A Chinese Man Won $29,392,922.00 & Refused to tell His Wife and child

[coin-investor]

We are all in conflict if the man has done the right thing but for me, family is everything, and charity starts at home, you'll be a big failure if you raise a family that you think will be lazy and doesn't value money, even if you are very rich that doesn't mean that you cannot raise a good family, you will have to trust yourself, and your family why are we working to death if we think that our family doesn't deserve the fortune that we all working to have.
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[Slow death]

A man knows his family more than anyone...if he says this is what he wants then there is more to this decision than we know, do not judge him unless you know and understand how it feels to be in his shoe.

I've seen wives, daughters and sons that only knows how to squander money on unnecessary things because their husbands can afford it.

If a wife is very productive his man will be willing to bring them up, some don't know how to turn 2+2 to 4, all they know is spending.

The problem with that thinking is that if it doesn't count for anything, then how the hell is he expected to spend the money? he's not rich, so if he's not rich and says that his wife and children spend a lot, why didn't his wife and children abandon him to look for someone rich and still stay with him even though he's poor? now that he wins the lottery and gets rich and is already complaining about his wife and son? Don't you think that this kind of people are bad people and that they are worthless and have no character? lying is wrong, no matter what kind of justification this guy has, he is lying to his wife and children and that is wrong, not to mention that if he married the woman in community of property then he hides that he won the lottery and then spending all the money without the woman knowing, the day she finds out they can put him in court and he will have to pay compensation to the woman, not to mention that the court will force him to pay the child's bills and they won't give him custody of the child, I don't know how can a person have this kind of cruel thought of hiding things from his wife


it seems that this type of bad and reprehensible and shameful behavior is becoming frequent by people who earn a lot of money and then hide it from their wife and child and always use the same argument that they cannot tell because the wife and child are going to spend a lot and not they will value life, honestly this is the kind of thinking of a bad person, dictator, liar and disgusting. when he didn't have much this wife of his and children stayed with him, so if they spend a lot or don't value things, how are they still with him when he, with his salary, must not be rich? now that he has made a lot of money he is making his wife and son live with little when he has a lot of money. something bad

[Sandra_hakeem]

A southern China Mann won 219 millions Yuan which is equivalent to $29,392,922.00 and kept all bybhim himself without telling his wife and child for the fear that it will change their life and will not make them not to work again. And he gave 5 millions yuan to charity home.

Why would he refuse to tell his wifey and family about his progress? I'm seeing these as some kinda greedy excuse. Did he finally tell 'em bout it? If not, then he must be an ass; to keep away this information from his family and decide to publicize it over the air,.... Ahhh, that's awkward.
I believe what anyone is hustling consistently for -- is the cash, and if one person, out of the whole family gets 'em racks in bulk, it should be something to sustain and keep the whole family grounded....what has laziness got to do with that? - atleast that's how I see it. So that means that if he's fortunate to get 'em racks up to like.... a billion dollars, then he'll quit his family, Incessant!!

Sandra 💇

[nakamura12]

I never heard or know something like this where a person won very huge amount of money in gambling but refused to tell the wife/husband and their child about his/her winning in gambling. If that was me then I would do the same not to tell my family about the money I won in gambling especially if the amount is almost $30 million but I won't hesitate to spend some of it for daily needs and if ever my wife ask for some money then I will surely give some, pay for bills, child's tuition + other expenses, buy land/property to start an apartment business and other business that I can think of and most of all which is to keep a decent amount of money for emergencies. The reason of why I will hide it is because in my country and the place where I live is that when someone won in a lottery or in a casino then most of my neighbors (except those who are rich) will ask that person to spare some money or you could say spare some changes (It is called either balato(ba-la-to) or meron(me-ron) - don't know what it is called in different provinces in my country).

[dothebeats]

I would understand him. Most people who came from a family that is not doing so well financially would certainly take this opportunity to slack off and do nothing for the rest of their lives. They'd surely try to avoid working as much as they could and just rely on the money that they have thinking that is an endless pit with an endless supply of water that they can get resources from. Not judging the man's family in any way, but I heard stories of lottery winners losing their winnings in a short span of time because they refused working and just splurged on the money that they won without regard for their future.

[GiftedMAN]

I think the man is wrong for refusing to tell his wife and children about his win, it's crazy for him to keep such good news away from his family but feels good to do some charity work outside too bad. I think this is the time for him to utilize the opportunity to establish his family with the money so that they won't struggle again and he should invest wisely because if he doesn't, he may end up gambling with the remaining money and nothing will be left for him when all the money is gone.


Charity they say begins at home because when the money was not there he was with his family so I think he should consider informing his family (wife and children) so he won't end up referring it when they get to know about it from someone else.

