Gambler avoiding friends after a big win.

[aioc]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

We don't know the whole story, maybe the guy did the same to him so he is just giving back what they did to him we really don't know their relationship or the man is really that stingy to give even a small portion of his winning, and it's not good it speaks of his character.

Here in our country, the tradition is to part some of your winnings if it's a big amount I always give a percentage of my winning whenever I win a big amount even to strangers so in case the scenario shifts they will also return the favor.

Winning a huge amount means luck smiles on you so you should share your blessing so the blessing keeps coming if people see that you are stingy they will avoid and you will have no friend left.

[EarnOnVictor]

That's a common thing to happen. Many people change because of money. Not only because you managed to win big but also because of other things related to money. So we shouldn't be surprised if that happens to people because money can change people easily. Maybe his partner doesn't want to share or share his winnings with other friends. He did that for many reasons, and rather than just guessing, it was better for him to ask his colleagues why he had changed since winning such a large amount of money. That will answer all their questions and they know the real reason.

That's one thing that will make everyone of us change, money. But also, for some that's just not a real thing because they remain what they are and they're not cutting their bridges to their friends even if they win big amounts of money. It's a matter of individuality and some really knows the true nature of them. They're willing to cut ties just because they've won some amount of jackpot with their bets and they'll not letting people know about that until they start to show signs of avoidance.

We are humans and we can't entirely blame those who cut ties with friends because of money or a status change, except it's bad to cut ties with true and reasonable friends because of money. If they are regular friends that you don't actually have that trust for or bond with, it's fine, otherwise, you are bad by cutting ties with friends simply because you have won big money.

Some friends are actually worth cutting ties with as they might not be valuable in any contributions other than flexing with the money and frivolous spending like drinking alcohol/drugs, carrying women up and down and sleeping in clubs and hotels. If your friends are bad influences and could influence your mind, you might want to run for your dear life, especially if you are of a weak mind. Also, some friends could be a danger to some people, knowing if such might cause their life to be in danger, they might want to run for their dear life.

[Gallar]

~Snip

Things like that are very normal and I often experience things like that too. But I don't take it too seriously. Because it is their personal right. Whether he won gambling or not, I personally have never asked a friend to give me his gambling winnings. So basically, if I have a friend like that, I'd better just ignore him. Because in the end friends who have habits like that will be ashamed of themselves. Apart from that, maybe people who distance themselves from their friends also have reasons why they don't decide to join their friends. It could be that he has other interests, such as having a debt that must be paid. So there are many valid reasons for this. However, if you think about it from a negative perspective, it is certain that such people do not want their profits to be shared with their friends. But once again, as I explained above, don't worry too much if you have a friend like that, just ignore it and the problem will be resolved. Because from my experience, people like that will definitely come back again when the money runs out. But even so, he will definitely return, but with shame. So the surefire way to deal with friends like that is to ignore them. .

[2Pizza410000BTC]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Maybe there was some trouble between them because of that trouble maybe the winner didn't talk to them. But you can't catch the real story of their problems in two one-minute shows there. Still, I'd say since this guy won a million dollars, the guy wants to be a little safer from the locale. Because the victorious man started avoiding people thinking that he might get into some administrative trouble. Here I cannot blame the man in any way without verifying the facts. But if it was my case I would talk to people but not let them know that I got a million local currency. Because gambling is completely illegal in my country, I will face administrative problems if published locally.

[Yatsan]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Maybe there was some trouble between them because of that trouble maybe the winner didn't talk to them. But you can't catch the real story of their problems in two one-minute shows there. Still, I'd say since this guy won a million dollars, the guy wants to be a little safer from the locale. Because the victorious man started avoiding people thinking that he might get into some administrative trouble. Here I cannot blame the man in any way without verifying the facts. But if it was my case I would talk to people but not let them know that I got a million local currency. Because gambling is completely illegal in my country, I will face administrative problems if published locally.

