Will you find it offensive to be referred to as an addicted gambler?

[danherbias07]

In the same sense, their say towards you will not change even if you're not that addicted towards gambling or not even close to become an addict. Let's face that reality already as they will always have a say about you, no matter what you will do.

The important thing is that, like what you've said, we are transparent to our own family and that they know the reality and our status towards gambling. For sure they will understand because you are open to them but if you do that secretly, expect the exact same opposite of it.

Yes people are get used to stereotype all the people, when they heard that someone is gamble they already think that someone is addict. So just like them, let us just get used to it and don't mind them as ling as we are happy and we are being entertained by gambling as long as we have discipline and we know how to control our emotions over it.

Gossips. That's all they can do but they cannot hurt you or your feelings if we just ignore them. They have no proof of it, they can call us whatever they like but in the end, it's our own life that we should be worried about and not the things other people will say especially if they are not part of the family, circle of friends, or a relative.
I always tell stories with my Saturday night friends about how I bet on a sport (NBA most of the time) and they are actually amazed especially if those are winning bets. In fact, they like to do it too when the season starts. But the point is, I never once heard them call me an addicted gambler, we are all just happy sharing stories of how we gambled when we are young afterward. No one is judging anyone, no one is stopping anyone, and we just like adding more fuel to entertain us during a game which is gambling against each other or the sports bookies.
In fact, I won a bet of a full round of beers and snacks against a friend betting for the Nuggets.

I think what I mean is, friends and families won't judge you easily but other people who don't really know you will tell gossip without any remorse. There will always be those kinds of people.

[n0ne]

If someone who is close to us or a friend circle referring me as a addicted gambler isn't a big issue. If a common man terms me a gambling addict then I won't find it good, because the person's view upon me will be different from what he had earlier. The society is developed in such a way that gambling money won't bring success as well as it is something against God and not the right thing. For this reason even my earnings through my job could be connected with gambling. Better is to hide our gambling activities and stay chill.

[dothebeats]

In the same sense, their say towards you will not change even if you're not that addicted towards gambling or not even close to become an addict. Let's face that reality already as they will always have a say about you, no matter what you will do.

The important thing is that, like what you've said, we are transparent to our own family and that they know the reality and our status towards gambling. For sure they will understand because you are open to them but if you do that secretly, expect the exact same opposite of it.

Yes people are get used to stereotype all the people, when they heard that someone is gamble they already think that someone is addict. So just like them, let us just get used to it and don't mind them as ling as we are happy and we are being entertained by gambling as long as we have discipline and we know how to control our emotions over it.

Gossips. That's all they can do but they cannot hurt you or your feelings if we just ignore them. They have no proof of it, they can call us whatever they like but in the end, it's our own life that we should be worried about and not the things other people will say especially if they are not part of the family, circle of friends, or a relative.
I always tell stories with my Saturday night friends about how I bet on a sport (NBA most of the time) and they are actually amazed especially if those are winning bets. In fact, they like to do it too when the season starts. But the point is, I never once heard them call me an addicted gambler, we are all just happy sharing stories of how we gambled when we are young afterward. No one is judging anyone, no one is stopping anyone, and we just like adding more fuel to entertain us during a game which is gambling against each other or the sports bookies.
In fact, I won a bet of a full round of beers and snacks against a friend betting for the Nuggets.

I think what I mean is, friends and families won't judge you easily but other people who don't really know you will tell gossip without any remorse. There will always be those kinds of people.

Exactly. We choose what offends us, and if it's something that's petty coming from other people, it's best to ignore it. Unless of course if it's damaging your reputation and already affecting your work and family, then act accordingly. At that point, addressing it privately is better to avoid more issues arising and more parties getting involved. Plus, it helps resolving the issue quite faster since you are directly in contact with the person that is mislabeling you into something that you aren't.

In my line of work, any such issue isn't really a problem. I work in the healthcare industry, and I'm known to gamble regularly but not on amounts that are worrying. It doesn't cause a lot of negative comments, though it does cause a lot of people to come to me and borrow some money lol.

