A Nigerian Father Rejects Son's Gambling Win

[hakan2217]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

[RockBell]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

The boys age is not disclose so we can not really conclude  if the boy is old enough to get is own fiat and to some extent there are limitations to how young people live there life's especially in Africa to some extent we are always kind of way obligated to our parent which is good but has a lot of disadvantage especially in time of making decision, The boy will never forget, and in some situations, I'm sure many people won't return the money and are willing to disobey their father. If the boy were mature enough, I don't think the father would have made that decision for him to return such a large sum of money given the way money is becoming a problem.

[Jody.Drummer]

Father must have money and can provide for his family. He Wouldn't act that way if they don't have enough. Or maybe the father is really a disciplinarian and wanted the boy to stop gambling as well.

That one hell of a disciplinarian the father must be. 38,000,000 naira is like 51,000 dollars if we convert that. Now that's a good some to start something good for almost anyone who hangs around betshops looking gor luck to escape the poor living condition in Nigeria and get some test of the good life as an average or middle class citizen.

I wonder who is this young man. Am sure betting is 18+which very much designates him for an adult and ought not to be living with the family. If he ain't sure if he should have been living with the family, this was a good sign to start living out and being his own person. I think that would be the case in the end.

Whatever reason the father had on his mind, that is not enough reason to reject the gift from his son, if the child has not given any of his family and relatives anything at all, they would have said he doesn't have the love for his family. Let's say Religion must have been the father's excuse in the first place, he should have accepted in public and explained to him in private the reason for his objection to the money, I don't see any reason the father should reject money at all.

@Bittraffic what do you think is more indiscipline by making fun of a child's success in the public, the amount is big enough to start something in his region and I believe if there is proper management, they will yield something from that money if it is well used, we should learn to call a spade a spade, this act is delusional and embarrassing, to be honest.

Although maybe for us the father's reason is not very relevant when rejecting the money his son got from gambling, he also has the right to accept objections and refuse his son's money. I'm sure not one or two people will do this (refuse money from gambling) especially if they are religious leaders or people who do not agree with gambling. In my opinion it goes back to their respective rights, on the other hand we cannot force them to accept gambling, or conversely those who refuse gambling cannot force us to be on their side.

[rahmad2nd]

Unfortunately, we don't know the reason why the father acted like that in the first place after knowing that his son won a staggering $51,000 in gambling because the story was not released in a full detailed version and was a kind of short. Actually, I never had a story that was reported like this where they leave the readers a lot more questions in their head rather than understanding the story and why such behaviors have occurred instead of being thankful to the fact.

For sure, we do not have detailed information regarding the story of the child and the father in this thread. however, if we examine based on the writing on that part of the image. there, implying something his father didn't like. In essence, his father refused. plus, he told his son that the money could not enter his house. uniquely, the father told his son to return the money from the gambling results to the betting company.

Well, in short, there's been a lot of assumptions and speculation from the community. in fact, we can relate it to the beliefs that the father believes in. at least, there were some members who had the same speculation. it could also be that the father suspects that his son is doing something wrong by taking someone else's property. yes, there are lots of wild assumptions and speculations from this story. but the closest to the subject, that the father does not want to receive money from the proceeds of gambling. this was reinforced by his statement saying that the money was not allowed to enter his house. that means, the father has faith in his belief, that he should not accept the gambling money, let alone link it to belief. instead of being returned, I'm not quite sure that the son will do what the father tells him to do. and yes, in short, a person has the right to reject or accept according to what he believes. Likewise, with what the father did. Basically, we don't know the background of this case. so, let this problem just be a father and son story.

[Sanitough]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

The boys age is not disclose so we can not really conclude  if the boy is old enough to get is own fiat and to some extent there are limitations to how young people live there life's especially in Africa to some extent we are always kind of way obligated to our parent which is good but has a lot of disadvantage especially in time of making decision, The boy will never forget, and in some situations, I'm sure many people won't return the money and are willing to disobey their father. If the boy were mature enough, I don't think the father would have made that decision for him to return such a large sum of money given the way money is becoming a problem.

