Have you ever felt remorse after gambling?

[serjent05]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

Let's all agree on one thing, if you had $100 dollars to gamble with and by the end of the day you manage to flip it to over a thousand dollars...do you think any one will feel remorseful, I don't think so!

But on the other hand, if you had a 1000 dollars in your gaming account,  and blew it to zero..here anybody would feel they would have done better things with the money than gamble...but again like they say, only game with money you can afford to lose and you won't feel the remorse!!

I think he is implying on a scenario that user lose in gambling to feel remorse because no one will feel upset or remorse when you are winning or not losing during your gambling. It's really absurd if someone feel that way without losing any money on his game.

There are people who are greedy and is not satisfied with the amount of their winnings and wanted to have more.  They got remorseful because they don't bet higher amount and thinks if only they bet more they could have won more.

But in your last example, Even if I have 1M bankroll and lose only 1K, I will still feel a little bit upset since that is still good amount of money even if I can afford to lose it due to my bankroll. The difference is I will not soak on it and just forget about it after I feel temporarily sad about it.

If that is the case then you are wagering the fund you cannot afford to lose.  This is one reason a gambler feel remorse after losing.  They end up using the fund not allocated for their gambling activity.

[AicecreaME]

Feeling remorse is the result but the reason can be different since the gamblers have different mindsets. Gambling is there for only fun and if you feel remorse after losing big it means something is not right with that person. Feeling regretful is ok as well, you can win or lose instantly but not guaranteed to have only winnings on gambling. I advise learning to master your mindset as a gambler who regularly plays and feels different useless emotions, IMHO.

It's a good advise to shape a person's mindset for his own sake. However, I don't think that our emotions are useless as they belong to one of those many things that make us human. Having different emotions and feelings in various circumstances is totally normal. We are built that way - to feel something. Now, if you don't feel anything at all, that's when it becomes scary. Because if you can't feel that you played enough or be overwhelm by your losses, you can't really decide whether to continue playing or to stop. You'll have no sense of direction. The moment emotions become bad for us is when we let it take over us and let it control our decision-making.

Emotions aren't useless. But you have to utilize it to your advantage to avoid the repercussions. Being irrational and impulsive because you feel happy or sad is what's bad. So, you must learn to control it and to make a sane and logical decision everytime to avoid having resentment or regrets later on because you got swayed by it during your bet or play.

[maydna]

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If from the beginning gamblers can have patience and accept defeat and then only gamble with the aim of having fun then whether it's a big loss or a small loss they won't regret it because they see defeat as payment to be able to have fun.
Many other gamblers suggest gambling with money that can be received when it is lost and one of the benefits is that the gambler doesn't regret too much and thinks about returning losses because the thought of being able to recover losses will only bring even greater losses.
I'm not sure anyone can actually leave gambling without even returning because here they are within the scope of the gambling industry so it's impossible to stop so easily.

That's the true purpose of having fun with gambling. But unfortunately, from the start, they were curious and tried to play for one or two rounds, and the next, their curiosity became high, and finally, they continued playing again the next day. The initial goal of just wanting to have fun eventually becomes pursuing victory because they are curious and never win. And after tasting defeat again, they don't think they regret what they have done but keep playing. It takes a lot of things to stay on track, such as having fun with gambling so they don't end up gambling with too much money. If not, they will only regret it after knowing how much money they have used.

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Some people get used to it, I mean they will get used to being lose at everything and then still gamble because they are already addicted to it, they will not feel nothing anymore because they used to it and they will do everything just to satisfy their needs and the things that they wanted. They will continue to play even though they don't have anything in their pocket.

And they really will not regret spending a lot of money on gambling. They will even return, and those already addicted will not think anything has changed. They just want to satisfy their desire to play gambling, so they have no regrets. It will be bad for their life, especially if they are already addicted to gambling, where they will not think about stopping but want to continue playing, and if necessary, they will borrow money to gamble.

