How do you manage anger ? the anger managment topic !

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

Hi,

What are your best advices, practices... for extreme situation, let's say you find your wife sleeping with your neighbors...(edit : not the first burst of anger when you see them, but for the coming days, or weeks) this kind of (long lasting pervasive) anger. Not the light one, my pc crashed again

and how to protect one health from the ravages of this kind of continuous anger?

Thanks in advance.

(I had to edit it to be more focused, so not the first burst of anger but the longer lasting one)

but it's a good question to work too, the short term burst... interesting.

so maybe you could divide your answer :

a) short term burst of anger

b) longer duration anger

I am right now experiencing stage b) (it goes better now but earlier I was super angry)

thanks a lot...

(I hope the question is clear).

[semobo]

Its your wife decision so getting angry with her is not going to turn back the things so just go for the legal ways to solve this and being practical may help you to manage your anger better.

But I can't imagine what I will do if I am in that situation.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

Its your wife decision so getting angry with her is not going to turn back the things so just go for the legal ways to solve this and being practical may help you to manage your anger better.

But I can't imagine what I will do if I am in that situation.

No... you got the message wrong... it was to illustrate the anger that someone can feel... the super deep anger, you know? When was the time you were the most angry in your life, and I don't mean a burst of rage, but the latent anger, the one like fire who never stops simmering, you know? thanks any way.

We aren't trying to resolve a situation, but to manage anger in general, but not light anger, but deep profound anger.

[semobo]

I didn't mean it though, I understand the intensity of the situation and its nit actually possible to handle it ease, if it was me I will shout out to the hell though but anyway managing anger becomes easier when we remove the feelings and starts to see everything from the practical world.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

I didn't mean it though, I understand the intensity of the situation and its nit actually possible to handle it ease, if it was me I will shout out to the hell though but anyway managing anger becomes easier when we remove the feelings and starts to see everything from the practical world.

you are on the right track... remove the feeling... naturally... or how to let it go... let's say that because you did shit your btc are gone... you know this anger? imagine stronger... how to let it be, and not start to get all angry, and bad for health etc

much love.

yes I think it's possible to handle it... I have heard the story of a trader who felt nothing anymore... so one day, not knowing how to surf and swimming badly he went before a YUGE wave, to see if he could fear again, the wave crashed on him, he rolled, he drank water, regain the beach, and still nothing... he was worried .

[DeathAngel]

If I caught my wife sleeping with my neighbour I’d probably beat the crap out of both of them. For normal situations of anger I just go for a jog or something.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

If I caught my wife sleeping with my neighbour I’d probably beat the crap out of both of them. For normal situations of anger I just go for a jog or something.

thanks for your answer, I should maybe change the example, as it seems too extreme for most to cope with. Furthermore I didn't intended to use it as the first burst of anger, but the following days. Because I imagine that in such situation the anger doesn't dissipate easily... meaning that even if running, I guess, the user of this technique would still be angry .

So it's more about long term anger management. But thanks for your input.

[boyptc]

Stand and go out.

When I'm sitting on my PC and bursts with anger, I stand, turn off the PC and go out to get some air. In your situation, stand, stop what you're doing and get some fresh air.

This is good for both and you'll practice it for long term.

[ethereumhunter]

If you feel anger, maybe you should not try to argue with that person instead of taking a deep breath and going out to calm down. Just forget whatever happened to you and try to search for different views.

I agree with @boyptc suggestion. Stop and go out to get some air will help you reduce your anger. Maybe it is hard for the first time but that is worth trying. You need to practice if you want to reduce the tension and anger.

[Chato1977]

Hi,

What are your best advices, practices... for extreme situation, let's say you find your wife sleeping with your neighbors...(edit : not the first burst of anger when you see them, but for the coming days, or weeks) this kind of (long lasting pervasive) anger. Not the light one, my pc crashed again

and how to protect one health from the ravages of this kind of continuous anger?

Thanks in advance.

(I had to edit it to be more focused, so not the first burst of anger but the longer lasting one)

but it's a good question to work too, the short term burst... interesting.

so maybe you could divide your answer :

a) short term burst of anger

b) longer duration anger

I am right now experiencing stage b) (it goes better now but earlier I was super angry)

thanks a lot...

(I hope the question is clear).

I may sound Hypocrite or playing safe here (Because lucky that i never had this same experience ) but i think anger is normal finding this kind of cheating and disrespectful .

but on the other side we can ask our self first

" What should be the reason She did this"?

" Am I not enough for Her"?

" have i missed something to make her Happy"?

sometimes it is the demand that make this happen in which we are not aware of our less effort to treat our wife, remember that they are Female and has always a desire to be treated as special , in every single ways.

or there are such woman that has this attitude in which never become contented in one Guy, as i know a friend with this mental sickness , he desires other buy aside from Her partner .

