Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[Dimitri94]

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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

We all know this, that our love ones just truly care for us but most of the time we can't be understood the way we wanted to be understood.
If you are gambling lavishly while letting your family taken for granted, you really need to stop. Have a life. Don't let gambling be your life. Have a job and provide for your family. Gambling is not a stable income. Don't let it determine how you treat the people around you.

If winning big in gambling requires you to lose your family, is that truly a win? Think of it.

We know excess of everything is bad that will cause problems. If someone is addicted to gambling and spends more time without his family then his family bond will be destroyed. Because a person cannot live without family. A gambler must give first priority to his family or loved ones. OP shared the story of the friend whose beloved lost her faith on him. The person may did not want to share the gambling issue with anyone. But when his wife finds out about his gambling, her faith reduce. The gambler must give time to the family as well as not spend money on gambling that destroy family bond.

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[fullhdpixel]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

Yes this is important for every relationships. We must tell everything that we are planning to do to our partner because this helps to build trust although sometimes there are partners that won't let their partner to play gambling.

We should obey it if we truly love them. There are still other alternatives out there which are also fun and profitable just like gambling and I am sure some of them will be alright for our partners. For most partners, gambling with small amount has never been an issue but they will only get angry if you gamble huge because they think it will cause a problem to you later on and will possibly affect your relationships.

[swogerino]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

Yes this is important for every relationships. We must tell everything that we are planning to do to our partner because this helps to build trust although sometimes there are partners that won't let their partner to play gambling.

We should obey it if we truly love them. There are still other alternatives out there which are also fun and profitable just like gambling and I am sure some of them will be alright for our partners. For most partners, gambling with small amount has never been an issue but they will only get angry if you gamble huge because they think it will cause a problem to you later on and will possibly affect your relationships.

Some people think that by hiding their gambling habit they think they will still be able to be in the eyes of their loved ones as a hero who provides for their family and behave normally.This is dangerous as every hidden activity will once come out in the sunlight and the partner will know,when such things happen we have seen a lot of bad things happening and life turning events for the persons who were gambling and not telling their loved ones when they are found out.

It is always better to tell to the partner or if you are smart enough to just play sport bets as that does not need a lot of effort to be hiding,you place bets on your teams and then let the games run,check tomorrow the results to not give reason for any suspicion from your partner.You can never hide gambling activity though when you play slots and other games.

[GideonGono]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

LOL this made my day, but honestly I get why the wife has to threaten him.
He is spending so much money that his wife is unawared of and they are already married, even if they aren't having any financial issue right now she should also be aware of what is happening to her partners life.
She might just be scared that her husband could be addicted to gambling and might ruin their relationship and life.
It might not really be about the big profit that your friend won in the past but the fact that he was gambling with a lot of money behind her back.

[wiss19]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

you never mentioned that he neglected the wife's financial needs, that's the only time I'd have said I felt where her pains and anger seems to be coming from, but, in as much as he is doing what he's supposed to in the relationship, what right has she to stop him or give him such options??

It's fine, I've learnt to let family issues be theirs, finally the know best how to settle their differences and you who tries to interfere may become an enemy to them.

Even if he isn't neglecting her financial needs and fulfills every single requirement and even provides her with the best that is possible, being his life partner, she still has all the right to know what he is doing on her back and if he lies or hides something from her and she finds out about it herself, such a reaction is reasonable, I would say that she reacted pretty leniently and some wives would go way harder than just a threat.

One should imagine being in her shoes and then thinking how they would react to find out that their partner has been hiding something this big from them all this time and even at the end, he didn't tell her himself but she found out about it herself.

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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I don't blame the woman for acting that way because that is exactly what every good woman who loves his husband will do after she have noticed he is spending more time on gambling than the family and losing more money that ought to have been used for the upkeep of the family on gambling. Because to me, it's only been once that someone have asked me to stop gambling, and that was my girlfriend years back after she noticed a change in my gambling habit as I was so desperate to for money, and that led me to lose control over my little money simply because I was hoping for more, and at first I didn't take her serious, but it was later I had a rethink to now reduce how much time I now spend on gambling.