[Stable090]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

I don't know about others, but I don't think I'll feel remorseful for betting for fun. I believe the only people who have this problem are the addicts, who even end up selling off their properties, which is something we should always try to regulate how we gamble because a lot of people have a lot of bad testimony about how they sell their assets to bet. The intriguing thing about gamblers is that they keep telling themselves they're going to win and eventually develop an addiction.

[iv4n]

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But on the other hand, if you had a 1000 dollars in your gaming account,  and blew it to zero..here anybody would feel they would have done better things with the money than gamble...but again like they say, only game with money you can afford to lose and you won't feel the remorse!!

I think that every gambler feels "I could do it better" after losing any amount. It's automatic, I think we can't stop thinking about the moves we made, we can't stop analyzing.

And do we feel regret after burning the bankroll to zero (hundreds or thousands of dollars) in a short period of time? I think the answer is definitely yes, some of us simply like to win, and after losing there's that little disappointment and remorse! But definitely, that remorse doesn't last long, nor it's a big mood-destroyer if we spent just what we can afford to lose.

[LUCKMCFLY]

This is the way it should be, but most people once they begin to win some money they refuse to stop, they think that luck is finally on their side and they prefer to keep gambling thinking they will earn a lot of money and recover from all of those losing sessions they had on the past, but once their luck runs out they begin to lose again and in their desperation they decide to keep gambling, lose a great deal of their capital in the process and then they feel remorse about what they did.

After a good winning streak, you start to think that you have understood something and now it will always be like this, but losses are an integral part of the process and you can make more mistakes in this moments on emotions. After that, when you start to analyze what happened, you understand that this could have been avoided, and at such moments, of course, there is regret about what you have done.

Most gamblers make the same mistake, once they start winning a few times, they start thinking that they can manage to do that every time, without realizing that the game can always turn against them especially when there is a house edge intact all the time to make the house win in the long run. Some people even start betting with higher amounts once they get a winning streak which is the biggest mistake.

They wouldn't win as much as they will lose when they start betting with higher amounts because when they start losing, they try recovering their losses by doubling their bets and if a loss steak hits them, it clears their bankroll and waves them bye-bye after that.

I agree with this.

It's a common mistake for gamblers to not acknowledge the fact that there will be times they could lose too despite the continuous winning streak they had. Even if you are very much skilled, intelligent, and strategic, there will be times that luck won't just side on your favor. Hence, if you managed to win consecutively and happen to have an amount that is enough to get you something important, then learn to stop and control your urges. Otherwise, the luckiness might turn into madness later on. Your winnings can be instantly wiped out if ever you messed up or if ever the odds won't just be in favor with you.

You have to limit yourself and build a healthy gambling habit so that you won't regret later on. Indeed, tables can turn in the very last minute, so be wary of your actions especially if it involves large sum of money.

What he says is very wise, there are many who trust that what they have is the best, be it their strategy, playing style, everything, but sometimes the game, or any game they can give you can take away all the money if the person is carried away by impulses and adrenaline, it is difficult for things to go well through impulses, unless that person has so much money that he does not realize how much he loses, but if he applies a more reckless strategy such as the martingale, then yes You will feel that things can get out of control faster, that's why you have to know how to play, you have to know when to withdraw, generally both in the game and in the trading I learned to withdraw when I have a profit, no matter how much small be.

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

I don't know about others, but I don't think I'll feel remorseful for betting for fun. I believe the only people who have this problem are the addicts, who even end up selling off their properties, which is something we should always try to regulate how we gamble because a lot of people have a lot of bad testimony about how they sell their assets to bet. The intriguing thing about gamblers is that they keep telling themselves they're going to win and eventually develop an addiction.

I start from a very stable principle, we are adult players, any Risk that we assume we must accept that anything can happen, including winning or losing, I know that we all seek to win, it is something natural, very obvious and of course that things can be given as we want as long as they are done well and with everything in order, but there is also the possibility of losing and it is something that we are very sure of, we cannot fight against a system that is made so that the house and only the house has the advantage.

As players we fight against the house advantage, we fight against the advantage and level of difficulty of the game we are playing, and this is already something very big , and it is obvious that when we play and win we must celebrate in style, because there is many people who are eaten by casinos , that is, they end up losing everything and fall into an orblem of depression , stress and everything.

