A Nigerian Father Rejects Son's Gambling Win

[Joca97]

Gambling is a problem but if you already got the money that you won why not take advantage of it. Especially if you need the money badly. I dont understand this kind of people,yes you need to make a point that gambling is bad and that you should avoid gambling but if you already won you should take advantage of it.

[slapper]

That is also the possibility that the father don't trust his child as he thinks that it came from illegal things and not on gambling

It can be traced. I mean the betting sites, the amount won and how he won the high amount of money can be traced. If it is online, it can be traced. If it is offline, using betting agent, it can also be traced. So I do not think his father rejected the money becusee he did not trust the child. Even if he has a kind of child that do steal from him, the bet won can change the whole thing.

What I thought about the matter is what I have said before, that his father may not take religion as a joke at all, and can be one of the extremists type of people. I have noticed that some Muslim fathers can do this as they are ready to oppose what their religion against.

And this would really be hard decision for his son to make whether he would choses to give back those winnings or would really be keeping it by himself considering that it isnt small and would really be a secret and would gradually be spending it since his father couldnt really accept that it do came from gambling.There are really people who are that extremist or really that purely devoted into their religion on which committing against the principle is something that they couldnt do. It might sound foolish but there are people who could really be able to stick on what they do believe and what they do really want to follow.
There's nothing we can do with that and this is would be actually be depending into his son on how he would be handling this one out. So the best thing is to keep it secret and
let those amounts be stored on whatever ways he would be intending to do so.

Isn't it mind-blowing, the audacity we have to pretend to grasp another's faith or personal convictions? Sure, we can trace the greenbacks won in gambling, but let's be real - trust, once shattered, is like a vintage Ming vase, impossible to piece back together, even with a mountain of solid proof, right?

Religious extremism, now that's a hot potato! But isn't it a matter of perspective? One man's zealous conviction could be another's radicalism. Yet, aren't we veering off course? The kid wrestling with his respect for his old man's beliefs, his struggle about spending the dough - doesn't this expose a deep-rooted familial and moral predicament that's not just about dollar bills?

And the hush-hush money idea, doesn't that weave a tangled web of lies and remorse? Wouldn't the kid be playing it smarter to face this openly, maybe even pour the money into a worthy endeavor that both he and his dad could get behind? Integrity intact, dad's beliefs respected.

[len01]

Gambling is a problem but if you already got the money that you won why not take advantage of it. Especially if you need the money badly. I dont understand this kind of people,yes you need to make a point that gambling is bad and that you should avoid gambling but if you already won you should take advantage of it.

but his father had different thoughts because the religious principles his father adhered to made his thoughts different from the wishes of his son. even though news spread that his son wanted to use the money from gambling to help pay for the rent he had to pay for the house, the father remained adamant that the money from gambling was not good.

[Blitzboy]

That is also the possibility that the father don't trust his child as he thinks that it came from illegal things and not on gambling

It can be traced. I mean the betting sites, the amount won and how he won the high amount of money can be traced. If it is online, it can be traced. If it is offline, using betting agent, it can also be traced. So I do not think his father rejected the money becusee he did not trust the child. Even if he has a kind of child that do steal from him, the bet won can change the whole thing.

What I thought about the matter is what I have said before, that his father may not take religion as a joke at all, and can be one of the extremists type of people. I have noticed that some Muslim fathers can do this as they are ready to oppose what their religion against.

And this would really be hard decision for his son to make whether he would choses to give back those winnings or would really be keeping it by himself considering that it isnt small and would really be a secret and would gradually be spending it since his father couldnt really accept that it do came from gambling.There are really people who are that extremist or really that purely devoted into their religion on which committing against the principle is something that they couldnt do. It might sound foolish but there are people who could really be able to stick on what they do believe and what they do really want to follow.
There's nothing we can do with that and this is would be actually be depending into his son on how he would be handling this one out. So the best thing is to keep it secret and
let those amounts be stored on whatever ways he would be intending to do so.

LOL, I agree that technology is such a snitch these days. Whether online or offline, the FBI (aka Facebook, Bitcoin, Instagram) knows everything. But let's be real here; Dad's not rejecting the moolah 'cause he thinks junior's up to no good. Now, it seems like Pops is pretty hardcore about his beliefs, eh? And I respect that. Stickin' to your principles is like sticking to your gym routine – it ain't easy, but it keeps you fit, right? But then again, is it fair to throw shade on the son if he decides to keep the dough? Let's not forget we're all human and a chunk of change can make a big difference. That said, the son's got a tough call to make here. His best bet is to go incognito, stash the cash somewhere safe, and play it cool. Crypto wallets, anyone?

