How do you manage anger ? the anger managment topic !

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

Hi,

What are your best advices, practices... for extreme situation, let's say you find your wife sleeping with your neighbors...(edit : not the first burst of anger when you see them, but for the coming days, or weeks) this kind of (long lasting pervasive) anger. Not the light one, my pc crashed again

and how to protect one health from the ravages of this kind of continuous anger?

Thanks in advance.

(I had to edit it to be more focused, so not the first burst of anger but the longer lasting one)

but it's a good question to work too, the short term burst... interesting.

so maybe you could divide your answer :

a) short term burst of anger

b) longer duration anger

I am right now experiencing stage b) (it goes better now but earlier I was super angry)

thanks a lot...

(I hope the question is clear).

[semobo]

Its your wife decision so getting angry with her is not going to turn back the things so just go for the legal ways to solve this and being practical may help you to manage your anger better.

But I can't imagine what I will do if I am in that situation.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

Its your wife decision so getting angry with her is not going to turn back the things so just go for the legal ways to solve this and being practical may help you to manage your anger better.

But I can't imagine what I will do if I am in that situation.

No... you got the message wrong... it was to illustrate the anger that someone can feel... the super deep anger, you know? When was the time you were the most angry in your life, and I don't mean a burst of rage, but the latent anger, the one like fire who never stops simmering, you know? thanks any way.

We aren't trying to resolve a situation, but to manage anger in general, but not light anger, but deep profound anger.

[semobo]

I didn't mean it though, I understand the intensity of the situation and its nit actually possible to handle it ease, if it was me I will shout out to the hell though but anyway managing anger becomes easier when we remove the feelings and starts to see everything from the practical world.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

I didn't mean it though, I understand the intensity of the situation and its nit actually possible to handle it ease, if it was me I will shout out to the hell though but anyway managing anger becomes easier when we remove the feelings and starts to see everything from the practical world.

you are on the right track... remove the feeling... naturally... or how to let it go... let's say that because you did shit your btc are gone... you know this anger? imagine stronger... how to let it be, and not start to get all angry, and bad for health etc

much love.

yes I think it's possible to handle it... I have heard the story of a trader who felt nothing anymore... so one day, not knowing how to surf and swimming badly he went before a YUGE wave, to see if he could fear again, the wave crashed on him, he rolled, he drank water, regain the beach, and still nothing... he was worried .

[DeathAngel]

If I caught my wife sleeping with my neighbour I’d probably beat the crap out of both of them. For normal situations of anger I just go for a jog or something.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

If I caught my wife sleeping with my neighbour I’d probably beat the crap out of both of them. For normal situations of anger I just go for a jog or something.

thanks for your answer, I should maybe change the example, as it seems too extreme for most to cope with. Furthermore I didn't intended to use it as the first burst of anger, but the following days. Because I imagine that in such situation the anger doesn't dissipate easily... meaning that even if running, I guess, the user of this technique would still be angry .

So it's more about long term anger management. But thanks for your input.

[boyptc]

Stand and go out.

When I'm sitting on my PC and bursts with anger, I stand, turn off the PC and go out to get some air. In your situation, stand, stop what you're doing and get some fresh air.

This is good for both and you'll practice it for long term.

[ethereumhunter]

If you feel anger, maybe you should not try to argue with that person instead of taking a deep breath and going out to calm down. Just forget whatever happened to you and try to search for different views.

I agree with @boyptc suggestion. Stop and go out to get some air will help you reduce your anger. Maybe it is hard for the first time but that is worth trying. You need to practice if you want to reduce the tension and anger.

[Chato1977]

Hi,

What are your best advices, practices... for extreme situation, let's say you find your wife sleeping with your neighbors...(edit : not the first burst of anger when you see them, but for the coming days, or weeks) this kind of (long lasting pervasive) anger. Not the light one, my pc crashed again

and how to protect one health from the ravages of this kind of continuous anger?

Thanks in advance.

(I had to edit it to be more focused, so not the first burst of anger but the longer lasting one)

but it's a good question to work too, the short term burst... interesting.

so maybe you could divide your answer :

a) short term burst of anger

b) longer duration anger

I am right now experiencing stage b) (it goes better now but earlier I was super angry)

thanks a lot...

(I hope the question is clear).

I may sound Hypocrite or playing safe here (Because lucky that i never had this same experience ) but i think anger is normal finding this kind of cheating and disrespectful .

but on the other side we can ask our self first

" What should be the reason She did this"?

" Am I not enough for Her"?

" have i missed something to make her Happy"?

sometimes it is the demand that make this happen in which we are not aware of our less effort to treat our wife, remember that they are Female and has always a desire to be treated as special , in every single ways.

or there are such woman that has this attitude in which never become contented in one Guy, as i know a friend with this mental sickness , he desires other buy aside from Her partner .