[AicecreaME]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

Yes this is important for every relationships. We must tell everything that we are planning to do to our partner because this helps to build trust although sometimes there are partners that won't let their partner to play gambling.

We should obey it if we truly love them. There are still other alternatives out there which are also fun and profitable just like gambling and I am sure some of them will be alright for our partners. For most partners, gambling with small amount has never been an issue but they will only get angry if you gamble huge because they think it will cause a problem to you later on and will possibly affect your relationships.

Some people think that by hiding their gambling habit they think they will still be able to be in the eyes of their loved ones as a hero who provides for their family and behave normally.This is dangerous as every hidden activity will once come out in the sunlight and the partner will know,when such things happen we have seen a lot of bad things happening and life turning events for the persons who were gambling and not telling their loved ones when they are found out.

It is always better to tell to the partner or if you are smart enough to just play sport bets as that does not need a lot of effort to be hiding,you place bets on your teams and then let the games run,check tomorrow the results to not give reason for any suspicion from your partner.You can never hide gambling activity though when you play slots and other games.

I very much agree with this.

There's no sense in hiding the truth because eventually, it will come out. It's much better to tell directly to your partner that you want to gamble or you are gambling and at the same time, give an assurance that you will not gamble excessively to the point wherein you will compromise your quality time and your finances. It is always better to communicate especially if your partner is open to the idea of other recreational activities for you to relax and to earn instead of lying and then losing the trust the moment he or she finds out about it.

And of course, be sure to stand on your principles and to those things that you said to prove yourself worthy of the trust and the permission to gamble. Betrayal is painful, so don't ever think about not doing what you uttered. Do everything in moderation and responsibly.

[maydna]

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I don't blame the woman for acting that way because that is exactly what every good woman who loves his husband will do after she have noticed he is spending more time on gambling than the family and losing more money that ought to have been used for the upkeep of the family on gambling. Because to me, it's only been once that someone have asked me to stop gambling, and that was my girlfriend years back after she noticed a change in my gambling habit as I was so desperate to for money, and that led me to lose control over my little money simply because I was hoping for more, and at first I didn't take her serious, but it was later I had a rethink to now reduce how much time I now spend on gambling.

A good woman will certainly be able to take care of her household well too but that depends on the attitude of her husband. If the husband can listen to the advice of his wife and start changing for the better, it will change his family life for the better. But if her husband instead spends his time gambling, it will not be good for the family. And even though her husband can get a big win, it seems like it won't be worth it if the husband doesn't share the winning money with his wife. And if his wife asks her husband to stop or reduce his gambling time, the husband should be able to obey his wife because it is for the good of himself and his family.

[Maslate]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

LOL this made my day, but honestly I get why the wife has to threaten him.
He is spending so much money that his wife is unawared of and they are already married, even if they aren't having any financial issue right now she should also be aware of what is happening to her partners life.
She might just be scared that her husband could be addicted to gambling and might ruin their relationship and life.
It might not really be about the big profit that your friend won in the past but the fact that he was gambling with a lot of money behind her back.

Yes, I agree.

We might be not on their shoes but it is surely understandable why the wife would be acting like that, they sure just want us to be in a safe space and away from such things that could potentially ruin the whole family, the marriage and even their financial stability even if they are still comfortable at the moment. Sooner or later, without a guide or should I say without the wife's unwanted repetitive words, we might get ourselves into a situation where it's already too late to go back. Anyway, just try to be transparent of everything that is going on with your life, be it a good or bad.

[LUCKMCFLY]

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I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

all my life, only my parents could threaten me to stop gambling even though in the end I returned to gambling after previously making promises to my parents

Over time, I have become more and more convinced that it is we ourselves who can change and direct our lives, as long as we can control our gambling habits then why should we stop gambling!!