[elevates]

Went through the article once again, felt it might be a dignity issue. The father might not be happy with his son earning money through gambling. He might have wanted him to study and find a respectable job. The society to which the father belongs might discourage gambling or betting activities. That might be one of the reason but I still don't understand why a detailed information was provided by the publisher of this news.

Generally the reason of such behaviour is disclosed. That made me to conclude that this news might have been created for clickbait. If not then why a descriptive information about the family was not reavealed. You might argue it is because of privacy, no one is interested to know about them or their identity. What is confusing in this news is about the father not accepting the winning amount. It would have be great to know the reason. Which was not declared, which makes me suspicious about the whole news now.

[freedomgo]

Went through the article once again, felt it might be a dignity issue. The father might not be happy with his son earning money through gambling. He might have wanted him to study and find a respectable job. The society to which the father belongs might discourage gambling or betting activities. That might be one of the reason but I still don't understand why a detailed information was provided by the publisher of this news.

Generally the reason of such behaviour is disclosed. That made me to conclude that this news might have been created for clickbait. If not then why a descriptive information about the family was not reavealed. You might argue it is because of privacy, no one is interested to know about them or their identity. What is confusing in this news is about the father not accepting the winning amount. It would have be great to know the reason. Which was not declared, which makes me suspicious about the whole news now.

I'm also thinking the same thing. The news that has been released should have been more detailed because instead of understanding the story, we end up scratching our heads and have a lot of questions about why did the father declined it as that kind of money could have been a great news to them but because the story is not wrapped up beautifully, we also don't know the answers of our own questions.

[uneng]

I'm also thinking the same thing. The news that has been released should have been more detailed because instead of understanding the story, we end up scratching our heads and have a lot of questions about why did the father declined it as that kind of money could have been a great news to them but because the story is not wrapped up beautifully, we also don't know the answers of our own questions.

By the image posted in OP, the name of the news portal I can already have a clue it's a kind of sensationalist news, potentially not corresponding to a true story, with the sole purpose of leading the public to click the link and generate traffic for the website, and profit consequently (clickbait). There are so many fake news on the internet that we shouldn't take such random, absurd and generic stories seriously.

Personally, I don't believe a father would reject his son's winnings, especially in a poor country like Nigeria, where most people are urging for some extra welcome income.

[molsewid]

Gambling is a problem but if you already got the money that you won why not take advantage of it. Especially if you need the money badly. I dont understand this kind of people,yes you need to make a point that gambling is bad and that you should avoid gambling but if you already won you should take advantage of it.

Actually is not a problem at all, it will only be a problem on how you will do it and react to it. People who gamble are not all addicted, maybe his father doesn't want it because of his personal belief or because of his religion. But this money if it will be used to good things and to help the whole family maybe also their extended family it can be a big help and it will help them in future.

[Gosgosking]

Maybe he can send some emails, ask if someone wants the money

I think the father rejected the money maybe because he is loyal to his religion,  most religion people don't like gamble. Even if the father rejects the money I'm not sure he would give it out, because I know the son his old enough to take his decision and start up life with the money.

[gabbie2010]

Maybe he can send some emails, ask if someone wants the money

I think the father rejected the money maybe because he is loyal to his religion,  most religion people don't like gamble. Even if the father rejects the money I'm not sure he would give it out, because I know the son his old enough to take his decision and start up life with the money.

I think the father rejecting the gambling money won by his son is based on religious ground because I listened to a sermon were a religion preacher said majority of money won by a gambler was a collection of some losers fund who might had been hurt one way or the other, though that was his own personal opinion and belief which must be respected,  however if the son decided to setup a business to stand on his own he might not have the backing of his father and lead to animosity between the duo and course the son wouldn't refund or return the money both of them have to sit down to settle the matter.

[qwertyup23]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.
How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

I do think that there has been a stigma with regard to gambling as an illegal and immoral activity.

In order to address this question, we must first tackle on what makes an addiction bad perse. In general, any activity which turns into an addiction can lead to potential and devastating effects and this applies to everything which can be addicted. In relation to gambling, this activity is not perse bad or immoral but what makes it potentially dangerous is the chance for a person being addicted to it. If a person suffers addiction, then there is that possibility that his priorities may shift in satisfying his/her gambling sprees.

