A Nigerian Father Rejects Son's Gambling Win

[Sim_card]

I'm also thinking the same thing. The news that has been released should have been more detailed because instead of understanding the story, we end up scratching our heads and have a lot of questions about why did the father declined it as that kind of money could have been a great news to them but because the story is not wrapped up beautifully, we also don't know the answers of our own questions.

By the image posted in OP, the name of the news portal I can already have a clue it's a kind of sensationalist news, potentially not corresponding to a true story, with the sole purpose of leading the public to click the link and generate traffic for the website, and profit consequently (clickbait). There are so many fake news on the internet that we shouldn't take such random, absurd and generic stories seriously.

Personally, I don't believe a father would reject his son's winnings, especially in a poor country like Nigeria, where most people are urging for some extra welcome income.

I have the same thought.  I think the story is just a made-up story just to get the interest of the reader.  No one will reject a huge amount of money especially when it is presented by a son, and does not come from evil doings.

While other fathers would crave for huge wins from gambling, this story is different. Probably, his father is a devoted Muslim and gambling is strictly prohibited in their culture. That’s why even if the winnings can change their lifestyle, his father still chose to reject it because whatever they get from gambling is always unacceptable. It could have been a lot of money for gamblers, but for anti-gambling culture, it’s always nothing and will never be essential.

I had forgot that there is an important Muslin population in Nigeria. That could explain why the father decided to reject the money earned by the son, still it would not explain why the son was allowed to gamble in the first place.

Maybe, but still I feel the story is fabricated. 

I am not a muslin, but as much as I know about the Islam culture, it is supposed to be practiced by the whole family, ideally so in theory the son was also supposed to be a muslin and no believer of Allah would gamble in that way and of course, won't bring the earning to the face of the father so openly. MY guess is that the father is simply against gambling in general.

It should be but many had swayed away from that teaching and had fun with gambling activities.  They might not show it pubicly but many Muslim knows themselves that they are engaged in gambling activity in one way or another.

one can tell if the story is fabricated or not and since we are humans,it is not everybody that sees money as everything. Some committed devotee will never see money as anything as long as it is against their culture. Just as Hispo said, the boy's father might be a Muslim and maybe not just a Muslim but a mosque leader. If I was the boy's Dad ,I will collect the money and thank God for blessing my boy with such huge amount of money from gambling. I am wondering if there are still such people in the world and how many of them are left,people who prefer to follow their religion tradition over money.

[lienfaye]

Gambling is a problem but if you already got the money that you won why not take advantage of it. Especially if you need the money badly. I dont understand this kind of people,yes you need to make a point that gambling is bad and that you should avoid gambling but if you already won you should take advantage of it.

but his father had different thoughts because the religious principles his father adhered to made his thoughts different from the wishes of his son. even though news spread that his son wanted to use the money from gambling to help pay for the rent he had to pay for the house, the father remained adamant that the money from gambling was not good.

Money is everything for most of us and we know it's hard to earn it. So if there's an opportunity to have such huge amount, probably no one will refuse to accept the money (as long as it is not from any illegal activity).

But it's a different situation for the boy's father because he don't like the fact that his son got the money through gambling. It's a commendable attitude to reject the money (despite of what it can do for their lives) because of what he believe in. I wonder what the son did after his father made a decision.

[tusandii]

While other fathers would crave for huge wins from gambling, this story is different. Probably, his father is a devoted Muslim and gambling is strictly prohibited in their culture. That’s why even if the winnings can change their lifestyle, his father still chose to reject it because whatever they get from gambling is always unacceptable. It could have been a lot of money for gamblers, but for anti-gambling culture, it’s always nothing and will never be essential.

In fact, it is not a matter of which religion the father adheres to and what their culture is, because all religions, not only Muslims, also prohibit gambling activities, and even some cultures do not allow gambling.
there must be a reason behind the refusal and what is the exact cause we do not know clearly.
What is certain is that gambling is not a good thing for a child, moreover he is still young so he can easily or has the potential to become a gambling addict.

Well, regardless of the fact the boy is young, I still do not think his young age is the reason for the father to reject the money the boy won though gambling,  I think the matter is more based on religious sentiments, we could try to find out what the man's position is in his place of worship, either a mosque or church, I know both religion condemns gambling, me personally as a Christian, I know the Bible condemns gambling, but though I still gamble any way.

The man could be a title holder in his place of worship, and being a personality other worshipers look up to, he possibly is finding it difficult to accept the means through which his son made money, knowing fully well its against their faith.

But regardless of culture and religion, maybe the father did not want his son to become addicted to gambling because he managed to win a large amount of money.
This is the thought of a father towards his child so that the father will direct his child to become a better person.
As an example, if you are a father, will you accept that your son becomes addicted to gambling?
All religions are good because they have guidelines that must be obeyed by adherents, including the prohibition of gambling.

