Gambling Is for the strong.

[Bananington]

But then he asked me' bro assuming I had gathered all these money I have lost through gambling and channeled it into some sort of a little business or project, wouldn't it have been better!  At that moment I never knew the exact word to give to him as I never expected such deep a question, for the least I replied him was "hmm I can't really say".

The answer you gave is the best answer for someone in his situation. He was gambling to win, because he expected to make money so he kept spending money gambling, now he regrets because his expectation has not been met. If he was not gambling, there is certainty that whatever he had put the money into will not land him in this same position of regrets. Tell your friend that what is done is done, and money gone is gone.

[Taskford]

But then he asked me' bro assuming I had gathered all these money I have lost through gambling and channeled it into some sort of a little business or project, wouldn't it have been better!  At that moment I never knew the exact word to give to him as I never expected such deep a question, for the least I replied him was "hmm I can't really say".

The answer you gave is the best answer for someone in his situation. He was gambling to win, because he expected to make money so he kept spending money gambling, now he regrets because his expectation has not been met. If he was not gambling, there is certainty that whatever he had put the money into will not land him in this same position of regrets. Tell your friend that what is done is done, and money gone is gone.

Yeah best advise to give is to move on and learn from his mistake since if he still regret those losses for sure he cannot move on fast with that. Maybe add up if he can't afford to gamble maybe he need to stop and find other ways to entertain his self like making his little plans came true since for sure this could help a lot to save his ass away to gamble back again.

[DevilSlayer]

Gambling is for the strong and sturdy.
 With this, I wondered if other person's here in the forum that are into gambling too has at any point in time thought or felt that way, particularly when the losses are becoming overwhelming. And in that case, should such person stop gambling and rather divert such monies into something else since he/she ain't making corresponding wins or more, checking his bet history, Or he should carry on with hopes that winnings will start creeping in someday gradually?

No matter how strong your desire to win a large sum in gambling is, always try to keep yourself in hand and not give in to false urges. I'm just judging by myself since I've never had big wins and just even if I use the available free funds for the game, it's just for fun.

There are 2 types of people who playing some gambling games, the 1st type is the people who seek fun wherein they have positive attitude whatever the outcome. They are playing for them to satisfy their dopamine and also their desire. The other type of gambler is the one who seek money, the one who want to extract money from the gambling platform but only few are able to make it and majority of them having ginancial disaster because they lose big amount of money in gambling.

I'm a type of gambler who seek for fun but also there are times that I want to win and extract some money. The thing is, I have strong mental fortitude that helps me to decide well in gambling. I usually bet in NBA games, Esports games and other betting games that requires analysis for me to have a higher chance of winning.

[swogerino]

Gambling is for the strong and sturdy.
 I got this caption based on what happened when I visited an old friend of mine as it's been long since we saw, and so, after a little time out together with random discussions I discovered a sudden change in his mood while we're still chatting. With a steady look on his phone in his hands for about a minute or more as he scrolled up and down the phone screen repeatedly he shrouded his shoulders with a simultaneous regrettable look all over his face.
I took the phone from him only to learn that my friend has been calculating the whole series of losses he has made from all the bets he has placed from one of the gambling site he patronize. He had made a multiples of losses in almost all the games he had placed bet on  right from the start of this year, even to the current bet of that very day.

But then he asked me' bro assuming I had gathered all these money I have lost through gambling and channeled it into some sort of a little business or project, wouldn't it have been better!  At that moment I never knew the exact word to give to him as I never expected such deep a question, for the least I replied him was "hmm I can't really say".

With this, I wondered if other person's here in the forum that are into gambling too has at any point in time thought or felt that way, particularly when the losses are becoming overwhelming. And in that case, should such person stop gambling and rather divert such monies into something else since he/she ain't making corresponding wins or more, checking his bet history, Or he should carry on with hopes that winnings will start creeping in someday gradually?

That is addiction which is created when a person cannot really think of a side project or business like your friend only when he saw that he had lost that huge amount of money started to think about.I was in such situation in the 2020-2021 as I only cared to hit the spin button on slot machines not caring much what was happening to me and this was exactly as I had no side hobby,every money I made from mining I lost it in slot machines in different casinos.Luckily in 2022 I searched about this option of staking coins to get additional passive income as this was what I was trying to do in the slot machines,trying to hit a jackpot to improve my way of living which is a wrong approach.Since I found that I can stake different coins I keep doing it and every time I got some urge to gamble I deposit in my wallet where I stake coins and add the number of staked coins so I can make more money passively.