[Silberman]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

I don't know about others, but I don't think I'll feel remorseful for betting for fun. I believe the only people who have this problem are the addicts, who even end up selling off their properties, which is something we should always try to regulate how we gamble because a lot of people have a lot of bad testimony about how they sell their assets to bet. The intriguing thing about gamblers is that they keep telling themselves they're going to win and eventually develop an addiction.

This can even happen to a regular gambler that just happens to lose control for a night due to being intoxicated with alcohol or another substance, or simply by losing control of their emotions, and this should show us how important it is to always remain in control, as even a single moment of weakness can be enough to lose way more money than what you had in mind at the beginning of the session, and this can surely lead a person to be remorseful about their actions.

[ethereumhunter]

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But on the other hand, if you had a 1000 dollars in your gaming account,  and blew it to zero..here anybody would feel they would have done better things with the money than gamble...but again like they say, only game with money you can afford to lose and you won't feel the remorse!!

I think that every gambler feels "I could do it better" after losing any amount. It's automatic, I think we can't stop thinking about the moves we made, we can't stop analyzing.

And do we feel regret after burning the bankroll to zero (hundreds or thousands of dollars) in a short period of time? I think the answer is definitely yes, some of us simply like to win, and after losing there's that little disappointment and remorse! But definitely, that remorse doesn't last long, nor it's a big mood-destroyer if we spent just what we can afford to lose.

Yes, many will feel remorse because they have lost much money at gambling. But that doesn't stop them from returning to gambling, especially when they have money. We see that regret is only there for a while, so that they will gamble again a few days later. And those of us who have heard and read those regret stories don't need to experience them, especially if we want to be responsible gamblers. Feeling that regret and being able to make us reduce our gambling time would be better than trying to erase that regret and keep gambling because we want to recover the losses because it is much more difficult to get.

[xSkylarx]

What kind of remorse? like spending that money or betting your money? If so, then I would think that it is better to think twice before betting. I am this kind of person when I lose; I do feel regret when I lose that amount, even if I do budget it for that play, because I always think that if I don't gamble it, I probably spent it on something else. But when I win, it makes me bet more, which is a sign of greediness. If you feel remorse after losing, then you should always consider that if you lose this money, are you okay with it or do you just not play on that day?

[lienfaye]

What kind of remorse? like spending that money or betting your money? If so, then I would think that it is better to think twice before betting. I am this kind of person when I lose; I do feel regret when I lose that amount, even if I do budget it for that play, because I always think that if I don't gamble it, I probably spent it on something else. But when I win, it makes me bet more, which is a sign of greediness. If you feel remorse after losing, then you should always consider that if you lose this money, are you okay with it or do you just not play on that day?

Well, it's understandable to have regrets after losing your money in gambling. Who would feel good when you lose, right? It's a human nature. But it's a feeling that is easy to accept if you're playing solely to entertain yourself. However if you're playing with an expectation to win or chasing your past losses then it's a different thing.

The reason why before we play, you have to ask yourself if you can bear the consequences if you gamble your money. As we know it's hard to win and the possibility to lose your money is high. So if a gambler is fine with it and can accept the worse case to happen then the decision is up to us.

[Negotiation]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

I regret when I lose money in gambling or when I don't take enough risks on a bet that I think is good. But basically, I just gamble for some dopamine. That's why I don't mind too much when I lose. And the money I use for this job does not strain my budget. Because I'm not pushing my limits and I'm not losing control of myself. However, I still feel sad when I lose and feel regret for my wrong choices, but not too much. In short, I gamble only to increase my emotional intensity. That's why I don't regret too much and I don't get upset.

I agree you have to control yourself in the beginning of gambling and it is foolish to spend more money in the beginning. It should be caught with a small amount which should not be regretted if lost. We love to follow others we judge what we see around us accordingly. But many times it is not possible to control myself it leads to regret. I have never felt pain and work should be taken not as a burden but as entertainment and curiosity. Then if you start immediately, everything will be fine and there will be mental peace.