[Mauser]

The most anger I experience is short lived. I am not really the person who holds a grudge long term, and rather forget about if very quickly. There are few things I like to do when I am angry. First of all I try to breathe more calmly and take a break from whatever makes me angry. Secondly, if possible I try to go for a walk. Fresh air helps me to calm down a lot. In the end the reasons why we get angry are not that big and not that important. Just in the heat of the moment it seems very bad. We need to look at the things with a fresh mind again to realise it wasn't so bad.

[Ucy]

Mine is simple: Forgive, forget the source of the anger (assuming he/she hasn't apologized or show signs of strong remorse), and leave judgment to the CREATOR who never fails in Judging Right. The anger will just disappear.
If the source sees nothing wrong in what he/she did, I just assume it's Insanity or he/she has being brainwashed, and i just feel deep sympathy.

[decodx]

To manage anger, we have to confront the source of our anger. The source of anger is not our emotions. It is the causes of our emotions.
Anger is a deep-seated emotion that many of us don't realize is being caused by our past lifestyle and our decisions.

You can't change the past, so why let the feelings cause you to create more suffering today?

A lot of people are saying that you're making excuses, and maybe that's true, but I believe that if you are comfortable with the emotional pain you have today, you can see where your anger is coming from and you can learn to manage it. If you can stop and analyze your anger, you can find your triggers, and then you can start to change the circumstances that are causing you to feel this way.

[B1tUnl0ck3r]

To manage anger, we have to confront the source of our anger. The source of anger is not our emotions. It is the causes of our emotions.
Anger is a deep-seated emotion that many of us don't realize is being caused by our past lifestyle and our decisions.

You can't change the past, so why let the feelings cause you to create more suffering today?

A lot of people are saying that you're making excuses, and maybe that's true, but I believe that if you are comfortable with the emotional pain you have today, you can see where your anger is coming from and you can learn to manage it. If you can stop and analyze your anger, you can find your triggers, and then you can start to change the circumstances that are causing you to feel this way.

Thanks that's the kind of answer I expected, something really out of here !

Thank you equally to all who answered, again, the example in OP was just that

but yeah, fresh air noted, walking... and yeah getting away from the source of anger (the whole us federal gov)... I may try soon a full day of neural rest, no news, no music... just calm and tranquility, no emails, no phone, nothing... back in the real, what ever happen, I won't care, isolation, because as you all said, it's really unhealthy to get angry, and totally useless, specially the source of my anger can only be regime changed at this point, and I mean a full on regime and total administrative change.

thanks a again

Peace be upon you and your loved ones .

[bitterguy28]

I keep looking on the positive things specially when it comes to making decisions , i keep asking my self what is the reason why things like this needs to happen and what can i do to make it better.

Know where this came from and know what have you contribute to make this happen.

[syedakhlaque]

Anger is one of the human weaknesses. A man fiercely behaves when something is gone extremely against his expectation. There is anger and depression. The blood pressure becomes very high and a person loses control of himself. There is a need to avoid the situation that turns into an awkward situation. There is also a need not to allow someone to create such conditions. Patience, forgiveness, and tolerance is also a pleasure element that shows good result in future.

[boyptc]

I agree with @boyptc suggestion. Stop and go out to get some air will help you reduce your anger. Maybe it is hard for the first time but that is worth trying. You need to practice if you want to reduce the tension and anger.

That's what one must do to avoid the stress and anger that you'll be feeling on that present time.

Anger will pass if you're going to do something to make yourself calm or do some other things that will make you loose it if not quickly, gradually.

[newwest]

In our life there are many points where we could get angry may be due to some small/big differences in opinion or the way you want to work around for few things. So in those moments the first thing I do is do not react for that moment and take time to get back. Most of the times in some time itself when you think with your calm mind you will not react the same way you would have done on the spot moment.

Secondly, reach out to you good friends and explain the situation and get all your anger stuff on them and this may make you feel better and as well they may advise you which at times turns to be better for me which I could not think due to my angry mood.

[semobo]

I didn't mean it though, I understand the intensity of the situation and its nit actually possible to handle it ease, if it was me I will shout out to the hell though but anyway managing anger becomes easier when we remove the feelings and starts to see everything from the practical world.

you are on the right track... remove the feeling... naturally... or how to let it go... let's say that because you did shit your btc are gone... you know this anger? imagine stronger... how to let it be, and not start to get all angry, and bad for health etc

much love.

yes I think it's possible to handle it... I have heard the story of a trader who felt nothing anymore... so one day, not knowing how to surf and swimming badly he went before a YUGE wave, to see if he could fear again, the wave crashed on him, he rolled, he drank water, regain the beach, and still nothing... he was worried .

Time will heal everything, until that try to be calm and don't harm anyone to get rid of your anger...

Accumulation of a new hobby will divert our mind from thinking that or even a long drive at the night can bring the peace and clarification of what and how to lead our future life.

[decodx]

... and yeah getting away from the source of anger (the whole us federal gov)...

Yes, that would be the tricky part. I am just a few million short of buying my private island in the middle of nowhere.  

Peace be upon you and your loved ones .

The same to you, buddy.