Trust me as I have been betting from a long time,it is better to get assured income rather than waiting for that big win.

[mamesso]

In the past, I also often suffered defeats like what your friend felt, after that I stopped opening gambling sites and started thinking for a while. The constant defeats that befall me are not a factor of being unlucky, it's impossible that every time I play I often lose, my friends can win at any time while I very rarely win.

After I watched and studied my friends play, I started to find bright spots in playing. When fighting the system, I have to use reason not lust, reason can control emotions when I'm losing or winning. If you keep playing when you lose or win, there is no balance left because the system is very hard to beat. Stop playing for a while when the position is not profitable, if you continue playing you will lose all of your balance.

[len01]

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the first thing your friend should do is take a few months off and stay away from gambling before things get worse. if the effort to stay away from gambling is successful, then you give directions to immediately open a small business or something else that makes your friend more busy unthinkable by gambling.

I give such advice because I have told you many times that I was devastated very badly by gambling and lost all my valuables and all my money. after I realized I avoided gambling and all kinds related to gambling after I could control myself could stay away from gambling I made a business to forget gambling and after that I got married. and after getting married I returned to gambling but always planned a budget for gambling without having to exceed my budget limit. so when the gambling budget is a few dollars for a week and it runs out before the specified time, I will not make another deposit and my wife always reminds me.

so the advice I give is from my personal experience.

[bitzizzix]

What the OP is talking about looks like not only his friend has this because my friend has the same thing every time I see him he always stares at his phone very seriously and he gambles.
and suddenly he complains that he always loses and when he won before he keeps playing because he hopes to win again and wants to make up for his previous losses, and also says he wants to work or do business to forget the bets he plays almost every day, and with I totally support him and I also encourage his changes.
and finally not long after he got a job and after spending a month he worked, then he stopped doing the habit of gambling every day and he says he still plays in his spare time or only on holidays. Even then he had to do it by dividing his time for other things.
and I conclude that being busy or working is the solution for gambling addicts to reduce their gambling activities, because gamblers who mostly accept defeat will continue to play because they have no other activity besides gambling and only rely on money from their parents.
and I asked my friend what made him change, first because he couldn't gamble for a while, working from morning to evening cleaning, eating and watching television or entertainment on social media and then taking a break because he felt tired.
and secondly, he regrets, if his hard-earned money is used for gambling and although he still does it in his limited free time and only for entertainment.

and even though my story is not entirely successful, at least it can reduce gambling activity and restore intention, and if indeed the intention is true at least don't experience large or continuous losses and also be aware that gambling is only for entertainment. And gambling will be a little profitable if we don't keep playing and also limit mods and games because luck will spin because if we often play and get wins or luck but after experiencing many defeats.
And if we rarely gamble and when we win or are lucky we still get small wins, because before we didn't play much and also lost.

[Maslate]

Personally, I consider myself strong because of my many bad experiences in gambling. When I was new to gambling, I made a lot of mistakes, and learning wasn't easy for me. However, I eventually learned how to become responsible in gambling. The first thing we need to know as gamblers is  understanding the risk and our chances because if we understand that, we will know that losses are just part of gambling. We also need to learn how to control our emotions as it can lead us to disaster if we can't control them.

This kind of entertainment is for smart people. Dumb people should not gamble as it can destroy their lives. What happens to them will be blamed on gambling instead of blaming themselves for poor decision making. That's why responsible gambling is highly advised, or else you'll suffer a big defeat.

[molsewid]

Personally, I consider myself strong because of my many bad experiences in gambling. When I was new to gambling, I made a lot of mistakes, and learning wasn't easy for me. However, I eventually learned how to become responsible in gambling. The first thing we need to know as gamblers is  understanding the risk and our chances because if we understand that, we will know that losses are just part of gambling. We also need to learn how to control our emotions as it can lead us to disaster if we can't control them.

This kind of entertainment is for smart people. Dumb people should not gamble as it can destroy their lives. What happens to them will be blamed on gambling instead of blaming themselves for poor decision making. That's why responsible gambling is highly advised, or else you'll suffer a big defeat.

The thing is, OP's friend is not aware that he is now addicted to gambling and that is not good, if that happens to your friend maybe you should try to give him advice so that he will stop gambling for now or for his entire life because as what you can see, he is slowly having a regret and soon it will turn to hatred or maybe he will go and gamble more often than before because he wants to return what he lose. Everyone might feel this thing but gambling needs a strong emotional capacity as well.