[Mauser]

The most anger I experience is short lived. I am not really the person who holds a grudge long term, and rather forget about if very quickly. There are few things I like to do when I am angry. First of all I try to breathe more calmly and take a break from whatever makes me angry. Secondly, if possible I try to go for a walk. Fresh air helps me to calm down a lot. In the end the reasons why we get angry are not that big and not that important. Just in the heat of the moment it seems very bad. We need to look at the things with a fresh mind again to realise it wasn't so bad.

[Ucy]

Mine is simple: Forgive, forget the source of the anger (assuming he/she hasn't apologized or show signs of strong remorse), and leave judgment to the CREATOR who never fails in Judging Right. The anger will just disappear.
If the source sees nothing wrong in what he/she did, I just assume it's Insanity or he/she has being brainwashed, and i just feel deep sympathy.

[decodx]

To manage anger, we have to confront the source of our anger. The source of anger is not our emotions. It is the causes of our emotions.
Anger is a deep-seated emotion that many of us don't realize is being caused by our past lifestyle and our decisions.

You can't change the past, so why let the feelings cause you to create more suffering today?

A lot of people are saying that you're making excuses, and maybe that's true, but I believe that if you are comfortable with the emotional pain you have today, you can see where your anger is coming from and you can learn to manage it. If you can stop and analyze your anger, you can find your triggers, and then you can start to change the circumstances that are causing you to feel this way.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

To manage anger, we have to confront the source of our anger. The source of anger is not our emotions. It is the causes of our emotions.
Anger is a deep-seated emotion that many of us don't realize is being caused by our past lifestyle and our decisions.

You can't change the past, so why let the feelings cause you to create more suffering today?

A lot of people are saying that you're making excuses, and maybe that's true, but I believe that if you are comfortable with the emotional pain you have today, you can see where your anger is coming from and you can learn to manage it. If you can stop and analyze your anger, you can find your triggers, and then you can start to change the circumstances that are causing you to feel this way.

Thanks that's the kind of answer I expected, something really out of here !

Thank you equally to all who answered, again, the example in OP was just that

but yeah, fresh air noted, walking... and yeah getting away from the source of anger (the whole us federal gov)... I may try soon a full day of neural rest, no news, no music... just calm and tranquility, no emails, no phone, nothing... back in the real, what ever happen, I won't care, isolation, because as you all said, it's really unhealthy to get angry, and totally useless, specially the source of my anger can only be regime changed at this point, and I mean a full on regime and total administrative change.

thanks a again

Peace be upon you and your loved ones .

[bitterguy28]

I keep looking on the positive things specially when it comes to making decisions , i keep asking my self what is the reason why things like this needs to happen and what can i do to make it better.

Know where this came from and know what have you contribute to make this happen.

[syedakhlaque]

Anger is one of the human weaknesses. A man fiercely behaves when something is gone extremely against his expectation. There is anger and depression. The blood pressure becomes very high and a person loses control of himself. There is a need to avoid the situation that turns into an awkward situation. There is also a need not to allow someone to create such conditions. Patience, forgiveness, and tolerance is also a pleasure element that shows good result in future.

[boyptc]

I agree with @boyptc suggestion. Stop and go out to get some air will help you reduce your anger. Maybe it is hard for the first time but that is worth trying. You need to practice if you want to reduce the tension and anger.

That's what one must do to avoid the stress and anger that you'll be feeling on that present time.

Anger will pass if you're going to do something to make yourself calm or do some other things that will make you loose it if not quickly, gradually.

[newwest]

In our life there are many points where we could get angry may be due to some small/big differences in opinion or the way you want to work around for few things. So in those moments the first thing I do is do not react for that moment and take time to get back. Most of the times in some time itself when you think with your calm mind you will not react the same way you would have done on the spot moment.

Secondly, reach out to you good friends and explain the situation and get all your anger stuff on them and this may make you feel better and as well they may advise you which at times turns to be better for me which I could not think due to my angry mood.

[semobo]

I didn't mean it though, I understand the intensity of the situation and its nit actually possible to handle it ease, if it was me I will shout out to the hell though but anyway managing anger becomes easier when we remove the feelings and starts to see everything from the practical world.

you are on the right track... remove the feeling... naturally... or how to let it go... let's say that because you did shit your btc are gone... you know this anger? imagine stronger... how to let it be, and not start to get all angry, and bad for health etc

much love.

yes I think it's possible to handle it... I have heard the story of a trader who felt nothing anymore... so one day, not knowing how to surf and swimming badly he went before a YUGE wave, to see if he could fear again, the wave crashed on him, he rolled, he drank water, regain the beach, and still nothing... he was worried .