Now for the argument of the father, I do not think that it is reasonable. The boy betted $0.87 which resulted to $82,340 which can be life-changing especially in third-world countries. Such amount can actually change one's life for the better and make it more convenience in terms of their living. Just because the child gambled, the father quickly hesitated and concluded that his son had done something bad or immoral.

I do think that the father is overreacting. It is also the job of the parents to provide for the welfare of their children. If he is worried that his child might get addicted, then he must at least guide him in such a path to avoid addiction.

[OgNasty]

I have a hard time believing this story to be true, but maybe it is...  As the son, I would probably be trying to get emancipated or just run away with the winnings.  While I'm not totally familiar with their situation, I assume that is a life changing amount of money.  I can understand him not wanting his father's beliefs to damage his personal life experience.  I'm still not so sure how real this story is though.  It seems that people sticking to their beliefs when confronted with life changing sums of money is rare and not something I typically run across.

[Lanatsa]

Maybe he can send some emails, ask if someone wants the money

I think the father rejected the money maybe because he is loyal to his religion,  most religion people don't like gamble. Even if the father rejects the money I'm not sure he would give it out, because I know the son his old enough to take his decision and start up life with the money.

I think the father rejecting the gambling money won by his son is based on religious ground because I listened to a sermon were a religion preacher said majority of money won by a gambler was a collection of some losers fund who might had been hurt one way or the other, though that was his own personal opinion and belief which must be respected,  however if the son decided to setup a business to stand on his own he might not have the backing of his father and lead to animosity between the duo and course the son wouldn't refund or return the money both of them have to sit down to settle the matter.

There are people who are that serious on sticking into  their principles in life on which they would really be that sticking into it without bending out their principles on what they do believe. We know that there are things in life on which it do really rest out our faith whether we would  really bending it out or would really going along with things that we are currently facing.
If his father chooses up to neglected it out on which it would pertains about that strong faith then we know that it is something that is fixed and cant really be altered.

We know that choices would differ into each individual on which it would really be a normal approach.

[Sanitough]

While other fathers would crave for huge wins from gambling, this story is different. Probably, his father is a devoted Muslim and gambling is strictly prohibited in their culture. That’s why even if the winnings can change their lifestyle, his father still chose to reject it because whatever they get from gambling is always unacceptable. It could have been a lot of money for gamblers, but for anti-gambling culture, it’s always nothing and will never be essential.

[Mate2237]

I have a hard time believing this story to be true, but maybe it is...  As the son, I would probably be trying to get emancipated or just run away with the winnings.  While I'm not totally familiar with their situation, I assume that is a life changing amount of money.  I can understand him not wanting his father's beliefs to damage his personal life experience.  I'm still not so sure how real this story is though.  It seems that people sticking to their beliefs when confronted with life changing sums of money is rare and not something I typically run across.

This the same kind of story has happened in my compound although the winning were different. The one that happened in my compound was about $200 and the boy was a street boy and the father is a deacon in one of the Pentecostal Church  and when the boy brought home with the winning, the family father told him to use the money to go start his life. But the boy was giving the money to his father but the father instead advised him to use the money. The father didn't touch the money. And the boy quietly go away with the money and use it to start small Medium Business.
So what am I trying to say here is that such stories do exist. Even though there fake ones. But this one has been published in the social media and blogs so there is legit part of it.

[tusandii]

While other fathers would crave for huge wins from gambling, this story is different. Probably, his father is a devoted Muslim and gambling is strictly prohibited in their culture. That’s why even if the winnings can change their lifestyle, his father still chose to reject it because whatever they get from gambling is always unacceptable. It could have been a lot of money for gamblers, but for anti-gambling culture, it’s always nothing and will never be essential.

In fact, it is not a matter of which religion the father adheres to and what their culture is, because all religions, not only Muslims, also prohibit gambling activities, and even some cultures do not allow gambling.
there must be a reason behind the refusal and what is the exact cause we do not know clearly.
What is certain is that gambling is not a good thing for a child, moreover he is still young so he can easily or has the potential to become a gambling addict.

[dezoel]

I have a hard time believing this story to be true, but maybe it is...  As the son, I would probably be trying to get emancipated or just run away with the winnings.  While I'm not totally familiar with their situation, I assume that is a life changing amount of money.  I can understand him not wanting his father's beliefs to damage his personal life experience.  I'm still not so sure how real this story is though.  It seems that people sticking to their beliefs when confronted with life changing sums of money is rare and not something I typically run across.