[Bitinity]

Depending on who is the one telling it, if it is my own close friend who know how I'm dealing with gambling, I wont feel offended but if it is coming from someone who I do not even know, I'll feel offended. Simply because how can someone we do not even know judge us for something that they do not even know the fact? Anyway, even if I feel offended but I will not argue them because it is their own right to say something about us, I'll just ask them "who are you?" 

[Mauser]

If someone who is close to us or a friend circle referring me as a addicted gambler isn't a big issue. If a common man terms me a gambling addict then I won't find it good, because the person's view upon me will be different from what he had earlier. The society is developed in such a way that gambling money won't bring success as well as it is something against God and not the right thing. For this reason even my earnings through my job could be connected with gambling. Better is to hide our gambling activities and stay chill.

I am the exact opposite to you, if someone I don't really know calls me a gambling addict I wouldn't care about it. Why should I care what a stranger thinks of me? If I would be concerned what other people that I have no connection with think of me, than I would be worrying about it all day. But if my family or my close friends would call me a gambling addict it would make me think. First of all it would irritate me and I would need to find out if he only said it as a joke, in anger or if he really means that. The thing with family and friends is that they know us pretty well and have a good view on our life. So in case a good friend is concerned that I gamble too much and has the believe that I am an addict that I would talk with him as open as possible and try to convince him otherwise or hear what else he has to say.

[Fredomago]

If someone who is close to us or a friend circle referring me as a addicted gambler isn't a big issue. If a common man terms me a gambling addict then I won't find it good, because the person's view upon me will be different from what he had earlier. The society is developed in such a way that gambling money won't bring success as well as it is something against God and not the right thing. For this reason even my earnings through my job could be connected with gambling. Better is to hide our gambling activities and stay chill.

I am the exact opposite to you, if someone I don't really know calls me a gambling addict I wouldn't care about it. Why should I care what a stranger thinks of me? If I would be concerned what other people that I have no connection with think of me, than I would be worrying about it all day. But if my family or my close friends would call me a gambling addict it would make me think. First of all it would irritate me and I would need to find out if he only said it as a joke, in anger or if he really means that. The thing with family and friends is that they know us pretty well and have a good view on our life. So in case a good friend is concerned that I gamble too much and has the believe that I am an addict that I would talk with him as open as possible and try to convince him otherwise or hear what else he has to say.

It's better to have an open ears and mind when discussing this concern with your love ones, they have reasons why they will call you as it is and if you are not a close-minded person, you'll be able to re-assess yourself, though most of the people who already falling into addiction are in to a denial stage,

they are not willing to admit but if you have that good conciousness in yourself and you also considering the surrounding people, you'll be able to weight things out and decide if you needed to adjust or you still have the explanation why you involve yourself into gambling.

[blockman]

If someone who is close to us or a friend circle referring me as a addicted gambler isn't a big issue. If a common man terms me a gambling addict then I won't find it good, because the person's view upon me will be different from what he had earlier.

That's understandable if it's coming from the people that we know, the people that recognize us but if someone speaks it randomly and you don't know him. It's offensive to hear that but they're just telling the truth based on what they can see with your activities.
Anyway, we have the option to react or not if they've pointed that out to us. So, being civilized and pretty good in hearing such feedbacks to us will really depend on how you'll take that opinion of theirs or not really an opinion but rather a reality that they see within yourself.

[Fortify]

Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.

If you've gotten to the point where someone has called you out as being addicted to gambling, then you might want to sit up and listen. It's only something that someone who sees you regularly or who you share a lot of information with that will be likely to identify such a problem. If it's from someone random, maybe they're just projecting or you've not explained your situation adequately enough. However you should always be trying to learn and take assess new knowledge throughout life, sometimes we sleep walk into such a issues. It could be the wake up call that you need or that other people have been too scared or reluctant to highlight to you. Take a step back and think if you do need to change your ways.

[bittraffic]

Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.