Yet, the father's reason why he rejected those wins were also not disclosed and that just leads us to a dead end where further questions will become nonsense and aren't really answerable by anybody unless the OP will give out the source or give the whole story so that we can fully understand the father's decision about the son's winnings from gambling. Eiter way, I think you're right, most of us would choose disobeying the father and just hope that someday, he will understand our decisions.

[madnessteat]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

We don't know much about the father-son relationship, so it's hard to judge which one is right. All I know is that money is never superfluous, so the father could have accepted the money he won and told his son how best to use it.

Although, on the other hand, if he turned down the money, his advice may not be as valuable. Parents are our guides in the world, so we should listen to them, but that doesn't mean we always have to. Each of us has our own views on gambling and winnings, so it's up to us to decide how to deal with them.

[Josefjix]

Yet, the father's reason why he rejected those wins were also not disclosed and that just leads us to a dead end where further questions will become nonsense and aren't really answerable by anybody unless the OP will give out the source or give the whole story so that we can fully understand the father's decision about the son's winnings from gambling. Eiter way, I think you're right, most of us would choose disobeying the father and just hope that someday, he will understand our decisions.

Rejecting such high figures, which is essentially not what we want to hear, situations like these are uncommon these days. I haven't heard a both positive and negative story in a long time. Nobody knows how long the teenager has been preoccupied to gambling, but the essential point is that he has reaped the benefits of his efforts, therefore I would advise him to probably start a new life, in a new residence. He's now a man who can take care of himself; after all, it's the same father who would force him to work to earn enough to feed him. Now that the boy has easy money from gambling, he should look for fundamental potential.

[X-ray]

There are so many possibilities why father was rejecting his win. I meant like he has been loosing more compared what he has won. That makes sense if his father was rejecting it but im thinking about if his father was the only who knew the reason.
He might be the same like other who saw gambling as a bad thing. I can't judge him caused by that's his decision. His son might be learning to never try to tell others even his father about his won.
It will be far better rather than triggering a conflict in his family due to the telling his family about his won in the gambling. That's my main concern right now.
I personally believe that if his son was not fully wrong to tell his family about what already won by him but his family has different perspective compared with him.

So many speculations regarding what makes his father reject it and it's actually pointless as we didn't know the continuation from this story.

[Mahanton]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

The boys age is not disclose so we can not really conclude  if the boy is old enough to get is own fiat and to some extent there are limitations to how young people live there life's especially in Africa to some extent we are always kind of way obligated to our parent which is good but has a lot of disadvantage especially in time of making decision, The boy will never forget, and in some situations, I'm sure many people won't return the money and are willing to disobey their father. If the boy were mature enough, I don't think the father would have made that decision for him to return such a large sum of money given the way money is becoming a problem.

Yet, the father's reason why he rejected those wins were also not disclosed and that just leads us to a dead end where further questions will become nonsense and aren't really answerable by anybody unless the OP will give out the source or give the whole story so that we can fully understand the father's decision about the son's winnings from gambling. Eiter way, I think you're right, most of us would choose disobeying the father and just hope that someday, he will understand our decisions.

We can make out some assumptions but basing up on such rejection then it would really be only pertaining on some possible reasons which it can really be counted by fingers or just simply making use of
common sense. Whether it would really be on religion aspect or would really be that a personal kind of approach on which his father cant really accept any gambling funds or anything that it is really attached to it.
Its true that we dont really know the real story but in overall on having that kind of assumption on whats the reason behind then we dont really actually know. It is really just that too wasteful to think that
things turns out to be that rejected despite on having that huge sum which not all people would really be able to handle or get a hold of it. Even myself never ever handled out such big money
and on the time that if my son would hit up some good amounts in gambling then there would really be no rejections that would happen. lol

[darewaller]

Whatever reason the father had on his mind, that is not enough reason to reject the gift from his son, if the child has not given any of his family and relatives anything at all, they would have said he doesn't have the love for his family. Let's say Religion must have been the father's excuse in the first place, he should have accepted in public and explained to him in private the reason for his objection to the money, I don't see any reason the father should reject money at all.