[summonerrk]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

I don't know about others, but I don't think I'll feel remorseful for betting for fun. I believe the only people who have this problem are the addicts, who even end up selling off their properties, which is something we should always try to regulate how we gamble because a lot of people have a lot of bad testimony about how they sell their assets to bet. The intriguing thing about gamblers is that they keep telling themselves they're going to win and eventually develop an addiction.

The problem is that the line between interest and addiction is very thin, and the player himself is practically unable to see it in himself.  But it is very easy for those around him: his friends and family.
When I play casino or poker, I clearly tell myself in advance how much I can spend this evening. And if I lose all the pre-agreed money, then I turn off poker or roulette, and accept that today I had a bad day. It is this kind of self-control that helps to keep yourself within limits.
The main rule: you can not fall into a tilt, and increase these amounts to the campaign of the game.

[Lorence.xD]

I really enjoy gambling especially if the gambling game is fun such as color game where there's three box contains 6 colors and you will roll it as a dice which is really fun. This kinds of gambling games are popular in my country where you can see some people are always there as if that's where they get their source of living. I've started young with a small amount first and I find that enjoyable even playing cards with adults with just a small bet. But one time I asked for money to my mother when I was a kid just to gambling with my friends after losing a lot, then in the end I'd still lost and my mother asked me what did I bought with my money and of course I lied and I really felt bad since she said that money was supposed to used for buying foods so yeah. I've never used again other's money when it comes to my entertainment.

[YOSHIE]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

OP, research has proven that the average person involved in gambling, whether it's online or offline, has experienced a sense of regret, maybe various factors, I personally have felt that.

Gambling is like the shadow of a ghost, you see the closer you get to the ghost the farther it gets, the curiosity keeps coming to mind, the more you chase it, the more it disappears, that's gambling, if you keep chasing ghosts you unknowingly are already in a cemetery / grave, when you realize regret comes to mind, why am I chasing that ghost.

Conclusion: right now I am aware and I am gambling or based on my own thoughts, unlike what I said above, I always control myself to overcome regrets in the future.

[Mauser]

What kind of remorse? like spending that money or betting your money? If so, then I would think that it is better to think twice before betting. I am this kind of person when I lose; I do feel regret when I lose that amount, even if I do budget it for that play, because I always think that if I don't gamble it, I probably spent it on something else. But when I win, it makes me bet more, which is a sign of greediness. If you feel remorse after losing, then you should always consider that if you lose this money, are you okay with it or do you just not play on that day?

It's a good point to ask ourselves what would we have done with our money if we didn't spend it on gambling or sports betting. Everybody feels remorse from time to time, but we need to think carefully about it and see if it's true or our brain just playing tricks on us. Because it's not like the alternative to gambling is sitting at home do nothing. Some nights I stayed home gambling I would have went out with friends for a beer or watch a movie. So there are opportunity costs and it's not like all the lost money would still be in my wallet if I didn't gamble. On the other side we also need to think about the times we made profits when we feel remorse. It's not like we can only get rid of the bad things of gambling and keep our profits.

[noormcs5]

I really enjoy gambling especially if the gambling game is fun such as color game where there's three box contains 6 colors and you will roll it as a dice which is really fun. This kinds of gambling games are popular in my country where you can see some people are always there as if that's where they get their source of living. I've started young with a small amount first and I find that enjoyable even playing cards with adults with just a small bet. But one time I asked for money to my mother when I was a kid just to gambling with my friends after losing a lot, then in the end I'd still lost and my mother asked me what did I bought with my money and of course I lied and I really felt bad since she said that money was supposed to used for buying foods so yeah. I've never used again other's money when it comes to my entertainment.

It's obvious that we felt sad after losing in gambling. Who wants to lose in gambling? No one. Everyone wants to have a win in gambling and this is not possible of course. This remorse increases significantly if you have risked money which should not have been put into gambling and then you lost that money. Sometimes such acts will make your life miserable and will not be limited to regret only. Think that someone took a loan to gamble and lost the money, the remorse in this case is unimaginable. One may be killing himself after such a loss of that loaned money.