If you've gotten to the point where someone has called you out as being addicted to gambling, then you might want to sit up and listen. It's only something that someone who sees you regularly or who you share a lot of information with that will be likely to identify such a problem. If it's from someone random, maybe they're just projecting or you've not explained your situation adequately enough. However you should always be trying to learn and take assess new knowledge throughout life, sometimes we sleep walk into such a issues. It could be the wake up call that you need or that other people have been too scared or reluctant to highlight to you. Take a step back and think if you do need to change your ways.

When a person accepts they are a gambling addict right in front of their friends or family, it will alienate everyone around them. It's not easy to just admit it when all the time they portray themselves as a good model citizen yet the next day they hear something else. It takes time to sink in. 

Even if it's true that a person is really a gambler and addicted to a degree, he will always lie to avoid prosecution by the judging public. It's offensive maybe but more importantly, they are protecting their integrity thats why its offensive.

[Aikidoka]

Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.

If I know deep inside that I'm addicted to gambling, I won't deny it if I'm referred by friends or family, I'll just accept it and I won't lie to them or myself about the habit. I'll work on getting myself out of this addiction slowly by seeking help and doing my best.

I feel that people who deny their gambling addiction will continue to deceive themselves and I'm certain that their behavior will worsen over time. It's not difficult to identify whether a gambler is addicted or not, but it's truly challenging and really hard to get out of it.

[kawetsriyanto]

Depending on who is the one telling it, if it is my own close friend who know how I'm dealing with gambling, I wont feel offended but if it is coming from someone who I do not even know, I'll feel offended. Simply because how can someone we do not even know judge us for something that they do not even know the fact? Anyway, even if I feel offended but I will not argue them because it is their own right to say something about us, I'll just ask them "who are you?" 

Of course, if a stranger judges us an addict, we must be offensive since he probably has no strong reason to claim it.
I'm sure only people who are close with us who has the possibility to tell us about addiction. Other people mustn't know our habit in gambling, they even don't know if we are a gambler. 

Well, if our close people tell us that we may be getting addiction, we must think positively that they care about us. So, we should evaluate our gambling habits and we must correct it if there is something wrong with our habits. We may gamble too often or use money excessively in gambling. I think these 2 things can be the main indicators that people assume we are getting addiction.

[milewilda]

Depending on who is the one telling it, if it is my own close friend who know how I'm dealing with gambling, I wont feel offended but if it is coming from someone who I do not even know, I'll feel offended. Simply because how can someone we do not even know judge us for something that they do not even know the fact? Anyway, even if I feel offended but I will not argue them because it is their own right to say something about us, I'll just ask them "who are you?" 

Of course, if a stranger judges us an addict, we must be offensive since he probably has no strong reason to claim it.
I'm sure only people who are close with us who has the possibility to tell us about addiction. Other people mustn't know our habit in gambling, they even don't know if we are a gambler. 

Well, if our close people tell us that we may be getting addiction, we must think positively that they care about us. So, we should evaluate our gambling habits and we must correct it if there is something wrong with our habits. We may gamble too often or use money excessively in gambling. I think these 2 things can be the main indicators that people assume we are getting addiction.

Better not to make yourself that too sensitive on what you do hear around so that you would really be able to avoid some possible discussions and argumentation or debate whether you are addicted or not. There are really
indeed people who would really be making out such debate and telling about their condition about on their gambling habits which we know that most addicted person would really be having that in state of denial. There's no point on making those kind of debates on someone who wouldn't really be listening after all.If you are that someone who do really engage on gambling, then it isnt really that that bad as long you do have that particular limit or border line  then it should be fine. There are really just those people who do really love on touching up others lives and does really like to give out comment or whatsoever and seems like they are the ones who are
supplying their funds on playing gambling.lol

[Fullcoinese]

Depending on who is the one telling it, if it is my own close friend who know how I'm dealing with gambling, I wont feel offended but if it is coming from someone who I do not even know, I'll feel offended. Simply because how can someone we do not even know judge us for something that they do not even know the fact? Anyway, even if I feel offended but I will not argue them because it is their own right to say something about us, I'll just ask them "who are you?" 

yes this actually depends on the nature of each individual, if it happened to me and my friends or people closest to me judge me a gambling addict i can explain well that i am not as bad as they think but if there are other people or people we don't know express a view the negative, in my opinion, we don't need to bother with what other people say about ourselves, why? because if we are offended and even angry at the views of people we don't even know, it will directly confirm that we are involved in gambling and it could be dangerous for us too because we don't know the intentions of people we don't know.