What if there is a strong reason which is valid like their religion prohibits it? Even though if it's a gift that came from my son, I will also choose to reject it. I know it can hurt me and my son's feelings but as long as I explain it to him on why did i do it, I think he will just understand it. Religion must be the center of all.

We must respect it because if not, bad karma are going to hit us. It's not about the money. Even if we have loads of it but if a severe ill hit us due to our actions, our money can't do anything to cure it. If they don't have a money but as long as they are doing a good thing, a good karma will just occur on them, making them earn better in the future.

[Wakate]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

The situation is somehow complicated. Why does the child take his winning information to the father when he knows that his family will never support him? This is why ridiculous for the son to act like this. If the parent would not support the poor boy, is either he take the money back or he will be the one to leave the house, that is if the fund won is huge and could change his life if he makes plan to use the money well. The boy is a lucky one and that is what many gamblers that had been attempting to have with such a big winning. What ever be the outcome, the boy need to think well before making any decisions.

[Tony116]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

The situation is somehow complicated. Why does the child take his winning information to the father when he knows that his family will never support him? This is why ridiculous for the son to act like this. If the parent would not support the poor boy, is either he take the money back or he will be the one to leave the house, that is if the fund won is huge and could change his life if he makes plan to use the money well. The boy is a lucky one and that is what many gamblers that had been attempting to have with such a big winning. What ever be the outcome, the boy need to think well before making any decisions.

Knowing that his family does not support gambling, it is difficult to speculate why the son would share his winnings with his father. There may be several reasons for his decision, including a desire for validation or acceptance from his father, a hope for a change in his father's perspective, or a sense of duty to share the news with his family.

However, A father's rejection of the money may be a result of concerns about gambling's potential negative effects or a desire to uphold his principles and values. Due to the potential life-changing impact of the winnings, the son may be faced with conflicting emotions and decisions.

[stomachgrowls]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

The situation is somehow complicated. Why does the child take his winning information to the father when he knows that his family will never support him? This is why ridiculous for the son to act like this. If the parent would not support the poor boy, is either he take the money back or he will be the one to leave the house, that is if the fund won is huge and could change his life if he makes plan to use the money well. The boy is a lucky one and that is what many gamblers that had been attempting to have with such a big winning. What ever be the outcome, the boy need to think well before making any decisions.

Knowing that his family does not support gambling, it is difficult to speculate why the son would share his winnings with his father. There may be several reasons for his decision, including a desire for validation or acceptance from his father, a hope for a change in his father's perspective, or a sense of duty to share the news with his family.

However, A father's rejection of the money may be a result of concerns about gambling's potential negative effects or a desire to uphold his principles and values. Due to the potential life-changing impact of the winnings, the son may be faced with conflicting emotions and decisions.

There are things which his father do only knows but its true that if this one is related to religious aspect then his son or children would really be definitely be knowledgeable or aware of that on which explaining it to his father would be pointless and would be ending up on being scolded since its really that opposing or violating their religious belief, unless if this one is really just on personal approach or preferred by his father on not to deal up with gambling on which it would really be just that normal that his son wouldnt really be that aware of that.

This is why if ever this thing would be rejected specially on a huge money something like this, then lots would be saying that it is really just that a waste of opportunity considering that there are really
things which you could do with that money.Im not saying about bending or breaking your own principle as a person but it would really be just that a waste on ignoring that
amount just you do really want to follow that principle but well there's nothing we can do if he would be sticking into that.

[eaLiTy]

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Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.
 
How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

Looks like the father did the right thing, it is clearly mentioned that he is a boy even though his age is not mentioned, there is no way anyone would gamble or allow to gamble at a young age as it would destroy his career because he starts to think about making money as an easy venture. If he is a student, he must focus on building is life rather than gambling.

[serjent05]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

Returning a won money back is an insane move and I would also not give it back and also won't donate it because I still have lots of relatives that needs financial support.  I would rather distribute them to my relatives than giving it to charity.  I would not think of moving out because it is convenient to have other people by our side.  They can support and help us in time of need immediately.  Although I won't listen to the father's suggestion, i would also not push in giving him the money, I will give it to my mom and let her keep the money won in gambling.