What you say is true, but I think more that the father does not want his child to become a gambling addict.

[maydna]

one can tell if the story is fabricated or not and since we are humans,it is not everybody that sees money as everything. Some committed devotee will never see money as anything as long as it is against their culture. Just as Hispo said, the boy's father might be a Muslim and maybe not just a Muslim but a mosque leader. If I was the boy's Dad ,I will collect the money and thank God for blessing my boy with such huge amount of money from gambling. I am wondering if there are still such people in the world and how many of them are left,people who prefer to follow their religion tradition over money.

There are still many people like that in this world because they still adhere to their religion and carry out the traditions of their religion. Perhaps, it will look strange to people of other religions, but that's the truth. We can't say it's a mistake to refuse money from big wins, but they strongly believe in their religion. But we also don't know what his son did after knowing his father's words. Perhaps, he has given his money to someone else in need or he has used the money for something else, or put all his money back into gambling. At least this was a lesson for him not to gamble because his father would never accept money from gambling.

[CarnagexD]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

I think it roots in the beliefs and the value that the father holds. Mostly held under their culture or their religion. It's a hard decision to make for the kid I guess. Is gambling a bad thing to do? I don't know. You don't need to know to. What you just need is to ask yourself truly if it is the right thing to do. Because we all have different beliefs. and my belief has nothing to do with what you are believing. Same goes to the story of the boy. It depends on what is more important for him. Is it the culture of his father or is it the money making he can make gambling.

[Alisha-k]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

I saw a lot of comments like the boy should disown his father, that the man didn't seek and encourage for his progress.

Others said he should rent an apartment and leave his father's house, that the father will definitely come around when he's over what he feels.

I feel like, if the guy can find a save place to deposit the money or his it and possibly pipe low for the main time...

If his father doesn't come around with time to understand him, he can then decide to travel out of the country, I think his father will give his blessings then and with his money, he may decide to begin his investment in motherland, the father would never know it's the same money.

[Stable090]

I have the same thought.  I think the story is just a made-up story just to get the interest of the reader.  No one will reject a huge amount of money especially when it is presented by a son, and does not come from evil doings.

Seriously I don’t think it’s a made-up story, you don’t know how strict some parents are, I know the site which the OP posted, it’s a kind of popular website in my country so I don’t think they are really looking for traffic. If some parents are against something, no matter the amount you are making from their, they will definitely be against it. Am sure just little percentage of parents will be able to do this, no one will see this kind of money and still reject it, but I can tell you that some parents will still reject the money, since you got the money through the means they are against or they don’t want, and mostly in my country, most parents are against gambling.

[Sithara007]

I think it roots in the beliefs and the value that the father holds. Mostly held under their culture or their religion. It's a hard decision to make for the kid I guess. Is gambling a bad thing to do? I don't know. You don't need to know to. What you just need is to ask yourself truly if it is the right thing to do. Because we all have different beliefs. and my belief has nothing to do with what you are believing. Same goes to the story of the boy. It depends on what is more important for him. Is it the culture of his father or is it the money making he can make gambling.

I don't know much about beliefs and customs in Nigeria, but I am sure that this is a pretty stupid thing to do (in case the story is not fake). The amount being mentioned here is huge, and it can be life changing. And in today's world money matters more than anything else. If tomorrow some of his family members get hospitalized and requires some expensive medical procedure, his beliefs are not going to help. I just hope that the son is not as stupid as his father and he will claim the reward and spend it wisely. If his father decides to kick him out of the family, then it is his problem.

[peter0425]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

What I want to see is the update about this and how was the boy reacted and and what is the movement he comes out.

Because I believe that if the boy made to gamble all those times meaning His father did not look into what is he dealing and yeah that means they allow him to gamble but does not want to win?

If I were to be the boy? surely I will leave the house and will live my own .

[ethereumhunter]

What I want to see is the update about this and how was the boy reacted and and what is the movement he comes out.

Because I believe that if the boy made to gamble all those times meaning His father did not look into what is he dealing and yeah that means they allow him to gamble but does not want to win?

If I were to be the boy? surely I will leave the house and will live my own .

Yes, we do want to know if there is an update on the saga but it looks like there isn't an update or maybe the next story just got written.

From the story, it seems like the father didn't know what his son was doing or the father did and didn't say anything until his son won a lot of money.

Maybe those who don't live in that country can say that. But I think in other countries where a child immediately leaves his parents just because of money, he might be considered an unfilial child and immediately removed from the register of family members. So this is probably the toughest decision faced by that young man.

[acroman08]

I have the same thought.  I think the story is just a made-up story just to get the interest of the reader.  No one will reject a huge amount of money especially when it is presented by a son, and does not come from evil doings.