The losses will happen in gambling and if the gamblers make up their mind initially, then for sure they won't get too emotional after the losses and won't take more wrong actions.

[slapper]

What kind of remorse? like spending that money or betting your money? If so, then I would think that it is better to think twice before betting. I am this kind of person when I lose; I do feel regret when I lose that amount, even if I do budget it for that play, because I always think that if I don't gamble it, I probably spent it on something else. But when I win, it makes me bet more, which is a sign of greediness. If you feel remorse after losing, then you should always consider that if you lose this money, are you okay with it or do you just not play on that day?

It's a good point to ask ourselves what would we have done with our money if we didn't spend it on gambling or sports betting. Everybody feels remorse from time to time, but we need to think carefully about it and see if it's true or our brain just playing tricks on us. Because it's not like the alternative to gambling is sitting at home do nothing. Some nights I stayed home gambling I would have went out with friends for a beer or watch a movie. So there are opportunity costs and it's not like all the lost money would still be in my wallet if I didn't gamble. On the other side we also need to think about the times we made profits when we feel remorse. It's not like we can only get rid of the bad things of gambling and keep our profits.

Your findings on gambling, remorse, and opportunity cost reconciliation are striking. However, one may argue the opposite. Opportunity cost extends beyond money. It's physical, psychological, and social. Gambling instead of "going out with friends for a beer or watching a movie" meant missing out on camaraderie, shared experiences, and prospective memories.
 Second, the mind "playing tricks." Our brains try to rationalize our behaviors, but this might backfire. It may impede us from assessing our choices' harmful effects. Finally, regarding your statement on the difficulties of preserving only gambling's profitable aspects, let's not miss the possibilities for a more controlled, responsible approach. This could reduce the harmful effects while retaining the pleasure.

[FanEagle]

I don't know about others, but I don't think I'll feel remorseful for betting for fun. I believe the only people who have this problem are the addicts, who even end up selling off their properties, which is something we should always try to regulate how we gamble because a lot of people have a lot of bad testimony about how they sell their assets to bet. The intriguing thing about gamblers is that they keep telling themselves they're going to win and eventually develop an addiction.

This can even happen to a regular gambler that just happens to lose control for a night due to being intoxicated with alcohol or another substance, or simply by losing control of their emotions, and this should show us how important it is to always remain in control, as even a single moment of weakness can be enough to lose way more money than what you had in mind at the beginning of the session, and this can surely lead a person to be remorseful about their actions.

Why do you think drinks are free in most casinos? I have seen this first hand, people who gamble very very little, were comped with free drinks, free food, even free cigarettes if they use it, just so they can stay a little longer. That's what you must do as a casino, keep them there as long as possible so that they could continue to gamble.

If you achieve that, then eventually they will drink too much and they will end up with more loss than they want to, and you will get that money back you spent on the drinks for them. This may not work for every single person of course, some will go and drink and spend very little or maybe even win and leave. But the general population will lose all they have, maybe even more than that, casinos are known for people to lose all their wealth.

[Maslate]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

That certain feeling can only be felt by a gambler if he/she has lost to the casino big time because if it is the opposite thing, I highly doubt that remorse will be a suitable feeling as the person will certainly be overjoyed because of the huge winning. Even if we say that you didn't said anything to your wife that you will be gambling on that specific day, I don't think that your woman will totally care about the fact and will be mad to you if she will know that you got some huge winnings in your pocket.

[o48o]

I saw this online and thought maybe i should bring on to bitcointalk for discussion.

If a person gamble and at the end of the game he starts to feel remorse is that a good thing or should the person be on alert?

Long time ago i felt it a lot. At the time i was reckless and didn't even understand i had a problem with gambling. That was before i had set any gambling rules and limits for myself.
And shame too after i had to tell i gambled my rent and couldn't afford it.

After i managed ask the money from my mother i stopped gambling all together. But i still loved gambling and wondered if there's anything i can do to keep it in control. So i made a set of rules to myself that i keep updating if i find something that doesn't work. When i stick to those rules i will be fine and don't have ever feel that remorse or shame of losing.