nor romantic relationship to the partner. In other words, they used their body/face as an investment to gain what they want, and want they need without emotional attachment. Its just like giving their partners a dildo as others may say.

Ergo, my answer to your question is no. Having conscious selection of what you have in a relationship aside from you being romantically and emotionally attach to the other person is pretty normal. Every person have this standards that they don't tell anybody but they do have personally. It's just that the feeling of being with the other person, trample all other aspect of your standards, that's why the quote "LOVE IS BLIND" begun. So yeah, you can be selective as long as you want, but there would be a time that this selections would be disregarded, as long as you find the person that is meant for you.

[jrrsparkles]

Generally speaking girls won't accept someone who is financially in bad situation and also men also concerned about extra burdens and what we can do after getting in to relationship because they get more responsibility. Perfect relationship are mever exist, so make money then you have more choice to choice to choose from.

[BIT-BENDER]

Relationship is stronger than just being together -some case its coping together- there are people in lands far away from there origin/birth place, that gets together/copes together with someone of the other country there are in -not-legal- just to get paper allowing them in-line with laws stay, there are cases that starts off like this and love catches them but if not then there is no relationship -love-
There are difference in relationship
+ sex relationship
+ financial relationship
+ mutual relationship
+ short-term relationship and many more
+ love relationship
But its ok if the two people in any of those relationship knows what type of relationship they are in, but if one is being deceived then its wrong.

[Lorence.xD]

Generally speaking girls won't accept someone who is financially in bad situation and also men also concerned about extra burdens and what we can do after getting in to relationship because they get more responsibility. Perfect relationship are mever exist, so make money then you have more choice to choice to choose from.

I think that it is a good thing that women think like this, they now prefer people that have a stable life. There will never be a perfect relationship because we as an individual does not know what being perfect is and I think we arrive there someday, I hope that I am not alive to see it because I believe perfection is boring. Regarding having a stable we also should take account that we see our partner eye to eye because if you can't stand being together sharing the same space, what is the point of that relationship. Financial stability is 50% of the relationship and the rest is being happy with each other. The feelings should be mutual and not unrequited.

[Dorodha]

Social media brings together reviews of people from different walks of life on education, economics, politics, class discrimination, interests, relationships, etc. The beginning of love is from the mutual passion and attraction of two people. That attraction can be a mixture of mental and physical or even individual when romantic attraction extends to a physical relationship it is in most cases by mutual consent. Lack of emotion and attraction may occur later that too is very normal relationships can even break up.

[Weber45]

In our digital time with the ability to do "whatever you want", in the rhythm of "live by your own rules", to be independent both financially and socially - it is very difficult to take a step into the voluntary routine of marriage, - to build relationships with a partner and his family and even more so to take responsibility for having a child. As for me, there is always an alternative - a modern successful union of two - this is not love or passion, it is friendship and mutual respect based on common views and, which is important - on a material and technical basis. She has an apartment, he has a car (or vice versa), they both earn and they have something to talk about over a glass of red, and everything is ok with their parents - you can make an alliance, you can talk about whether it is successful or not at the end of life ... Want and everything will work out.

[Broly46]

Yeah I know, this is why I said human being can’t resist love, they can try to resist it for a long time, but they will eventually give in, so give in the demand of getting into relationship, what’s wrong with working together as a team? A lot of thing can goes wrong in a team, when working alone everything is under controlled, another volatile being add into the mix thing become super risky and uncontrollable, yeah emotional human being who can’t resist love. Btw people tend to expect a lot from a relationship, some say relationship can give you happiness, <— they expect happiness from your companionship, when expectation aren’t meet, thing would quickly get nasty, people today are very self entitled, they expect a lot from you, you better have a lot to give in a relationship, make sure to give them a lot of happiness too.

[Wolf333]

I agree that for girls the financial stability of their partner is important as well as i mens are also concerned about extra burden.
But a sense of humor and the ability to see funny things are also important for me. What could be more terrifying than the prospect of living to your golden wedding, laughing at jokes for 50 years that don't really seem funny to you? My partner should also respect other people's judgments and ways of thinking.

[Renampun]

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as humans, we were created to depend on each other...
my husband needs me to take care of the housework, while I need my husband as the breadwinner and protector of the family. Don't be afraid to start a relationship with the opposite sex, you will feel that your life is more purposeful and more focused if you are married.