The key word is control, if you can control yourself yeah there is no need to be controlled by someone else. Some people think it is easy to get rid the gambling addiction but in reality, gambling addiction can be so dangerous when you don't take it seriously. The more we play the more dopamine brings addictions in our brain cells, IMO.

I also agree with what you say, because if a person cannot control himself it is impossible for him to set an example. I have seen many heads of families, men who have their wife and children and suddenly lose control not because of another woman but because of the casino game, because they have losing streaks and start betting more than they should and when they start to see they put their family support money at risk, that's when the addiction comes in, the loss of control and that's why I also second what you say, control is everything when it comes to casino games.

[Josefjix]

I also agree with what you say, because if a person cannot control himself it is impossible for him to set an example. I have seen many heads of families, men who have their wife and children and suddenly lose control not because of another woman but because of the casino game, because they have losing streaks and start betting more than they should and when they start to see they put their family support money at risk, that's when the addiction comes in, the loss of control and that's why I also second what you say, control is everything when it comes to casino games.

Our major concern should be to provide for our family, which means we should look for a decent a secondary source of income, and I don't propose gambling because it's too risky and not completely reliable. Gambling is a personal decision, but when pushed to an extreme, it reveals the bad traits, depleting all personal and life savings. Of course, no one will threaten you for your money; each individual knows what is best for himself or herself. Gambling is not a good way to go; I've been there, and believe me when I tell it will deplete one's life savings if not controlled and understood on time.

[mamesso]

The wife or girlfriend must be realistic about the gambling activities carried out by their partner, when they prohibit their partner from gambling, they also do not need to demand anything from their winnings. Hiding gambling activity from wife or girlfriend right of a husband, as long as the household needs are sufficient and the wife's maintenance costs are not lacking, the wife does not need to intervene with her husband in something that the husband does.
It needs a turning point from everything you said at the beginning of the topic, it must be traced to their financial condition while their husband were gambling. Financial health in the household is the responsibility of the husband, if all of that has been fulfilled, the husband can do anything to entertain himself after feeling tired at work.

[Rabata]

The wife or girlfriend must be realistic about the gambling activities carried out by their partner, when they prohibit their partner from gambling, they also do not need to demand anything from their winnings. Hiding gambling activity from wife or girlfriend right of a husband, as long as the household needs are sufficient and the wife's maintenance costs are not lacking, the wife does not need to intervene with her husband in something that the husband does.
It needs a turning point from everything you said at the beginning of the topic, it must be traced to their financial condition while their husband were gambling. Financial health in the household is the responsibility of the husband, if all of that has been fulfilled, the husband can do anything to entertain himself after feeling tired at work.

If it is the case that a gambler gambles regularly and there is no shortage of household expenses and planning then I think it is better not to inform the wife about gambling. When one discloses his gambling to his wife, he may face various hurdles. The gambler will not be able to handle gambling comfortably even if his wife is smiling when he wins but both will suffer from depression when he loses. Every gambler should give some time to family otherwise there may be turmoil in the family. If a gambler is gambling all the time then it cannot be called gambling rather it becomes addiction.

[wxa7115]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

It is obvious that your friend is at fault over this, after all every purchase no matter how small needs to be approved by both parties precisely to avoid that kind of resentment and suspicions he is now being subjected to.

And when we add that the amount of money seems to be on the high side then this gave greater weight to the argument of his wife, personally I have not been subjected to this kind of ultimatum but that is because I do not have that kind of commitment with someone else which could force me to reveal the state of my finances to them.

[retreat]

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Yes this is important for every relationships. We must tell everything that we are planning to do to our partner because this helps to build trust although sometimes there are partners that won't let their partner to play gambling.

We should obey it if we truly love them. There are still other alternatives out there which are also fun and profitable just like gambling and I am sure some of them will be alright for our partners. For most partners, gambling with small amount has never been an issue but they will only get angry if you gamble huge because they think it will cause a problem to you later on and will possibly affect your relationships.