[Davidvictorson]

Addicts always have regrets or feel guilty whenever they experience a loss. And when they win or are on a winning streak these thoughts are far from them. As a friend to your friend, speak to him and help him quit gambling because obviously he needs your help. Anyone who feels this way is just an irresponsible gambler who has failed to set a gambling budget.

[rahmad2nd]

With this, I wondered if other person's here in the forum that are into gambling too has at any point in time thought or felt that way, particularly when the losses are becoming overwhelming. And in that case, should such person stop gambling and rather divert such monies into something else since he/she ain't making corresponding wins or more, checking his bet history, Or he should carry on with hopes that winnings will start creeping in someday gradually?

The most important thing for gamblers to realize is that gambling is an activity that carries risks.
I am sure that most gamblers know very well, that the probability of winning that we have is smaller than the ratio of losses that we will get. Gamblers must realize that activities involving this one hobby should not be used as land for earning income.

So, gamble according to your means. that is, a gambler must accustom himself to playing with money that is ready to lose. plus, without having to always chase every loss that has been experienced. in the case of your friend, there is an old saying. that regret always comes too late. I mean, that your friend is sorry for all the money he has lost on his gambling. most likely, that your friend is a gambling addict. So, IMO, your job as a friend is just to advise him. plus, giving him an understanding of gambling. also, telling him to make gambling just part of the fun, without harming himself.

[SirLancelot]

That is addiction which is created when a person cannot really think of a side project or business like your friend only when he saw that he had lost that huge amount of money started to think about.I was in such situation in the 2020-2021 as I only cared to hit the spin button on slot machines not caring much what was happening to me and this was exactly as I had no side hobby,every money I made from mining I lost it in slot machines in different casinos.Luckily in 2022 I searched about this option of staking coins to get additional passive income as this was what I was trying to do in the slot machines,trying to hit a jackpot to improve my way of living which is a wrong approach.Since I found that I can stake different coins I keep doing it and every time I got some urge to gamble I deposit in my wallet where I stake coins and add the number of staked coins so I can make more money passively.

Trust me as I have been betting from a long time,it is better to get assured income rather than waiting for that big win.

Many of us here doesn't even have a business or a side project but no we didn't became an addict. It's only up to our control plus each of us must have other things to do in our life. By doing them, we are not heavily exposed in gambling and reduces our chance of becoming an addict to it.

When we gamble, we are actually aware of what we are doing but we only got carried away of that small wins we are getting and in our minds, we said that need to continue to able to find a bigger win. Add in the eye catching graphics and the nice sounds of that slot machines which make it almost impossible to stop playing on them but one is only forced to stop once they have no more in their balance.

It's great that you came back on the right path. Your idea of diverting your attention to staking is nice but you shouldn't be guilty to gamble small. Just practice a self control and you will soon enjoy gambling without problems like the rest of us.

[serjent05]

[.....]But then he asked me' bro assuming I had gathered all these money I have lost through gambling and channeled it into some sort of a little business or project, wouldn't it have been better!  At that moment I never knew the exact word to give to him as I never expected such deep a question, for the least I replied him was "hmm I can't really say".

I hear this quite a lot from people advising others to stop their drinking or smoking vices. I guess your friend has turned his gambling into a vice as well if he already asked you that.

I think his friend had already taken gambling as a vice and has some kind of awakening that he is wasting money thus the thinking of regrets and the what ifs.

And in that case, should such person stop gambling and rather divert such monies into something else since he/she ain't making corresponding wins or more, checking his bet history, Or he should carry on with hopes that winnings will start creeping in someday gradually?

Nobody would know if his little business or project would have generated profit if he decides to divert his money so this is probably a case to case basis. Does he have the skills to run a business or make the right investments? I think you were right when you responded "I can't really say".

Still diverting the money to business than gambling is much better.  Who knows, the person might have a knack for business.  So his friend can try, oftentimes people learn things when the situation is on-hand.  Others even discover their hidden potential when they are in the situation.

[redsun114]

I don't think that's the right word to use in the title. Gambling is for anyone who are willing to risk their money either lose all of it or for a chance to double or triple the amount of money that the gamblers is risking while also having fun or seek what they sought in gambling like feeling the thrill of it, other reasons or whatever they are looking for in gambling.

He won't came up with a title like that for no reason. Just read the thread contents and you will see why he choose those. Gambling is not for anyone but there are restrictions whether it's in country, religion, and age.

Most of us play gambling with one thing on our mind, and that is to win a profit. We almost forgot that the possibility of losing in gambling is very high and once we lose we just regret it badly. This is what happens to the friend of the OP, that is why the OP thinks his friend is too weak to handle his losses.