I don't it's fake, searching around you'll find a lot of articles talking about it, the father rejecting the winnings seems to be plausible because it looks like he comes from a religious family since from what I read from the articles is that after the young boy won he directly went to a mosque to pray to thank god for his winnings.

I found an "update", not sure how accurate this is but according to his forum called nairaland.com/ the guy who won the 38 Million Naira is one of the people who died in a car wreck with his friends. btw, I am a little sceptical about this "update" I found.

[wiss19]

I think it roots in the beliefs and the value that the father holds. Mostly held under their culture or their religion. It's a hard decision to make for the kid I guess. Is gambling a bad thing to do? I don't know. You don't need to know to. What you just need is to ask yourself truly if it is the right thing to do. Because we all have different beliefs. and my belief has nothing to do with what you are believing. Same goes to the story of the boy. It depends on what is more important for him. Is it the culture of his father or is it the money making he can make gambling.

I don't know much about beliefs and customs in Nigeria, but I am sure that this is a pretty stupid thing to do (in case the story is not fake). The amount being mentioned here is huge, and it can be life changing. And in today's world money matters more than anything else. If tomorrow some of his family members get hospitalized and requires some expensive medical procedure, his beliefs are not going to help. I just hope that the son is not as stupid as his father and he will claim the reward and spend it wisely. If his father decides to kick him out of the family, then it is his problem.

Well, I pretty much agree with the logic here, if the family isn't so well-to-do and doesn't have a lot of money, rejecting such an amount is sheer stupidity, because as you said, beliefs or culture or any other thing won't pay the bills and money is a basic requirement for today's world, you can't do anything at all without it, and if wealth is knocking on your door, you should welcome it with open hands.

Such a thing can be understood if the father is already rich and doesn't need money, he is feeding his family well, all their expenses are covered and they even have savings for bad times which can come all of a sudden, but if this is not the case, he shouldn't have rejected the money.

[stomachgrowls]

I think it roots in the beliefs and the value that the father holds. Mostly held under their culture or their religion. It's a hard decision to make for the kid I guess. Is gambling a bad thing to do? I don't know. You don't need to know to. What you just need is to ask yourself truly if it is the right thing to do. Because we all have different beliefs. and my belief has nothing to do with what you are believing. Same goes to the story of the boy. It depends on what is more important for him. Is it the culture of his father or is it the money making he can make gambling.

I don't know much about beliefs and customs in Nigeria, but I am sure that this is a pretty stupid thing to do (in case the story is not fake). The amount being mentioned here is huge, and it can be life changing. And in today's world money matters more than anything else. If tomorrow some of his family members get hospitalized and requires some expensive medical procedure, his beliefs are not going to help. I just hope that the son is not as stupid as his father and he will claim the reward and spend it wisely. If his father decides to kick him out of the family, then it is his problem.

Well, I pretty much agree with the logic here, if the family isn't so well-to-do and doesn't have a lot of money, rejecting such an amount is sheer stupidity, because as you said, beliefs or culture or any other thing won't pay the bills and money is a basic requirement for today's world, you can't do anything at all without it, and if wealth is knocking on your door, you should welcome it with open hands.

Such a thing can be understood if the father is already rich and doesn't need money, he is feeding his family well, all their expenses are covered and they even have savings for bad times which can come all of a sudden, but if this is not the case, he shouldn't have rejected the money.

Lets face up the reality and we know that religion wouldnt really be saving up yourself on day to day basis on which rejecting such amount is really that stupid but there are people who do rather just want to die on starvation rather than on going against their beliefs and principles in life which this might portray out on that boys father and there's nothing we can do about it. It is really just that sad that the boy is surely excited
on telling it into his parents or family about the winning but it turns out that it was really getting the opposite response or treatment.

For that boy, then its better to hide those money which his father wont really be that able to know and on the time that they are really in need of money then he could simply
snip it out but of course everything should be done without letting his father know that those funds are really that still available and been spending out. So this is situation and the boy
would surely have that good assessment on the condition but if he do gave back those money then its stupidity x2. 

[Ojima-ojo]

Well, I pretty much agree with the logic here, if the family isn't so well-to-do and doesn't have a lot of money, rejecting such an amount is sheer stupidity, because as you said, beliefs or culture or any other thing won't pay the bills and money is a basic requirement for today's world, you can't do anything at all without it, and if wealth is knocking on your door, you should welcome it with open hands.

The family head which is the fsther have messed up really badly and this shows to a great extent that the father doesn't have love for the son, fine if the boy has gone the extra mile to gamble which may be against most religious mindset but it it we have to understand the impact of this rejection on the physiological well being of the boy.


Now, instead of guiding the son on the way he will spend the money without becoming addicted to gambling and how to make a withdrawal mechanism and reinvest the profits, it will become hard for him to control the boy's actions if he rejects him outrightly.

