Our children should be our first priority

[odunybiz]

Parenting go along way to affect children's life styles, the community and the society in large. Most country suffer violence due to bad parenting, friend influence and environment factor. But in most cases good parenting may help to overcome other factors earlier mentioned. Imagine when children are abandoned at home without proper care while parents worked, gambled or partied. Such children will have no choice than to later indulge in some criminal act to sustain their life. Such children pick up any life style they want since there isn't anyone to correct their bad behavior. Children deserve to be put first. They shouldn't be worked around mummy's or daddy's more important schedule. Good parenting doesn't stop in providing things for the children. It also includes:
👉👉Being a good listener.
👉👉Keep eye on whatsoever they do and give advice when necessary
👉👉Direct their career path. These doesn't mean you should impose a career on them. Study them to know what they are good at to direct them on the career to choose. One always strive easily when one choose what he loves doing most as ones career.
👉👉Teach them the various norms of the society
👉👉Teach them about your culture.
👉👉Creat the fear of God in them.
👉👉Try all what you can to make them happy. Let them see their home as the best.

Although some parent claim being poor is the cause of their bad parenting. Everyone in the society can't be rich. You can give the best to your children with the little you have. Let's train our children well as they are the future leaders of our country.

Conclusion
Let's give our children all they need from us as a parent. Only make few babies that you can avoid to offer your being and time. Good parenting have great influence on our children, society, country and the whole world at large.

[348Judah]

Parenting go along way to affect children's life styles

even the Holy Bible says, Teach your child in the way he should go, so he won't depart from it when he grows, parents should understand this fact and respect it as a responsibility vested on them as long as they are the guardians, we don't need to be told before doing our rights as parents, many has faulted the community and government over the upbringings of their children but they have forgotten that each entity has it different role to play on a child growth and that of parent must not be left vacant as charity begins at home.

Try all what you can to make them happy. Let them see their home as the best.

but never spare the rod whenever there's need to exercise it's use on them, very important, here am not talking about child abuse, please noted.

[Mr.right85]

Are they not? With regards to the thread's subject.
Children would always becomes most parents at least, the responsible onces with a sense of duty. They would always be a first priority but the levels to the up bringing and care for a child differs. Some could account due to lack of resources, some could arise base on the relationship between child's mum and dad, not excluding the circumstances to which the child was conceived (which is of no fault of the child) and others counts for children that aren't biologically related to us.

In the real sense, every child is your child. Because, they tend to learn from you when you can and if you willing and ready to teach to them. Children grow with  a sense of respect for elders and authority but, when the training is lacking, you see rather societal insecure youth. Mostly, the fault on adults who turned a blind eye.

[yazher]

I may fail with my life due to a lack of resources to learn or to reach my goal but not with my children, I will do all I can to help them reach their goals,s and when I see that they finally made it and accomplished everything they want, I would be more than happy than accomplishing whatever goal I had back then. There's no happiness compared to seeing your sons and daughters happy and as a parent, you will do everything you can to support them if it's good for them.

[merchantofzeny]

And you have to start them young. With how the world is these days, sometimes good parenting wouldn't be enough. I think main priority is to teach them to be able to resist peer pressure later on when they hit their teens. That's usually want fuck up many people's lives.

[coolcoinz]

And you have to start them young. With how the world is these days, sometimes good parenting wouldn't be enough. I think main priority is to teach them to be able to resist peer pressure later on when they hit their teens. That's usually want fuck up many people's lives.

The biggest threat is the media that bombard children with unnecessary information, commercials, sex and violence from the early days. If you don't buy them a phone they'll watch videos with their friends who have phones and also blame you for not allowing them to be like their friends. What are they going to watch? Kids on TikTok drinking detergents and eating bugs, people getting out of their cars to dance or recording themselves with their phones while driving and showing off their expensive clothes and homes. I have no idea how to stop my kid from being exposed to this and at the same time not to keep her in a cage.