There’s always a tendency for that. There’s a possibility that their colleague who they referred to as being avoidant, has his own reason. If for assumption, maybe the friends who are talking about the avoidant one, are wanting a portion of the winning (just to give benefit of the doubt). There is also the possibility that their friend is having personal problem he wants to resolve alone. It is better for them to directly ask what is happening if they’re really concerned of him or wait until their friend take the initiative to reach out for them or ask for their companionship. We all do have that ‘phase’ in our lives that we want to keep things for ourselves especially if there’s something new to it.And if he just chose to be avoidant without any valid reason, then that’s his rights in the first place.

[noormcs5]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

We don't know the whole story, maybe the guy did the same to him so he is just giving back what they did to him we really don't know their relationship or the man is really that stingy to give even a small portion of his winning, and it's not good it speaks of his character.

Here in our country, the tradition is to part some of your winnings if it's a big amount I always give a percentage of my winning whenever I win a big amount even to strangers so in case the scenario shifts they will also return the favor.

Winning a huge amount means luck smiles on you so you should share your blessing so the blessing keeps coming if people see that you are stingy they will avoid and you will have no friend left.

It is always better not to tell anyone of your big wins, as it usually will create problems for you. Friends may start asking for money from you in the form of loans or gifts. Other friends may become jealous of you and some may quit the friendship with you.
In some worse case scenarios, they may try to harm you because of jealousy or even try to snatch your money.

I will prefer not to tell anyone; if I win anything substantial from gambling. This holds true for any money I won, not just limited to gambling etc. The point is when you have money, means that you are happy, what's the point in telling everyone and creating unwanted troubles?

[danherbias07]

I'd do that. It's not because I want to ruin our friendship but it's because they might pull me back from gambling if I want out, especially after a big win. Remember, always take two sides of the coin. It might look bad for them because their friends is not with them gambling anymore but for the family of that friend who got out, it is good for them because after that they can enjoy all that money and family is more important than friends.
Let's not judge those who just made the right decision for themselves and perhaps they will realize the same if they also win big and just want out.
That's my opinion about what happened and I hope I am right and it's not because he is just being an ass about the win or being boastful about it.

[Yaunfitda]

~Snip

Things like that are very normal and I often experience things like that too. But I don't take it too seriously. Because it is their personal right. Whether he won gambling or not, I personally have never asked a friend to give me his gambling winnings. So basically, if I have a friend like that, I'd better just ignore him. Because in the end friends who have habits like that will be ashamed of themselves. Apart from that, maybe people who distance themselves from their friends also have reasons why they don't decide to join their friends. It could be that he has other interests, such as having a debt that must be paid. So there are many valid reasons for this. However, if you think about it from a negative perspective, it is certain that such people do not want their profits to be shared with their friends. But once again, as I explained above, don't worry too much if you have a friend like that, just ignore it and the problem will be resolved. Because from my experience, people like that will definitely come back again when the money runs out. But even so, he will definitely return, but with shame. So the surefire way to deal with friends like that is to ignore them. .

Yes, same here, unless it's really like one of my friends winning huge like in lottery or something. But if it just a normal games that we play together, then I wouldn't get made if they somewhat avoided me or the rest of the gang. Lol. Maybe he just want to enjoy his winnings, or just think about it, if it is in your case, then most likely you will do the same for your friends as well. So I will not take it personally though, we are talking about money and if your friend losses, then it's his money, so if he wins then obviously he will take care of himself first and maybe even if he won, that is not enough to cover what he has been losing money in gambling for years. So in any case, just leave it to your friend. If he comes back and tell you the reason why he avoided you then good, if not, then let it go and just continue to gamble.

[Dimitri94]

After winning big, he starts to feel insecure. He may worry that his other friends may claim his money. He himself will not give the share of that money to anyone. Because of which he has separated himself from those friends or he is hiding himself. But since they are said to have been very close friends in that case it is unbecoming of a man to turn away from them after a victory. If someone alienates the close people due to self-interest, then that person is definitely selfish. If the gambler's friends asked for his money, the gambler could scold them. But without that situation he is severing the relationship for which he himself will be guilty.