Time will heal everything, until that try to be calm and don't harm anyone to get rid of your anger...

Accumulation of a new hobby will divert our mind from thinking that or even a long drive at the night can bring the peace and clarification of what and how to lead our future life.

[decodx]

... and yeah getting away from the source of anger (the whole us federal gov)...

Yes, that would be the tricky part. I am just a few million short of buying my private island in the middle of nowhere.  

Peace be upon you and your loved ones .

The same to you, buddy.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

Time will heal everything, until that try to be calm and don't harm anyone to get rid of your anger...

thanks, no worry, it's only about not arming myself, as an earlier poster wrote, high blood pressure, getting all nervous, bad sleep, not hgh quality of life...

ultimately the project would lead to be able to thrive in environment which are ultra angry-ing...

to become the boat able to withstand the anger tempest zone... and not to be carried by anger.

Meaning when the morons and others low iqs and all this sort of biodroids will create angering conditions, I would sail through them, like a submarine

So that I won't have to isolate, or avoid, or mediate through, but be able to fend through the shit and live with a smile, even if the exemple came true !

Imagine her dissapointment... a wife, is fucking another man in his own bed, she knows, she wants it to be discovered, and then rather than anger, no... no... not a fake, but the smile of liberty

imagine how bad she would be, but it doesn't matter anymore, as stroll ofl liberty is shining above.

liife threw a tempest at you? be a coconut



Trust In God !

[Maestro75]

Just keep quiet whenever you are angry instead of talking. Taking makes it more difficult to control the action.

[Renampun]

we women rarely can be like men who are able to control themselves when very angry...

but when I am very angry then I will be quiet and then leave that place, I think rather than harming myself and others then it is better to leave that place or stop talking when very angry.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

Just keep quiet whenever you are angry instead of talking. Taking makes it more difficult to control the action.

are you sure? It's a very interesting idea? have your tried singing? but I see the logic you try to get to us... thanks a lot for sharing it.

focus on breathing?

[tnyldzerdm60]

Hi,

What are your best advices, practices... for extreme situation, let's say you find your wife sleeping with your neighbors...(edit : not the first burst of anger when you see them, but for the coming days, or weeks) this kind of (long lasting pervasive) anger. Not the light one, my pc crashed again

and how to protect one health from the ravages of this kind of continuous anger?

Thanks in advance.

(I had to edit it to be more focused, so not the first burst of anger but the longer lasting one)

but it's a good question to work too, the short term burst... interesting.

so maybe you could divide your answer :

a) short term burst of anger

b) longer duration anger

I am right now experiencing stage b) (it goes better now but earlier I was super angry)

thanks a lot...

(I hope the question is clear).

Hello there;

Are you measuring your reaction? According to the example you mentioned, outbursts of anger can be very variable. If I catch my wife sleeping with the neighbor, I'll have uncontrolled long-term outbursts of anger. but if I inadvertently suffer material damage, I will have a controlled and short-term outburst of anger.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

Hi,

What are your best advices, practices... for extreme situation, let's say you find your wife sleeping with your neighbors...(edit : not the first burst of anger when you see them, but for the coming days, or weeks) this kind of (long lasting pervasive) anger. Not the light one, my pc crashed again

and how to protect one health from the ravages of this kind of continuous anger?

Thanks in advance.

(I had to edit it to be more focused, so not the first burst of anger but the longer lasting one)

but it's a good question to work too, the short term burst... interesting.

so maybe you could divide your answer :

a) short term burst of anger

b) longer duration anger

I am right now experiencing stage b) (it goes better now but earlier I was super angry)

thanks a lot...

(I hope the question is clear).

Hello there;

Are you measuring your reaction? According to the example you mentioned, outbursts of anger can be very variable. If I catch my wife sleeping with the neighbor, I'll have uncontrolled long-term outbursts of anger. but if I inadvertently suffer material damage, I will have a controlled and short-term outburst of anger.

You have nailded the term or type of anger we have decided to understand, master and defeat... "uncontrolled long-term outbursts of anger"

Specially the long term lasting and continuous anger health damages will compound... and so :

We will be like coconuts in the typhoons... what ever happen, we will resurface and thrive !

[AWMM24]

Hi,

What are your best advices, practices... for extreme situation, let's say you find your wife sleeping with your neighbors...(edit : not the first burst of anger when you see them, but for the coming days, or weeks) this kind of (long lasting pervasive) anger. Not the light one, my pc crashed again

and how to protect one health from the ravages of this kind of continuous anger?

Thanks in advance.

(I had to edit it to be more focused, so not the first burst of anger but the longer lasting one)

but it's a good question to work too, the short term burst... interesting.

so maybe you could divide your answer :

a) short term burst of anger

b) longer duration anger

I am right now experiencing stage b) (it goes better now but earlier I was super angry)

thanks a lot...