[Agbe]

You tried for the article but you still need a very long way to go concerning parenting and bringing up a child. This topic you create is bigger than your thoughts. But you tried. Let me break it down small for you though I can also tell you everything but just small.
First of all. Who is a responsible parent? A responsible parent is the parent that provides all the Social needs to their children. Even not all, at least 85%.  Mostly the basic needs in the family. Shelter, food, clothes. Those are the primary needs in any family. Then the secondary needs are education, skill, and provision of job if possible.

But one thing we must know, a child destiny is with the child. The parents has nothing to do with the way the child will become they can only guide the child to grow up with a good character. There is a saying in education. I can't really remember the author name but it is in a educational curriculum text book and it says "your destiny is in your hands, the way you want your life to be that is how it will be".

Therefore, you don't have to blame parents for the down fall of their children. That is how they want their life to be. There is a book (a novel) called "Without a Silver Spoon". And that book explain that nobody come to this world with a silver spoon.

[OgNasty]

There is definitely an attack against our youth happening and if you can't see it you're blind.  The drag shows, renaming pedophiles to 'minor attracted persons', having a president who's own children have accused him of sexual assault...  The children are most definitely the first priority of the democratic party, who seems hell bent on removing their morals and making them comfortable with hyper-sexualization.  Protect your kids.  The government won't.

[Adbitco]

I will also like to include numbers of birthing, as a parent you (we) are meant to give at least 2 children or maximum 3 but nowadays some parents are very loosed birthing 6 to 10 children commonly in the African region more especially Nigerians. They kept blaming uncle's, Auntie, Relatives for not taking good care of their children while they couldn't control their selves during child bearing.

[NdaMk]

I will also like to include numbers of birthing, as a parent you (we) are meant to give at least 2 children or maximum 3 but nowadays some parents are very loosed birthing 6 to 10 children commonly in the African region more especially Nigerians. They kept blaming uncle's, Auntie, Relatives for not taking good care of their children while they couldn't control their selves during child bearing.

I quite agree with you about birth control most especially in Africa but stating the number to be between 3 maximum Is what I don't go with. Rather it should be to the number of ones capabilities. Our grandparents where able to take care of more than 20 children. Although times have change but there are still people that could easily take care of 10+ children. Moreover some of us wouldn't have been birthed if it had stopped at number 3

[Gyfts]

Creat the fear of God in them.

My only omission from your list. Teach them about culture, not instilling god-fearing hyperbole about the deepest parts of hell or jahannam in order to coerce young minds into submission. Children don't need religion to live morally virtuous lives, and they don't need to be fearful of god in order to make good decisions. We live in the most peaceful time in human history because we've escaped the dogma that's contributed to some of the deadliest wars in history. No need to go back.

[BADecker]

Creat the fear of God in them.

My only omission from your list. Teach them about culture, not instilling god-fearing hyperbole about the deepest parts of hell or jahannam in order to coerce young minds into submission. Children don't need religion to live morally virtuous lives, and they don't need to be fearful of god in order to make good decisions. We live in the most peaceful time in human history because we've escaped the dogma that's contributed to some of the deadliest wars in history. No need to go back.

The fear of God is the most important part of life-training, for everyone.

Since God created everything, He has control of everything. He works for people and their freedom, in perfect ways that match how people think of Him, and whatever relationship they have with Him.

The best and greatest thing God does for people is to offer them eternal life in Heaven. Everything else is secondary.

It's time for all people to consciously recognize that God exists, and to learn about Him and His love that He has for all people. Fear or threat of loss is nothing compared with the joys of Heaven that will be gained... through respectfully and properly acknowledging God.

[electronicash]

Parenting go along way to affect children's life styles

even the Holy Bible says, Teach your child in the way he should go, so he won't depart from it when he grows, parents should understand this fact and respect it as a responsibility vested on them as long as they are the guardians, we don't need to be told before doing our rights as parents, many has faulted the community and government over the upbringings of their children but they have forgotten that each entity has it different role to play on a child growth and that of parent must not be left vacant as charity begins at home.