[knowngunman]

Here in our country, the tradition is to part some of your winnings if it's a big amount I always give a percentage of my winning whenever I win a big amount even to strangers so in case the scenario shifts they will also return the favor.

Winning a huge amount means luck smiles on you so you should share your blessing so the blessing keeps coming if people see that you are stingy they will avoid and you will have no friend left.

Is it tradition or your wish? I'm not in support of what the guy did to his friends but it is important to know that it's his money and he can decides to do whatever he wishes to do with it. We are quick to blame and judge in this part of the world. Where are people when he was loosing? How many of them sympathize with him during the time he was losing? It is a good practice to share with your loved ones when luck shine on you but it is absolutely not by force but at your own will. From my observation, stingy people make more money. All these friends are there for your money and they'll disappear once the money is finished. Spend wisely after win and don't share everything and expect the blessing to come because you share everything. You'll remain broke if you practice that.

[Rockstarguy]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

From what I have seen in the past after a successful gambling win it is very common that when other fellow gamblers are aware a particular gambler wins big they would want to task the gambler to show a little love by cutting little from the win for them. So I don't think if when people win gambling and do not show up for sometime is  something bad . If the win is very big it is even better to stay away from people because no one can tell what people may have in mind. Some people stay away from people because of fear of robbery, especially when the money is very huge.

[2Pizza410000BTC]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Maybe there was some trouble between them because of that trouble maybe the winner didn't talk to them. But you can't catch the real story of their problems in two one-minute shows there. Still, I'd say since this guy won a million dollars, the guy wants to be a little safer from the locale. Because the victorious man started avoiding people thinking that he might get into some administrative trouble. Here I cannot blame the man in any way without verifying the facts. But if it was my case I would talk to people but not let them know that I got a million local currency. Because gambling is completely illegal in my country, I will face administrative problems if published locally.

There’s always a tendency for that. There’s a possibility that their colleague who they referred to as being avoidant, has his own reason. If for assumption, maybe the friends who are talking about the avoidant one, are wanting a portion of the winning (just to give benefit of the doubt). There is also the possibility that their friend is having personal problem he wants to resolve alone. It is better for them to directly ask what is happening if they’re really concerned of him or wait until their friend take the initiative to reach out for them or ask for their companionship. We all do have that ‘phase’ in our lives that we want to keep things for ourselves especially if there’s something new to it.And if he just chose to be avoidant without any valid reason, then that’s his rights in the first place.

In support of your point I would say that since the winner has stopped talking to those two friends and has stopped mixing with them there must be some reason I think your reason is reasonable. Here the two friends have assured him of some share of the winnings due to which this man has stopped talking to them. If two of the three friends wanted a share of the winnings then I think the guy did the right thing by stopping talking to them and stopping walking with them. Because it doesn't make sense to me why they should pay a portion of the bet every time he wins.

[bitzizzix]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

We don't know the whole story, maybe the guy did the same to him so he is just giving back what they did to him we really don't know their relationship or the man is really that stingy to give even a small portion of his winning, and it's not good it speaks of his character.

Here in our country, the tradition is to part some of your winnings if it's a big amount I always give a percentage of my winning whenever I win a big amount even to strangers so in case the scenario shifts they will also return the favor.

Winning a huge amount means luck smiles on you so you should share your blessing so the blessing keeps coming if people see that you are stingy they will avoid and you will have no friend left.

It is always better not to tell anyone of your big wins, as it usually will create problems for you. Friends may start asking for money from you in the form of loans or gifts. Other friends may become jealous of you and some may quit the friendship with you.
In some worse case scenarios, they may try to harm you because of jealousy or even try to snatch your money.

I will prefer not to tell anyone; if I win anything substantial from gambling. This holds true for any money I won, not just limited to gambling etc. The point is when you have money, means that you are happy, what's the point in telling everyone and creating unwanted troubles?