[kawetsriyanto]

Better not to make yourself that too sensitive on what you do hear around so that you would really be able to avoid some possible discussions and argumentation or debate whether you are addicted or not. There are really
indeed people who would really be making out such debate and telling about their condition about on their gambling habits which we know that most addicted person would really be having that in state of denial. There's no point on making those kind of debates on someone who wouldn't really be listening after all.If you are that someone who do really engage on gambling, then it isnt really that that bad as long you do have that particular limit or border line  then it should be fine. There are really just those people who do really love on touching up others lives and does really like to give out comment or whatsoever and seems like they are the ones who are
supplying their funds on playing gambling.lol

Personally, I won't debate about people's suggestion as long as it makes sense for me. Especially if they are my close people, I will try to understand the suggestion. I know they must care about me if they want to give suggestion about my condition. Whether it is true or not about addiction, I will evaluate my gambling habits. But if people who probably never know my gambling habits, I will ignore whatever the suggestion because they never know what I really do in my gambling habits.

Sure, there are many gamblers won't be aware if they are addiction. It is because they think they gamble in the right way and nothing wrong in their habits. But our close people may realize if we are getting close to addiction. So, if they tell us about it, try to not debate it but just evaluate our gambling habits. They may know something that we don't realize it.

[wxa7115]

Depending on who is the one telling it, if it is my own close friend who know how I'm dealing with gambling, I wont feel offended but if it is coming from someone who I do not even know, I'll feel offended. Simply because how can someone we do not even know judge us for something that they do not even know the fact? Anyway, even if I feel offended but I will not argue them because it is their own right to say something about us, I'll just ask them "who are you?" 

Of course, if a stranger judges us an addict, we must be offensive since he probably has no strong reason to claim it.
I'm sure only people who are close with us who has the possibility to tell us about addiction. Other people mustn't know our habit in gambling, they even don't know if we are a gambler. 

Well, if our close people tell us that we may be getting addiction, we must think positively that they care about us. So, we should evaluate our gambling habits and we must correct it if there is something wrong with our habits. We may gamble too often or use money excessively in gambling. I think these 2 things can be the main indicators that people assume we are getting addiction.

Like always we need to take into account the source of any information that we receive before we decide how to react, a person that does not know us does not really has the insight necessary about how we are and our regular behavior to make that kind of call, so you know that if a stranger tells you something like that then they are just trying to bother you.

However if a person that knows you very well tells you that then that is a red flag, as it is likely that they have noticed something wrong on your behavior and you should listen to them about the reasons why they think you have developed some gambling issues.

[Kakmakr]

I take that as constructive criticism. 

People are very interesting.... let's take an example : You might enjoy gambling and you spend a few hours doing it, but your partner or friends might show very little interest in it. So they might be jealous or irritated, if you rather spend the time on gambling and not on them.

So, their reaction to your gambling will be negative and you need to deal with the distribution of your time to accommodate them. Do something with them and then tell them that you are going to take some time to relax on your own. There should be a balance in life and if you are spending too much time on gambling, then you will receive negative comments like that. 

[piebeyb]

I take that as constructive criticism. 

People are very interesting.... let's take an example : You might enjoy gambling and you spend a few hours doing it, but your partner or friends might show very little interest in it. So they might be jealous or irritated, if you rather spend the time on gambling and not on them.

So, their reaction to your gambling will be negative and you need to deal with the distribution of your time to accommodate them. Do something with them and then tell them that you are going to take some time to relax on your own. There should be a balance in life and if you are spending too much time on gambling, then you will receive negative comments like that. 

Yes, it's also true that it's just jealousy in sharing time and positive criticism, maybe if we share time with family or friends maybe they won't say we are gambling addicts, even though we shouldn't be angry or offended by what people say to us somehow it's family or friends, for example I only gamble on weekends so I divide my time for work family, friends and gambling.