Gambling actually won't destroy a relationship if you're not addicted to it. If you can still control and use spare money, there should be no problem with that. The problem is when you ignore your partner and think that gambling is far more important than them, that's the problem. That's why responsibility in relationships is important, especially when you are a gambler, between gambling activities and your home life must be balanced.

[Mr.suevie]

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I don't blame the woman for acting that way because that is exactly what every good woman who loves his husband will do after she have noticed he is spending more time on gambling than the family and losing more money that ought to have been used for the upkeep of the family on gambling. Because to me, it's only been once that someone have asked me to stop gambling, and that was my girlfriend years back after she noticed a change in my gambling habit as I was so desperate to for money, and that led me to lose control over my little money simply because I was hoping for more, and at first I didn't take her serious, but it was later I had a rethink to now reduce how much time I now spend on gambling.

I wish I had someone who had also threatened me when I was at the peak of my gambling addiction but mine was different, I had to learn how to stop it the hard way and I lost of a lot things and like what they alway say experience is the best teacher which I have come to realize the reality of that speech.

In this case the woman is just doing what every reasonable woman would do and thats to scold him and threatened to stop his gambling before it turns out late because the after effect is probably going to be experience by both party.

[Docnaster]

Gambling is fun and if I marry and get to gamble, I will set out the funds for gambling and it will be with my wife. Whenever I want to fund my gambling account, I will be like "hun it's time to waste money, please fund my account "
Whenever the winning comes, we go on outing immediately and have fun.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

No, rather I have been the one who threatened someone to stop gambling else I will restrain the financial assistance I offer the person

[len01]

Gambling actually won't destroy a relationship if you're not addicted to it. If you can still control and use spare money, there should be no problem with that. The problem is when you ignore your partner and think that gambling is far more important than them, that's the problem. That's why responsibility in relationships is important, especially when you are a gambler, between gambling activities and your home life must be balanced.

if a gambler thinks that gambling is only limited to a game that is only for fun, of course he will not have a problem between gambling and his family, he must be wiser in responding to this problem. because gambling is just temporary entertainment that doesn't need to be a priority but family must be the first priority.

IMO, it's actually quite easy to gamble responsibly. always plan a small budget for gambling. I'm sure this won't interfere with family relationships and the fun of gambling.

[tusandii]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

No, rather I have been the one who threatened someone to stop gambling else I will restrain the financial assistance I offer the person

How can a wife, girlfriend or parent threaten you to stop gambling if you yourself are always secretive and never tell about the gambling activities that you are doing.
If someone borrows some money from you to gamble then you can threaten him to stop but he doesn't seem like he will listen to the threat and instead goes elsewhere to borrow money.
A gambler who has the courage to borrow money to play capital can be said to be an addict so that he will never listen to threats or advice of any kind.
I am fed up with such a gambler and if my position were you, I would tell him to walk away and say enjoy your stupidity as a gambler until you feel misery.

[QueenVera]

I won't consider this as threatening in any way unless the partner may gain financial benefits from it so its more of guiding the partner who lost his way and at the verge of getting addiction but thank God she found before its get out of their hands.

I would say threating only if someone gambles and have success streak which can be a problem to casino bankroll so they will simply ban the person from playing in the casino anymore and its only possible in offline casino.

I think the partner blew up because she found out that the husband had a huge win in the past and never told her and worst of all is that the losses are now getting out of hand.
So just as op already said, the wife threatened  the husband with marriage and gave him a choice to choose either the marriage  or she which the husband had to choose her and hoping to convince her to see reasons with him and I'm sure that  it will have to be on a term that the husband will give her some path of his winnings.

Whatever the case be, I think God used the wife to safe their marriage and the husband from gambling addiction because it already seems  the husband was getting addicted and was already chasing his losses since their was a huge win in the past and he was so trying g to get back the good old days