It's probably true that you can rarely find someone who would reject money they or one of their close ones won only because they don't like gambling or find it unethical or religiously bad, because we live in a world where money is everything and you can do literally nothing if you don't have money, and if you have a life-changing amount of money in your hands, you can't throw it away no matter where it has come from.

But, whether rare or not, such people do exist in the world who respect their principles, dignity, and religious beliefs more than anything and they can refuse to take anything in exchange for spoiling any one of these things.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

While other fathers would crave for huge wins from gambling, this story is different. Probably, his father is a devoted Muslim and gambling is strictly prohibited in their culture. That’s why even if the winnings can change their lifestyle, his father still chose to reject it because whatever they get from gambling is always unacceptable. It could have been a lot of money for gamblers, but for anti-gambling culture, it’s always nothing and will never be essential.

In fact, it is not a matter of which religion the father adheres to and what their culture is, because all religions, not only Muslims, also prohibit gambling activities, and even some cultures do not allow gambling.
there must be a reason behind the refusal and what is the exact cause we do not know clearly.
What is certain is that gambling is not a good thing for a child, moreover he is still young so he can easily or has the potential to become a gambling addict.

Well, regardless of the fact the boy is young, I still do not think his young age is the reason for the father to reject the money the boy won though gambling,  I think the matter is more based on religious sentiments, we could try to find out what the man's position is in his place of worship, either a mosque or church, I know both religion condemns gambling, me personally as a Christian, I know the Bible condemns gambling, but though I still gamble any way.

The man could be a title holder in his place of worship, and being a personality other worshipers look up to, he possibly is finding it difficult to accept the means through which his son made money, knowing fully well its against their faith.

[Hispo]

While other fathers would crave for huge wins from gambling, this story is different. Probably, his father is a devoted Muslim and gambling is strictly prohibited in their culture. That’s why even if the winnings can change their lifestyle, his father still chose to reject it because whatever they get from gambling is always unacceptable. It could have been a lot of money for gamblers, but for anti-gambling culture, it’s always nothing and will never be essential.

I had forgot that there is an important Muslin population in Nigeria. That could explain why the father decided to reject the money earned by the son, still it would not explain why the son was allowed to gamble in the first place.

I am not a muslin, but as much as I know about the Islam culture, it is supposed to be practiced by the whole family, ideally so in theory the son was also supposed to be a muslin and no believer of Allah would gamble in that way and of course, won't bring the earning to the face of the father so openly. MY guess is that the father is simply against gambling in general.

[serjent05]

I'm also thinking the same thing. The news that has been released should have been more detailed because instead of understanding the story, we end up scratching our heads and have a lot of questions about why did the father declined it as that kind of money could have been a great news to them but because the story is not wrapped up beautifully, we also don't know the answers of our own questions.

By the image posted in OP, the name of the news portal I can already have a clue it's a kind of sensationalist news, potentially not corresponding to a true story, with the sole purpose of leading the public to click the link and generate traffic for the website, and profit consequently (clickbait). There are so many fake news on the internet that we shouldn't take such random, absurd and generic stories seriously.

Personally, I don't believe a father would reject his son's winnings, especially in a poor country like Nigeria, where most people are urging for some extra welcome income.

I have the same thought.  I think the story is just a made-up story just to get the interest of the reader.  No one will reject a huge amount of money especially when it is presented by a son, and does not come from evil doings.

While other fathers would crave for huge wins from gambling, this story is different. Probably, his father is a devoted Muslim and gambling is strictly prohibited in their culture. That’s why even if the winnings can change their lifestyle, his father still chose to reject it because whatever they get from gambling is always unacceptable. It could have been a lot of money for gamblers, but for anti-gambling culture, it’s always nothing and will never be essential.

I had forgot that there is an important Muslin population in Nigeria. That could explain why the father decided to reject the money earned by the son, still it would not explain why the son was allowed to gamble in the first place.

Maybe, but still I feel the story is fabricated. 

I am not a muslin, but as much as I know about the Islam culture, it is supposed to be practiced by the whole family, ideally so in theory the son was also supposed to be a muslin and no believer of Allah would gamble in that way and of course, won't bring the earning to the face of the father so openly. MY guess is that the father is simply against gambling in general.

It should be but many had swayed away from that teaching and had fun with gambling activities.  They might not show it pubicly but many Muslim knows themselves that they are engaged in gambling activity in one way or another.