[Salauddin1994]

It usually depends on the mindset of the people to make life beautiful the backround will become beautiful if we resolve our relationship through compromise without looking at it financially social status is a sensitive issue that affects not only love but also marriage. Every human being wants to build relationships with people of his equal position or higher position especially girls calculate a little more in this regard these have a negative impact on social life so we need to think positively.

[samputin]

Well, if a person is more concerned on the financial benefits that he/she will get with his/her partner, then I would say yes — that could be gold digging. But if the benefit he/she is thinking of is more on emotional stability, someone who can be a shoulder to cry on, or someone who will support him or her, then that's not gold digging at all. I just hope all of us will find a partner whom we feel safe and secure and not someone who's just there cause he/she is benefitting from us financially.

[akram143]

Girls prefer a boy with more money on his bank account but poor boy loves a girl with perfect physical appearance. Relationship is just an act to reach our goals in the short way without much efforts.

[coolcoinz]

Generally speaking girls won't accept someone who is financially in bad situation and also men also concerned about extra burdens and what we can do after getting in to relationship because they get more responsibility. Perfect relationship are mever exist, so make money then you have more choice to choice to choose from.

You're generalizing. There are as many types of women as there are types of men.
Most women want strong men to accompany them, men who can take care of them, protect them, stay calm in dangerous situations, but not all demand men to be rich and pay for everything. They see it as an additional quality, but not a must.
None of my friends are rich and they have women. It's funny but I know 2 guys that are doing pretty good financially and both of them are struggling with women. They both look good and are in their 30s, drive nice cars, but women just don't stick with them.

[Broly46]

Look at that amount of denial, yeah financial is not important, yeah emotion is more important, then responsibilities is more important, then security is more important. Frankly enough, just flex a little brain muscle, you quickly discover without money, you can’t provide anything, without money without security, without money without responsiblility, without money without happiness, without money your emotion also hitting rock bottom, without money confident also down to the bottom. So money is not important? BTW if you have no money and not willing to work for it, try to be a scammer, scam the feeling just like what most PUA did, they can even pretending to be rich to impress Chinese girl, manipulating vulnerable women into falling into believing their deceiving promise, in a relationship, following the rules and be decent human being and please everybody every demand you will eventually get into big trouble because self entitlement is reality, everybody is extremely self entitled, no exceptions, good luck on getting a true love Disney land ending or white knights white princess ending.

[GDragon]

It depends to the person, we all have different standards in life and it's just that financial capability is always a must for us to survive, cause we are in the world where money is always needed. But there are also people who stick with a person even though he/she doesn't have the financial stability. Maybe because they are yearning for something that isn't about money, and they found it in that specific person. It depends to the person and nothing is wrong between the two.

[jrrsparkles]

Generally speaking girls won't accept someone who is financially in bad situation and also men also concerned about extra burdens and what we can do after getting in to relationship because they get more responsibility. Perfect relationship are mever exist, so make money then you have more choice to choice to choose from.

You're generalizing. There are as many types of women as there are types of men.
Most women want strong men to accompany them, men who can take care of them, protect them, stay calm in dangerous situations, but not all demand men to be rich and pay for everything. They see it as an additional quality, but not a must.
None of my friends are rich and they have women. It's funny but I know 2 guys that are doing pretty good financially and both of them are struggling with women. They both look good and are in their 30s, drive nice cars, but women just don't stick with them.

Those two guys were bit unlucky in my opinion but for sure they will get lot of proposals if they expose themselves to be rich outside and in appealing way.

Do you think a girl will accept someone who is financially not stable? Like someone who is homeless but strong enough to resist her from anything?

No, is my answer.

[Pweetybam]

Relationship shouldn't depend on benefits from each other or whatever, it should base on love and trust.

[Shagufta3]

Relatives r to fuck up your life and mental peace.

[Natsuu]

Relatives r to fuck up your life and mental peace.

Not at all times, you just have significantly, unhealthy relationship with your relative if you think this so. I have a pretty supportive relatives, while some aren't that much, that's why I choose and pick among those relatives whom I want to bond with whenever we're in gathering.

In relation with the topic, opened up by the author, you are the one in control if you want someone in your family/ relatives to know what is happening in your relationship. It is in your control, what they can see and what they cannot. Given that you can't control they're assumptions on what's happening about it, it is you again, who can justify if this were real or not. You don't need to explain why their assumptions is right or wrong. A simple YES or NO is enough.