Try all what you can to make them happy. Let them see their home as the best.

but never spare the rod whenever there's need to exercise it's use on them, very important, here am not talking about child abuse, please noted.

you won't be able to teach  your kid if you give them all they want. i really would want my kid to go through all the kinds of problems even when he still is a kid because i don't want him to think of suicide with just a simple broken heart or dumped by a girl.

its why i want him to experienced getting bullied and see how he would act. if he avoid those kids, then good. if he fights back then good for he finds solutions.

[Gosgosking]

Every child deserves a good parental treatment and concern,  children can't determine how they can live but only parent have the responsibility to plan and pattern them better for the future.  Children are like a tender tree that the owner can choose to bend it that will suit him, that is how children are like.

[348Judah]

Every child deserves a good parental treatment and concern,  children can't determine how they can live but only parent have the responsibility to plan and pattern them better for the future.  Children are like a tender tree that the owner can choose to bend it that will suit him, that is how children are like.

Also in addition to this, children are the heritage of parents and either a person gives birth or not it is still someone's else's child that will bury such persons at old age, children were expected to give regards to everyone they have an encounter with regardless of being their parents or not, because that adults stage will sure speak on them too one day which is an inevitable old age that we will all pass through, parents should learn to teach their children while yound just as a fish can only tend to bend while still fresh, if dried it might be already too late to do.

[Findingnemo]

We can't dictate which should be someone's priority if they wish other for, anyway parents should give good life to their kids and they even dedicate their whole life for their growth, education and ensuring the good future but how many kids understand all the efforts by the parents? Most kids take all these for granted and waste their life.

[apankay]

Parenting is the hardest job that require full involvement of both the father and the mother. Most parents these days want their children to have all the things they don't have when they were younger, this makes them work more and have less time for parenting. The worst thing you can do for your children is just ignore them and allow nature to take its course. Plan on training them but never get around to it. Children need the constant sunshine of their parents’ smile and approval. They need to be pointed in the right direction day after day.

[BADecker]

If God isn't your first priority, your children might not even be your second.

[Zlantann]

We can't dictate which should be someone's priority if they wish other for, anyway parents should give good life to their kids and they even dedicate their whole life for their growth, education and ensuring the good future but how many kids understand all the efforts by the parents? Most kids take all these for granted and waste their life.

Yeah, parents must ensure they provide all the basic needs that children should have. Food, clothing, shelter, education, health care, etc are all important needs parents must ensure they provide. But apart from these needs, parents must ensure they imbibe the right attitude and behavior in their children.
And the best way of imbibe these true and pure virtues is by role modelling. Parents must ensure they act, talk and behviourthey way they want their kids to.

They must be taught the virtue of patience, hard work, love and selflessness at a very tender age.Parents should teach them to Love God because He is the Creator and Giver of Life. They must be taught how to love their neighbour as themselves. This would make them become good members of the society. And they must also learn to love themselves the way they are. They don't need to change their sex, physical appearance or body structure to become acceptable in the society.  

[Findingnemo]

We can't dictate which should be someone's priority if they wish other for, anyway parents should give good life to their kids and they even dedicate their whole life for their growth, education and ensuring the good future but how many kids understand all the efforts by the parents? Most kids take all these for granted and waste their life.

Yeah, parents must ensure they provide all the basic needs that children should have. Food, clothing, shelter, education, health care, etc are all important needs parents must ensure they provide. But apart from these needs, parents must ensure they imbibe the right attitude and behavior in their children.
And the best way of imbibe these true and pure virtues is by role modelling. Parents must ensure they act, talk and behviourthey way they want their kids to.

They must be taught the virtue of patience, hard work, love and selflessness at a very tender age.Parents should teach them to Love God because He is the Creator and Giver of Life. They must be taught how to love their neighbour as themselves. This would make them become good members of the society. And they must also learn to love themselves the way they are. They don't need to change their sex, physical appearance or body structure to become acceptable in the society.  

Well yeah but its really difficult task to be a parent I mean the perfect parent than anything in this world.

Kids are going to follow their parents and society, so as a parent if they care about how their kids wanted to be then teach the moral lessons and actual knowledge instead of forcing them for graduation.