I limit the budget and limit the time I play gambling, for example 2 or 3 hours on weekends, the rest I spend with my family on weekends with my wife and children or occasionally go fishing with friends, while weekdays I am usually busy with work, so no it will also make me curious about losing to gambling, so I can't be called an addict because I divide my time fairly. 

[o48o]

Yes, it's also true that it's just jealousy in sharing time and positive criticism, maybe if we share time with family or friends maybe they won't say we are gambling addicts, even though we shouldn't be angry or offended by what people say to us somehow it's family or friends, for example I only gamble on weekends so I divide my time for work family, friends and gambling.

I limit the budget and limit the time I play gambling, for example 2 or 3 hours on weekends, the rest I spend with my family on weekends with my wife and children or occasionally go fishing with friends, while weekdays I am usually busy with work, so no it will also make me curious about losing to gambling, so I can't be called an addict because I divide my time fairly.  

Issue with sharing time/jealousy is a good point and something i didn't thought about. Mainly because i have sort of time blindness and concept is hard for me to grasp. I can do it only by using calendar but even then i lose track of time. But your point made me realize that while i have a weekly budget, i am not limiting my time using it on gambling, and i definitely should, because of all the things you listed and i have trouble sharing my time with my friends. So thanks for pointing that out. It might be obvious to most people but someone who has trouble with time it was less obvious.

[Frankolala]

Depending on who is the one telling it, if it is my own close friend who know how I'm dealing with gambling, I wont feel offended but if it is coming from someone who I do not even know, I'll feel offended. Simply because how can someone we do not even know judge us for something that they do not even know the fact? Anyway, even if I feel offended but I will not argue them because it is their own right to say something about us, I'll just ask them "who are you?" 

Of course, if a stranger judges us an addict, we must be offensive since he probably has no strong reason to claim it.
I'm sure only people who are close with us who has the possibility to tell us about addiction. Other people mustn't know our habit in gambling, they even don't know if we are a gambler. 

Well, if our close people tell us that we may be getting addiction, we must think positively that they care about us. So, we should evaluate our gambling habits and we must correct it if there is something wrong with our habits. We may gamble too often or use money excessively in gambling. I think these 2 things can be the main indicators that people assume we are getting addiction.

Like always we need to take into account the source of any information that we receive before we decide how to react, a person that does not know us does not really has the insight necessary about how we are and our regular behavior to make that kind of call, so you know that if a stranger tells you something like that then they are just trying to bother you.

However if a person that knows you very well tells you that then that is a red flag, as it is likely that they have noticed something wrong on your behavior and you should listen to them about the reasons why they think you have developed some gambling issues.

It is only our close ones that can say such words to us because they know so much about us. A stranger wouldn't know our habits and wouldn't be able to call us names. If someone close calls me an addict I will examine myself and look deep into my gambling activities so know why he said those words.

I will also call the person and ask him what made him called me a gamble addict to know if really I am one. If it is true,I will try my best to limit my gambling activities and make sure that he doesn't repeat such word again. It is our close ones that can tell us the truth of what we are doing.

[Stable090]

If someone who is close to us or a friend circle referring me as a addicted gambler isn't a big issue.

If a friend of mine that’s a gambler call me a addicted gambler, I won’t be angry, but if it’s just a friend tag that those not not gamble, then it’s a insult and I will be angry, why will you call me addicted gambler in public, it those not make any sense, why will you call me a addicted gambler in public, that means you are trying to insult me in public. If a gambler like me calls me the name, then I will see it as a normal thing.

The society is developed in such a way that gambling money won't bring success as well as it is something against God and not the right thing. For this reason even my earnings through my job could be connected with gambling. Better is to hide our gambling activities and stay chill.

In my society, if they see that you are a gambler, they see you as a bad influence, or a bad person, if you are a gambler, it’s better you keep it to yourself and don’t expose yourself to the public, because immediately people know that you are a gambler, then they will stop associating themselves from you.