[Oilacris]

Well, I pretty much agree with the logic here, if the family isn't so well-to-do and doesn't have a lot of money, rejecting such an amount is sheer stupidity, because as you said, beliefs or culture or any other thing won't pay the bills and money is a basic requirement for today's world, you can't do anything at all without it, and if wealth is knocking on your door, you should welcome it with open hands.

The family head which is the fsther have messed up really badly and this shows to a great extent that the father doesn't have love for the son, fine if the boy has gone the extra mile to gamble which may be against most religious mindset but it it we have to understand the impact of this rejection on the physiological well being of the boy.


Now, instead of guiding the son on the way he will spend the money without becoming addicted to gambling and how to make a withdrawal mechanism and reinvest the profits, it will become hard for him to control the boy's actions if he rejects him outrightly.

Depends on a certain child or son because there are ones who are really get used to on what their fathers reactions or behavior on something that they had done specially if its against on his father principles but as a child then we cant really know whether those ones would be good or bad unless if he/she's fully aware of it then you would know that it isnt really that right on telling to him in the first place because you do know on what would be the reaction which it would really be that situational on this case. We cant really that tell on how a children that been rejected will really be making his next step
whether he would take it seriously and emotional and pschologically be affected or would really be just simply ignored.

If im on that situation then i would definitely be spending on things that i do like rather than on giving it back into the casino on where his Father suggested which is really that a dumb idea to be done.

[Sandra_hakeem]

Seriously I don’t think it’s a made-up story, you don’t know how strict some parents are, I know the site which the OP posted, it’s a kind of popular website in my country so I don’t think they are really looking for traffic. If some parents are against something, no matter the amount you are making from their, they will definitely be against it. Am sure just little percentage of parents will be able to do this, no one will see this kind of money and still reject it, but I can tell you that some parents will still reject the money, since you got the money through the means they are against or they don’t want, and mostly in my country, most parents are against gambling.

Maybe it's not a make-up story but I think that had gone way too far -- even if I was meant to be the man's wifey, I'll seek for a divorce ASAP cus it seems he isn't ready to build his wealth and woman wants to waste her time.
If the Child had been so lucky to the point that he gambled and won such a colossal amount from a site - and they also accepted to pay him( well, ofcourse some sites don't always wanna be plan in their business plan,.. mostly when it comes to payment of winnings), then I think the father should have atleast given him a hand to enjoy his wealth since he didn't wanna be a part of it.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

[NicNacCoin]

What I want to see is the update about this and how was the boy reacted and and what is the movement he comes out.

Because I believe that if the boy made to gamble all those times meaning His father did not look into what is he dealing and yeah that means they allow him to gamble but does not want to win?

If I were to be the boy? surely I will leave the house and will live my own .

The boy is addicted to gambling maybe his father doesn't know about it but when the boy wins the gambling and gets money profit then maybe the boy's father comes to know about it and makes him pay back the gambling money. In this case, the boy's father had religious feelings behind not taking the gambling money and the boy decided to return the gambling money based on that religious feeling. In this case, the boy did not disobey his father and he was forced to obey his father's orders completely.

[ChiBitCTy]

I'm curious of how old this boy is, anyone know?  I think it's pretty ridiculous of his father to do this.  So what did they do with the money?  I suppose the father is trying to teach his young son (I'm assuming he's under 21 years old) a lesson, but I don't think this is the right way to go about it. 

The father likely doesn't support gambling simply because it goes against his old school way of viewing things.  This tends to be the case for a lot of people.

[Vaskiy]

What I want to see is the update about this and how was the boy reacted and and what is the movement he comes out.

Because I believe that if the boy made to gamble all those times meaning His father did not look into what is he dealing and yeah that means they allow him to gamble but does not want to win?

If I were to be the boy? surely I will leave the house and will live my own .

The boy is addicted to gambling maybe his father doesn't know about it but when the boy wins the gambling and gets money profit then maybe the boy's father comes to know about it and makes him pay back the gambling money. In this case, the boy's father had religious feelings behind not taking the gambling money and the boy decided to return the gambling money based on that religious feeling. In this case, the boy did not disobey his father and he was forced to obey his father's orders completely.

That would've happened, if not the father might've thought of the future impact of gambling. This time the boy have won it, but we don't know what happens tomorrow. There is no assurance that the boy won't gamble again. Maybe he can loss all the money he have won out of gambling. Such situation could lead to frustration and unpleasant things. Thinking it in mind the father could've requested him to settle back the winnings to the gambling house. The best part, the boy obeyed his father which is really great.

[RILWAN]

The sin will just go ahead to spend his winning and the father may miss out on benefiting from such huge winning from his son because such an amount can change the future of the family without much I do.