If we are on his shoes I think we will also feel the same because the amount that he lose are kinda huge but his friend should not regret it and think that he better put the money on other things because gambling still provides him a different kind of fun and thrill that can't possibly be experienced anywhere else.

[famososMuertos]

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First of all, tremendous context to OP narrative story.

 Friend, after the pandemic I was submerged in delivery-pickup, it is almost every day, my wife tells me that it is at the level of obsession.

 Then I thought wow I have spent a few extra dollars that I could have saved, but since I could spend it, it's okay.

 Likewise the bets if it is money available for that, no problema, is like to enjoy hobby.

 For gains you have to move your "skill", really, so, there are loss compensation in many ways, just find them.

[CryptoHeadlineNews]

With this, I wondered if other person's here in the forum that are into gambling too has at any point in time thought or felt that way, particularly when the losses are becoming overwhelming. And in that case, should such person stop gambling and rather divert such monies into something else since he/she ain't making corresponding wins or more, checking his bet history, Or he should carry on with hopes that winnings will start creeping in someday gradually?

It's nice bringing up this discussion to the forum, as you never can tell, there might be gamblers like this here facing such an issue and yet don't know what to do, of which any piece of advice given here will likely go a long way to these gamblers.
So for me, I will kindly say that gambling is not meant for everyone, and if you happen to notice it's not working for you, it's better you just give it a break, rather than continue and go bankrupt (I.e lose all your funds).

Secondly, I will advice you that in such case a gambler should try to gamble an amount he/she can always afford to lose, so that in case it doesn't go as planned, you won't get disturbed

[BitcoinAccepted]

Gambling has not so much to do with the good or the bad or who is strong or weak. We all have our down sides in life, and some are addicted to gambling. Still others have other problems and/or other addictions. But of course you don't gamble and lose for fun. I don't know if a human's DNA has anything to do with being prone to gambling or not. And there are also people who play poker and gamble just for fun. Then that has nothing to do with a strong or weak personality. Weaker and more susceptible people are more likely to fall back into a gambling pattern.

[erep]

So for me, I will kindly say that gambling is not meant for everyone, and if you happen to notice it's not working for you, it's better you just give it a break, rather than continue and go bankrupt (I.e lose all your funds).

Secondly, I will advice you that in such case a gambler should try to gamble an amount he/she can always afford to lose, so that in case it doesn't go as planned, you won't get disturbed

Relatively few people will choose the first option to stop gambling and start another business to recover their losses from gambling, we need to recover finances in the least risky way. But if you choose the second option then you better consider that decision because gambling is not a job recommended to recover losses, even if you don't have good self-control in gambling then the amount of loss will increase. But anyone is free to choose any option as long as they have considered their decision.

[nurilham]

Because gamblers have different reasons, some players gamble just for fun, and others gamble because they consider it a source of income, and others gamble because they have an addiction to it.

I think people gamble because of 2 reasons only, they want to earn money and get an entertainment. Addiction isn't a part of the reasons, it is the bad impact of too much gambling and caused by gambling with careless way. However, gambling is mostly for entertainment. It is difficult to expect earning regular money from gambling, especially from the luck-based gambling games.

Not all gamblers are strong, some really fall into this trap and become more greedy, unfortunately a lot of bad news already happened before with gambling, i believe they are too emotional and loss a lot of money.

Of course. There are many weak gamblers, those who gamble in careless ways and have lack knowledge about gambling. People who have no good self-control can be categorized as weak gamblers, too. People who become greedy, it is because they don't know well what gambling is. If they know it, they must realize that being greedy in gambling is a big mistake.

[Baofeng]

With this, I wondered if other person's here in the forum that are into gambling too has at any point in time thought or felt that way, particularly when the losses are becoming overwhelming. And in that case, should such person stop gambling and rather divert such monies into something else since he/she ain't making corresponding wins or more, checking his bet history, Or he should carry on with hopes that winnings will start creeping in someday gradually?

Not just in this community, I think majority of the gamblers around have some kind of thoughts about their losses and the 'what if' scenario. And I guess everyone losses that we have, it will just crossed our minds. But it's always late and those are regrets and we can't go back and get our money back. So it will always be that question that are going to crossed our minds. So as gamblers, we have to fight it mentally, if you can't then you should stop gambling because it might really hit a toll on you. Or everyday after a big losses, you go to sleep but still thinks of the money that you have lost that night. And then if you are already ok then you can go back to your gambling activities again.