Allegations has dealt with so many that the find forgiveness as a taboo. It has injured innocent hearts, buried the heart and sympathy of lovely people, sold the conscience of the happy. It has eaten up the good days of the merriers It might take forever to let go of hurts from allegations. I am still searching to know how to heal the pains that get associated with allegation.
usually an allegation itself does not do the massive harm
its either the after-gossip spread of multiple people then treating you differently or more often its actually you personally victimising yourself by re-playing the allegation in your head long after the person making an allegation has moved out of your proximity and got on with their life
speaking of the second one.
if you are in grief of some allegation made against you. and you are reading this now still feeling hurt by an allegation
take a breath and look around the room you are sat in.
is the accuser present
can you reach and touch them
if you said words using your mouth now out loud, would they hear you
if you cant touch them or speak to them . then they are not affecting you now.
YOU are affecting you right now in your position you are in now.
find ways to trick your mind into NOT perceiving it as a current threat. tell your brain to shut up and you will think about it on a day where you can do something about it.
dont think of the past. tell your brain to find the solutions for the future
EG will you sue them. will you research stuff that can prove your innocence to provide them. or if you fo not wish to pursue it. tell your mind not to pursue it and then think about other things
easier said than done. but with enough attempts to cut your brain mid flow of a history tour. helps reduce the harm you do on yourself repeating thoughts in your head