[dunfida]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

Returning a won money back is an insane move and I would also not give it back and also won't donate it because I still have lots of relatives that needs financial support.  I would rather distribute them to my relatives than giving it to charity.  I would not think of moving out because it is convenient to have other people by our side.  They can support and help us in time of need immediately.  Although I won't listen to the father's suggestion, i would also not push in giving him the money, I will give it to my mom and let her keep the money won in gambling.

Even on my situation as a child or being a son who do win up big then i wont really be tending on giving back those amounts into the casino but if you do really love and respect your father that much then likely you would be ending up on such decision but not for me. You could always be having the option to keep it for yourself or you would be buying some crypto and store it on your non custodial wallet and
your father wont really be able to know on what you have done but at least you do have the money on the time that you would be needing it.This is why it doesnt really have any sense
if you are really that taking actions just because you are obeying your fathers command.Its not really that bad to be making some alterations or disobeying decisions for sometime
specially if you do see that it would be practical and something that could help you out in the future.

[len01]

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Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.
 
How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

Looks like the father did the right thing, it is clearly mentioned that he is a boy even though his age is not mentioned, there is no way anyone would gamble or allow to gamble at a young age as it would destroy his career because he starts to think about making money as an easy venture. If he is a student, he must focus on building is life rather than gambling.

I agree with you that a father wants the best for his child and the father certainly understands that gambling will only have a bad effect on his child in the long term, especially if his son gets a big win which can change people's mindsets to be bad and think of gambling as a place looking for profit.

[maydna]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

The situation is somehow complicated. Why does the child take his winning information to the father when he knows that his family will never support him? This is why ridiculous for the son to act like this. If the parent would not support the poor boy, is either he take the money back or he will be the one to leave the house, that is if the fund won is huge and could change his life if he makes plan to use the money well. The boy is a lucky one and that is what many gamblers that had been attempting to have with such a big winning. What ever be the outcome, the boy need to think well before making any decisions.

Perhaps, the child wants to say that his money results from his gambling winnings honestly. But unfortunately, his father refused firmly not to bring the money into his house. We could probably say that it was ridiculous to his son that he couldn't bring his money home.

The child should not try to play gambling because maybe he already knows that his father does not want to see his child gambling or get a lot of money from gambling. The father had good intentions to protect his son from the dangers of gambling, so it would be up to him. The boy is really lucky to earn a lot of money, and this is a test for the boy as to what he will decide. Perhaps, he'll donate all of his winnings or he could just use it.

[GigaBit]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.
How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

Perhaps the Nigerian father considered gambling from a religious point of view. For which he did not accept that money. It is not unusual. Many families considered gambling as very badly. They think gambling will make their children bad. Even if they get greedy there they will lose all wealth. But there are some family fathers who take it easy when they get a big win. But it has been proven that the father OP mentioned who was not really greedy. This is a personal matter of that father. But most fathers will accept that money.

[uneng]

Time to get his own flat then. Father is right in his perspective, if he thinks betting is bad thing win or loose doesn't metter . Then son should go live by himself, If he can bet himself he should be +18, he can (should) live by himself too. My Father is not diffrent aswell if I somehow win 100k$ I'm out simple as that. This is our lifes not others. I would not give that money back or donate it...

Returning a won money back is an insane move and I would also not give it back and also won't donate it because I still have lots of relatives that needs financial support.  I would rather distribute them to my relatives than giving it to charity.  I would not think of moving out because it is convenient to have other people by our side.  They can support and help us in time of need immediately.  Although I won't listen to the father's suggestion, i would also not push in giving him the money, I will give it to my mom and let her keep the money won in gambling.

Since the father is too stubborn to accept the money, his son could use the prize to buy things to gift his father through goods, instead of money. And he doesn't need to say the source of the money he has been using to purchase the gifts. It's simpler doing this than trying to convince the father he should accept gambling winnings or to not give him any financial support at all, because as an elder he must need extra money for his personal daily needs and those needs can't be neglected by the sons and daughters.