[Coin_trader]

This story seems to be similar to this link https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=5419252.msg61345254#msg61345254

But in fairness, he gave a lot to charity, in fact, 5M yuan is still not a joke amount. But the only difference between this and the link I gave is that he is afraid or worried that he won't be able to work because they already have many families. And it seems that he doesn't want their behavior to change badly just because of money, the kind of person who doesn't want his family to be lazy because of the thought that they have a lot of money, that's how I understand this article.

You spotted actually the same story and same article for this thread. I dunno where you get the 5M Yuan but the OP already updated it to 219M Yuan equivalent to 30M USD that exact same to the previous story on the different thread you provided. I also read this thread before and makes me research same as you the moment I read the similarity of the story. No one notice because they are busy on replying in the story instead of doing some research first.

OP should lock this thread because the same topic is already get 6 pager reply while this topic will just cause recycled post without other user knowing it.

This is just a recycled story guys!

[aioc]

A southern China Mann won 219 millions Yuan which is equivalent to $29,392,922.00 and kept all bybhim himself without telling his wife and child for the fear that it will change their life and will not make them not to work again. And he gave 5 millions yuan to charity home. And contemplating what to do with the remaining amount. He said, "I didn't tell my wife and child, for the fear that they would be too complacent and would not work or hard work in the future".
What do say about this kind of man?

Man Keeps Whopping N13 Billion in Lottery Winnings from His Family: “I Didn’t Tell My Wife and Child”

I think he's lying the truth is he may be unfaithful to his family and he has another family or concubinage and if the secret comes out he will have to part his winnings with two families, men who kept their money with their family are usually infidels they hid their money to their wife so he can support his other woman or women or he has other vices that he wants to sustain like gambling, a real father will not hide his winning to his family his alibi is a very bad alibi and not acceptable.

[roslinpl]

Really it is very big money, it's enough for the person to live the peaceful life. He gave the funds to charity home was the impressive one. Because no one had the charitable mind and helping mind for now. All the people living the materialistic life for now. All keep add their money for their future and then they keep add the money again. Such people never change of their mind. And one fun factor is here, the person had said us he never shared his wife and child. But he had said all of us here. And if his wife started to surf in internet. It's enough to find his hidden secrets.

[molsewid]

A man knows his family more than anyone...if he says this is what he wants then there is more to this decision than we know, do not judge him unless you know and understand how it feels to be in his shoe.

I've seen wives, daughters and sons that only knows how to squander money on unnecessary things because their husbands can afford it.

If a wife is very productive his man will be willing to bring them up, some don't know how to turn 2+2 to 4, all they know is spending.

I agree with you, we really don't know the real reason behind that thing so we can't say any thing to it, if that's what he really want then let him do it. I know the he just do it because he has a plan in the future. He just want to let his family work smarter or harder in the future and not depend their own future in the money they already have.

[janggernaut]

None. Why would i care about others money? They can do whatever he wants with it. Our opinions or comments are nothing for him, and nothing will be change with our lives whatever the answer. It's his money, he won it, even he never tell anyone, it's his money, not yours or ours.

[boyptc]

That's his belief in life and if that's for the good of his family, I'm sure that he won't say that he won that much but he'll still provide them with all their needs.

It's like he's going to buy stuff here and there but will never mention that he's got a lot of money for him to provide for them. Well, that's his way of care for them.

[Findingnemo]

A southern China Mann won 219 millions Yuan which is equivalent to $29,392,922.00 and kept all bybhim himself without telling his wife and child for the fear that it will change their life and will not make them not to work again. And he gave 5 millions yuan to charity home. And contemplating what to do with the remaining amount. He said, "I didn't tell my wife and child, for the fear that they would be too complacent and would not work or hard work in the future".
What do say about this kind of man?

Man Keeps Whopping N13 Billion in Lottery Winnings from His Family: “I Didn’t Tell My Wife and Child”

But keeping it under the own custody and let the family to suffer is right? When the situation can be avoided!

I would probably share it with the family but as a man its important to teach them the financial management also provide better life style with money and invest the remaining so they no need to work they can live from the returns itself if the person is capable of finding right investments.

[bittraffic]

I think that is not something new in the gambling. There are bunch of news about the winner refused to publish their identity for the various reason. Im thinking about that guy may not wanna see his wife knows if he was actively doing gambling. That's why even he was winning big reward and his wife may become lazy to did work with him caused by he understood once someone was winning big reward and it can make his family become lazy and they didn't wanna work again. I think that must become most potential reason why he didn't wanna tell his wife and child about his reward from doing gambling.
There were so many old cases that pretty similar with it. From his reason if he wants also educate his family to always working hard and not depends with the reward that already won.
that's such a very wise decision by him to educate his family.

Yep this is not new anymore and there was an old thread about the Chinese guy who wore a mascot while receiving his check.

If it were me, I think I would also do the same so that my family will not just get lazier every day but also greedy. If a kid knows his family is pretty rich, he might not go to school anymore. The worst-case scenario is that this is extreme to a point where family members murder a father so they inherit the money.