That's how it should be, keeping your winnings a secret, especially large amounts. Because this happened to my friend and when he got a big win and one of his friends knew about it then the others would also know because that one friend told him.
And they come just to ask for a treat and there are also those who want to borrow it, and sometimes friends like that come just because they need it. And this incident was used as a lesson for my friend and when he got his winnings again he hid it or disappeared, and I think this is normal because friends will come when one of their friends is getting a large amount of money. And who knows where the money comes from, and they come with good behavior, and when we don't have money, they leave and disappear, and things like that often happen in friendships.

[batang_bitcoin]

That's a common thing to happen. Many people change because of money. Not only because you managed to win big but also because of other things related to money. So we shouldn't be surprised if that happens to people because money can change people easily. Maybe his partner doesn't want to share or share his winnings with other friends. He did that for many reasons, and rather than just guessing, it was better for him to ask his colleagues why he had changed since winning such a large amount of money. That will answer all their questions and they know the real reason.

That's one thing that will make everyone of us change, money. But also, for some that's just not a real thing because they remain what they are and they're not cutting their bridges to their friends even if they win big amounts of money. It's a matter of individuality and some really knows the true nature of them. They're willing to cut ties just because they've won some amount of jackpot with their bets and they'll not letting people know about that until they start to show signs of avoidance.

We don't know the real story since the only thing we can read here is he avoid people after he win and that is the smart action to do especially if your friends is so eager to get something big since for sure you can lost a huge percentage of your winning. If you start to lose all you got for sure those people will not come to help you that's why you really need to be smart on the money earned so that it will last long or you can use it on other valuable options like use it on investment to make your life more better. I'm sure that we don't want to get broke after that so we need act smart and don't be a one day millionaire.

Only few people can understand that and those people will get angry for the action made by the person who win big is just there if they can see a opportunity to get something from those people so we need to be aware with that and be smart to choose those people we want to give our money with.

To many people got broke immediately after they didn't manage their money so we need to understand those people do that because they are just protecting their earned wealth since they know the value of their money and maybe they already know that it can possibly gone as quickly as they think.

Yeah, that's one point why he could have been avoiding them. Maybe the two are asking that much and he can't give it to them so he started to avoid him. Well, anything is possible and we'll never know the true story behind it since we just read the story from the two and not from the person that has avoided them. Maybe if OP has got some follow up story about how the three separated their own ways, I mean the two and the other one then that's desirable to hear.

[Blitzboy]

~Snip

Things like that are very normal and I often experience things like that too. But I don't take it too seriously. Because it is their personal right. Whether he won gambling or not, I personally have never asked a friend to give me his gambling winnings. So basically, if I have a friend like that, I'd better just ignore him. Because in the end friends who have habits like that will be ashamed of themselves. Apart from that, maybe people who distance themselves from their friends also have reasons why they don't decide to join their friends. It could be that he has other interests, such as having a debt that must be paid. So there are many valid reasons for this. However, if you think about it from a negative perspective, it is certain that such people do not want their profits to be shared with their friends. But once again, as I explained above, don't worry too much if you have a friend like that, just ignore it and the problem will be resolved. Because from my experience, people like that will definitely come back again when the money runs out. But even so, he will definitely return, but with shame. So the surefire way to deal with friends like that is to ignore them. .

Yes, same here, unless it's really like one of my friends winning huge like in lottery or something. But if it just a normal games that we play together, then I wouldn't get made if they somewhat avoided me or the rest of the gang. Lol. Maybe he just want to enjoy his winnings, or just think about it, if it is in your case, then most likely you will do the same for your friends as well. So I will not take it personally though, we are talking about money and if your friend losses, then it's his money, so if he wins then obviously he will take care of himself first and maybe even if he won, that is not enough to cover what he has been losing money in gambling for years. So in any case, just leave it to your friend. If he comes back and tell you the reason why he avoided you then good, if not, then let it go and just continue to gamble.