(I hope the question is clear).

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive her, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

[ethereumhunter]

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive her, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

Forgiveness can help us to feel better. But when we anger, that will not be easy as our emotions become higher and many of us hard to control the emotion. Maybe we need to calm down and think more to see what is behind that thing that we got so we can analyze what is wrong and right. After that, if other people do something wrong to us, we can forgive them and try to forget because we do not want that thing to be beside us for some time.

[Chato1977]

Just keep quiet whenever you are angry instead of talking. Taking makes it more difficult to control the action.

This will cause you Heart attack mate , specially to us Male in which prone of having one.

releasing our anger helps us feel much better, the only important thing is how we will release this anger .

maybe drinking with friends ? crying sometimes are enough to lessen the burden and accept the reality of what happened /.

[Shasha80]

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive her, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

Forgiveness can help us to feel better. But when we anger, that will not be easy as our emotions become higher and many of us hard to control the emotion. Maybe we need to calm down and think more to see what is behind that thing that we got so we can analyze what is wrong and right. After that, if other people do something wrong to us, we can forgive them and try to forget because we do not want that thing to be beside us for some time.

Everyone must have been angry, but we must be able to control our anger, because it can have a bad effect on our mentality. One of the teachings of
my religion is forgiveness can make us a good person. People who dare to apologize first are brave in my opinion, because giving forgiveness to
others is very difficult to do that. Forgiving each other has been proven to reduce the emotions of both parties who are in dispute, many things
can make us angry. Therefore it is necessary to practice our patience and also make forgiveness as a habit. If we can do this, we will get used to
controlling our anger.

[eXPHorizon]

For me until I quit Martial arts, Martial arts helped me to keep in balance and even Just thinking about it for a week and then trying my moves later on. But when I quit that it Just started building up.. Its affecting my life greatly so ID suggest People to try Martial arts, any kind.. Hitting the bag is really good for Us males 🙂

[ethereumhunter]

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive her, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

Forgiveness can help us to feel better. But when we anger, that will not be easy as our emotions become higher and many of us hard to control the emotion. Maybe we need to calm down and think more to see what is behind that thing that we got so we can analyze what is wrong and right. After that, if other people do something wrong to us, we can forgive them and try to forget because we do not want that thing to be beside us for some time.

Everyone must have been angry, but we must be able to control our anger, because it can have a bad effect on our mentality. One of the teachings of
my religion is forgiveness can make us a good person. People who dare to apologize first are brave in my opinion, because giving forgiveness to
others is very difficult to do that. Forgiving each other has been proven to reduce the emotions of both parties who are in dispute, many things
can make us angry. Therefore it is necessary to practice our patience and also make forgiveness as a habit. If we can do this, we will get used to
controlling our anger.

I think all religions teach us to forgive others who made mistakes and we should apologize for the first time. It is hard to ask for forgiveness from others, even if we think we do not make mistakes. If both sides can forgive each other, there is no need to fight or argue because we realize that we are just human who always make a mistake and others will do the same. Asking for forgiveness can reduce the high tension that happens to both people and needs the courage to forgive each other. If we can have the courage to do that, I think we can control the anger and calm down and be patient.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

thanks for your comments, imho

1. martial arts isn't to be performed when in anger, learning to master anger is now task of martial arts practicants, aka with anger risks of injury increase, learning negatively affected, neural memory tainted. however martial arts as prevention to anger is an interesting strategy.

2. forgiving is possible on an individual basis, it doesn't affect "res publica" operation. A republic can't forgive for the wronged, nor absolve the wronger. it's refereed in a sentence about what belongs to the republic, doesn't or isn't a matter related to the individual. aka the republic can forgive you, but do you deserve to be forgiven is another question.

3. no one mentioned removing the source of anger, why? as being an external factor that can influence or simply be annihilated using said anger. it's a true win - win - loss, loss as being the loss of a learning opportunity as the source of anger would be gone using anger.

However I deeply regret my first example of long lasting pervasive continuous anger source... it's tainting the topic and answers negatively.

[ethereumhunter]

3. no one mentioned removing the source of anger, why? as being an external factor that can influence or simply be annihilated using said anger. it's a true win - win - loss, loss as being the loss of a learning opportunity as the source of anger would be gone using anger.

When you can calm down, you will remove the anger, which is for all of the sources of the anger itself. Water can make you calm down when you are angry, and sitting down or lying down can help you get calm. It will depend on the reason why you feel angry so you can identify it by yourself.

[SlikStrike]

I manage my anger with doing something i like , but long term anger comes from you being hurt in some way you cant just forget you are angry... at least i cant. I'd say try not to think about it at all for some days it will get your mind stable