[Cling18]

A southern China Mann won 219 millions Yuan which is equivalent to $29,392,922.00 and kept all bybhim himself without telling his wife and child for the fear that it will change their life and will not make them not to work again. And he gave 5 millions yuan to charity home. And contemplating what to do with the remaining amount. He said, "I didn't tell my wife and child, for the fear that they would be too complacent and would not work or hard work in the future".
What do say about this kind of man?

Man Keeps Whopping N13 Billion in Lottery Winnings from His Family: “I Didn’t Tell My Wife and Child”

This is a childish act of someone who is supposed to be the foundation of the family. As a father, your priority should be your family to experience a comfortable life so hiding everything from them will be unfair. They have the right to know since they're all living in the same household. He should sharehis wealth with his family and just tell them the right thing to do with the money. It's understandable if he wants to keep his identity private but hiding it from his wife and kids will be too selfish because his family should be his top priority.

[pawanjain]

Now this is something that we don't get to hear everyday. Most of the times people either spend their money lavishly or invest some and keep gambling with other.
What I wonder about this man is that if he has such ideology that his wife and children will become lazy if he has so much money then why did he gamble at first place.
Did he had so much money that he could gamble for fun or did he gamble to win.
It doesn't really make much sense to me why would the man do that. He could have simply used some of the money, invested some, took some money aside for his family and put the rest as a will or inheritance for his family.
There are other good things to do besides hiding it from his own family.

[el kaka22]

Well, he is an idiot for sure. It's not about working or not, just because you got money doesn't mean you would have to stop working, you could still keep working. But that kind of money would give you the chance not to get abused, normally if your boss asks you to stay after the shop is closed and clean the place when it’s not your job, then you could not say no because you need the job but with this you could say no.

I work on a freelance job, but if I make 30+ million dollars in a single day, I will probably give a bit of break first and go to vacation but then I will come back and still work, because what am I suppose to do with my life? I would be bored if I stopped working all together, hence why I will keep working to keep my sanity.

[bitzizzix]

Only he knows the truth, and I think the reason he doesn't want to share and also doesn't want his wife and kids to know about big wins is, because in the end the winning money will still be used.
And maybe they are afraid of wasting money on unimportant things or spending it in the wrong way because they know the bad nature of their children and wives, so keeping it a secret is the best option. Dan will continue to use them when needed and for the long haul because he knows he has a long way to go in life and that is what he is worried about.
and he does a deed that I think no one else does, and I judge this in my opinion he is a good person and has good intentions for his family.

[serjent05]

A southern China Mann won 219 millions Yuan which is equivalent to $29,392,922.00 and kept all bybhim himself without telling his wife and child for the fear that it will change their life and will not make them not to work again. And he gave 5 millions yuan to charity home. And contemplating what to do with the remaining amount. He said, "I didn't tell my wife and child, for the fear that they would be too complacent and would not work or hard work in the future".
What do say about this kind of man?

Man Keeps Whopping N13 Billion in Lottery Winnings from His Family: “I Didn’t Tell My Wife and Child”

At first his reasoning is somehow reasonable but in deeper thought, an idea of the man having deeper reason behind what he is stating is very possible.  I can say his reasoning is somehow full of loop holes and crap.

As a father, his responsibility is to secure his family of their needs.  Aside from commodities, the family needs reassurance, meaning father is responsible of securing his family's mental stability towards what will happen in the next few days.  And hiding his new-found wealth doesn't solve that.

What comes in my mind is that, the father has some issues that he is hiding.  It is possible that he has another woman, vices or something that needs huge amount of money to maintain and he wanted to not let his wife to learn of his financial capabilities to avoid confrontation about where the money goes.

Only he knows the truth, and I think the reason he doesn't want to share and also doesn't want his wife and kids to know about big wins is, because in the end the winning money will still be used.
And maybe they are afraid of wasting money on unimportant things or spending it in the wrong way because they know the bad nature of their children and wives, so keeping it a secret is the best option. Dan will continue to use them when needed and for the long haul because he knows he has a long way to go in life and that is what he is worried about.
and he does a deed that I think no one else does, and I judge this in my opinion he is a good person and has good intentions for his family.

True the man only knows why he said that but we are here to discuss if it's fair or not.  And I say it is not fair for the family to not know their wealth.  His reasons is full of fault, because we all know richer people work way more hours than ordinary employee to ensure that their wealth will not diminish.

[uneng]

Aren't these news manufactured? Some weeks ago we have seen an exactly story like this one, but it was about a japanese man. Now they come with a story about a chinese man, displaying a picture of the probable man that looks more a model from google images.

Anyway, the justification has a noble purpose and in case it's real, I can understand why the winner chose acting like this. Money changes people's minds or reveal their natural instincts. The man is simply trying to preserve his family from turning greedy and lazy.