The way that gambling operates is fun, dont you think? Many become engrossed in the adrenaline and hope of the big win. Win or lose, the excitement remains the same. Its fantastic for your friend if he won! To be honest, though, money—especially when it comes from gambling—has the power to temporarily alter relationships. Individuals may become overly cautious or guarded. It may not be so much about the victory as it is about their past setbacks and times when they felt hopeless. Gaining money from gaming can be a breath of fresh air, but sometimes they just need a little time to themselves. Your companion could require that time to unwind and give what had happened some serious thought. You as well? Simply continue being yourself, playing, and enjoying yourself. Ever wonder, by the way, why we enjoy gambling so much, even when its simply a lighthearted game?

[Onyeeze]

Do you know one of the major reasons why some people do avoid their friends when they win gambling, because when you are involving yourself in gambling frequently, in some places some people seems the one involving itself in gambling as a bad egg, and sometimes their is friends that you will have, whenever you are discussing of gambling they will be condemning you of your act of being taking gambling serious, so I believe that guy most have a good reason why he or her abandoned the friends because of the funds he benefits fro. Gambling

[Winterfrost]

I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

TBH its hard to actually say he left his friends because he had a big shot. Though that is what it seems but I would not come to conclusion. If we look at things at other angles some friends are very good at discouraging you whenever you place a bet. They will say so many sort of words that would bring your spirit down, thinking you have wasted the money you used to placed the bet. Its funny that most times those games that are mocked at are the ones that actually played and such a person mostly gets lucky. One thing is certain in gambling that no predictions are accurate so mocking other fellow gamblers prediction should not be done. Who knows maybe he got angry and left so when the game played he never wanted to share with his friend because they laughed at him. Am just speculating am not certain that was the scenario. But such a thing is possible.

[Frankolala]

The two bald head guys should know that their former friend wasn't their friend initially but he was with them to benefit from them. The reason why I said so is that,he is suppose to celebrate his win with them and not to shun them because he had a huge win. It is very funny with the way people change over night when they have money.

On the other hand, nobody knows what these two guys did to their friend that made him to behave like that. Maybe these his two friends were coming up with akward behavior towards him before he won. Who knows, I am only thinking why will one abandon his friends because of money. Who knows maybe the winner is a very greedy person and don't want his friends to ask him for funds.

[sokani]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Money reveals people's true character and identity, and not as if the money in question is that much, It's just a million naira. When he must have squandered everything I'm sure he will come back to his friends. His friends that are complaining about his attitude, I won't be surprised if the tables were turned, and they do the same. I've seen some stuffs and I'm glad the way I'm living my life. I live my life having zero expectation on people, and that way I don't get hurt. If you feel led to give me something, then fine and if you don't, I move.

[Lida93]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

We don't know the whole story, maybe the guy did the same to him so he is just giving back what they did to him we really don't know their relationship or the man is really that stingy to give even a small portion of his winning, and it's not good it speaks of his character.

Here in our country, the tradition is to part some of your winnings if it's a big amount I always give a percentage of my winning whenever I win a big amount even to strangers so in case the scenario shifts they will also return the favor.

Winning a huge amount means luck smiles on you so you should share your blessing so the blessing keeps coming if people see that you are stingy they will avoid and you will have no friend left.

It is always better not to tell anyone of your big wins, as it usually will create problems for you. Friends may start asking for money from you in the form of loans or gifts. Other friends may become jealous of you and some may quit the friendship with you.
In some worse case scenarios, they may try to harm you because of jealousy or even try to snatch your money.

Yeah @noormcs5, literally it's possible some of these case scenario's you talk about do happen but what if these two guys just want the closure to still exist between them three friends as it were without equally having that mindset of requesting money from him? What if these two guys are quite doing fine financially but as social beings they just feel concern about why he has to avoid them now he has made a big win something he never did when he hasn't gotten that huge win?  People can reveal their true character when they now have money in amount they never thought could materialize, and I think that's what this other guy just did.